My wife has told me she wants to separate after 5 years of marriage and move into rented accommodation. When I met her she moved into my house and not long after started maternity leave. Sadly, our son was born with a disability and she therefore hasn't worked since he was born. She receives approx £500 per month carer's allowance plus other usual benefits.
The matrimonial home is in my sole name and I have therefore paid the mortgage, bills and generally maintained the property in good order. I'm devastated she has made this decision but now need to know where I stand legally regarding the house and spousal maintenance.
Obviously, I have no issues whatsoever with regard to maintenance for my child, and am more than happy to pay this and still want to be a part of his life.
Any advice please.
I am sorry to hear that your wife has decided that your marriage is over. I note what you say about the fact that the property (which lawyers call the FMH or Former Matrimonial Home) is and always has been in your sole name. This does not necessarily mean that your wife would not have a claim to some share in the equity in the property. While it is right that your wife has not contributed financially to the property, she has managed the household for the time that you have been married and, most importantly, brought up your disabled son. The law recognises in marriage and other partnerships that while one person might be the breadwinner the other spouse contributes to the marriage in other non-financial ways.
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Maintenance Payments
While you mention that your wife is currently in receipt of carer's allowance and other benefits, you do not mention whether you are paying her anything by way of maintenance at the moment. Although recent events will have been understandably upsetting for you, it does sound as though you and your wife are reasonably amicable about your separation. If you can both agree on terms for Maintenance Payments for your son, and any other financial arrangements, you and your wife may have a relatively straightforward divorce.
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Of course, you should be aware that your wife may go to a solicitor at any time and be advised independently as to her legal options. I do not know your financial circumstances but her lawyer may advise her that she is entitled to a share of the equity in the family home. At this point you may want to consider your own circumstances. Would you be in a position to offer her a lump sum? Have you and your wife talked at all about making provision for your son or any maintenance payments for your wife? Would you be prepared to make any kind of offer?
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Your Wife’s Rights to the Property
Similarly, your wife could register an interest in the property at the Land Registry, which would mean you could not take a secured loan against or sell your home without her permission. This is quite commonplace in situations in which the marital home is in one person’s name only.
I’ve tried to outline basic principles here, but my advice to you is to go and see a family solicitor asap. You don’t need to tell your wife that you’re consulting a lawyer, but could just find out what your options are at this stage. Good luck.
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She is trying claim further payments from my house because of the equity that i have made, but i am the one who has struggled to pay for my house
Had she got a case?
disrepair
I completely redecorated the 4 bedroom marital home then proceeded to lay a 50sqm block paved patio ( most of the costs are still sat on my credit card as was promised reimbursement upon her return - I was the stay home parent homemaker with part time job while she earned her 6 figure salary)
At the beginning of September I was issued court papers demanding me out the FMH which came as a complete shock ( yes we’d had our ups & downs but after 10yrs together who doesn’t) - she made some seriously nasty allegations against me and said both her and my son needed to return to the FMH so she could work and he could return to school ( he’s still not been back to the school that was mentioned in court )
After our son was born I was denied the marital bed and after 8 1/2 yrs plus being told I’m repulsive on many occasion I had a brief affair with someone who showed me affection. I was constantly being put down and belittled for my lack of money & the fact I only had a part time job.
Her solicitors continue to bombard me with our client this and our client that to the point I’m being harassed 2-3 times daily, then when anything actually needs addressing ie court hearings they only give me 2 days notice but the court requires 4 days to respond - I’m being totally set up in order that she doesn’t have to pay out, I used to work for her company but obviously she recently sacked me leaving me penniless and because I have no money no job and no where to live I’m homeless.
I’m currently under PTSD therapy and struggle daily with everything that’s happening. I tried to access Legal advice but apparently I’m not able to get Legal Aid to help me fight my case ( I’d love to know why this isn’t possible)
I had a lovely home & family which I absolutely loved but it’s all been taken from me
Split with my wife for 6 months
Went back and “tried” for 3 months as she’s fell pregnant, things still arnt the same
We have 2 girls currently 3 and 5
I wish to sign the house over to her and be reasonable for the sake of the kids etc
The house is only in my name, I put in majority of the deposit and money to fix it up so around £20,000
Would this make a difference to how much maintanence I’m due her, I make around 40k with doing plenty of overtime
Been married for 10 years and we have 3 young children. The house is jointly owned by my wife & I & both of us are on the mortgage. I’ve mostly been the breadwinner in our marriage, with my wife working part-time inbetween pregnancies. However 2 years ago my wife found full time work & I have been the primary carer / stay-at-home parent since then, while also working part-time on weekends. She lost her job 2 months ago, we started having disagreements, and we both decided that I will stay at my mums (while she kept the kids) for a couple of weeks so we could cLear our heads, and then get back together and work things out.
