Can my ex-partner apply for my 3 children's passports without my permission? They are aged 4, 5 and 6 years.
(S.J, 4 May 2009)
When you split from your partner it is easy to feel very helpless and as though you lack influence on your children’s lives. When you have gone from being involved daily to seeing her making decisions without your consent, it can seem unfair. It is natural to question whether she is legally able to take these steps without consulting you.
You do not say whether you have parental responsibility for your children. Parental responsibility is automatically granted if you were married to the children’s mother at the time of birth or if you jointly registered the birth. If neither of these apply, you are still able to apply for parental responsibility through the courts to make sure that you are involved in their upbringing. (For more information, see our article on Your Separated Father's Rights.)
Here's some more information about your children's passports when you are separated:
Who can apply for a passport?
Either parent can apply for a passport for their child, unless an objection has been lodged at a United Kingdom Identity and Passport Service office.
A child under the age of 16 must have permission from a person with PR for them.
If you are separated but still married, either parent can give permission for a child to have a passport.
If you are divorced, but were married at the time of or after the child's birth, either parent can give permission for a child to have a passport, unless there is a court order about PR or preventing the child from having a passport. If this is the case, you should send a copy of the relevant court order with your application.
If you are not and were never married to the mother of your child, only she can give permission for the child to have a passport, unless:
You have PR, either through a Parental Responsibility Agreement or by order of the court
You are named as the father on the birth certificate and your child was born after 01 December 2003
Can I get a passport for my child if I don't have parental responsibility?
If you do not have PR, you will need the consent and cooperation of the child's mother if you are to obtain a passport for your child.
If the child's mother does not consent, she can lodge an objection of her own volition and if the child has already had a passport issued in his or her name, it will be recovered by order of the court and not returned unless or until the court considers it appropriate.
In what circumstances can the passport office refuse to issue my child with a passport?
An objector can ask the passport office not to issue a child with a passport if:
A Prohibited Steps Order has been made
The objector has had a residence order made in their favour
A court order has been made stating that in order for another party to remove the child from England and Wales, the objector's consent is required
There is an order requiring that the passport is surrendered to the court
There is a court order preventing the passport office from issuing or re-issuing the child with a passport
There is an order preventing the child from being taken outside of the jurisdiction (England and Wales)
I have parental responsibility - what do I need to do next?
If you have PR for your child and no objection has been lodged at court regarding your passport application, you must send any court order dealing with your PR alongside your application form.
If your child is currently registered on another passport, i.e. your passport or his/her mother's passport, their details will need to be officially removed from them.
You should also note that if the child's mother has already applied for a passport for your child, and it has in fact been issued, even if you have PR, you will not be able to apply for another passport for your child.
The Separated Dads Forum is a place where you can discuss relevant issues and concerns including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or just have a general chat with other dads.
Please help us launch it and make it a great resource for dads going through difficult times. We hope to see you on the Forum soon....
I have a daughter with a British citizen but I am not British and my daughter lives with her Mum and she sometimes comes for overnight stay every two weeks but I do have parental responsibility since my name is added on the birth certificate ..
I want to know if I can apply for a British passport for my daughter without the consent of daughter's mum? She is refusing to apply for the passport when I last asked her to do one... please I need your advice many thanks
Jay - 16-Jan-17 @ 4:53 PM
Hi, my step son came to live with me and his dad a while back, we have booked a holiday for this year to Spain his mum got his passport and has given it to us for him to come as like I said he lives with us however do we need anything else my partners son has his mums surname so has not got the same name as any of us he is 12that ks in advance
Char - 9-Jan-17 @ 5:35 PM
I was wondering if I get a passport for my son (Philippine Passport) his dad being british (we are unmarried) would he still be able to get a UK passport? He is being acknowledge by his dad of course and we are not separated. We are together, only separated by distance as he is in the Uk i am in the Philippines and we need to sort our our papers and what have you. My fiance's dad (who is british) immigrated to South Africa and wants us to visit, the reason why I will need to get a passport for our son (which is almost 3 months this month). Would he still be issued a Uk passport requested by his dad or would he just get the Philippine passport that i will be requesting for him for the purpose of travelling to SA?
Answers will be much appreciated. Thank you.
Kath - 9-Jan-17 @ 4:19 AM
I have looked after my son alone for9 years. His mother walked out at 9 months old and has never shown up to any arranged visits in the year after that. I have never received any support financial or otherwise and have not had any communication from her since that time. I am named on the birth certificate. I am applying for my child's passport as I have PR but I don't know his mother's details to put on the form. Can I still apply? Also will his mother still have PR after abandoning him and never trying to make contact?
