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Your Rights if You Win Custody of Your Children

By: Chris Nickson - Updated: 11 Oct 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Separated Dads Custody Residence Order

The important fact to remember is that, in the majority of cases, the father will not be granted custody of the child by the courts. Individuals and groups have complained about this bias of the courts for several years, but it’s simply a fact that unless the circumstances are exceptional, the child or children will stay with their mother under a residence order, and you will be able to see them with a Contact Order.

Conditions For Father’s Custody

However, there are times when a judge will look very favourably on a father’s application for custody. Where the mother has a history of addiction to drink or drugs or an extensive history of binge drinking, which you can prove, there’s a good chance you’ll be given custody. There are solid reasons for this, since addicts often turn to crime to feed their habits, which can put the child in situations that aren’t good as he or she grows.

The courts take a similar attitude where the mother has a criminal record, at least if it’s a reasonably extensive one showing her to be a repeat offender. That applies whether she’s in jail or not (there are instances where mothers in jail can keep very young children with them, but those are few and far between).

The mother might be considered physically or emotionally incapable of raising a child. That might be due to a physical handicap, or it could be emotional instability. In those cases, the father would be given custody.

Similarly, where there’s been emotional or physical abuse of the child by the mother, and it can be proven, then the father will definitely receive custody. Sadly, abuse rates by mothers have been on the increase.

Finally, if the mother is deemed to have abandoned her children, the father will receive custody. Abandoned is classed as not being in communication with a child for a set period, whether by mail, phone, physical contact or email. Also, if she leaves with a new partner and has no contact with the children, or if she neglects the children when they’re in her care, then custody will devolve to the father.

Your Rights

When you have custody, you have the same rights as a mother with custody, and the mother would have Visitation Rights with the children (of course, there might be circumstances when she might be denied access). Be sure you obey the contact order fully.

Something to be aware of is that the mother can later petition the court to have the residence order changed, if she’s cleaned up her act and can prove herself to be upstanding and likely to be a good parent. Sadly, there’s a fair chance she might win, although the courts will take the wishes of the children into account.

You’d do right to feel that everything is more fragile than if you were female, since it probably is. She can always come back with her lawyer.

Check out the Separated Dads Forum... It's a great resource where you can ask for advice on topics including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or simply to have a chat with other dads.