On the day I was supposed to go back home, she emailed me saying she wants a divorce and wants no contact with me. A few days later I tried to go home, but the door was locked, she refused me entry and called the Police. Police said I can’t go in if she doesn’t want me there, and that if I try again at a later date I may be arrested.
Now she’s texted saying she wants the house in the divorce, I’ll never be let back in, and police are on her side. There’s never been any history of violence or abuse from me in our marriage.
How can I get into my house?
Someone please help!
My wife is getting the house valued but my two grown up children who still live with us say the valuers cannot go into there bedrooms as they are private
Do the children have any rights to stop them entering
Neither can afford to pay the other off so my wife wants to get the house valued, our children are 25 & 23 years old but only one working at the moment
They don’t want the valuers to go in to there bedrooms but she says they can do they have a right to stop them entering there rooms
The children have a bio-father who is involved in there life, pays for them to some extent and they stay at his house too, which houses them.
Two children remain at home with their mother (my ex) and are aged 18 and 21 years.
My ex is 57 years and I am 37 years.
My ex has stated that the divide of our estate has to provide a 3 bedroom home for her and her two adult children (they both work).
Q: Am I liable to provide my adult step-children with a home?
Q: Am i expected to have less becaise I am younger with more years of earning potential.
Q: Could the two adult (children) live with their bio-father as he has room.
I feel I am being penalised for two adult stwp-children to be 'housed'
I got divorced this year in January 2019 in the Slovakian courts in Slovakia. I agreed to let her have full custody of the kids as she lives in Slovakia and i live in UK. But it was on the basis that i get to stay at her place when i come over and that we will arrange things between us for holidays with the kids.... I only agreed this on the above basis, as if she didn't then i would contest the divorce (which i didn't), because we both agreed. I also was paying her child maintenance at the end of the month as it was easier for me to do it that way. But the judge said that i have until the 10th of every month to make sure that she recieves the money for maintenance. My question to you is, 1: When i went to court to get divorced the only thing i showed the judge was my passport to prove it was me. There was no signing of any agreement or anything like that at all. All i got after a week of being divorced was a a paper from the courts saying she has custody and that i must pay her for my children so much before the 10th of every month. Is that legal as i thought that a legal document especially in this case being over there i should have signed something, but nothing. So not sure if it is right or wrong.
2: Everything has to be on her terms when i see kids or even get to speak to them, which is not what we agreed upon in court otherwise i would have contested it, but nothing was put in writting about it????
3: Am i in my right to pay her the money on the 10th or just before instead of the last day of the month like i have been, due to her not sticking to any of our verbal agreements.
4: Can i hold back the pay as well until this is solved, or do i have to get hold of the courts in slovakia to put in place that i also want shared custody of my kids even if they live there and i am in the uk. As my kids are British. And also that the courts put in place when i can have the kids, instead of her barking orders and on her terms only.
5: knowing we are leaving the EU, does this still stand about paying the money as it will be harder for me to see my kids as will have to get visa etc.. As when i was there the judge did say we are still part of the Eu but it is the Slovakian way which i do believe is wrong as the judge should have been mutual with both parties instead of just one country should have taken both countries into consideration.
I have not paid her maintenance for the kids as of yet this month as i am sick and tired of her manipulating me all the time and now i am waiting until the 10th to pay her as per the paper i recieved from the courts that clearly states i have until the 10th to pay her.
Please i need help here....
Thanks
Shaun
Do I have to help her to get a law interest ?? can I ask her to go out the house rent a place for herself . How on earth the house is in Market for one year with no offer??
if I sign for her that means she will stay forever. I need some advice what is my right??
“Spousal something”...sorry i’m not really clued up with the technical terms. I have little savings. I would be grateful if you could give me advise...
kind regards, Abbie Pearson.MAT
years of paid mortgage and bills apply towards "Spousal Maintainance" paid to me? In other words, does the
last 4 years that he has paid on mortgage etc. considered "Spousal Maintainance" , and that I will not receive
the "Spousal Maintainance" that I would normally receive?
He moved out 7 months ago and is demanding £60k or he will divorce me. He says he needs it to stand on his feet and find his way, I never get mentioned in his future but the 3 children he has do. Never mentions my older two.
Confused as I have maintained him for years, paid the bills, food. Clothing for everyone including him, his car insurance and all the other luxuries. Both houses have had extensions which I have paid for and I am paying the loans including a £17,500k business loan he took out in my name.
