What contact and residence orders mean now
Contact orders and residence orders were court orders that set out arrangements for children. A contact order determined who could spend time with a child or communicate with them. A residence order determined where a child lived. These terms are now historical.
Since April 2014, both have been replaced by a single child arrangements order. This one order covers where a child lives, how they spend time with each parent, and how indirect contact such as phone calls or video calls should take place. If you have an older contact or residence order, it remains valid and enforceable, though circumstances may have changed since it was made. Some parents choose to apply for a child arrangements order to reflect their current situation under the updated framework.
When a court makes one of these orders, both parents are expected to follow it. In most cases, that is exactly what happens. But sometimes one parent refuses to comply, and the other is left uncertain about their options.
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A breach is anything that goes against what the order says. If the order states a child should be collected at 5pm on Fridays and that does not happen, that is technically a breach.
Courts take a practical view. Being five minutes late on one occasion is unlikely to be treated the same as repeatedly refusing to allow contact at all. What matters is whether the breach is serious, deliberate, or part of a pattern.
Common examples of breaches include:
- Refusing to make a child available for agreed contact
- Regularly returning a child late without good reason
- Preventing phone calls or other communication set out in the order
- Moving a child to a different address without permission when the order restricts this
- Consistently making excuses to cancel contact sessions
If you are experiencing repeated breaches, keep a written record. Note dates, times, and what happened. This documentation can be useful if you later need to demonstrate to a court what has been going on.
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Steps you can take
Before going back to court, consider whether the issue can be resolved another way. Direct communication with the other parent may help if the relationship allows it. A family mediator can sometimes assist when direct conversation proves difficult. Mediation is not compulsory in breach situations, but it can avoid the stress and cost of court proceedings. Maintaining open communication with the other parent, where safe to do so, can benefit your child regardless of whether court action becomes necessary.
If informal approaches do not work, you can apply to the court for enforcement using Form C79. You must submit this to the family court that made the original order. You will usually need to show that you have attended a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting beforehand, unless you qualify for an exemption. Exemptions include cases involving domestic abuse or where mediation would not be suitable. There is a court fee for this application, though you may qualify for help with fees depending on your circumstances. Check GOV.UK for current fee amounts and exemption criteria.
When you apply for enforcement, the court will consider the evidence and decide what action to take. The other parent will have a chance to explain their side. Courts examine whether the breach occurred without reasonable excuse and focus primarily on the welfare of the child.
What the court can do
If the court finds that a breach has occurred without reasonable excuse, it has several options. These include:
- Ordering unpaid work in the community, typically between 40 and 200 hours
- Ordering financial compensation for contact sessions that were lost, covering costs such as travel or activities that went to waste
- Requiring attendance at a parenting programme designed to help parents understand the impact of their behaviour on children
- Varying the original order to make arrangements clearer or more enforceable
- In serious cases, transferring residence to the other parent
- Committal to prison, though this is rare and treated as a last resort
Courts are generally reluctant to impose harsh penalties if there is any reasonable explanation for what happened. An enforcement application does not always result in punitive measures, particularly where the breach was minor or unintentional. The focus remains on finding solutions that encourage both parents to cooperate in the child's best interests.
If breaches continue even after enforcement action, you can make a further application. Repeated breaches can lead to more serious consequences, and courts do take ongoing non compliance seriously over time.
Consider seeking legal advice before making an enforcement application, particularly if the situation is complicated. A family law solicitor can explain your options and help you present your case clearly. Legal aid for enforcement proceedings is generally only available in cases involving domestic abuse or child protection concerns. If you do not qualify for legal aid, you may be able to find assistance through a local law centre that offers free advice.
The Citizens Advice website has guidance on family court processes. The Family Mediation Council can help you find an accredited mediator if you want to attempt that route first.
Dealing with a breach of a court order is frustrating, particularly when it affects your time with your children. But there are clear legal routes available, and courts do act when orders are not being followed.
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So now i need to know how and what forms do i fill in to ask for my suspension to be lifted so i can see ny son again
The UK family courts DO NOT ENFORCE NRP FATHER'S CONTACT ORDERS. See the statistics.
Contact Orders are an illusion. UK family courts exist to enable mothers to legally kidnap children if they so wish.
Don't waste your time.
My Ex don't send my daughter whenever she feel.
We have a Agreed solicitor letter about weekend visit but most of the time she donot send my daughter. I understand in England and wales you can represent yourself and fill C100 to get visit right.
How I can do something similar at scotland to get a court order. I cannot find anything in scottish court website how to fill such a form or even possibility to represnt myself.
My solicitor running the Seperation agreement for 1 year and costed me £3k. For Child contact court order she is asking deposit of £3k, which i didn't have.
She would not allow contact for the first 12 weeks of covid lockdown even though the government allowed it but I was even told it would be difficult to take to court and the delays were near a month long.
I now see the children on negotiated weekends (not the court order as she feels its better for the children's home schooling).
My issue now is I have a holiday to france booked (driving and staying in a mill just for our family bubble). In the beginning of August.
She is saying she is not happy for them to go even though I have answered all questions and said how we would follow all guidance. Its all paid for, can't get money back and kids want to go. Is there something I can do or rush through a judge in time (as long delays in court process) for this one issue in time for us to go?
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Social services involved and advised to stop contact they did not say how just to get legal advise what should I do as he has disclosed that he will collect the children from school tommorow
I have a court order in place and my ex has breached the order. Can I apply directly to the court to reinforce the order. I don't want my daughter suffering to long with this, is there a simple fix to this?
Since the order was made I have learnt that my ex has been failing to get my 8 year old son to school on average 1 day a week and is constantly late on days when he does attend. (she lives only a few minutes away from the school.) I have also had confirmation from my children's GP that she has failed over the last year to take them to multiple appointments and referrals for health issues.
I have also in this time rebuilt my life, clearing the debt from my first marriage. I have remarried and purchased a nice home in the countryside, which is a stark contrast to my ex's rent home and my new wife recently gave birth.
I intend to go back to court to seek residency or at least 50:50 so I can support my children getting to school, doctors appointments and so they can spend time growing up with their brother.
Do I ask the courts via a writ to set aside the contact order and make a residency order for residency and if not set aside the current contact order for a new contact order? (or is the latter not setting aside but ammending?)
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It is the mother causing trouble all the time, she even tried to get my uncle evicted (he lives with my gran, pensioner and the mother made false accusations saying gran had moved out to get her rent stopped and her pension) so that the kids would be homeless and she could try get them.
She even tried to snatch the lad when he was very young, so uncle had to get prohibited stops order.
Mother had told the little girl her dad didn't love her anymore now he has a new son, and that if it wasn't for his new partner and son they would be back together. To cause bad feelings at home.
