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Your Separated Father's Rights

By: Chris Nickson - Updated: 17 Jul 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Rights Parental Responsibility Civil

When you've split up with your ex it's important to know what your rights and responsibilities are regarding your children. The most important thing is to determine whether or not you have parental responsibility for your children. In the case of married couples, you're responsible for any children born in wedlock.

Unmarried Couples

In general terms, an unmarried mother is deemed to have "parental responsibility" for her children. For births registered in England or Wales; as a father you have parental responsibility if:
  • The child's birth was registered after December 1st, 2003 and your name is on the certificate as the father.
  • If the child was born before that time with no father listed on the birth certificate, but the birth was later re-registered with you named as the father.
  • If you and the child's mother sign a Parental Responsibility Agreement.
  • If you're given a parental responsibility order by the court, or a Residence Order for the child to live with you.
  • If you marry the child's mother.

If the parents are not married, parental responsibility does not automatically pass to the natural father if the mother dies.

Same Sex Couples

With same sex couples, after a civil partnership, you have parental responsibility if you have a parental responsibility agreement or a parental responsibility order from the court.

What Parental Responsibility Means for your Rights as a Dad

If you have parental responsibility, you have a say in the upbringing of your children, even if they don't live with you any more.

However, this doesn't apply to the general, day-to-day life of your children; that will lie with the mother if they live with her. But in other questions, such as religion, upbringing, medical treatment and so on, you have the same rights in making decisions as the mother.

So what rights does parental responsibility give you?

Important Decisions - we've already mentioned that decisions on everyday matters lie with the parent who has residency. But if you have parental responsibility, even as the non-resident parent - you have the right to be consulted over important issues such as:
  • Changing schools
  • Going on holidays with others/other organisations etc
  • Serious medical issues
  • Changing surname
  • Emigration
  • Their marriage
  • Adoption

Once your child gets older, he or she may express their opinions and you may feel that your parental responsibility rights are reduced. At this stage, it is therefore important to consider the wishes of the child in major decisions too.

For more details on parental responsibility, take a look at our guide and letter templates.

If you feel your rights are being ignored and you have parental responsibility, you can apply for a specific steps order or a specific issue order. More information about those can be found here:
Specific Issue Orders.

Applying to the Courts

As a father you can apply to the court for parental responsibility. The court will consider:
  • How committed you are as a father
  • The attachment between you and your child
  • Your reasons for applying for the order

Based on what the judge believes to be in the child's best interests they will either accept or grant your application for parental responsibility.

If you've been part of a couple where the children are yours and you don't have parental responsibility, you can still apply to court for certain types of orders, mostly Contact Orders to see the children, but even for a Residence Order to have the children live with you (if granted, you'll then have parental responsibility).

Note that if your former partner has a Residence Order, she can take your children abroad for up to a month without your consent. However, if the trip is longer, or she plans on moving abroad with the children, she will need the consent of both you and anyone else who has parental responsibility for the children. However, if you wish to take your children abroad for a holiday, it's a tougher issue, and legally you're advised to have her agreement first. (Taking a child abroad without the mother's consent can be deemed as abduction in the eyes of the law. Read our article What is Abduction? for more information).

Child Maintenance

Parental responsibility also means you have the duty to support your children financially. If you already have a case ongoing this will probably be done either through the Child Support Agency (CSA) or by an arranged agreement between you and the child's mother. In general terms, you'll pay 15% of your net income for one child, 20% for two and 25% for three children. However, there are adjustments, depending on how much time the children spend with you. If you move abroad, support will be done through the court rather than the CSA. Note that from 25 November 2013, the Child Support Agency (CSA) no longer takes on new cases but will continue to deal with existing cases. The new body handling maintenance issues is the Child Maintenance Service.

When Does Parental Responsibility End?

Your parental responsibility to your children ends when they turn 18 and become legal adults. However, if they're over 16 and marry, it ends with the marriage. If you've obtained parental responsibility through a Residence Order, though, and that Residence Order changes, you don't lose parental responsibility.

You should be aware that if you weren't married to the mother of your children, you're on slightly trickier ground, even if you have your name on the birth certificate or a parental responsibility agreement or order. In that case, any other person with parental responsibility can apply to court to have your parental responsibility ended. Even your children can do that, if they acquire permission from the court.

Court

To help prepare you for going to court for residency or contact, we have a free, comprehensive guide to the whole process here.

