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Can I Charge My Ex's New Boyfriend Rent?

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Rent Agreement Tenant Ex-partner

Q.

My partner and I have a 3-year-old child and we are separated. She and our child are living in the property that we both jointly own.

She wants her new partner to move in with her, however, I am financially struggling in my new home and was wondering if I could treat him as tenant and charge rent? If I do, could there be any legal recourse if he does not accept?

(P.H, 14 October 2008)

A.

There’s a bit of a conundrum here. You own the house jointly, which means you both have equity in it, although how much you each have probably hasn’t been decided. That means, let’s say, that half the house is hers.

From what you write, it would seem there is no written agreement between the two of you over who can live there and under what conditions. Unless your ex is renting him a portion of the house – and it would seem that they’re planning on living together as a couple – it’s unlikely that he could be considered a tenant.

That said, since the house is jointly owned, it’s likely that you and your ex are splitting the mortgage payments. If her boyfriend moves in and begins contributing to the mortgage, then you might have a valid case to have your own payment lessened.

However, it’s all a bit tricky. The ideal way would be to sit down with your ex and hammer out an agreement that’s mutually acceptable. That depends on how well you two get along, and how flexible she is on matters.

Before you do anything, though, seek some legal advice to fully establish your position in the matter.

If the two of you can come an agreement, get it in writing through your solicitors. That way, should there be a problem later, you have the paperwork if it’s possible for you to pursue things legally.

That might also have the effect of making your ex think more about moving her boyfriend in.

If they’re serious about things, you might even want to suggest they buy you out of the property. It could help bring closure on the relationship, and it could ease your Financial Pressures, too. You don’t seem to have a problem with him living in the house and being around your son, so your concerns are more financial than anything.

So, if you do come to an agreement, then after, say, six months when they’re fully established as a couple in the house, you could suggest they buy you out, which could end up making the situation easier for everyone.

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Tazo - 29-Dec-18 @ 4:31 AM
JoRo - Your Question:
My partner wants me to live in her home that is half owned by her seperated husband (not divorced). They have been seperated for well over 2 years. My concern is does he have a right to not allow me to live in the property?

Our Response:
Much depends upon whether there is a child arrangement order made through the courts that may have particular restrictions attached to it. Otherwise, there should be no restriction.
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Our Response:
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boltondad - 1-Jun-14 @ 5:59 PM
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Konrad - 17-Nov-13 @ 8:54 AM
Hi Grimmy You need to be really careful here.... The first thing is that she is not allowed to enforce anything but as you have left the marital home willingly (with the best of intentions) you have given her the opportunity to take control of the situation.I (limited) understanding is that the PWC (parent with care) can request to stay in the marital home until the child is older, and more often than not the court will agree. I would suggest you seek legal advice or at least go to citizens advice bureau... Your ex cannot force you to pay half the mortgage!!However, the CSA will want a percentage of your income regardless of how much your outgoings are!!!They do not take account of the fact that you pay towards the mortgage... they are only interested in what you earn. My honest suggestion would be that you try to set up a private arrangement to pay child maintenance at the rate the CSA calculator stipulates and set up a direct debit to her account clearly stating child maintenance.This will keep you right, should things ever get nasty. You should read through the link "lies in separation" above, it's an eye-opener.... look after yourself and think carefully before you agree to anything with your ex.
Sally - 28-Aug-12 @ 2:36 PM
Hi, I have recently separated from my wife due to a breakdown in our relationship. She has asked me to move out of the property which I have agreed to although there are no issues such as violence or threats against property. She has since changed the locks on the house despite the majority of my possessions being still in the house. Is she allowed to do this and what can I do to protect my own interests ? Additionally she is asking that I pay half the mortgage on the house, plus child maintenance at the rate set by the CSA, on top of this I will have to pay private rent on the property which I move into. Speaking to friends the consensus seems to be that this is unfair. Again, is she allowed to enforce this ? Thanks,
Grimmy - 28-Aug-12 @ 12:07 PM
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