Uncle has fought the mother in court three times because of false abuse claims where the mother wanted residency, the second time she was banned for two years from applying for residency, as soon as that ban was up he had to go to court for the third time following more false abuse claims where she was banned for a further five years. (Little girl would be 16 by then)
The mother has always showed favouritism to the little girl to the point the lad has never even had a bed to sleep in at mother's house but the girl has her own bedroom. (Little girl is still young enough for mother to manipulate)
the mother has continually breached the order refusing to return the little girl on time, picking her up from school on days she isn't supposed to, police refused to force the return of the girl,
Social services don't care about the continued emotional turmoil and instability the mother is causing, and recently we found out she has been claiming benefits for the girl for the last 18 months telling the benefits agency the girl lives with her.(she told the little girl that she had gone back to court and won)
At the time that she has made the fraudulent claim she was refusing to return the girl for about a month, my uncle had to confront her at the school with his residency order and get the school to call the police.
He didn't want this because the mother has continually used the school as a battleground, the police refused to go to the mother's house to get the girl back even though there was a residency order in place.
My uncle only found this out after a long battle trying to get his claim reinstated which was stopped without explanation.
Benefits agency are now telling him they believe the mother despite the residency order, they told him he needs court permission to show his residency order as evidence in his benefits tribuneral.
When they first split up 7 years ago the mother didn't see the kids for 6 months, and threatened that uncle would never see them again if he applied for the benefits.
She has only ever wanted to kids for the benefits so that she can get her rent paid and not have to work,
Me and my x partner separated 9 months ago but remained living together. Recently he discovered that I have moved on and found love with another man. He has not accepted this and has taken my 3 year old daughter to West Wales 90 miles away to his parents on what i believed to be a holiday. He is telling me that I have choose my new boyfriend over my child which is untrue as I only agreed to a holiday. He wants nothing more to do with me and believe he is able to do this. I am looking for some advise as he told me today he is not returning my daughter.?
I am looking for some advice on how to move forward with my situation. My ex wife and I split over 18 months ago and I found myself going to court to gain access to my daughter, after a long, drawn out court case I was granted 6 nights per month through a court order along with alternate Christmas' starting this year.
The plan that was put in place for Christmas and is listed on the court order is that I collect my daughter at 2pm and drop her off at 6pm Boxing Day. My ex is now refusing to follow the plan and has stated I can only have my daughter on the 23rd- Christmas eve dropping her off at 5pm.
I have explained to my ex wife that the court order states I pick her up at 2pm on Christmas day but she has told me to contact a solicitor. After a very expensive battle to get the order put in place I am unable to do this.
What steps can I take to make sure I see my daughter on Christmas day?
Two weeks ago his son ran away aided/coerced by someone who payed for a taxi and a train ticket to London, allowing him to travel alone. Since this time the son has claimed that his father has assaulted him 3 months ago. Bearing in mind he returned home on the Sunday night before been coerced the Monday morning.
Social services say they can.’t get involved with the case as they see no safeguarding issues and it was a police matter. The mother is constantly putting of the son been video interviewed and my brother has been told that it could take up to 41 days.What can he do there have been overheard conversation where a member of the family has been heard saying this is the only way you will get to see your mum. There have been concerns from Judge and the social services during the hearings about the mother’s capability of providing an emotionally stable upbringing.
I would like to say that this has been a harrowing experience for my brother and has had to battle government and police lack of knowledge/ perception that fathers do get custody these days, instead they presume the mother has and never ask but have to be told.
I am sure this behaviour would not have been tolerated if it was he other way round.
Yo sleep over. This Tuesday my ex breached the order by collecting him from school without my permission. I wrote to her as advised and now she has "suspended contact" for me to see him tomorrow and his sleepover. Apparently her solicitor is aware but noone but my ex has notified me. Surely a solicitor or a court would have to contact me straight away? The reason she gave was a concern for his welfare. I called child services who have no logs of concern registered because there isn't any. The police said they can't enforce a family court order. What do I do??? As far as I am Aware it's just her word against mine. Am I legally ok to go collect him as outlined in the order? Can the police enforce it. And more importantly can she just suspend contact at any point? If so what's the point in the orders
My question is now that his son lives with us, does the court order still apply to him? And should he still see his mum on every other weekends?
I don't know where I stand because I don't want my son to go, he didn't want him overnight when he was allowed and he hasn't been bothered in a year. Please can you advise what I need to do ?'
My eldest has now started playing fooball. I tried to find a neutral venue but my ex enlisted him at a club in her town (We live about 25miles apart). I explained that if this happen I really couldn't help with travelling to games etc. Now instead of dropping off at 7:45pm she has insisted that he is dropped off at 12pm on a Sunday (fair enough). However, to avoid an extra trip she wants my youngest son at the same time. This results in me losing 8 hours with him basically. I am unhappy with this. I have suggested that if I do this could I have him an extra day during the holidays. She will not agree. There is no compromise. She now says if I do not drop the youngest at 12 then she will stop them coming to me at a weekend.
Should this happen - how will the courts react?
My eldest will be 16 in a few months and I am considering applying to the courts for extra time with him as he would like this also. Any ideas what the courts view on this might be?
Does anyone know what happens when the non resident parent breaches a court order and refuses to pick child up for contact? Bearing in mind this date was on his list of dates he’s available for contact but now can’t because of a party all weekend... ??
There seems to be so much support for dads who wants to see their children. My daughter dads ran off for 6 years and is now back “ready to be a dad” but still picking and choosing when.
Thank you
My brothers ex cheated on him, took the kids and moved in with her parents (who happen to be wealthy). First she took him to court (with solicitors paid for by her family) to tie him down with financial costs (he has a low paid job) and she managed to negotiate 70% of the house value, even though they both put in equally. Next she started on the kids, reducing his access to two/three days a week - worked for one year. By this time my brother was representing himself as he couldn't afford solicitor costs. Then she made up allegations (none proven) with her solicitor about my brother. The court admitted there was no evidence but said they would reduce his contact. His contact was then reduced to once a month, this has been dragging on for two years now as the court wont change even though no evidence, no police reports, no social services issues, no CAFCAS issues. She has today got her solicitor to say she is cancelling contact all together.
So like all of you, the usual steps.
However my query is how can this happen, there seems to be no solution? A woman wants equal rights, equal pay, but a man cannot have equal rights to see his children?
Lawyers, courts, social services, CAFCAS all seem to be crippled and just go 'whatever the mum wants she gets'. All the time enforcing the father to keep paying maintenance to her for not seeing his kids.
MP's are scared, Parliament is scared. I appreciate that some fathers and mothers are bad parents and shouldn't have kids or any contact. But this doesn't mean everyone should be painted with the same brush...
