My ex-wife remarried last week and her husband also has a 7-year-old-daughter. Does any of this affect my child support payments?
Your seemingly simple question actually raises a lot of very interesting points. You pay the amount mandated by the Child Support Pensions and Social Security Act 2000, which amended the Child Support Act 1991 and 1995, which said the non-resident parent should pay 15% of net income as child support.
To get a clearer picture of what you should actually be paying under current guidelines, you can use our free Child Maintenance Calculator.
However, if the child and custodial parent are resident outside the UK, the 2000 Act doesn’t apply, according to some sources, which could leave you free to petition for a change in the amount of maintenance paid.
Also, if you have to travel long distances and spend a great deal in order to have regular contact, you might be able to petition to have the maintenance reduced.
Perhaps surprisingly, the one factor that doesn’t seem to have any influence on the proceedings is the remarriage of your ex-wife, although you might suppose that would be the one that would affect things most.
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Try our Child Maintenance Calculator free, here on this site →You do have a financial responsibility to your daughter until she’s 16 or until she’s 19 if she remains in full-time education; that’s very much the law.
Something you don’t say is how you and your ex arrived at the 15% of your income figure, whether it was agreed mutually, through mediation, or imposed by the courts, or whether her move to France occurred after the divorce.
It would seem that you’d like to reduce your child support payment, and that’s understandable when you’re paying £6,000 a year. However, before you start consulting a lawyer, consider a few things.
From the number of cross-Channel visits – both ways – it would seem that you and your ex are on good terms. Might it be possible for the two of you to talk and maybe arrive at a lower figure for child support? Something arrived at amicably is much better for all parties than going through a legal process.
Additionally, if you are on good terms, taking legal action to reduce child support payments could sour those good relations. Given that you have 10 more years of child support payments and visits, the goodwill might outweigh the money.
But, before you do anything, sit down and have a talk with your lawyer who can give you the proper advice in the situation. Find out more about child support payments in our guide, here.
Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.
I am soon to get married and my ex always said if I remarried or got anyone to live with me he would cease payments.
My fiancé is a wonderful man and disabled and is unable to work. He is in the ESA support group and receives PIP. He does not work or have an income other than these benefits. We have a joint universal credit claim. I understand that my husband to be 's income is not included in the calculation of the amount my ex husband pays to support our daughter who lives with me and is in fill time education until she turns 19.
I will want to change my name at the bank once I remarry. Do I have to notify the CSA of this ' change of bank details'. My bank account itself won't change, just my married name.
I don't want to conceal anything from the CMS, nor do I want my husband to follow through with his threat to cease payments. The delay in going through the CSA to make a CSA arrangement would bring financial distress to our family home.
I want to do what is legally and morally right and to protect my daughter from hardship the withheld child maintenance would cause.
We divorced without any financial orders in place as my ex refused to settle on agreement.
I do not receive any spousal maintenance payments. Never have.
My ex has always made his payments on time, but I am afraid he will cause financial hardship once he discovers I have remarried. Will the CMS be obligated to inform him ?
If it is more than 25% can i start a private pension to ensure that gross salary doesn’t grow by more than 25%. That way i dont need to let anyone know and it will be next years payments that are affected.
My husband is 62 and has a 10 year old. He has no income and has been living off of his savings (inheritance). His ex has been living with her partner for nearly two years and they have just purchased a £3,000,000 house (her partner is very wealthy). She refuses to work despite the fact that she is well educated and employable. My husband has been paying £200 a month but has given her much more than that over the past 6 years, including £50,000 shortly after they separated. He pays all the private school fees and has shared custody where the child spends 40% of the time with us. His ex just sold her home and will have profit from that. He feels that he should not have to pay monthly maintenance any longer given all of this information and would like to ask her to begin paying 50% of the school fees. She will most definitely object. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I have a family based arrangement with my ex-wife for the last 10 years. The children were staying with me in the UK 6 days out of 7 as she wouldn't let me have them the 7 nights. 3 years ago I transferred with my company to Canada and continued to pay the same amount each month, plus fund the kids coming out to visit for the Summer. She has just had her long-term partner move into her house in the UK, one of the kids has just left school and is due to start a BTEC course at college, the other is 14.