He has never provided for me or the children. Can he through the children and myself out? Can he force me to sell my investment? Am I better giving him £60k, he only ever spent under £5000 which includes any mortgage payments he made. He lived like a king :(
It's been a up and down marriage over kids not wanting to get involved with each other.
Now she says she's had enough and wants me out and hates me. I pay the council rent but her name and her ex husbands name is still on the council tenancy agreement. Even thou they have been divorced for years.
I have a good job and she has 5 kids of her own who are all grown up now. And I have 2 daughters who live away. Where do I stand if I get kicked out. I can't afford private rent as I have lots of bills and can't afford private rent on my own.
What should I do.
Now from today he told me I have to move out because it's his property and that I have signed a paper that I am only a tenant and I am not entitled to anything. Can he kick me out? He told me he will kick me out and that he will call police. Can he do that?
I am scared now I have nowhere to go.
I recently split with my long term partner who we have 2 kids.
She has found her own home to live in for which she receives support with the rent in benefits. I also pay full child maintenance.
our property which we both own has been empty for the last 6 months, but in the last 3 months she hasn't paid her half of the mortgage.
She originally agreed to sell the house to me. Recently she has been in and emptied the property of all possessions without my consent. I since changed the locks to stop her entering again and taking anything against my will.
Since this she has now refused to sell the house to me.
She does still want to sell the house, just not to me as she wants to make my life difficult. Currently I live with parents but have no stable home for when I have my kids.
I have been reasonable with her, but am going to be proceeding with court to settle this.
What is the stance with her wanting to sell the property, just not to me? How would a judge likely view this?
Thanks for any help
We got married a year ago but we have been living together in that house for 7 years. We were thinking to put me on the deeds of the house in case something happens to her (or we get a divorce), but the bank is threatening on changing the conditions on the mortgage (raising the interest rate dramatically).
We’ve been told that we could sign an agreement in which she agrees to share the ownership of the house with me (50% ownership). Is this possible? What should be the requirements in order to make this agreement legally binding?
Thanks for your support
My wife and I have been married for 17 years. We have a 7 year old son. We are separated and my wife is being unpleasant. We are all still living in the FMH together. My wife and I have both contributed more or less equally to the FMH. There is enough equity in the FMH for us both to have an amazing deposit on 2 smaller new homes, but not buy new homes outright. My wife wants to remain in the FMH. I want to sell the FMH and split the proceeds. There are no other assets in the family worth mentioning. Question: what are the chances of my wife being able to remain in the FMH and me being kicked out with nothing at all?
Thanks for your help!
If I left her would I have to continue to pay all the bills and how can I get a property on my own is there anyone I can contact. We have been married over 40 years pensioner with 2 private small pensions, but I cannot live with her moods anymore but I am frightened to leave for fear of not being able to manage money wise paying for 2 rents etc.
My wife and me are separating, (divorcing), after 17 years of marriage and 21 years of cohabiting in a" house on her name".
At the start I use to give her my other place's rent money, £180 a month, then we got joint accounts and all expenses were shared. Soon after that I was paying for most of the bills and transferring to my wife's account £600 a month to help with mortgage and house related bills(all utility bills are under her name, she would never change anything).
What are my rights when we divorce, regarding the money I have paid towards the mortgage? I don't want to walk away empty handed.
We have had separate bedrooms for 6 years, and I intend to give her more money that the law requires for the children (12 and 15) maintenance.
I seriously need some advice, all stuff on internet confusing.
I have printed and need to send a Land Registry HR1 form. Is that right?
Many thanks in advance.
PS Happy to share my story, but can you also reply to my email, please?
What are the implications (if any) to me if the house is repossessed? It is likely that the house will be in negative equity (he's been renting it out, and it's pretty much trashed), so if there is a shortfall in the mortgage would I be pursued for that? On the other hand, if there is any equity remaining after the mortgage is paid, would that have to be included in our eventual divorce settlement?
He bought the house we are living in soon after we started our relationship (the mortgage and deeds of the house are on his solely name and he’s always been paying the mortgage)
I’ve been working until a couple of years ago, when we decided to get married and have children. For that I quitted my job. Now I can’t get pregnant and he wants to divorce me (I’m 46 years old)
I’m devastated (but that’s another matter), I would like to know if am I entitle to anything at all? Alimony, any rights towards the house?
