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Do You Know Your Rights as a Father?

By: Emma Jones - Updated: 1 Oct 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
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Having never planned to be in this position before, you are probably unsure of exactly what your rights as a father are. You want to do your best as a father but what are your legal responsibilities? Here are some questions that you may ask to find out exactly where you stand.

Do You Have Parental Responsibility for Your Kids?

If you were married to your partner when your child was born, you have automatic Parental Responsibility. If you are not married and your child was born after 1st December 2003 and your name is on the birth certificate, you automatically have parental responsibility. If you are the biological father, you can still file for parental responsibility which gives you legal rights and responsibilities for your child.

Can You Make Decisions Concerning Their Upbringing?

With parental responsibility you have the right to be involved in all major decisions in your child life. This can be anything that significantly affects their upbringing such as education, medical treatment or religion. (For more information, see our article Making Joint Decisions About Your Child's Future on this site.)

Who Decides on Everyday Things?

Everyday decisions are left up to the parent who has residence of the children. Generally, the mother is given residence unless you or the courts decide differently. This means that she does not have to consult you about any day-to-day decisions.

Do You Have to Pay Child Support?

As a parent you are legally bound to Pay Child Support. The amount that you pay is worked out by the Child Support Agency (CSA) and will depend on a number of things including how much you earn and how you have split custody.

What Visitation Rights do You Have?

You may decide to organise your visitation independently with your ex, and this is fine as long as you are both happy with the arrangement. If not, you will need to apply for a contact order and be assessed to determine what visitation you are given.

Can Your Ex Take Your Children Out of the Country?

If your ex has residence of your children, she can take them out of the country for up to one month without your permission. If she wants to take them for longer or move abroad permanently, she will need your consent. If you have serious concerns about her taking them out of the country, then you can apply for an order to stop it.

When Does Parental Responsibility End?

Your parental responsibility and child support continues until your child leaves school or further education, which can be as young as 16 or finish when they are 19 and at university.

Finding out about your rights and responsibilities as a father is important so that you know what you are entitled to and what you need to do. If you can keep relations civil and handle the details with your ex then this can be better but, if not, you will have to go through the legal system to clarify things. Your ex has no right to stop you seeing your children and with a little bit of compromise and willingness you can both come to an agreement that is best for your children.

Making Things Easier

When you first split up it's easy for battles to ensue and for the children to take the brunt of it, even though this is never your intention. One way to make things easier is to draw up some kind of agreement at the outset - see our sample separation agreement.

Check out the Separated Dads Forum... It's a great resource where you can ask for advice on topics including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or simply to have a chat with other dads.

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My wife and I have been separated and going through a divorce for 10months. I have had my daughter every weekend (Friday afternoon to Monday morning) and seen her once during the week for a Daddy/Daughter night. I have now entered the financial part of the divorce and suddenly my soon to be ex wife has stated she wants to see my daughter every other weekend. I know this is a way of her earning extra money from CSA but if I went to court would I be granted the same access I have had for the past 10months?
LM - 1-Oct-17 @ 8:35 PM
Heartbrokenfirsttime - Your Question:
Where do I start looking for honest advise.in a nut shell I have only seen my first born son once since he was born in July.now at the time when I was with my ex partner I thought we was in love happy with our first child on the way and one argument for the first time in our qwick relationship stopped all contact because of what a previous partner done to her.at first she said it wasn't working out and we should concentrate on our child which we agreed and out of the blue contact stopped got stopped going to our sons 20 week scan got cut out cruelly by her and her friends and family who I though was my friends and family it shocked me and hurt me but not as must as not getting told about my sons development all the way up till he was born.now I moved on in this time and found the real love of my life and now have another child on the way who I love just as much as my son and she found out this and all the promises she made I can git to the birth and I can see him when ever I want all got broken because I moved on and thought if you don't love me and treating like I don't exist and blanking me over my sons development it has nothing to do with her what I do! She made the choice to give up.and in this time I provided everything my son needs as a single partner at the time before I even got with my new partner.i didn't even know my son was born until a friend told me he was all over social media on a other mans profile with a video of my boy being born it broke my heart posting photos of my son bonging with an other man before me there was no violence or social services involved so I was told by my solicitor I had to go though mediation but I tried my best not to do that so my family got in contact with hers and I seen my son.she was in my house had dinner watch me bond with my son gave her my sons stuff I bought for him agreed to meet up so I could give her the money I said for him.promise we would put our differences aside for our son then stopped contact for nothing.mediation has failed I don't know what to do next I don't want my sons life to get dragged threw court when there is no need too can someone give me advice I love my son and want to support both of them but I'm not on the birth certificate I'm just lost and alls I want is to get on and love my son it's heartbreaking and cruel not on me but on my son he deserves his dad regardless of what's gone on between us he should come first not bitterness any advice would help