Surely something needs to change and everyone should keep addressing this with their MP's so maybe parliament will listen...
now here is the but! the father has basically been making my sons life hell and i am concerned for his mental health ( i only discovered this when i was allowed to see him 9 months later, have had 0 contact with him or my daughter in that time), and my son is now desperate to come back. i stated to my son that i was more than willing to come fetch him once his exams were finished (he is still 15 and doing GCSE's). so of course my son went and told this to his father who's response was "not happening, your mine now, i have you till your 21" . what do i do? i know my ex wont willingly let him go and the court order will still be in effect at the end of July (only just my son is 16 in august) how do i go about rescuing him and keep myself out of handcuffs in the process?
How long on average does this take
This seams to take forever
Went to court and have a court order which gives me my kids every second weekend, twice weekly phone calls and various school holidays including 3 weeks at summer. My ex is now refusing to let me speak to or see the children as I have "breached the court order" due to me deploying (I am in the Army and the court were fully aware of this) I have now incurred costs for a holidays which she is now not allowing the kids to go to. What can I do?
My lawyer told me this is for the English courts.
We like to do things together like go to cinema and football matches, which she expects us to not do but to do things she sees a a priority for my son.
When I disagree my ex starts up the parental alienation by telling my son I am stopping him do things. Is this a breach of the court order? i believe that it’s for my son and I to decide what we do on the weekends we are allocated by the court order?
1) contact centre Oct 17 , failure to attend contact centre so returned jan 18
2) court stated no breach on her part, order reset for contact centre 2 hours twice a week which had been reduced from prior order. Failed and refused to attend contact centre.
3) returned to court April where court stated still no breach. Court order set out that I see my daughter 2 hours twice per week which lasted for 3 visits then contact stopped.
4) returned to court yet again no breach and order set as , first 3 visits with my new partner and her ex husband present then 3 hours twice per week my partner only present. First three visits happened however after that all contact stopped.
5) back to court Oct no breach yet again so court ordered over Xmas I see my daughter for several hours which was breached immediately so yet again no contact.
6) due back in court yet again on jan 14th regrading this matter so will keep you posted .
Blackpool court do not care about any fathers rights even though I have had to fight for well over a year to only get to see my daughter less than 24 hours in well over a year. , good fathers fight to see their children but Blackpool court believe in mothers rights and no matter what they do not care about fathers. Well like I said will let you know in a few days how jan 14th goes betting on no breach again though
Can anyone advise what i would need to do. I cannot talk with him as he is very abusive physically and verbally.
He has also be very abusive to our 18yr old emotionally and physically to the point she left home but could not bring her sister with her.
Surely now after receiving an English interim order she is in breach of that to? and what are the ramifications of her breaching these court orders.
We have a contact order that stipulates that she has to being the girls back to the UK at her expense, for the sole purpose of contact, every November, and at another time in the year when mutually agreed.
She has played me around for an entire year now, claiming the children would be coming at one date, and then another. She has even accused me of being a terrible father because I've told her that because a fulfil a specialist role within law enforcement, I can't simply drop work at a moment's notice. I couldn't in a normal job, but particularly not in this one.
Because she is still refusing to even confirm if she is coming this November (despite the fact that, in the absence of any other arrangement with me, she is obligated to), I haven't been able to book any time off. It has to be arranged well in advance, and now my diary at work is being filled with operations that I can't simply duck out of.
My ex is insisting that she has to wait for her boyfriend to get a visa, and she "can't" come until this happens - despite the fact that she and the children are British citizens and the trip to the UK is solely for the purpose of facilitating contact. This has been dangling on for months now.
She also suggests that if I can't guarantee that I will have the required 2 weeks off from work to take the girls full time, she won't come at all because she wants to have a holiday with her boyfriend and doesn't intend to take the children in the day if I have to go to work (if I can't book the time off at last minute).
I have put my concerns to her in writing. I've warned her that she's breaching the court order. It's made no difference because there aren't enforcement mechanisms between the UK at the country she's in, or at least none that I can afford.
Advice is welcome - I'm thinking a solicitor's letter before referring to the courts, but I'm not sure what's best.
Any advice would be very welcome.
Can anyone help I split with my partner and moved to the uk from Ireland we have 2 kids together and my ex is refusing to talk or reply to me can I go through the uk courts to obtain a contact order for my kids or do I have to go through Irish courts ? Or is there a way of starting proceedings from here to the Irish courts ? Any help would be really grateful as it’s really sad seeing them through photos my family get for me ??
Thanks in advance
Gofferd16
(Thats the very very short version).
My ex wife is again taking me to court ,this time its because my 11 year old was on holiday with and I had her passport and decided to take her on holiday to croatia for a week , i didnt tell my ex wife because according to my court order i needed to give three weeks notice but i couldnt do this ,however when my ex wife phoned and asked to speak to my daughter she could and found my our child was having a really good time .is this so bad ? that i have a risk that there may be a cost order ordered against me as she has hired a solicitor to fight me and i cant afford one ?
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My ex is forever breaking this order and now plans to take him away for 4 weeks in August which includes his birthday again in October and Dec I'm at the end of my tether now any advice would be appreciated
His daughter has been spoiled at her mothers and now at 13 has decided she does not want to see us or her half brother and sister at the moment.
Her reason was that she was worried her mother would not look after herself properly while she was here as her mother is diabetic.
We raised this with the mother and the school as a potential welfare concern, asking the school to provide some more information on diabetes as his daughters request.
We agreed that we would give her some time to 'sort things out' after discussing this with the mother.
After one period of no contact we asked when his daughter would be returning. To be told that she is going through some personal issues at the moment and seeing us would just stress her out. Wee spoke to the mother again who advised it was just 'boyfriend drama' and was all sorted.
We tried again but got the same thing, his daughter will not tell us the reason she doesn't want to come. She hasn't said that she does not want to come at all just not at the moment..
It has now been three months.
We have informed the mother that contact needs to be reinstated and she has replied that it is up to her daughter.
Where do we stand here? Is this a legitimate reason to refuse contact?
what should i do now
and why is it that the CMS is over-riding the court order to sit their pockets
During summer holidays each parent shall have 1 full week in july & aug.
Other than that contact shall remain as wed 10am -sat 6pm for the non resident parent.
I asked to start my holiday week from sat 6pm - following sat 6pm. This would give me wed-sat normal contact & holiday week sat-sat.
My ex is trying to say if I start my holidays with my child on a Saturday -saturday i lose my previous weeks contact wed-sat as im not allowed 10 overnights however my ex gets 11 overnights if they start their holiday on a Monday. The solicitor is saying i forfeit my previous weeks contact ...which actually loses me days.
No where in the court does it say i need to start my week on a Monday, also i can't be expected to take my child on holiday only on a Monday for the next 12 years.
Am i wrong here?? Please enlighten me if i have this wrong.
I'm now worried my ex will take my child on holiday & nor agree to mine so i will lose more time. Can i do anything?
I have a court order that he has agreed to, stating that he will pay maintenance until the boys finish education. It doesn’t state what level.
