Every year, many people in the UK are falsely accused of domestic violence. The reasons for this are wide-ranging. Some partners or ex-partners make up allegations of domestic violence to get out of a relationship that they are otherwise unhappy with, others do it to spite their partners, while some still want to ensure that they stop (usually) the father from seeing the children.
If you're facing false accusations of domestic violence, getting organised and strategic early on is crucial, which is why we created our free False Allegations Response Planner.
In other circumstances, a stranger, someone you know, or perhaps your child's teacher could become concerned about an injury to your child or something your child says – and refers Social Services to you. The tragic fact is that this does happen to people who are totally innocent of any crime. Sadly, although in this country you are 'innocent until proven guilty', the truth is that sometimes people can get charged and found guilty for domestic violence on very little evidence.
What Can Happen
You can be arrested while in your own home, in front of your partner and children, and in full view of the neighbours. Then you can be taken to the police station, your DNA taken and held on file, and interviewed while under caution. You could find yourself in court, charged with an offence for which you have done nothing wrong. Worst of all, you could end up with a criminal conviction and sent to prison. The problem is, when emotions are running high after a break up or divorce, one call to the police can have far-reaching consequences. If word gets around your local community, you could suffer verbal abuse, harassment or worse for being a 'monster'.
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If this happens to you, you need to be aware of your rights. You are entitled to legal advice at the police station. If you waive your right, you may end up saying something that could be misconstrued, especially if you are tired or are lulled into a false sense of security by the interviewing officers. There have been many cases that have been successfully brought by the Crown Prosecution Service purely on the basis of an admission in interview at the police station.
If you do speak to a lawyer, tell them the truth because if you are coy, or uncooperative, they are not going to be able to advise you properly. The police may bail you to return to the police station on another date. If they do this, you MUST ensure you go back on the day and at the time specified, or you will be charged with an offence of 'failure to surrender' and a warrant may be issued for your arrest. If you are innocent of any crime, be persistent, stick to the truth and try your best not to get angry at any stage. If you find yourself in court, it is vital that you come across as genuine and sincere about your innocence.
Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.
Implications For Your Accuser
If your partner or ex-partner accuses you of domestic violence, when you have in fact done nothing wrong, by the time the police are involved your ex has already committed a criminal offence for which they could receive a prison sentence of up to six months. If they then go on to falsify evidence to the authorities – the police, social services etc – they are then perverting the course of justice. If the case actually gets to court, and you find yourself in the dock on trial for something you haven't done, your accuser would in most circumstances have to give evidence in court. If they are still lying at this stage, they are committing perjury. These are all serious criminal offences for which your ex-partner could serve a long prison sentence.
See our articles on Being Falsely Accused Of Child Abuse and Being Falsely Accused Of Rape on this site.
I'm accused of reeking of perfume..who have you had here ?.....when actually I was on the sofa all-day watching Netflix on my own.. impossible to prove...she grabs my phone..yes there's porn...I admit to that..but also going on websites talking/looking at local girls....this i have not done but can't explain cause there it is..black and white....makes me sit Infront of boys and say what I've done wrong..even though the websites i know I've not done.
Big fight next night..she punches me on the sofa..kids screaming in their bedroom and shouts dad's just punched me call the police...totally untrue again..I'm kicked out before police arrive no phone nothing and spend 2 nights in a church doorway..I now have
shelter...and she...plasters on Facebook she has suffered the domestic abuse and now I find out she's ' in a relationship ' with someone new..who is a website content maker !!! Coincidence?..and just 4 weeks after the incident..now I had the Dom abuse and there's no way after something like that idea get into a new relationship.. especially when I find out he's an alcoholic!!....the fight starts now..she has bipolar..he's an alcoholic she's weaponised my boys against me too but..I will get my boys to safety...I will get my boys back and back to as normal life as I can...I'm 58 but I'm determined.
Thank u for letting me get it off my chest mentally.
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She claimed at first it was someone she used to work with, then later changed her story to state it was someone she’d connected with on linkedin but nothing was going on.
I started to film her behaviour on my phone as I intended to replay her the clips when she was sober. When I tried once it aggravated her further. She stated it was illegal to record her.
When these incidents occurred, I would try and completely ignore her by often leaving the house or going to another room as she would just push for an argument.
I have many videos on my phone where I can clearly be heard saying to her that she needs to calm down as it is late at night/early hours of the morning and my daughter is in bed trying to sleep. She had no regard for this. The clips clearly show how aggressive she is and how drunk she would get. there are a couple of videos that clearly show she has assaulted me.
Completely unaware to me she went to the police and reported me for controlling and coercive behaviour, along with five counts of strangulation with intent. I was obviously arrested, taken to the police station and questioned, released on bail for three months with the restriction of not being able to go to the family home and not contacting my wife directly or indirectly.
Night, one of my arrest, my wife invited friends over to the house and had a loud raucous drinking session until the early hours of the morning, my daughter upstairs in her bedroom was texting me until 3:30 am, stating she was unable to sleep due to the noise coming from downstairs. The same happened on night two, night three, my daughter made arrangements herself to sleep at one of her friends houses as she was exhausted from the previous night’s events. This was the beginning of July during school. Night four my daughter came and stayed with me at my sisters house.(as I have nowhere else to stay.) and has been with me since, this week marks 10 weeks since my arrest. During this time, my wife has sent random messages to my daughter often laboured all with no emotion and my daughter has chosen not to reply as she is disgusted by my wife’s behaviour and feels that she has not had a relationship with my wife for approximately 18 months due to her behaviour and lack of emotion towards her. On the two occasions, my daughter has been back to our house to collect things within the last 10 weeks. My wife has made her feel particularly uncomfortable and even tried frisking her on the doorstep.
During my time with the police, they were not interested whatsoever in anything I had to show on my mobile phone. Consequently I
She though does not mentioned any of the demestic violence she inflicted on me towards anyone else even the police caution of common assault. She just mentions that I by mistake let a door close on her due to wind catching it and this she then goes on a rant about me abusing her and making up lies of abuse. My reputation has been damaged and now I cannot visit my daughter residence because the neighbours now have the impression I am an abuser.
What can I do legally if anything to stop her from making false allegations becuase I am now not able to show my face around my daughers residence where she lives with her mum?
Mam died, & using my tax free pension allowance, £20k endowment policy, & some earnings I bought my brothers half of the family home, becoming outright owner.
She contacted me out of the blue, one thing led to another, and in 2018 we remarried.... I know I was/ still am a fool.
Over the past few years she keeps going to the Police accusing me of domestic abuse, cohersive control/stalking etc. with me ending up being arrested on multiple occasions/ kept overnight in the cells, missing work, banned from any contact with her & from the family home that I bought, but put her name on the deeds. Every time I am released "No Further Action" but now she is applying for a non molestation & occupation order to keep me out. Apparently with a history of domestic abuse against me, No criminal proof, but her statement of events is enough.
Living in a car, and she wants me to contribute to the house bills too.
Not working, to old to start over, but still love her...Cant see any future, got no money, I should have been retired years ago if she didn't divorce me. Shoot me now....I have started divorce proceedings, because of the threat of being arrested at anytime, but would go back given the chance. Can't live in a car for long at my age, (63) but all the cards are stacked in the woman's favour (glad in a way, I have two daughters) but being accused because she fears for her safety with no physical evidence, is making me think of ending it altogether. Three weeks till court, then at least I know its definitely time to end it
I pressed charges against her while in prison for false allegations, wasting police time, ruining my life but nothing has been done by the police or the PPS respective CPS. Even the solicitor seems to go aganst me when the facts however speak a total different language.
I'm currently under court bail not to contact her or my littlen in any way shape or form and I'm barred from the area as well.
I keep on persisting with those charge pressed against her and hope that after moren then 4 months things start moving in the right direction to finally get justice.
My son has been accused of domestic violence.
It's not because I'm his mother I say this.
But my son is as soft as butter and incapable of defending himself let alone violence.
He's now homless and lives in a van and has a phyco bitch pressing charges against him.
Some women are just men haters and bullies.
They choose soft men to dominant because real men reject them.
So for all those guys out there that have been wrongly accused.
Don't let it brake you.
Grow stronger through the experience and nt time. Get yourself a real woman. Not a scrap end that no one else wants. Your worth more.
I have a police bail about controlling and coercive behavior until 12 july.my ex made q false report.she has a new nan and she just want take me out our council house.we have joint contract.before the police bail alkwas i am cooking i play with the kids i am take to the bath.i do evetything.now she want every weekend i am with the boys.vut where I live now i can not take there the youngest.i told her 6-8 hours is too much on the street fir our youngest boy.he just 1 and half years.she said she dont care not her problem.and the bjys weekly 1 2 Times has a bath they very dirty.before the police i am start the parenting pman on cafcass website.i has not any problem before wuth the police.but i dont know will i need go to the jail?or where can I found sonebody how help me stay with my kids?
in last resort i will change my sex to be treated equaly.
I gave uncodicional love to them all never even shouted.
got betrayed and stolen of my house and everyhting i own by my ex.
im creating a group on facebook and writing a book to sell on kdp lets get together to fight back for justice.
this police approach is not fit for purpose are breaking lives and using public resources incorrectly.
Having a child arrangements case, I started without legal representation as just wanted shared care. Ex filed non mol order with a list of false allegations, clear to get legal aid, nothing upheld in court. Two months later I am arrested on 4 historic false allegations. I gave my phone over, released on pre charge bail for 71 days, this was extended a further 6 months a week before due to answer. I've asked for an update but heard nothing.
The arrest to me was to try and prevent contact with child which ultimately it didn't do. I'm constantly down, can't sleep, want to see child as contact has been stopped due to exes family behaviour towards me and me logging it with the police to protect myself.
Any help would be appreciated, I can't afford the costs that are mounting and can't take additional legal advice. Been told I'm doing everything right but it's not helping me at present.
English my second language.
was panic and anxious fear of conviction.
No legal aid support no proper advice no counselling.
I am on medication treatment for depression But lawyer use this against me as a mental disorder person. police disclosers document unfortunately Year 2011 must remove on record but still there use this against me as a convicted against property i am happy my conviction against property but my Ex she is convicted dangers for life year 2019 left 5 months old baby Home alone risk child safety.law favorite to woman diversity is named she got first conviction now baby live with dangers person. My conviction only one and first time and years ago diversity cause neglect little child get father love. i pray who have power have mercy on little child needs father love. heavenly father melt people heart have mercy on poor people.
I love my daughter i have pain march 9 will be her 4 years old birthday until now i have no idea my daughter little heart little imagination. I am only cast my pain Jesus Christ. I believe Jesus choose my daughter dedication consecration of children to God and baptize with the Holy Spirit and fire. Because God miracle plan used me saved my daughter when she was 5 months old.
Matthew 21:21Then Jesus told them, “I tell you the truth, if you have faith and don’t doubt, you can do things like this and much more. You can even say to this mountain, ‘May you be lifted up and thrown into the sea,’ and it will happen.
So i have faith i will continue my pray pray for Child protection - Redbridge Council open their mind be wise for understand narcist psychopath mother is trauma for little child.
Because i have witness my Ex narcissistic psychopathic has no mother feeling her delusional Behavior because narcissistic is believing that they are above the law or having unrealistic fantasies about themselves.they might constantly try to seek admiration from those around them. These individuals are self-centered and likely to put their own needs first.
i am so regretful my ex used me for her wicked plan she had have conversation with her best friend she planing make child for get extra room for her flat get universal credit and child benefit and security herself immigration statues. My ex worry about her welfare she doesn't care about child may she be happy take child away from her.this is just beginning i have more words i am tired now and emotional cry put me down i come back continue this dramatic story.
Distance and other means due to my extreme exploitation. Wasn’t allowed to leave for medical stuff when collapsing threatening to leave to take all and poison kids against me. Get me locked up. Full nervous breakdown. No help. Then bipolar when kicked out of home as couldn’t get medical . 600 miles away from a house I paid 100% for including furnishings to stop her crying. Tried to help. Completely dulled me. Only just understanding it was deliberate cos I love her still. I have no defence as she reported first. Scotland. Merge defences I can’t prove all emotionally driven n financially but not provable as all on my card. Terrible not be forced into saying u havent done something you’ve endured to unlikely see the kids. Can’t work eat anything. Nothing is mine. Law is biased I was in a breakdown. Not commented
There have been 3 visits to the home and not on any of them has she left and I know I left myself in a difficult situation but I was so desperate to spend time with my children.
On the 3rd occasion on 15th May 2022, she claims I used threatening behaviour towards her - which I most certainly didn't. I was arrested by the police for breaching the order and held in custody for 18 hours (horrendous experience), I was released on conditional bail. I feel that she has constantly "used the legal system" when it has suited her and then changed her story or dropped her allegations. BTW, the only history of domestic violence in the relationship was her against me. I have never laid a finger on her, whereas she has smashed a broken vodka bottle across my back and punched me around the head. Does anyone have any advice and has anyone else experienced anything similar? Please help, I am desperate
yes you can argue but its true those women out there had very hard life once you give them better life they will stay with you until your last day.
30 min later 6 police officer stormed on my house and took me to the next room and said to me that your wife complained that you dragged her from the bed and punched her face 4-5 times and throw her on the floor.. Which was totally lie. So I replied to the police that its all about money she wanted from me and thats why she now don't want me to live with her. but police took me to 24 hours custody interviewed me and then left me on bail not to move closer to my own house and children on any cost.
Now I have no idea what will happed as she is staying in my house and I have paid the rent.. Should I stop paying the rent ??? as I believe I will not be able to get back to my house for next 3 month even more...
My wife maybe applying for refuge house but no idea if she is doing or not but at the moment she is in my House
I have taken legal advice.
The accuser, my husband, is on record as being non-supportive (he was drunk).
He has since withdrawn all allegations but I am still - potentially - going to have to go through a system that does seem to favour liars.
What happens when an alleged 'victim' sobers up? What is the best thing to do to not be prosecuted falsely?
I can't contact him, directly or indirectly.
He has told the police he doesn't want to pursue this.
I am really scared and will off myself before being found guilty of something I didn't do at all.
All help very well received.
Thank you.
Anyway a few months later I had an ear infection I have had it before so no problems, however a few hours later I started to get a violent head ache which a doctor misdiagnosed as normal for an ear infection the end result was 24 hours later I was in a coma in hospital with meningitis, this left me profoundly deaf and unable to walk in low light or darkness because my balance organs had been destroyed by it as well, and truthfully ruined my life, a year later I was summoned to hospital and they told me that they found the reason why I had meningitis it was because on both side of my skull the tegmen was missing and my brain was flopping onside me ear cavity. I new instantly how this happened, it was due to the punch in the head she gave me, yet again I kept my mouth shut about it, we were getting on really well again and i did not want to rock the boat, I had a 13 hour operation to repair the damage, and since having meningitis she had stopped the violence. Things upto about 3 and a half years ago have been OK but then the area manager of the company she worked for started accusing her of not doing her job properly, I have to say that he was benign unfair as she put her heart and sole into the shop she managed, This badly effected her and she left the job but a few weeks later she started to blame me for it saying I was always jealous of her success, this really upset me as I was always there for her supporting her, Over the next three years I fought hard to save the marriage but on a Friday evening on late this January she told me she wanted a divorce I was gutted we have been together for 35 years married for 34, but at the same time there was this great s
my ex wife after 17 years in a relationship (Married for 6 years) we have 3 children together my oldest is 14 i have 2 daughters of 3 and 10.
my ex wife commited adultarty and had been having an affair and now pregnant with her new man, i confronted her about the affair and in result of this i have had 13 police callouts on me and been made by the courts after she put a Non molestation and a Occupation order on me in july 2020, the courts have forced me off my tenancy after 17 years they gave her sole tenancy of the house.
the courts ordered the orders on me without any evidence of domestic voilence!!
she had stopped me seeing my children for the last 8 months...the system as let me down to the extreme where i am now homeless and facing jail! been stopped from seeing my children with no evidence
Thank you in advance for any comments or feedback.