Our Response:
I'm sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, your only option is to take the matter to court where mediation has failed. Your son is young enough not to know what is going on (if you are concerned about dragging the matter through court). However, the courts do want fathers to have a good relationship with their children and where there is no harassment, domestic violence or any court orders against the non-resident parent, then it will do all it can to make it happen. The sooner you apply to court, the better. If you cannot afford legal represenatation, then you can self-litigate, please see link here. Our Separated Dads forum should help if you need advice, as will joining groups such as Families Need Fathers who can guide you in your best approach. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 25-Sep-17 @ 1:51 PM
My 17 year old daughter keeps running away and staying with my partners family who we are estranged from and have no dialogue with. She does this as we won't allow access to social media for safety reasons due to previous serious issues. My partner is the father andwe never married. Therefore, we have been informed he has not got parental responsibility. On previous occasions child benefit was refused to another family member for our daughter meaning CMS was not paid. Is there a possibility with a different family member they might make a claim for first child benefit and then CMS? Or does the fact we never married and our daughter born before 2003 mean that he does not have parental responsibility?
Trevor - 23-Sep-17 @ 1:55 AM
@Alex N We live 50 miles apart it's hard to try and get a third party but I'll try the run out to the car thing. she's extremely damaged and toxic proper covert narcissist(she reminds me off the film gone girl). iv got an appointment with a child social worker and psychologist week after next so see what they have to say. since I came back from Portugal with him for a weeks holiday she's stopped me from seeing him due to finding out me and partner got engaged so she thought she punish my son for that which her mother use to do to her with her father (nothing like history repeating itself). the way she treats me anyone would think I was the one that cheated not her.
Sunset81 - 23-Sep-17 @ 12:50 AM
Where do I start looking for honest advise.in a nut shell I have only seen my first born son once since he was born in July.now at the time when I was with my ex partner I thought we was in love happy with our first child on the way and one argument for the first time in our qwick relationship stopped all contact because of what a previous partner done to her.at first she said it wasn't working out and we should concentrate on our child which we agreed and out of the blue contact stopped got stopped going to our sons 20 week scan got cut out cruelly by her and her friends and family who I though was my friends and family it shocked me and hurt me but not as must as not getting told about my sons development all the way up till he was born.now I moved on in this time and found the real love of my life and now have another child on the way who I love just as much as my son and she found out this and all the promises she made I can git to the birth and I can see him when ever I want all got broken because I moved on and thought if you don't love me and treating like i don't exist and blanking me over my sons development it has nothing to do with her what I do! She made the choice to give up.and in this time I provided everything my son needs as a single partner at the time before I even got with my new partner.i didn't even know my son was born until a friend told me he was all over social media on a other mans profile with a video of my boy being born it broke my heart posting photos of my son bonging with an other man before me there was no violence or social services involved so I was told by my solicitor I had to go though mediation but I tried my best not to do that so my family got in contact with hers and I seen my son.she was in my house had dinner watch me bond with my son gave her my sons stuff I bought for him agreed to meet up so I could give her the money I said for him.promise we would put our differences aside for our son then stopped contact for nothing.mediation has failed I don't know what to do next I don't want my sons life to get dragged threw court when there is no need too can someone give me advice I love my son and want to support both of them but I'm not on the birth certificate I'm just lost and alls I want is to get on and love my son it's heartbreaking and cruel not on me but on my son he deserves his dad regardless of what's gone on between us he should come first not bitterness any advice would help
Heartbrokenfirsttime - 23-Sep-17 @ 12:36 AM
Hi. I have been separated frommy ex for a year and a half, i have a 15 year old son who spends six days and two nights with me every other week. now my ex has contacted CSA they will only take into account i have him for two nights a week, i work shift work so it is not possible for me to have him more nights I feed him all the time he is with me buy him things when he needs them but CSA wants to take me for as much money as they can. as a result i now need to sell my home to pay the CSA when the ex is on three times as much money as i am on. how is this fair.
al - 22-Sep-17 @ 7:34 PM
My ex and I have been separated for w years now I have my daughter every weekend but my ex will not allow me to introduce her to my new partner can she do this?
Chris - 22-Sep-17 @ 5:29 PM
@Sunset81 - can you get a third party to help you with drop off and pick up? For instance you could ask your ex to drop your child at your mums or sisters. Or just don't engage with her in conversation. My ex has my boy ready, opens the door and sends him out without a word. I don't actually mind having a conversation, she doesn't want to speak to me!
AlexN - 22-Sep-17 @ 3:54 PM
Hi Do you no if it possible if i can collect and drop off my son with out any contact with his mother? We parted 3 years ago but she still continues to say things to me in front of him which a 4 year old should not be hearing, is this possible? Thanks
Sunset81 - 22-Sep-17 @ 3:01 PM
@Kenny1 - keep away from the mum, simple. Make sure all your correspondence is via email, if there has to be any. You don't have to speak with your ex - if you don't and have minimal contact you'll find it will alleviate a lot of the stress.
Dan71 - 22-Sep-17 @ 2:15 PM
Tae - Your Question:
Hi. I currently have joint custody of my two children for the past five years.I am now married with a little girl of three.My question is do I have a right to meet my ex partners new man?I've asked mum if I can meet her new chap for a coffee but unfortunately every avenue has been greated with a no. The only reason I ask is because his actions with my children don't sit right In my stomach. The children have mentioned they find him strange.Just wondered if there's a legal right?Cheers