My question is firstly, do I need to continue paying now that she's co-habiting? I will obviously fund what they need directly as I have a relationship with them not her and continue to pay for their flights and visits once able to do so again.
Is that it ? He just stops his responsibilities and thats it?
I have two young children, one is disabled, who live with me. I also have three children who live with my ex.
I earn only £130 a week and am on benefits to support myself and the two children who live with me.
My ex took me to court for CMA and I have to pay 40% of my income to her. This has put me into poverty and I cannot afford the oil for my heating or hot water.
Are there any grounds for reducing the payments given my circumstances?
Thank you
Raddish
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13 years later my oldest is now 18 and I have refused to pay as by law I don't have to she is not happy with the proposed payments to the youngest now 13 1/2 years old. She has taken me to the CMS.
The question is surely the equity in the house and extra £6,000 payment is taken into account when this CMS calculation is made as I have provided monies then that has benefited her and the children.
What I dont understand is my partner has 3 kids with different dads not one pays a penny how can I afford to keep these and pay that CSA should look at individual situations. I'm struggling to pay the bills.
Any assistance would be great. Thanks in advance
I have my kids through the week. Feed them and school etc..
I also have them the weekends to stay over sometimes both no nights but not all time both nights..
I problem have the kids just a bit more than my partner
She is also getting money from my parents for the kids and help towards her rent.. would I still owe csa.. My partner is saying £90
the new claim i feel is a result as my mother passed away 2 months ago however there is no inheritance to claim for. under my current salary i am asked to pay 9,000 per annum but the real issue i have is that i am aware that ex is living in an 1.05 m (as per zoopla) house, and child from previous marriage is going to a private school of at least 18,000 gbp per year excluding additional costs that private shools have.
Where this money comes from could have been from a previous relationship (unmarriad now seperated) or her family wealth which is well established as being very high.
what are my rights here as the current claim would make my current family incredible hard to maintain and of course we cannot afford private school or indeed to purchase a house.
pleased to hear what actions i can do .
kindest
My bf has 2 children one age 6 and one age 3. He pays child maintaince for them both. Me and him have moved in to our new home. He is self employed and i will be on maternity leave as we are expecting a baby. Can I ask if the amount of money he pays towards his other two children will reduce?
I.e when it’s says other children you live with do I include them or not as they aren’t mine?
There is currently no court involvement and my name is on the birth certificate. So I believe its 50/50 custody?
I would like to find out if I still need to pay or reduce the amount I give for Child Maintenance to my ex wife if she is now in a new relationship?
As we couldn't come to an agreement on how much I should pay to my two children, we decided to use CSA to work it out for us. I do also pay additional costs to the children's other activities (School clothes, swimming, tennis, trust fund etc) which is not covered by CSA and that I'm still willing to continue to pay, but as she now has a second income do I still need to pay it?
It just feels like I'll be paying for him as well as the ex wife and kids.
Any advice is greatly appreciated
Hitesh.
Thanks in advance
I have not seen my son since August 2015 his second birthday.
I have no idea where he lives or how he is and the last photo I received was Christmas day 2015.
I was paying maintenance directly through the bank into his mother’s account around 1000 a month and due to no contact decided to reduce this to £600.00 in a bid for contact to be made through the email I sent up when he was born; this is still set up.
After 8 months with still no contact I reduced payments further to £300.00 – I took a call from the CSA advising my case was with them and asked for £619.00 a month; I declined to pay stating I want to know where my son lives. They were simply not interested and I was treated like a scum.
To cut to the chase they now directly take from my wages £769 a month and yet I still have no idea where my son is living, if he is actually receiving this money and if he is ok.
I want to know my son is ok – can anyone suggest anything please.
I believe child benefit is being claimed fraudulently as my child is not and not been in education since September. CMS say as long as CB is paid I have to pay and as long as they plan to enter into education I have to pay. My issue though is she is now a parent and surely claiming CB for her child so an adult in her own right??