A detective called me and started to tell me to save my side of the story so I did then he said why did I bit his thumb. I pause because I was shocked. I told him I never did that so I don’t know where he’s getting that from.
As far as the detective in him pressing charges I have no idea about that.
Now he says that he wants to say that everything he said was false.
I even told him listen even if you say his fault he might think that I’m forcing you to say that or something like to that extent you’re a mean so this is like a huge problem.
I am video of him admitting to everything.
Also other day I took pictures of myself because he hit me in the face several times and I had bruises. I told it to the detective and he said that he never had mentioned that. The pictures of the day and the time which was today of what happened.
I’ve been talking to my psychiatrist about all this and she will write a letter in the fence about me also my landlord to because he has noticed everything and has noticed that Alex has a history of calling the police for just everything not related to me.
What to do
I have found myself in a similar but more horrifying situation. My ex-partner is accusing me of assauting her 10 year old daughter back in July 2020, spitting in her face and harrassing her through text messages.
I spent 22 hours in a cell and was questioned and released on bail, to appear at the police station on the 11th December.
All these allegations took place after I went to collect my 4 year old daughter as pre-arranged with my ex and she refused for me to see my daughters as she said I employed a mediator and now cant see my kids.
I called the police as was afraid the situation would get hostile only for them to arrest me claiming that my ex alleged I had assaulted her and her daughter back in July 2020.
I am now on bail and unable to see my kids. The likelyhood is that I will be remanded in custody on the 11th as the CPS only take into account my ex's statement and this will be enough to prosecute me.
1 week after my ex received british citizenship through all my families hard work and efforts, I had found out that she was already in an affair with someone else. Even after giving her a second chance, she was still involved with another affair and still came back to me for help with applying for her british passport....this is really a growing trend the Home office needs to look into, as I have seen a very clear link between false allegations against men from women who have come to the UK clearly to obtain citizenship.
I have lived in an abusive relationship from her towards me and my daughter since she came to the UK only a few years ago and its now been over 6 months since the charges were dropped after she did not support her bogus statement with countless holes in it, clearly as she played the victim , she was not even done for wasting police time or what I had to go through for over 3 months of the police clearly not dealing with the case properly, and numerous admin errors, from 1 allegation to 4 and then to 2.
I really had no idea how bad things are handled with the police till I was in the spotlight and not working for them for a change.
My advice to any guy who is encountering an kind of domestic abuse or has a mental condition that is being made worse by their spouse, I recommend you tell the right people right away, no loved one will ever abuse, scam or play on your condition for their own personal benefit. Notice the warning signs and get help as soon as possible.
True there are hardly any resources aimed at men who are facing domestic abuse or false allegations of any kind. Most results on the web are aimed at women, and this is a really biased view on what is really going on in relationships.
It is almost pretty safe to say that if you are a man in modern UK, you are always going to be at risk for having a penis.
But don’t understand why in comments section it’s mostly woman and there stories! I was hoping with the title separated dads it would provide contents of other dads going through similar situations. I care about these women opinions and feelings as they are equally as important as the next person. They have a very high number of website for women and very little for men
Immediately after I found out from her relatives that
I was a victim of fraud and they knew her intention from the start ,
She called the police and filled domestic abuse under false allegations , her main purpose was to get indefinite leave to remain .
I see alot of men seeking for some sort of advice or direction but no response? Can we please have advise or directions where these men can get some help and or support.
We both ended up become very insecure over time and admittedly started to control one another. The relationship became highly toxic to the point we both just couldn't cope with each other's demands anymore. We did love each other but our expectations of each other became ridiculous and out of control.
We ended up officially breaking up in May of 2018. After that point we remained "friends" bit we were still intimate both physically and emotionally towards eachother.
This went on for 16 months. Within the 16 months we would go for meals together, and have days out and spent Christmas 2018 together.
We where still very loving and wanted to be in each other's lives.
Despite what we wanted, we ended up having a big fall out and completely stopped seeing eachother. We do have a little boy together.
This is now where things take a real turn for the worst...
In November of 2019, 2 years after our official break up, there was a knock at my door... it was the Police!
He handed me a card which said "Harassment" on it! I was confused why they where giving me a card as I've harassed no one.
I called the contact number on the phone and I then ended up in a 3 hour police interview.
The interview was recorded.
I was asked a multitude of questions regarding our relationship and she had written a statement saying I had coerced her and controlled her etc!
I was honest at the station... I said yes I did this or said that "but so did she"!
Ultimately it went to CPS and I ended up in Magistrate's court. I pleaded not guilty. I now have to go to crown court to make another plea, which will be the same.
It will go to trial!
The fact is this...
The relationship was toxic and we BOTH Behaved inappropriately towards each other.
She controlled me and was disgusting to me at times and vice versa. I simply cannot plead guilty when I know it was a two way street.
The problem I have is my admissions in the station which has ended me up in this absolute mess.
She has told so many lies it's absolutely horrendous and I can't believe how terrible she is and how hurtful she is.
I have evidence of her disgusting controlling behaviour in our relationship. I have texts and even a video of the way she was treating me.
So far not even the solicitor knows my side of the story or has seen my evidence.
I have decided I am going to go to the police station and report her along with my evidence for the very same "Crime"!
She has also stopped me from seeing my son.
This is an absolute mess and I could be facing ALOT of trouble. I've never been in trouble with the law in my life. She is evil and twisted and is being vindictive.
Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
I was humiliated by five racist police officers and now they are milking it. I have a court date on the 9th July please help me my whole life is ruined I have been suicidal when I did nothing wrong even my parents admitted that
everyone please install CCTV, micro cameras, its time to show evidence and be one step ahead, fake system,
I have been arrested 5 times for domestic violence, each time the allegations were I have pushed my partner, spat in her face, false allegations.
the police try and make the most of it, encouraging partners to submit statements so they can press charge. the whole English system is fake, innocent individuals get caught up. The police is crafty they work on performance targets and the officers are trying there best to get a statement, they try and trick people
my cases have failed, CPS tried to prosecute me, but the Judge threw the case out.
domestic violence the women are exploiting the laws, lying to police, false allegations, overall the working partner has to pay for solicitor costs,
fake system, fake law,
I spent a total of 45 days with this woman in 2 years before she got here and did this,having met on a dating site.I am going to lose the lot now,while she plays the system with her new Russian man in the UK and set themselves up for life at my expense. The solicitors she's engaged happen to be Russian nationals practising in the UK-it's a massive scam and nothing is done about it because she hides behind the DV laws. I have been at the point of suicide this past 20 months-I haven't seen or heard from her,but managed to find out what she was up to.
This is the ultimate nightmare-stay away from Ukrainian and Russian dating sites,it's a huge scam and the women only want immigration,before playing the system and disappearing with their real partner,and destroying lives.
They tell immigrant scammers only women get believed because of the scottish dv laws and the fact the local police and social services are in bed with them. They provide council paid housing all free while british people are homeless and they encourage this dv immigration scam and make money from doing this fraud. The fake dv scammers never want to return home with free tax payer money payed to them.
The home office can not act because the police charge the british victim husband or british family members as abusers.
Everyone affected by their scam needs to report to their mp and report the matter to the parlimentary ombudsman.This is the same as edinburgh council property repairs fraud. They try to intimidate and silence the victims.This needs to be made public
Thankfully she is no longer taken over my home and every second but there's still a long way to go.
Like I said, it's a shakti scam but at least my kids are in UK.
I'm still paying the visa and debts to bring her here and she tried to buy 10g car and is looking to another 4g holiday and doesmt work. It is indeed a womams world and theres nothing equal about it.
Also how can I deal with it in Financial Settlement as I do not want to pay her a single pound when she has accused us for DV. What does the Law or any Court Order say.
This scam was told to my ex by SHAKTI womans aid edinburgh as she wanted accomodation.
They then tried to intimidate me by having me constantly arrested on fabricated allegations.
Woman are above the law if backed by womans aid.
Thanks to them as soon as a visa was obtained by my illegal ex i got arrested for dv.
Muhammeds advice does not work. The home office did nothing and now i can not see my child for a year because they then made up im a rapist and child abuser to try and get me put in jail .All the while she gets rewarded with free accomodation and UK benefits.
My wife works close probation officer and even she lied to my case and put probation report lot off lies asking to judge get prison sentence I put complaint probation service but again they not interested.
All my advise don't put yourself in danger especially if you minor ethnic groups police and CPS coming against you.
I have proofs that she's lying in all her "statement of truth" and I have no compassion at all to send her to jail for everything she's done to me. She's told them she's afraid I kill her and my baby!!!! She's totally mental! She's a real sociopath and I have several proofs of everything and of their plan to destroy me and give a new father to my son! She's from Peru and her mother did exactly the same to her dad! Totally insane. I got today a non molestation order and I'm moving out tomorrow so I can be following the law (I don't know why... they just on her side apparently) and clear my mind and workout the best way to prove all this. I have a hearing in 2 weeks since it says that tribunal will "re-consider" the case. Is that my chance to prove every lie from her. ? Or is that just to blind me behind bars for years ? I never did more than love my kid and I have proofs and witnesses that she's an alcoholic and a sociopath! Please someone call or email me!
SET DV (ILR) she wont get visa if domestic violence not found. please also report to Action Fraud if you think if are victim of marriage fraud and she used you to get in to Britain and take that reference number to police station and ask them to make a formal report and investigate this matter. if she pledging you false accusation on you in actual she is committing a crime . i would advise you to go to police station and ask them to follow CPS guidance as she fail to proof dv and she falsely accuse police should act on set under CPS guidance. please also make sure you informed curtailment to curtailed her visa. i hope this information will help you
Hope you are all well.
I am going through this false domestic violence claim, but for me it is being done to obtain an indefinite leave to remain visa. I caught my wife chating and sending naked pics of her self to her 'boyfriend', I was fooled into marrying her as she made me believe she was madly in love with me.
She ran away from me and went to her aunt who helped her file a false police report and help her get aid with 'Next Link' a women's aid organisation. Aunt then had a fall out with the wife so the aunt informed me what they did to help her. She also informed me that the support worker at 'Next Link' said the best way to increase her chances was to lie and claim domestic violence.
I have the aunt's confessision on my phone but the police wont take action that a false report was filed against me to obtain a visa.
Any ideas how I can take this forward?
Thanks
Ex trying to move my sons school... So I did a prohibited step order... Now she in contesting it... Saying one of the reason she wants to move my son from school is because of domestic violence and is scared from me. Its all a lie. I haven't seen my kids for 7 weeks now, waiting for child arrangements hearing to come through.
What do I do now because these allegations she will put across are false?! All I want is to see my lil babies that's all.
Can someone please give me some advice.
Kind Regards
all designed for maximum impact, with alot of hurt and pain, toward people who have been accused of something they havant done, and all design to get a house thru domestic violence,and a quick divorce, very clever, and now im having to talk to my solicitor and the Police, and to clear my name, as i did not assault my ex wife never ever, all this has done now is open a hole can of worms, i cant say much more because its being investigated, what mess all this is, why lie i just dont understand
Any advice as he seems to be getting nowhere.
Even though his partner has fully backed him.
In May 20017 my sons wife thought he was having an affair with a neighbor which he totally wasn’t, for a whole week they were arguing about this, it was bank holiday weekend May 2017 my son and the family went down to there caravan, on the Monday teatime my son left the caravan park as he had work the rest of the week and had to bring his teenage daughter from a previous relationship back, his wife stayed down the caravan until the Saturday morning with her mother in the caravan next door, they had been exchanging text messages all week while she was away, on the Saturday morning while my son was at work she returned home, she took some pictures in our bedroom of some injuries she had incurred somehow, my son returned home from work at around 2.45 pm on the Saturday as he was due to fit a carpet for his wife’s sister, he had promised his older son that he could go with him as he often did at weekends, his younger son decided he wanted to go also to play with his cousin, so they all 3 left to go to her sisters house,arrived at her sister house just before 3pm, was due to pick his daughter up around 5pm, so fitted a hall,stairs and landing carpet and arrived home to pick up the family car so he could pick his daughter up as she was spending the weekend with them as she often did, the car was not there and nor was his wife, so he called her to see where she was at cos he was in the van with both boys and there would not be room in van to pick his daughter up, so he called her and spoke to her friend who lived a short distance away, he asked to speak to his wife and she replied she needs space, so at this time he told her he needed to pick his daughter up and didn’t have room in the van, to which her friend replied you can drop them off here, so this is what he done, picked his daughter up and went home, at around 9 pm she arrived at the house with his eldest son who at the time was 7, she said to him she was having a sleepover at her friends house with the other 2 children but the eldest boy didn’t want to stay he wanted to stay at home with his dad, so she went in got some bits for the 2 children and herself and left, not really saying a lot, in the morning his wife’s dad came and picked the boy up, he spent the day with his daughter, at around 4 pm the police turned up and arrested him for gbh on his wife, totally shocked called his daughters mum to collect her, was held in custody all night and interviewed on the Monday, he was accused of on the bank holidayMonday morning down the caravan he got up in a bad mood punched her in the eye threw her out on the decking of caravan and
we had £98,000 in equity in the house and she wanted it all on the grounds she was suffering pstd, she ended up with the majority of the proceeds of the house, cos she said she requires £65000 for a deposit for a shared ownership house, she got it He got the balance but had to clear all associated debts with the house out of his share which will leave him with £3000 towards his own debts that have accumulated by court costs, we have tried going to the police about all of her false accusations and how she has lied to police social services, the courts, we have multiple folders of evidence on her lies we wanted to provide, they won’t even look, we keep getting told it’s a civil matter, we do not have the money to bring a civil case, she just walks free on everything, my son is a nervous wreck , he was a confident man before all this, he is suffering all of this because of a family court judge found wrongly against him, I don’t believe that a judge in family court should be able to find against somebody on a criminal matter until they are found guilty of what they are being accused of, cos even though he has been cleared of all criminal charges, he is still guilty in the family court, and this has cost him his children, how can this be right? There is so much more to this story that people would not believe, we had a barrister from Bedford row for the criminal case and she said in all her years of being a barrister she has never seen a case with so may accusations; I don’t ever want to see any other family suffer like we have the past couple of years, due to a family court judge: I have even written to the mp on this situation, people like her should be prosecuted themselves for false accusations, if my son had of been found guilty for her false accusations he could have got 10 year in jail, thank the lord it was criminal court and not family, at least the criminal court work on evidence not probability, how many more families have suffered the same as us,
I don’t know who to turn to to get this story heard, a massive injustice has been done to my son , my grandchildren and our whole family, my sons life has been ruined, I am going to tell you the story briefly in the hope that someone can help so this doesn’t ever happen to anybody else, I know it’s to late for us but this just must not happen again,
In May 20017 my sons wife thought he was having an affair with a neighbour which he totally wasn’t, for a whole week they were arguing about this, it was bank holiday weekend May 2017 my son and the family went down to there caravan, on the Monday teatime my son left the caravan park as he had work the rest of the week and had to bring his teenage daughter from a previous relationship back, his wife stayed down the caravan until the Saturday morning with her mother in the caravan next door, they had been exchanging text messages all week while she was away, on the Saturday morning while my son was at work she returned home, she took some pictures in our bedroom of some injuries she had incurred somehow, my son returned home from work at around 2.45 pm on the Saturday as he was due to fit a carpet for his wife’s sister, he had promised his older son that he could go with him as he often did at weekends, his younger son decided he wanted to go also to play with his cousin, so they all 3 left to go to her sisters house,arrived at her sister house just before 3pm, was due to pick his daughter up around 5pm, so fitted a hall,stairs and landing carpet and arrived home to pick up the family car so he could pick his daughter up as she was spending the weekend with them as she often did, the car was not there and nor was his wife, so he called her to see where she was at cos he was in the van with both boys and there would not be room in van to pick his daughter up, so he called her and spoke to her friend who lived a short distance away, he asked to speak to his wife and she replied she needs space, so at this time he told her he needed to pick his daughter up and didn’t have room in the van, to which her friend replied you can drop them off here, so this is what he done, picked his daughter up and went home, at around 9 pm she arrived at the house with his eldest son who at the time was 7, she said to him she was having a sleepover at her friends house with the other 2 children but the eldest boy didn’t want to stay he wanted to stay at home with his dad, so she went in got some bits for the 2 children and herself and left, not really saying a lot, in the morning his wife’s dad came and picked the boy up, he spent the day with his daughter, at around 4 pm the police turned up and arrested him for gbh on his wife, totally shocked called his daughters mum to collect her, was held in custody all night and interviewed on the Monday, he was accused of on the bank holiday Monday morning down the caravan he got up in a bad mood punched her in the eye threw her out on the decking of caravan and kicked
I've recently had the most beautiful boy in the world. He's 4 weeks old now, first 3 weeks the best of my life the last week the worst and I do not see any way out.