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I was with my ex partner for 11 year she had two kids to two different dads which i took them on as my own specially my daughter who i have raised from birth at the begining of the relationship things got bad i had anger issues and one point i attacked her as she attacked me but i didnt press chargers in case the kids got took off us by social services I was charged with abh went to crown court sarah written a letter to the judge to spare me going to prison and it worked i went to angermangement/counciling we got back together and while getting back together we had my youngest carter joe things where great yeah we had our arguments but who dosent then we split up we try to sort our differences out still going round to see the kids and taking round our dads where I am living but we didnt work out and I finished it completely.she gave me 2 days a week for tea monday and thursday Id mind them for her while she was working on a wednesday aftertoon and saturday afternoon then week after it be the same twice for tea sleep over the weekend friday 6pm til sunday 6pm also inbertween taking them to school on a monday morning also picking them up for tea. inbetween all this id pick my daughter up from dancing make her tea and drop her off home i also use to have them ramdomly sleep over rather it was just to spend time with them or say the friday when it wasnt my weekend they sleep over so then sarah didnt have to be rushing about to get to work also if she had things planned id help out by minding them which i didnt mind because they my kids llove spending time with them i also use to ring them almost everyday like how are you how school been what you been up to so now that iv met someone else which i have told her she didnt want the kids meeting her which they have met her but as a friend passing through the street as iv told her she has threaten me i lose the kids for doing so.i have never stop me putting the effort into my kids iv knew this woman for nearly all my life because iv met someone new she saying she scared if my past history repeat itself thats why she safe guarding the kids from us fighting that she cant protect the kids she has told me that she has sorted a contact visit which is a lie can only be rule by a judge so that hasnt worked she has stop all contact with me and my kids. she let me talk to the boys on the 4th july and now she stop me completely talking to them i have tried and ask if i can have them for tea and the answer is no she has told me to go through the courts and that i wont get no access because of my padt history i have never hurt or indanger my kids but because iv told them off for being naughty im some kind of monster which im not but before all this she told me i was a good dad and couldnt of hand pick a better one she has done something like this with the other kids dad and they havent put up a fight and walked away which i am not willing to do i want to be a part of my kids lives i love them and do all i can for thos
is this wrong??? - 11-Oct-18 @ 10:13 PM
I tried to take my life three weeks ago with alcohol prescription and paracetamol and cocaine while my children were sleeping as was very stressed depressed and nobody was helping me I'd also been given the wrong roseate of citalopram which was not helping me to deal with life and it's daily stresses I've never not even in younger years taken drugs before nor had I ever attempted or thought about taking my life , I rang father to take kids to his till I got help and support and stayed in hospital for five days came out and got right medication referred myself to councelling and also contact with social services .... since having a meeting with social they have made promises and feel the children are unsafe with me ( I disagree strongly as I've turned my life around sorted debts and got help and my medication has now settled in) ad however is demanding supervised visits but not arranging them and only 15 minute phone calls three times a week to speak to the children who are all claiming they want to see me and return home I have a clean large beautiful three bed house my sister for support which I never had before and cogaglative behaviour therapy sessions booked to start soon all done by myself and work focused job interviews and training, can I demand my children to return home and have 50/50 residency although social only want supervised visits!?? Thier making my children and myself very unhappy! I'm a fan mum who made a mistake whose trying my best to rectify everything and feels a lot happier and healthier and stable mentally emotionally and physically but it's just not enough for the social services they said it would go child protection if I have my children home which I don't care I will do everything in my power to do what they ask of me but there's no communication failed hope and dad is adamant he will seek legal full residency but he hasn't yet and lives in a two bed flat with full time job and is struggeling please help please many thanks
Jadey - 21-Sep-18 @ 12:38 AM
Hi, I met my ex wife who I was married to briefly in 2016 while on holiday in Portugal back in 2012. She had already left 2 (from 2 different fathers) daughters behind in another country in europe due to debts she had run up. She told me her ex husband had tried to kill her more than once and she was advised to leave the country for her own safety. She moved to the UK to be with me and my life has been hell ever since. She was caught stealing from me and my family and even banned from the local Asda for a year or two for stealing. When my daughter was a couple of months old, me ex paid for me to go to visit my brother in Norway for a few days and while I was there ran off to Florida with my daughter saying I had a problem and didnt want them. When she refused to allow me to speak to my daughter or answer my calls I contacted the police who the told er to return to the UK with my daughter immediately which she did. That was the beginning of a couple of instances where she called the police to claim domestic violence had taken place which it hadnt, she was trying to build a case against me to try to paint me in a bad light. The second time this happened the police officers advised me to leave the property for my own safety as they could see what she was doing. There were no marks on her and no charges were brought on either occasion. That was the last time we were together. We have always had a 50:50 shared care arrangement for our daughter despite her continually informing the cms that I had her less so I have had the added stress of constantly being blackmailed for money. She also constantly tried to change our contact agreement to suit her or whatever job she is in at the time. After contacting my local MP regarding the CMS problem I was advised to get our current arrangement (since Sept 2017 when my daughter started school) formalized. 2 days before the court hearing my ex stated on respondant reply form that she feared my daughter was in danger of some form of emotional abuse from me although has failed to back this up with any evidence. The hearing has now automatically gone to a fact finding hearing and I am now answering allegations of which there is no proof other than 2 police callouts which amounted to nothing. At court she also tried to change the agreement for the third or fourth time in 10 months (she wanted me to have my daughter every weekend and she will have her Monday to Friday!). To add another twist, her 17 year old daughter, upon finding out what her mother was doing, wrote me a damning statement about her mum and how she would self harm in front of her to get her ex husband in trouble, that she had been emotionally abusive to her, (she has a history of self harming because of her mother) and that she was a danger to her little sisters emotional wellbeing. There was other stuff written in there too which painted her in a bad light. I have also spoke to the 17 year olds father who has confirmed that my ex wife has repea
Paps - 19-Sep-18 @ 10:03 AM
I have regular acces to my children through an enforced contact order, take them on overseas holidays, have them for Xmas etc etc. Last week the mother of my children took an overdose and ended up in hospital. Does this give me grounds to seek full responsibility/custody of my children. Any advice on what I can do to safeguard my children, protect their well being and am I within my rights to challenge my current contact order????
Deerc - 14-Sep-18 @ 11:15 PM
Gin123 - Your Question:
My son sent me a very disturbing video of his mother extremely drunk, to the extent she could barely open her eyes, the video then progressed to her swearing at him then hitting and grabbing my son! I have been through the court before in an attempt to get custody but it was granted to the mother, even tho she is unemployed, disappears for days etc etc! With this video evidence would it put me in the position to expect custody to be awarded to me.

