The second in our series of separated dads guides relates to child maintenance and the issues surrounding it.
To get a quick estimate of what you might need to pay or receive based on your circumstances, you can use our free Child Maintenance Calculator.
Child maintenance is designed to make parents responsible for maintaining their children. This means that non-resident parents (who do not live with the child) make periodical payments to resident parents (who do live with the child and are responsible for the child's day-to-day care).
Parents may agree these payments via a maintenance agreement. The Child Maintenance Service manages the child maintenance schemes. You can contact the Child Maintenance Service on 0800 171 2345 for advice.
The Child Maintenance Service manages the 2012 onwards child maintenance scheme. There is a £20 fee for applying to the Child Maintenance Service. In the first instance, you can call Child Maintenance Options on 0800 988 0988 for free advice.
What is a family-based child maintenance arrangement?
A family-based maintenance arrangement is an agreement between parties made out of court. This allows you to preserve good relations and address your wishes more specifically. It can also help reduce costs. If you and your former partner have a good working relationship, a family-based child maintenance arrangement can be an amicable way to agree matters mutually.
How is child maintenance calculated?
Child maintenance via CMS is based upon your gross weekly income. If you are self-employed, your gross income is based upon your total taxable profits.
The CMS will calculate a suitable child support amount upon application by either the resident or non-resident parent. However parents may agree a different amount.
Much like when you pay council tax, certain categories of people pay a reduced rate or are exempt from paying child support altogether.
You may be exempt or qualify for a reduced rate if you:
- have a gross weekly income of less than £7.
- are in prison
- are under 16 years old
- are a 16- to 19-year-old who has left school but is registered for certain types of government-approved training courses
- are a 16- to 19-year-old who is in full-time, non-advanced education (up
- to and including A-level or equivalent standard are a 16- to 17-year-old who receives Income Support, Income-based Jobseeker's Allowance or Income-related Employment and Support Allowance
- are a 16- to 17-year-old who is included in their partner's claim for Income Support, Income-based Jobseeker's Allowance or Income related Employment and Support Allowance
- are in a care home or independent hospital, for which you are receiving help with fees.
If your children stay with you overnight, you may be entitled to a reduction of your child maintenance payments. They must stay with you a minimum average of one night per week.
If you share care equally, neither of you has to pay maintenance to each other.
If you don't tell the CMS about your shared care arrangements, they will estimate that the children stay with you one night a week. This means you'll usually pay one-seventh less maintenance.
What happens if I have children from a new relationship?
If you have other children this could affect the amount of child support you will pay. Other children relevant to the equation are those for whom you (as the non-resident parent) or your partner receive child benefit for.
Other relevant children are taken into account before the calculation is completed.
When do Child Maintenance payments stop?
Child Support is paid until the relevant child is at least 16 years old.
If the child continues to study full-time (at least 12 hours per week) after the age of 16, you will still have to pay to support your child. Full-time studies include A-level standard but do not include university / professional studies after this level. Child maintenance payments will end when the course finishes or when the child turns 20 years old, even if they are still in full-time studies.
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When parentage is in dispute, a maintenance calculation should not be done by the CMS until the matter is resolved. There are some exceptions when parentage will be assumed however:
- If you were married to the mother at any point between conception and birth of the child
- You are registered as the father on the birth certificate
- You refuse to take a DNA test or a DNA test shows you are the father
- There has been a previous declaration of parentage
- Court proceedings have decided you are the father
If you deny parentage, you must communicate this to the CMS and a DNA test can be arranged.
What could happen if I don't pay my child support payments?
The CMS has various enforcement methods available to ensure child support is paid. These include:
- Deduction from earnings
- Committal to prison for up to six weeks
- Disqualification from driving
If one of you dies, what will happen to the children?
Whilst we never want to think about death, it is an important and responsible thing to consider when you have children. You need to know that they will be looked after should anything happen to you.
Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.
Guardians
In your will, you have the opportunity to name a guardian (or guardians) to look after your children if you are no longer here to do so. A trusted family friend is a popular option. Guardians are not paid to look after your children, but will usually get money from your estate to help with the additional costs of caring for children. It is usually better to name just one guardian, as problems can be caused if co-guardians separate in the future. However, if the other parent has parental responsibility, then they can challenge any such provision in the will. As in all cases, the court's main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child's best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
Other parent
If the resident parent were to die, the non-resident parent has rights to the children as a parent. This does not mean that you will automatically get residency of a child you have not previously lived with. However the court will look to see if you are a suitable parent to have full custody. If you are suitable, you will get custody over any named guardian in your partner's will. If you are not suitable, custody is likely to go to the named guardian, which is why it is important to name someone in your will who you trust.
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Need to write to the CMS?
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If you believe she's understating her income, you can ask CMS for a variation on grounds of undeclared income rather than going straight to HMRC. Given the arrests and possible Occupation Order, please get a family solicitor involved properly, this is too tangled to wing it.
This is my first post and I am a bit of a pickle.
I have been living in a loveless marriage for several years, my wife has never supported me financially, emotionally or mentally. We have three girls between us all under the age of 10.
I pay a £2500 mortgage and all other living expenses inc childrens private educatio, insurance, life insurance, car, shopping etc. The only expenses I do not pay are council tax and gas/electric bills.
My wife has been running a very successful online business wholeselling on Amazon. She probably makes more than me but she has never contributed to the mortgage or other generic expenses. Even the council tax and gas/electric bills are an argument.
We are separating, in process of a divorce but living under the same roof.
This year she has had me arrested 4 times, I am currently on bail for 3 months and the allegations are domestic abuse. I beleive see is going down the legal aid route. I have had all NFA's as she has been fabricating these allegations.
The issues I have is that now I am outside of the house she is applying for child maintenance. I really cant afford these payments as I will have no income left for myself after paying for the mortgage in which and the children live in. I have considered a temporary garden building where I can stay. But there is a high chance she might get the Occupational Order. Although I run a business from the house, my access maybe limited.
She is declaring self employed income less than £7000 but this is not true as she is lying. I have considered reporting her to HMRC but I have been advised that this can be beneficial for me if she claims benefits because I may have to pay less?
I wanted some advice on this matter please?
What can I do about it ?
Because this seems one sided to me.
I am not willing to pay the ‘advised’ maintenance direct to her bank for near 50/50 custody, almost 10% of my salary this cannot be right?
Mum threatening to go through CMS, and also complaining that it is not me ‘looking after’ daughter.
Daughter gets on great with my girlfriend and mother so they help out with some school, evenings, weekend babysitting as I have work and sometimes other commitments.
Any advise from similar situation would be appreciated.
Any advice would be most welcome.
Regards,
Gill
My ex have changed the surname of my son with my concern.
Do i have to report it? and to who?
What happen to my case maintenance case, now his name has change.
Do i have to report to who?
Do i still have to pay child maintenance if his surname is not mine anymore.
Him pay from 2015? The ex has made a false claim In our eyes and this shouldn’t the case? Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you
Can somebody please help me and advise how I can get this corrected?
I have spoken to the DWP/ CMS line month after month but it seems people are unable to help.
I would appreciate any advice anybody would have.
Best regards!
He has just stopped paying for our son as he is 16 yet our son is continuing on to full time education.
I informed him via text that he needs to continue to pay until he is 18 yet he has ignored any further communication with me. What can I do now?
1 she starts a completely different course to the one she has just taken.
2 if she doesn’t start the course till January.
(Do I stop paying till January)
3 if she gets a job for a year but then leaves that job to go back to college.
Do I then have to start paying again?
I've been asked to have him for 2 weeks during summer holidays, should I pay maintenance for those 2 weeks?
Thanks
I'm a separated dad. My ex and I were short term but unexpected twins. She kicked me out 2019 because I was getting in the way of her single parent benefits. When moving she said I needed to move to a place near a station so she could get the boys to and from. A couple of weeks after I moved she stopped access and we arranged family mediation and agreed on when I could see the boys. We also agreed an amount to pay her. This continued to lockfown when she requested I have them every weekend. I agreed and in July I requested a weekend to myself. She refused for weeks until eventually agreeing late August. I had one weekend and on returning them she said it was the last time I would see them for a long time. She then prevented access for 3 months resulting in me applying to court. She also then submitted that I was at risk of kidnapping and we are still sitting court for claims of abuse. The court has ruled I can see them as we had agreed prior lockdown. She has also since now put a claim to CMS for an amount of arrears despite agreement and also now insisting on more than what was agreed. I love my children to the ends of the world and will do everything I can to give them the best life but I cannot afford her demands and will not be able to give them any form of what I hoped to see my kids have.
My only option of survival is to remove them entirely from my life and hope that when the kids are at an age they ask about me they find it in their heart to forgive me, hopefully I can build a relationship then. Can CMS honestly believe that removing a father from two children is the best interests of the children or am I seeing it completely wrong? Input would be great
Equally I am aware that some paying parents are possibly going through real hardships & on top of that are forbidden from seeing their children, by the receiving parent (as payments are reduced when child/children spend nights with paying parent).
Hence why some parents may be anxious or even excited about when the torment of not being able to see there child will end (which will possibly be when payments end).
If your child lived with you how much do you think that would actually cost you? And the only contribution you have to make is a small proportion of what you earn. You’re not paying for their mothers lifestyle (as most people believe), you’re paying to help feed your child, put a roof over their head, clothe them...
At the end of the day two people made the child, two people should pay for them.
My child turns 18 at the end of September 2021.
She is currently working part time and is also at college doing GCSE maths and CTech Level 3 health & Social.
When would I stop paying child support please?
I have called the college to check if he’s attending and his mother does not speak to me nor does my son.
How can I check that my son does attend college ?
Do I still have to pay the payments ??
I am unsure how long he is at college or if he actually goes.
Is it correct I should continue full payments to my ex ?
She currently still claims the child benefit and universal credit
Will I still have to pay maintenance when she goes to college or does it stop once she starts work ?
and has said she doesn't like living with us anymore and her grandparents have taken to live there without my full consent. Her grandparents keep saying her happiness is their only priority. I think my daughter is playing one off the other because she proabably knows she gets her own way there more and perhaps thinks now she can get a better quality of life there. She has been living there full time now sine the Sep 2020 and coming here occasionally when she wants something with out my consent. Her grandparents are now seeking child maintenance through CMS even though i have not consented to this? Where do I stand with this please as her father ? I have tried to reconcile with her but she adamant she wants to live there now. I have provided a loving home and done nothing wrong to deserve this treatment?
But now my ex wants more money even if I got the children for 2/3 nights a week
A) do l have to include the holiday days when I do the calculation
B) if l use the CSA or CMS do the charge extra?
Thank you
We have 3 kids ,2 who have lived with me permanently since March 2020, the 3rd I have 2 or 3 nights a week.
I still pay child support to the ex for all 3 kids but now feel I should only be paying about a third of what we agreed as theoretically I am paying for them twice
Any similar situations out there ?
thanks
James
Sorry to hear about the parent struggling to see their kids. You have the right to have your children and should seek legal advice.
I have been dealing with various changes with my CMS from employed to not to self employed and employed again on various pay scales with a voluntary arrangement monitored by CMS.
The CMS maintenance calculator is always a good reference point. CMS calculate your contribution based on the number of “nights” your children stay with you- which is sometimes the reason you would sense resistance in having your children- and your last reported annual income. Either or both can significantly amplify or reduce your costs. Over 20% up or down on your income should be communicated to CMS as well of employment status.
Be patient with CMS, ask for name and if they log the file and you will get to a fair result. I have had my fair share of challenges but the more proactive and accurate you are, the less painful it gets.
Gaz - 29-Nov-20 @ 11:25 AM
Thanks
I've had problems with them for the last 20 years, resulting in the following, one court case against the CSA which i won and now for the last 6 years and still on going with my clueless and useless pals at the CMS i am fighting an LSDO(£4000 with fees). With the help of ICE(they have been 1st class) they have admitted maladministration offered me £150 compensation and are now looking at 5 years of payments. will not budge on the LSDO but have discovered i have overpaid by £1250(pending closure/takes 53 weeks/JOKE). now in the process of taking them to court again. All the above stems from me not missing a single payment but going from PAYE to self employed and that confused the hell out of their petty little civil servant brains. DEBBIE SMITH take a bow.
My question is my child is at college but does less than 12 hours per week study, I believe this falls below the full time education criteria!
Should this be taken into account and which way should it go, pay more or less?
Before I start poking the bear I thought I'd be sure first.
Cheers
My daughter has just finished school at the age of 16..
She’s wanting to do child care at collage do I have to continue paying child support as she isn’t studying A levels or doing further education ??
To make matters worse, my 14 year old son who has been living with me for the past 5 years following a court order that was granted after my ex was proven to be emotionally abusing him, decided to stay with my ex "for a few weeks" without my consent back in April. Since then she has convinced him to stay with her and there seems there can be nothing I can do other than go back to court which I can't afford. To make that process more difficult for me, my ex has also put in a claim for child maintenance for him which it seems the CMS are going to uphold despite there being a court order in place. Surely if there's a court order and a child shouldn't be with that parent, the parent shouldn't be able to claim child maintenance!
The only contact on this to try and get some answers is from the child maintenance service and I am never convinced they have as the paying parent my interests at heart.
If I am in doubt as to the fact that he is in full time education and therefore requires me to continue paying child maintenance, am I allowed to request and see evidence of such. Sadly the mother of my son has been known to lie over the years to do with my son and so I know she will try and avoid providing evidence.
Daughter doesn’t talk or see me , whilst willing to make contributions to food / rent etc , am I expected to by law ?
If i was to sell the house, i only keep it to keep a roof over my friend. If its going to cost me more in payments to my ex, i would rather sell. Would she be entitled to any profit from the sale of the house ?
If you share care equally, neither of you has to pay maintenance to each other .
Is this fact as i had 50/50 custody and was still paying over £250 per month as they said its up to the case worker and who does the most washing and spends more on activities? Is this correct ?
Many thanks in advance
Matt
He now lives with a friend, not his mother & doesn’t have to contribute towards living there.
Do I still have to pay my ex wife maintenance even though he doesn’t live with either parent?
At the moment my ex wife is still getting maintenance but my son doesn’t live with her & she isn’t giving his friends parents any money towards keeping him either!
I hope this makes sense! Please help!
My son is expected to complete his A levels in May 2021. He is currently in the process of applying to various Universities. I am aware that I will no longer be required to continue payment to his mother from May/Aug 2021 (he will be 18).