Thank you so much
I had been of nfa but now live in a housing association flat and have no job and as I worked from home at my marital have been unable to get on my feet .I am 60 my wife is 70 years old and I have now approached the courts to make a judgement re a settlementas I know I am entitled to 40 percent of the sale price but I will accept a lower figure as I want to get on with my life .My wife and her solicitors have made me out to be a no good layabout which I definitely am not and I despise her for this .The court case is soon and I cannot afford a solicitor ,she will no doubt have a Barrister and I am hoping to cut a deal prior.This has gone on a long time and any advicewould be very helpful
The house we live in here I pay towards bills etc plus do lots of work on the house at no labour cost to my wife
My main worry is that once divorced I will have "nowhere to live" can I claim anything from my wife in anyway?? I left a flat that was under sheltered scheme could of live there for the rest of my life..,before i.met my wife in 2015 ..what's my situation legally please
She is starting divorce proceedings, she wants me to pay maintenance for the children and the mortgage. I was paying all the bills but she said I wouldn't have to once we're divorced.
Her parents did give us alot towards out house deposit when we bought. She has said that once the children are 18 and we sell the house she wants me to take 40% of the equity to her 60%.
The question is:
Is this reasonable?
Is it the norm that I pay the mortgage until both children are 18 even if her circumstances change?
Is it normal to pay the mortgage for all those years and still she gets that amount of equity?
What would you advise, I haven't seen a solicitor as yet. I have been trying to keep things amicable but feel like she's taking advantage.
He is now saying he wants half the equity - but it isn't mine to give him, he then said if I gave him 15k he would give me a clean break divorce. I'm at a loss as to what to do. The house hasn't gained much value, maybe 5k since I bought it. As I pay the lions share cost of looking after kids would this be factored into a divorce settlement? Would £15k be a good figure for me to pay him off? I'm a teacher and he's threatening to after my pension - what entitlement would he have to that?
Any advice would be hugely appreciated.
I have continued to pay for the mortgage as the house is in my sole name. There is approx 40K in equity with around 80K left on the mortgage.
My wife has filed for divorce and we are at the Nisi stage.
My wife now wants to take over the mortgage and keep all equity in it and take 40% of my pension with my contributions going to CMS.
My solicitor is advising to listen to her offe and set a time limit on her offer.
This would potentially mean I sign over a house I have paid for since the marriage started , lose all my equity and any further claim?
My solicitor suggests this would stop any potentially expensive court hearings (15k plus) free me of my mortgage payments and liability to the former home. I would apply to the CMS as my children are teenagers.
I have tried several times to go to mediation with my wife but she has not progressed any meetings we have had.
I am concerned if I sign over the house I will not receive any monies from a house I have put 18 years effort into. Is this the best way to move to conclusion?
I have separated from my wife now for almost 2 years. We bought a house 15 years ago but just had her name on the mortgage. We have 2 children together. I understand the family court would probably say I am not entitled to any of the property until both kids have left full education,but where does that leave me? I left the house with basically my clothes and a tv, but have documented proof from banks I was the main supplier of finance into the house. Things have got ugly between the two of us recently and I've decided enough is enough I want what I believe is deserved of me and some portion of the finance back I payed into the house. I also still continually pay £400 a month to look after the children. Can you please advise me where I stand?
Cheers
She has now found someone and I understand that she intends to divorce me and start a new life with the new partner.
We have 4 children, the oldest daughter is 22 and is completely dependent due to mental illness, the next daughter is 19 and in the final year at university and our twin sons are 15.
1) Can she move in with her new partner taking the children with her? Do I have rights to stop her?
2) Can she force me to move out so that the new partner can move in?
3) Is it considered an appropriate environment for my children to move in with someone they don't know and my wife has only know for 2 months? They have already talked about having a baby together (she is 55)
In all cases, how does it affect the marital home ownership?
Many Thanks
please help
She has to find rental property and although our mortgage is finished she needs me to support her rental cost because she doesn't earn enough money.
Do I have to support her even though she has left ?
thanks
Financially I now cannot maintain the morgage on the marital home and the rent and bills on the property I now rent and have the children at 50% of the time. There is no option of moving back into the house after the allegations and the fact she has changed the locks (which I believe to be illegal). Her and her solicitor are fighting a delaying action on the financials as she wants to remain in the house , which, I am not in agreeance to as I need to release equity to buy a property within which I can help raise my children on joint residency.
To what level can I reduce my morgage payments? Certainly I am only liable for half the payment but as I do not live there and have been removed forcibly and now have to pay for a second property can I refuse to pay the morgage? I intend to pay child maintenance at the CSMA rate.
My brother and I are living with my dad and my mum has gone to live with my grandparents.
She is trying to make him sell the house or buy her out.
Does she have the right to do this?
My brother is 17 and I am 18. We are in full time education. Next year I will be going to uni and my brother will be in an apprenticeship. Because I will be living at home for university, will she be able to make us sell the house then?