Me and my ex had a great relationship, crazy in love and the total best of friends! In the early pregnancy she was attacked by her own family member in which I broke them up with a push and said family member was injured and tried to press charges. Police interviewed me and my partner who explained she was 8 weeks pregnant and being attacked and it was self defence so charges were of course dropped. Family member then decided to be spiteful and go to social services and other routes and my partner then cut off all contact with her.
Roll on the birth of our amazing son and 3 weeks of paradise she had been getting more and more stressed and down until one night, drink fuelled, she let loose on me. Attacked me and covered me in scratches, tried to drive away with the kids whilst drunk and uninsured, so I started recording all of this. She returned, took my phone and deleted all of my recordings. The following day she was all apologetic, however I couldn't let go of the driving thing and mentioned social services. She flipped out and took the children and I haven't seen them since.
Then I am arrested days later for apparently assaulting her while she had the baby in her arms which is absolutely ludicrous and controlling her for 12 months stopping her see her family and controlling money. In the interview I told them the truth of what happened and that I give her money constantly etc. And I have been bailed without charge pending further investigation for 3 weeks on conditions of no contact! How can I see my child?? I can't face waiting any longer I'm very close to giving up on life I have no purpose anymore and I haven't even done anything wrong. She's not the person I thought she was she's completely changed overnight and made up some absolutely insane allegations which I believe are to prevent me from seeing my boy. This is the most important time in my life to bond with him and I can't cope anymore. I've tried ringing every organisation and solicitor out there and nobody is giving me any answers. What can I do???
Social Services are saying I am not allowed to see my son because I've been done for neglect 25 years ago my son is 6 weeks old my oldest daughter Kate who is 25 got adopted I was with the same person we had another two children Sonny and cherish my wife passed away and I bought my kids up on my own they have now moved out and got their own places I have got myself into a new relationship everything was going absolutely fine until social services said that I need to be assessed the stress and trauma that has Arisen they are holding something against me which is in a prehistoric time I am the youngest out for I was mentally tortured as a child and I didn't know what was wrong and right because the way that I've been brought up as a child and as I'm getting older it's getting worse I am a good father I love my son and it is tearing me apart not be able to see him I haven't got much money I just need someone out there to help me and give me support because I can't carry on I love my partner my partner wants to be with me every night I fall asleep with my son's pyjamas because of the smell it is killing me as a human being what word has social services got over me when I bought two kids up on my own there is always fed always gone school on time always clean and tidy nice home now I got social services telling me that I can't see my son because of an offence 25 years ago if they had any concerns they should have done it 25 years ago but I was bringing my kids up on my own
Going through divorce as wife having an affair. I froze the joint bank account to stop either of us using it. Only my wages are paid into it. Worried she would rob. I asked if she would go into bank and remove her name to allow bills to be removed. Also pictures of her man appeared on my son's phone. We had a heated argument. I walked away as getting no where. She has then phoned police telling them I raised fist and threatened her. At no point did this happen. My 10 year old son was in and I sat with him. He asked me why mum doesn t love him anymore. How can I prove my innocence in this. I am scared of what she trying to do and use against me now.
Because I think that kind of mental torture to extract a false guilty plea should not be able to be entered as evidence for the prosecution.
Thanks
I'm 6 weeks now since I last saw the kids and the legal stuff has started but the progress is agonisingly slow.
Today I hit an emotional brick wall and had to leave work to get some headspace.
Just want to say to you all.. stay strong... your kids will thank you for fighting to be their dads. It just hurts in the meantime.
I reached out and have finally been seeing them regularly since September last yr with them staying with me and my partner 2-6 nights a month too. There have been arguments with my ex during that time with me being accused of kidnapping my own kids and now assaulting them. I have reported my ex to the police twice for this sort behaviour but it isn't working. I'm broken again and terrified people will believe her lies. What do I do?
Since then all three children have come to live with me: my eldest son voted with his feet in 2014 and my other two were (voluntarily) sent to live with me by my ex-wife in 2105 following a disclosure of harm by my (then) 6 year old daughter at the hands of her step-father.
I have done my best to promote safe and appropriate contact between my 3 children and their mother. I have a Residency Order but I also applied to the court for a contact arrangements order in December 2015 (out of my own pocket) so that there would be some form of contact, but my ex-wife did not attend court and subsequently severed all contact with me. She maintained some contact with our children through letters but these stopped coming over a year ago, probably because she had a third child with her husband.
Almost 3 years have passed since my children had face to face contact with their mother and my ex-wife has now reappeared, wanting a relationship with our children. Great you say? Yes, except she has gone about it in the worst way and has obtained Legal Aid by claiming that I was a perpetrator or all forms of abuse. I believe that she has done this to gain favour of the court and paint me in a negative light. She has competed numerous C100 forms in the past when she has dragged me through court and there has been no mention of abuse, because it simply did not happen. I even have a report from CAFCASS from 2012/13 where she states “there was never any form of abuse during or relationship”. We weee together for 10 years and married for 8.
I myself work for the Local Authority, mainly with adolescents, but part of my role is working in partnership with an organisation that supports female survivors of abusive relationships through a 12 week recovery course. I am the only man to have delivered this programme in Cornwall and have been involved with this organisation for over 3 years. Now my good name is on the line, as well as my career and the future of my 3 children (as well as my 2 step children that I also provide for). My ex-wife has obtained the highter rate of Legal Aid and I am representing myself, having only just recently finished paying off credit card fees from the thousands that I had to spend when my ex (who has never worked a day in her life or contributed to my children’s upbringing) took me to court and tried to end my relationship with my children under false pretences in 2012/13, before being found out by services involved at that time.
There were no consequences for her before and she seems to be free to do and say as she pleases, irrespective if the consequences for me. At the initial hearing in February I contested the allegations but the District Judge
I just want to see the evidence against me.
Going through a familiar hell where ex funded her lawyer and swish barrister with legal aid. I asked to prove their allegations but they obstructed finding of facts first. Didn't even bother presenting any of the evidence required at all to justify the privileges granted to abuse victims
Then justified restrictions on contact on grounds of abuse. It bothers me a lot that a referral was made to refer me as a perpetrator but no idea of who or why. Its just on file in the legal aid agency. Is thee any way of doing this?
She still wants to come and go in the family home (where I am now living) as she sees fit, arguing that she has her furniture and her property in the house. I have asked her to let me know when she is coming, and am happy to negotiate times.
Do I have the right to refuse her entry as she sees fit? I leave the house empty all day long, and feel vulnerable to her coming whenever she wants to. She has introduced me to a very unpleasant side of her character, is angry at me all the time, and every conversation leaves me emotionally upset, and physically churning. I have asked her to respect my wishes until we resolve whatever financial arrangements we need to make. Initially she agreed, but now she tells me she will come and go as she sees fit. I have threatened to change the locks, and she informs me that she would call the police if I did.
Where do I stand, please?
A Cafcass lady on duty at the court today saw fit to change Cafcass's own advice and ordered a section 7 report based on what my ex partner had said at the court today. Make of that what you will, I know where I stand on it.
I'd spent hundreds already at mediation where domestic violence is supposed to be screened out not to mention a hefty court solicitor fee so this is a complete failure in my eyes.
The system is clearly rigged in favour of mothers and ex-partners are getting away with murder against fathers in the family court because of it. This is nothing new I know of course, you only realise when it happens to you. My section 7 report will come back fine and my ex-partner will get a slap on the wrist at best. Tougher stance on false accusations are needed in my eyes.
I sponsored my ex (NON EU) from another country. She basically used me to get into the country in August 2016. We lived together till 28th August 2016 when I went to Dubai for business purposes and later to Canada for my father's cancer treatment. While I was in Canada her behavior was changed and on 18th September 2016 she left the home and went somewhere unknown to me. I went back to UK in November 2016 and spoke with family lawyer who advised me to cancel her Sponsorship via Home Office (Which I did). Lawyer advised me not to approach her and not ever try to find where she lives as it will be bad for me in long run after she finds out that she is not legal in the country. December 2016 I filed for Divorce in the country where we were married and got the divorce certificate in March 2017.
Since she found out that she is not legal in UK anymore and she can't work, she went to a lawyer who told her to file (Domestic Violence) case which is the only way to stay in the country, while doing that apply for divorce within UK to get financial support from me. She did all this in November 2017. I only received a letter from her law firm which includes (Petition for Divorce). In this petition her lawyer wrote there is a separate investigation going on regarding (DV, Physical and Mental plus Rape).
My question to everyone here, I am not yet contacted by the court regarding the divorce petition as my home address is mention on the petition put forward by the law firm. Since the law firm wrote in the petition that I am an abusive person and another investigation is on going against me. I am never been contacted by the police, I was out of country for many months but no phone calls, no letter at my address or even knock at the door as I asked my cousin who live with me.
Are these lawyers bluffing in the petition? if not, since I have done nothing wrong in my entire time with her if police approch me and interview me. Can I press charges against her later? Because I really don't want her to do it to any other person in future.
longer you stay with an abusive controlling individual. The cycle of abuse will continue to happen time and time again the longer you stay with them. Leave, at the earliest you
can, although this can be difficult for some people-you must convince yourself there is a better life out there
compared to the one you don't want no more. Also you must never go back as this is the only possible way you can have a nice future and peace of mind with yourself in the future. Most of all be-strong, forget the possessions you may have to leave behind, you can replace all those at another time easily. Leave asap is the only positive way forward to change your life for the life you want. A happy one.
All was good until I fell asleep at our house and she went through my phone finding text from what can only be described as a girl who is just a friend.
She went beserk and while I was sleeping attacked me leaving cuts, bruises and gouging all over me. Waking to this I’ve pushed her off and defended myself.
She then called the police, I was arrested and charged with assaulting her and now on bail pending the court case!
She has no marks on her.
Can’t I get her prosecuted for ABH?
I have a daughter with my former wife. She claimed domestic violence, which I did not do, for our divorce. Do I still need to have a mediation in the bid to access my daughter, or apply straight to court? Thanks.
All af the allegations were false and included such things as controlling her bank account and alcohol abuse.
I had plenty of evidence that the allegations were untrue and that she was only making them to remove me from the house and prevent me from seeing my children.
I am lucky, I heard last night that the CPS are not taking any further action.
What I need to know now is what I can do to prevent her from making further false allegations and smearing my name further. I was the main carer of our children before all of this and now I only see them for a few hours a week.
Whilst I was on bail Cafcas advised during an interim hearing that I should have limited contact due to the allegations made and so now that is obviously no longer relevant.
Also, the police don’t seem interested in doing anything about the false allegations or wasting police time. Do I have to ask them to do this or should it be automatic?
Any advice would be much appreciated - I really don’t want her to get away with this - I have been made homeless and many of my friends have abandoned me as a direct result of what I was being accused of.
Thanks in advance
This women has told soo much lies and impacted on her kids so much it's horrible
My two kids see everything, even neighbors .have the change in them,, the lady who looked after them gor 2 yrs before I came saw the changes.
3 Yrs Ago my boyfriend had a girlfriend and his ex did the same thing, made false allegations against her kids and filed for custody of the kids . My Boyfriend has had custody for 9 yrs. How do I protect myself and my 2 kids from this because it's geting worse . Caffcus are involved , she called police on us and the checked and saw no concern
Long story short . It went to crown court and he was proven to be not guilty on all 7 counts a just result , faith restored in justice system .
Today we were back at family court and his ex is acting like crown court never happen ! Same allegations and now spouting safeguarding the children , cafcass were with her upholding the same allegations he's been cleared of ! This can't be right or lawful . But their listening to her even after she been proven to be a liar ! Where's the justice for the fathers if it was a woman they'd be shouting equal rights ! But it seems fathers arnt given equality in these matters . It's a disgrace !
I didn't challenge the non-molestation simply because when I was home I was being constantly provoked with threats of calling the police, even if I spoke out of turn. So I had to get out for the purpose of safeguarding myself against false accusations.
Now that I haven't challenged the order, I'm not sure if a non-molestation goes on my record. No one seems to know?
As this now inhibits me working in my previous field of work!
Does anybody know?
it turns out that me ex mate made me a false claim of which she has not made the effect she has intended and I was released from the commissioner without charges or warnings.
she took advantage of my absence while I was at the police station giving a statement to take our daughter and steal all my personal documents and my company apart from computer articles and projects of my work.
we have already attended two appointments in the family court to try to resolve with who should live the child and the time that should be spent with the other parent.
she continues to make the same allegations without meaning and changing history whenever asked the same questions of details of the facts ...
even on the last visit to the family court she has had the nerve to say that I hit her the day I was detained in the police station giving a statement.
I need legal guidance on how to handle this or any solicitor who will take care of this case here or recommendation?
One thing that does get me is how as a man your respected to be able to take a slap off a women and its treated as a non emergency but the second a women takes a slap (usually due to retaliation from there actions) it is treated as the man is capable of mass murder.
there needs to be a great reform as the modern consensus seems to be that women use the police as a threat rather than being genuinely victimised and scared. i myself have witnessed the situation first hand, most recently staying in a relationship for nearly 18 months through the fear of being arrested over lies. this in itself i think is a form of control and abuses mentally. there is not enough deterrent to stop women / men (less common) from inventing these lies over emotions and high tempers.
We started negotiations on children through solicitors. First, she said she is only agreeable that I see them at a supervised contact centre as she has worries that I take kids abroad although all kids’ passports are with her. she said I have birth certificates and I may use them to have new passports from the consulate of our original country. I submitted those certificates to my solicitor but she is still refusing contact at my house. I only started talking to them via Skype an hour every week.
I spent £1500 on that to my solicitor to get that “small achievement”, and I am worried I may get nothing if I take the case further to court.
I am very nice dad, and even nice husband. I never committed and violence against my wife and police never intervened. but she is now alleging that I was abusing her verbally. that is only allegations without any proof.
I started paying a £874 pm child maintenance, and still waiting to start exchanging form E for financial settlement.
I want contact with my children whom I haven't seen since more than 4 months. what can do and are the chances?. Thank you for replying.
Any help or views would be welcomed. Im bk in court on the 5th Sept
Before me and my wife knew what was happening, the 2 police officers wished something to each other and then turned to me and said I had to come with them to the police. At the police I was informed there was strong evidence of physical abuse and I was formally arrested and remanded in custody. On Sunday afternoon the officer who arrested me came to see me and he came to see me to tell me he was not a racist.
On a Monday 27th I was released without going to court and no explanation only to receive a letter from the fiscal procurator informing that I was on a prosecution diversion.
My life has been put in a limbo, because the police in Scotland have the right to charge you on domestic violence whether you committed crime or not. How fair is that, 3 days in police for no crime, the only crime committed was to ask police why they were being racist on us.