Check out the Separated Dads Forum... It's a great resource where you can ask for advice on topics including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or simply to have a chat with other dads.

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Hi my ex partner has asked me to have my 6month old son and I agreed she then said I could only have him if I take the other 2 children which are not biologically mine and has now told me my little boy will be staying with her mother and grandmother for a bit so do I have the right to have him stay with me instead of being passed between grandparents
Jay - 17-Jul-18 @ 5:23 PM
Hi, I’m registered as my daughters father and I have her every weekend of every week every month without fail. I’ve been in a relation ship with another person for over a year and a half now and o never get to see her just her and I. I asked my daughters mother if one weekend of every month or not even that I could have a weekend for just me to do stuff where I work Monday to Friday also and she said no. If I try she won’t allow me seeing her. I just want to know if she is within her rights to do so as because of this, I have recently broke up with my girlfriend and it’s devastated me as she believe she has complete control. Thank you.
Hutch1224 - 17-Jul-18 @ 10:55 AM
Phil - Your Question:
I have a question,My daughter is 2 in August. I live nearly 200 miles away after we split. I have her for a few days every few weeks but when I take her home I have zero contact. No phone, texts pics or updates. I have expressed my frustration to her mother but her mother refuses. What can I do?

Our Response:
Your only option is to apply to court if she will not discuss the matter. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
SeparatedDads - 16-Jul-18 @ 3:27 PM
Pete - Your Question:
Hi, I have regular routine with my son, I pay maintenance on time every week. I provide what ever my son needs while hes with me, yet his mother has decided to take him away for 6 weeks without my concent. So me and my partner (who my son has a very good relationship with) have taken a week holiday from work to see him, and now his mother has just informed me shes taking him away early so we wont get to see him. Surely this isnt allowed??

Our Response:
If you are registered on the birth certificate, your ex is required to ask for permission before she takes your child out of the country, please see link here . If your ex is not taking your child out of the country, then the issue can only be dealt with through mediation or court. However, if you opt to take the matter to further, if your ex refuses mediation then you would have to give enough time for the matter to come to court.
SeparatedDads - 16-Jul-18 @ 11:29 AM
Hi, i have regular routine with my son, i pay maintenance on time every week.. I provide what ever my son needs while hes with me, yet his mother has decided to take him away for 6 weeks without my concent.. So me and my partner (who my son has a very good relationship with) have taken a week holiday from work to see him, and now his mother has just informed me shes taking him away early so we wont get to see him.. Surely this isnt allowed??
Pete - 15-Jul-18 @ 4:55 PM
I have a question, My daughter is 2 in August. I live nearly 200 miles away after we split. I have her for a few days every few weeks but when I take her home I have zero contact. No phone, texts pics or updates. I have expressed my frustration to her mother but her mother refuses. What can I do?
Phil - 13-Jul-18 @ 3:43 PM
Isla01 - Your Question:
Hello, I need some advice please on where I stand. I have a beautiful little girl who is nearly 6 months. She’s only ever slept out once before. Me and my partner have recently split. As he is on the raf he is demanding to have her every weekend from Saturday morning till Sunday tea. I have no idea what she gets up to. He’s had her once over night and she’s came back so unsetttled and just wanted to be with me. At the weekends is the only time we really get to do anything. I feel like our special time is being taken away from us. When he took her he refused to take her teddy or dummy he said he’s got stuff for her. It’s like he’s taking a part of who she is away from her. He had no idea what food she eats and is still giving her bottles when she only has them at bed time. As soon as she came back she wanted feeding a meal then desert but she had her tea a hour later but he said she was fed before she came back. Just need advice on how to arrange contact when a baby is h settled when they come back and he lives 3 hours away due to work