Our Response:
There is no legal right. If your ex's partner refuses to meet you, then there is nothing you can do to force this issue. If you have concerns over the actions of your ex's new partner, this should be discussed directly with your ex (if you are on amicable terms), or via mediation (if you are not).
SeparatedDads - 22-Sep-17 @ 11:17 AM
I have been with my partner for 5 years now, and have been divorced for about 10. My kid is 12 and I have regular and fortnightly contact with her and one day a weeknight for the last 12 years, including school holidays etc. We text and speak every day. I think I'm a good dad but my ex wife attacks me via email at any given chance. I recently suggested to the ex that as my child is going to high school maybe the Wednesday night contact should stop as she's at high school/homework/want to see her friends etc, but still keep the fri-mon fortnightly contact - the ex wife went ballistic and said she won't allow me to have her a wed anymore. Then it turns out there was a fight between my daughter and her mate so I simply asked the mum what happened (being an adult i didn't just want a child's response and get half the story) she blamed me for it because it happened on a Wednesday and wouldn't have happened if i still had her. She refusEs to discuss anything with me about school progress etc and tells me to check the school website. She's sent me abusive emails when I have been on holiday with my girlfriend - knowing we're on holiday - about how many holidays I'vetaken off To look after my child. How do you handle someone like this? There is no give or take with her, I thought it was meant to get easier as they got older but it's getting worse and the mother is very immature
Kenny1 - 21-Sep-17 @ 10:25 PM
Chris - Your Question:
I've been separated 3 years and had contact with my daughter whenever I've wanted. However I have recently met someone and my ex has become a total nightmare. She has now told me I can only phone my daughter between 8 and 8.30 pm every other day. Does she have the right to deny me phone contact whenever I want?