Recently my situation has changed and I have asked my wife if I can temporarily stay in the spare fourth bedroom until my situation changes, the situation being a financial one.
She says I have no rights to this as I lost my rights the day I moved out - is this right and could I have any other information that would assist me.
If we marry would this give her some protection?
Whilst thing still have been amicable to date she now wants to get a mortgage for a place of her own, so I need to get her off the mortgage and I believe she is probably entitled to a share of the equity, can I be forced to sell the house? As I may be able to give her a financial settlement by other means.
There is no mortgage but a child involved who spends 50% of his time with both parents. The man wants the house sold so that he can also have some money to provide a home for his son but she will not move.
His father has offered to buy his half of the house so that he can move on but his ex wife will not agree to this.
The father is happy to say his share of the house wil pass to the grandson but she will not agree. Any answers to this please!
Thx
Many thanks
Do I have to agree to this? It means my son gets the house but my daughter nothing and I get nothing from the sale.
Can I make her sell the house when daughter is 18?
I need to know where I stand. I have for the 6 years paid a considerable sum into her bank acc every month for her to then pay the bills. She works too and contributes 50% too. Therefore this means to me that my money has been used for the mortgage payments and to pay her folks back, etc. I understand that I may be due up to 50% back of the total mortgage payments made to date and potentially some recompense to the deposit/equity paid in the first instance.
We are trying, the both of us to be extremely amicable about this. She thinks she could maybe just give me £5k if and when she sells the house. I have calculated that it should be closer to £13k but I do not want to wait for something that is maybe 15 years away?
Any help please?
I would be really interested in your view on my post dated the 6th November.
Best wishes.
I've been married to my wife for two years. We have been separated for 6 months and I have just received a letter from her solicitor asking for a divorce on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour.
We have no children together and the home we shared when together was owned by my wife before we met.
All the way through our separation I have said how I wanted to try and save our marriage and would try anything that would help us reconcile things - counselling, mediation etc etc.
The letter was a real shock and was possibly the first time I have come to the realisation that it's over.
Before I met my wife I had £20,000 in savings and no debt. However, I now have no savings and £20,000 of debt that she has run up on credit cards in my name.
During the marriage I contributed towards the running of the house by paying all the bills and I gave my wife £100 per week spending money.
My question is do I have to grant her a divorce and clean break or can I ask her to take her share of the debt she has run up?
I do wonder where I stand with the marital home, my wife bought it when we first got together and is solely in her name, I moved in 6 months after and I have paid 50% of the bills up until moving out.
I don't want to rock the boat or make a claim on the house but I have worked on it since she bought it as it needed gutting.
Am I right to think that any increase in value from the day she bought it until now is down to what we have done so therefore I should be entitled to half of that?
Can I put the house in my children's name? They are not his children but live in the family home. My children are adults.
I own the property and have paid more than half of mortgage.
If this is okay how do I go about it?
At the time of the divorce 7 years ago I made an amicable agreement to split the profit on the sale of the house, but my ex has never put any pressure on to sell or pay a sum. Two questions:
1. Am I entitled to remove her marital rights notice from my title deeds?
2. To honour the verbal agreement at what point in time should the valuation of the property be based? Now or at the time of divorce?
We split and he moved in with his dad n now I have moved out the property into private rented and we have agreed to sell the family home and split 50/50 (this is a mutual decision)
Am I entitled to any of the first property?? Only his name is on deeds still
I have both children living with me and they see their dad whenever he feels like it
Tia
married 10 years..
She has been having lodgers in my home for last 3.5 years.. now has what she calls a tenant in one room... I have been squeezed into one room now... my daughter lives with me.. latest tenant is vile and abusive but police tell me I cant get him out as he is a guest of my wife or a tenant with rights not to be evicted..
I know the tenancy business is a nonsense as you cant have a tenant if a family member lives on premises.. he cant be a lodger as she doesn't live here... and I have not agreed to him being here so he's not my lodger...
but none of this gets him out...
I have a occupancy hearing this week... hoping to get things sorted this way but if not,, what can I do?
I guess I can stop him using my stuff but I cant even access my front room and my things as he is in there.....
the police have left me under no illusion that if I harass him in anyway I will be arrested... even though he has assaulted me and steals stuff..
cheers, Steve.
i was in an abusive relation for last four years. My partner got anger problem and in four years she assaulted me hundreds of time but we used to made up because of our daughter, we loved each other and because we are Asian, our family used to get involve whenever matter got worse.
I left her many times but got back together because she threatened me that she will kill herself if i leave her and she ca not live without me. I used to send picture of her abused to her parents and also used to show them video of her behaviour after little little arguments because they never used to trust me that she can do any thing like that.Her parents knew that she got anger problem and used to say to me that you are her husband you should help her.