Our Response:
Please see the link here , which should help answer your question, as there are no right and wrongs here. Whatever access is decided should be decided by you both, or if not via mediation.
SeparatedDads - 13-Jul-18 @ 11:29 AM
Hello, I need some advice please on where I stand. I have a beautiful little girl who is nearly 6 months. She’s only ever slept out once before. Me and my partner have recently split. As he is on the raf he is demanding to have her every weekend from Saturday morning till Sunday tea. I have no idea what she gets up to. He’s had her once over night and she’s came back so unsetttled and just wanted to be with me. At the weekends is the only time we really get to do anything. I feel like our special time is being taken away from us. When he took her he refused to take her teddy or dummy he said he’s got stuff for her. It’s like he’s taking a part of who she is away from her. He had no idea what food she eats and is still giving her bottles when she only has them at bed time. As soon as she came back she wanted feeding a meal then desert but she had her tea a hour later but he said she was fed before she came back. Just need advice on how to arrange contact when a baby is h settled when they come back and he lives 3 hours away due to work
Isla01 - 12-Jul-18 @ 1:01 PM
kay - Your Question:
Hi my ex went to court for excess to his daughter when my daughter was 3 years old even tho he wasent bothered about seeing his daughter much was always me asking if he wants to see her anyway the court said he could see her an he did for a few weeks says in the court order he would see his daughter on her birthday didn't see her an no explanation why ive asked him to come to parents evening at nursery makes excuses she comes home dirty hungry screaming we have a contacts book ive wrote if it carrys on ill stop contact which I did im I in the wrong will the court fine me? I had my ex arrested which I can't go into social services have been involed nothing wrong on my part im a good mother social services have said now hes stopped paying cms payments ive rang cms up and my ex told them I got him arrested hes not paying he now wants full custody of his daughter plus a dna test even tho he did a dna test when my daughter was 4 weeks old what are the chances of my ex getting full custody

Our Response:
It is highly unlikely a court would issue residency to your child's father. Only if absolutely necessary would the court take a child from the resident parent and hand a child over to the non-resident parent.
SeparatedDads - 10-Jul-18 @ 3:04 PM
Mark- Your Question:
Hi am the dad to my daughter but the mother won't put me on birth certificate can I take her court to get them put me.i won't be in my daughters life and support her.

Our Response:
Yes, you can take the matter to court, please see link here, and here which should help answer your question.
SeparatedDads - 9-Jul-18 @ 3:24 PM
Hi am the dad to my daughter but the mother won't put me on birth certificate can I take her court to get them put me.i won't be in my daughters life and support her.
Mark - 9-Jul-18 @ 1:09 PM
Hi my ex went to court for excess to his daughter when my daughter was 3 years old even tho he wasent bothered about seeing his daughter much was always me asking if he wants to see her anyway the court said he could see her an he did for a few weeks says in the court order he would see his daughter on her birthday didn't see her an no explanation why ive asked him to come to parents evening at nursery makes excuses she comes home dirty hungry screaming we have a contacts book ive wrote if it carrys on ill stop contact which i did im i in the wrong will the court fine me? I had my ex arrested which i can't go into social services have been involed nothing wrong on my part im a good mother social services have said now hes stopped paying cms payments ive rang cms up and my ex told them i got him arrested hes not paying he now wants full custody of his daughter plus a dna test even tho he did a dna test when my daughter was 4 weeks old what are the chances of my ex getting full custody
kay - 6-Jul-18 @ 11:25 PM
Stokie - Your Question:
Hi my child’s father has him Friday to Sunday and also in the week in school hols. We have had a big argument. And now he says he taking me court for full custody because my son is in his name. Can he do this

Our Response:
Your child's father would be able to apply to court for a child arrangement order, please see link here. However, it is highly unlikely the court would rule to take a child from one parent and hand the child to another unless there was a very good provable reason, such as child neglect.
SeparatedDads - 6-Jul-18 @ 1:52 PM
Hi my child’s father has him Friday to Sunday and also in the week in school hols. We have had a big argument. And now he says he taking me court for full custody because my son is in his name. Can he do this
Stokie - 4-Jul-18 @ 7:48 PM
Lou - Your Question:
Hi, the “dad” of my child is applying for parental responsibilty, if he gets granted this does this mean he has to help with costs like her nursery fee, school uniforms, school trips etc? He only pays £30 CSA a week and gettin that out of him is difficult