Our Response:
Please see link: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here which will tell you all you need to know on how to proceed.
SeparatedDads - 21-Sep-17 @ 3:49 PM
@Les @Si...... Les - you are spot on. Si what planet do you live on? You obviously haven't changed any as you still sound as selfish as you confessed to be back then. Your ex-wife is an angel in comparison and you should be thankful she's letting you anywhere near your kid. I certainly wouldn't want you to be an influence on my child if I were the mother. I'd want to keep my child well away! I advise you do some navel gazing first before you bring your son into your life. What would have happened if your current wife could have had kids? I bet you'd not want to know your son then. Tschhhh. Rich.
RichS - 21-Sep-17 @ 2:24 PM
Si- Your Question:
Question.Separated almost 3 years ago when my then wife was pregnant with our son he's 2 and a half now I have never seen him down to my own selfishness although my now ex wife literally begged me to be apart of our sons life I refused as I was having an affair. I am now remarried and unable to have children with my new wife but now want to have contact with my son. My ex wife has agreed but under her circumstances and rules until he gets to know me as he doesn't know who I am, I'm not very happy about this at all but I know it's my own fault but I want to see my son every other month for just a few hours so that me and my wife can play apart in my sons life can anyone help out as I want him to stay with myself and my wife for a week over the Christmas holidays. My ex wife is worried and says that is not possible as he doesn't know who I am as I've never bothered with him but now I want to be apart of his life because me and my wife can't have children is my ex being unfair Cheers Si.

Our Response:
I can quite understand your ex's reservations and you don't really have any grounds for pushing for more. I see you are still being selfish in expecting your ex-wife to agree on the sole basis you can no longer have kids. Have you also thought about the wants and needs of your son, which should always be the top priority when negotiating any access? It seems to me that your ex is being incredibly reasonable, so you may wish to concede to her wishes. If you took the matter to court after not seeing your child for this amount of time, then the court would be likely to award supervised access initially, possibly through a contact centre. In addition, I don't think having your son for a week over the Christmas holidays is taking your son's feelings into consideration. Going to stay with a family he doesn't know for a week at the age of two, is clearly not putting his needs and welfare first. I think mediation may be the best option for you and your ex so that you can come to some sort of arrangement designed to be in your child's (not your) best interests. However, if you attend mediation you would have to be able to compromise and attend with an open and flexible mind, please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 21-Sep-17 @ 2:04 PM
Hi. I currently have joint custody of my two children for the past five years. I am now married with a little girl of three. My question is do I have a right to meet my ex partners new man? I've asked mum if I can meet her new chap for a coffee but unfortunately every avenue has been greated with a no. The only reason I ask is because his actions with my children don't sit right In my stomach. The children have mentioned they find him strange. Just wondered if there's a legal right? Cheers
Tae - 21-Sep-17 @ 12:19 PM
@ Si.As a dad that was in the same situation I actually agree with your ex wife the mother of your child that you basically kicked to the curb for another woman. You are very lucky that your ex wife is even letting you see your son for any amount of time.I have been in the same situation it's very unfair I'm not only your son but also your ex wife as it will be your ex wife that has to pick up all the mess you have already left behind by raising your son who already over 2 he won't know who you are at all and ou can not go in and expect everything to be all sweet believe me this doesn't work been there and done that in the end I left it and said to my ex partner that I was sorry for everything I had done and even thinking about getting involved in my child's life when I had been gone for over a year and then trying to take over and that I would be the man walk away and hope one day my child will come and find me when he chooses too lesson learnt the hard way never force your own child to like you call you dad when you've not bothered. It doesn't matter if you've sent birthday cards and write love from Dad/Daddy because your vigils isn't going to be aware. You should thank your ex wife Si for raising your son and do what she thinks is best because it'll only be your son and your ex wife who you will be hurting.Les.
Les - 20-Sep-17 @ 5:39 PM
Question. Separated almost 3 years ago when my then wife was pregnant with our son he's 2 and a half now I have never seen him down to my own selfishness although my now ex wife literally begged me to be apart of our sons life I refused as I was having an affair. I am now remarried and unable to have children with my new wife but now want to have contact with my son. My ex wife has agreed but under her circumstances and rules until he gets to know me as he doesn't know who I am,I'm not very happy about this at all but I know it's my own fault but I want to see my son every other month for just a few hours so that me and my wife can play apart in my sons life can anyone help out as I want him to stay with myself and my wife for a week over the Christmas holidays. My ex wife is worried and says that is not possible as he doesn't know who I am as I've never bothered with him but now I want to be apart of his life because me and my wife can't have children is my ex being unfair Cheers Si.
Si - 20-Sep-17 @ 5:27 PM
I've been separated 3 years and had contact with my daughter whenever I've wanted. However I have recently met someone and my ex has become a total nightmare. She has now told me I can only phone my daughter between 8 and 8.30 pm every other day. Does she have the right to deny me phone contact whenever I want?
Chris - 19-Sep-17 @ 9:26 PM
Sunset81 - Your Question:
HiI parted from ex 3 years ago due to her suffering from female covert/shy narcissistic personality disorder and her being unfaithful. We have 4 year old son together. I moved 50 miles away to be closer to my family and have since travelled 400 round trip each month for him to stay with me every other weekend. I've always paid child maintaince and helped out with swimming lessons taken him to Portugal and other trips away he is my world. I have a new partner and daughter and brought a new home together but my ex just takes away my weekends as she pleases so we can never plan anything which usually cost me money on tickets on things we have planned and keeps us all on tender hooks not knowing if he's aloud to come abroad with us or weekend breaks that cost us hundreds of pounds in flights and changing dates. We get constant abuse and psychological projection. She has had a number of failed partners since me but as recently met someone new and has stopped me from seeing him on both my weekends going a month without seeing him due to me getting engaged, it appears that every new thing I do with moving forward in my life eg home, engagement, daughter ect she punishes me and more importantly our son I believe his emotional needs are not being met by her as she messes with his head some of the things he tells us are really upsetting. My partner and I can no longer take her controlling and manipulating ways due to us never knowing if we have him or not and I am very worried about how he his being treated psychologically, is there any advice you can give me??