I used to record her behaviour and her abused towards me on my mobile and i got videos of her abused and the worse video of her when she was running after me with a KNIFE. i had hundreds of videos but she deleted many of them by hacking my email id when once i was sleep by resetting my pass word through my mobile.
Recently i decided i had enough of it and phoned police when she assaulted me and locked me in the house and went some where. I called 101 and told them the whole situation what i been going through. they send police after an hour. police came and asked me if i want to press charges against her but i said no. they forward my number to domestic abuse, who phoned me for next three days. she begged me for not telling them anything and said she will not do anything in the future.
At the start of August she harmed herself and called police on me and said i assaulted her but i did not. police charged me and i am on conditional bail. she applied for home rights while i was in police custody. since i come back i tried to get my stuff from her through third party but she refused and even she said to police that there is nothing of his in this house while property is mine and everything in that house is mine.
I do not know what to do. i haven't seen my daughter since this incident because she is not letting my see the child.
Any advice please
My wife hasn’t really worked since our first child was born and I took an offshore job, money is great but I’m also away a lot.
When our second child was born she decided to leave her job and enrol into full time education (which will take more than fours to complete because of her education background).
We not now looking to purchase a second larger home, however I’m stuck with paying 20% (£30,000 plus) deposit from money I have saved over the years.
I feel a little uncomfortable spending that kind of money as her name will be on mortgage. HOW CAN I PROTECT MY INVESTMENT if she decide to she doesn’t want the marriage anymore.
My wife has decided to leave me and even had a place sorted. The kids where gonna split the week between us, I am very close to my kids. The problem now is my wife has decided she didn't like the new place and has decided not too move. She wants to stay in our house and me move out and pay the mortgage. This is the thing, our house is in negative equity so selling isn't an option, I want to stay here anyway. I can afford to pay the big mortgage and pay the bills on my own and this was the original plan as she wanted to move out. She can't live in the house on her own and pay the mortgage and the bills. She just can't afford it. Now she wants me to pay for her to live there. Obviously I won't and the kids are upset and said if I move they want to go with me. My question is can I legally get her to leave?
Thank you
The issue i have is that she decided and chose this path. I wanted to reconcile but she isnt interested. She said she would move out. I agreed to have the children 50% of the time. She now says she isnt moving out and has threatened not to let me have the kids for that period. My issue is that after 5 months out of the house to give her the time and space she asked for i have moved back. I do not feel its fair that i should have to leave my home and find somewhere else when this is entirely her choice.
Where do i stand legally? Can i be forced out ? Neither of us can afford to live independantly. Her parents have even offered her a deposit to move and rent but she just isnt doing it. Other than living very uncomfortably, what are my rights? and more to the point what are hers?
The property I live in was put in joint names when we married 14 years ago. It was my home for 15 years before we married. He has a good salaried pension, I live on pension credit as I haven't wanted to be beholden to him. The property has been marketed for the 5 years we have been separated but hasn't sold even though we have tried higher an lower prices plus many estate agent. He lives in a rented flat and is happy doing so, having a car (renewed every 2 years) holidays abroad etc,while I cannot afford a car so travel on foot or busses. I'm not concerned as to what he spends his money on but I know he wants money from the property to feed his lifestyle. I just want to downsize and have a home I can call my own and also to be free of the ties to him. The problem of course is the non selling of the property, I have asked him to hand the property back to me but he won't do this as he says he put money into this property and wants a share. The money he put in was from the profit we made selling his house at the right price and the right time. Please help I'm at my wits end now, wanting to move on but not being able to.
My wife had conned me out as I have been unwell and stressed for some time , no not been on medication till she tricked me out of house and I landed in hospital twice after collapsing , both times stayed in hospital for 7-10 each time approx .
The property was put on her name after marriage which I paid all costs including deposit , I trusted her and put it on her name and also another flat .
Main property she had tricked me out of it and put it on a company name off shore , still I presume on company name .
She told me she sold it but never sold as not sold on land registry , still showing sold only when we bought it 12/13 years ago .
I have been sleeping rough for about 2 years now , having epilepsy and no help from any one , I am very stressed generally , stuck .
I need help
Badly , she has against me that she paid mortgages and bills on it , I used to give her cash here there and looked after my daughter and done 100,s of hours labour work on property as well as doing odd bits to keep on top.
My point was to her rent rooms out before and after doing it up so it could cover mortgage most and costs of material and labour she refused and now she does not want to know .
I really got conned out.
The deposit came from me selling my original house which I had many many years before I married her , I had minor credit issues so trusted her and put it on her name .