Our Response:
No. The fact your child's father has applied for PR, has nothing to do with how much child maintenance he should pay. Child maintenance is a separate issue.
SeparatedDads - 3-Jul-18 @ 2:02 PM
Hi, the “dad” of my child is applying for parental responsibilty, if he gets granted this does this mean he has to help with costs like her nursery fee, school uniforms, school trips etc? He only pays £30 CSA a week and gettin that out of him is difficult
Lou - 3-Jul-18 @ 1:40 PM
Thanks. I will try that. If its possible please can these messages be deleted, I didnt realise they were public and the last thing we need is his ex discovering them and finding a way to use it against him.
RobynW - 3-Jul-18 @ 12:55 PM
RobynW - Your Question:
Sorry if I haven't explained myself properly. It is the CMS themselves that have told us numerous times that the case should be closed. And due to the fact that my husband has to pay for flights and travel and sometimes stay overnight to collect her, and also because we have a disabled child so the payments were adjusted right down to a smaller amount. We arent disputing the fact that he should pay for his daughter, in fact it is easier when he does as his ex doesnt make any problems. He is currently still paying so please dont think he isnt. What I was asking for advice on is where he can turn to. He feels isolated and at his wits end and I dont know how to help him. No one ever seems to understand the situation we are in. I am worried he will do something stupid and all anyone ever seems to say is he should pay for his daughter. When his daughter was abducted (I stress, taken without consent, not the mother 'moving on with her life', purposely taken and official documents forged to get her out of the country) the police, m.o.d, hague convention, local mp were all involved. It has taken such a toll on him and I need to know where I can get him help. Without people being biased towards the mother.

Our Response:
I see. Things can be mis-interpreted. The link here may help you further. Or the Separated Dads Forum which has helped a lot of dads, but also there are women who join to request help, which is fine. You'll find fathers who have possibly been through similar issues and who will be able to advise. I hope this helps and I hope your husband finds a way through this.
SeparatedDads - 3-Jul-18 @ 12:30 PM
Sorry if I haven't explained myself properly. It is the CMS themselves that have told us numerous times that the case should be closed. And due to the fact that my husband has to pay for flights and travel and sometimes stay overnight to collect her, and also because we have a disabled child so the payments were adjusted right down to a smaller amount. We arent disputing the fact that he should pay for his daughter, in fact it is easier when he does as his ex doesnt make any problems. He is currently still paying so please dont think he isnt. What I was asking for advice on is where he can turn to. He feels isolated and at his wits end and I dont know how to help him. No one ever seems to understand the situation we are in. I am worried he will do something stupid and all anyone ever seems to say is he should pay for his daughter. When his daughter was abducted (I stress, taken without consent, not the mother 'moving on with her life', purposely taken and official documents forged to get her out of the country) the police, m.o.d, hague convention, local mp were all involved. It has taken such a toll on him and I need to know where I can get him help. Without people being biased towards the mother.
RobynW - 3-Jul-18 @ 10:22 AM
RobynW - Your Question:
Im looking for some help and guidance please. I cannot talk to cms about it as I dont myself have a case. The person who pays cms is my husband. Its a very long story, but in short my husbands daughter was taken out of the country illegally to live in Germany. She continues to live there with her mum and step dad and they dont intend on coming back. The step dad is in the army, so thats how they have been able to continue claiming all the english benefits and cms (even though it is her step dad in the army, not her mum). My husband has had a traumatic ordeal, first trying to locate her, then dealing with court proceedings to return his daughter to the uk, then accepting the fact she isnt coming back. We have been told a few times the case should be closed, followed it up and they always end up keeping it open. We have formally complained and the complaints get squashed as they promised to close the case. Meanwhile they are racking up a huge bill for unpaid cms as we were told the case was closed. Last week, without warning, my husband was told he has been moved from direct pay to collect and pay, and then in the same day to taking £609 a month directly from his wage. We cannot survive on this. He earns £1600 a month, we have 3 children one of them disabled. Our rent is £560 per month. This leaves him £440 a month to pay all utilities, fuel, food for 5 people and also flights to see his daughter in Germany (yes he also has to pay for the privilege of picking her up from a different country, just to rub salt in the wound). He cant continue like this, he has been to the doctor this morning and they have put him on anti depressants. They wanted to sign him off work but he refused. He has expressed to me he sometimes considers wrapping his car around a tree on the way home to make life easier. I dont think cms understand the pressure they are putting him under. He is being punished for his daughter's mums actions, as he can't see his daughter as often. I am so worried for his health and our family and I don't know who to contact about it. Cms are absolutely useless and cant seem to work anything out fairly, as its all based on children who live in england. Please can someone help us. No one will talk to me as Im just the wife, but he is at the point where if he has to talk about it any more it will push him over the edge. We dont know where to turn now.