Bbug - 8-Jan-17 @ 8:54 PM
My Fiancee has a 5 year old boy with her ex. He applied for his passport a while back and now will not hand it over so we can go on holiday.
All the passport office say is we need legal advice which costs a lot in the end.
Is there anything to stop us applying for a new one saying the old one is lost? will he be informed in any way and be able to stop it?
We are his legal guardians, he spends one night a week at his dads. He is just being awkward. He would not of taking any legal injunctions or anything.
S&S - 10-Nov-16 @ 12:06 PM
Nash - Your Question:
Hi I need a help my son live with grandparents and his dad so I hade the custody before they again file the case and this time they got his custody now the grandparents are traveling international so they want to take him to but they want the passport is don't want to give them what she'll I do
The granparents have to have your authority to take your child out of the country. You do not have to consent to this. The option the grandparents have will be to take the matter to court and the court will decide whether it thinks it is in your child's best interests.
SeparatedDads - 7-Nov-16 @ 10:10 AM
Hi I need a help my son live with grandparents and his dad so I hade the custody before they again file the case and this timethey got his custody now the grandparents are traveling international so they want to take him to but they want the passport is don't want to give them what she'll I do
Nash - 6-Nov-16 @ 2:40 AM
I forgot to say that my grandaughter is 10 years old. Also her mother is happy for her to come to England.
Kaz23 - 3-Oct-16 @ 5:31 PM
Hi, I have a grandaughter in Thailand. My son never married her mother but we are on good terms. I would like my grandaughter to come to England for a holiday next year. A friend of my granddaughters mother who lives in the UK but travels to Thailand a lot has offered to bring her here for the visit. How do I go about getting her here.
Kaz 23 - 3-Oct-16 @ 5:27 PM
Zee - Your Question:
Please I seriously need an advise. My name is zee am a Nigerian citizens I had a child with a British citizen. But he ran off and abandoned me and my son my son will be 5 these December and he neevery had from his dad. Please I don't know if there is anyway he can pay child surport for my boy. But I don't know how possible that is since I was not married to these man. Please I realy need your advice please. Thanks alot
The Reciprocal Enforcement of Maintenance Order (REMO) Unit helps to register and enforce child maintenance orders internationally, please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 15-Sep-16 @ 2:13 PM
PleaseI seriouslyneed an advise. My name is zee am a NigeriancitizensI had a childwith a Britishcitizen.But he ran off and abandoned me and my son my son will be 5 these Decemberand he neevery had from his dad. PleaseI don't knowif there is anywayhe can pay childsurportfor my boy. But I don't knowhowpossiblethat is since I wasnot marriedto these man. PleaseI realyneed your adviceplease.Thanks alot
Zee - 15-Sep-16 @ 12:06 AM
I'm concerned that the father of my granddaughter can apply for a passport fraudulently as we believe that he is claiming benefits for her and doesn't need to provide proof, can you please advise
jet - 14-Sep-16 @ 11:51 PM
I seperated from kids partner year and half ago and weren't married he been talking about taking kids away on holiday but only needs to get my 5year old a passport . Does he have the rights to do that or do I need to do it for him and also I have heard mothers need to give permission to allow the father to take the kids out of the country ?
Jennie - 17-Aug-16 @ 11:28 AM
I have seperated from my husband and I think he has applied for my sons passport which I didn't consent to, however will he need my birth certificate to get it ?
Emznemo - 7-Aug-16 @ 10:41 AM
I am in need of some advice regarding passport for my son.
I have had sole custody of my son for 3 years that was set up by a mutual agreement and not through court.
He was born in April of 2003 so I don't have PR because we wasn't married.
I was there when his birth was registered but his Mother won't sign anything to allow me to have PR.
Apart from a court order is there any other way to get him a passport given his age?
If there is anything I haven't made clear please ask.
Thanks in advance
DaveN - 21-Jun-16 @ 5:54 PM
I'm still married to the mother of my son, but been separated for years. I'm named on his birth certificate and so i applied for his passport, but now they are asking for his mothers birth certificate. He lives with me, why do they need her birth certificate?
wayny - 7-Jun-16 @ 10:17 PM
Hi I have PR for my 6yo daughter. She has a passport which her mother, obtained and I believe is still valid. Is there any other document I can apply for which will enable her to travelto france with me? As I understand it I can not apply for a passport while her mother still a has a valid one.And I her mother refuses to let me use the passport.I have a contact order which has no prohibited steps at all.