What I would like to know is? How much of my current agreed payment of £500 will be reduced as I also have a daughter aged 12.
I think I read a while ago that the current agreed payment would reduce by 20% is this correct. It would seem unfair that I then have to pay £400 for just the one child following my son attending university.
I would very much appreciate your advice.
Regards.
My husband has always paid a reasonable amount, proportionate to our earnings and life situation and the child has never gone without. In fact she goes to dancing for 6 hours a week and the mother insists on it. We buy the child gifts, clothes and take her on good days out when we are allowed to see her and request to see her regularly and often.
So my hubby lost his job in November just after he started the process of a diagnosis of autism, and ended up with a part time job on nights and in a really bad mental situation. Our income dropped, so we told her we couldn't afford to pay for a few months as have 2 of our own kids to support and she was was living with her now ex. And to be clear she's on good money.
Within 2 months she moved out and started seeing someone else, refused to reply to our messages, wouldn't tell us her address, won't let us see the child at all and has applied for CMS, who basically tell us that it doesn't matter that my husband only earns 9k a year and me 7k, doesn't matter that we have almost 25k worth of credit card debt AND a mortgage to pay, that it doesn't matter that we have 2 other children to support, and it doesn't matter that our son is disabled and as a result we need specialist equipment and an expensive diet. It doesn't matter that we have to pick between losing our house and going to a food Bank or begging family to bail us out every month, and we still have to pay over £120 a month.
Yes we got ourselves into this financial situation and we were just staying above water before this all started with her but life happens and both me and my husband are struggling so much with how the system can allow my children and us to suffer so she can have more luxuries in life.
I rang CAB they gave me advice on looking for legal aid but we would still have to pay some because we both work and rang CMS and they said that it doesn't matter, literally those words, it doesn't matter. Because she still needs to be paid for. A child my husband didn't know about, didn't have anything to do with for 2 years and has spent the last 6 years paying thousands of pounds for when he isn't allowed to form a proper relationship with her.
Is there any advice anyone can give? I just feel so helpless and am desperate
Can I now stop making maintenance payments to the mother and assist my daughter financially but directly?
He has done nothing wrong and this young girl is just pure evil. He is very down and doesn't want to face the situation at hand as he has had no help from the goverment.
He is forced to pay child Maintenance for a child that is accused by the mother that the child isn't even his through nasty manipulitive messages (the child is his) in my eyes this is a fourm of abuse not only to my partner but to the young child of only 5 years old.
My question is can he stop paying the payment of the maintenance until he actually starts seeing his child. As this is not fair and they're are no real relief for rather nor rights! When the child was very young myself and my partner had equal even days to the child throughout the week.
We are very young ourself I am 23 and I am a care worker I do not belive my partner to be a horrible person I don't understand why this mother is like this. It isn't fair on him. We also can't afford to go through lawyers and don't know what to do moving forward.
Me my partner nor the grandparents / family have seen the child for a couple of years now. What do we do?
I’m just after some advice on my son regards to child maintenance.
He turned 18 on the 20.11.2019
He’s working part-time earning £160 per week plus doing college work 1.5 days per week.
I’ve paid maintenance ever since me & my ex split on 2013 continuous which was never missed
I’m just wondering if I still need to continue paying for him ?
Gareth
Feed up and off to tribunal now
My husband is now travelling to work, paying for parking etc. We have a loan we are paying off and other substantial outgoings.
We have paid to go to court twice (as his mother refused to go to mediation) to ensure we have my step son regularly which is fantastic as the bond between my husbands and his son is unbreakable, we legally have him two nights less a month (School term time and joint custody in the holidays) than his mother and them two nights he doesn’t actually spend at his mothers house he’s at his grandads, the reason for this is that she works in the evenings, the reason for her not allowing us to have him 50/50 custody is that my husband works on a Saturday
My husband has to pay over £130 a month for him.
We pay for his clothes/ bed/ toys everything.
We are literally living month to month to get by.
Why do we pay so much in CSA if any when she is reviewing his child allowance too?
It says paying a for child maintenance is for housing/ clothes/ food etc
But we receive no help with this??
Is this really correct ??
I see him every weekend and pay maintenance to his mum monthly.
At what age will my maintenance payments stop?
CSA have got in touch with their mom & said my husband owes £48 a week due to no longer having shared care, is this correct? I have done a calculation on Gov.uk & it says he should only be paying £36 a week (without shared care). I'm currently out of work, so he is the the sole income earner & he is on a low income. Thanks
The problem I have is that paying maintenance (£200) a month is really affecting me financially. As I already pay on average £400-500 per month all in to see my son. This includes flights, trains food and clothing etc when i have him. I have 2 jobs just to get by. I live in a shared house which is not ideal when i bring him to Liverpool. Is there any help i can get? Is there a point where if you can't afford it, you don't pay. I feel like i shouldnt be paying maitenance because i know i already pay lots more than her just to see my son, and i can't go on like this for another 10 years. I'm 31 and i'm really struggling. I don't have time or money for relationships or friends. If i were to go back to Ireland i'd be paying even more on flights to bring him back and fourth. I'm not suicidal by any means but i can see why young men would take their own lives regularly. It feels like we have to suck it up and get on with it no matter the situation we are in. Please somebody recommend something that doesnt involve me moving outside of Liverpool. I think i'll have to move home soon and take the hit of seeing my son less just give him and myself a better chance at succeeding in life.
Since we split she's lied about cheating on me, constantly having a go and eventually I moved back to where we moved from yet still she is threatening to go through csa and not accepting my offer to pay her small amounts to help her. Can she do this and if so, what would the csa say if I told them that I repeatedly offered to pay her straight from my bank account yet she refused and went through csa anyway? I just feel like she'll go through csa no matter what happens just so she can get the revenge she's always wanted.
Also, would the amount I have to pay back be affected with the fact that I'm paying the loan back?
However she’s recently become awkward with my access
Can I stop giving her money every month and put it to one side until I get access again or would this go against me further down the line if I had to go through courts?
Thanks
'I have just had £16,000 taken out of my bank account for my two children who are both over 20 years old. The kids have lived with their mother and grand mother ever since we split up and divorced. My wife gained the family home, that was our agreement.
This will cripple my business and may well make me bankrupt.
My ex wife and I had an agreement when we separated.
Please can somebody tell me if there is a cut off point for claiming maintenance payments?
This payment has come completely out of the blue and my children are over 20 years old, the youngest being 22).
Thank you in advance for any help and/or advice you are able to give.
W Timmins'
If she realises maintainance is not going into her account I'll respond with contact the CSA or whoever because if I'm not having time with my daughter then you crack on. Any thoughts please?
Wat steps do I need to take .
My son has recently been referred to specialist s and she ain't sharing anything ,only with her new bloke.
Plse can anyone help.hes only 3 and if I remain away to long he may forget me.
Many thanks.
Me and my wife have agreed child maintanance in consent order .
She is working now and what happens if she decides not to work or lost job ? Will I be in a situation to pay more ?
Please advice
It’s a bit long winded so bare with me....
My wife has a son who turns 18 (in June 2020) from a previous relationship who now lives with him (only since this years summer holidays 2019)
I have bought him up since he was 4 years old and now because he is living at the dads house he is expected my wife to pay maintenance! He is deducting maintenance and child benefit from the monthly figure that he pays my wife!
The 17 year old son is at college 3 days at week learning carpentry do we my wife and I have to pay the money?
But now he is not in full-time education and the law states that if a child reaches 16 and no longer in full-time education, then the payments can stop. However, I'm told by Child Maintenance that none of this matters and that because his birthday was a few days after September 1st, which is the date they calculate a child's age, that they still consider him 15 until next September 1st, when he will then be almost 17. How did such a corrupt system get put into place?!
On another side note, which most of society don’t seem to care about: Men are 3 times more likely to commit suicide than women. Men make up the majority of incarcerations. Women are more than a third more likely to go to university. So many men live in insecure housing, while paying a big part of their pay checks to the women and thus can’t afford better accommodation, and the courts so rarely give parental control to men unless men pay a fortune in lawyer fees, and then often still lose. And even though there are all these threats from the government to make sure every week money is given over to the women, there is no help from the government when the women decide not to give access to the man to see their kids. I have a friend that was in such a situation – insecure housing, little money and no access to their child – and so killed himself. I personally have not been able to get the access to my children like I should be able to and now my eldest son is all screwed up because of a lack of a father figure in his life. But other than paying a fortune in lawyer fees, where one lawyer straight up told me it’s not worth it for there is a good chance you will lose, there is nothing else that I can do. What a sick system!
My son has left school and started a training program and gets paid £25 per week, which will rise to £150 after a month or two. Does anybody know if I still need to pay his mother child maintenance please?
I have been split from my daughters father for almost 10 years. He has never been able to hold a job down so constantly lets me down with child support.
We have a court order which explains when he can have her, what’s says he must phone her etc.
I am now at the end of my tether. Please advise me what I can do?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thankyou.
Steve.
When his ex challenged this they said it goes to whoever gets child benefit. Well I do. They were told he was being paid the maintenance and keeping it instead of passing it on to me and did nothing about it.
The question is with no job I assume I can expect to get zero financial help for child maintenance from her even if I go via the CSA route. Has anyone any experience in this situation?
I appreciate any reply’s and explication’s cheer
Thanks in advance.
I am just wondering, I have a 9 month old that is due to start part time nursery. Mother currently has full overnight care of the child as she only tends to let me have baby overnight if it suits her, but anyway won’t go into that. When he starts nursery me and my family will be having him from 8am to 8pm one day through the week and I’ll be having him myself 8am-8pm one weekend. If mum refuses to let me have him overnight can I still reduce the maintenance payment on the basis that during those days I am having to pay for his care all day?
I’ve looked for articles but it only classifies it as ‘overnight’
Thanks in advance
The mother of the children on paper is the residential one, but the children don't actually live with her, (only on paper) hope that makes sense. To cut it short she dumps them at my partners parents 99% of the time. We regularly take the children out along with my daughter. Buy what they need and more. Partner and ex have been split since the kids were 2&3. They're now 9&10. The father child relationship is well established and was so before I arrived on the scene (2 years ago)
The mother is now trying to claim csa/cms. We have given her money numerous times for uniforms and other things and she has relatedly. Spent it on nights out or on herself. So we stopped doing this and decided to carry on with what we do, and buy them what they need when they ask or need it. If we had a bigger house we would let them live with us if they wish to, which is something they asked us about.(looking for bigger house)
Several times we have given money for uniforms ect and then had to go out and buy them because she has spent the money. What can we do?
I have made my child maintenance payment to my ex today and she has returned the payment. Trying to claim that I have not paid the money.
What is the best action to take next?
Hoping you can advise me.
My son is 16yo just left school and going to college.
I have always paid my money to my ex through our own agreement.
I have now been asked to pay £150 towards his bus pass. I have agreed to increase my payments to incorporate but my ex has rejected it. And said she doesn’t want anymore money !!
Am I being reasonable.
Help please.
I saw your post for June and wondered if you;ve had a response to this as my son whom I don't see is also in college and currently 18 an 4 months old. He supposedly is starting another college course in September 2019 but I have no proof of the course or that he would even carry on attending if he did get if he later left.
Does anyone know our rights as dads as I spoke to the CMA about this and legally he is an adult and so covered under GDPR around what we as parents are allowed to know since legally not his guardian anymore, yet financially still responsible because of any college course that is 12hrs or more a week.
I was advised by the CMA that if I was not given proof by him and his mother and the college to some degree I could be better cancelling my maintenance until challenged simply because they could then look into and validate the proof. I pay voluntary and always have and just would like this sorting.
I welcome anyone's thoughts or similar situations currently.
Regards Richie
He and his brother come to my house regularly...can I claim from her?
What bugs me is that I feed my children at least once a week (breakfast, lunch and dinner) when they don't stay with me. My mother feeds them another 2 days a week.
This all seems a little rich to me.
Then she taps me up for school bus fair on top of this.
Going to university Sept, probably needing to work part time to fund it. Living in halls.
Will he have to pay maintenance and if so full amount?
Thanks
I've also always had to fight to see my son, getting threats of police being called or being taken to court by my ex. Even though CMS are quick to take my money, they don't care if I don't get access to seeing my son. And getting hit with child maintance has kept me away more than usual the last few years. My son is now all screwed up, got sectioned for a few months and has now dropped out of school at age 15. He seems to love being a NEET (not in emplolyment, entertainment or training) and we have not been able to convince him otherwise. I called CMS to see what happens when he hits 16 in this circumstance. I'm told that I'll have to still pay his mother till he is 20 years old! That's just so unfair and insane. At 18 I moved across the world and lived on my own. My current partner has a brother which did the same at 16 years old and was in full time work.
This system is so curropt. The number one reason for death for men in this country is suicide and I've had a friend kill himself because he had no money because of CMS, insecure housing and not being able to get access to his daughter. But nobody seems to care.
I have a mortgage with my ex that I pay with alongside child maintenance which includes finance agreements etc that were made during relationship, I’ve paid this for three years since I moved back to my parents. I now have another child and cannot continue to live in one bedroom, now that I’m moving out I cannot afford either the mortgage or maintenance due to renting and supporting my other half and child or my son that I have every weekend. My ex doesn’t pay or provide the things my son needs such a sufficient clothes whilst he’s with me, nappies that are needed, doesn’t cut his hair or even some of the more basic things such as cutting his nails. What is classed as shared care? How much maintenance should I pay for? I’ve been told by csm that the only thing that comes above child maintenance is council tax (typical government) but paying the maintenance that’s been asked would mean I couldn’t afford my rent and so make my other child homeless.. where do I stand?
Strangely for the last 3 months no money has been taken for this out of my bank which has never happened before. Does anyone know of any reasons why this might be.? I also dont have contact with the mum so I dont know anything. Thanks
Does this have any legal basis?
I pay the Sky and Home phone and Broadband bills, in addition to a mobile phone she asked me to get for her as she couldn't get credit, whilst we were still married. There is also a cooker In the house I pay for, along with credit cards that were racked up by both of us through monthly essentials such as shopping.
As long as the value of the total payments is either equal to, or exceeding what CSA/Child maintenance options would ask of me if she went down that route, does she have any legal recourse?
I split from my ex a long time ago and since met my new partner. My new partner and I now how 2 young children aged 8 and 4. The child between the Ex and I is almost 19 now. I’ve always paid the same amount of maintenance for my 19 year old(still at college) in a private agreement with his mum.