Our Response:
If there has been no diagnosis of your ex's psychological condition then there may be little you can do to prove how your son is being treated psychologically. Your only recourse to try to resolve your issues is to suggest mediation to your ex and/or if she refuses take the matter to court. The court's main objective is to make a decision based upon what it thinks is in your child's best interests. It will generally avoid getting involved in accusatory 'he did this/she did that' domestic disagreements. In other words, if you cannot resolve the issues between you, the court will attempt to on your behalf. If you take the matter to court and the court awards you specific access, then your ex will have to keep to the order. Unfortunately, there is little the court can do regarding the general behaviour of your ex, it can merely offer you arranged access to your child where and when it possibly can.
SeparatedDads - 19-Sep-17 @ 11:43 AM
Hi I parted from ex 3 years ago due to her suffering from female covert/shy narcissistic personality disorder and her being unfaithful . We have 4 year old son together. I moved 50 miles away to be closer to my family and have since travelled 400 round trip each month for him to stay with me every other weekend. I've always paid child maintaince and helped out with swimming lessons taken him to Portugal and other trips away he is my world. I have a new partner and daughter and brought a new home together but my ex just takes away my weekends as she pleases so we can never plan anything which usually cost me money on tickets on things we have planned and keeps us all on tender hooks not knowing if he's aloud to come abroad with us or weekend breaks that cost us hundreds of pounds in flights and changing dates. We get constant abuse and psychological projection. She has had a number of failed partners since me but as recently met someone new and has stopped me from seeing him on both my weekends going a month without seeing him due to me getting engaged, it appears that every new thing i do with moving forward in my life eg home, engagement, daughter ect she punishes me and more importantly our son I believe his emotional needs are not being met by her as she messes with his head some of the things he tells us are really upsetting. My partner and I can no longer take her controlling and manipulating ways due to us never knowing if we have him or not and I am very worried about how he his being treated psychologically, is there any advice you can give me??
Sunset81 - 19-Sep-17 @ 5:45 AM
Barce37 - Your Question:
Hi. I'm after some advice. Me and my ex split up a couple of months ago and she took our 5 month old daughter back to her mum's which is 40 miles away. At 1st when she thought there was a chance of us maybe getting back together she was fine, I had my daughter every weekend and she'd fetch her to me 1 night a week to see me. But then when she realised we wasnt going to work, she totally changed. Now all im getting is abuse and shes stopped me seeing my daughter. Iv not done anything wrong, we just wasnt happy together. Where do I stand?? Thanks