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, regardless of where in the world your husband's daughter lives and whether your husband has access or not, he is still by law responsible for paying child maintenance for his child. With regards to the CSA case being closed, is this more to do with the CSA closing - rather than the fact your husband is still responsible for paying child maintenance (you don't say why he stopped paying)? You say your husband is being 'punished for his daughter's mum's actions'. The possible mis-understanding here is his confusion between the mother's actions and your husband's paying of child maintenance, in the eyes of the law they are not connected. The fact the mother took the child to another country without authorisation is unfortunate and sad. However, even if the mother had sought authorisation through the courts there would have been a good chance she would have been given it. The courts will not stop a parent getting on with their lives and if that parent can give a justifiable reason why she should leave the country (i.e her current husband/partner has a job), then the court will not try to stop this if it thinks it is in the child's best interests to remain with the mother. In this case, access should be arranged. However, just because the mother decides to move abroad with the child, it does not mean the father is absolved of the responsibility of helping to financially support his child. Therefore, I assume this is why child maintenance payments have accrued. Perhaps your husband has been under the illusion that if he's not seeing his child, then payments can stop. This is not the case. The authorities have provision under a reciprocal enforcement of maintenance order which can help enforce child maintenance orders internationally. I'm not quite sure what to say here on in, accept to say child maintenance payments can be enforced where a non-resident payment has ceased payment. I can only direct you to the link here which may help. At least you are armed with the facts which you can try to work out a way around the situation of trying to pay arrears which sounds like your husband is liable for.
SeparatedDads - 3-Jul-18 @ 9:44 AM
Im looking for some help and guidance please. I cannot talk to cms about it as i dont myself have a case. The person who pays cms is my husband. Its a very long story, but in short my husbands daughter was taken out of the country illegally to live in Germany. She continues to live there with her mum and step dad and they dont intend on coming back. The step dad is in the army, so thats how they have been able to continue claiming all the english benefits and cms (even though it is her step dad in the army, not her mum). My husband has had a traumatic ordeal, first trying to locate her, then dealing with court proceedings to return his daughter to the uk, then accepting the fact she isnt coming back. We have been told a few times the case should be closed, followed it up and they always end up keeping it open. We have formally complained and the complaints get squashed as they promised to close the case. Meanwhile they are racking up a huge bill for unpaid cms as we were told the case was closed. Last week, without warning, my husband was told he has been moved from direct pay to collect and pay, and then in the same day to taking £609 a month directly from his wage. We cannot survive on this. He earns £1600 a month, we have 3 children one of them disabled. Our rent is £560 per month. This leaves him £440 a month to pay all utilities, fuel, food for 5 people and also flights to see his daughter in Germany (yes he also has to pay for the privilege of picking her up from a different country, just to rub salt in the wound). He cant continue like this, he has been to the doctor this morning and they have put him on anti depressants. They wanted to sign him off work but he refused. He has expressed to me he sometimes considers wrapping his car around a tree on the way home to make life easier. I dont think cms understand the pressure they are putting him under. He is being punished for his daughter's mums actions, as he can't see his daughter as often. I am so worried for his health and our family and I don't know who to contact about it. Cms are absolutely useless and cant seem to work anything out fairly, as its all based on children who live in england. Please can someone help us. No one will talk to me as Im just the wife, but he is at the point where if he has to talk about it any more it will push him over the edge. We dont know where to turn now.
RobynW - 2-Jul-18 @ 2:12 PM
Si - Your Question:
For the last 6 years I have lived 3 hours away from my children after their mother  and step father (they are unmarried), relocated with them when they were young.Anyway I recently got made redundant from my job so I have relocated near to my children and I am planning to make a new life closer to them.But now their step father is trying to get their mother to relocate again with the children.But is there anything I can do to stop her at all?I did awhile ago send a letter to my daughters school saying I refused their mother permission to remove them.But would she still be allowed to?What rights say do I have over where my children live?There is nothing official between us at this time.We are in England UK TIA.

Our Response:
Your only option would be to apply for a Prohibited Steps Order through the courts. A PSO, is an order granted by the court in family cases which prevents either parent from carrying out certain events or making specific trips with their children without the express permission of the other parent. This is more common in cases where there is suspicion that one parent may leave the area with their children. If you can prove to the courts your children's step-father is moving purely to make life difficult for you seeing your children, then you may have a case. You may wish to seek legal advice regarding this matter. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
SeparatedDads - 2-Jul-18 @ 1:41 PM
Ems - Your Question:
Hi. This is really just a feeler to see what is classed as normal contact. I split with the 3 children's dad last year (we were never married). He has been having the 3 children from 430pm on a Friday till 5pm on a Sunday every weekend for the past 6 months. He has now thrown it at me that he is only willing to have them every other weekend, for roughly the same times. I'm fairly sure he has done this as he is angry that I've moved on in my personal life but I feel it is unfair to the children. He is claiming that his hours at work are making it difficult for him to have a life. His hours are 6-2 Monday to Thursday & 6-11 on a Friday 1 week & then 2-10 Monday to Thursday & 11-4 on a Friday the following week. He is making out I am being unreasonable with what we have had in place. In addition I have multiple sclerosis so I do need his help really, it's not because I'm off raving down the pub. Am I being unreasonable in asking for him to have them every weekend? They are 5,3&1