I moved to the States a year and a half ago with my now American wife. I have a 13 year old daughter who I wish to visit me for 6 weeks in the summer holidays. My daughter wants to come here for the full duration however her mother only agrees to 3. I think she's being unreasonable wbu only allowing me to see her for 3 weeks out of 52. Where do I stand or will I have to go to court to get court permission.
My ex-partner is denying me access to my child because we don't agree on the child maintenance.
It is my understanding that issues regarding finances can legally not be mixed with matters regarding contact with the child.
Unfortunately I cannot find any references to this law online.
I would like to show this law to my ex-partner to show her that was she is doing is illegal - and hopefully I can see my child again, while we resolve our differences.
Any advise would be very welcome.
Regards,
Tim
It doesn't add up. Any advice please.
It's all to do with the gross business I think, a I right?
Thanks.
After some advise if possible.
Split with my ex partner mid of last year due to concerns she was speaking with other people and not being faithful. Not married thankfully. We own a house jointly and I moved out reluctantly as she stated if I stayed there she would move out and not let me see my children. I reluctantly moved In with parent and have come to an agreement where I see my children every other weekend and once in week. I am paying quite a lot in CM due to a high income and also paying half of the mortgage even though not living there is this correct? Wasn't sure if my CM payments would cover this?
Hate the fact of not seeing my children on a daily basis and grow up and have just started to come through the bitterness stage as the last few months have been horrendous. Its been nice (well not nice for other suffering dad's) to read threads on this site that give an insight aswell as advise which has enlightened me also.
Many thanks for your help.
I’m currently paying £70 per week maintenance on an informal arrangement with my ex partner , which is broadly in line with child maintenance calculator based on my earnings
My ex and child live in a house I have paid for , and am paying mortgage on which was raised on other properties I own solely
Our existing jointly owned house I have lived in since our separation , no repair / upkeep / costs have been met by my ex in the 2.5 years we have been separated
I paid for this house outright using savings and by raising a mortgage on two rental properties I owned , meaning I’m still paying this back and can if I so wish get her beneficial interest in the property down to a small amount if it were ordered it should be sold
At the moment she is alienating me from the child’s life and making life difficult , after 2 years of shared custody , following me having a new relationship recently she has manipulated my child to a degree where she doesn’t want to see me as she knows how her mother reacts when she sees me and has a good time
I need to address all issues and wonder wether I am within my rights to stop maintenance payments as her accommodation and running costs are far in excess of maintenance
I would keep the maintenance payments in a separate account for my child’s future use such as if at Uni , house deposit etc
Any advice much needed and appreciated
she got married approx 6 years ago and i continued to pay the £200. my ex partner separated last year and moved back to uk. recently my daughter came to live with me and this was agreed verbally, she was enrolled in school and i started receiving child benefits, after 3 months my ex partner refused to bring her back to me after a visit and legally i have no rights as we both have parental responsibilities. i have filed a child arrangement order last week and waiting to go to family court.
the other day i received a letter from the Child maintenance service asking for me to contact them and that based on information i should be paying double what we had previously agreed?.since her move back to uk a year ago she has be cohabiting with her new partner and the both have a good income
where do i stand legally and can this be diverted until the court application has been heard ?
so far ive opened an account in my sons name and have been putting regular money in each month, ive kept all communications from HER as she only speaks through text. Am i missing anything? what else can i do, we were never married but i feel she is planning more misery for me and my 3 year old boy. I would appreciate any advise
I also have 2 dependant children - does this not get taken into account by them?
Thanks in advance.
Then out of the blue CSA write to me advising they did not ask for the correct amounts from my employers going back to 2003 and are demanding £2175.86 in back dated monies due to their error??
Where do I stand?
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Do my payments go down now she has new family, they have 3 cars big house and 4 holidays a year while I struggle as a single man, no extra help like tax credits etc
I have my children almost every single weekend is there any help I can claim or entitled too?
Thank you
My ex-partner and I have been living together in this house along with our two children (4yr & 7yrs old). We are not married and the relationship had broken down last year April and I agreed to moved out into a 1 bed rented accommodation with the view of giving us some space, with the hope that we would reconcile down the line. I have been paying all of the bills, mortgage and living expenses for both properties as she was not been working. The house in owned solely by myself, I’ve not receive any financial contribution from my ex towards the purchase nor the upkeep of the house as she’s been a stay at home mum.
