One of the most common questions separated dads ask is when child maintenance payments actually come to an end. The answer depends on how your arrangement was set up in the first place, but for most fathers paying through the Child Maintenance Service, there are clear rules about when payments stop.
The standard CMS rules
Payments through the CMS will normally end when your child reaches 16, unless they remain in approved full-time non-advanced education or training. When a child stays in qualifying education, payments can continue until their 20th birthday.
The key word here is "non-advanced". The CMS only recognises education or training at or below A-level standard. This includes A-levels, BTECs, NVQs at Level 3 or below, and similar qualifications. You would usually keep paying until your child finishes the course or turns 20, whichever comes first.
University does not count. Neither do other advanced courses like foundation degrees, HNDs, or anything at degree level or above. Once your child moves into higher education, they fall outside the CMS rules, and your obligation to pay through the CMS ends.
The CMS uses Child Benefit as its main guide. When the receiving parent is still getting Child Benefit for the child, that is normally a sign the child qualifies for ongoing maintenance. Child Benefit follows broadly the same age rules, so the two tend to align.
When payments can stop earlier
There are situations where maintenance ends before the child reaches the ages mentioned above. Payments will usually stop if any of the following happen:
- The child leaves non-advanced education or training before turning 20
- The child gets married or enters a civil partnership
- The child joins the armed forces
- The child starts living independently and is no longer dependent on either parent
In these cases, the child is treated as no longer being a qualifying child for CMS purposes. The receiving parent should inform the CMS when circumstances change, but you should report it too if you become aware of a change yourself.
Grey areas do exist. A child might drop out of college, start a part-time course, or take a gap year. Whether this counts as being in qualifying education depends on the specifics. The CMS will look at things like the number of hours involved and whether the course leads to a recognised qualification. Contact the CMS directly rather than assuming if you are unsure.

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Not everyone uses the CMS. Many separated parents have what is called a family-based arrangement, which is simply a private agreement between the two of you. These can be informal or written down, but they are not legally binding in the same way as a court order.
With a private arrangement, the end date for payments is whatever you both agreed. Some parents choose to follow the same rules as the CMS, ending payments when the child finishes non-advanced education. Others agree to keep paying through university or until the child reaches 21 or 25. Some agreements are vague or say nothing at all about when payments stop.
Because these arrangements are not enforceable through the CMS, any dispute about when payments should end would need to be resolved between you. Either parent can apply to the CMS for a formal calculation if you cannot agree, though this changes the nature of the arrangement and brings the CMS rules into play.
Agreements put together with the help of a mediator or solicitor may be clearer about the end date. Even then, the agreement relies on both sides sticking to it voluntarily.
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Court orders under the Children Act 1989
A smaller number of parents have maintenance arrangements set by a court order, usually made under Schedule 1 of the Children Act 1989. These orders are most common in cases involving higher earners or more complex financial situations.
Court orders can work differently from CMS arrangements. A judge has more flexibility to set terms that go beyond the standard CMS rules. This often happens in cases involving disability or higher education. For example, a court order might require payments to continue while a child is at university, or it might include specific provisions for a child with a disability who will need support into adulthood.
The terms of your order are what matters if you have one. Do not assume the CMS age rules apply to you. Read the order carefully, or ask a solicitor to explain what it says about when payments end. You would need to apply back to the court if circumstances change and you think the order should be varied. You cannot just stop paying because you believe the situation has changed.
Court orders are legally enforceable, which means the receiving parent can take action if you stop paying without good reason. This is different from a private agreement, where enforcement options are more limited.
What to do when the end date approaches
Do not simply stop paying and hope for the best if you pay through the CMS and your child is approaching 16 or finishing their education. The CMS will not automatically know that your child has left college or started a job. You must notify the CMS of these changes. Failing to do so could result in arrears building up that you will need to repay later.
Contact the CMS and let them know what has changed. Keep written records of all communications. The CMS will look into whether your child still qualifies. Payments may continue until Child Benefit stops if the receiving parent is still claiming it. Everything can take a bit of time to catch up, so give yourself a buffer and deal with it before the end date rather than after.
Both parents should communicate proactively with each other and with the CMS as the end date approaches. Even small misunderstandings about timing can create problems.