Our Response:
There is no right or wrong answer here. Anything you can't agree between you should be resolved through mediation. If you cannot resolve the matter through mediation, then court is the next option to consider. However, the court's standard child access formula rests on every other weekend and one or two nights mid-week. This is viewed to be a fair split. If you have MS, then mediation may be the best option for you to both come to a workable arrangement that works for you both and your kids.
SeparatedDads - 2-Jul-18 @ 10:07 AM
Hey @nick he knows about the ms. We were together when I was diagnosed a couple of years ago. He clearly hasn't moved on & now he is hell bent on making the children miserable. He does call me names to the children which I thought I had addressed with him.But now I have discovered he has destroyed the children's electric air pump (cut the wires off all my chargers/adapters)
Ems - 1-Jul-18 @ 2:52 PM
@ems.i am sorry hear this.let me start bye saying good for you on moving on with your personal life .on the[ multiple sclerosis that is serous] .i am sure if you showed your ex sum official paper work that you do in fact have it ?.he would take them every weekend
nick - 1-Jul-18 @ 1:15 PM
Hi. This is really just a feeler to see what is classed as normal contact. I split with the 3 children's dad last year (we were never married). He has been having the 3 children from 430pm on a Friday till 5pm on a Sunday every weekend for the past 6 months. He has now thrown it at me that he is only willing to have them every other weekend, for roughly the same times.I'm fairly sure he has done this as he is angry that I've moved on in my personal life but I feel it is unfair to the children. He is claiming that his hours at work are making it difficult for him to have a life. His hours are 6-2 Monday to Thursday & 6-11 on a Friday 1 week & then 2-10 Monday to Thursday & 11-4 on a Friday the following week. He is making out I am being unreasonable with what we have had in place.In addition I have multiple sclerosis so I do need his help really, it's not because I'm off raving down the pub. Am I being unreasonable in asking for him to have them every weekend? They are 5,3&1
Ems - 1-Jul-18 @ 10:33 AM
For the last 6 years I have lived 3 hours away from my children after their mother  and step father (they are unmarried), relocated with them when they were young. Anyway I recently got made redundant from my job so I have relocated near to my children and I am planning to make a new life closer to them. But now their step father is trying to get their mother to relocate again with the children. But is there anything I can do to stop her at all? I did awhile ago send a letter to my daughters school saying I refused their mother permission to remove them. But would she still be allowed to? What rights say do I have over where my children live? There is nothing official between us at this time. We are in England UK TIA.
Si - 30-Jun-18 @ 5:10 PM
@Simmy - the thing is to aim high and then anything is a bonus. If you haven't had a relationship to date with your son then it is optimistic, you might have to build up the relationship ie contact centre first, then day contact leading to overnight. You will need patience, you can't just step in and expect to have your kid overnight when you don't actually really know him. Put your child's interests first and then yours and it wil be fine. Best of luck.
Jay78 - 25-Jun-18 @ 1:42 PM
I'll be honest I messed up, I didn't have anything to do with my son for 18 months we then had contact for a few weeks supervised but then that stopped August last year, I contacted my ex in October saying I wanted contact to start again every week but she refused, I am now applying to court for 2/3 days and overnights because that what my solicitor says I should, am I being optimistic?
Simmy - 23-Jun-18 @ 9:12 PM
My ex wife has booked a holiday with her new partner for two weeks during our two children's two week spring holiday. Meaning that I get no time with them for the spring holiday. I was just wondering what rights I have during the school holidays?. I currently see our two children every other weekend and sporadically during the school holidays as I do shift work. I'm now being told by my ex wife that I need to book time off work either before or after their holiday otherwise I wont be able to see our children for almost a month....Is she able to do this?
Kakarot - 23-Jun-18 @ 11:22 AM
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