It is now become apparent that reconciliation is not on the cards. My ex-partner has started working from Nov 2016 and I’ve asked her to start contributing towards the expenses of the house but she refuses to do so unless her name was legally put on the house which in light of how things are, I’m not prepare to do. She has taken on some of the utility expenses since but I am still having to pay for the mortgage despite not living in the property. It’s the bulk of the expense and its a significant financial burden I cannot upkeep.
She is refusing to move out, not even into rented accommodation but keep siting that she wants to remain in the home because it’s in the best interest of the children. I have offered her a few options but unless she gets 50% of the house and also for her to remain living in the property – she is not agreeing to any of it.
She’s just stated that she no longer wishes to discuss this with me any further as she feels that I’m trying to bully her into an agreeing to something which only benefits me, so has suggested going to mediation. If I attend mediation, can they force me to give her 50% share of my property that I purchased and paid for all by myself? All I want is my property back so I can create a home for me and my children. Can you please offer some advice on what my legal position is on:-
a) Acquiring my property back? How do I best go about that?
b) If I wish can I put the property on the market for sale, thereby giving her reasonable notice to vacate despite that she is currently living there with my two children but without contributing towards the mortgage payment?
Seeking some advice what my legal rights are or whether she has a claim to my property because we have children and she is currently living there with them.
My daughter is studying law and has told me when my ex partner gets married my legal obligation to pay child support ends
We dont have the csa involved its a mutual agreement
My daughter is 13yrs old and maybe if this is true in a couple of years time i would prefer to pay it into my daughters bank account to get her used to managing money
My ex and I split up and have an out of court / CSA arrangement for maintenance, however my ex has moved to New Zealand and told me it was for 3 months via her work but when they had an earthquake and I couldn't get an answer I called her work who advised that she resigned a while ago. My question is it seems as though this move is permanent and that there is very little I can do about it so am I still responsible for child maintenance. my ex has re married and they have a son together so I am not going to break a happy family home as that would adversely affect my daughter.
As he's an adult can I pay it to him vs. paying it to my X? She spends CMS on herself & not all of it on him & his needs.
Thank you so much for your response
The 19 y/o is completely supported by his father for accommodation, food and petrol. The father earns about 75,000 P.A ? The son will not be able to work at all for the next 3 to4 months.
As the father is supporting the 19 y/o can he have his support reduced for the 16 y/o The father is now paying $220 per fortnight. plus a $350 rental. the father has no financial future and will never own a home.
Does the income and circumstances of the wife have any bearing on the payments. She owns a $1.5 million home and has declared $70,000 income p.a Also Millions of dollars in real estate with rentals. It is all under a company name. She has received large amounts of government support over the years, owned her own business ,and rented out the bottom of her apartment for 300.00 p/w How do this happen.
Recently his ex has withdrawn 4 weeks from him plus the annual holiday with no warning!
She's contacted CSA and told them he falls into band A I believe.
After many exchange of email she won't offer anything or give him any real reason but says he is just worrying because he has to now pay more! Which is completely untrue.
Anyway I'm really worried as im now disabled due to a tumour I had removed from crushing my spinal cord just over a year ago. So I'm now disabled and can't work. Are income has dramatically dropped and my partner is trying his best to support me. If his ex gets the extra money im not sure how we will cope and I'm worrying if we don't start paying it before mediation goes through we will end up back dated. Can anyone offer advice ?
changes if you enter a new relationship
Payments to you will stop if you remarry or enter a new civil partnership. Living with someone else in a relationship, without marrying or entering a civil partnership, doesn’t automatically mean that payments from your ex-partner will stop. But he or she could ask you to agree to reduce the amount, or stop payments altogether. This is on the basis that there is someone else who is now contributing to your living costs.
This can be complicated so it’s worth taking legal advice.
My partner is divorced, and a father of two very beautiful children.
However I feel that he is paying too much child maintenance. His solicitor seems to think he is not paying enough and shouldn't try to change it in case he is made to pay more, which i find incredibly upsetting. At the moment he is earning £4000 a month and he pays his ex wife £600 every month. That's a total of £7200 a year. Which is a lot.