Sorry more bits to say but I think you got a good picture now .
Regards .
I believe if we lose the buyers we will struggle to sell it for the same price and as quickly as we originally did.. What can I do? And who pays for the solicitors bill and any loss in future sale?
I would like some advice about the status of my property during my divorce?
My house was bought 6 years ago in my sole name and after 9 months of marriage we decided to separate.
Now we are getting divorced, my wife has registered interest on the property via the land registry.
No I would like to rent out my house to a friend but wondered if I can change my mortgage to a consent to let or buy to let while my wife has interest registered.
Thanks
The house is in both our names but since she left I have been paying the mortgage.
Can she sell the property under my nose and also if she moves her boyfriend in to our house does he have a claim on the property, could I loose my share.
Any help or advice would be most appreciated
She is still in contact with her ex husband and insists they are "just friends".
I concerned that she may stray later (but says that will never happen). I believe this to be the case but you never know.
It is suggested by a member of my family to request a prenup be signed. Our relationship in recent days have been rocky and that's because of a number of things leading up to the wedding.
I am trying to avoid asking this and hope you can advise on the following:
a) If married, and she strays, we apply for a divorce, is she entitled to any property/inheritance in my name?
b) Point a but this thine with kids,
c) Because she is divorced, am indirectly responsible for supporting the ex?
I am hoping you help
5 years ago we separated, having one child but never married. I purchased another property and she lives at the house with my daughter who spends weekends with me.
My ex now wants me to agree to a 50/50 split and at the same time is moving her new boyfriend into the house. I don't have a problem with the 50/50 split if she was prepared to buy me out. What I'm not happy with is her and her boyfriend living rent/mortgage free in my house whilst I have a mortgage, maintenance payments etc.
Can she just move someone in without buying me out? I should add that her boyfriend has a decent job and a house which he currently rents out.
We are trying to settle our financial arrangements. Shortly after we separated, we both found new partners. Her new boyfriend is living in the marital home, although the mortgage comes out of my account each month. My ex transfers the amount of the mortgage each month, half of it being her contribution and the other is her boyfriend's 'rent'.
She has refused to go to mediation, reply to letters etc and wants her day in court. We have exchanged Form Es and she has stated that she wants the house to be transferred to her. We have a sizable amount of equity in the home (over £100k), and she's not in a financial position to be able to buy me out, whereas my new partner and I are in a position to be able to buy her out fairly.
Is it feasible that the court could award her the house and I come away with nothing? My new partner and I are renting and we have her 2 children most of the time, along with my son 50% of the time.
It is clear my ex and her partner are in debt, whereas we have the funds to be able to buy the house. The last thing I want is for my son to have to move out of the house he's known all of his life.
I should also add that her partner also has kids (albeit older) living with her.
It appears my ex is happy to see me suffer, whereas I wouldn't wish that on her. At the same time however, I have my own extra responsibilities.
Hope to here from you soon
Elizabeth
I may add I settled both car loans we had outstanding, and would just like something to start again.
Legally do I have any case? My lawyer seems to think not.
What's more disturbing is she committed adultery, and it seems I'm the one paying for it all.
Ive been married to my wife for nearly two years but now she wants a divorce, I own my own property(mortgage) and she has her own property (rented accommodation). She has never lived nor contrebuted to my house in any shape or form we have always lived in our own separate houses and there is no childeren involved. could you please inform me where do i stand on this bizzare situation ?
Last December she met someone and he has been living there day and night since. She hasn't spoken to me to tell me what's going on. I've been told by someone who knows her that although he is there all the time she doesn't consider that he has moved in as he has property elsewhere and all his bills and documentation goes there. Apparently he has no intention on selling his own place but also no intention of not staying with her. I'm confused. Even with his own property isn't it the case that he's moved in.
lm so much in debt because of this mediation agreement but I went for it for the kids. I just want my share so I can start fresh. please help
Over Christmas she found out that her husband of 24 years is having an affair,
My brother is behaving atrociously,
He has started to bring his girlfriend round to the marital home whenever he feels like and having her sleep over.
Is there any way of stopping this?
Many thanks
Can someone please help me
Kind Regards
Bella
mortgag on my own for last 5 year's and my name is the only
name on the deeds , she is now asking me to sell the house can
She make me do this
It has been six months now and without full time employment and the temporary accommodation no longer an option I am concerned for her / kids and her rights.
The husband has changed the locks on the matrimonial house and with continued abuse on texts and on the phone it is becoming hopeless. She is receiving some monies for the kids but these are infrequent and are dependant on his frame of mind.