Vam - 6-Jun-16 @ 11:03 PM
Hi I'm trying to my children's passport they never ad passports before2 of my children are not my husbands but he brought them up since baby's there real dad's are on there birth certificatebut I was never married to them there dad as nothing to do with them since they was born have no ideawherethey are but I change there name by deed polloffice and got legalpapers off them for both girls how do I go about getting passports as I've all ways cared for children they never ad no contact since they was borncud you help me and tell me to how to go about it meny thanks
Ozzy - 28-Apr-16 @ 10:53 AM
i have a daughter aged 12 , who lives with her mum . i am on the birth certificate and we signed forms in 2003 to give me parental responsibility can i get my daughter a passport without her mum needing to sign it
112 - 26-Apr-16 @ 8:07 AM
I'm trying to get my daughter a passport do I need her dad permission unfortunately he is one the birth certificate but he hasn't seen her for 5 years and I have no idea where he is I've been told I need to get him to sign it or get a solitors letter which is guna cost me it has state that he hasn't had any contact I've also had her last name changed by deed poll was his surname it's now mineany ideas of what I can dothanks
Candz - 5-Apr-16 @ 2:28 PM
Please can anyone help me im a single who has a residence order and my child lives with me and has done for a number of years now I am also on named on my child birth certificate I applied for a passport but was told I have to have his mothers permission....can someone help me
single dad - 20-Mar-16 @ 7:24 PM
Bobs - Your Question:
Hi, please help. I have been separated from my children's father for over 5 years. We weren't married and he is registered as their father on their birth certificates. At the moment he currently has the passports which I don't mind as long as I can have them when the time comes. I have recently mentioned I would like to take the children on holiday, maybe later this year or summer next year. I have asked if I could have the passports well in advance. However he was very rude and said no and I would get them a week beforehand. Now unfortunately I don't trust him. Any suggestions on what I can do?
If he refuses to give them immediately, you can apply for a Specific Issue Order through the courts, please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 10-Mar-16 @ 2:21 PM
Hi, please help.... I have been separated from my children's father for over 5 years. We weren't married and he is registered as their father on their birth certificates. At the moment he currently has the passports which I don't mind as long as I can have them when the time comes. I have recently mentioned I would like to take the children on holiday, maybe later this year or summer next year. I have asked if I could have the passports well in advance. However he was very rude and said no and I would get them a week beforehand. Now unfortunately I don't trust him. Any suggestions on what I can do?
Bobs - 10-Mar-16 @ 1:01 AM
Continued (The End) PART 3
Charlie this year instead of just asking me for money for school clothes, shoes, bags, pocket money, educational toys and much much more but now I have to pay out £10-25 (sometimes more) each week I amunable to offer anything which I suspect is one of his reasons for doing it, along with making me look bad if a taxi is late or I am unable to get one at all!!!I'm sorry for the essay but I need help I really do so please pass on anything you may have that can help me, for example phone numbers of help and authorities or charities or any organisations that could possiblyhelp me, even free legal advice on my rights. I'm begging you all to help me,I am truly lost at what I can do and I am very scared of my ex and whst else he may do. I honestly didn't know there was such evil around our day to day lives :(
WendysWords - 27-Dec-15 @ 8:53 PM
They promised me that once I got my life back together we would share my son once again but this never happened. My ex managed to convince his new wife that I had done some unspeakable terrible things and as she was a social worker she (obviously) didn't trust me or want me looking after Charlie. Then I became very sick and could not walk. It took nearly 3 years and 14 MRI scans to finally diagnose me with having severe spinal arthritis and several slipped discs (happening constantly as it was a deck generative condition). I became severely depressed and I was in agony every day, needing carers twice a day and one 3 hour cleaning and shopping session. However at the time I lived in a building full of drug addicts and young violent thugs. I feared for my life every day and had to beg honest that it did not feel safe for my son so I went to the council and told them my fears, I had things stolen and was pushed down the stairs, worsening my condition. Eventually, approx 4 years after losing my child I was rehomed in a lovely brand new two bed roomed house, however because I got no money for Charlie at all it meant again I had to pay bedroom tax making paying my rent a struggle and my family had to help me a couple of times. Anyway I have now had private counselling (paid for by my eldest son James (he is now 24 and a very well brought up young man, something I did as a single parent for over ten years). My youngest son is now 9 years old. They finally got my medication correct and I have become so much better than I was. I have even bought myself a treadmill to strengthen my legs so that I won't need to use my wheelchair except for very Long distances. My ex is now panicking because my son has Been verbally and physically abused by his step mother and he has told social services about what has been happening (they are now thinking of separating but my questions are threefold, first of all to get proper weekly contact with my son how can I do this and also make people aware of the illegal things my ex has done? How can I beat a system that is protecting a social worker who abuses my son and is it fair that since that all came out my ex now will not bring and collect my son (as a way of punishing me for making the authorities aware! Which is also punishing his son too as every week I have to try and get Charlie in a taxi which costs an absolute minimum of £10 because they moved out of the town he was living in to a village with no public transport and I can neither drive, nor do I have a car or the money to buy one. I wanted to start paying them some maintenance towards Charlie this year instead of just asking me for money for school clothes, shoes, bags, pocket money, educational toys and much much more but now I have to pay out £10-25 (sometimes more) each week I amunable to offer anything which I suspect is one of his reasons for doing it, along with making me look bad if a taxi is late or I am unable to get one at all!!!I'm so