He does both school runs every day Monday-Friday, he has them stay at his house Monday, Wednesday, Thursday (up until 7:30pm, and feeds them dinner), Friday and then Saturday during the day. He also has them One Sunday a month as his ex wife works every fourth Sunday. He buys all of their clothes and pays for any extra activities, plus Christmas presents and Birthday presents for them.
His ex wife works full time in car sales, earning around £1500 a month plus commission (she made an extra £2500 last month). She earns enough to cover her rent, bills, and food.
She spends his £600 on nail salons, expensive clothes and nights out. Which her bank statements show clearly.
I do not understand how she is entitled to so much money, taking all of this into consideration.
I was hoping you could give me some advice?
Kind regards.
Feeling I could use this money for them a lot wiser, do I have any legal leg to stand on if I offer to buy them whatever they need? Obviously I would still provide money for food, gas, electric but the shortfall on this use to get them new clothes and open savings accounts for them both.
Any help would be appreciated
He has been statemented with ADHD and dyslexia?
Does the fact that she now claims benefit affect how much I have to pay in child support?
Also my ex partner has inherited £25k + would it help me letting CSA know or would I be pointless ?
Was never my choice for her to move so far away.
She has been advised to claimed against me by CMS for our youngest and they have agreed . Can I get back the money I prepaid albeit no 'cash' swapped hands just the amount taken off house value and she paid me off
A one night stand resulted in twins in 2001. Since then I have not been allowed contact with the twins, even with court orders in place and thousands spent on solicitors and barristers, the mother always came out of court and said "no matter what any judge says you're never getting contact"! My solicitor advised me that this could go unfair years, cost thousands more and the result would always be the same! The mother was also arrested, charged and prosecuted for excessive harassment of me without me even having to attend court! All that said I have always paid maintenance to via a private agreement. I started my own company with a friend (50/50) and the mother has always obtained copies of my Ltd company accounts and consulted with an Accountant and on occasion a solicitor. Each year we would negotiate maintenance and an increased figure was agreed and paid without fail. (every 3 years she asked for me to obtain car finance so she could have a brand new car! - she often had the increase paid in a lump sum, up front - or she took loans for different things she wanted). We currently have a FBA in place until next March. I married in 2004 and my wife (who also works and has a good income) and I recently decided to sell the house we bought back then in the hope of being able to see the twins, (This was eventually allowed when they were 11), however it never worked out, they had been subjected to too much parental alienation and were bought up so differently to our way of life that they could not settle into a routine of seeing or being involved with us, so contacted lasted for 1 year with my son and just 2 years with my daughter - the twins are now 14 and a half. Anyway, the mother was not happy to see our home up for sale and started demanding more money. She went to the CMS, who on my salaried income would vastly reduce my monthly payments and she would have to wait until any additional income were paid to me to get any further funds. At present we are still talking the CMS as I have offered for her to keep the current FBA in place! The mother is now threatening legal action covering the past 5+ years as she now claims having "looked" at the accounts (Which she has always had access to) that she has been underpaid and wants the funds retrospectively?? Is she able to do this? Will the courts entertain her case? She has never once asked what I earn, (not that i know), I assumed this was because she has had my company accounts and spoken to an accountant and worked out what I should pay herself! I've never even spoken to the CSA/CMS in detail, but have always told her she could go this route if she wanted to!... Where do I stand? My children have only ever been 3 miles away ! is this going to become an expensive legal case? She has sent me several emails the last one advising me that she is going to see her barrister in London on Friday to get the ball rolling????
So after our time in contact centres she said it is unfair on my daughter seeing me in places like that so she lets me see outside every two weeks this goes on for a year then she stops me seeing her I had no contact address only her mums I had no money for a solicitor so I would write cards and letters for my daughter and still give her presents ,until I wanted to sell the house we had brought her name was still on the deeds so I wrote to her and said will you be able to take your name off the deeds she said she would only if she had some money from the sale of the house and I said ok only if I can see my daughter again she agreed , the money went through and I was seeing my daughter again until last month she has gone back to what she was like before I go to her mums house to pick my daughter up and she is not there I have sent texts and I pay money in each month but not a reply .So now I don't know what to do or who to speak to please can you help
I have contacted cms who say that I am due to pay £312.