Our Response:
You may wish to seek legal advice to see whether this can be used in court. It is rare that a court will hand a child over to the other parent unless there is a very good reason such as abuse or neglect. You don't say whether social services have been involved?
SeparatedDads - 10-Sep-18 @ 2:00 PM
@big T.my x left years ago she was in many relationships when she was with me she left went up north got with another man .i had a few orders hanging over my head at the time and like it was impossible to get access .so i just got on with life then i got contract after many years she was going to terminate my rights for sole parental rights .what i figure it was for a passport to go to the states for holiday .we chit chatted she sent the forms i signed i tried different ways to talk and see my daughter from 2015 to 2016[ without court ].i have no contract now so i think if my daughter was to need another passport she should go under her mothers name legally because in[ reality] i am no one to my daughter .and will not be going to [court for access gods truth ] so its the smarter move all round because if something like needing a replacement passport so they can go overseas is wise for my x daughter to be legally under her mothers name .because i have no intentions for court for access or seeing my daughter .
mr t[ i pity the foo - 9-Sep-18 @ 11:34 PM
I would like some help and advice on the following. I have a 5 year old son. His mother left and abandoned him at the age of 1. There has been no contact since and I’ve never anticipated any. A problem arose the other day while in Barcelona we had our passports stolen. I had major issues trying to obtain a temporary passport for my son as absent or not his mother has parental rights. I had to obtain emails from his school and doctors. Obviously I will need to apply for a new passport for us both but as she still has parental rights( she’s not in the UK) I need to have sole parental rights of him. How can I do this through the courts when the mother is absent? Everything online is about the mother. How can I prove she’s not around and gain full rights over him so I can apply for his passport again
BigT - 9-Sep-18 @ 10:58 PM
My son sent me a very disturbing video of his mother extremely drunk, to the extent she could barely open her eyes, the video then progressed to her swearing at him then hitting and grabbing my son! I have been through the court before in an attempt to get custody but it was granted to the mother, even tho she is unemployed, disappears for days etc etc! With this video evidence would it put me in the position to expect custody to be awarded to me.
Gin123 - 9-Sep-18 @ 9:15 PM
Athair - Your Question:
Hi, I have been involved, as the applicant, in a contact case regarding my children (7 and 13) for the past 19 months. I have been awarded several contact orders, but my estranged wife always reneges on these and she has been alienating the children from me from day 1. She has made several vile allegations against me, all of which were disproved, and in a recent court date the judge and OS said that they were "appalled" at her behaviour and they are extremely worried about her mental wellbeing. Social services have had a role with our children, unnecessarily in my opinion, but now the judge has requested that they take on a bigger role, due to my estranged wife's erratic behaviour. My question is, if I were to apply for residency now, what would the chances be of a success? I know how difficult it is for a father to obtain residency but, in my unqualified opinion and looking at the situation, I feel that I might have a slightly stronger chance. Am I being naive?