Things are tighter financially these days and I’d like to reduce the amount I pay now and I’m not sure where I stand with this. I received threats from the Ex when I stated my intent. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
How do I ensure that I am not paying when I shouldn't be?
My son who is 17 left college nov 18 and isn’t working isn’t in education anymore but the mom still continues to to claim child benefits and I’m still made to pay maintenance for the last 7 months I have argued etc with cms but they won’t listen I can’t get any information from the college due to data protection and I’m not a named parent so won’t disclose anything, why should I be made to pay and the mom continues to receive it, she also tells them he’s still in education and as she’s receiving child benefit cms think he is in education when he isn’t , she’s defrauding the government and cms , what else can I do as clearly this is wrong and illegal
I have two children which I have access to via a court order as I was prevented from seeing them.
They are meant to stay 2/3 nights a week.
My older son has stopped staying , I don't know why as he has stopped talking to me.I ,like many people, believe my ex partner has pressurised him.
However I am now told by the CMS that I have to pay more child support to my ex partner as he does not stay.
I don't understand why someone can break a court order ( by the way she has never stuck to the court order for 6 years ) and be financially rewarded for this.
My question therefore is does the CMS have to take into account a court contact order when assessing payments?
Thanks
I will refuse to pay now, I have open a small claims court for the money she owes me,
whether it will do any good, but yes same lies and suffering the same, we will be taking this
to tribunal :( how the F can they get away with it.
still wanting money from me! Its a disgrace
and will not tell the cms!! I have told them that my daughter has left and they are
continually ignoring me. The evidence they use is the PWC word and the fact shes getting child benefit,
which is wrong because its not about child benefit, the PWC is actually
frauding the government claiming child benefit and they will not check the college as
this is data protection. I will be taking her to small claims for the money I over paid and with this I will
be able to take witnesses in to prove that my daughter told them also that she has left college.
Any extra help would be great as the cms are now asking for collect and pay.
TIA
I was hoping some one can help me out with one of many issues I am currently contesting with these brainless and incompetent people from CMS.
Basically I have two employments one is full time and the other is two days a week. (second job)
CMS contacted HMRC for my annual Gross figures, and calculated my payments on the figures combined and not individually, which I am arguing its unfair because my second job weekly gross is under £200 (not to mention deducting pension etc.) so that's would subsequently reduced my weekly gross before tax and would have an affect on what maintenance rate they would use.
also does anyone know if a Give as you earn payment to a registered charity would be considered a deductible amount as I currently have this in place which is tax free etc..
from my dealings with them they don't know what they are talking about unless you challenge them and put in complaints they will scree you over.I am not trying to get out of paying for my child but I want it done fairly and logically
I am not entitled to any financial support for my kids due to my earnings, it would be financially more sensible to quit my job. I dont get child benefit as my salary if just over £60k. My frustration is if 2 working parents equally shared an income of £99.9K then they would gte this benefit...!!!
My question is, my ex wife is no where to be seen and to my knowledge does not work, am I entitled to any CSA?
Thank you
It’s been about 9years now since the divorce, my friend never actually got a lawyer and his ex wife hired some top notch man hating one and he just agreed to the terms. Never showed up to court. His wife got the house, full custody and £15k a month plus additional extras school fees etc... basically he is just paying.
He now has some health issues and have tried to reason why ex but the problem is the kids are leverage and she won’t budge on maintenance. i know there is a lot of hurt between the two but for anyone to move forward with this is there any advice you can give me? I plan to go to a lawyer but need people to provide experiences how they dealt with this. I told my friend suggest she should downsize the big house and live within her means but he says she won’t and it will kill the kids.
It’s such a horrible situation to be in even after divorced you are still Payj g the price. He loves his children and will provide of course no question ask but it’s the ex’s high lifestyle she wants to keep which is the problem. The thing is he is not well and wants to focus on his health and without stress of paying ridiculous amount. The other part of this story she hasn’t worked for 16 years so I know the law protects women like that. But There is a lot of working mums out there. Surely she can try to get some sort of job.
Is there a law out there to protect guys like him? He never got a chance to start fresh after the divorced.
Any help here much appreciated. Even a good lawyer recommendation in LOndon will be much appreciated.
Can I get the money I've paid extra back
Do I have to continue making maintenance payments to her mother?
Thanks
Can she take me to court and do you think she will be successful?
Thanks in advance for any advice
JJ
I pay direct to her mother so want to stop paying her as soon as I can and put into a saving account for my daughter for the day I get to see her again.
How do I find out if I can stop paying and move the money into savings if no one from that side will talk to me? Thank you.
I currently pay approximately £200 per month CMS, however it is evident this does not get spent on the children as maintenance.
I have offered a family based arrangement which far out ways the child maintenance I currently pay, but it means I know the money which is meant for the children is spent on them. This however has been refused, have I got rights when it is obvious that the recieving parent is using the child maintenance for their own life style?
My special needs daughter turned 17 at Christmas and will continue going to her special needs school until May June 2020 as she does not turn 18 until December this year.
When can I legally stop paying child support for her?
This may seem contradictory but I have no wish to stop supporting her, I am just looking to understand where I legally stand. I have 3 kids and currently pay £825 per month in maintenance, I have them every second weekend (Friday & Sat night) as this is the only access I can get.
Some advice on this would be much appreciated.
My partners ex is trying to rinse as much money as possible, however the children go to his grandparents every day after school and on weekends. Would this mean she isn't entitled to as much money as she would like to think?
Do I still have to pay child support to her.
Thanks in advance.
My question is does this apprenticeship class as full time education and will I have to continue with my out of court maintenance agreement or can i stop paying?
Would an appeal look into that? and hopefully with commonsense someone would realise that I am already paying for a home setup for my children so I shouldn't have to pay their mothers rent and utility bills as well. I shouldn't be paying for two homes I should just be paying my share.
I missed 2 months payments while awaiting a reply from themselves and receiving parent.
This was due to receiving parent wanting all parental rights removed and my name of birth certificate.
I had fought for my child for 4 years and made decision to stop my fight. But not to stop maintenance . Until the mother pulled this.
After 3 weeks of back an forward with CMS and constantly getting contradicting info I asked for it to be raised to an investigation as not one piece of info I was given over the phone matched the next call. And same with messages to my self service portal.
Twice ibwas told complaint was raised. Twice the complaint was not raised.
I was also told by an advisor that the receiving parent claimed I have no children in my house. I have 3 step kids and a child to my wife. They where taking of my file without consulting me.
My case worker told me 2 days ago they would raise this as a fraudulent claim. Since then this has not been taken to the relevant department and I gave a new case worker who is refusing to do so. And when speaking to them I asked for a third time to raise this as a complaint against this case and that I want the receiving parent investigated for this fraudulent claim I was told no and I am ending the call goodbye .
I am totally at a loss as what to do now. There has been a fraudulent claim made on this case. A case worker has removed 4 children of the file without evidence other than a receiving parents word. I was also led to beleive (and case worker repeated this 3 times to my client rep) that there was no deductions of earnings for months of December and January. My new case worker says this was false and I am now looking at 2 Does in December right before Christmas.
Someone has to be held accountable for this and consequences faced.
However now my ex wants to go through the CMS to see if she can get more money.
If I am already paying her £75 a week can she do this?
My husband recently got his review and yes bonuses guaranteed or not are taken into account. As far as i’m aware they use your P60 for the calculation so any taxable income is included. My husband got a bonus last December which put last years income up. As his review is done every November it now means this next year he will be paying more every month despite not receiving any bonus this year. It should mean however that come next November his payments will be reduced again.
Can you please advise on whether commission based bonuses are to be taken into account when calculating maintenance payments. I have heard that only guaranteed annual bonuses should be taken into account . . I can’t seem to find any information on bonus payments. The CMS says that all bonuses are to be considered. Is this correct ?
I have been paying Maintence to my daughter for the last 14 years and maintenance to my twin boys for the last 9 months , I have recently started a three year college course, I have read heard and been told that my payments could stop due to this as my wages hours have been reduced, I spoke with someone from CMS went on the Direct Gov website and spoke with others in the same situation, please could you confirm or deny this please Craig
cant not find anything tangible online anywhere on what happens when my child reaches 16 next yr and the CM payments
He is severely disabled and therefore can not do ' further education' and will be getting the PIA /DSA rather than child maintenance
I have spoken to CM but they do not know either so are seeking guidance , anyone know
It definitely isn't lower
It is voluntary and has been standing order for years
My rd has convinced herself she is owed more and threatens to go to csa
What will they do if they can see I'm.already paying a reasonable amount?
This is quite frankly ridiculous. We had already spoken to his daughter about money and she has a) savings b) a grant c) is looking for a part time job. We agreed with her privately to put a certain amount away each month (when we could) for emergencies and this is what we have been doing since 1 August 2018 as we paid maintenance on 1 July 2018 as we weren’t sure when it ended. We also paid for other expenses for her such as student card etc
Surely this isn't right. We've two other children together as well who need our financial support
WTF
Son's ex girlfriend has said she is pregnant (baby probably now born) and he is already paying maintenance for a child from a former relationship. Question is - how much will he have to pay for 2 children but from 2 different relationships?
We can see on the website it says 16% of gross pay for 2 kiddies, but not sure this is exactly right if two different relationships.
Wonder how is he ever going to get back on his feet.....
Please help I’m always taken and paying for football and dancing and she has had 3 blokes since me and Ive been happy
Lee
Advise please
And my ex wife is claiming for our daughter...I have a clean break order (financial).
But I have just been informed by csa that she is asking for cm ..for both of our children she has them one week and I the other ... She told me that she needs more money because she can't afford where she lives ... She has a boyfriend who lives with her ..Any advice on how to proceed ?
I have had a deduction from earnings order by originally the CSA then CM for a child I have always protested child in question was not mine.
The CSA told me I had to prove I wasn’t the father but I couldn’t at the time afford a DNA test. I refused to pay for the child EVER. After a year or so of none payments to this child I had a deduction of earnings order which took large amounts of my pay to repay the debt, still I protested the child wasn’t mine. I got told it was down to me to prove the child wasn’t mine? I had no relationship with this woman or even knew her name yet this baby was mine (its maybe the second coming) so now 3 years on I have paid for the DNA and she refuses to do one... so here is my question I have never paid this women the CSA and CM have taken money out of my wages with no proof the child is mine can I claim back all my deduction of earnings??
Or is this stolen money gone?? I have had no dealings with childs mother or made payments to her as the child’s not mine yet the CM thought they were Robin Hood and stole from me to give to a liar.
Any advice would be great
My ex is being difficult with me seeing my daughter, if I go to mediation could that cost be taken off of the child maintenance as she's refusing to pay towards it. Or would I just have to pay out hundreds for that on top of the child maintenance.
I have recently separated from my husband we have 3 children. He has moved into a shared house which isn't stumble for the children to stay at. So I have been kind enough to allow him to have them in the family home, when he has them over night I stay out! He insists in deducting money fro. My maintenance for this. But I can't see how this is right he doesn't provide a ting I leave fridge and cupboards stocked. Is it right for him to be deducting£10 every time he stays with them.
Any help/guidance would be greatly appreciated.
Do I have ANY real options here or am I just obligated to pay the full amount?
Any advice greatly appreciated.
My daughter has turned 16 and just left school to do a hairdressing apprenticeship. She is now there full time and paid a small wage but also does some learning hours within the salon towards her NVQ hairdressing qualification. Do I need to still keep paying or am I within my rights to now stop? I have always paid an agreed amount each month direct to her mum privately with no CSA involvement and nothing written down.
Best Regards
Branston
The month before my son turned 18 the payments stopped. My ex is still supposed to be paying for my younger child though?
I’m wondering that he is thinking because he overpaid for approximately 16 months (he probably assumed my son had stayed on at school then recently heard he’d left school 16 months ago) that he doesn’t need to continue paying now due to overpaying? Even although I have a child he is still liable to pay for? My children and I have no contact with him at all. He chose not to see the children after we separated 12 years ago. After we separated his lawyer advised him of a monthly amount to pay in child maintenance which I agreed to and it was paid into my bank account every month.
This is in Scotland by the way.
Do I pay my ex-partner more mantaince for this chikds decision.
Any advice would be much appreciated, thanks !
My agreement with his mother was that I paid her each month till he reached 17 or left full time education which ever the latter.
He is now 17 so as he had left collage and was over 17 I stopped paying her and supported him directly .
As he is going back to I have to pay her again or can I continue to do it directly to him ?
John the father left the family home after 3 months and has not paid anything to the upbringing of my daughters boy over all these years.
My daughter has found out that the father has been left a large estate on the death of his parents and he is an only child. Does my daughters son have any right to to the estate or owed money owed by the father.
Son lived with mother as resident parent, father non-resident paid Maintaince.
Mothers died when son was 17. Son has to take responsibility for himself as no suitable guardian. Son in full time education and now 18, where does he stand on support from father?
Do I still have to pay Child Maintenance as she/they are not entitled to Child Benefit?
Thanks
He has just finished 6th form and has enrolled on a further education course with a view to take a degree online . He only has to attend 2 lectures a week which is less than 12 hours in class and is actively seeking employment to suit this course . My question is am I still legally bound to continue paying maintenance?
Thank you.
My son has a son with a girl who he isn’t in a relationship with. She has tried to block him all through pregnancy & since as has a new boyfriend(since 3rd month of pregnancy) Also has not named him on birth certificate. My son wants to pay maintenance for his son , but she has refused it. We think she has been told that he doesn’t have any rights if she doesn’t take his money . Is there any way he can force her to accept payments as he wants the best for his baby, as he is the most important in all this.
Need advice better ex and refused can I set up saving for my kids and pay it to them not her
How can I stop paying CMA? I don’t think I will ever see my daughter again (even if I see her again, she will never be the same child).
I’ve tried to keep civil but she’s too crazy. I don’t want that kind of person around my children.
Maintenance. His ex wife is lying to cms saying he does not have them so will need to pay a substantial amount of money for his four children. How do we prove this? It’s his word against hers so he is seeing a solicitor and applying for a court order. When it’s sorted which we hope it will be will she pay it back? Can she be criminalised for fraud as she’s saying he never has them!?
She says he is going to College in September where he will study maths and English alongside his sports science course. I don’t even think he will bother going to college every day!
Can I stop my voluntary maintenance payments to his mother in September?
As part of the court order all holidays have to be split 50/50 so I was wondering if I'm still responsible for child maintenance over the holiday period?