I am being told now that I have to pay the mortgage plus maintenance is this the case?
I also pay the gas and electricity around £80 a month.
On a side note it has been brought to my attention that I am being sued for £20,000 for loss of earnings to her.
This has been put to the side during negotiations but have reared its head again as a velied threat if I don't agree to her proposals.
Obviously she has free legal advice and I am now representing myself due to astronomical lawyer fees.
Any help greatly appreciated
For his 17 year old daughter, he is due to retire in Feb, had 1% pay rise and pension contributions gone up 4%. Ex has just sold old family home for £340.000! Will the CSA reassess or are we wasting our time contacting them?
My daughter finishes non higher education this month (she's going to University) and turns 20 at the end of October. Do the maintenance payments finish when she leaves college or when she is turns 20? The various website say various things. This may seem 'tight' arguing over a few months when I have been paying for years but as I say, I have 3 more children, that I am responsible for.
I intend to still pay her some money (directly - not through her mother) to help her through her Uni course.
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My ex wife has recently moved in with her boyfriend. I have just been looking on the money advice website and it states that my CSA payments to her could be reduced in this situation. Is this correct?
1) can this be right?
2) I have confirmation from my bank I have been paying direct
3) I have text confirmation from ex stating she has been receiving payments.
Not sure what to do or where I stand, the CMS are looking to add and extra £150 pm inc fees.
Any help pls?
Regards
She originally said she would always be friendly and would never use the kids as weapons all lies, can I tell the csa to do one also
Courses are not approved if paid for by an employer or ‘advanced’, eg a university degree, BTEC Higher National Certificate. If you are on good terms with your ex, you could perhaps discuss it with her whether your daughter may benefit more having it paid directly to her. However, one of the requirements of child support is the day-to-day care of your daughter, food, heating etc, so it may be while she is still living at home your ex may prefer you to support her this way. I hope this helps.
My daughter turns 18 very soon, she is taking a course but working from home (12hrs) not college and fits this around her part time work. Does this qualify as full time education? I would like to stop her portion of maintenance being paid to my ex and pay something direct to her. Can I do this?
Many thanks.
It is irritating to say the least where you think you have reached an agreement only for one party to suddenly decide that's not good enough. I'm now looking at paying more than the NMW would be if a person worked a 5 day week 9 to 5. What's even more irritating is that I know full well the money won't all go on the children, more to run her horse and car. Hardly makes working hard pay if you're a Dad.
Does anybody know of any organisation that actually lobbies Government so that the world becomes a more equal place for Dads? I would love to see my children all the time but the State is so mum-centric and only plays lip service to fathers, I end up get being marginalised and kicked off to the side, I don't get to see my daughter (16) at all anymore (CAMHS not dealing with teenage angst and imagining absent parent meant Dad so forgot to consider and include me but not mum) and I see my Son (14) three nights a week, but that's not enough to impact CMS levels apparently and Mum chucks in the emotion card when he speaks about more time with Dad. All a bit rubbish for him and me.
Also how can it be right that at 16 a child can do what they like, at 18 they're an adult, yet you potentially have to wait until they're 20 before you stop paying child support, isnt it all a bit skewed!
So does anyone know of any organisations that are actually fighting Dads corner?
I payed my ex X amount of CSA thru a weekly standing order, untill i was asked for money to pay an upfront fee for child care and continue to pay CSA untill Chilcare tax credits were sorted out, I decided continue to pay the monthly nursery fee's (as my ex has defaulted on every bill payment ever since i have know her) instead of CSA so she could claim the Child Care Tax Credits which were equal or geater tan the CSA, thus safeguarding my childs palce at nursery. However after a month of attending nursery my child not enjoying nursery, my ex decided not to take her, and inform me that they had been to a few sessions I enquired about the attendance and have paid for 13 sessions of no attendance.
