Every year, many people in the UK are falsely accused of domestic violence. The reasons for this are wide-ranging. Some partners or ex-partners make up allegations of domestic violence to get out of a relationship that they are otherwise unhappy with, others do it to spite their partners, while some still want to ensure that they stop (usually) the father from seeing the children.
If you're facing false accusations of domestic violence, getting organised and strategic early on is crucial, which is why we created our free False Allegations Response Planner.
In other circumstances, a stranger, someone you know, or perhaps your child's teacher could become concerned about an injury to your child or something your child says – and refers Social Services to you. The tragic fact is that this does happen to people who are totally innocent of any crime. Sadly, although in this country you are 'innocent until proven guilty', the truth is that sometimes people can get charged and found guilty for domestic violence on very little evidence.
What Can Happen
You can be arrested while in your own home, in front of your partner and children, and in full view of the neighbours. Then you can be taken to the police station, your DNA taken and held on file, and interviewed while under caution. You could find yourself in court, charged with an offence for which you have done nothing wrong. Worst of all, you could end up with a criminal conviction and sent to prison. The problem is, when emotions are running high after a break up or divorce, one call to the police can have far-reaching consequences. If word gets around your local community, you could suffer verbal abuse, harassment or worse for being a 'monster'.
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If this happens to you, you need to be aware of your rights. You are entitled to legal advice at the police station. If you waive your right, you may end up saying something that could be misconstrued, especially if you are tired or are lulled into a false sense of security by the interviewing officers. There have been many cases that have been successfully brought by the Crown Prosecution Service purely on the basis of an admission in interview at the police station.
If you do speak to a lawyer, tell them the truth because if you are coy, or uncooperative, they are not going to be able to advise you properly. The police may bail you to return to the police station on another date. If they do this, you MUST ensure you go back on the day and at the time specified, or you will be charged with an offence of 'failure to surrender' and a warrant may be issued for your arrest. If you are innocent of any crime, be persistent, stick to the truth and try your best not to get angry at any stage. If you find yourself in court, it is vital that you come across as genuine and sincere about your innocence.
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Implications For Your Accuser
If your partner or ex-partner accuses you of domestic violence, when you have in fact done nothing wrong, by the time the police are involved your ex has already committed a criminal offence for which they could receive a prison sentence of up to six months. If they then go on to falsify evidence to the authorities – the police, social services etc – they are then perverting the course of justice. If the case actually gets to court, and you find yourself in the dock on trial for something you haven't done, your accuser would in most circumstances have to give evidence in court. If they are still lying at this stage, they are committing perjury. These are all serious criminal offences for which your ex-partner could serve a long prison sentence.
See our articles on Being Falsely Accused Of Child Abuse and Being Falsely Accused Of Rape on this site.
I'm accused of reeking of perfume..who have you had here ?.....when actually I was on the sofa all-day watching Netflix on my own.. impossible to prove...she grabs my phone..yes there's porn...I admit to that..but also going on websites talking/looking at local girls....this i have not done but can't explain cause there it is..black and white....makes me sit Infront of boys and say what I've done wrong..even though the websites i know I've not done.
Big fight next night..she punches me on the sofa..kids screaming in their bedroom and shouts dad's just punched me call the police...totally untrue again..I'm kicked out before police arrive no phone nothing and spend 2 nights in a church doorway..I now have
shelter...and she...plasters on Facebook she has suffered the domestic abuse and now I find out she's ' in a relationship ' with someone new..who is a website content maker !!! Coincidence?..and just 4 weeks after the incident..now I had the Dom abuse and there's no way after something like that idea get into a new relationship.. especially when I find out he's an alcoholic!!....the fight starts now..she has bipolar..he's an alcoholic she's weaponised my boys against me too but..I will get my boys to safety...I will get my boys back and back to as normal life as I can...I'm 58 but I'm determined.
Thank u for letting me get it off my chest mentally.
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She claimed at first it was someone she used to work with, then later changed her story to state it was someone she’d connected with on linkedin but nothing was going on.
I started to film her behaviour on my phone as I intended to replay her the clips when she was sober. When I tried once it aggravated her further. She stated it was illegal to record her.
When these incidents occurred, I would try and completely ignore her by often leaving the house or going to another room as she would just push for an argument.
I have many videos on my phone where I can clearly be heard saying to her that she needs to calm down as it is late at night/early hours of the morning and my daughter is in bed trying to sleep. She had no regard for this. The clips clearly show how aggressive she is and how drunk she would get. there are a couple of videos that clearly show she has assaulted me.