Any advice please
Through out her pregnancy putting it down to hormones she even hospitalised him he told the dr he was attacked in the street as didnt want to get her in trouble he has now left her due to the extent of abude she's now claiming domestic violence and has phoned social services and is denying him any access he's finding it difficult after every thing she has put him through and now to be accused of being the perpetrator
Instead of the victim do you have any advice
Gg Cumbria uk
The order is to return my daughter home for 5pm, but doesn't specify anything further than that. I said I was not happy to do that because she wasn't there and my daughter is only 3. It seemed safer and more sensible for her to stay with me until her mother returned.
My ex then called the police, telling them she thought I was going to breach the order. I didn't want their involvement and so was forced to hand my child over to this person without my ex present. I need some clarity on this issue because I had my child's best interests and safety in mind. Anyone else encountered anything similar or have any advice?
Been separated from my partner and my son for a month and half;but the issue is the false accusations of DV which she told the SS,because she wanted out of our relationship and now am being labelled a bad partner and told I can't see my son:
What I don't understand is Why do women get away with all this and using Children for their own benefit:
WHERE IS THE JUSTICE FOR FATHERS
My partner got charged for assaulting me this month:
So CONFUSED don't even know what to do:::
Regards Brian
Having to deal with selling the house, moving and finding new business premises, dealing with everything by myself is too much to cope with by my self.
I have thought of suicide, its my birthday tomorrow.. all by my self
I totally feel for you, the same is happening to me... accused of mental abuse, also her family have stepped in. Spreading lies on facebook.
This is very saddening for me, I feel very low and worthless ...
I'm currently on trial for smashing up property and threatening behaviour at my home recently.
I was having problems with my wife and decided to move out temporarily until we sorted things out!
A week later I came home to find another man there! He had been there over night and as a result I kicked off in a rage.
I somehow managed not to attack him or my wife but did a lot of damage to his car and the home.
My wife is currently seeking advice from women's aid and claiming that I'm abusive??
She is stopping me from spending time with our daughter and I fear she will go further and make false accusations!
As I'm guilty of a number of crimes on that occasion and may be in a bit of trouble I can't fight my own corner and she can over elaborate on everything?
I really need some good advice as she has all the cards.
She also denies me access to see my daughter if I don't pay her an obscene amount of money,
(Over £1000 per month) as she doesn't work and I work 6 days a week!
Any help would be much appreciated!
I am looking for advice on behalf of my partner. He currently has an informal agreement for shared residence/care of his daughter. This has been in place since he separated with his ex nearly 5 years ago. His ex has not been happy with the arrangement for a number of years and has been trying to reduce his time to something more like a contact arrangement, with him seeing his daughter every other weekend, one weekend in three etc. My partner has rejected these proposals as he is keen to continue with the shared residence/ care arrangement that is already in place. His ex has tried various ways of getting her way. She has withheld their daughter at agreed handover times, attempted to pick her up from school on his days, tried to dictate how he spends his time with his daughter (threatening not to honour handover arrangements if he does not comply). She has also tried to erode his relationship with his daughter (saying unpleasant things about him to his daughter and undermining and criticising him in front of her). She has also attempted to control or undermine their daughter's relationship with other friends or relations connected to him.
Recently she got a solicitor to contact him about the childcare arrangements, again requesting that he reduces his time with his daughter. Through negotiations with the solicitor it came to light that his ex partner is receiving legal aid for this matter. We have looked this up and can only find that you can get this if there has been domestic violence or if there is a threat to the child. There has be no domestic violence, and no accusations to our knowledge. To receive legal aid she must have got someone to write a statement. It says police or health professional. She has problems so has had contact with social services about her own issues. Is it possible that she could have got a health professional to write a statement without my partners knowledge? Is there any way that my partner can get information about this and challenge what is documented if necessary? Is there any other reason why someone might be able to get legal aid for a family dispute?
My current partner has called the police on me twice before and had me arrested for assualt where in fact it was her that has assaulted me and then freaked out and called police. Both times the charges were dropped; the first time there was simply nothing to back up her nonsense and the second time she had claimed being attacked and having her phone smashed in a hotel and luckily cctv showed that I had not assaulted her as she claimed although I had picked up her phone and thrown it for which I got a caution for criminal damage.
Now we have had a third time on a night out where she has called the police after throwing things at me in a hotel room and attaching me. She assaulted me but then called the police on me. I am now on bail and she has withdrawn the charges but I'm concerned that this time things will go further when I go in for interview. When the police met her she claims that she had a swollen lip (I'm not sure how she would have this and I have not seen evidence of it myself) and that the policeman noted this but did not take pictures. Apparently the police also took pictures of a smashed bottle in the hotel room which she alleged I threw at her (but in fact she threw at me!). I am now totally lost at what to do as do not want to start getting her in trouble and starting a battle that will make things worse by telling police about her assaulting me but at the same time I'm concerned that this will be seen as enough "evidence" to take me to court which I desperately want to avoid. Any advice?
so what did the magistrates find me guilty of.???? i had the only picture of my facial injury that was clear to see , when this was shown to the magistrates they gasped and commented my god, And ladies and gentleman is what convicted me, by the photographs that was seen in court the magistrates knew there had been a conflict between myself and my daughter who is 22yrs old they took less than 5 minutes to deliberate the evidence to find me guilty . i have no history of violence what so ever the police have never attended my house for any previous incident, i had been with my wife for 36yrs , i have now lost everything they put injunctions on me and could not go to my house or even in the road, this has been over a year now the house has been sold and is now going back to crown court.
I have come away from this feeling extremely upset, confused and frustrated that I am being portrayed in this way and all I want is to see my kids. Is this just a procedure the court have to follow or will they just believe her without no evidence against me? Another hearing will take place next month, will I get a chance to have my say eventually? This seems incredibly unfair. Thank you!
Be ok. what do we do from here? Please help us
I've recently split from my ex partner of 3 years. We have a son together who is 6 months soon to be 7 months old. During our relationship she would often lash out during one of her rages and would often attack me causing damage to my clothing aswell as other personal items.
I called the police on her 3 times when I'd had enough of the mental,emotional & physical abuse she would often direct at me. She was arrested and realeased without charge when she attacked her daughters dad causing bruising to his face. I was actually present in the front room occupying her daughter when this incident occurred.
Since we have split she has become nasty and abusive at times and has falsely accused me of physical abuse which isn't true. Since my son has been born she has attacked me twice both times being in front of him. The most recent being only last week where she slammed the front door into my shoulder catching my chin then when I asked her to stop so I could kiss my son goodbye she grabbed me by my shirt and tried to drag me towards her. All of this occurred in front of my baby son.
Never in the 3 years have I ever laid a hand on her. The only time I would touch her would be to protect myself and all I did was keep her at arms length to avoid her bruising or cutting my face.
She is obviously known to the police for her attack on her daughters dad aswell as the attacks on me. They have visited her home on a few occasions because of her outrageous behaviour.
I'm not for once minute trying to make out like I am innocent in all of this. I probably irritated her with some bad habits I.e leaving a cup on the side or not putting my dirty washing in the basket but never have I ever been physical towards her in any way.
I'm concerned that she is slandering me and my name and I'm worried that as the system tends to favour mothers/women that I will be unfairly treated. All I've tried to do is see my son who is my absolute world and my entire reason I wake up every morning but she's now telling me I'm not to make contact until she's been to see family justice centre.
On researching what the family justice centre is it appears is a place for people to go who suffer from domestic violence. So I'm concerned she's going to accuse me of abusing her which is completely fabricated and false.
PLEASE HELP ME!!!!.
Please can you help me or advice me. I was falsely accused of domestic violence and then the police were called thank god I actually called them on the day of the so called offence and begged them to attend my home...the investigating officer believed me not because I was male but due to the evidence and his experience..i only wish they investigated her mobile use which would have shown she called me numerous times from hospital demanding money...any way caffcass and social services are racists and biasist to men...especially if you are coloured and married to foreigner coming from nepal into this country. As they have learnt the words domestic violence..and we grant them everything...what about me Bign and bread British citizen who has worked all
My life and cannot get legal aid even though I have suffered domestic violence....this is never investigated nor is the father allowed any help or legal aid...this where a lot British tax payers money is wasted...I can even prove she illegally came her and attentions were fake but who will listen to me...my son is now 2 & half years old...I still I do not know what he looks like...thank god I had money to get prohibited steps order and that was it..I went to court but had to leave proceedings due to
Lack of funds & the Mackenzie friends solicitors rob me too and we're useless and did nothing. When I asked the magistrate for a picture of my son her exact words were you might me mass muder!!! Wtf they even they get rights...all I want is justice and to see what my son looks like...what I am supposed to do???comit a crime to do this???can anyone help me!!!i am begging now...
I was just shocked and hurt, so I called my friend to help me pick up my things. He came back confused, wondering why I was leaving. (Although he had been saying things like he would rather struggle alone, and now knew we weren't meant for each other.) At the time I just needed to get out and breathe, but he wanted to talk things through. As my friend was brining some of my bags to her car, he locked her out so we could talk. Upset, my friend phoned the police.
When the police arrived, they talked to us in two separate rooms. The officer noticed severe bruising on my arm and began questioning me about it. I was hesitant to answer and embarrassed to say I had been mugged earlier that week. The officer went on to explain about her past unhealthy relationships and encouraged me to let her handle my boyfriend. I was so overwhelmed and just generally afraid I agreed and they took him in. They wanted me to make a statement and I was so afraid of my mistake I built on the lie, and they issued a no contact form between my boyfriend and I.
I had no idea what would happen next, but I went to the police station the next day and requested the charges be dropped. But they said it was no longer in their hands, but in the Crowns. I didn't think I would ever hear from my boyfriend again. But around 4 days later he phoned me from a jail. We were equally grateful to hear each others voice, and to my greatest surprise, he wasn't mad at me. He understood that what we've gone through in one year is enough stress to be handled in 5 years. He said I needed to plead false accusation on his court date on November.9, which is no problem for me. His bail is $750 and I have been trying so hard to get that money, but things aren't looking hopeful, and I doubt I will be able to make the $750. If I plea that I falsely accused him, will any charges still be laid upon him? Neither of us have a lawyer, and I have no idea how the system works. Should I go to the police station now and admit to them? Or wait until the court date?
I absolutely understand the severity of what I've done and I am so heavy with guilt. This was never an intention of revenge, I never expected a situation like this to happen with us. Neither of us have a criminal record or have been in trouble with the law before. I don't care really if I'm fined, but I don't w
Just looking for a little advice, my sons partner left a few weeks ago and took the two children, the youngest of which is my sons, she went to council and told them she was in a volatile relationship and couldn't return to the family home. She was immediately placed into a safe house. She is in contact with my son, she even stayed a few nights last week and dropped their daughter off with him on Friday for the night. (She also tried to drop her 7 year old son off with him who he loves dearly but refused as he says he will not be used as a babysitter. She sent me a message saying she wasn't in a safe house as she would never say my son is violent when he isn't. My son also put his video recorder on whilst she was at his house and he asked her questions which the answers are recorded saying no he has never committed domestic violence against her and admitting she has sold him she is a safe house. Seems she has done this due to a breakdown in the relationship (she has had bad post natal depression and has been given medication from doc ) and she thinks if she does it this way she will be given housing from the council quickly . As a past victim of domestic violence I feel she is making a mockery of the people who are helping her . I've advices him to have a chat with a friend who is a solicitor he doesn't want to get her in trouble but also doesn't and shouldn't have this reputation she is handing him .
My ex-wife was suffering from a long term illness and associated mental health implications. She made a false allegations of assault after a petty argument over our car. I was completely unaware 999 was called and was arrested at home in front of my children and neighbours. From this moment my life completely changed. The police obviously took the side of my wife, which is understandable as she called 999. What they didn't do and refused to do was investigate in any way, even after my interview when it was very clear of the circumstances. They never once looked into the facts and certainly never assisted and checked on her state of mind and also my circumstances. Instead they charged me and put me under strict bail conditions to not go to my own home or even the road until the court date. I had to leave my job and move away from my home town and begin to understand overnight I had lost connecting with my children who I had seen every day of their lives for 14 years.
Here's the best bit. Part of the bail conditions was no direct or indirect contact with my ex-wife. She continued making contact with me on one of my children's phones. Every time I heard her voice i hung up and phoned the non emergency number to report this to cover myself. I even asked for call backs from the arresting officer. After a week he called me and asked me to attend the station immediately. He never once mentioned bringing my brief but sensibly I organised a time to attend and for my brief to be there. As soon as I arrived I was arrested for breach of bail! I was held over night to appear in court the next day to answer this charge. It was thrown out and an apology from the judge over it over the incompetence of the police.
A month later I appeared in court for the original assault by beating charge and the police made my 14 year old daughter give evidence against me because she was in the house and heard raised voices (minor argument over the car). I was found not guilty thankfully.
But this is the impact. For some unknown reason the CPS lawyer pushed for a restraining order even though it was all fabricated. At the time I was just relieved to be found not guilty but it was granted for 2 years. This has completely ruined my relationship with my Children. The oldest, who was forced to give evidence I have now not seen for a year.
Here's some home truths that you should be prepared for and advice from my experience:
Don't trust the police to do anything for you. All they want to do is put you in front of the judge who can make a decision. They can't and don't care that about ruining your life in any way. They wil take the least path of resistance to get you in front of the judge or not if the CPS chose. No
Probably really stupidly a domestic violence charity has rung home for her a couple of times now, so I am now terrified I'm going to get arrested for something that's not happened, we still live together and at home the atmosphere is fine or so I think but she goes out each evening for an hour or so, again I think to make it look like she is scared to be around me or something.
How the hell can I protect myself, these are all complete 100% lies.
His wife got drunk and started shouting in his face, she slapped him across his cheek so to create space between them he pushed her away with a shove. However, she fell back and landed on her elbow resulting in a fracture.
She didn't report this at the hospital or later to the police. It was another woman who had heard the woman shouting who called the police and my friend was arrested and charged with assault without intent and is due to appear in Crown Court.
Since then, she has been in contact with victim support, changed the locks on the house and refuses to let him see his daughter.
This isn't right. He is more than happy to see her supervised or in a contact centre but to deny him his pride and joy is cruel.
Where should he seek advice?
Later that day I called her & asked if she got the laptop she said, "yes" & that was the last time she answered my calls despite ringing her everyday since. I haven't seen my children for two months now.
She is telling everybody & anybody lies about me & playing the domestic violence card for her own personal gains because she knows if she told the truth she wouldn't get as much help as she is getting & in truth i'm the victim here.
Social services who I had thought should be impartial have taken everything she says as gospel, they said, my partner has said this, my partner has said that.... And I said, "well, have you actually asked me?" And they said, no because I didn't want to discuss that Sunday afternoon incident when they came to the house the first time 2 days after I was arrested. Then they said the reason the police dropped the case was because my partner refused to give a statement but that's untrue because when the police interviewed me they kept quoting her statement. And when I said that my children were perfectly happy, they said everybody (meaning the parents) always say that. Totally biased against me before they had even spoke to me!
Now I am facing being evicted because my partner has told my housing association landlord that she wants to end her joint tenancy & their rules mean that if one wants out both must leave & she has cited "domestic violence/abuse" as her reason & they don't tolerate that, meaning they won't let me stay in any of their properties. If I become homeless I will also lose my job.
When I met her she had no kids & about to lose her student visa status due to not passing her exams. I paid for some of her college fees, then immigration lawyer fees, enabled her to have two wonderful children (her life) & enabled her to live rent free for 5 years, something she could only have dreamed of before she met me.
Every evening when the children were asleep in our bed instead of cuddling up on the sofa or talk I would just sit on the sofa & watch TV & she would sit at the table on the internet & we'd hardly speak except when she would moan at me. I'm easy going chap & don't really have arguments so I just sat there & said "OK" whenever she was in moaning mode. Sadly & certainly with hindsight I made a big error of letting this situation get worse & worse.