I contacted the nursery and cancled our place there,
I have asked for the wasted money to be returned from my ex as i belive that it is dure to her failure to communicate and greed that i have wasted Hundreds of pounds, that would be better off in a savings account
anythoughts on if im being reasonable or not :)
(i have sugested a payment plan £5 pcm without interest, ex said no.
any help or advice would be much appreciated :)
2 would I be able to reduce my childcare costs and child maintence as I'm currently homeless and have no place to stay and can't afford it as going through a payment plan IVA ?
Also would my ex partner or court penalise me if I couldn't make full payments as I'm struggling paying child mainternece and childcare and after school clubs as stated in the final divorce paper as agreed but now due to change of job and fuel costs to get there as scrimping bitten of the barrel and have no money left over at the end of the month.
Many thanks Martin
she is demanding a lot more than she's entitled to and using them as a weapon to get at him. she has threatened to change their names if he doesn't give her an extra £50.00.
this she cannot do anyway.
I would now like to know if we have managed to get the law passed once your ex partner re-marries the new husband is responsible for the children and their upkeep.
, and in full time apprenticeship earning £6000 per year, plus has a Saturday job of £100 per month. Can anyone tell me if I can stop my ex?
Wife worried about ex taking son,can anyone advice me what's appropriate thanks
Both me and my partner have just inherited some money from his mother who has passed and so have bought another house to renovate. I am in full time employment and my partner is going to work for himself on the house. He is currently claiming JSA as he has no income at the moment from our business - I earn 40k a year and have a 2 year old daughter to my partner and I am currently running the house with the bills etc. My partner has a 17 year old daughter with his ex wife who is constantly on our back for money, she is still at school. We share a house with a joint mortgage and that's it really. We have no savings.
Is his ex wife entitled to any of my money / wage? His divorce is settled by the way
How much does he have to pay her out of his JSA
If the house sells before she is 18 then do we have to pay a % of that to her?
If it sells after she is 18 does that change?
Thanks
Now some may call me bitter or vindictive, but due to the presence situation or rather the current fight for equal rights for my daughter I'd like to know if I am legally required to pay child maintenance for my child if they have gone on holiday for a week outside of the UK?
I pay her the 15% a month directly to her, but given the distance and cost of transports to see her, I actually struggle to afford to see her every week. This has resulting in her not allowing me to see her given it wasn't as regular as she the mum, but she knew the situation regarding the money and me wanting to use it to actually commute to see the little one. She now just takes the money and I'm not seeing my daughter.
Is their an actual argument that can be used in terms of reducing the monthly payments to her in order to use the money to travel up to see my daughter?
Any advice given would be muchly appreciated
Although it would come across as blunt or heartless to some I have chosen to rule a line under it as there is no bond or attachment due to this scenario, the question I ask is where/what do I need to do or to go to relinquish any ties to my daughter who clearly I have no hope of building a relationship with?!
If the mother is happy to keep me out of our daughters life and carry on by herself what responsibility do I have with no involvement except her happily accepting my money?
All seems a tad one sided and short of a better or more polite word "bullsh#t"
I am looking to re-establish contact with my daughter but don't know where to start. Can you help?
My question is she is saying I must pay for my after school care on the days I have my son as they are my days so my responsibility. She receives the credits to pay for after school care and says I don’t pay enough towards her. I buy clothes for him and school stuff for him just as much as she does. Am I in the wrong here or am I not paying enough ? should she be paying for child care etc? I am just looking for advise on all of this please.
Kind regards
To add to this I am now pregnant with our first child. Does my husband have to wait until our baby is born before he can ask for a re-assessment as obviously new babies cost money therefore we will have to buy furniture, prams, clothes etc prior to the baby being born or can he ask for a re-assessment now provided I can provide proof of pregnancy and due dates etc? And finally when this is re-assessed is the cost split evenly between the 2 children or is it favoured towards one child ie resident child, oldest child, specific needs of children? I am advised that the financial/employment circumstances of the mother are not taken into account so if my husband has a financiall obligation to 2 children who makes the decision and how is the decision made with regards to how much a child gets? Surely it should be an even split as if not that is like the CSA or authorities saying one child is more important than the other and that one child will have to make do with less than his/
Father have absolutely no say in anything relating to their kids.... if they disagree with the mother in any way she can/will make things difficult for the father.... mothers (not all mothers, just the nasty ones) can do what they want and use the system/children to hurt the father....