My youngest son is just finishing secondary school , but has to stay in school until he is 18. The older son is also going to college in september.
My ex has stopped paying maintenance as he is spiteful. He is trying to get my son to move out at 15 to live on his own to go to college.
Now schooling she is up to 18, can I stop my son from moving out?
My step son has expressed continously that he would like to stay with us for a week, every other week. So he alternates the weeks between us and his mother.
We are happy to accommodate however his mother will not allow it. She has stated that if we do not comply with the order she will get a bailiff to come and collect him from us.
How do we go about getting my step sons wishes listens too? Will we have to go back to court? And if we do will they take notice of his opinion?
Iv sinced been told his moving back to asia with his wife and new child. He believes that we simply go back to the original court order and whatever bits from the new one he wants to keep will be ok. I dont know if this is true. I was under the impression that once a new contact order was in place the old one would be null n void? My child is nearly 11 now and iv had such a hard time getting him to visit his dad inc violent outbursts from him because he doesnt want to see him and feels lied to by his dad who hasnt informed him of any of the things his doing until the last moment.
I would like to know if the old court order still stands and any advice i can get please
I have a court order in place that gives me rights to see my two children at my house over a weekend every 2 weeks. This was as a result of the ex refusing to let me see them for over a year due to financial reasons (she said it was other reasons but this was the reason).When we went to court she claimed allsorts but most of it surrounded alcohol abuse and neglect of the children. This was all disproven in court and the Cafcass report showed me in a very good light and as a result the court agreed to Cafcass recommendations that travel to homes should be shared and overnights should commence. They then refused after to do any travel despite the order. every time I picked the kids up I got abuse from her new partner and threats of violence (I have evidence of this recorded). and one day he shoved a breath test device in my face and said do this or your not seeing the kids. Naturally I refused on numerous grounds. this was now 6 weeks ago and they point blank refuse to let me see them or call the children (they insist I have to supply a phone and sim despite me making the call).
I was visited by social services as a result of a small accident to one child and they gave me a clean bill of health and said there were no safeguarding issues but they still refuse for me to see the children unless I take a breath test.
I gave written assurance to the court that I would not drink 24 hours before or during any visit and as such have kept to that and don't feel its right being intimidated in this way not to mention I have no idea what the device he had is.
I am returning to court to press for breach of order but don't have a solicitor and wonder if you would be able to offer any advice.
thanks
The courts don’t want to see either of us again as we’ve been in and out of court for pretty much all her life. Apparently I was told I wasn’t allowed to move again but it says no where in our contact order that I can’t. I just don’t see why I have to bow down to his rules. I’ve tried to be reasonable again but he just won’t see it that way. Am I being unreasonable. He says that I didn’t ask if he was ok with me moving or going half way the other way and his time in the car is just too much. Do I want him to have a heart attack and him crash at 70 mph with his child in the car???? He has ongoing heart issues now but I can’t control that. He has a full time job but so will I soon. I don’t know what to do. He’s saying that I’ll need to take him back to court which will look bad on me which is what he wants. Help. I’m so stressed again. My other half wants to get involved and tell him to back down but
Last month my husband and I won a battle against his ex who was hoping to move their daughter to Poland after having lived here for 18years. His daughter is four and we had her every other weekend.
The court ordered we can now collect her from school on a Friday and take her to school Monday every other weekend and half all the holidays starting this May.
She text us and asked this May half term (bearing in mind the order has only just been made) if she could swap weekends and take her daughter to a communion in Poland and if this year (even though its our turn and court also ordered this) in August she can have her for her birthday because she wants to go to Poland again.
We came to an arrangement re August and allowed her to do it this time around but as for May, we refused as the daughter is a bridesmaid for my brothers wedding the same day she wants to take her to Poland.
She kept asking and asking and we kept saying no, we simply cannot cancel her being a bridesmaid and not going to the wedding as seating and meals have also been paid for.
She’s now told us she is making an application to court again! Can she do this? What are our rights??
We paid over 20k to get this access and lost everything - can she apply every time she doesn’t get her own way??
My husbabd has a court order from 2 years ago to state he has parental responsibility and access to his daughter. However a few months after the order was issued his ex stopped contact again. We didnt have the funds to go back to court at the time as the last solicitor had taken all our savings and my husband was made redundant. It has now been over a year since we last saw his daughter as the mother has since moved house and changed all contact information. Can anything be done now or is it too late?
Kirk, 25, liverpool.
As soon as we left the court the arrangement was breached by her. I haven't seen him over any half terms or parties which was all agreed. He has not been allowed to get in my car. He has not been allowed to meet anyone i know. Hes lied to me and has been manipulated by her. He doesn't say he loves me anymore either. She now lives with her partner of 5yrs which she only mentioned to me after they had been together for 4yrs and my little boy has never been allowed to meet my ex partner of 4 yrs. So i wonder what did i pay that court money for as not much has changed. In order to get something changed i have to pay 250 again. Knowing how and who she is ill be in court over and over again.I am thinking of applying for a residence order and a more detailed contact plan through the courts as she doesnt want to plan one with me. She has manipulated, lied and deceived since day one. She has pretty much alienated me from his life. even this week trying to arrange half term , i've been asking for last 4 weeks about what's going on over half term, all i get i'll check my diary. Then last night at 11pm i get a message saying she's going to get shoes so i can see him tomorrow but then won't see him on weekend which is when the agreement states i should. Then she says my son doesn't want to see me on both says of weekend.this happens time and time again.
I have been keeping a diary for the last year in regards to this. I haven't spoken to my son in almost 2 weeks now. i can keep going but i wont. Is residence order the right thing to do. SHould it be 50 50? I have good schools around me and my work guarantees the flexibility. I don't think living with his mother is good for his mental health.
Where do I stand with this ?
What if I refuse to take him back ?
I don’t earn high wages the extra expense will be difficult as will the 5hrs Friday and then Sunday .
Thanks for any advice
On the direct gov website it states you can take a child away for 28 days if you have an order stating the child lives with you.
Do I need permission from my ex partner because he has a few hours on Wednesday and Sunday?
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I have a child arrangements order that is fairly new and I am due to have my 2 sons this weekend. However, for the last 10 days my son (with my current partner) has been suffering with gastroenteritis (and constant sickness). It appears now that me and my partner have caught this and I am constantly either being sick or on the toilet (as you can imagine, not pleasant). I have informed my ex partner of this (in advance as I am not due to have them until Sunday) to warn her if this continues then I will be unable to have the children but she has replied stating that I will be breaching the order and I have no choice but to have them. I really don't want to end up in court again as a result of this and I have tried to do the right thing by warning her early.
Can anyone help me with this? Is this likely to be looked upon badly by the judge?
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i could not have my daughter her as she has not had chickpox yet i explained this to my ex partner and she said if i dont have her ill never see her again and she will deal with the punishment at court?