Having a conversation with your child's other parent before payments stop is worth doing if you have a private arrangement. Even when you are confident about what was agreed, discussing it can prevent misunderstandings. Your child might be about to turn 18 but staying in sixth form, and you might both agree that payments continue for another year. Or you might agree to stop and help your child directly with money for transport or books instead. There is no single right answer, but talking usually works better than silence.
Keep records of payments and be clear about the terms if you have a court order. The order itself is your guide when your child finishes education earlier than expected, or when they are disabled and the order provides for ongoing support. Consult a solicitor specialising in family law to understand your obligations if you are not sure.
Child maintenance rules might seem confusing, but for most dads the basic position is straightforward. CMS payments end at 16, or up to 20 if the child stays in non-advanced education. University and higher courses do not extend this. Private agreements depend on what you agreed. Court orders depend on what the order says.
For the most up-to-date information, check GOV.UK or contact the Child Maintenance Service directly. Citizens Advice can also help if you are unsure about your situation or need guidance on what to do next. Individual circumstances can significantly affect your obligations, so seek specific advice if you are uncertain about when payments should end in your case.
Child maintenance calculations can sometimes seem unfair when care is shared almost equally. With 5 nights out of 14, you're very close to the threshold where payments might be reduced or stopped altogether. It's worth getting your arrangement formally reviewed by CMS or seeking advice from a family solicitor who can look at your specific circumstances.
The potential benefit fraud you've mentioned is a separate but serious issue. You could report this anonymously to the DWP if you have concerns.
Most importantly, keep focusing on what you're doing brilliantly, being there for your children and giving them wonderful experiences. That relationship is priceless.
I pay child maintenance to my ex wife however my costs are higher than hers.
The children are with me 7 days 5 nights every 2 weeks.
This summer has been quite typical in that my ex wife and her significantly older than her boyfriend have gone away themselves twice, whilst I have taken the kids on holiday and she has done nothing with them.
She does very little with them and it is all about her and the elderly boyfriend.
Can anyone explain why I have to pay child maintenance when my costs are higher, I pay half towards school trips, am asked on the days I send Child Maintenance to then pay half towards other things, in regards to the kids lives I make up for the lack of leisure activities that are not received from their mum and I do all of the collecting/dropping off of the kids bar once every 2 weeks.
To add insult to injury as well as receiving Child Maintenance, Child Benefit her elderly boyfriend admitted to me the other week he is not on her Universal Credit claim so she will be claiming as a single Mum on that also.
Advice please.
so I was lucky I got summit.....
Skip to now my daughter moved in with Jim to go to collage first thing he did was go to csa didn't ask me I was going to agree the 135 same as him but he refused when csa got in touch I found out he lied and said I would only see my daughter once a month I see her Friday to Sunday ..... so his claim is nill as I'm on benefit pip
Any way year and half later she hates it there wants to come back home so iv said of course and though let's see how much csa I can get seen as though your dad went to them I did a calculation based of my daughter telling me her dad earns 50-60k a year it was over 1k per month I felt that can't be right he only been paying 135 for past 16 years pretty much ..
He never told me about change of Jobs and I had to stop talking to him because he was stalking my social media and would message me drunk at night while his wife new child and my daughter was asleep (yes I no)
So going forwards I assume I can't do anything about past money as its my nieveness and not understanding how the csa thing works and all honestly was happy getting something ( I have lots of debts for all the things I bought to provide for my daughter who got a autoimmune Condition at 12 i feel like he is trying to get out of not paying more to me all these years and had me hudlewinked.
My daughter is 16 and left full time education and works 20 hours a week. She is waiting to start a level 3 apprenticeship for 32 hours a week. Do I still have to pay child maintenance?
My son has now finished college. He has started working instead of University. He turned 19 this month. My assumption was that child maintenance stopped the following month by law. I apparently have £400+ pounds of arrears to pay as I refused to continue to pay my ex wife for my daughter when she came to stay with me full time.
Does anyone know if I can stop payments?
WE have a private paid aggement just looking for law on his as it states if he got a job at 16 payments can stop and if he got financial aid at school it stops
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