His daughter has just finished full time education and is 18 but is starting a part time 2 day a week college course in September, my question is will his ex wife still be receiving child maintenance from the government, is this something we can find out?
If she isn't can we then stop paying maintenance and pay it direct to his daughter?
It's not that I mind paying for my child at all, this is a question from a legal standpoint as my ex is being hugely difficult.
Schedule 1 of the Children Act 1989 paragraphs 1 and 2. If a child is over the age of 18 but remains in full time education e.g. University application can be made for periodical payments.
The mother is now demanding that we have the 9 year old extra during the school holidays to help her out but won’t help us out if we need a Saturday night or anything to go out. Can she demand this?
I'm confused about whether or not overtime and bonuses are included in the calculation of CSA payments. Neither the overtime or bonus is guaranteed and is less than 25% of my gross salary.
I need to work overtime so I can afford a place where my two sons can visit and to drive the long distance to my work each week.
Thanks in advance.
My ex n myself have a kid but I only found out she was mine about 2-3 months ago.. We spoke agreed on £100 on 28th every month but then she asks for more so I pushed it to as much as I could £180.. I've paid her two times 100 n 180.. But I've only seen my daughter twice and now she's not being speaking to me for past 2 half weeks. The last I seen my daughter was back in May.. N she was saying she'd go to csa but obviously we agreed on payment to save that happening but I'm just wondering should I even be paying her if this has happened not seen my daughter? Cause its leaving skint last two months
One son is now 20 ( working ) the other son is 17 and at college , if I came back to the U.K. in the next 12 months would there be arrears to pay ? I’ve not been a tax resident in U.K. for 4 yrs now .. thanks
I’m unable to work due to Heath issues which is frustrating. No where is his csa payments taken into account for housing benefits. There is no way we can afford to live if he pays csa on full wage. We have his boys two days every week. His boys are 7 and 8 so it’s a long road for him. We have no problem to pay to keep his boys but we still have to
Survive with the kids we have. His ex is with a new bloke on high pay so it seems my kids suffer for doing nothing wrong.
Is it true that there will be no requirement to pay maintenance if I have court ordered half custody.
How would this affect what he has to pay to his ex partner
Now the CMO are stating that because I earn legally , I need to pay 12% of my wage to him .....despite him dodging paying me .
Why is this not calculated in the payments . It seems so unfair that I have to pay a man for my daughter when he dodge paying me but now wants me to suffer financially .!
I would love to have my son 50% of the time but my ex won't let me so on average I have him 14 nights a month and she has him 16 but I also have him a couple of days (she won't let me overnight them days) but according to cms I still have to pay her £200 a month which seems crazy due to the fact it's pretty much 50/50.
Is this right as all online calculators only take into consideration nights!
I have a daughter who is now 18 and leaving school in June 2018. I have paid my monthly child maintenance payments continuously over the years even though I have not seen my daughter for numerous years.
I understand my daughter is allegedly going to college, what are my rights.
I understand that I can stop paying my ex the monthly child maintenance now that my daughter has left school.
During the 10 years I have my children overnight on alternate weekends (Fri - Mon) and every Wednesday night. Recently my three daughters asked to also stay over on Tuesday evenings, which they now do each week.
This means that they spend exactly the same number of nights with me, as they do with their mum.
I'm pleased to say that the girls have a decent life with each parent buying the same amount of clothes, gadgets etc at each home.
I recently informed the Child Maintenance Bureau of the change in circumstances, and have been told that I must continue to pay their mum support each month.
The annual figure is approx £1500 which is a month's money for me. As we both spend the same amount on the children each money and look after them for the same amount of time, this seems very unfair?
Over the past five years, the children have had a number of problems at their mum's house including a step-dad who hangs around their bedrooms, threats of suicide from mum when they suggested spending more time with me, physical abuse on my son (now 18) from step-dad.
All of the incidents have been logged with the police and social services, and I am now wondering if I should pursue a residency order?
Can anyone give me any advice on the process and the potential pitfalls, please?
I do have parental responsibility for my son, and have always paid an agreed monthly amount (so nothing through the csa).
I have been told he is currently doing his A Levels and then looking at doing university for 3 years from this September (although have no proof of that) maybe extending to 5 years if he does a masters.
I have 2 children with my current partner who are 5 and 5 months.
Do I stop payments this August when he completes his 2 year of A levels or do I have to continue paying until he’s 21 or potentially 23 when he finishes all education?
Thanks
I don't have parental responsibilities or rights for my step son, but I have always paid for all his expenses and upbringing since he was 2.5 years old. (During marriage and after divorce)
When we separated 5 years ago, I verbally agreed to pay for both of kids child maintenance with a calculation of 1 night a week shared care. It worked out to about 75 a week (325 a month) using child maintenance Calc on gov.uk website.
She receives income support and child benefits and I don't receive any.
My ex receives the child maintenance from her older partner for my step son too.
Although the CM calculation was done (family agreement) on basis of both kids spending 1 night a week with me, I have made sure that both of us parents provide 42%-58% (specifically 3 nights with me, 4 nights with her and holidays split exactly equally), care for kids.
Recently my ex needs to travel a lot. So I have been looking after kids for more than 3 nights a week.
So for the duration of 2018 it's been exactly equal shared care.
We also pay all bills that concern kids equally.
Shopping is done equally too at her home and at my home, whereever kids are and whatever they need is bought without worrying about any calculations (shoes, travel, clothing, social, entertainment, toys etc.)
I believe (after reading stuff online) that I don't need to pay anything for my step son.
I may or may not need to pay CM for my daughter, however I am not sure how to approach the situation.
Could you please give me an indication as to whether I need to pay any CM or not. And in either case how do I get it confirmed by CMS officially.
Thanks
His x wife threw him out and didnt tell him she was pregnant.
He pays for her hes not on the birth certificate and we are left in hardship presently.
Is there any way getting this cut or stopped.
Been separated for 18 months now, we agreed on an amount per month. I pick them up from home twice a week they come for tea and stay till around 9pm. They stay every other Friday and Saturday and i take them away to visit family in Scotland a few times a year for at least 3/4 nights. Since the mother has found out I'm having a baby with my new partner she's gone back to maintence and wants alot more money from me. Do they consider all the times the kids are with me? As in picking them up and spending time during the week also trips away etc....the letter I got said I've to pay £350 per month will that go down if call them? Cheers!
Thank you
My daughter has no idea what to do after her course n is being pushed to an apprentiship by mother..but i feel my daughter wants to work.. SO.
assuming she decides to get a part time less or more than 25 hrs a wk job..would she still be entitled to maitenance payments.
or is that dependant on child benefits...
if i think my ex shouldnt be getting child benefits am i allowed to advise the goverment ..as the ex i believe will. simply tell.me what she wants me to know not what i need to know.
what if she does an apprentiship ive read a guaranteed job one means her child benefits stop as does maintenace.
thanks in advise.
Whilst we believe that it’s important that we still provide for his children, will my earnings be taken into account in regards to the payments made for his children? I can’t seem to find an answer on this topic.
We have done the online child maintenance calculator which states based on his new wage would be only £58 a week child maintenance but currently pay £98 a week. He has called to get looked in to and reduced. But told this would not change as it’s not a big enough change. Is this the case how can he possibly life on this . Once he puts petrol in his car to go to work nothing let at all . Surly this isn’t right ????
i currently pay through the cms for my 19yr old. (20 in october)
her college course finishes end of may 2018
so do my payments officially stop
a. at the end of may (ie the end of her course, according to your paragraph above or
b.at the end of august (ie just prior to the beginning of the 'new' college term, according to the cms
kind regards
AG.
Why I calculate with gross payment, and pay after net payment?
Regards
He has a new son with a new partner.
"If you share care equally, neither of you has to pay maintenance to each other."
How can this be so, when the CMS calculator / guidance figures suggest that the paying parent should still contribute a substantial weekly amount even when they have the children "approximately 3 nights a week" or "more than 3 nights week"??
Surely being responsible for your children for this amount of time per week makes you a Shared Carer? Or possibly even the Primary Carer??
I have my two children for, on average, 3 nights a week. So I fail to understand how the CMS can determine i pay a large amount to my ex, when your article clearly suggests that, based on these numbers, I am a shared carer.
How do you and the CMS define the word "equal"?
Please help!!
My sone has recently separated from his partner. My son is a university student and has very little income.
He has a part time job which helps him out financially.
However, now his estranged partner is demanding that he pays child support.
I help my son out every week by way of standing order from my bank account.
I have said I will redirect that payment direct to his estranged partner to the amount she has specified.
Is this allowable in child support law.
What do I do ?
Who wants to lose £300 a month in payment she sure doesnt and she is doing her best to manipulate and send to college rather than be owning his own money.
Any 16 year old person would tell you if they had the chance of earning their own money to spend as they see fit that is what they would do.
Apart from just carrying on paying maintancence what else may i do
Many thanks.
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I have been paying maintenance for 10 years and my wife is now earning much more than she was, about the same as me now. I've heard that a zero-order could help me reduce my maintenance payments, is that right?
And How does it work please?
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My ex has only given me the right to 6 hours with my daughter every Saturday as long as she isn't ill, or at a party. Back when we divorced I was working full time but I am now in full time education and only working a small amount of hours. I'm doing this for my future with my daughter to be able to support her more financially when she grows up. Is there any advice anyone can give me
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Can anyone advise me if I can obtain child maintenance support for 2 children living abroad with there mother whilst I am unemployed in Uk
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do i still need to pay child maintenance when she has the baby?
I have moved to a new job, and paying her that amount is now 50% of my monthly wage. I now have a new partner and looking at places to live etc. I simply cant afford it anymore but do not wanna see the kids homeless or nothing. I believe also if I stop the payments she will stop me seeing the kids who I see twice a month.
I have been paying a fixed sum to support my child for three years. During this time my daughter has attended 6th form college. She has also been working and has been paying for some of the items that I agreed to support with my payments. In the last two of the three years I have taken her on holiday abroad. She has also spent on average 2 days per week with me.
She is due to leave college this year and go to university. The payment were arranged through a consent order which states. Payments will be made until she leaves full time education or reaches the age of 19, which ever is the latter.
My intention is to stop payments when she leave colleague. My ex wife is threatening to take me to court. In light of the above information would I have to pay until she is 19. Even though she is at university.
I’ve been paying maintenance for my son!
We don’t have contact as that broke down a long time ago due to the mother!! Too much to go in to.
Basically I pay every month on time as it’s a private set up.
She allows him not to go to school and obviously won’t be going to college!!
Do I have the right to stop payments once he turns 16? How do I find out if she’s still claiming child benefits? I pay a high amount and she got loads more kids with another guy and claims all the benefits on offer to her. It might sound harsh but just want to get on with my life and one day he will want to see me. Thank you
I have my 2 children stay with me from Friday night until Sunday afternoon.
Can their mother deny me overnight stays?
If so, would this mean I would have to give her more money even though she is the one who has decided that they can't stay with me? I have all of this evidenced in the form of text messages from her if that makes a difference.
Would this mean my money would stop from her father
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Kath
I have a son who’s just turned two and had never seen his father because he had no interest after leaving our relationship and playing daddy to someone else’s child. I haven’t got any contact details or know of his whereabouts but have come to the point where I feel he needs to start taking responsibility for his own child. Do I have the right to do this?
I have a court order for very good overnight access to my daughter. Who is now 13.. I pay maintenance but having fallen out with my daughter she has not spoken to me for a year... I believe this is being perpetuated by the mother. Because I haven't seen my daughter my maintenance has gone up considerably but the court order is still in place ... do the CMS ignore court orders even if denial of access is being perpetuated by the mother?
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My question is can I claim support from my Ex to contribute towards this to help support his grandma in the upkeep?
The boys Mum made him vegetarian and is very into Christianity
When my partner had his son he asked for chicken nuggets!
After a long time of refusing he allowed him
After splitting with his then partner she was annoyed and told lil ones Mum his dad gave him chicken now he has visitation with a family mem
From hers
He pays csa every week never has missed it
Spoilt him for Christmas yet still
Can’t even call without the family mem being notified???
He’s dying just wants his son?? What should we do???
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My ex is not saying she wants to go thru the CSA because she thinks i should be paying more. I haven't hid anything and the numbers I've used are honest and accurate. Will the CSA take her case if i have never missed or underpaid? I'm worried i'll end up on collect and pay which costs me more money.
I am a bit confused about what happens about me paying for her and if it stops when she leves college and then I pay again when she goes back at 19 or it stops all together when she starts working at 17 ?
Can anyone tell me the facts about this as I do not want to get into trouble.
Take care and have a happy New year.
javb
(not CMS) that the lad is 18 and working! CMS say when Child Benefit informs them they will re look at the fugure! How can this be right ?
Look forward to your comments thanks.
It seems very unfair
is this right? would making a complaint to the csa start the process of him having to pay.
In addition, mother stops father from seeing the children and is now desputing payments saying she wants more money because he's not seeing the children but she is the one preventing him. In court proceedings to try to sort contact.
Very messy situation. Just need some clarification, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
I pay maintinence to my ex partner for my disabled daughter. I would like to go back to university to study for 3 years. I have recently married, will I still need to pay maintenance if I don’t have an income because I’m a student!??
Seems a bit unfair?
My son left school and I got him an apprenticeship with a customer I look after. She said no, he’s going to college! He’s not the academic type and this will not benefit him for the future in my opinion but she has forced him into it because I think she’s looking at the financial benefit to her. He’s even earning himself with a part time job and she charges him board to!
So when the CSA review comes up it states he is earning £26
And should only pay £7.
We had a agreement that he pays £100 for two children but when I found out that he booked a 10k holiday for himself and partner, brought new BMW with private plate, Rolex watch on display. Then another expensive holiday.
I piped up - I said that he should be paying more for two children and he knows it. So then agreed to pay £140 this only happened for a month or so then payments completely stopped.
My ex loved the control and used the maintenance as control - he wouldn’t pay for months on end and then chuck a large sum at me.
He had both children for a fortnight and they came back to me in a right state not fed - was told they were skipping meals, stinking of cigarette smoke, unwashed, my daughter long hair was not brushed for at least a week and was completely matted.
Since then I have told him he needs to have the children along side of his mother at her address to ensure their safety is met.
He has stop all maintenance but because the man does not pay tax - CSA state he is not working when he clearly is
I have texts stating that if I report him then he will simply just go on benefits.