Completely unaware to me she went to the police and reported me for controlling and coercive behaviour, along with five counts of strangulation with intent. I was obviously arrested, taken to the police station and questioned, released on bail for three months with the restriction of not being able to go to the family home and not contacting my wife directly or indirectly.
Night, one of my arrest, my wife invited friends over to the house and had a loud raucous drinking session until the early hours of the morning, my daughter upstairs in her bedroom was texting me until 3:30 am, stating she was unable to sleep due to the noise coming from downstairs. The same happened on night two, night three, my daughter made arrangements herself to sleep at one of her friends houses as she was exhausted from the previous night’s events. This was the beginning of July during school. Night four my daughter came and stayed with me at my sisters house.(as I have nowhere else to stay.) and has been with me since, this week marks 10 weeks since my arrest. During this time, my wife has sent random messages to my daughter often laboured all with no emotion and my daughter has chosen not to reply as she is disgusted by my wife’s behaviour and feels that she has not had a relationship with my wife for approximately 18 months due to her behaviour and lack of emotion towards her. On the two occasions, my daughter has been back to our house to collect things within the last 10 weeks. My wife has made her feel particularly uncomfortable and even tried frisking her on the doorstep.
During my time with the police, they were not interested whatsoever in anything I had to show on my mobile phone. Consequently I
She though does not mentioned any of the demestic violence she inflicted on me towards anyone else even the police caution of common assault. She just mentions that I by mistake let a door close on her due to wind catching it and this she then goes on a rant about me abusing her and making up lies of abuse. My reputation has been damaged and now I cannot visit my daughter residence because the neighbours now have the impression I am an abuser.
What can I do legally if anything to stop her from making false allegations becuase I am now not able to show my face around my daughers residence where she lives with her mum?
Mam died, & using my tax free pension allowance, £20k endowment policy, & some earnings I bought my brothers half of the family home, becoming outright owner.
She contacted me out of the blue, one thing led to another, and in 2018 we remarried.... I know I was/ still am a fool.
Over the past few years she keeps going to the Police accusing me of domestic abuse, cohersive control/stalking etc. with me ending up being arrested on multiple occasions/ kept overnight in the cells, missing work, banned from any contact with her & from the family home that I bought, but put her name on the deeds. Every time I am released "No Further Action" but now she is applying for a non molestation & occupation order to keep me out. Apparently with a history of domestic abuse against me, No criminal proof, but her statement of events is enough.
Living in a car, and she wants me to contribute to the house bills too.
Not working, to old to start over, but still love her...Cant see any future, got no money, I should have been retired years ago if she didn't divorce me. Shoot me now....I have started divorce proceedings, because of the threat of being arrested at anytime, but would go back given the chance. Can't live in a car for long at my age, (63) but all the cards are stacked in the woman's favour (glad in a way, I have two daughters) but being accused because she fears for her safety with no physical evidence, is making me think of ending it altogether. Three weeks till court, then at least I know its definitely time to end it
I pressed charges against her while in prison for false allegations, wasting police time, ruining my life but nothing has been done by the police or the PPS respective CPS. Even the solicitor seems to go aganst me when the facts however speak a total different language.
I'm currently under court bail not to contact her or my littlen in any way shape or form and I'm barred from the area as well.
I keep on persisting with those charge pressed against her and hope that after moren then 4 months things start moving in the right direction to finally get justice.
My son has been accused of domestic violence.
It's not because I'm his mother I say this.
But my son is as soft as butter and incapable of defending himself let alone violence.
He's now homless and lives in a van and has a phyco bitch pressing charges against him.
Some women are just men haters and bullies.
They choose soft men to dominant because real men reject them.
So for all those guys out there that have been wrongly accused.
Don't let it brake you.
Grow stronger through the experience and nt time. Get yourself a real woman. Not a scrap end that no one else wants. Your worth more.
I have a police bail about controlling and coercive behavior until 12 july.my ex made q false report.she has a new nan and she just want take me out our council house.we have joint contract.before the police bail alkwas i am cooking i play with the kids i am take to the bath.i do evetything.now she want every weekend i am with the boys.vut where I live now i can not take there the youngest.i told her 6-8 hours is too much on the street fir our youngest boy.he just 1 and half years.she said she dont care not her problem.and the bjys weekly 1 2 Times has a bath they very dirty.before the police i am start the parenting pman on cafcass website.i has not any problem before wuth the police.but i dont know will i need go to the jail?or where can I found sonebody how help me stay with my kids?
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