WendysWords - 27-Dec-15 @ 8:51 PM
My ex and I were still not married when my son Charlie was born, I wanted him to have my surname but I was being verbally and mentally abused by my partner so I did not dare to say no to him when he wanted his name on my sons birth certificate. I also had his birth certificate after we split up and my ex partner wrote out that as we had two houses, I was signing one over to him. I later realised that he had used this signature to get another birth certificate and on top of this he also forged my signature on a passport for my child and threatened me that he was going to take my child out of the country where I would never find him. After we split up he did some of the most evil things to me and I ended up having a nervous breakdown, I was even suicidal but could not even think about killing myself because of my children. At the time all of this happened I had custody of my little boy but allowed him to see him for half of the time. I was in receipt of Working Tax Credit and Child Tax Credit but did not ask for any maintenance from my ex partner as I felt it was fair that we shared him. However, after he had got hold of a birth certificate and passport for my son, he and his wife applied for the working tax credit and child benefit and child tax credit. Due to my son having their surname and him having a passport (which I did NOT give permission for as he was acting very strangely and was worried he would leave the country with my son). Soon after this I had an accident in the flat I was living in, there was no overflow in the bath and the ceiling fell into the living room. My landlord would not fix it as he was obsessed with me and even took a video of me in my bedroom in my nightie. As all this was happening my ex managed to convince child tax credits and child benefit that they were now entitled to the money for my son, stating he was living there. This was untrue, he just stayed a few more days whilst I waited for the landlord to mend the ceiling. When it didn't happen and I found out that all my money had been stopped and given to them instead I had a nervous breakdown and they didn't let me see my son for 3 months whilst an old laptop was searched for child pornography (it belonged to my ex but turned out that it had a virus and wouldn't even turn on!!!) then my partner convinced social services I was unstable and crazy, I had no money so when it came to going to court as they had applied for a residence order (the landlord still hadn't fixed the ceiling because I wouldn't go into business with him again as he had ripped me off the first time.). I was so stressed out, scared out of my wits and terrified of losing my little boy that on the morning of the court case I was throwing up and couldn't leave the flat. I let them know I couldn't make it and why but they took no notice and the court ruled against me. They promised me that once I got my life back together we would share my son once again but this never happened. My ex managed to
WendysWords - 27-Dec-15 @ 8:45 PM
Hi, I have a 6 year old who's mother I've never married to however I am on his birth certificate.
I currently hold his passport and his mum has his birth certificate. I originally paid for this passport when we applied. We have recently completely fallen out and quite hard to have a civilised conversation without it getting petty, she recently asked for the passport purely because she doesnt want me to have it now we are separated legally can I hold the passport although our son lives with her?
Mickey91 - 17-Nov-15 @ 10:52 AM
my son was married when my grandaughter was born she is now thirteen. Sons ex wife has remarried and grandaughter lives with her motherthere is regular contact although sons ex wife tries to make things difficult at times. Can my son apply for a passport for his daughterwithout having ex wife permissionthank you
lottie - 6-Nov-15 @ 2:28 PM
hard one here for you.
my daugther was born in a gulf state( expats).
I'm british, my ex wife is SE asian.
I applied for a passport for my daugther at birth( legal requirement that all foreigner had to have passport) and because she was not entilted to her mothers country passport( this changed two year later)
i applied via the british embassy via the nationalisation act(?)
that was a few years ago, and the passport has recently lapsed, but I have no idea if the passport was renewed.My wife details onthe applicationform were crossed out as not relevent other than name and DOB.
can my ex wife renew my daughter british passport given that is was issued via me, that it is in our family name- father and daughter has same surname (my wifes legal surname is not the same as mine and her country does not allow their women totake husbands name, but keep their fathers name and has a non british passport).
we both have PR, but as she obtained custody/divorce through sharia court in a a ruling that is not legal inthe uk, I'm not sure if she can do it or not.
there is the added complication that my ex was really pushing to get a settlement visa for herself inthe UK and I suspect she will use my daughters citizenship to move to the UK.
sorry its long winded
R - 23-Oct-15 @ 1:59 AM
I'm applying for passports for both my 4yr old and 13yr old once I have them can my soon to be ex husband report them missing and apply for new ones?