I’ve filed a court application
Does anyone know where I stand
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Now the csa says I must pay maintenance, they have calculated my salary at £8k than I earn and said even if it is wrong then they won’t reveiw it for 12 months.
What can I do ?
If they have told maintenance about the other child will maintenance put that into consideration before they give me an amount I should receive?
Thank you.
I only seen the kid once when he was 2 now he is 6 there is no connection neither bond.
1. Do I still have to pay even child is not in the country?
I get treated so badly by him when he's the one that had an affair after 19 years together and went off the day after Boxing Day ! Now having to deal with losing the money each month just before Christmas is ridiculous!
My ex and I have agreed 50/50 custody of the children, and I'm now looking at Child Maintenance.
I earn more than my ex-wife, but i'm unclear how her income is factored in the calculation.
It appears that if she didn't work, or earned a similar wage to me, she would still be entitles to the same figure from me, the Payee.
I will always make sure my children are financially supported, but would really appreciate any insight into how the 'recipient's' income is factored into the .gov calculator?
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I have never missed a CMS payment and I have always picked up and looked after my daughter.
My ex wife has stopped me from seeing my daughter. I'm currently seeking legal advice and planning on going to court to prevent this from happening a 3rd time.
I have had my daughter for 94 nights so far this year.
How will my CMS payments be affected whilst my ex wife literally stops me from seeing my daughter?
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My husband pays £500 for two children to ex-wife every four weeks (13 times a year). The eldest child is in hospital for a rehab programme for long term problem. She will be in for 10-12 weeks. Does he still need to pay for her during this time as she is not living with her?
Obviously he would still pay the £250 for child 2.
Thanks in advance.
My partner paid up until recently full maintenance for his 17yr old son, via into his ex's bank account. He has paid this religiously until his son started work a few weeks back. Since his son left school 18months ago he has joined college numerous times and packed them in within a few weeks/months. Although my partner continued to pay regardless.
The law states that his ex should inform the cms if he leaves education or starts work. therefore she has commited fraud. On the gov website, all it seems to go on about is if the dad stops paying and what to do about that . under all the guidence it does not say if the mother fails to tell the cms that the child has left college/started work?
I am presuming my partner will be told that this is a seperate issue and that he will have to take his ex to the small claims.
My partner works 7 days a week in order to pay his maintenance and have ourselves a decent lifestyle. Yet his ex works part time, has a partner living with her undeclared and drives round in a new car.
My partner is not trying to get out of paying for his son but why is the law always on the mothers side? Any help and advice would be appreciated .thank you
My husband has 2 children with his ex. They agreed on a monthly payment between them before I met my husband.
We got married a couple of months ago and she is claiming that my wage now has to be factored into his maintenance payments. Is this correct?
If my son (8) and I move in with my partner will his maintenance be reduced that he pays for his ex partner and his one other child ?
Could someone please advise?
If a mother refuses to put father on birth certificate, child does not have the fathers name and she does not allow contact - does the father still pay maintenance when the mother moves in with a new partner?
Happy to pay however would rather put money into savings for the child.
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He has also had wind that she may be taking drugs but has no proof!!
There are several factors that CMS will take into account i.e how many children the paying parent has, their income and how much time they spend with the paying parent (overnight). On the basic rate, if the NRP is paying for one child, they will pay 12% of their gross weekly income, two children, 16% and three or more children, they would pay 19% of their gross weekly income. If your brother earns £13,000 per annum this roughly equates to £47.50. However, where arrangements are made via CMS, then administrative charges are placed on top. Both parents must pay a collection fee for using the Collect & Pay service. The Collect & Pay service is when the CMS works out the amount of child maintenance to be paid and collects payments from the paying parent and passes them on to the receiving parent. The paying parent will have to pay a 20 per cent collection fee each time a payment is collected from them. The receiving parent will have to pay a four per cent collection fee each time a payment is passed onto them. I do empathise with the fact your brother is struggling to manage and cannot afford suitable accommodation in order to have his children over more. However, the rate is calculated on the basis of what he would contribute to the children over a week, if he still lived at home. These contributions can be unseen, such as help towards utility bills, food, clothing and extras etc, which all parents are responsible for paying towards if and where they are earning money. I'm afraid this does not help answer your question, but it hopefully does put it into context.
I'm looking for advice on behalf of my brother who has recently separated with his wife, i wont bore you with the details but she had relations outside of the marriage which resulted in child number 4. They have 3 children between them .
Any how, my brother works full time and earns just over £13k and his outgoings pretty much match what's coming in with very little left... he now lives in a small room in a house share and survives on Jam sandwiches. Where in contrast she does not work, her house is paid for by housing benefit and she pays top up, which is £4500 in arrears. She receives child benefit, tax credits, disability living allowance for the two older children and carers allowance so all in all a little over £3500 per month.She has now made a claim for child maintenance and they have said she is entitled to £65per week.
He has the children two afternoons a week and on the Saturday. All three children are in full time education. He is unable to have them over night as he lives in one room.
I am struggling to understand a few things and any advice is much appreciated. :
1 - how on earth he can pay £65 per week ? This isn't about avoiding paying for his children but i cant understand how he will keep a roof over his head. He cant afford a bigger place to have the children overnight, coupled with work commitments . He isn't deemed to be a priority with the council for housing as a weekend dad, but unless he gets a bigger place he cant have them over night. Catch 22
2 - If he is having the children a % of the time, would he not also be entitled to a % of the benefits she is given for their DLA, Carer, child benefit, tax credit ? from the info i have been given only one person can claim, as she has already done this she has to agree that he can claim one of the benefits.
She is outright refusing saying he has never given her any money so she wont be giving any.
Ive tried to explain that the money belongs to the children and its for their care, the children don't stop having special needs because they are with their dad on the Saturday. When he collects them he has no money to provide for them and no where to take them.
All the advice i have been given so far just stacks in her favor, she has to agree, he has to give her more money...... Ive not had any experience in dealing with benefits before , i raise too children and work full time, this is starting to make me wonder if its better is i lived on benefits.
Please someone restore my faith and tell me there is something he can do ???
Given I have kids almost half the time and have all the exact same expenses to run a house, feed the kids and take holidays it seems a touch unreasonable that she also expects me to pay for half of everything else on top ?
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The father of my child has never paid a penny. my son is 4 he stays with his dad every Saturday night from around 17.00 - 17.00 Sunday. As he stays there one night a week will this make a difference. he always says he wont pay as he 'provides for him' but we all know buying a nice outfit here and there or toys is not providing. Basically I have gave him the option to start paying and come up with an amount himself but he wont' he works full time and says I wont get anything because he has him over night can you clarify?
He currently has been held back a year in 6 form college. He is 20!
He lives with my x who earns 3 times my salary.
I have been separated for 19 years/married now for 10 to someone who makes me very happy and I had paid £300 every month to my x for 20 years. (Just made my last payment)
This month it stops and now I'm expected to continue £300 for life and my x is asking for university costs of £9,000.
My salary is low but I work hard. I'm happy but I don't understand how this can be fair?
My wife's isn't a high earner either and it has been unfair on her as I have been promising life will improve after my son turns 20... but now this!
Is there any way around this? I'm thinking of quitting my job and going to college / university to better myself as I deserve to live my life and won't have much of an opportunity to enjoy it if my x gets what she wants.
My boyfriend and me we are thinking to go live toghther but a friend of mine told me because he has 3 children with ex girlfriend and he is paying child maintenance every month, can happen goverment check my income too and increase for more money the child maintenance. Is this true? Thanks.
My ex's maintenance payments have been reduced as he is now in a new relationship and his partner has a child of 6.The childs father is paying maintenance for this child so why does my ex have to pay less for his son?I do not think this is fair.
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I currently pay about 250 a month. I was planning on taking 6 months PATL leave for my new child with a new partner. Does CMS take this into account as my income would not cover the 250?
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I signed over both children to my ex when she left so she could access benefits and she had used this to force me to pay through the CSA.
There are minimal shared costs and we pay for everything separately, so I am essentially paying for all my own half of the costs and an additional couple of thousand a year on costs she should be responsible for.
What is my best avenue to stop this crazy situation?
I have been paying £379 per month to my 6 year old Son's Mother for the last 6 years.
I have since married, and his Mother now seems to be in a stable relationship with someone else (they too have a son together), and they are now buying a house together.
On the assumption that he is now contributing to the living costs, should my payment decrease? (I would undoubtedly make sure my Son is covered financially, but I have to admit that I find subsidising their mortgage quite unpalletable...)
We're not talking a fortune, but any advice welcome.
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When I have the children I pay for their everyday needs/wants as does mum when she has them. Up until now any other expenses for the children have been worked out on a month by month basis between us. Their mum has always received the child benefit. However she is now wanting me to pay child maintenance. Because we share the children nearly 50/50 and also because I earn less, do I have to pay maintenance?
I am 40 and in full uni education. I work part time on 21 hrs a week and have my child every other weekend as well as a week day non overnight contact. Curently on less than £1000 a month in salary.
I will like to know if I am exempted from paying child support. If not what will be the approximate figure to pay a month.
Thank you
Its not that i refuse to pay towards my son i have done for 16 years on the old csa deal its that i am struggling to live on the small amount that i get at this point.
I must also add that due to circumstances i have had to stop working, to care for my 90 year old grandmother. Basically the carers allowance pays for my travel to and from hospital appointments etc and really has no relevance to my total income.
should i have to pay the £7 week from my income support, which is roughly £40 a week ???
I am a disabled adult and my partner helps pay my way as I cannot work full time. We have our step son 3 nights a week and half the holidays, we pay for all transport, we provide all our own clothing and things for my step son.
My partners ex has just filled for maintenance and I am worried that they will not take my needs into account, as we are struggling at it is. Costs me £300 in medication and medical treatments a month and I cant even work to pay my own way without those additional costs.
Anyone had experience with this?
How Do I prove to the CMS that I have shared care?
Thanks.
Hopefully hoping somebody can help me with the right advice,
I rang the CMS this morning to inform them that i had been sacked from my job and that i won't be earning any money whether by wage or benefits for the time being.
I presently pay direct to bank of childs mother.
Now because i am not earning any money at all the CMS say i will still have to pay something and they would be in contact with childs mother to see if she would be willing to accept less money for the time being.
But the thing i'm confused about is how can i pay any money if i am not receiving any money in the first place and why are CMS so adamant that i will still have to pay money to childs mother when i won't have any money until i get another job .. They said i will end up getting extra charges if i don't pay but they just kept going on and on even though i repeatedly told them i won't have any form of income.
I don't know what to do .. Hoping somebody can help me on here with correct advice .. Thanks in advance for any help.
Regards,
Ste.
Does my husband have to pay her with no named income to himself?
he's still paying £500 a month towards his sons up keep.
He's 19 and goes uni but still lives at home.I understand that he should still pay travel to and from uni and his food.
Do you think this is too much.
I personally have told him thst he is paying for the new mortgage for tge new house she has bought.
I was originally told (CSA) that her mum could claim off me because she claimed the government child benefit....though she doesnt now as she earns too much to claim child benefit.
My daughter now turned 16 and will be stopping on for A levels, can i stop paying her mum money and give the money to my daughter instead, at least then i know it is going on my daughter and not on an ex?
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He works full time but claims he cannot afford the mortgage payments and child maintenance. I on the other hand work as much as I can (my youngest is only 3) with help from housing benefit I am just about managing rent, bill, food etc but it's tight!
My question is after two years of living in our house alone can he really say I still have to pay half the mortgage and use the child.maintenance to do this? I feel like he's screwing me big time. I pay more rent on my little house than he pays for the mortgage on our lovely big family home and I'm also being left paying everything for the children plus I can't work as much as him because I have the children 100% of the time except the 3 weeks a year he has them to stay. It's been 2 years now and I think I've been a complete mug!!
Also, I am hoping he is going to take up a place in a detox then rehab unit, which he has been offered.This will mean him residing there for aprox 14 weeks. Will any payments I am entitled to still be payable during this time? Thankyou
My sons mother has told me she is moving to Sunderland my son lives with her at the moment in Birmingham which I see my son every weekend.
She has told me that if I want to see my son the I've got to drive 250 miles which is a 3.5 hour drive.
I've asked if she can meet me half way so I can see my son but she's told me no.
I currently pay her maintenance direct but can I deduct petrol money from the maintenance she gets as she is moving and it will cost both in time driving up there and petrol money I was told I can deduct 16.4p per mile but not sure if this is correct.
Any help would be appreciated thanks
Can my ex 'legally' pay CMS into a savings bank account for a child that can't be touched until the child/trustee turns 18?
Would would happen if this was the case?
The maintenance agreement has been set by the child maintenance service.
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I have 3 boys who have been staying overnight at least once a week with me since April. I contacted the child maintenance service to inform them of this and the said they would contact my ex to get her to confirm this. I received a letter from the child maintenance service saying they could not accept the changes to the shared care agreement as there is no court order in place. I applied for a court but the judge dismissed my application because I could not commit to every other weekend, I could only commit to 50% of the weekends. I sent my ex an e-mail saying from the start of the next school year I will see the boys on alternate weekends and have asked her to confirm the new arrangement but I am yet to hear back from her. Is there any other way to prove to the child maintenance service that the boys stay overnight? I have considered informing my ex that as the boys stay overnight at least once a week I have worked out what I should pay her using the child maintenance calculator on the official site so from the 1st of October I will only pay her that amount. She can the take the rest through collect and pay if she wishes.
Mother and father split two years ago. Two children stay with father every other weekend Friday to Monday and every other Monday in between.
The teenager goes out with her friends every weekend and sleeps round her friends which means the father doesn't get to see her. This is upsetting for him but at 15 years old, he can't lock her in the house.
The mother is now saying that if she doesn't stay with him on his weekends (the other child does stay with father on his weekends) then she is going to contact child maintanece to get more money. It's all about the money with her unfortunately.
I don't know where I will stand with child maintenance, I want her to come and stay but she is more interested in her friends. I can't afford to pay more maintenance. Any ideas anyone?
During the time we were paying through the CSA we accrued some arrears due to a dispute that we did not win. We made arrangements with the CSA to pay extra per month to bring the arrears down and then the balance of the arrears was passed to the Child Maintenance Service when we transitioned to them. Although we were never given a specific amount to pay off the arrears when we went to the Child Maintenance Service, we made extra payments on top of the maintenance agreement that they requested.
The Mother has now asked for an arrangement for the arrears and we are happy to pay the amount requested providing they knock off the arrears we have already paid. We have provided bank statements showing the extra that we have paid over the last 14 months. This is currently being dealt with.