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. You need to read the article: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here which will tell you the process you need to go through. Hopefully, as it is still early days, the situation will resolve itself before then.
SeparatedDads - 18-Sep-17 @ 3:04 PM
Proud Father of 2 - Your Question:
Hi.I am trying to find out if there is any way of having some form of rights or parental responsibility for 2 children who are not biologically mine. I have fathered my boy (6 1/2yrs) since he was 1, and my daughter (nearly 4yrs) since birth. My ex partner conceived my daughter when we temporarily broke up for 3 months, which ended up as me being the father of 2 kids who weren't mine. my son's biological father is on his birth certificate but not allowed access by the courts, there is no name down as father on my daughters birth certificate. I have regular contact with children since me and their mother broke up 1 1/2 yrs ago. and in all but legal and biological sense, I am their father and love them as my children.There is a current situation where I may (but hopefully not) have to get child services involved. So I am trying to find out where I stand if the worst happened and if the mother refuses me contact. Any help, info or direction would be greatly appreciated.

Our Response:
It is always a tricky situation when a non-biological father wants access etc, despite your best intentions. Much of it still relies upon the mother's consent for you to have access. It would be considerably more difficult to gain consent even if child services are involved, as other close family would be considered to be in line to care for the children also (if it came to this). If the mother refuses you contact, then you would not have as many rights as a biological parent to push for regular contact, or residency. Trying to keep the situation amicable with your ex is the best way of retaining a relationship with your children and offering to help more where she may be finding it (for whatever reason) difficult. However, you may also wish to seek legal advice in order to see whether you have any options.
SeparatedDads - 18-Sep-17 @ 11:02 AM
Hi. I'm after some advice. Me and my ex split up a couple of months ago and she took our 5 month old daughter back to her mum's which is 40 miles away. At 1st when she thought there was a chance of us maybe getting back together she was fine, I had my daughter every weekend and she'd fetch her to me 1 night a week to see me. But then when she realised we wasnt going to work, she totally changed. Now all im getting is abuse and shes stopped me seeing my daughter. Iv not done anything wrong, we just wasnt happy together. Where do I stand?? Thanks
Barce37 - 17-Sep-17 @ 2:31 PM
RolandBGreen - Your Question:
Hello, I split up with my ex wife 5 years ago, we have a daughter together who is 10 now. I took her to court because without telling me she was moving house and arranging to change her school. She won in court and was allowed the change as her new house is only 20 minutes away from me but I still dont think this is right. On the court paper it states that the child lives with the mother and only has contact with myself, I see her every alternate weekend and once in the week. I think this is wrong and I told my daughter that I would like to see her more, do I HAVE to follow the court order and what would happen if I dont?