So one Sunday afternoon about 4 months ago the kids were asleep & she suddenly went off on one, "get out, I don't want you anymore, go to your dads" etc... I started getting angry & upset but she kept on, instead of me just going for a walk I instead got in her face & shouted (for the first time ever) "no, this is my home we are a family, I'm not going anywhere, this is my home!" She then pushes me down the hall & out of the front door, I had no shoes, no coat, no money & no keys. A few minutes later she let me back in, I just laid on the edge of our bed with my hands over my eyes until she went to work 2 hours later.
Next couple of days things seemed OK then on the 3rd day I came home from work to find the police there to arrest me charging me with assault, at the end of the day the police said there was no case to answer and said my partner says it was OK for me to go back to her, so they drove me home. I told her I want us to be a family.
The next two months things were the same, us not talking much, her moaning & me just keeping my head down & staying calm, no arguments, no losing my temper again.
Then about mid June she says she's going to visit friends in London (about 30 miles away), she had done this a few times before so I thought nothing of it.
Now, even though the charges were dropped the police have to tell social services because we have children, OK that's fair enough even though I know for a fact that my children are 100% happy. So two days after my partner went to London two social services people visited me, "as you know your partner has left you" one said, well I was gobsmacked!!! "No I didn't know that" I replied. Their reason for being there was to pick some stuff for my partner & the kids. I collected up some stuff for them to take.
I speak to my partner on the phone, she says, "I want my papers & documents in the drawers..." and my (that's mine not hers) fairly new top of the range £700 laptop. I did as she said & took them to the social services office in town.
Later that day I called her & asked if she got the laptop she said, "yes" & that was the last tim
my wife entered property and have changed locks to avoid me in... i took police help - they came with me to the property... but my wife slapped DV allegation and mentioned about some rape happened 2 years ago which she does not want to make statement ..and not go to court... the police which i called for help arrested me and took with them...
they have cleared false domestic violence allegation after interview and few hours of custody off me
but do not know why officers are on the case to investigate the rape mentioned.
I am out on conditional bail - do not have access to my house and my 11 months old child again...
Just not understand why officers are investigating a case which is not reported? am i a criminal in the making...
Current situation is i am jobless and out of my own house. cannot stay at friends place for long... i do not have any other place to go... rather why should i go to some other place when i have a property i am solely responsible for and am paying mortgage & bills of my savings while my wife has a job and earning...
Any pointers please... what should i do next?
Secondly, is there anyhow i should or can counter allegate her down for the false dv allegation...
Hope to hear some advice soon. thanking you in advance.
Any pointers will be helpful...
I have been falsely accused of domestic violence twice. Last year around January was the first time i was accused of violence by my wife and i was subsequently arrested and spent a night in police custody, however no evidence was found and was released the following day without charge.
The second time i was accused was in April 2016. My wife had again falsely accused me of attacking her. She claimed i had 'picked her up by the throat and' 'gorged her eyes' amongst other lies. This alleged assault according to my wife had apparently happend in the beginning of May but my she waited about 5weeks to report it. I was eventually called in by Police to attend the police station as an 'volunteer attendee' for a interview a further 4 weeks or so later. In other words from the alleged date of attack to me being interviewed a period of 9 weeks had passed approximately. The officer confirmed i did not have to attend and would not be arrested. I inquired to the officer who had interviewed why it took so long to contact me for a interview, to which she simply answered she does not believe it really happened but they had to follow their procedure. Only a few days later after the interview i had a call from the officer informing me there will be no charges bought against me.
My wife has been reporting these incidents as a mean of stopping me from seeing my childrens and to get a council property. If i had attacked my wife she could have reported me straight away and stopped my access to her property immediately. It would also make sense that our relationship would have suffered extremely if this really happened, however I have evidence to prove our relationship was good during this period. It is also worth noting her flat consist of a safety door which only she can buzz me through, cctv and then her own front door, therefore she could have easily denied me access. I have evidence to prove i was given access throughout this period. I have never been violent towards her and i find violence against women completely abhorrent.
She out of the blue took me by suprise by reporting this alleged assault for no reason except that i said i need to think about if I would pay for her travel abroad. I can categorially say no violence has happened.
She has lied to manupilate the Justice system in order to stop me seeing our childrens as a mean to punish me. I have social services giving me a hard time because of these lies and my contact time with my kids have suffered.
After conducting some research i have come to learn that lying about domestic violence is an criminal offence. She has deliberately perverted the course of justice just so she can hurt me. Can you confirm if this is an criminal offence?
Can i report my wife to the police? If yes, what is the likely outcome?
Please note we are still married (kind of).
Many Thanks
The thing is, she has called SS on us anonymously before for arguing (lies), but we couldn't prove they were lies. The case was closed anyway, but I can't help but feel this will affect tomorrow's outcome?
Now she has lied at every opportunity to anyone who listens ranging from rape to domestic violence all I wanted to do was leave her and see my children but no one believes me I have recorded her many times and have taken them to the police but again I've been told they don't matter.
How can she have no evidence but everyone believes what she says her story keeps changing but they still believe her what can I do to stop this please
I am on here as my boyfriend has been accused of rape and domestic violence from a woman he spent almost 14 years with. He had access to his kids and was seeing them most weekends until his ex found out about us...... Then she flipped. Stopped him seeing the kids and made poor excuses as to why. Then when we took her to court for access she went to the police and said he raped her. It has torn him apart and since he last saw the kids 18 months ago she has managed to twist their poor minds against him so at cafcass they told the woman they didn't want to see him :(. It's so sad as everyone interviewing has been female and they all have their judgement before they even meet him. The woman at cafcass was harsh on him and made a one sided report! I feel bad for all of you poor dads who go through this! I wouldn't put a man through this unless it was 100% true. In his case she wants to hurt him so she has used the kids and now he wants access she has cried rape. It's disgusting. Any advice or what we can do?? Thanks
By the time they arrived, she had got up and was in bed. The ambulance men said to me thqat there was nothing wrong with her. I made sure she was in bed then went to carry on with my work. A few hours later, she said she had called the police and told them i had abused her.
That same night, I bought her some food and whilst with her, the police called and asked her how she was and she said fine but did not want to see me and that I had not seen her. However, I was right next to her and she lied to the police. She did this again a few times.
At the end of February 2016, she ran off to a womans refuge. Whilst there, she asked me for £4000 and purported to be pregnant and if she is deported, the baby will be too (emotional blackmail). I asked her that if I give her the 4K, what will happen, she said she would come back to me and never run away again and swore on our holy book and her mother.
She asked me to take a photo of the money before she came.as she didn't want to come all the way to find out that I have not got it. She called me again on a Sunday and asked me if I had got the money, and she stated that she nneds money.
I managed to record the conversations and will be going to the police in a few days.
Had the police asked her a few questions about the abuse she may not have gone so far but her confidence grew as she was getting support from all quarters and anything she said was considered gospel.
I plan to do a Facebook page and will put the recordings and the story online. I was lucky to have recorded her as had I toild the police she was demanding 4K, they'd probably not believe me.
She got into an argument with me one day and started getting volatile with me. I was in the kitchen trying to actually help out with some house chores. She got irritated that she was in a situation where neither her parents nor any of my family members were around to help her. She jammed my fingers on an indoor clothes hanger and was in my face yelling and cursing me. I was literaly pushed with no where else I could move to physically as I was against the counter and it got so irritating so much so I was forced to deter her away from hurting me and I raised my hand that ended up with the most minor contact on her chin. She called the police and I was arrested. The police told me it was no big deal. they just needed to see me away from the house and not to worry. I ended up in the police station. They told me they just had to interview me under caution and asked if I needed a solicitor. I said no because the way they explained getting a solicitor was that it could take many hours as it was the weekend. I was not sure how long it would be given it was a weekend and so I asked to continue with this interview waiving my right to be represented because I was only too worried about my wife and my baby as I had to get back home at any cost to help look after.
I ended up getting a police caution as the police said it was a minor slap on the wrist and that every gets it, its no big deal.
After coming back home I was totally dejected to find out this will hinder my chances of travelling and obtain jobs. I was extremely disappointed. My wife after 6 months then said she wanted to visit her relatives and travelled abraod with my baby and went to another country thats not part of the 1970 Hague convention so now I cannot see my son and the courts in this country cannot force her to come back because they dont have jurisdiction here.
The fact that I have this caution attached is hindering my immigration status very badly and across jurisdictions its almost impossible to bring something to a closure with ridiculous immigration rules designed to separate people.
This is a long shot but after much research I am still none the wiser.
A few years back in 2011 , my ex partner accused me of domestic violence. 4 charges of common assault. While under arrest I clearly stated it was self defence to 2 of the accusations , the other 2 were completely false. From the get go the police were not on my side. While in custody under interview I told them of my injuries recived but they were shrugged off and I asked on cctv in the custody suite for my injuries to be photographed. My requests were ignored and I was charged for all 4 counts. And bailed.
After being charged I immediately went to my solicitor and my injuries were photographed and we waited for my court date to arrive, during this time my solicitor got cctv footage of me asking at the station for my injuries to be photographed and my request being blatantly ignored. My solicitor sent these to the CPS prior to my hearing . I have no doubt if the CPS was presented this evidence I would not have been charged.
My first date for court came up which I pleaded not guilty to all 4 counts, the CPS then upped one charge to ABS as apparently one of my ex partners injuries developed into a broken arm , something which was complete news to me and my solicitor and not even mentioned while I was under arrest. I still maintained my innocence. My trail was set for 2 weeks later .
The day of the trail came and I was about to leave the house for court and my solicitor called and told me not to come as the case had been dropped.
At the time I thought that was the end of it and I could get on with my life.
Now 5 years later I am married in a stable happy loving relationship and myself and my partner are looking at adoption. We have had our initial consultation and I've been 100% honest about the past allegations, they have stressed that because of this our adoption application is probably never going to be accepted.
How is this fair ? I haven't even had a trial and this going to affect my whole future. What can I do to get rid of these allegations? I was prepared at the time to go to trial and plead not guilty, I now feel like I haven't even had the opportunity to prove this and it's just assumed I am guilty of domestic violence even though I could get all my previous partners to say I'm the exact opposite.
Is there anything I can do to remove this permanently from my life ?
Many thanks in advance for any advice
Out of the blue we have found out that at least the boy has accused my Grandson of 'something sexual'. We don't know what, just that the police are going to interview my Grandson at the station. I know you have probably heard it all before, but my Grandson totally protests his innocence and from his body language and demeanour I know this to be the case. How can one man coach his kids to destroy another kid. He has access to them, yet wants to get back with the mother.
My son got with a girl after 5yr traumatic break up. He cogided on this new girl what he had been through. especially being accused of wrongful violence to cut a long story short this girl got into his head she has 3 children to different men who all told my son to stay away from her she plays with your head. But boy is this girl clever she had me fooled with lies. She turned him against me went yo his exes and his place of work causong trouble. whilst appearing to being all sweetness and light
My son let her stay in is house with her children. whilst her ex was in her house and telling my son she wasnt allowed home. Except to put the children to bed. He felt sorry for her and helped as much as he could he said icant let her walk the streets all day with3 young children.
Anyway now she has cometely messed his head up and my son has played right into her hands because when he is angry and frustrated he shouts. And she makes sure the nieghbours hear it. And going outside and shouting things like thats the last time you hit me and all manner of lies she has done so much damage to the property. And today sat on his drive for 4 hours whilst i was thirr crying and telling me making sure nieghbours heard he had done something to the breaks so she cant drive it. After i went she drove away only to return later to taunt him. Last week she got him arrested. And he will be getting prosicuted. And the reason she rings the law on him is because she knows he has a police phobia which makes things worst. Its a Vicious circle because she just does what she wants
Any thoughts on other sources I could seek to recover some of my cost?
Changing the access to legal aid so that one can only receive legal aid if you have a claim of domestic violence is the biggest cause of women making false claims against their male partners of domestic violence simply to enable them to get legal aid and additional benefits and support.
I have never been in trouble with the law in all my 46 years.
I have always been hard working, responsible and supported my family and my wife never had to work a day in her life.
While I worked she had many affairs, developed a ketamine habit and became an alcoholic and put the children and I through hell for many years.
She used to get very aggressive and violent on vodka and would attack me physically on a regular basis, try to go and drive which I had to prevent, and if she did not get her own way, would scream at the top of her voice, "Help! Help! He is raping me!"
There were bottles of vodka hidden all over the house.
The last straw for me came when I came home late one evening after visiting with friends who were over from abroad to find my wife drunk and naked with another man in our home.
I asked him repeatedly to leave the home, to which he refused saying he had every right to be in my home and was also drunk.
The two of them began to taunt me and kiss one another in front of me and became verbally abusive and threatening towards me.
I put my hand on his back and tried to guide him to the door again asking him to leave.
He then began to aggressively push me so I began to push back and while this happened my wife kicked and punched me and hit me with objects on the head.
Once he was out the front door I locked the door for my own safety and to prevent him coming back inside.
My wife then wanted to go with him so I opened the door and let her out and the two of them left together.
The following day the two of them filed false charges of assault against me and stated that I kept my wife locked up in the house against her will.
I was arrested with about 4 police vehicles turning up in our cul-de-sac, in front of our neighbours and my children.
I sat in a cell, had my prints, DNA and picture taken as though I were a criminal and was the one at fault.
After 14 hours and a harrowing experience and interview, I was released with no further action.
I was driven home at 3am and told I was to pack a bag, leave my home and go as far away as possible and not return.
I was so shocked and traumatised (I had also lost a very good job the week before due to redundancies) and had to sleep on a friends floor for a week, and then another and another and still find myself homeless with no money.
In the meantime my wife continued to lie about me to anyone she could, including social services, who took her word as gospel, gave her all the help she needed, wrote all sorts of defamatory things about
I was falsely accused of domestic violence,I in fact was the victim in all honesty. But she decided to strike first and call the police after I had made a pretend call during the onslaught of violence from her.
I was defending myself.
I suffered injuries etc and was charged. Placed on bail for approximately 4 months.
I pleaded not guilty and was aquitted after being crucified during the hearing at magistrates.
My questions are.
I suffered injury. Where do I stand with putting a counter allegation against her?
I was on bail , forced from my home (we had a joint tenancy which I solely had paid in advance for) and had to rent somewhere whilst waiting for court case.
My travel costs to the police station court etc.
Surely as I am innocent. I should be entitled to be in the same financial position I was in when first accused?
The system really doesn't mean innocent until proven guilty if this is what's happening to people out there.
My situation can't be unique can it?
I have been falsely accused my partner or soon to be ex partner of domestic voilence which I never did and even the police found it so strange and took no further action. Since then my partner has taken away my son all the way to the North East whiles we live in London with all other friends and family. It's obvious to me now that was her motive to falsely accused me and take away my son and stop me seeing him.
In Spain the situation is much worse.
The word of the woman , without proof, is equivalent to the truth.
There are thousands of men in jail for a false report.
I proceeded contact arrangement with my son in court and she contested against that on the baseless grounds of domestic violence towards her and my son during when we were together (3 years ago). but the court ordered for supervised contact with my son. In 2 sessions of contact arrangement so far, she was at least 30 mins late for each 1 hour session and it was recorded by the supervisor.
Now recently she made a police complaint of domestic violence by me against her which according to her took place 3 years ago. Police given me plenty of time (since I was working in different city) and asked me to come to the police station and I volunteered myself for the enquiry and denied all her false allegations but they arrested me and liberated in the same time by giving a notice to attend the court hearing on next month. police said that her mother witnessed an assault (slap) by me towards her daughter 3 years ago when she was in my house in UK.
1. I would like to know that is there any potential credibility of the witness since she is interested party of the victim.
2. Is this evidence is enough for the PF (procurator fiscal) to decide that is it in the public interest to prosecute and go forward with this case.
3. since the timing of her complaint coincides after my initiation of the contact arrangements in court. Also her mother landed in UK 4 months back and they were dormant for 4 months and suddenly went to the police before my first supervised contact session.