All i did was think about my daughters health? Any advice would be much appreciated.
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Her school contacted me who had also noticed the upset that has been a constant since we split up and divorced nearly 4 years ago, they informed me they would be contacting mash ( social services) as it has massively heightened. Although they obviously have not advised me to stop contact I have been told to do what I think is right. My daughter often comes home in tears, has to be taken off me at school, is worried I'll get into trouble, is highly anxious, picks her nails off, is now digging het nails into herself. She is Seeing a senco worker at the school and goes 2-4 times a day with her worries over things that have been said about how she looks, how she eats( left handed eater, he makes her do it right handed), about me and my family. It's not just him but her elder brother who is 14 and her grandmother.
Is this going to cause me to be in breach of the order as I have all this evidence from school Social services and home?
I believe social worker has spoken to her father but he's not having any of it and as usual is trying to say I'm harming her and sending me aggressive/ threatening emails
I have them Fri-Mon every other weekend and each Mon & Wed from school until 6.30 and half of all school hols.
My eldest states he wants to live with with me full time. I explained that's not fair on his mum.
He says that as soon as he starts high school he will not be returning to his mum and will come to my home every night as he will be independently getting to and from school.
I have asked that they both stay over every Monday, in the hope this would appease him, but their mum refused. Our eldest is becoming increasingly angry and was recently violent towards her.
Basically, I don't want to be in breach of the order, but at the same time I won't reject our son if he keeps turning up. My boys are well cared for when with me and we have a nice home.
I already have to make them leave me by reassuring them I love them and they will soon be back, but eldest is starting to become more resistant and youngest is copying.
What will happen to me/him if he does what he says.
I don't want to get in trouble but I want our boys to be happy.
This has been the situation for nearly 3 years now, with me driving up and getting him once a month and having him for the weekend (longer during holidays). My ex, recently being involved with new partner is clearly seeing me as surplus to requirements now, and has restricted my access to holidays only, claiming that the long drive down tires him out too much and is interfering with his schoolwork.
It has been my stated aim to return to the area ever since I moved away, and within about 3 months now I am finally going to be able to make that happen. When I told her this she has told me she doesn't want me living back in the area, with the holiday only restriction following at that point. Clearly I am going to have a fight on my hands to get sensible access when I move back up there (I am willing to accept the holiday only access for the moment, painful as it is, as it won't be long until I move).
My question is - is it likely that when I move back into the area, whether it be through mediation, court order or whatever it takes, that I will be able to get the more frequent access that I want, in view of the fact I've lived so far away for so long? I am of course prepared to be sensible about it, I don't want to disrupt his life and just start demanding things, but my son and I have a very good relationship, he wants his dad to live nearby and to see him more, we've always known and talked about it. I am concerned however that my living so far away for so long will affect my chances if she continues to resist (and she will). From financial point of view I have never missed a payment, even during some short unemployed periods, and very frequently give her her money early when she asks. Recently, however, these requests for early payment have been my only bargaining chip when she's been refusing to let me see my son (notable that I never, ever use money as a bargaining chip unless she is asking for early payment or some other thing above and beyond).
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My ex had legal representation and I represented myself. His barrister was very sly in how she worded the court order, she clearly stated my new address in the order but his home address was not stated at all.
Now (6months later) he has just told me that he’s moving away which now means 2 1/2hr one way journey (5hr round trip) with only giving me 12 days notice. Now I have work commitments on his contact weekend with the children which means I need to be back for 7.30pm on Friday eves for work and also Sunday afternoons. This job needs to remain the same so I can provide a good life for my children, as he only pays me £35pw for 2 children (no support outside of this maintenance). Which also means I cannot take the children to him on a Friday eve.
He states that the order still remains the same and I should be driving the children to him still as his home address is not stated in the order.
Is this right?
Do I need to fill in a C79 application to get a judge to decide AGAIN what should be done.
I can’t communicate with him as he’s very childish and has blocked all communication with me.
Any advice would be appreciated.
But since December 2016 he has not shown up at all it's now January 2018 an my daughter still to this day gets upset cause she misses him an thinks it's her fault he doesn't come anymore. Where do I stand now if he was to get back in touch. As when we was in court he only wanted to see her 1 hour a month an got granted 2 hours a week. Even when he used to show up he was never on time an would go weeks with no show an it constantly messes with my daughter's head I feel as her mum Im Not doing everything possible to.protect her. I'd just like to know my options if he decided to get back in touch. As I know he is in breach of the contact order. Any help at all would be appreciated.
Nobody is of any help to me in anyway, unless I can find a lot of money to take him back to court. ive tried voicing my concerns to social services and was rudely told they wouldn't help. My son is a victim of emotional abuse, alienation, and endures vast amounts of poisonous lies about his mum and family on a daily basis. I don't know what to do or who can help. I've suffered breakdowns, job losses, anxieties, depresssion due to contact with my son being denied.
I have all the emails and texts which I will be including and they show no respect for my son, courts or myself. I understand circumstances have changed and am more than willing to to compromise however she does not (although she says she does) talk to me and suggested I take her back t court although there would be no point as the courts would be sympathetic to her. I pointed out that it was not about me or her but about her son.
The blatant way she is ignoring and dictating to me what she is going to do and how much time I have with him is the exact reason I went to court in the first place and I am sure that the courts would not grant me less time than I had even before I took her to court as its nearly half now what I managed to get in court.
Will the courts side with the mother on this? worried as coming to Christmas and I have not seen my son yet and I am missing out so much now and all I want is her to know that she can't do what she wants anymore.
On 3 court dates he failed to do anything they said & still he got this & again hasn’t done it. How do I go forward? My son is scared & having to tell him things are going to happen & deal with the emotions & fears he has for it not to end up happening it’s getting too much. I don’t know where I stand as I can’t afford legal advice or representation. He was abusive to me in all ways & our son was a witness. Although the courts don’t care for his voice to be heard. ?? what can I do?
If he doesn’t set it up am I allowed to say take me back to court or will I end up in prison? I’m too scared to say that but I feel our son needs me to.
I want to put in a c79 to have the order enforced. Q. is son not wanting to contact with dad a reasonable excuse for mum breaking order.
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I have tried mediation, where the mediator thought it was ok to question my work choices and discuss, what I thought were more about relationship issues. She continually questioned why I wanted a family agreement, saying was the mothers word not good enough. I told her no and that mediation is about the child's best interests, not the relationship needs of the mother. When it became apparent, the child's mother was intending to continue the mediation route and attempt to use it as a relationships therapy session, I told the mediator, that I would not be returning.
When I request to see my daughter, the mother puts caveats on it. I generally end up having to buy her more stuff, even though I pay full maintenance for my daughter; or I have to stay around at hers after I drop my daughter off. To give an example of the mother's frame of mind, my daughter still sleeps in a travel cot beside her bed. she has her own room.