With no support of legal aid since the law changed and no money to pay for solicitors and him disappearing out of the country for two of the last three months. It would be good to know if she is able to return to the home and gain access so she can have a stable place for the kids to live and continue to attend school around the corner. She has put a marker on the property but if she does have the right to return, what can she do to protect herself if he returns and try to gain entry
His ex wife lives in marital home both names on morgage
He stopped paying morgage June 2013 so it enabled him to get a place. Up till then he was living at parents & paying half morgage. His daughter 9 yrs old lives with his ex who has moved her boyfriend into house. Should we be worried about any rights he may get on morgage? If they married?
Please any advice be fab thank you
Jointly in 2000 where we lived.We didn't have children and have names on land register.we separated in 2004 and till 2004 we both paid the mortgage, then I had to go abroad and she start living with another man and now they have 3 children I tried to get in the house but she did not let me in.I paid the mortgage repayments on my own till 2008 .I married again and have children and living somewhere else now I have all my belongings in that house and she file the petition in family court to transfer the house on her name.I want to sell the house.she is taking the advantage because she live in the house please guide what are my rights and I should do.
6yrs on she wants me to move out but dusnt
Want a divorce.my wages have been paid
Into her account for 6yrs an she as just given me money
As an wen I need it.resently I have lost my job
An now says she wants me out the house.
What are my rights?
many thanks kev
Thanks
Now I have two children aged 7 & 8. I am the main carer while my husband pays the mortgage on my current property.
What I would like to do is purchase a property in my husbands name since I have savings of 20,000. My main purchase is to buy a property in my husbands name rent it out and manage it myself. I would like to build a property portfolio for our family.
Also my current property mortgage is only 410 pounds with an outstanding of 50,000 on a 10 year term. I am 43 years old now. I have a property overseas from where I am hoping to bring the rental income from that income and repay the current property mortgage.
I would like to find out what are the legal rights/ implications of this venture?
please give me some advice about this. I am living in my matrimonial home with my two teenage kids and two year old from a different partner, who also lives with us. The house is in my ex's name and not mine. My partner and I have a very complicated relationship and I have asked him to move out severally, for some reason however he always talks his way out of moving out and gets angry. I don't even believe I love him anymore but we have a two year old and that makes things difficult. I am so fed-u I feel like selling now and moving away but I don't want to put my older kids through that and risk not having a suitable home for them.
I need to know if my present partner can make any claim to my share of the house if I were to sell it. I don't want him to have any of my property because I don't even believe he loves me, everyone in my family says he is using me so he can have somewhere to bring his kids. He is so lazy and never worked for the first three years he's lived here. He only started work the last 4/5 months and complains for contributing. I helped him with his immigration and paid for his lawyers throughout his problems. He has been so abusive to me.Not to mention he also brings his two children from his previous marriage to my house for weekends. My kids do not like this and his attitude in general and I really need help because I am so fed-up. Can someone please help me. Thank you.
The husband says he wants to get a court order to sell, that the wife will not be entitled to any share since she did not contribute to the mortgage payment and also will the court order her to produce evidence of contribution to mortgage?
He also said that the court will deduct every expenses of the mortgage from the wife's share of the house sale. Is it correct the man wants to sell without the woman's consent. The house is worth over £300,000 but he wants to give the wife £30,000 out of the net sale of about £310,000?
The husband has removed the wife's name from the voters register unknown to her, will she still be entitled to any share and what should she do now before the sale of the house is effected?
She does not stay in Britain but comes to Britain yearly. Does this affect her share?
i moved into my flat with my daughter he is not the natural dad when he was in prison i bought my home 2 yrs ago in my name only when he was home as my wage was higher
he paid twords the mortage for 2 yrs but not on paper his name is not on any paperwork
now he is saying he will want half of the flat im still paying the mortage where do i stand on this please do i need to go to see a solicitor
Wants to rent me the home she left 9 years ago or for me to leave
Without contributing to mortgage or paying loans.do
I have any rights I have just paid the mortgage this month
we have a 7 year old and theres 2 step kids that are 18 living in our house?
Thanks
Last august her new partner moving into the house with her and the kids.
We bought the house in 1996 and only got married in 2005. The deeds and mortage are solely in my name. Even though she has started paying the bills she refuses to contribute to the mortage and her partner refuses to pay myself any rent.
what are my rights here ? I am currenty paying the mortgage of £440 a month plus now CSA payments of £318 a month.
Question is will the court ask me to pay her rent i.e mortage if she decides to move into her house or will the court ask me to continue to pay for the rent of the flat or will it question where are the funds from the sale of the house and pay her half of the amount?
Many Thanks
Phill
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