Our problem though is that the 17 year old no longer lives with her and hasn't done for over 18 months. For some of this time, he lived with us, and then he moved into sheltered care with the Social Services due to bad behaviour. It is only now that we have realised that we have still been paying her for him. When we wrote to the Child Maintenance Service, they contacted her and she has lied and said he only moved out of hers at the beginning of this month. Now 'we' have to prove that she is lying. However he has also left full time education without employment or any form of further education, so should we still be paying for him if she isn't in receipt of Child Benefit? If we can prove that he hasn't been living with her all these months, can we reclaim some of our payments back?
We have regular contact with the Child Maintenance Service, but speak to someone different every time we call them. No one seems to care about what we have to say, and although she's lying to them, we are the ones that are treated badly and have to prove she is. We have never shirked our responsibilities to these children but now wish to get some justice for the fact she is taking money off us when she doesn't deserve to do so. Please help.
Yours kindly.
My partner went to court in regards to his ex moving away. There were many discrepancies in he case of which we could have appealed but couldn't afford it. She has permission to start the two children in a new primary school this September in their new area. However having spoken to the eldest girl it is assumed the new house is not able to be moved into until October. Which would mean they have to rent this summer and rent now to get the address for the new school- one argument she used in court is that one child needed stability as she claimed they were being assessed for a form of autism- this was later shown to not be the case - even though dad had said this. Unfortunately despite many emails about the move the school and the eldest girl who enters year six and will be looking at secondary schools- they have money to pay for an independent secondary school but it's not guaranteed and hence dad wants to look at other schools. The problem is she has not addressed any of the questions he has asked. Even the one where he will take the children with his ex on the first day of their new school. It's as if out of sight then out of life. What can he do about this as he has PR and not her new partner. Do we need to go back to court to ensure she responds to questions linked to health and education
My son is 18 and is currently sitting his A Levels.
Can anyone please confirm if maintenance payments end in September this year?
We have just given the mum a months notice so payments will stop in July, she has kicked off and doesn't want the payments to stop. Where do we stand?
Can I claim any child support still and what is normally the procedure how will I be able to claim Child support?
If he refuses to see my son or accept that is his son can I still apply for child support? I only know his name and date of birth not sure if his date of birth is correct and where he works nothing else! Which is why i couldn't find him before. He is already married and has a new born baby!
If anybody has any advice as to how I can approach him and let him know about his son ?
How can I claim for child support? If I don't have all his details and my son doesn't have his surname and if he refuses to accept is his son ?
The main this I want is for my son to meet his dad!
I have been paying child maintenance for my son who's is now 12 since he was Born as I separated from his mum before I knew she was pregnant (long story).
But at the same time I had got another girl pregnant. I asked the Girl No2 if she wanted to make a payment agreement but she said she didnt want anything from me (as I was going back to have a relationship with No1) she then moved away. 11yrs have passed and i've just come back into contact with No 2 and we are planning to make arrangements so i can be part of my 2nd child's life.
So my question is can girl number 2 request back dated Child Maintenance for 11 yrs? and would it affect the payments to girl 1?
My ex refuses to let me see my children, and also will not speak with me about the children or child maintenance
She also reports me to the police if I try and get in contact. I left her due to her cheating
Is there any help out there with out going to court
She then divorced me in December 2014 only to be subsequently remarried in January 2015. I was paying for all four of my children up to October 2016. I refused to continue to pay as she has claimed child benefit, working family tax credit and over £1000 of rental income per month on three flats of which there is joint ownership.
She refused to comply with my ancillary relief request in January 2017, claiming that she cannot afford the court costs, yet now that the flats are in receivership she has as of yesterday 18/05/2017 made a child support claim for the two youngest children.
How can this be fair? I don't have access to the children, I don't receive anything for them, I was forced out of my own home so that she could be the receiver of child support and I would be the one paying it. She made no claim in the last seven months yet once the property is going to be sold and she has no control over the finances of it she can now claim child support what an abuse of the system, what can I do?
Please help me, please can you advise me?
Why are Dads so mistrusted, stereotyped & discriminated against by Child Maintenance?
I am much more likely to spend money on my two year old son than his Mum & I am now left less able to due to the funds going to his mum....over £50 a week due to staying at his mums one more night!??!
I am again being black mailed by my ex, she left seven years ago with my son. I paid her off to the tune of £30k, until her money ran dry everything was great with seeing my son.
We agreed on a monthly maintenance payment which was paid religiously.
Three years ago my job took me abroad, I continued the agreed money, I am trying to arrange to spend time with my son this summer and now been told she will not discuss any visitations until I negotiate more money for her. I have never been allowed to take him on a holiday abroad (he is the one missing out). I could understand if I was violent or an alcoholic. I am either.
I have a 20 year old, 18 month old along with my step daughter (her dad pays has paid no maintenance for the past two years) so I support them all, along with my wife who doesn't work as she looks after our baby.
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated. I have tried for years not to take this into a court room....I only want to see my son.
My daughter conceived whist out of the uk (in the caribbean). The child is now 5 yrs old.
Can she collect child support from the child's father?
She lives in the uk with my grandson.. but the father lives in the Caribbean.
Can she collect child support from him ?
Anita
My partner pays for his daughter who is 16 she started college in January full time but has also started a part time job 12hrs a week wouldthis affect his payment ?
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And what happens in her 2nd year as she would be 20 years old is she entitled to anything as I thought payments can stop at this age?
Kind regards
I have a 14 year old boy who lives with me and has done for a number of years. We have recently applied for child maintenance payments and the mother has threatened to quit her job so he doesn't have to pay.
What can we do about this?
I pay maintenance for my daughter but just found out that she has been expelled from 3 schools and is no longer in full time education.
So my question is do i still need to pay?
He has a little girl with someone else who is nearly 3 he has been going through the courts with her since she was 1 and still no luck. She claims child maintenance off him but we've now had a child. How do we go about putting down that he has a relevant child? As I know it effects her money.
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I have a girl friend living with me. Does her earnings affect the amount I pay towards my children?
My question relates to my ex living with her fiancée. She gets all the benefits, yet they both work full time, have a number of rental properties.
Am I able to appeal the CMS payments, or do I have to wait until they get married and/or will they not stop until boy are older? She is pregnant and due to give birth in 2 weeks - fiancée baby.
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On top of this, I pay my daughter various other sums ... picket money, clothes, treats etc and have no issue with any of this. However, when she reaches 18, am I no longer required to pay child support to my ex and instead, can pay my daughter directly??
I have child benefit paid into my account every month and transfer her 50% of this on the same day payment is made to me ( she is now trying to get it paid directly to her would there be a reason ) . I am single she is married her mother has him three evening a week after school I pay for school club two nights a week. I am a responsible father pay for school clubs cloths etc when needed. Her husband is a high earning and she is average.
Am I likely to get stitched up or do I have rights and in a good position?
Help ? i just see where it is going
Does the court order overrule the csa
I thought it ended in 2005 when the mother of my children left one night and didn't return.
I have full sole custody of all of kids. - I have never !!! Been paid a dime in child support in over the past 11 years.
A year after I became a single dad
- police came looking for me in response to numerous 999 calls made by my x claiming I had kidnapped her - held her hostage and attacked both her and the kids despite her not living with all of us for over 1 year
The next 4 years ., I was brought thru courts for 5 cases - each appealed eventually going to high court - All of which exonerated me and gave me as dad the continued full sole custody of my kids
I've re married recently - and eventually after 8-9 years at home full time with my kids I secured work driving trucks until I had an accident because of an unsteady load that i was not responsible for loading
Low of funds and not had child support My x has money but never pays anything towards the children.
Abusive rants online via her friend have suggested to me that if I need money it's my problem and I need to earn it and it's not her responsibility to contribute towards rent - school meals and other expenses for care of the children - she remarried - but sadly her husband passed away and she now owns a few properties and has funds but ain't contributed towards the children ?
- Him taking a lower earning job?
- Applying for joint custody?
- Going through the CMS so its a regular review so he just pays what he is told rather than more solicitors fees?
Also can he ask for travel expenses to be taken into account as he drives over 1000 miles each month to pick them up and drop them back off?
I don't really know how new agency calculates maintenance, why I have to pay more.
When do my payments stop for my older daughter who is 19 and finishing college in June, going to UNI in September. Do I have to pay over summer. She will vbe spending a lot of time with us and not her mother.
Thank you
John
Regards
Stu
Can she do this even though I've been making payments to my daughter?
My case was closed when my daughter was 17 and no longer in education. However it was reopened when she returned to education when she was 18. I have been paying her phone bill for years and so asked my ex to take it over now that I would be paying again, she refused. My daughter needs money for college now and yet my ex once again told her she wouldn't be giving any money to my daughter from this new claim. So because my daughter is 18 nearly 19 and no longer a child I took the decision to pay my daughter the money directly, she pays my ex rent out of this money and uses the rest for college.
My ex has now contacted csa and said I haven't made payments. I have evidence of all the payments I've made direct to my daughters bank account.
So I guess I'm asking surely as my daughter is an adult herself and money is intended for her why shouldn't I be allowed to pay her direct without the need to even involve her mum.
She has refused to make this payment is now arguing that we need to pay 100% of the shortfall as she needs to cover his costs outside of term time - he is free and happy to stay in either home. Financially she would have no difficulty making her contribution.
What is our legal position? Can we insist that she pays her 50% of the costs? Does she have any right to demand that we pay more than the 50%?
I have my boys 3nights a week and holiday works out exactly half a year. My ex has come to realise that she gets very little maintenance now if she stops me from having the boys and I've been told she can stop me and I'd have to take her to court over custody could she make me pay full maintenance despite its her stopping me from seeing the kids?
Also she doesn't drive so I have to do all the traveling can I deduct fuel cost for her half of the trips as I shouldn't have to pay for it all. Before I've tried to arrange her to collect them from me but she says no if you want the kids you have to do both?
Regards
Also as the second family why in calculation are the nrp children worth less, why when my daughter wanted to go to college did cms payments not get recognised to help her get funding when that income doesnt come into our household, why is her right to education affected because i have a relationship with a man who pays cms??
1 is 17 year old and had been attending college doing a mechanic course, of some sort. I've just found out that he has been withdrawn from the course before Christmas due to various reasons, mainly non-attendance after repeated warnings and chances. I'm disappointed, but regarding where I stand on the child support payment, I'm confused due to the amount of changes over the last few years. He is 18 in May, if that helps?
Secondly, my other child is 16 and after years of engaging with her and having a relationship with her, her mother remarried and has not allowed her to visit me or communicate, and has now convinced/manipulated my daughter that much that she now herself doesn't want a relationship with me, which is heartbreaking and also frustrating knowing I pay for a child I'm wasn't allowed to see firstly by the mother, now at the request of my daughter herself. Where do I stand on this?
Sorry for going on a bit.
I'm wondering if you could help me. I have a few questions, because this system is totally new to me.
My soon husband to be pays csa for 2 children. (2different mums). The story is about the second child only.
1. The child has been taken away from the mum when their was 9weeks old and living with the granny (mum's mum), but the granny decided to apply for csa from the dad (my husband to be) only. I understand the granny is responsible for a day to day care at the moment, and gets a few benefit for the child, but how's possible only the dad has to pay for the child? Why only him? Why the mum doesn't have to pay if the child is not with her? Never!!!! She never gets the child home as she's not allowed to get contact without social workers. I absolutely agree the dad has to pay because the mum and dad not together anymore, but I don't feel it fair the mum doesn't pay anything to the granny.
2. If we get married with the children's dad, do we have to pay more csa for the children because it's more income?
Thanks a lot!
2 years ago i spit from my wife I left the marital home and took all personal debt with me and left the family in position . We splt care equaly for a year i recieved no benifits and worked harder to provide a second home for my 3 children. After 1 year my ex realised she could recive £570 pounds a month by stopping me seeing my children so thats what she did .
this caused me to loose my own home and ended up on my friends sofa and i no position
to have my children.
It took a few months and hard work to get back on my feet but i got there and she lets me see the kids every other weekend. I have had to make an application through a C100 to get the CMS to acknowledge that i actually have my children because she dosent want to loose any money.
I understand I have to pay but are there no rights for the father ?. Due to the amout of hours I have had to work to dig myself out off this situation I have to give her even more money now .It is a nightmare how am i ever expected to see my children if I am always at work to pay to keep my new home that i need so I can have them stop over.
please can you help as i seem to hit a brick wall at every corner is there anything i can do to even things up.
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My partner has been paying csa via attachment of earning for years no problem. At the beginning of year when child was still 17 he gave up college and went into paid training but still the csa continues. His son was 18 in September and decided to go back to college. .. He lasted 2 weeks. By now we had received a new letter saying my partner was liable for another year. His son then told us he was signing up to another paid training course.
Today we have found written evidence that he is receiving £ 1600 a month in benefits. He is claiming eesa, pip and money from social fund. This is more than his father earns in a month surely this cannot be right? Any advice
My twins are now 17
Both have left school and education for different reasons
I've now found my daughter has got herself a 28 hrs a week job but no longer involves education
But my son has got a 5 HR a week cleaning job but he won't go to school or education
I'm now wondering if I need to carry on payments for both just one or neither
Can anyone advise please ????
I have been divorced a number of years and pay maintenance to my ex wife by private arrangement or my two sons aged 14 and 16.
I have now met a new partner who I plan to live with. We are worried that her savings or earnings could be taken into account if my ex wife chose to go through the child maintenance people. Please can anyone tell me if this can happen?
Also, do maintenance payments stop at the age of 18 or do I have to continue paying whilst my sons attend university?
many thanks
I Have provided for my daughter from day 1, and was even handing over money before she was born.
Days after she was born, I found out her mother had a serious gambling problem, and is always broke and keeps asking for more money or items of high value from me or my mother as most of her money goes on online casinos or social media gaming, i.e poker sites etc.
I currently pay £45 a week, paid 4 weekly direct into her account.
I know full well this does not go towards my daughter.
I am happy to keep paying for my daughter, but was wondering if this can be paid into a bank account in my daughter's name which her mother has no access too, so it can be used for when she is a little older and can ask for items herself, such as clothes, toys....
I heard recently that someone is doing this method, just needed to know if this is possible.
I want my daughter to have the best future possible, and know this wont happen while all money is thrown away due to gambling.
