The legal processes for divorce, civil partnerships and separation is different in Scotland from that of England and Wales. Here is a basic guide to Scottish family law.
When applying to the Scottish courts for divorce or separation, you'll need to complete the correct paperwork, which you can identify using our free Court Form Finder.
Separation for Unmarried Couples
There is no legal process for ending a relationship for unmarried couples. If, however, you are unable to reach an agreement with regards to Child Contact Arrangements, the division of joint assets etc., you may be able to ask the courts for help.
Ending Your Marriage
In order to be able to end your marriage, you must ask the court to grant you a divorce. This can only be done on the grounds that the marriage has irretrievably broken down. The only other ground for divorce is if one party is beginning a sex-change and obtained a gender recognition certificate to be able to change from the sex registered at birth.

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There are four ways to establish that your marriage has irretrievably broken down in the eyes of the Scottish courts. These are:
- Unreasonable behaviour, such as domestic abuse, or other unreasonable behaviour. This is a broad ground and is the most commonly used in divorce proceedings
- Adultery
- Living apart for one or more years, if you both agree to a divorce
- Living apart for two or more years, if one party does not want to divorce
Procedure
There are two ways to obtain a divorce in Scotland. The first way is known as the Do-It-Yourself procedure. This applies where you have been living apart, where neither party requires the court to make any financial provision, and where there are no children under the age of 16. This is the simplified procedure.
This procedure is summoned by filling out the prescribed forms, which can either be found on the court website for Scotland or from the local Sheriff Court. These must be submitted with the appropriate fee and an affidavit, which details your circumstances and the reasons for wanting a divorce. It should take approximately two months for you to hear whether your application was successful.
The second procedure is the more general procedure, where divorce matters are more complex. You will have to use this procedure if you have young children. In this case, it is necessary to issue a Writ for Divorce, usually in your local Sheriff Court. It is possible to do this without legal representation. It is important to consider getting legal help, especially if property and finance are involved.
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Decree of Divorce
At the end of the process, you will be granted a Decree of Divorce. You will only be granted one if the court is satisfied that there is a plan to divide assets and that any children under 16 have plans for custody. You must prove that these plans are in place. The court can make various orders including interim care orders and decrees regarding the care of and residence of children.
The law in Scotland focuses on the same “clean break” principles as English Law. This means that, where possible, the court will try to prevent one party from having to pay a long-term entitlement to the other. Any marital assets will normally be divided fairly equally, unless this would create financial hardship for one party in favour of the other. This does not apply to the provision for children, which is detailed using current child support laws. Short-term provision can be made where you or your ex needs a transition to supporting yourself independently.
Civil Partnership
In Scotland, ending a Civil Partnership is very similar to ending a marriage and the same basic procedures apply. Again, if you and your partner share Parental Responsibility for your child, then the court must be satisfied that appropriate care arrangements are in place before a Decree of Dissolution will be granted.
Having always been a hands on dad I have adjusted my work to allow a shared arrangement. As she doesn’t want me to have them during the school week, despite living within walkable distance, she can keep them. The outcomes of child welfare hearings are dependent on the sheriff on the day. In my circumstance I had a fairly progressive sheriff who was clearly in favour of both parents having access in the week and granted some positive movement. The second time I had a notoriously old fashioned sheriff, known for giving fathers every second weekend only. Mothers like my wife want to have the kids to attract child maintenance, alimony and enough cash from a settlement (there is a case for fair share to mean greater than 50%) to buy a house outright so she doesn’t need to work. I lose my wife, my kids, my house. I have to pay for the privilege despite keeping my marriage vows throughout and playing no part in the separation. My kids lose the active involvement of a parent albeit retain a dad for some weekends and occasional holidays. My wife and her new partner have the power to manipulate the kids. She has a lot of power to exercise a steady stream of malevolence, using the children as pawns which she does legally with the backing of the law. As primary care givers are most often mothers, this is a clear case of gender discrimination.
I realise Scotland is thought of as being ahead of England regarding no fault divorces, making acrimony-light separations more likely, which is certainly better for all involved, especially children. Unfortunately it runs contrary to marriage vows and leaves a potential innocent spouse who is also the larger earner in an extremely vulnerable position. The chief earner is often (certainly not always) the male so this is also gender discrimination.