Our Response:
Unless your ex breaches the court order, then without reason you would not be able to apply to court if there is an order already in place. However, if your ex continues to breach the order or if anything significant happens that puts your children in danger then it will give you grounds to apply. The point I should make here is, it is not that the courts are unwilling to give fathers access, it's merely that on separation the day-to-day primary carer of the children is given preference (in terms of maintaining continuity) whether that is the mother or father. However, it usually falls that the mother cares for the children on a daily basis and unless absolutely necessary the court will opt for continuity. After separation, the courts will not hand a child or children over the other parent unless there is very good reason. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the children in question. The court will always put the children’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
SeparatedDads - 7-Sep-18 @ 10:20 AM
Hi, I have been involved, as the applicant, in a contact case regarding my children (7 and 13) for the past 19 months. I have been awarded several contact orders, but my estranged wife always reneges on these and she has been alienating the children from me from day 1. She has made several vile allegations against me, all of which were disproved, and in a recent court date the judge and OS said that they were "appalled" at her behaviour and they are extremely worried about her mental wellbeing. Social services have had a role with our children, unnecessarily in my opinion, but now the judge has requested that they take on a bigger role, due to my estranged wife's erratic behaviour. My question is, if I were to apply for residency now, what would the chances be of a success? I know how difficult it is for a father to obtain residency but, in my unqualified opinion and looking at the situation, I feel that I might have a slightly stronger chance. Am I being naive?
Athair - 6-Sep-18 @ 12:27 PM
Izabelka000 - Your Question:
Hi I separate with my partner nad not working currently we live in a renting room my partner wants to take my son to poland to live there can he do that cause I have no money to take Care of my son but looking still for work

Our Response:
Your partner cannot take your child from the country without your permission, please see the link here .
SeparatedDads - 4-Sep-18 @ 2:05 PM
Hi i separate with my partner nad not working currently we live in a renting room my partner wants to take my son to poland to live there can he do that cause i have no money to take Care of my son but looking still for work
Izabelka000 - 29-Aug-18 @ 2:09 PM
I split with my husband in December, he was very controlling and abusuve and has been violent towards me. He was arrested in 2015 for hitting me and spent the night in a cell however I don’t have any proof of this yet as I have lost the police ref number. Since splitting he has tried to make my life hell by doing anything he can to upset me including calling me names and being abusive and is still trying to control everything I do. He is now taking me to court for custody of our 2 children, he currently looks after them mon-fri in the morning/afternoons while I’m at work and has them 2 nights a week. From September my little girl is going to school and my boy is starting nursery, so I will be dropping them both off and he will not have them as much in the week. Which is the reason he wants custody!! Will he be able to get it as we are still married? I have police records of domestic violence against him and I know he drinks a lot. I reported him for drink driving with our son recently but they didn’t catch him. I am beside my self with worry as he is so confident the courts will hand them over to him. He is currently living with his mum and the kids are sleeping in the same room as him. My girl doesn’t even have her own bed however I have a 3 bed house they each have a bedroom. I’m so scared of what will happen any advice will be much appreciated.
Sophie88 - 26-Aug-18 @ 9:09 AM
I split with my husband in December, he was very controlling and abusuve and has been violent towards me. He was arrested in 2015 for hitting me and spent the night in a cell however I don’t have any proof of this yet as I have lost the police ref number. Since splitting he has tried to make my life hell by doing anything he can to upset me including calling me names and being abusive and is still trying to control everything I do. He is now taking me to court for custody of our 2 children, he currently looks after them mon-fri in the morning/afternoons while I’m at work and has them 2 nights a week. From September my little girl is going to school and my boy is starting nursery, so I will be dropping them both off and he will not have them as much in the week. Which is the reason he wants custody!! Will he be able to get it as we are still married? I have police records of domestic violence against him and I know he drinks a lot. I reported him for drink driving with our son recently but they didn’t catch him. I am beside my self with worry as he is so confident the courts will hand them over to him. He is currently living with his mum and the kids are sleeping in the same room as him. My girl doesn’t even have her own bed however I have a 3 bed house they each have a bedroom. I’m so scared of what will happen any advice will be much appreciated.
Sophie88 - 26-Aug-18 @ 8:51 AM
My son and his ex broke up and hos ex took my son to court for full custody but in order for her to recieve legal aid she lied and said he was abusive to her she won the order but soon after throwing my son and there 3yr old daughter out she moved a new bloke in my sons ex refused my son visitation rights even though my son and hus daughter are very close and the child misses him like crazy ive now discovered that my sons ex has been violent towards her ex and stabbed him in front of the child with door keys and punched him in the face.The new parner has now left and is being forced to press charges against her and she also has social workers visit reguly as she is neglecting our child so my question is i found guilty can my son gsin full custody of his daughter as atvthe moment the child is depressed and is despereate for her father to be with her
Shona - 18-Aug-18 @ 11:24 PM
Daz - Your Question:
Hi, I'm trying to find out information on behalf of my brother. He and his ex split nearly 2 years ago since then he's been the best dad he could and had regular access. In this time however the mother turned to alcohol and the kids (4 children, 2 of which my brother is blood) have been taken from her. Social services deemed her to be unfit. My question is does my brother have legal right to have custody of his 2 kids without a court saying so? At this moment in time all 4 kids are with their uncle the mothers brother.