4. She had the same domestic violence allegations on the return writ petition for my child contact proceedings. but the judge never ever said anything regarding that allegations and directly ordered for the supervised contact to start with since I was separated from my son for the last 2 years. what I would like to know why the judge didn’t shown any seriousness to her allegations on me.
Please let me know how serious this case in total.
Not employed or signing on no legal aid just no right to no if my sons even alive. Been with him since he was born dec 3rd 2014 now I havnt seen him since December 17th
She lied about her sexual past when I first meet her with time she admits many things that she done before casual sex many sexual partners more than 40 drugs alcohol abuse and so on.
that was too much for me so I started to argue with her almost daily verbal abuse in both sides never physical abuse but she beat me several times I never touched her.
I was taking care of our son in the morning for more than 4 month while she was at work as I work evenings and also taking full time care of my daughter from my previous relationship for almost 5 years
On December things get bad I left home although I still taking care of my son in the morning but after an argument she asked me to leave home and don't come once in the street I realised that my wallet and keys was left in the flat so I climb a roof and explain to her what happened she said if you do n go I will call police I
One week latter I manage to see my son once and I leave Christmas presents for my son her daughter and her also.
Between Christmas and new year eve I did not see my child she said that I can't see my child alone or go out whit him and my daughter, no answers of my txts, then on new year eve I was outside the house with a bunch of flowers crying because she still ignoring my calls and txt she saw me trough the window and suddenly a police van came they said if I continue around her house they will arrest me even a good neighbor came out in my defence
What can I do to recover contact with my son and to take out my belongings from her house
Thanks in advance
and released on bail pending investigation with no access to anything in my house which I bought before we met.
The Police and the CPS found no ground to charge or prosecute as there were no evidence to suggest any abuse towards her.
I was meant to return to my home on the 10th of Aprir 2015, but to my surprise, a court courier knocked on my sister's door at 9pm on the 9th of April with the Court Document for "NON OCCUPATION AND NON MOLESTATION ORDER which stated that I should not under any circumstances go near the house.
We attended the Court on three occasions and on the third one, with several hours of deliberations and documents presented by me to prove that all her allegations are not true. She said she can't leave with me anymore and her lawyer said the Court should make me to stay away and I should continue to pay the mortgage and all the household bills Because she has not being working for about 5 years after walking out of her previous job in 2010 or I should sell the house and give her half of the money. I disagree with the points on the basis that she should go and get a job, and I can't afford to rent a room and don't want to sell and render my sons homeless.
It was break time and we were asked to be back to Court room by 2pm.
Her lawyer came up to me before going back to the courtroom to suggest that we can resolve this issue out of Court for the sake of our sons and the messy nature of the situation, pointing to the report of the Social services which I have already countered but because of my sons and because I want to go back to the comfort of my own house I was ready to listen and compromise. Her lawyer said the non- Occupation order will be cancelled and non molestation order in 6 months she will either move out of the house when she gets a job or will be paying the household bills provided I sign an undertakings to stay away for another 6months for her to get a job or decide her next move.
I agreed because I want to go back home to my sons as they are missing me as much as I'm missing them
The Court accepted my undertakings. The non molestation order expires in April 2016 and all the allegations cancelled provided I do not breach the undertakings.
With all the allegations over in April and being allowed back into my house, do I have any protection or legal right to still move back to my house if she decide to bring up a fresh false allegations or come up with divorce papers before April. It is very obvious that she just want the money from the property and run
I have been living rough and looking forward to April in anticipation of going back home.
Please advise
Thank you
The problem occurred relatively recently when both my partner and I were somewhat intoxicated and, in trying to help me, he tried to take a bottle of drink off of me. In doing so, my head hit the wall and I spoke to 111 after an unfortunate "go on, I dare you" conversation.
An ambulance took me away and ascertained that I had a minor concussion but, very regrettably he was taken into police custody. No charges were pressed but he did have to spend the night in the cells and this is now, clearly, on his record.
We are both very concerned that if, under the influence, I were to report him for Tring to prevent me going out or having a drink, that he could be arrested again. This is something that could only ever happen if I have been drinking as I do tend to be deceitful and overreact.
Is there anyway of getting a record that he should never be arrested, questioned etc for simply grabbing my arm? Obviously, if he hit me to would be a different matter but I don't wish him to get into any trouble just for trying to help me!This is of paramount importance to our relationship!! I am doing everything I can and getting help to deal with my issues but I want to be sure he is safe from any issues due to me not having things 100% under control. He only has my best interests at heart.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Situation where I had to restrain her as she was been abusive and violent to me and her sister. I smacked her and restrained her. All calmed down and we had four great days
Nine days later the police me and invite me for interview on allegations of child abuse, fully co operated and now three weeks later a social worker is telling me non children are saying the same that I hit her with a belt and kicked to floor which I did not do.
Lost my job absolutely destroyed at this situation and feel on the edge
I'm disgusted in the justice system
I'm in court tomorrow 12pm for the second time to try an again sort out access so I can see my kids she's made rape 5/6 assault acusations against me and had me arrested for breach of bail 4 times all NFA by the police acept for 1 common assault were I've been charged and will prove my innocence in January I can't even pick my kids up from school without being harassed and intimidated due to lies I have no criminal record social services and the school member of the MARAC team are being completely biased against me and have even lied to me
As I say court tomorrow and I need to try and get my kids out of her care she's surrounded by drugs and drug users and my son mainly his education and attendonce at school is suffering severely help anyone I'm at my wits end
My girlfriends since admitted she needs psychological help so will this help my case?
Terrified innocent in edinburugh
While i was at the police station during my interview i was then arrested again for false imprisonment of my wife
I am currently bail, after i got released i went home to find that police and my wife had taken all her stuff along with my daughter.. she is 7 months old
Ive spoke to every solicitor and social services and the police to find out where my daughter is and how she is but had no luck.
I feel like ive been used by my wife and her family for her to stay in this country and feel like my daughter has been kidnapped
I cant get legal aid because im the one whos being falsley accused of violence
Anyone can help?
What do you think the punishment would be if I was to plead guilty at the intermediate diet.
I ended the relationship with my ex at the beginning of 2013 as I had met someone else the relationship wasn't the best with alot of arguments from both sides. I had left numerous times but was always begged to go back and I never had the courage to leave for good. She got her family to make a false allegation last year of sexual assault saying back to 2004 which was investigated with no charges to be brought. Then decided to send abusive messages and contact my partners family to which I made a complaint to the police she was questioned and released as gave a no comment statement. 20 days later she made a complaint to police of DV 1 charge 2002 breach of the peace 2 2005 of pulling her hair and 2012 punching her. She begged to get vows renewed in 2012 against my wishes . My lawyer advised to plead not guilty in court which I did and has been speaking to a senior pf who has said they are considering the case and in his word is clear this is a women with hell have no fury.. I have not seen my children for a number of years and was trying to go to court with the use of legal aid which my ex phoned to query my income and resulted in my legal aid being terminated. Constantly calling the csa to get more money as well. I'm in 2 minds what to do. It was me that filed for divorce also which she dragged her heels with supplying the affadavits again at my cost. I suffer from depression and anxiety which I am on medication for and should have done something about before but didn't have the willpower at the time too. And I would go on benders and binge drink. Was declared bankrupt in 2013 as well as I couldn't afford my bills and rent on a flat. I did have overnight contact with my children for the first year but would continually get abusive phone calls from my ex which resulted in me binging. I fully accept that it was not right to have contact with my children until I dealt with my issues but these charges are not fair. The stress of not knowing what is going to happen makes my illness worse.
I eventually got her home but she states that she didn't phone me and that she has no knowledge of what I'm suggestion.
Since then she has became abusive,violent and repeatedly accused me of domestic abuse if I try to talk about what I saw. She has told me if I speak about it to anyone she will divorce me.
She has told our adult children a pack of lies and continually winds them up saying I'm abusing her and this has led to me being assaulted by her and them on numerous occasions. Despite trying to be honest with the kids they refuse to listen to anything I say as she has convinced them I'm nuts.
Things came to a head between Xmas and new year past and I informed her that after new year was past I would be leaving and filing for divorce.
She was like a woman possessed for 3 days. I was repeatedly assaulted but this had been the usual for some time and I was on the verge of moving out so done my best to ignore her.
In the early hours of 3 Jam she was again kicking off and attempted to leave the house with 2 knives threatening that she was going to her herself.
I stood in her way and refused to let her leave and she eventually threw the knifes down and walked away,I injured.I hid the knives outside and when I returned she had a small cut on her chin,which she was pulling apart with her hands. She got the blood flowing and went and woke my eldest son stating I had attacked her.
Together they became abusive and threatening and I left to go for cigarettes in the car. When I got back the police were at the house.
I was detained,arrested and have spent the last 9 months in bail for a crime I didn't commit.
Can't be at home and all that goes with it. I have been reliabley informed that the crown have stopped proceedings but 6 weeks later I have not had any official notification.
The statements made to the family courts by my ex clearly contradict the criminal statments, and it's clearly evident that they were intended to mislead, can anyone offer any advice on how I proceed to clear my name, i can't quite believe that the courts can be manipulated in this way!
1. My 15 year old sister has decided alone that she wants to stay with my dad, they are currently homeless and have nowhere to live, he has gone to the council but they have said that my sister can go back to the family home but she doesn’t want to and as a fifteen year old girl you’d think that she could make up her own mind, but the council have said to my dad they will only rehouse him a s a single man. Which means they won’t for my sister, the council told my dad to get a letter from her mum, but she’s refused to and they said or he can go to the social but they waved away his case...Any advice?
2. My dad’s ex’s friend has been sending me messages, slandering my dad and has accused him of things that he hasn’t done, for example, threatening her to her face, but to be honest he’s hardly left the house where’s he’s been staying at. She’s also being mean to my 11 year old sister and we have texts to prove this. What could I do?
Any advice would be gratefully recieved
4 weeks into my stay, she called to tell me she had us seperated at centre link to receive benifits for my son and herself, she told me to keep my mouth shut and no one would find out.
Not only was she reciving thousands of dollars from me each week as I took on a casual job in sydney , she recived all my holiday pay from my work, I even in that time paid for a holiday to Melbourne cup.
I was advised to get her to stop or end it as its punishable by 2 years prison.
2 weeks later I ended it, By email. What I can only describe as pure revenge, 9 hours later I was in hand cuffs facing false accusations of a number of things that were not true. I proved with out doubt I was innocent though I still had to go to court.
now pay attention people, fearing my ex would get in trouble for stealing from the government, I consented to the AVO . Dumbest thing I ever did.
11 months later now, I've had zero contact with my son.
Im about to present my case to family court as she still claims I abused her and is claiming we seperated the day I came to sydney to care for my brother.
I'm also submitting to federal investigation a lot of evidence of her fraud.
This is what im scratching my head about, why is she wanting to go to court , im only asking for 2 days of care each week, the evidence is overwhelming that what im saying is the truth... is family court really that one sided , she used my baby boy to falsly obtain benefits from the Australian people.
She is going to lie in a federal court to cover up a federal crime.
Im sorry but she really has no fear of doing this. What do you need to do to be prosecuted for lying.
I just want to see my baby boy, I never wanted it to get this far.
Ive got a great lawyer and I pray they will give me a fair trial.
Now luckily for me, I had old texts which show this isn't the first time she's done this and also the resulting aftermath of apologies from her and acknowledging she made it all up to hurt me (she has suffered with mental health issues) and I've been smart enough to record all calls on my mobile as she normally denies doing and saying these things in the past!
Still, I kept to the truth in the interview and could back up everything I said with either texts, calls or from her support network (social services, cpn, medical,ect).
I'm now left in limbo for a month whilst they investigate, not allowed home and frankly have no idea what is going on!
My solicitor has reassured me that the allegations should be NFA'd as her account doesn't add up plus the evidence on my phone to show what she said was all lies.
Now fingers crossed, this will all be cleared up but that still doesn't leave me in a good place! When I'm allowed home, I know I can't trust her and I will be thinking "When's she going to do it again?"
Don't worry, relationship is over after this yet the house is in both our names so I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place!
I do have a number to call and apparently this solicitor is top notch in dealing with things like this.
Still doesn't help me with how I feel towards women now, the lost 24 hrs of my life I'll never get back or the homelife which is now in tatters.
All I can say to anyone who has been falsely accused: Keep your messages and install software on YOUR phone to prove your innocence. Back it all up once in a while so your phone doesn't run out of space.
Trust me - you'll be glad you did and it will make all the difference.
I must also say that I'm for the law in the UK and fully get why they have to treat each call serious. What I do hope after this is she is arrested for perverting the course of justice and wasting police time.
Otherwise what's to stop her doing it again and some other poor innocent actually does get found guilty??
My ex husband was arrested for rape in November 2014. His still wife at the time (which were going through a divorce aswell) accused him of rape. She called the cops after having a verbal argument with my one of my daughters. At the time of the call she never mentioned or said anything about rape. She told them there was a domestic dispute with her husband's daughter.
He was arrested, my daughters (2) were removed from the home and taken by CPS. The wife went to a hospital for a rape test that night. My Ex was bailed out the next day my daughters were released to me and the nightmare began.
My ex and daughters were not allowed back into the home not even to get their things due to a restraining order leaving them homeless. They were forced to live at a family's friend house until the girls finished the school year (June 2015). My ex has been in and out of court since December 2014 with no positive outcome. (Did I mention the wife works for the DA?) also none of her statements match. All reports say different DATES, statements of the event are different. Everything she's said in INCONSISTENT! The rape kit came back negative for everything except for a small mark on the side which could've been cause by underwear.
All in all its been stressful and very costly for my ex. Not to mention the heartache and trauma its cost our daughters.
Last court was on July 8th 2015 and they offer him a plea bargain which he didn't take of course. He is willing to go to trial to prove his innocence. This woman shows all the patterns of a disturb and money greedy person.
What other actions should his lawyer or him take in order to prove him innocent of all this? And if proven innocent can he turn around and sue her?
, can the police interview me in my own house rather than take me to the station or if I get taken to the station what are my rights about getig police bail?
Intact she lies that much she doesn't know what the truth is. My kids have been emotionally abused by her
Had the same happening to me 6 weeks ago. My wife went to police, left the house with the kids, and 3 weeks later i received an email from a citizen's advice reccomemded lawyer, on behalf of my wife, accusing me in a 6 page epistel of the most terrible things. As it had turned out, based on her statement her lawyer had went to family court and received a same day non-molestation and occupancy order, for a year! I did not get an email, phone call, nothing from police or court before that date. Could not go back to the house, see the kids, etc. A hearing was scheduled for 3 weeks later(last tuesday), and there was the first opportunity to share my story on the events listed. Judge turned like a leaf and forced my wife into 'undertakings', annulling the orders.
Now my question is, is there a way for me to go after her for a false statement? Contrary to her, i have a lot of evidence(emails, sms's, etc) to prove that the majority of what she stated, is a full lie. How could i pursue this? Could i file for perjury or contempt of court or something?
Thanks.
Is there anyone with advise that can help me please.
Thank you
My girlfriend has also told them that there has never been incidents of domestic violence.but social service said someone of authority had seen me.i was probably trying to hold her up or stop her from waving her hands at me but I would never do anthing like that to her and my unborn child its just insane
my ex b.f was a monster a couple of examples are- he nearly blinded me after stabbing me in the stomach. The police were hopeless and after neighbours called them several times I was given a number to call. Eventually This lead to a bed in a hostel. It was dirty, full of prostitutes, drug addicts and dealers. I wouldn't let my dog sleep their. Luckily I met my now husband and left the psycho. My husband's ex wasn't happy. She Made our lives unbearable. The police kicked the door in 3times after she lied saying we had drugs on the premises. Obviously they didn't find anything but that means they have to replace our door. So they found a barrel from a syringe (no needle), still in packet, out of reach & sight. It was from the medicine I gave my dog. But they didn't care. I complained a "investigation" was made (supposedly) and thought no more of it. The raids had stopped. long story short I feared for my child's safety and called social services the idiots didn't help my child. They told my ex not to let my baby visit my home, where I raised her for7year. All because a police form stated I had needles all over my house. Theyd never even been to my house. They just made false accusations and left my daughter in danger. I don't have a criminal record I've worked at the Same place for20years. Looked after my daughter while her mother dissapeared for days. I asked for help and my life was ruined. What can I do??