My suggestion is that the law is less loose regarding child welfare in acrimonious divorces. There should be a starting point of assumed equal custody should either parent wish it, assuming homes are within easy travel distance and neither parent is deemed incompetent or a danger. A weight on the views of the child incentivises one or both parent to attempt manipulation which (and I have certainly witnessed in my situation) causes childhood distress and anxiety. I therefore suggest that giving children this right, perhaps counterintuitively, is often too much for them, and courts should avoid involving them as much as possible.
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Secondly, I remortgaged my own property to pay for an extension to my husband’s property (which I’ve since found out is actually in the name of his brother and wife). It was a substantial amount of money (not far off £100k!) - is there any way I can get that back because the value of his property will be far more than it was before I paid for a huge extension!
Thanks in advance to anyone that give me some advice.
I have an informal agreement to pay her x amount per month. However, I understand that if her earnings outweigh her spending needs, then no financial support is needed.
Am i liable for food, energy bills or should this be paid partly by my daughter in the form of " dig money" to my ex?
Thank you
My ex and I seperated in 2013 and divorced in 2015. We have an agreement between ourselves that I would have my son every fortnight over night on a Saturday to sunday then the following fortnight on a Sunday during the day.
This has been regular for the past 5 years. Out of the blue she has decided to change it up without any discussion and told me I will now only have him from 12 to 5 on a Sunday barring special occasions.
I'm unhappy with this new arrangement as it means I don't have him overnight.
My ex and I have both moved on and have new partners and subsiquent children from the new relationships.
At the time of seperate on she refused to sign a seperate on agreement.
I have drafted a legal letter via my lawyer who states that after 5 years she cannot unilaterally change the contact arrangement without discussion, negotiation and compromise.
Is it wise for me to go down the legal route or am I flogging a dead horse? I'm based in Scotland.
Can we apply for an emergency order to get the child? As she's putting him at risk with regards to hospital appointments being missed? He's a fantastic dad and there's no issues or problems with him or his son or any alcohol or drug use or anything like that nothing that would stop him having his son it's a straight forward case, this woman seems intent on ruining our lives and we feel helpless. She also never bothered to appear for the two hearings that were
Heard for the court order in the first place and lawyers have stood down from representing her as she is so erratic and unruly.
My issue is that I moved out of the matrimonial home with our two children after discussions that it would be put on the market. I am still paying half this mortgage and building and mortgage insurance and he still hasn’t put the house on the market and it has now been sitting empty for 18 months now.I don’t have a high paying salary and am putting myself into debt trying to keep up with my household bills on top of the additional mortgage payments and am the sole carer of both our children. My solicitor now wants to do a court order to force my husband into settling our assets. Is there another way of doing this as I cannot afford to pay court costs on top of everything else?
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I,m now residing in rented accommodation.Am I entitled to half the house.Thanks.
He has just advised me he wants to continue at university to do a masters degree. Can you advise when I stop paying maintenance for my children.
My sons mother is making it increasingly difficult to see him and I am the one having to travel between 300-600 miles each time, plus accommodation/travelling expenses to do this. She will not allow him to come to my home and is making up ridiculous reasons as to why he can't see me.
We had an amicable agreement regarding child support and recently she has gone to the Child Maintenance Service therefore I am having to pay her 1/4 of my wage plus all of the travelling expenses involved in getting to London each month. The CSA have advised it's best to get a child contact order set in place to reduce the costs however I am a little confused as to whether I need to go through the Scottish or English court system.
I have approached a lawyer in Glasgow and they advised for me to go through the legal system in England because my son is based in London and they would have to refer the case to a local court there and also it would appear as though I am using the Scottish legal system to my benefit? Can anyone verify this or offer any potential advice for me? My sons mother has threatened a child contact order wont work as the decision will be based on her and my sons wishes, before any more brainwashing on this beautiful little boy occurs I would love to get a set system in place and any advice from either other parents in the forces or in a similar circumstance.
In Feb 2016, we will have been separated for one whole year.
There will be still 2 of 4 children under 16.
We both agree that divorce is the next course of action.
Can we divorce in Feb 2016?
I have separated from my wife for nearly 2yrs. She lives in Scotland with our 3 children in the marital home. I pay half the mortgage every month mainly to protect my share of the house. I do not pay maintenance as I cant afford it.
Can you advise me if I can force my wife to sell the house? I would be happy for her to take the maintenance money owed from the sale of the house. I want to divorce her but want to sort the finances first. One of my children is under 16.
Please advise asap.
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