Our Response:
Social Services will usually choose the other parent first (if the non-resident parent has parental responsibility). However, they will also attempt to keep siblings together where and when they can. Keeping schools and day-to-day life of the children consistent is also deemed important. Your brother would have to take the matter to court if he wanted to pursue the matter officially. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the children in question. The court will always put the children’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. Your brother may wish to seek legal advice if he wishes to find out his options.
SeparatedDads - 2-Aug-18 @ 1:45 PM
Hi, I'm trying to find out information on behalf of my brother. He and his ex split nearly 2 years ago since then he's been the best dad he could and had regular access. In this time however the mother turned to alcohol and the kids (4 children, 2 of which my brother is blood) have been taken from her. Social services deemed her to be unfit. My question is does my brother have legal right to have custody of his 2 kids without a court saying so? At this moment in time all 4 kids are with their uncle the mothers brother.
Daz - 31-Jul-18 @ 8:15 PM
Niklo - Your Question:
Hi I split from my estranged husband in 2016 trough domestic abuse. He had contactwith my beautiful littke girl until June 2017. He they cut all contact because I refused to give him money. My daughter has special needs and I hav just got her into a special needs school. He went to my daughters school in Jan 2018 saying he is taking them to ofstead and then disappeared again. My daughter is so uoset and confused. she wants to see hi amd begged m to call him fir Fathers day 2018. He didnt reply till a month later and basically just was very abusive and he is telling me he is going to get dull custody of my daughter. He works cash in hamd and has no home fit for her. Would he be able to get custody on the fact I suffer from extreme anxiety. Also I did something wrong 5 years ago an he is tgreating to report me which wouldnt look very good on me. I love my daughter an have done everything for her. I just dont underatand how a Man can be so cruel.