I don't really know what to do from here. Is there anything we can do to make her stop making these false allocations? Are there any steps he can take to protect himself in the future? What's going to happen now? How are cases like these investigated?
I've read convictions can often be brought even with very little evidence other than the accusations of the "victim" - what's looked at in these circumstances?
My boyfriend doesn't have a history of violence and doesn't have a criminal record. In the first accusation and subsequent arrest, at the time the "incident" is said to have taken place he was with me and 40 other people at a party - he very obviously didn't do the things she'd accused him of but no charges were brought against her for misleading the police.
Without speaking to him, I don't know the details of the arrest this time round, but I'm sure it will be similar to the first time round.
Can she just continue falsely accusing him indefinitely? Could he end up going to prison for something he didn't do on the strength of a statement from someone who less than a year ago completely lied to the police about the exact same thing?
I don't know how the rest of you guys do it - I just know it's disgusting to lie about an issue that is so real for so many women.
There just HAS to be a way to safeguard ourselves and protect the kids legitimately and legally without it escalating any further.
They found in his safe some penknives (he's had them for years never even got them out ) he's been charged with criminal damage a hole to the wall he says it wasn't him and I don't know if it was him or my family , he was on licence from a year ago he has been let out on bail , due to go back in 2 weeks , iv tried to withdraw my statement telling them I didn't want to do it and I felt pressured by my family they've said of I worhdraw I could be charged, iv just been diagnosed with post natal depression , do you think il be charged and do you think my boyfriend will be charged ? And if so any advice in what I can or should do ? We have a 1 year old , and I feel so lost and alone without him and I dont want him to go to prison :'(
Can anyone help me? I want to know if there's someone that can help me remove the false accusations because they've been affecting my life.
Family and Chancery High Court judges have debunked allegations of DV in judgements,summations and "brief summaries. There are mutual NMOs. My ex partners DV allegations are unsubstantiated and my NMO is backed up with two crime reference numbers,hospital reports with photos of actual bodily harm.
Despite the family judge reiterating his ruling repeatedly, Cafcass submitted a report that damages my standing as a father. The Cafcass refuses to deal with this report that is 50% in question and 30 to 40% in error of fact. I have been repeatedly denied ADR and have been manipulated into a ineffective complaints process.
I have been here with county court proceedings and I know where this is going.
My "final hearing is in less than three weeks and if I do not get the quality contact that has been recommended by the family courts own expert witnesses, I will be starting a hunger strike. I am under no illusions to this as I am an experienced human rights campaigner. I will be consulting my GP shortly.
I am a private person and wish to remain anonymous. However I need someone to deal with the media. Due to the reporting restrictions I am also considering a move abroad to circumvent the restrictions if needed. Someone needs to take a stand against these secret family courts. Even Sir James Munby want transparency and accountability but as the most senior family judge in the land, even his views are disregarded.
Hunger strike dad
ps Established bloggers are welcome to my email details if they wish to support the rights of our children.
Kept for ten hours subjected to DNA, fingerprint etc
All charges dropped!
Now social services have been called in and my nightmare has started again
In the summer I had summons served wrongly on me and had to return my daughter to her mum ( even though she wants to stay with me) went to court to answer a variety of accusations and came away with a parental order allowing me every weekend, this changed the first week and the court order has been breach on a regular basis ever since with my daughter staying full time with me and my new partners family
My daughter has already stated where she wants to be to social services and the school who I have been working with closely to keep her studies going.
After my last arrest my solicitor stated keep well away and don't give any possibility for your ex to accuse you of anything so to tomorrow another meeting with another social worker who has already accused me of DV without even reading the notes on the case or even that the police had dropped all alleged charges
Pissed off and stressed out!
Investigations no further action . My x is lieing to police social services and even her local MP .
She made up 23 allergations in family court 13 where used and found not proven . She tried setting me up and yet I can't stop her should she be arrested for something or can I do anything to stop this . It's ruined my life and cost me my home job and my contact with my little girl .
Neither of these events were intentional but they have made me very cautious of being on foot around the driveway when she is reversing out
The kids witnessed this and were in the car both times
Meanwhile the rumours come back to me altered with chinese whispers so that I find that instead of the hug the story is changed so im accused of beating her
Wish me luck my lawyer is confident thatwe will beat it on the 27th November
It is a horrible position to be in accused of such low crimes and not have a right to reply before being charged
Also bail conditions were upheld til the hearing which means over a month of zero contact with my three kids who have been told god knows what lies about why I havnt been to see them
The man gets no support he just has to get the best lawyer he cant afford and hope and trust in the justice system
!5 years of marriage no domestic violence from me
I have falsely accused by my wife in order to get indefinitely leave to remain in UK. But police cleared me without any charges. She's on dependent visa until end of December 2014. I'm British citizen and I sponsored her to come to UK. I have 9months old baby. I have no idea where baby and mother. Police told me, they are in safe place.
When I contacted social worker, I told him that, I'm worrying about the baby. My wife is not capable to look after my baby without my help. Then social worker contacted her, but she refused to give a permission to see my baby.
When I contacted the solicitor, I understand that, I have to spent considerable amount of money and I'll not able to get legal aid.
I'm innocent victim here. Can some one please help?
Thanks
I was evicted from my home on fathers day this year , shes made me feel im in the wrong and im just a sperm donor . I wish to see my daughter and i have attempted several communications with her , however my problem is she will turn violent which will be turned round and put on me.
because of the way i have been evicted with no notice she has approx £5,000 of my equipment which she has not let me collect or has she returned, as i have just started a business i do not have any money , i had to replace most things plus find another house plus tax mot and insure my vehicle ,, i believe she planned the eviction to claim several benefits and also get rid of me , because of the expense of what ive had to do to carry on working its been three months since i saw my daughter I cant get legal representation due to this or anything i need pointing in the right direction , as i do believe the violence could erupt if i stir the pot ..
Hi, I would like to ask the same question as Mrs Angry. Basically, my brother went through an almost an identical situation where he was accused of Harrassment and Stalking. Although all charges of stalking were dropped (as they were false), he was forced into admitting charges of harrassment, as he did send text messages. In the end, he only received a caution as a warning.
Can he now prosecute his ex girlfriend for making false allegations/claims for stalking? She basically lied and made a false statement since there was no proof of anything she claimed happened. She basically has wasted police time.
Also, my brother was arrested at work, the ordeal of dealing with that and having his collegues look at him in such a manner, caused him great embarrassment and distress. Our elderly parents who were at home at the time, received a phone call of the arrest and were so distressed at the news, that my father almost had an heart attack. That girl has ruined our life, surely she must pay for her lies and deceit.
Is there such a process to prosecute her?
She then went to the police & said he was harassing her and she'd told him to stop. This was a lie - she'd encouraged him (verbally) to text.
In her statement to the police she said he'd also been stalking her. She has 2 CCTV pics of him at her house, but she'd asked him to go round to check some works she'd had done on her house.
So she stitched him up.
But to add to her complain she's stated other dates and times he's supposed to have followed and stalked her. We can prove that he was elsewhere on those occasions, and that he doesn't even still own the car she said he was driving.
Our solicitor says that the judge will go on her assertion that she "felt scared" by his texts and visits, and will find him guilty but it's not a serious offence. However he cannot deny that he texted her and went to her house.
Even though in the eyes of the law he is guilty of harassment, surely she can't get away with the provable lies in her statement? Can we prosecute her even though my partner is technically 'guilty'.?
After being through your case and proceedings what did you learn was the fastest way to get your case dismissed? I'am going through the same thing. I just want this false allegation to be over with and not waste all my money on a case over an emotionally unstable person.
My lawyer told me dont worry but I am . I don't understand why I cant have a normal life like everyone else.
I like many above suffered years of screaming, name calling and outright abuse at the hands of my psycho ex-partner only to be packaged up and sentenced as a violent abuser by the justice system.
Now suffering from PTSD on medication permanently and in counseling. I've just discovered that the children are now also getting counseling probably due to all the lies they've been told despite them knowing the truth.
When I tried to get contact she tried to use the system against me but luckily the family courts are probably seeing all to much of this and rejected her claims.
The police don't help matters as all they want is to prosecute you regardless of your circumstances.
I was also falsely accused of domestic violence by my ex-wife. She did it as the laws in Northern Ireland allow the male to be removed from the house for a month no questions asked after that the wife has to show evidence of domestic violence. She also funny enough qualified for legal aid in the divorce.
Look the people who actually know you ie I had to look my Mum in the eye and say I never touched her..... they will know the truth the rest and do gooders do not matter!
I was never given the chance to respond to the Petitioner (Mr.G False Accusations against me) re: Case# Mr. Gutierrez continues to Stalk/Harass me, the last incident was on 4-20-14 after the Respondent was served the temporary Domestic Violence Restraining Order, pls see police report Case # and statement
Family Law Building
540 E. Main Street
Stockton CA, 95202
I’m requesting a set aside of Restraining Order (Case # FL381029) I was never served with notice of the Temporary Restraining Order or Permanent Restraining Order.
On 1-7-2014 I Filed a Civil Harassment Restraining Order against Mr. G (the Respondent). a copy was sent to the San Joaquin County Sheriff Dept (Affidavit of Unsuccessful Service), after the hearing on 1-31-14, I was granted a continuance, before the next hearing on 2-21-14, I enlisted the help of CORA (Community Overcoming Relationship Abuse/Attorney M G) I was unaware that I should have filed a Domestic Violence Restraining Order, my former Attorney filed the Domestic Violence order on 02-17-14. she then accompanied me to the Civil Harassment Continuance Hearing on 2-21-14 Once again the Process Server whom I hired (R R Attorney Services) was unable to serve the (Respondent) , please see attached copy of Declaration.
The Respondent did showed up to the Civil Harassment Hearing, briefly looked around the Courtroom saw me then left, I told my former Attorney that I saw the respondent, she then went after him so that she can serve him the Domestic Violence Restraining Order, the Respondent left the building in a hurry then drove off in his Chevy Silverado Truck before she can catch him, when it was my turn to speak to the Judge, I told him about the incident that just occurred, the Civil Harassment was then dismissed, I decided to move forward with the Domestic Violence which was already on file.
On February 22nd 2014 right around 2:00 pm the respondent (Mr. Gutierrez) approached me as I was leaving the Foster City Library to catch the bus home, he started to harass me, I was terrified, he made the following statements (why are you doing this, we both are going to go to jail, I know your every move) I immediately called the Foster City Police, the respondent took off running towards his truck which was parked in the Foster City Library parking lot when they arrived I told them what happened, and which way the Respondent went, the officer told me that they were able to serve the Respondent with the DomesticViolence Restraining Order at the same time Officer A ( arrested me (please see attached documents) stating that I violated a Restraining that the Respondent have against me, I mentioned to the arresting officer that I was unaware of any Restraining Order, I was never served a restraining order either in person or by mail, can he give me a date/time a place where I was served, I tried to explain to the officer that I haven’t had contact with the respondent since 12-24-13 when I broke up with him and that the respondent lives in San Joaquin County area he’s in San Mateo County stalking me, he recently came by my house knocking at my door on 2-21-14 at 10:55 am right after my Court Hearing my (son is a Witness) please see attached statement)
On the
• Uttering death threats & domestic assault, ... date: Jun 23rd, 2013 [Arrested; released on surety bond to face trial; trial date was set for early May 2014]
• Breach of recognizance [Police contacted him by phone (on 4 Apr. 2014) to say that since he was not living with the surety, therefore he had breached recognizance (or, the conditions of his earlier release on bail; Police also informed him that his spouse had alleged that he had committed an assault with a broom ... date of alleged occurrence: Feb 15th, 2014. He assured the police (on Apr. 4, 2014) that he will turn himself in later that day];
• Failed to surrender to the police on Apr. 4, 2014.
Previous charges:
• Domestic violence, assault. [3-4 years ago]; pleaded guilty.
Need to Know:
1. If convicted on these charges --- due to the accused being not present in Canada, and a one-sided decree that may be given by the Court --- can an accused be extradited? (from an Asian country to Canada).
2. Is it possible, under the Law, for such charges to be (automatically) dropped after the passage of a specific period of time, or would the charges stand forever?
3. What is the law regarding enforcement of paying child-support if one parent lives abroad.
4. If the person becomes financially broke, can the creditors go after him? Would that be considered a fraud?
5. Is it possible for such a person to still conduct business (e.g., Internet-based business) using SIN, and be able to maintain a personal bank account in Canada?
6. Once convicted on these charges what are travel restrictions? (for travel to any of the Commonwealth countries)
And i have no crimanal charges please help me... i am stressed and more than me my wife is also over stressed..atleast I think so. As f now i cannot contact her.so not sure how is she doing
Moral of the story here is NOT TO DRINK ALCOHOL !!!
My wife has done similar to this before but not involved the police but threatened a cout order if I dont leave the house. We got back together as I suggested we try for the family sake, she I think accepted knowing that she could not get the court order with out the police allegation. I am going through this so she can keep the house and immediately, so basically this is about money.
Any advice to offer with regards to the criminal and civil matter?
Wayne
(I don't sleep too well and toss and turn or get up in the small hrs) hence the separate beds. my wife also suffers from depression and she has been drinking a lot, sometimes 3 to 4 bottles of wine and for 3 to 4 days, she becomes very verbally abusive towards me, from month to month it is getting worse, the choice of language is getting stronger, trying to get a greater effect from me i guess.
Her personally changes just after 3 or 4 drinks, Christmas was horrendous she was abuse to my son then me and it continued with me for weeks.
she get upset when I don't talk to her the following day and become distant to her, I cant help how I feel after the foul language that has been dished out to me, I really don't want to be near her.
I had a drink myself about 2 weeks later and gave her a piece of my mind to let her see how it feels, later as I sat in the living room watching TV with my feet up on a stool, laying back on recliner at 45deg angle, she pounced on me getting in my face, (this point was a bit vague) as i was holding the remote control in my right hand crossed over my chest (in the direction of the TV) I instinctively moved my hands to the front (my elbow were still at my side) the remote came in contact with the side of her head, she left the room, I struggled to get out of the chair (trying to push the foot rest back in place is difficult do to hip issues, I found her in the next room all quiet, i appololgised saying I did not mean for that to happen it was an accident.
she said nothing, about 1 hr later the police turn up 4 of them and I was locked up for 48 hrs. it was a horrendous experience due to the pain I feel when not being able to move about, I saw two doctors as I did not have my regular medication.
(when I say things were vague I mean I figured some things out later) its that I now believe that she was actually reaching down the side of my chair to confiscate my drink, she had to knell on the chair I was sitting in between my legs and her head was almost level with my chest as my elbows never left my side. (should I mention this in court. also she has spoke of divorce and i am now wondering if this is what has driven her to do this. the final nail in the coffin of our marriage, we have been married 40 years. in our late 50's now.
we have been unable to speak to each other due to bale conditions for over 2months now. this has not helped the situation at all now she is dreading going to court and i believe she may make matters worse for me.
I have never been in trouble with the police before in my life and am very worried about what might happen to me if they believe her and find me guilty.
and there was no mark on her face as there was no force or intent when she was struck.