I want to know what is the best way to proceed. I work 400 mile away from where I live and have ensured I can get home even second weekend. All I wanted was a written family agreement that I could have my daughter from 12 O'clock on a Friday to 12 O'clock on Sunday, every second weekend, with a verbal arrangement for the holiday periods. I'm not sure the best way ahead the child resides ion Scotland?
The next day my ex wife called the police and told them I had been abusive and made my daughters give a statement to the police that I had been abusive
The interview took place last week and there was no further action from the police
Since then my ex has continued to not let me see my girls and I haven't seen or talked to them in about a month since that evening.
Is my ex breaching the court order because I want To take her to court using the (C79) form to say she is breaching the order would I have a chance of winning?
Because I know she wants to take me back to court to vary the court order and I don't want it varied!
Will the court do a search on his behalf to enforce the court order.
He did have joint custody,sharing weekends and three days mid week.
He doesn't want to waste any more money by going back to court and them being unable to find his children.
He is obviously desperate to see them.
Is there anything else he can do?
It means I'll be breaking the court order what shall I do.
My eldest daughter -15 nearly 16 fell out with me because she hates my partner and I refused to go on holiday without her and her daughter and in turn am not taking my s all stems from their mother, it's been 5 years since we split and I'm still getting crap through the kids.
My elDest is convinced I have a criminal record as her mum told her I have. The ex falsely accused me of assault and even put my then 10 yo daughter on the stand in evidence. I was exonerated in court as I had mobile phone recordings of her actually attacking me. But guess what, nothing happened to her. Nothing, nada. So much for perjury.
I have Cafcass reports showing the children are being corrupted by the mother yet still nothing gets done.
I'm at a loss what to do. In one hand, if my son doesn't want to come, I don't want to force him. Yet at the same time, he's 11, and an immature one at that. The mother is just doing her usual smirking away. What gets me is 6 months ago, my eldest was begging to live with me, she hated her mum. I talked her round and won't let the kids play me off against their mother. Yet it never ever goes the other way. She a typical hard done by single mum. She's on £50k a year plus £475 a month off me as I have a 5in 14 night order plus half the time in holidays. Never spends nothing on them, takes them on holiday with the grandparents as they pay to the lakes or wales.
Me, despite being knackered financially, provide clothing (full wardrobes at mine) take them on foreign holidays Etc because my kids are everything. It's mugging here who bought them all iPads, laptops yet no matter what I do, the ex still slags me off to them.
I'm really stuck what to do. What to I do with regards my youngest not coming? How do I pursue the court order not being followed? What do I do to stop the constant twisting of my kids by the ex? I really am at the stage now where I'm going to just give up and walk away. Why pay rent on a four bed home when me and my new partner could make do with a 2 bed?
If I could have my time back, I'd have walked away, changed phone numbers and never contacted any of them again. Just cough up the maintenance and start afresh.thats the advice I g
I had a contact order as my ex-partner was given permission to leave the uk in 2009. Not long after, I asked to see my child before they left; this was denied as they claimed that it would be detrimental to our child as their departure was imminent.
I have now learned that they never left the UK and have since had another child.
What can I do?
He recently returned back to the uk with his other child following major issues with the wife , she was drinking uncontrollably and he took the child without his permission out of the country .
I allowed him to have regular contact with our child when he returned but after a few months the wife joined him and i suspended contact . This was after me saying I didn't want the wife around my child and him ignoring my request twice .
This is not the first issues the wife has had , she had her first 3 children removed and later adopted because she was having issues with drink, drugs and was in an abusive relationship. This was several years before she married my ex.
The original order states the wife is not to be left alone with my daughter but after having such major issues involving police and their child being put at risk.
I have said he can see her but without the wife .
Where do I stand legally ?
Is there a difference between shared/joint care and shared/joint custody?
Who has parental responsibility for the child if it is joint care/ custody?
If half the state benefits go to each parent does one parent claim them then give half to the other parent or can you both claim half from the government so you actually get it?
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This is emotional abuse and very upsetting for the children.
It's high time police were given powers to give out penalty fines of £100 to breaching parents then we Dads wouldn't have to go back to Court.
We went to court, and I have a custody arrangement that when I am there in April for Easter I have custody of him. I did not travel there this Easter as I was injured at work and am facing surgery to my dominant hand. The custody order states the grandparents have to bring my son to Canada for two weeks this summer, three weeks next summer, and a month in 2019.
I have Skype visits each week and this is going well. I was in contact with his grandfather about when he had planned to bring my son to Canada so I could book time off. Things were going well, and just recently the grandparents told me that they would not be bringing him to Canada because I did not travel at Easter, although the court order does not state I have to. They further went on to tell me that if I come to England I can only have my son for one week like I would have in April.
I my look into moving 100 miles from my ex, but the court order states i have to get their permission ... which i know theyll refuse and go for custody on the basis that if little one is being moved then might as well move kid to their house.
So if i was just to up and move 100 miles closer what would the likely outcome be for breaking the court order?
a storm hhit I was unable to travel with my children to take them home. My ex called the cop's and my children were picked up. My ex accused me of making this a traumatic experience for the kids and did not want me to see them anymore. I lost track of them for almost 7 years and just found out that my ex remarried and has moved back. I tried to contact them but have been told the children no longer remember me and to just let it drop. They are happy and no longer need me in their lives. What should I do?
I have 50% custody of my son, i have him every other week (Fri-Fri), the mother has to reside at her mothers when she has my son on her days, as she was unfit to live by herself with my son, this is stated in the court order.
Now i have found out (Hard Proof) that she is now not staying at her mothers, but at a new house with her partner which he brought last year, i have pictures of them staying there, plus my son tells me he doesn't stay at his Nan's anymore but he stay's at mummys new house... the problem is he is only 4 years old, so his word in court is not taken.
I know it may seem like i am not letting her move on with life, but my son has come back each time saying he has not had dinner and also that his mom and partner smoke in the house with him there, he comes back with an awful cough and bad tummy every time, i am more worried that my son will suffer more.
What i need to know is what counts as proof that she is living there, i have photos of her car there every night when she has my son (at his bed time 7pm), the only thing is what if she tells the court that she just visits each night (even though thats a lie)?
Thank you for reading and any advice would be brilliant.
Bit of background: step-daughter is 8 years old, has had social services involvement 4 times and my husband has had to endure 2 court cases (not cheap) and looks like we are on to our 3rd.
Basically, when things fall apart on mothers side, we are penalised and allegations are thrown our way (always unfounded- in fact social services are yet to humour these as they have seen hope in our home on numerous occasions always noting the positive relationships between her siblings and both me and my husband). According to her mother, my step daughter is alleging that my husband threatened to hit her and is too scared and upset to have contact. Please note this coincides with another break-up between mother and her most recent partner.