Our Response:
It is highly unlikely if the matter went to court that the father would be given residency of your child. A court will only take a child from the resident parent and hand that child over to the non-resident parent if absolutely necessary (i.e if the resident parent is incapable of caring for the child or has been proven neglectful etc).
SeparatedDads - 10-Jul-18 @ 2:49 PM
hi I split from my estranged husband in 2016 trough domestic abuse. He had contactwith my beautiful littke girl until June 2017. He they cut all contact because I refused to give him money. My daughter has special needs and I hav just got her into a special needs school. He went to my daughters school in Jan 2018 saying he is taking them to ofstead and then disappeared again. My daughter is so uoset and confused. she wants to see hi amd begged m to call him fir Fathers day 2018. He didnt reply till a month later and basically just was very abusive and he is telling me he is going to get dull custody of my daughter. He works cash in hamd and has no home fit for her. Would he be able to get custody on the fact i suffer from extreme anxiety. Also I did something wrong 5 years ago an he is tgreating to report me which wouldnt look very good on me. I love my daughter an have done everything for her. I just dont underatand how a Man can be so cruel.
Niklo - 10-Jul-18 @ 9:45 AM
@samh - you are doing the right thing applying to court. Best of luck.
NB - 29-Jun-18 @ 2:04 PM
I split up with the mother of my oldest daughter in February 2013 soon as i left she got herself into a lot of bother with police social services etc (i wasn't aware at the time) in the June 2013 she got into a new relationship i was still seeing my daughter at the time there was no problems and out of the blue she accused me of rape. i knew it was to get me out the picture so she could play happy family's, it caused a lot of trouble i wasn't charged or anything but she had an injunction served on me, i was getting beaten up my house car smashed up everything!! i entered a new relationship in December 2013 and my partner done everything to help me see my daughter the ex agreed to it so i was happy even though the injunction was in place i wasn't bothered as i got to see my daughter, everything was going well for a year then Christmas she told me no more contact that when all the trouble started my house my car myself and partner was assaulted, she turned my whole family against me told them if they wanted to see my daughter they was to have no contact with me and my partner...the trouble continued till 2017 we moved house 6 times because of all the trouble its just been non stop, well January 2018 i was informed her currently boyfriend was in jail for hitting somebody over the head with a weapon ,so i said to myself this is my chance applied to court to have access after four years im on my second hearing Friday but got a call last week she is back on the child protection so i requested all her paper work to find out she has been on child protection 5 times in 4 years her mom got in trouble for physical abuse an chastising and she is now on the child protection for emotional abuse what can i do??? where do i stand??? im appalled i was never informed about any of this my little girl has been failed so much there is so much more
samh - 27-Jun-18 @ 6:44 PM
Liam-C88 - Your Question:
My ex partner has stopped me from seeing my son who I have shared parental responsibilities for. She has done this in retialation of me reporting her and her partner to the police, NSPCC and Social Work due to them overly chastising my son. My son came to me upset to let me know about this. My son’s mother and her partner have been warned by the police and social work after my son disclosed to them that he’s being hit often, for no reason, and that there’s a pattern to the abuse. I am now being refused access to my son, where do I stand with a court order? Will the court look favourably upon me due to the logged/reported physical abuse by his mother and her partner?

Our Response:
We can not anticipate what a court may decide. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
SeparatedDads - 18-Jun-18 @ 12:53 PM
My ex partner has stopped me from seeing my son who I have shared parental responsibilities for. She has done this in retialation of me reporting her and her partner to the police, NSPCC and Social Work due to them overly chastising my son. My son came to me upset to let me know about this. My son’s mother and her partner have been warned by the police and social work after my son disclosed to them that he’s being hit often, for no reason, and that there’s a pattern to the abuse. I am now being refused access to my son, where do I stand with a court order? Will the court look favourably upon me due to the logged/reported physical abuse by his mother and her partner?
Liam-C88 - 16-Jun-18 @ 8:51 AM
@Sad - oh my word that is so sad. It is heartbreaking what some people have to go through. If people knew what they put others through. Sending you kind thoughts.
Jess - 4-Jun-18 @ 3:25 PM
My daughter and her ex had 3 children together by the age of 20 They have a volitile relationship My daughter left her ex and took th children she couldn’t cope gave him the youngest told me she didn’t want him back - she meet someone and lied saying she did made her ex life a misery he had mental health problems anyway Friday he hunghimself aged 22 with his 2 year old downstairs he was struggling as money social services and all the abusive messages my daughters partner sent We are heartbroken I wish people would get along after splitting up life is so precious
Sad - 4-Jun-18 @ 10:31 AM
@suf.dont listen to your ex if said no.give up on her mate women can be absolutely vindictive.focus your mind on a solicitor she won’t have a leg to stand on .
Laurie - 10-May-18 @ 11:36 PM
Me and partner have been together for four years. She has got 2 little boys with an ex partner but he's never been there until now. I have got a ten month old daughter with my partner and now the arguments have started cause the ex partner wants to get involved to see the boys. When I mention about my daughter I get told I won't be allowed to see her. I can't take it no more I feel like killing myself.
Suf - 10-May-18 @ 6:38 PM
Pd - Your Question:
Me and my wife have a rocky relationship. She drinks a lot which has taken its toll on our relationship. She started to lash out at me and she was arrested for GBH. Social services were involved and she wasn’t allowed to be alone with the children due to her drinking. The court case was dropped after I retracted my statement as I didn’t want her getting into trouble. Social services concluded their report and she was allowed to be alone with the children. She moved back in to the family home and everything was fine. Two months later social services are involved again because she has started drinking again whilst I’m at work and she is meant to be caring for the children. Family members have phoned the police because they were concerned about her and the kids welfare. She didn’t let the police in on that day but when I returned from work I let them in and she was drunk. She is not at home anymore and I am looking after the children once again because of her drinking. Would I be given full custody of them because of her repeated drinking and the involvement of social services?