I made the mistake of not asking for a lawyer, I felt I had nothing to
i feel into a depression at the time and was put on antideppressents, i strugled to sleep at night and wake up in the morning.
one morning i woke up and my partner was angry because i wasent out of bed already and tempers flared, she picked up the phone to call the police to have me removed from the house out of spite as i had never done anything apart from not be up on time.
the police arrived to my house and i awnsored the door to them as they went to the wrong one and infront of my daughter (that was the hardest thing) they cuffed me and put me out in the car infront of everyone i know on the street where i grew up.
i pleaded that i had done nothing wrong but they just wanted to discusse it at the station. (i was still in my pajamas)
note i have never been in truble or been arrested before and was also on the final stages of obtaining a job at the university of st andrews as an apprentice but was turned down due to the situaition.
i weavered my right to a lawer (inexperienced, young) because i did not think i needed one as i new i done nothing wrong, and as described above they took a sympothetic approtch to me in the inerview and then charged me and told me i could not go home.
they took my photo dna and fingerprints and i just felt so hust that the system could do this to me, i thought it was innocent till proven guilty not the other way around.
i did not stop pleading i should not be here but it feel on def ears and they looked not concerned at all to listen,and made me feel like a criminal.
i was taken to court the next day and pleaded my case to g4security who transport the prisoner to the court from the station and they actully listened to me and approtched the judge while i was in the court detention cells and i was realesed without charge after they looked at the evidence. but i still had to make my way home in my pajamas 7 miles journey. i would never wish that humilation on anyone.
i feel from the situation my rights were violated and i was treated by the police as unjust, so i made a formel complaint about how the matter was dealt with for them to reply saying the do not have decressonery powers anymore and when the system is started at cant be undone so i never had the grounds to complain so it was closed. i am still with my partner as i know she never ment it to go as far as it did but it was young people mistakes as little or no knowledge of outcome due to inexperience in these natures. i do want to challenge the police to have my identity removed from there system for privicy rights and the fact i shouldnt be on there anyway without my consent, and i didnt give consent but i didnt stop them neither or resist i just said am not going to stop you but you dont have my consent and they still carried on
of course interview done, well when that will ended? when? when my children will 18 years old? anyone know what to do? i want see my children, but i can not contact my wife
The next day she shouted at my daughter a lot that school morning when my 5 year old wouldn't let her do her hair and wouldn't tidy up as she didn't know where the toys went.
After i done the school run i tried talking to my ex but she was being moody and kept stressing at me. I thought her depression was back. She had an appointment that day 12.00 at the doctors to have the staples removed. We broke up in the taxi when i tried to talk to her in the taxi when there was someone their about her hitting my 5 year old. She said she wanted to talk about it in the house. We arrived at the doctors and she kept stressing at me in front of everyone. I then decided to phone social services about her hitting my 5 year old as i thought i was getting nowhere. At that time her name was called and she said she didn't want me in the room even though i was her career at the time as she was partially sighted and had a rare brain disorder (iih) and cried domestic abuse.
Police were called and i had to stay at my mam house even though i didn't do anything wrong. Over the weekend i found out she had moved area with my 2 children as she was scared of her own safety. 4 years ago i was made main carer of my eldest daughter when she was in a Psychiatric hospital after she after she went on a night with the child tax and lied to me about it. When i checked with the bank and told her i knew she got me removed from the house as she said i hit her when i didn't, even though there was no marks on her. The next day i reported her to social services and she got removed from the house. Later i was main carer of my only girl at the time, and it was decided that if me and my ex broke up i would be full time career of my daughter who is 5 now. Also my ex-partner said that i could have full control of money to social services so she didn't do what she did again, when she wanted to get back with me.
Since the resent brake up she has a domestic abuse worker who pays her legal aid (solicitor). I can’t get legal aid threw the new law change last year. She is stopping me having contact with the children and social services are not helping me. They seem to be taking her side and not listening to me. Please could some give me advice on what to do or point me in the right direction of help available for me. My ex-partner has alre
However it's still been hell for me. I am constantly having to defend myself to social workers and during the divorce court proceedings. Access to my children is being restricted "just in case" her accusations might be true. There is no presumption of innocence here!
The system is wrong because it encourages false accusations to be made. There is a real advantage for a woman who makes these claims. Taking a cynical approach, my advice to any woman going through a divorce is to claim you are a victim of domestic violence - you have everything to gain and nothing to lose.
"I'm sure over half of men say their partners claimed false DVO's on them. In the end, it doesn't matter though because God knows."
Many men, perhaps more than half, are falsely accused of domestic violence and many men are victims of domestic abuse/violence.
It does matter as many are routinely ejected from their homes on the basis of false allegations, and may even be sent to jail just for talking to a woman; no threats or violence needed. In the UK men are guilty until proven innocent when there domestic abuse/violence allegations.
How is this right? A woman can attack a man, phone the police and claim it was the other way round and the victim will get arrested. Should this have happened? Did Bedfordshire police get this wrong? how the hell does the victim end up in a dirty police cell whilst the offender gets away scot free?? anyone know the answer, I would love to hear it.
many thanks for reading my comment and good luck to anyone (male or female) suffering dv and injustice.
Two months ago, a Senior Police Officer rang me and stated that "we don't always get it right, and the officer who did this to you is only human and she did her best." The office who did this to me DID NOT DO HER BEST. This Officer has NEVER interviewed me. She LIED profusely in the application against me and she continued to go to my ex-husband telling him to get more evidence on me. My ex would then set things up, like refusing to drop my sons home and telling me I would have to come over and get them and then he would ring the police and report that I had come to his house again and he had people who witnessed that I came there. I didn't even know he was reporting these things. The phone call from the Seni
Throughout the marriage I endured much abuse - the two that stick in my mind most are being locked in the garden in my night clothes whilst it snowed and a broken arm.
To cut a long story short, we are now divorcing and he has now turned the story around stating that it was me who abused him physically throughout the marriage.
The police have records of what happened but I did not make these complaints until recently after many months of counselling helping me to come to terms with the abuse.
They want me to give permission for my medical records to be disclosed so that they can get the X-rays and press charges for gbh. Until now I have refused but feel now be has turned the tables I should do this just to prove the truth. Can anybody advise please?
My partner, or indeed ex partner, is apparently now in emergency accommodation with our 5 month old daughter.
I will be pleading not guilty to the charges and my first court appearance is at the end of the month, where I fully expect my bail conditions to be extended until the trial. My bail conditions are that I am to reside at an alternative location and I am not allowed to contact my ex partner.
My question is; will I be able to have access to my daughter between my first court appearance and the subsequent trial?
I know my solicitor will be requesting this at my first ourt appearance, however, can this be refused?
Apparently social services are involved, however, the issue is between my ex and I, not my daughter.
I have a clean record for your information.
Many thanks
I was told to stay away from our house, our kids because the ex decided to phone .
Maybe i should phone?
Unsure how to best protect myself other than stay away, harder when you love your kids...
Anyone who,s maybe been or advise me is very much appreciated.
Please no nasty comments thanks...
Had something similar. I told my ex partner there was no chance of us getting back togther. She then reduced my contact time from 4 to 2 days and then none at all. I submitted a contact order and she then put togther a molestation order and a contact order. These I could prove contained about 10 incorrect allegations (we had used emails to sort out arrangements). Within these statements she accusd me of as if to be violent. Unfortunately on the day in court I whimpered out and gave undertakings that were recorded in the contact order. I feel I made such a mistake but I wanted it to go away. I regret this as I should have pushed to show she was making flase accusations . Can I still go back to court and say on the day I was not thinking straight and would like the case to be heard.
You all need to be very, very careful here; please don’t just assume justice will be done; the system, as it stands today, is very broken.
Let’s start with the definition of domestic violence itself. It is now so broad that you can be accused of domestic violence just for saying something your partner doesn’t like. What you say may well be the truth, but if it’s a home truth that cuts too near the bone for your partner, you can be accused of emotional abuse which comes under the umbrella of domestic violence.
Financial abuse also comes under the umbrella of domestic violence, so if you’re the main earner and you keep your finances separate, you could find yourself accused of financial abuse. This is a no win situation for men that want to protect themselves from financial ruin in the event of separation. If you don’t keep your finances sufficiently separate, your partner will be able to claim constructed trusts etc; keep them too separate, you run the risk of being accused of financial abuse, hence domestic violence. If you kept your finances separate and are not fleeced in the civil divorce/family court, they’ll get you in the criminal court. The tragic thing is when good men that allowed ex-partners access to their every penny, are shafted in civil courts and criminal courts as a result of false allegations.
So you can find yourself accused of domestic violence very easily, even if you’ve never laid a finger on your partner. She doesn’t even have to lie, may be just exaggerate how hurt she was by a comment you made or how difficult she finds it to make ends meet with you as the main earner in control of the bulk of household finances.
Domestic violence is considered a criminal offence of the worst kind; you will be treated worst than a drug addict/dealer, shop lifter or burglar and possibly worst than somebody that has inflicted physical injury through actual physical violence.
The Police have a positive action policy and will arrest and detain for even the most minor of domestic allegations… women and their solicitors know it. This combined with regional judicial crackdowns means the CPS are looking to prosecute safe in the knowledge that the scales of justice are tipped in their favour, it is for the accused to prove their innocence.. i.e. guilty until proven innocent. I live in South Wales which is a crackdown region; I had this confirmed by a Policeman who’s an old family friend. His advice to me was to get the best solicitor I could afford as Cardiff prison was bursting at the seams with “domestics” that shouldn’t there!!
When it comes to domestic violence allegations, innocent until proven guilty you are not! Our beloved justice system is broken in every respect, infected with political correctness – BE ON YOUR GUARD.
In my next instalment I’ll look at FALSE allegations, why some women resort to them and what they have to gain.
It's time the law was changed. However, the feminist organisations have huge political lobying power and I fear that most politicians wouldn't touch the issue of false allegations of domestic abuse with a barge pole.
I've made a promise to myself that if I win the Euromillions I will fund an organistation to take on this issue.. Pie in the sky perhaps, but you never know. Unfortunately there doesn't seem to be any men's organisations that carry the political weight of Women's Aid or Refuge. Women that make false allegations of domestic abuse are as bad as men that use violence against women.
I am applying for a job with womens aid and this was the question asked. Can someone explain this question in plain english for me? I'm not sure exactly what they are looking for, i've tried looking online!
Google this to see answers, you should find it on uk answers yahoo com question
Can't attach links for some reason
I’m an Electronics Engineer by profession and when it comes to communications, the hardest signals to find are those hidden beneath the noise floor. This I believe is what’s happening here, too many women who are NOT GENUINE victims of domestic violence are playing the domestic violence card simply to get the upper-hand on their ex-partners. As a result the cries of the genuine victims are simply drowned out by the noise created by those playing the game.
Unfortunately it’’ all too easy to play “the game” in the UK. Women will find no end of advice from friends, women’s groups and sympathetic WPC’s, who know exactly what buttons to press, which “key” words to use and what stories to tell when calling the police.
I had no chance, my ex-partner used to work in the legal profession, her admin assistant works part-time for women’s aid, and best of all her best friend is a WPC…
Sacrificial lamb to the slaughter
But, in my case here in the US, I even submitted PROOF of my wife's lies and perjury and yet one judge already told me that he believes her to be credible and since I was trying so hard to discredit her that "I" was NOT credible...
How about that huh? My wife filed three (3) false restraining orders on me without any evidence and by only claiming "fear", and even though all were thrown out, she has created the illusion that she IS a victim and every agency and organization that appear to enjoy destroying families under the guise of providing "protection" just for the $$$$ they get from the government grants and fooled donors...
Domestic Violence Laws are both bias and unconstitutional in the US...
My son 16 had to drag him off me we both made a statement and the police charges him with attempted murder this has been awful time for us all and my lil
Uns I don't believe he woul really have killed me he loves me too much but he is on remand now
My son and I retracted our statements as he wanted to so much and now I am worried about social services and have a meeting two days time whether the kids should be on a child protection register PLEASE HELP
My number is (In Word form as it may get edited) oh seven nine six eight five oh one seven three six - please if you have been here call me!)
Last May (2011), I moved from the Midlands upto Aberdeenshire in Scotland. At this point id been alone for a few years, and met somebody called Maria at a neighbours house one evening. We got talking, and after a few weeks of hiding out I decided to make us official by telling a mutual friend. It was a very emotional and exciting time and Maria seemed genuinly thrilled id made that decision and we started our relationship. We had a very good relationship at the start, and Maria's 2 boys and her both moved into my home very soon after.
We formed a very strong and passionate relationship and after some initail issues, we stayed together for 7 months. In the 7 months we were together I always truly beleived Maria loved me and I did (and for some reason still do) love her, and about 3 weeks after we got together a bombshell landed. She was pregnant. To her ex-husband who she left to be with me. Unfortunately this baby wasnt to be and she miscarried soon after.
A short while after moving from our home to Maria's previous property we then found out totally by surprise that we were expecting a baby of our very own. I was so thrilled, but also gobsmacked that I could even have children after never successfully impregnating a girl before. I truly beleived at this point that I was going to be a Dad and was thrilled. In February of this year, Maria left to take the boys to school, a journey of usually about 20 minutes. After about An hour and a half of failing to reach her, I logged into her phone which said she was still at the school. I was thinking maybe she had fallen or there was a problem with our baby so I called the school to find out what was happening.
They snapped very viciouslly that they were going to tell me nothing and hung up on me. This happened twice, which of course left me very confused, worried and upset.The same day my neighbour saw her and her mum being take somewhere by a housing officer which was something I was not understanding. I tried to contact them and got a brick wall. I spent days after being terrified that I would never see them or my unborn baby boy again, and was told nothing other than that I have no rights to the baby when it arrives if she doesnt want me too. Since the day Maria left I have had only gossip and lies told to me about what has gone on, and neither her or any of her family have had the decency to tell me what has happened. A few months ago while going to a solicitors appointment, I came accross her and tried to talk to her but she refused to and then thought it would be nice to threaten my son (unborn then) at which I told her she would get he
Thanks for listening, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I feel for you, as I am starting to go through the same thing crap with SS (Social Engineers). I reported my girl friend for abusing my son (which also happened a lot in a 3rd world country) and now they have told me that I cannot stay in my home and won't tell me why.
Confused and angry with the system, yet I stay calm, knowing that what doesn't kill me, only makes me stronger. Another cliche comes to mind, keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
Good luck everybody.
Paul
And the worse thing? My wife always hit me, head butted me and knocked some of my teeth out, threw me across the room, etc etc for four years. I just took it like a whimp and did nothing.
And when the man turns around and tells the Police you have it wrong, she actually beats me. They don't want to know.
They like the way it burns when the torch the soul. It gives them reason (in the eyes of ppl that would otherwise criticise) & gains them sympathy. The ruth always comes out sooner or ltr. The damge is done though, & what do jobsworth lamehogs care? When you are swimming agaisnt a tide of witch-hunt (burn the male) vehemance & greed there's nothing that can be done. It;s why adlutery is a sin in the eyes of good. Cos' it wrecks lives...
i went to court and got done for self defence deemed just over reasonable? she lied in court the court believed me over her and her mum. yet she did not get done for lying in court or on her statements to the police. and when she stopped me seeing my son 2 years after all this. she is using it at court now. but instead for my past conviction saying i was defending myself it says i was done for battery???? witch if you look into the case is not what happened at all. i have never been in any sort of trouble with the police and live my life by the there is never any need to raise your hands to anyone.
but she can lie and lie and i have done nothing but tell the truth and my son is being told he cant see his daddy cos i am nuts. i even showed the judge am email from my ex's sister saying her sister is not a honest person and she was coming to me to find out what really happened. yet this did not set any alarm bells off in his head that she may be dishonest. that email was about my ex teaching my son to call another man daddy a man who was never around in the week as he worked away. and when he was around at the weekend my son was spending it with me. and she was only with him for 8 months at that time. but hey thats all in the email from her sister to me and a judge has seen it yet i still can not see my son with out supervision. me and my son have been taken the piss out of by a court system built to stop this sort of thing happening. and it is the sole reason y so many women cry wolf and get away with if. lies come at us from all directions and the truth only ever comes from one direction. so its easy to see witch one wins 9 out of 10 of the time.
Remember God not only see' buRAt act's at all wrong doing.
Be good and watch God' at work.
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