Anyway, mother she has spoken to social services and they have no concerns so have directed her to citizens advice. Mother has breached the court order by refusing the weekend contact as she claims to be 'safeguarding' her daughter.
Has there been many success stories re fathers regaining contact? We both work hard, have two other children, have a mortgage to pay etc. Is it worth us spending money to fight. Will mother get help towards legal fees through legal aid, as dont think she could afford the £190 per hour we are going to have to pay? We are stuck in limbo at the moment and just need some help/ if possible reassurance
The system does not seem to take on board the ridiculousness of her actions. All it does is encourage her to keep the control and abuse up.
I don't know whether anyone can advise me, but as far as I am aware the CMS will up her money even though she is in breach of the court order, by stopping me seeing the kids.
If I were even remotely what she is accusing me of, I would shut my mouth and take my dues, but I am not and I am fed up with her constant prodding a poking.
There has to be a law that can stop it, surely
My daughters mother says she isn't stopping my contact but insists on me keeping her away from my house & taking her out "in the community", there is nothing in the contact order saying I can't take her to my house.
Can she stop me?
The reason I am writing this is I would like some help and advice as to can I ask for visiting rights to my sons child [my grandchild] who has just had her 9th birthday, as the mother of this child has suddenly not letting me see her for no reason, I was seeing her with her brother and sister for over a year, it was very limited access, of about 1 hour every 3/4 months but she was also present as well, It was not ideal but at least we were seeing her. {her brother and sister were from my sons first marriage] and are now 18 and 23.
My concerns are that not only are we missing her so much, but she must be wondering what on earth is going on, first she does not see her dad, then not also being able to see her nan and brother and sister, This will have a terrific effect on her as she is growing up as I my self know and have seen first hand as the child nearly always thinks it is there fault, I cannot find a site to go on that I could ask for help to gaining access to my granddaughter for myself and my other 2 grandchildren [her brother and sister]. I would like to go for mediation as to getting some access perhaps one day a month so we could see her together, My son is another matter he will have to deal with that when he comes out of prison. But it has to be good for her to have regular meetings with her family and to know she is loved and that she has done nothing wrong. I don't know why the mother has chosen not to answer any letters I have written and texts, and phone calls, but I can assure you we have done nothing wrong, and do not deserve this treatment.
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Luckily the judge awarded equal shared parenting between ourselves on a 5.2.2.5 rotating fortnightly pattern that recommences after the provision for the holidays (split equally)
6 weeks after the final order was granted she breaches the order, by emailing the police an alternative calender and they turn me away at my sons school,
This continues to the extent that she applies to the csa to change the banding regarding the nights my son spends with her, (she says 170 with me and 196 with her) and she has provided the csa with a letter detailing her 'nights' and I am to attend a tribunal!
My question is. Can the letter provided to the CSA by crazy ex be used by me to demonstrate that she is not complying with the court order, and what will be the likely outcome,
I should of mentioned that crazy ex is now a barrister!!
I am due to pick up my daughter on Friday - I have received a letter today from my ex telling me that due to my drug use and mental state that she is stopping over night contact and that any contact we have will be supervised.
I have smoked weed for about 20 years. Its something that I enjoy doing and it doesn't effect me much as I have smoked it for so long. It makes me feel relaxed and is my luxury after the rest of my money goes on bills ect.
She states that my daughter is withdrawn, and stressed when I return her on a Sunday and cries when she knows im coming to pick her up - (shes happy as larry when she's with me and find when I drop her off) and states that my daughter is telling her that I tell her shes naughty and a bad girl (which she is sometimes - what kid isn't?)
Anyway - what right does she have to stop contact especially after the courts have ordered her to give me regular contact? I don't see myself as a danger to my daughter.... I work, have my own flat pay maintenance - I just like smoking weed! I don't see what the problem is!
So shes taking me back to court to get a court order and a drugs test (can they do that?) and in the meantime I have to spend 2 hours every other sunday with my daughter at a play centre?? until this goes through!
What can I do!
I don't feel happy seeing my daughter at my exs mums house people watching me and judging me what is my best option of going forward?
They are basically saying that tough there is nothing they can do even though it's putting words into a child's head !!
My son has now received a letter saying that he has to go back to court in July as the wife is moving far away & his access will be only once a fortnight ... How in this day and age are women and courts allowed to get away with it ... Fathers get a raw deal as it is & there is no balance when he's paid maintenance & being denied his right as a father ...
Please can someone help a worried mother & grandmother but most of all my son who is beside himself & a broken man
He cannot afford a solicitor anymore and when he contacted the original solicitor to get advice they said to him that legally she can get away with it
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After being screwed over by a biased social worker and biased MARAC team member in courts I've been given minimum of a Friday through till Saturday, I've asked for more contacted between my ex and I but she refuses to give me more now she has been caught fiddling the tax credits and have dropped her money she is now making more lies up at school I'm being bombarded by threats from other parents at the school and it's at the point where I'm being escorted off the school premises by the police with my children I just want some peace from it all and some proper contact with my kids any advice is welcome
There are many parents who misuse substances , yet at the same time are capable of caring properly for their children and are not putting them at risk i.e if we there was safeguarding around every child whose parents smoked cannabis, then the system would not be able to cope. At the same time if you see that due to substance abuse your child is not being cared for properly because your ex's lifestyle has become disorganised and chaotic and your child is missing school or being neglected, this is a different matter. Therefore, some legal advice will be able to ascertain whether keeping your child against the court order is the best approach.
will i be arrested? my ex has residency order that say out child lives with her ..
however i have video evidence of my ex smoking drugs around our child ..
but if i ring the police and dont send our child back for this reason as its child abuse
would i get arrested by the police ? or would i be breaching the court order doing the and arrested for comtempt of the court ?
Lose respect for me and become uncontrollable , it was agreed from both sides.
I have had a job offer and would now like to take my daughter to live abroad for 12 months . I have arranged a school, accommodation and all things necessary to make sure that he was happy for me to take her , the issue I have is that dad now (although not saying I can't go) has decided he wants a formal document stating I will have full financial responsibility for flying out daughter to see him and my son to see me. The school needs documentation to say that I am able to take my daughter abroad and I have dads authority to do so and enrol her at the school. Dad is saying he won't consent unless I get something written and signed by a solicitor. I have spoken to a solicitor who says that he can't do anything and even if he could it wouldnt be worth the paper it is written on as it wouldn't be law abiding unless a court order was in place.. I feel he is purposely being obstructive and his concerns are not his child's welfare but it's more financial and a control issue. He sees his daughter 2 weekends in 5 and pays 100 a month for her and this has always been a civil arrangement . I seem to be coming up against brick walls as he is a police sergeant and has also had had social services involved purely because he didn't like my partner whom I have a child to. Please help as a this job is to ensure I can do the very best for my children and give them an opportunity to learn a second language and have a new experience .he is refusing to speak to me until he has had an in depth ( his words) conversation with a solicitor .