Our Response:
You can see more via the link: Breach of Contact or Residence Order: What to Do here. The court order is put in place for a reason and has to be kept to. As specified in the article: 'Any changes to a contact order must be agreed by both parties. One party cannot unilaterally decide to change the order or apply additional terms. If they wish to do so, they will need to refer the matter back to the courts'.
SeparatedDads - 15-Sep-17 @ 2:48 PM
Hi. I am trying to find out if there is any way of having some form of rights or parental responsibility for 2 children who are not biologically mine. I have fathered my boy (6 1/2yrs) since he was 1, and my daughter (nearly 4yrs) since birth. My ex partner conceived my daughter when we temporarily broke up for 3 months, which ended up as me being the father of 2 kids who weren't mine. my son's biological father is on his birth certificate but not allowed access by the courts, there is no name down as father on my daughters birth certificate. I have regular contact with children since me and their mother broke up 1 1/2 yrs ago. and in all but legal and biological sense, I am their father and love them as my children. There is a current situation where I may (but hopefully not) have to get child services involved. So I am trying to find out where I stand if the worst happened and if the mother refuses me contact.Any help, info or direction would be greatly appreciated.
Proud Father of 2 - 15-Sep-17 @ 12:50 PM
Belly92 - Your Question:
Hey,Up until this month I have always had my kids 2 nights a week every week and let the mother know 3 weeks in advance.Now my eldest has just started school and she is refusing to allow me to have them through the week and only to have them at the weekends. She knows that in my line of business I generally work most weekends (She works for the same company) and her saying that I can only have them on a weekend means I potentially can only have 1 in 4 weekends.Her argument is that she wants the kids to be in a routine Sunday to Thursday for school, which I agree with but she won't allow them to stop at mine during that time. Restricting how much time I can spend with our kids.I've argued that I would ensure any routine she would be following from school finishing (homework, tea, bath and bed etc) I would ensure this is followed too and that, they would be picked up on time and dropped off at school on time (I live about 30/45 minutes away from their school, as the mother moved away).What advice can you give me? I'm seeking citizens advice help tomorrow.

Our Response:
Where you cannot agree, you have two options only; mediation and if your ex won't agree to attend mediation, court. Court is only seen as the last resort. Please see link here .
SeparatedDads - 14-Sep-17 @ 10:09 AM
Hey, Up until this month I have always had my kids 2 nights a week every week and let the mother know 3 weeks in advance. Now my eldest has just started school and she is refusing to allow me to have them through the week and only to have them at the weekends. She knows that in my line of business I generally work most weekends (She works for the same company) and her saying that I can only have them on a weekend means I potentially can only have 1 in 4 weekends. Her argument is that she wants the kids to be in a routine Sunday to Thursday for school, which I agree with but she won't allow them to stop at mine during that time. Restricting how much time I can spend with our kids. I've argued that I would ensure any routine she would be following from school finishing (homework, tea, bath and bed etc) I would ensure this is followed too and that, they would be picked up on time and dropped off at school on time (I live about 30/45 minutes away from their school, as the mother moved away). What advice can you give me? I'm seeking citizens advice help tomorrow.
Belly92 - 13-Sep-17 @ 2:17 AM
Hello, I split up with my ex wife 5 years ago, we have a daughter together who is 10 now. I took her to court because without telling me she was moving house and arranging to change her school. She won in court and was allowed the change as her new house is only 20 minutes away from me but I still dont think this is right. On the court paper it states that the child lives with the mother and only has contact with myself, I see her every alternate weekend and once in the week. I think this is wrong and I told my daughter that I would like to see her more, do I HAVE to follow the court order and what would happen if I dont?
Roland - 8-Sep-17 @ 2:12 PM
Macybrown - Your Question:
My husband is very desperate to see her daughter, they had her when he was still going out with me. He left London when the baby was 3 months to stay with me. But he used to visit them once every 2monthS, but stay there for 1 week, they do alot of activities,it got to a time that I found out that they're still dating and we're about to get married,so we cam to agreement that we both and our kids will visit her and take her out with the mother and for my husband to tell the ex, but she refused and but my husband been talking to till last year November she started ignoring his calls and text,but he pays CSA, he's very desperate,what can he do about it?

Our Response:
I can only direct you to the site: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here which tells you what your husband should do if his ex continues to withhold access.
SeparatedDads - 8-Sep-17 @ 1:43 PM
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