I also need to add that this is her 10th child, and althought half are now adults, her 6th, 7th & 8th were taken from her due to neglect in 2008, the 9th taken from her at birth and adopted in 2011, and when mine was born, if it wern't for my help, she'd of lost our daughter too.
She has never let me take her on my own, nor has she brought her to my house. And my access has always been cut short to an hour, yet quick enough to take my money.
I'm desperate to spend time with my daughter, but looking on sites like these, the rights us fathers have are shocking!!!
Help please.
Couple of questions
1) I'm thinking of moving into a different industry that would likely take my pay back below the threshold. What happens in this case? Do i have to go back to court or do I automatically come under CSA guidelines and can pay at the CSA calculated level?
2) if my new wife also works are her earnings taken into consideration or is just my earnings?
Many thanks
Kind regards
Bic.
His Csa payments ended
He's left home to live with a friend parents house.
He is appealing to get back into college for another year
Can his friends mum claim csa if he's accepted back into college on his behalf
I thought as I had 1 of my boys and she had the other then I wouldn't have to pay any child maintenance? Someone please help
We are currently paying an agreed amount of £40 a month for my boyfriends son from his previous relationship. When then had a letter from the mother saying that this amount is over due( but later stated it wasn't due for another 2 weeks). She had listed the child's swimming which is not a necessity, his child care for after school, school dinners and a £40 with no explanation at all! As far as I'm aware an out of court agreement has to be just that, agreed? We haven't heard anything from this before. And wants us to pay things that we don't know if she is even paying herself!
As stated above, legally you can stop payments when the child reaches the age of 20
Broken up with ex partner over a year ago and we have a 4 year old boy, we have agreed payments of £80 a month. This is based on csa recommendation but minus the amount I pay into private pension every month. My ex partner now thinks I have to help towards the upkeep of her house foe example help pay gas and electric etc plus the £80 on top, surely this can not be right? She doesn't work and has all her rent etc paid for.
Also I am looking into this shared care I have my son 3 nights a week on paper but more likely 5 nights a week so I believe I should not be paying a penny?
Any confirmation on this would be great.
I've been scanning the Internet for advice regarding payments of childcare! My partners children aged 2 and 5 stay with us a minimum of 3 night per week. He pays double the recommended maintenance payments but has also been paying for half the weeks childcare (nursery which will be ongoing and playgroup over the summer holidays). I've been told that the mother will be receiving financial support to pay for the child care. If so, is there a legal obligation on the dad to pay for half of all childcare? And is there financial support available to dads for this?
Thanks in advance
2 things i wonder,
my non biological child, is it right that anything i provide for him is out the goodness and love i have and not by law abiding or enforcing?
And the other, the ex is demanding more money and blackmailing me with visitation difficulties if her financial demands are not upheld or met.
Csa cannot try help her if i am providing?
I have paid £500 a month for the past 15 years since we divorced now one twin has gone into the army do I still have to pay 500
despite CMS calculator stating £124 a week. I also presently pay some household bills but that's about to change when she moves out of the family home into her own place. I have three kids, 19, 16 and 11 so not paying for the 19 year old. She now asking me for additional money to help towards rental cost which I'm not willing to pay, she also expects me to pay half towards school uniforms etc...so my question is the fixed amount I pay, that's for all the kids needs??? Is it reasonable for her to expect more from me??? She won't sit down and discuss finances with me, I've recommended we do the family based arrangement form available online, but all to no avail. Should I apply directly to CMS for an assessment and carry on paying what I'm willing to pay, or would you recommend mediation??? any help gratefully received
I'm worried I won't be able to support my family financially when the baby comes with the amount CMS have said I must pay
If I were to move away but stay in Asia or middle East, could I challenge what I currently contribute towards maintenance based on the fact that I am in a different country?
I am a UK citizen and my ex wife is from NZ
The other woman has settled down and had another child.
Just wondering if this will change his payments as I don't have a clue
If my ex partner gets married does that mean I stop paying child maintenance.
Should I continue to pay maintenance until she is 18 or does it stop when she leaves school?
My ex-partner left just over three years ago and has been paying maintenance monthly for our three children since then. I received an email from him this week to say that his business had folded (on that day) and he would not be able to pay maintenance for the foreseeable future. Whilst I am sad to hear that his business has ceased trading, it puts me in a very vulnerable position financially.
The lifestyle that he leads does not suggest that he and his new partner (of two years) have financial challenges (many luxury holidays taken, very large house, expensive cars, designer jewellry and clothing etc...).
My query is whether the maintenance he pays should legally be agreed on the basis of their combined income because they are cohabiting, or whether it is always calculated on his income alone.
I assume moral views do not play a part in court decisions, but it feels wrong that our three children are now going to suffer financially and I am extremely worried about how to manage (I don't have a new partner), yet his lifestyle will continue because he has someone to turn to to support him.
Can you offer any help with this query?
Many thanks.
As csa has ceased I need to arrange new payments to my children's mums. One with one mum, 3 to another mum. My 3 children now, due to a court order made as their mum is struggling to cope with their care, now spend 6 nights out of a fortnight and 50% of all school holiday living with myself, my wife and her 3 children. Do I still need to pay her child maintenance payments as we virtually have 50/50 care? Can anyone help or advise please?
Looking for some advice for my partner and I. He is seperated (never married to his ex) and she resides in the house they both are on the deeds to. He pays the mortage which is more than maintanence due for the kids. He has agreed to hand over the house in full to her, it only has a few years of mortgage left, for around £10 - £15K less than what his share due is. He sees how importnat it is not to disrupt the kids and keep them in the fmaily home. Presently he gets them 2 nights a week, but is desperate for more, ideally 3 or 4. He provides money for school trips, clothes, takes them on holiday etc. He s a super, very hands on dad. He lives locally, 5, renting but wanting to buy a home very close to their school. He does the school run as much as he can but works shifts. She continually changes the times and days we see the kids in order to try and disrupt his life and any plans we may have.
She will not allow him more than 2 nights a week, for no other reason than to spite his and punish him for finding a new relationship. Its not in the kids best interests. they adore him and love the time spent with him. The house he has is stable and loads of room, we are working hard at making at really comfertable.
He doesn't want to turn the house over to her until he has more access to the kids and also the arrangement is in writing. (she threatens that he cant see the kids if he continues to be in a relationship with me) We are not bothered about this other house or all the belongings he left, we are focusing on creating a new space. She refused Mediation and did not turn up to the first meeting.
We just want something more legal because she is not that amicable and quite reactive, abusive and rants over text etc.
Is it worth us trying to speak to a solicitor or will it just cost the earth and nothing will change? As soon as the house is moved to her name he will then apply to the CSA to get an arrangment for money for the kids. We both agree we want to pay more than is expected.
Any idea are to where to start with this? Without it bankrupting us?
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Pay towards childcare he doesn't pay anything had solicitor agreement as part of the divorce of £200 a month for his 2 kids but this hasn't been paid or stuck to please help
I have a standing order in place and pay her money every month. She also works.
Once she leaves college do still have to pay??? She is also 19 in August. Its so confusing all this
The maintenance amount was agreed between my partner and his ex-wife outside of court many, many years ago and until he became ill he never missed a payment.
What I am wanting to know is does he still have to pay for his child (he has resumed payments but only to cover the year he didn't pay due to ill health) even if that child is in private college (my partner was never consolidated on the type of education) and his ex-wife is now saying that he has to pay back the time and continue to pay whilst his child is in education including if she goes to Uni - the child will be 19 this year.
Also does his ex-wife's financial situation have any impact on this payments. He never see's his child and I think he should stop paying maintenance because a) the child is over the age of 18 and b) he never see's his child.
Legally I want to know where he stands
Thanks in advance
My husband was arrested for assaulting me and since then left the house. He has refused to make any payment for his son. Even while he was working, he did not pay anything. I never wanted to get him in trouble as I still cared so I did let it pass. Then he started having affairs while still being married to me and promising me and our son a future. He still refused to pay a penny for his son. He does not visit or ask about his son and has completely blocked all contacts so I am unable to provide to the CMS. So after he decided to go study fulltime at uni and I know he got a scholarship and also got a student loan and is living the life. I see photos of him having his fun and when I was finally able to get through to his phone, he refused to pay saying I had to be nice first. And he also said he wanted it to be on his terms. I want to know what are my options now?
do I still need to pay child support even though my 14 yo daughter in civil relationship?
She is 17 now and will be 18 in September.
I know she will be doing another year at college and will complete this next year.
She attends college part time and works part time.
I don't understand how child maintenance told me I must pay until she's 20. If she goes on to university next year after completing 2 years at college, will her mum still receive benefits for her? I understand I must only pay if the mother is receiving benefits...I just don't know.
...I've told cms this by letter , email & phone yet after the yearly review they are not only not changing my payments to my ex for all 3 children, they are upping my weekly payments by £15 & I just cannot believe it...what can I do please ?
My oldest child, 16, now wants to live with me and complete her A levels at a local college.
My ex wife and her new partner both have good jobs.
What will happen to my payments? I am confused whether she will now pay maintenance for the child living with me and I will pay for the child living with her, effectively cancelling the payments out. Is this correct?
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I have now been diagnosed with Dementia.
I will need to stop working as a handyman very soon but as the CSA use my tax payments to the inland revenue as a mark of what I earn, how can I continue to pay at the same rate?
Before you ask, I have already told the CSA this and they are insistent that I continue to pay at the rate they have based on last years income.... an amount that I will not be earning?
Will the diagnosis exempt me somehow? Or can I claim some help from the DHSS to pay this CSA money?
Thanks. Dementia Dad
I have paid my CSA payments by a voluntary DEO for over 12 years, it was easier than having to worry about missed payments and only cost an extra £1 in administration costs.
My question is do you have any experience or advice for me as I want to change back to Direct Debit or standing order payment. Is this feasible?
I look forward to your response.
Regards
Jim3960
my partner and I have a baby of 9 months old, I am a full time mum to give the best care for the little one.
My partner his ex ( he has 4 children with her) after 4 years of no contact since she abducted the children a few months after they split up, now applied for child maintenance. We received a letter for this saying that he would have to pay about £600 every month. Due to this we lose a large amount in the income we have, can we get a reduction on the amount we need to pay because he has a baby with me to support and he is the only provider.
thank you
kind regards
Natasja
He refuses to recognise that his payments should go towards paying family bills and says they are only for the children, and will not understand they are already going to the kids via food, clothing, regular sports and activities. All 3 of our children are doing very well at school and I make sure they are clean, cared for and happy.
His last phone call ended with him calling the bank to stop all payments following him telling me that because my partner is helping pay for a nice life for us all, standing in where possible during the kids' dad's absence, taking them to do things and spending money on activities with them, that he legally no longer has to pay a penny and has now cancelled payments to my bank account. This seems wrong. Surely the law says he should pay regardless? What can be done about this? The children didn't even get a birthday card from him last year.
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Is there anything more I can do to chase this outstanding money?! I'm a single working mother and have been since 2010 when I left, also carrying all the debts from the relationship as he was clever enough to wriggle out of!!
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Can these expenses be taken off from my maintenence payments I'm sick of being taken for a mug. It's just another game they enjoy playing to ruin relations and to try and show power. Thanks
Because of this I completely disowned my child, I will have nothing to do with her or the monies grabbing mother who lied to keep collecting child benefit.
NB: My husband signed his share of the house he had with his ex when they split. When she sold the house and bought a joint house with her current partner (husband), she made nearly £70k equity. My husband and I have always provided a bedroom at our house, equipped with a fully clothed wardrobe, TV, holidays and days out etc). Up until recently, the
Child stayed with us 2/3 days a week) I think we've done more than our fair share, especially now the 17yr old earns a good wage.
Thank you in advance for your help.
Initially I asked nrp for shoes, uniform and dog food for our son's dog (autism)
NRP agreed buy then wouldn't provide when I asked for school shoes.
Children had anytime access with NRP, until his new gf decided she didn't want them around. Children's access dropped from being able to ring and go round to 6 hours a fortnight, the following fortnight to 4 hours and then a total refusal to "babysit for me" (4 hours a month, Sunday 12n til 4pm)
Eventually, I met someone and moved away. Had the S'S on the doorstep first thing Monday morn as NRP said I was violent toward them. He'd seen them for 4 hours in the 12 weeks before. (And was abusive himself toward the children, and me but only me when I was pregnant)
I made a claim to the csa... but since then there's been a very unmerry dance.
He swaps his job everytime the csa put a DOE on him so he now owes around 10k. He refuses contact when I take them down because he's always 'working'. He coukdnt even fit them in for an hour in a week.
He's never been to see them.
In 10 years he's seen them 3 times. No cards, no calls, blocked them on facebook.
I really feel for those dad's who got screwed on the other side (my fella being one of them). I just thought he'd be decent about his offspring but then... when I met him he was separating from his wife and didn't see his eldest because his wife didn't like her... Lord knows why, she's lovely with 3 wonderful children, and her mother raised her brilliantly even without nrps help... I'm going to her wedding in july!
Her mum has tax credits and her father (my daughters grandfather) has her every thursday without fail and she also goes to her mums mum (nan) once a fortnight.
We have a private agreement but my question is:
Technically we have her the same amount of time, sometimes i have her more if my daughter is at her nans and grandads in one week. Do i have to pay her maintenance when i pay for all her bus fairs, uniforms and other sundries And also pay her Mum when she spends nothing on her! I read somewhere that if you can prove you have equal amount then neither parent is classed as a paying parent?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Kind Regards
MArk
However, Australia and her new man didnt work out and she came back. In the best interests of the boys, when their mother got her self sorted out, two years after I had them full fime, I agreed to shared care.
My circumstances changed last year and my sons needed to go and live with their Mother full time. I paid her maintenance for my weeks.
I am now in the position to have my sons back and returned to the shared care arrangement but she has refused. I am not being unfair when i say she wants to have our sons (13 and 16) full time as she likes the extra money and my eldest son provides childcare for her daughter.
She has applied for maintenance and has been awarded it even though I still have the court order for full custody. Now I have been told that I have to pay get £300 per month.
I still have the court order in my name so how can she be awarded maintenance? Can anyone advise me of my rights and next steps please.
I have a situation where my ex is trying to get maintenance money out of me for her 2 sons which I brought up when I was with her for 4 years. She no longer gets maintenance from there bio father and now wants money off me.
I pay her maintenance for my daughter we have together for £252.00 a month. We are going to mediation later this month but she is really pushing me for more money and I believe I should not be paying for her children. I am giving them a father figure and also support her with gifts for birthdays for all 3 and at Christmas. I also pay 50% to school uniform every year for all 3 children.