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My ex wife let the kids at school, nearly 3 years ago and has not seen them, sent a birthday card nothing. Due to my daughter's behaviour i put boundaries in place and never let her go on a few trips.
Social services removed my daughter without any consent or notification a month ago.
NO EPO , ICO nothing.
However, my son still resides with me. I found out that the allegations were Low physical violence and emotional abuse.
I voluntarily went to the police station some 14 days later and was put on bail, allegations of Low physical violence and emotional abuse.
My daughter had stated i hit her with a shoe and then a bed slat.
In the Child conference report, my daughter states she was looking for something under the bed and the bed slat broke. Then she said in the social workers report, i threw it at her.
Police searched my home and found my shoes and the bed slat.
At the meeting my daughter has stated to all agencies that she wishes to see me.
Social agreed and 2 weeks prior to the meeting so did the police.
They tracked down mum and now she is claiming parental responsibilty and my daughter is living with her nan. Not mum as my son made allegations of a sexual nature about mum's now husband .
It took him 6 months to tell me and the police could not do anything due to it had been so long.
Now mum is going to court trying to get residency of both the children, Mum went to school to speak to my son and he said he did not wish to go with her and walked out from the meeting.
I am on bail and the social worked is deliberately excluding me from meeting and just updating me. I have been making the calls to the social worker not the other way round.
They had no legal basis on removing my daughter.
I have made a formal complaint and it seems it may be swept under the carpet by her superiors.
Can the court awrd custody to their mum? Whilst this is going on? These are only allegations and i am on bail?
I have a court order in place which I see my kids every other weekend ,I recently moved house about a hour away from where the kids live now my ex has stopped all contact even tho I'm prepared to travel to collect and drop them off.. we agreed on text for me to recently start having them again and yet again she stopped it. She keep moving the goal posts all the time when she doesn't like something.. I haven't got the money yet to take her back to court and proceed with the next step, because we don't get on for various reasons I have my mother who is willing to act as a go between to save us from arguing etc. . But the ex doesn't like it and that is one off the reasons she has stopped contact. Due to past events I haven't given her my new number or address but as I have said before my mum is willing to act the go between (I thought this was the best option due to past events )
can someone please help on this matter and maybe point me in the right direction..
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Go he a horrible person I don't think he's ever ask how his son is ever! I then found out by his girlfriend they didn't have any food heating in the house for electricity so how would this be good for my son I'm the middle of winter he came back one time with a black eye that he can't tell me what he had done he just told me I didn't see it and he never said any to him I'm worried sick everytime me son going I'm 34weeks pregnant and I worrie myself that much when my son gose with him iv not had problems with my unborn child he seem to be more worried about hurting me that caring for his son I'm losing my fight I feel that people don't care about these thing and the man got a record of beating woman! His still not don't a anger management course witch the court order for him to do it but apparently the place told him he dose not have to do it but I was told my the court he had to before over night could happen he's gave me no prof of this at all
No as she's been warned by the police about false accusations she's now stopped contact and made allegations that I'm teaching my 2 year old to swear and I'm telling my 7 and 4 yr old things it's tearing me sort in the last 13 contacts I've seen them twice were in court on Monday at 12 does anybody no of any kind of order or loophole or anything I can do to try and get my kids away from there mum she's mentally unstable is spreading vile vicious rumours wich have ruined my credibility at school and around the estate and she's constantly having them around drugs drug users and having a man driving them around under the influence of drugs
She has surrounded herself by drug users and I'm in fear for the children's Health and safety I'm at my wits end with it I've spent 66 hours in police custody since the 18th I have no criminal record and I'm devoted to my children can anybody please help
This is not just my opinion this is real fact
One day in the future women will be treated as equal and they probably won't like it .its not so good over her in blokes world
We do it tough I can't wait until TRUE equality is reached
The issue that surrounds custody could be fair for everyone this could even include the child .
This order worked fine(ish) for a while when there was no contact as the child was picked up and dropped off at school - We live together and all get on well with eachother when the child is there though it is obvious at times that the child is coached by its mother to say and do controversial things. We try to smoothover this and not react as the child is simply being used as a weapon. Prior to going back to school in the autumn the mother refused contact completely firstly on the basis that the child was not safe with us and we found ourselves having to go back to court as the original order had been broken (it had in fact been broken many times previously but in petty ways designed to annoy and so we had always 'turned a blind eye' to this as we knew what she was up to - looking for a reaction and an argument which we would never rise to). At court however, it turned out that her issue is with me and she has pettitioned the court to allow minimal contact for the child with my partner (9 hrs per week over 2 occasions) provided that I am not there and she has requested cafcass checks done on me - this means that in the interim whilst the checks are being done that I have to vacate my own home in order that the child can be with its father. This is also despite the fact that social services had written a report concerning the child (when the mother left the child being looked after by a 9 year old with no adults present and resulted in the child breaking their elbow) which stated that there was no danger to the child whilst in our care.
We have also had numerous late night visits from the police due to nuisance allegations being made against us by the childs mother over situations which have never happened and cannot be substantiated - our only way of dealing with these has been to make a complaint to the police force in question about the force themselves as , because they do not link separate instances when they are called out, they are being unwittingly used as a tool to harrass us with.
We feel let down by a great number of bodies on many levels - the police, the courts, social services etc as everything seems stacked against any father with little or no effort made to assess a situation properly - the mothers hearsay is taken as gospel with no opportunity for redress on our part. We do not know why we are being treated like this as we just want to get on with our lives a
My partner's ex breached a court order giving her access to two of their 5 children residing with us. She also left England and moved to Scotland my her new boyfriend taking my partner's youngest daughter with them. He have now paid over 4 thousand pounds to get her back living with us and her siblings but have been told there is not much else to do if mother isn't Co operating. My children and my stepchildren are finding the separation from their sister very hard what else can we do.
The court and gotten a court order to see my daughter every other weekend.now she wants to move to Berton Upon Trend,and thats way fatrther and i cant afford to go any further thats a lng drive for me,the court order has stated that she is suppose to get her ready for me to pick her up in Wolverhampton.what can i do now?
I have just realised that his father has his passport and when i tried to ask for him to give it back to me he refused. I called police and asked them to help me but all they could do was call him and ask him like i did previously, which he refused again.
I would like to take my son on holiday this year as its been a stressfull couple of months for us and he has really been looking forward to it.
Is there any way i can get the passport back from him? without going court if possible?
I have looked into a "Specific issue order" but before i can apply to court it says i must do mediation? is this correct?
please could you advise me on what my options are and what cost's i would be looking at if i was to go ahead with court proceedings.
Thank you
My son's father is now a British citizen and refusing to apply for my son's citizenship.
My son is almost six, I have struggled and would automatically be given a form of settlement should his father apply for his British passport. Can a specific issues order be useful in this case?
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