Our Response:
If you are currently caring for your children, then there is a possibility you would be granted residency, if the matter were to go to court. If you have parental responsibility of your children, you can refuse to hand them back (if you are concerned about their welfare) then it would be up to your ex to apply to court. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the children in question. The court will always put the children’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. Stability and consistency are considered highly important and if you can offer your children this, then you would have a good chance. The longer you have the children in your care and you can prove you are giving them a stable homelife, then the less the court is likely to remove them from your care.
SeparatedDads - 27-Apr-18 @ 11:21 AM
Me and my wife have a rocky relationship. She drinks a lot which has taken its toll on our relationship. She started to lash out at me and she was arrested for GBH. Social services were involved and she wasn’t allowed to be alone with the children due to her drinking. The court case was dropped after I retracted my statement as I didn’t want her getting into trouble. Social services concluded their report and she was allowed to be alone with the children. She moved back in to the family home and everything was fine. Two months later social services are involved again because she has started drinking again whilst I’m at work and she is meant to be caring for the children. Family members have phoned the police because they were concerned about her and the kids welfare. She didn’t let the police in on that day but when I returned from work I let them in and she was drunk. She is not at home anymore and I am looking after the children once again because of her drinking. Would I be given full custody of them because of her repeated drinking and the involvement of social services?
Pd - 26-Apr-18 @ 8:31 PM
My wife and I got married in Feb 2017 we was happy she got her visa to enter into to the UK from India we was so happy together no arguments or nothing then we got some fab news that she was pregnant with triplets I was over the moon and my wife was in shock I made sure from the onwards she would rest and look after her diet and took her to all her appointments which went all well then in jan 2018 the baby's arrived we had a baby girl and to baby boys over the moon as the was premature baby's we had to keep them in hospital for 4 week the they all came home healthy in fab 2018 then everything was going well till the 9th of March 13 days of my baby's being home I got a knock on the door from the police saying they would like to speak to my wife I said she is in bed as she has done the night feedbut they insisted that they need to speak to her so i said i will go and get her so i went up the stairs and got my wife she came running down the stairs and the police asked if I would stay in the hall way as they need to speak to my wife I didn't think anything of it so I said it's ok they I got another knock on the door from 2 more officers as I went to answer they arrested me of HITTING my wife and kids and imprisoning them I was like what I haven't done such a thing then I got arrested and took in for 20hrs after I came home she'd had left with the kids so I went to check in our bedroom and she had took her passport and a bag of gold which wasn't hers I was so hurt I just didn't know what I did to DESERV this it's now been 2 months since I held my baby's it's a very difficult moment for me so she called me after 4 weeks and said she has done a mistake so can she come home I said yes she said she will call and I have had no calls from her I have been through mediation and she rejected that and now after all that I have put in a case to family court ......the out come of the arrested was that I was let out with a pending further investigation which means they found nothing on my wife and kids because I did nothing but love her and my kids I just don't know if I can get help seeing my kids or will the court say go away as I am the farther it's not fair I only got to see my children for only 13days at home this has hurt me alot And anyone help please have I done the right thing.....
Jazz - 25-Apr-18 @ 11:32 PM
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