I can understand your brothers concern but he needs to stand up to her so i'd suggest he calculates what he should be paying her (using the CSA calculator) as I am sure he should not be paying her £40 per week if he is only earning £138 per week... he should also go to citizens advice to see if they can help in any way....
I really wish your brother all the luck in the world, we are into our 3rd year of hell with the mother of my partners two kids.... she uses the kids to emotionally black him and we have tried everything to stop it.... but she always finds a way round it.... even ignoring court orders and she gets away with it :-/
She Insists I should pay for him and his Univ. Fees untuil he has Finished..my position is that the Consent Order is Valid and I will only pay him direct support (and she should also) from Sept.. I could have stopped last Jan.
Problem.. she always, as it costs her nothing, goes to the German Courts as she gets free legal advise and no penalty for false allegations.. The Courts pressure me.. but when I ask them to put in writing that the British Consent Order she signed in Britain, is invalid, they back off..never the less, I have costs and stress.
Other than that we get on fine !
Is there something in Writing that I can refer to to substaiate my positin, without having to pay mones on Internal Law Solicitors.. We can Talk.. but she never alters per position.. the Father or someone else must pay.. she never can or will and she know how to manipulate every body, inc. the courts, who back of any suggestion that the Mother has responsibilities. and lying.. even with evidence.. we cant mention
My ex spit up with me six months ago and we currently share parental responsibility of our two year old daughter. My daughter lives with the ex, but stays with me 2-3 night & days (almost half) a week.
I pay a privately agreed maintenance amount monthly to cover the costs of the norm; nappies, food, new clothing, new toy's etc.
The ex (who works part time) receives help from the government; housing benefit, council tax benefit, and child tax credits. I don't receive any financial aid but have my daughter for almost the same amount of time. - A little unfair, but something i can accept as the time with my daughter is more important to me.
I don't earn a great deal, £25k a year, on a month by month basis i can just afford all my essential out goings with about £200-300 as disposable after paying my Child Maintenance and all normal living costs, i have little to no social life (as i cant afford it), having to be very careful with my spending; typically any spare money get's used on car repairs and other unforeseeable circumstances each month - It would be nice to save what i can for Christmas/Birthdays etc, as i struggle to afford even the smallest of gifts for my child at that time of the year!
Currently my daughter is attending a nursery so my ex can continue to working, the cost of this is covered almost in full by the Child Care Element of child tax credits, which the ex receives weekly. (a portion of her rent is paid for by housing benefits, she has to pay no council tax; leaving her income from work & the child maintenance i provide to cover food/utilities/mobile phone costs, which is not approx £900 which she should have before her personal outgoings - I did her expenses and had it all on a spreadsheet for the year's we were together).
The problem i need you're advice with is as follows:
my ex is soon to be married and now intends to move in with her new partner. When she moves all her financial aid with stop, as her house hold income with increase dramatically. (as it's all based on house hold, not personal). The nursery fee's will still be paid by tax credits in part, but only about 10% of the monthly fees. Because of this she is now demanding that i pay her half the nursery fee's in addition to my child maintenance. Which is impossible for me financially! she's place the daughter in full time (because it's discounted and cheaper than three days she needs to go at an hourly rate) at £886 a month. I feel responsible for paying this only in the sense that it's in part my daughters education, however i cannot psychically afford too, on the flip-side this only benefits my ex, and her new partner - It's beacuse of their new house hold income that this has become a problem, her desire to work part time is also partly to blame.
What should i do? I don't want to pay out more so the ex can continue to work as her career and personal life is not my business anymor
Just had a summons as she wants to extend the Court Order to cover the entire time of their further education!! Not even had a chance to discuss finance for University with any of my children and she has done this!!
What are the facts of paying into further education please?
I also maybe redundant shortly- can my ex claim any of my redundancy pay?
Thanks
I work full time and my child 18 is in the second year at college. My child does the bare minumum of 10 hours a week at college and does two part time jobs and now pays emergancy tax.
So my questions is, should I still be paying the CSA,when they havent informed them my child is working?
Great site by the way
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