Please advise as I believe if I do not up the payment I am giving she will stop me seeing her sons I have a bond with and also my daughter.
Please can you advise me on where I should go next she is asking me to get a figure from CSA for 3 children.
where do we stand on this has she a case
So my boyfriend is paying CSA/CMS and he is also paying 500 for his mortgage so all together he is paying 1,122 and also he is still paying gas and electric in the property! It's now going court because she won't leave the property or stop the CSA / CMS so it had to come to this because he can't afford this anymore! She is saying that she has no were to go but we have oferd to give her a deposit on another property and her boyfriend is also living there rent free to and not paying a penny! We are not sure how it is going to court because she has made so many lies! She has got an occupation order and him because we got her out of the house and changed the locks and she got this order so in court this might work in her favour! But he bottom line is my boyfriend can afford it! If you have an advice please let me know. Thank You
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I pay money into my x wife's bank account
I have no contact with my x or my daughter
My daughter is nineteen years of age.I know that if she is doing twelve hours or more I need to continue paying. Can I ask for proof of these hours .Can I ask to pay any monies due into my daughters bank account.
Since then we both moved on with new partners and both had another child. She and I are both cohabit with our partners.
I have my children 1 night a week and every other weekend. Plus a week in the main holidays. CSA calculator £340 a month.
Question is can I or should I ask for a review of the payment?
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My problem comes when you take into account that my Son's Mum has not had a bank account in all that time, so as we have got on ok for the most part, I had no worries about giving her cash as opposed to a bank transfer.
Things have got pretty difficult recently though, to the point where I received a text from her to the effect that she will be contacting CMS to claim 8 years' back dated payments.
Where do I stand here?
I know she is on benefits income support council tax benefit and disability benefit both for her and my son and she gets careers allowance for my son and then my money which she is not declaring because of all of that she can afford to jet off 4 times a year abroad whilst I'm left saving the tokens from the sun for a £9 holiday just so I can get away once a year.
Is she comiting benefit fraud by not telling them about the £300 she is getting off me every month. Will she have a leg to stand on if I stop the payments.
If you have any advise please let me know. Thank you.
2009 - 2010 Set up an arrangement family based
Dec 2010 mother and partner arrested did not know this until April 11 due to abuse police did not tell me. Payed monies until May 2011 as bank account was closed and advised by police to stop paying.
So payments stopped as mother was no longer carer of child. The parent receiving the payment stops being the main carer of the child so I could not pay?
Mother did not contact CSA as in prison and I was so distraught due what had happened to my child all the family legal proceedings, social services etc. did not realize I had not told CSA or needed too.
May 11 Offered to make payments to carers of child via police and again when meet carers while child in care order but they refused my help. Saw daughter first time in year Oct 11.
Mother was convicted December 11 4 years – later increased to 8 years March 12.
Mother released on probation December 15.
My daughter was with half-brother (older) when abuse happened, social services and all stakeholders wanted to keep children together so I could not look after my daughter alone, although I had done nothing wrong. Carers of child became special guardians July 2012 still do not want my help, they get paid by local authority, they are aware of me but have not chased me.
Mother is not allowed to care for people under 18years so will not get child back.
What happens? I hope I dont get hammered but things were done out of my control
Regards
Looking for a bit of guidance if someone is kind enough please.
Twin daughters turn 18 at beginning of June and are looking at uni/year off each.
They are currently doing a-levels.
Question is, do I stop paying end of june, end of Aug or when? Can't find anything concrete!
CSA not involved, always paid by standing order for 15 years. Don't get on well enough with ex to ask....
Cheers
Stu
My eldest was 16 in 2015 but continued studies in Sixth form at same academy.
she also works as a waitress(3 nights a week) at a local restaurant.
I'm finding it hard to figure out if i should be stopping payments for her as she is working.
Also I'm not sure if their mother receives any benefits as i get no answer from her and i cant get any information legally as it comes under the Data protection.
Help!
Feedback would be appreciated.
I pay child maintenance for both children,also pay for normal living expenses, haircuts, holiday, clothes, tuition, etc. I attend school meetings, take them to doctor appointments and generally keep life as normal as possible for them.
It seems an unfair situation that I pay their mum for their care but I have all the same expenses. When I question with Child maintenance services I get different responses, they say if I have the children 3.5 nights per week I wouldn't pay any maintenance (I am reluctant to change their time to 3 nights with one parent then 4 with another as it is a bit unsettling to change each week. Other times I have been told if I get child benefit then I need to claim maintenance from their mum?!
Can anyone give a more definitive answer so if I do broach the subject with their mum I know where I stand?
I have 4 children from my ex husband and have a new baby due in April. My partner lost his job when i was pregnant with our 13 month old but still continued to pay £100 even though he was on considerbly less money. He went on the CSA calculator and it says that on his current wage and with the other children in the household he should be paying £86 per month. Obviously his ex is going mad calling him all the names under the sun ( hes a bad dad, is stealing from his son etc!! ) Ans she is also claiming that as her son is my partners eldest child that he should get more money. I know this is rubbish as my ex husband pays the exact same amount for our 4 children and shes confusing the eldest child thing getting more money with child benefit. Can anyone offer any advise please, I treat my partners son exacly the same as my own children and we take him on holiday with us every year. This is causing alot of stress and upset to my partner as he isnt a bad father, he is an excellent dad who on top of maintenence buys him clothes, trainers,and all his school uniform, including shoes every year
If my ex-wife is the recipient of Child Benefit, will this reduce the amount of Child Maintenance that I'm expected to pay?
Also, as I am the recipient of Child Tax Credit, will this be reduced due to the fact that my daughter will only spend 2-3 nights per week with me?
I'm aware that CTC cannot be split between parents, but will the recipient receive a reduced amount due to the change in circumstances?
I can't get any clarity on this issue from HMRC.
Many thanks in advance for your assistance
I have been watching her grow and know , things like what college she went to.
Friends of friends kids went to the same school, 1 even works with her
anyhelp would begreatful
Many thanks.
I pay slightly more than what the calculator on gov.uk ask of for my daughter. Now the ex is asking for more money.
My now wife and I are expecting our first child. The ex has had 2 more children with her boyfriend and have been living together for many years now. My question is, am I entitled for a reduction as her new partner should take some responsibility for my daughter?
It's not that I don't want to pay i actually pay for a lot more than just the fixed amount of maintenance. I just need to know wether her partner should accept that he should help with these cost.
I pay CSA to my ex partner, my family have him three days a week whilst she works and he goes to nursery the other two days of the week. I work full time. When my child is ill she keeps saying I have to take the days off work sick to be with him. Is there any law to say I have to do this?or because I pay CSA and she is his primary carer is this her responsibility. I love my son dearly and do the best for him but this has happened 4 times in the last month!
Thanks in advance
Can anyone help?
When I first started with the CSA in 1998 I remember reading that at certain ages payments were supposed to decrease. Am I correct, if so does anyone know what these age milestones are please?
I now have 2 daughters that I live with and 1 who I pay £568 pcm for. This means after all my outgoings I have £500 pcm to feed my family of 4.
Surely this can't be right?
I reached a financial agreement with my ex and paying a high amounts towards my kids. Have no problem with that as it was mutually agreed. However I have a problem with the fact that she is clearly not spending the amount towards the kids - you can tell. The kids were sleeping on mattresses for a couple of months while she had a lavish marriage. She is now pregnant with new hubby's baby (I assume lol)
My questions is this. I do not want to reduce payments towards my kids. However I want to safeguard their future so I have asked her for breakdown of how she spends the money. She naturally refused (as I am sure she knows what the figures will reveal). I have told her that I wish to pay her less money directly but the balance of the agreed amount into a separate account every month for my kids' future more expensive costs (such as uni fees, etc). How is this unreasonable? Also as a so-called parent, I would expect her to be ok with this.
Is there anything I can do to ensure that my kids will have sufficient money available for such costs in the future, or do I have to pay now so ex and new husband are comfortable and then pay again when uni fees come? I find it really unfair if there is nothing I can do. To repeat - I do not want to reduce maintenance payments at all but just ensure that they go towards where they are supposed to. Please advise.
My husband has always paid CSA for his son and his son has just turned 18. What I'm confused about is this, his son is studying A levels at 6th and hopes to go to uni, does my husband still have to pay support?
My question is if the mother were to die / disappear would I be able to stop paying?
However my question is about School Holidays. I have just been informed by my ex that she expects me to now have my son for half of all school holidays going forwards. If I haven't got the available holiday I should be paying for additional childcare. Is this right?
Your advice would be appricated
Paul
I am currently paying child maintenence for my daughter based on calculations on the government website. If she decides to prevent me seeing my daughter am I still obligated to pay it?
Kind regards
I am currently in a battle regarding how much child maintenance I have to pay. When I left my wife I gave everything to her apart from £5000 which I used to buy myself a bed, plates, cups etc. She had the house the car and the contents of the house and most importantly, my children. I lived in a room in my brothers house. We paid off all our joint debts so she was debt free. I also paid her £1000 a month for about 6 months to help ease the shock of me leaving. Reducing by £200 a month until the correct monthly payment was met.
Now 6 years later, a divorce, court orders and interventions with CSA all at her doing, I'm more than happy to fully support my children, I am still trying to keep her happy. I work in a school that pays me term time only. I don't get paid through school holidays and the pay is not split through 12 monthly payments so I have to budget carefully to get through the holidays. I get 8 payslips a year. CSA don't seem to recognise this, despite phone contact and written contact from my workplace to tell them how they pay me CSA have calculated that I earn about £9000 more each year based on three wage slips. I really do want to pay the correct amount of money. I am not trying to shirk my responsibility but how can I pay her more than I actually earn? I have sent my P60 but apparently this isn't proof of my earnings. I have also sent my payslips, but as I don't get payslips during the months that the school is on holiday I don't get 12 wage slips a year. My total wage £21000 a year so you can see that I don't have lots of money spare to give her. She has a household income of about around £50,000 as she has remarried. I know this isn't considered but I just want it to be clear that I haven't left her destitute!
Please can someone help me, how on earth am I supposed to prove my income if they wont except my P60 as proof of earnings and don't believe me or my employer that I don't get paid during the school holidays? Will I be paying more than I should for the next 10years?
1 can the mother of there child claim money from me for upkeep of thire child? He does pay for the child.
2 if the ex get pregnant does is affect the money he gives her? As I know if we have a child it would. Not that we are ready to bring a child in to the world get.
Thanks
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I have separated from my wife and left our family home. The mortgage is paid off in full. My wife and I have 3 children. The oldest child age 23, completed his University education this year and has a job which he will be starting in approximately one month. My middle child age 20 is in higher education doing a foundation degree at present and plans to start an hons. degree (for the next 3 years) next September. My youngest child age 17 (18 in October) in her final year at school doing A levels and is planning to go to University next September (2016) to also do a 3 year degree course.
I am unsure how to work out what my child maintenance responsibilities will be from September 2016 when my two younger children will be at University and to whom I pay the maintenance especially if they both are away from their home during term time.
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated
Thanks
I have to children from my ex wife they are 10and 9 years old, we split up 7 years ago and they never sleep in my house she allowed me to see them just 3 hours in weekend ,me and her agreed to give her £100 pound a month because of my low income ,now after 7 years she is threating me that she will take me to the court if I don't increase that money to £300 a month. the questions is can she do that, by the way I have one child from my new wife living with me and I earn max £1400 a month
I have to pay child maintenance when the mother of my children hasn't register me as theyre father and has told me that she would never let me take the girls away from her..
Thanks
My query is about the 25% rule. Having just been assessed for the first time, my payments are based on my earnings in 2014/15. These were artifically high by 23% due to a one off payment that has never happened in the previous 16 years with my employer and has never happened to any of my 50 colleagues in our memory - it was a true one off and have no problem proving this. However they are refusing to look at this as it doesnt meet the 25% variation rule and that means I have to pay more than I can afford for the rest of the term.
I will be appealing this and would like to get my facts right first.
Thanks
Thank you.
My wife has just recently asked for a separation. We've been married for 5 years. The complication is that we are due to move into a new property next week and I had already paid the deposit. She is now insisting that she wants me to find another property to rent for her and the kids as she currently does not work. She has also asked me to find myself a new property to rent and pay another deposit. If this does not happen She has threatened to take the kids 3 hours away to Northampton. I have two boys 4 and 2 years old. The 4 year old has severe autism and has already got statement in process. The 2 year old is on the waiting list for an operation at a hospital locally. So in opinion it would be unreasonable to relocate them.
Where do I stand here is this lawful? Am I required to pay for her entire living subsistance?
I have just had a baby with a girl who I split from 2 weeks before she found out she was pregnant. I have been a supportive person through the pregnancy and into the birth. I earn a lot of money on paper (over £42,000 per year). However as I am a director of a business I have a lot of personal debt which I am paying from this salary which leaves me on a very low net income. I struggle on a day to day basis to pay my bills. I have a daughter from a previous marriage that lives with me permanently. How would the money I pay for my new baby be worked out. Although I agree I need to support the new baby, I'm worried any money I am forced to pay may bankrupt me. Therefore leaving me and my daughter homeless and penniless.
My partners ex wife stopped all access to their children when he was made redundant, he has since then had to pay more as he doesn't see them, the court agreement is for weekends every three weeks and half of all holidays, she therefore financially gains from this!!
Why do tax credits not take into account the money a parent pays out but they also don't take into consideration the money a parent receives, eg, if we have an income over the threshold but what we pay out takes us below the threshold and if the parent receiving the money is earning below the threshold before their child maintenance they can claim tax credits and the additional thousands they get is not considered!!
Lastly is it better for the childcare vouchers to come from my partners wage as they currently go through mine?
Thank you
he gets paid by the government for attending college.
do i still have to pay csa payment and if so when do they stop please.
he turns 18 in march2016. he also has a part time job.
I pay csa for my son.i am not on the birth certificate.
I have found out my ex is changing my sons name to her partners who has now moved in and is getting pr papers sorted for him.
How do i stand with accepting that,and also with csa payments if it happens?
My son does not have any contact with me and has completed his A levels. He will be 19 in September.
Do I have to continue to pay the maintenance payment if he goes to university ?
As far as I can see none of these exemptions apply
Exemptions and deductions
You may be exempt or qualify for a reduced rate if you:
have a gross weekly income of less than £7.
is in prison
is under 16 years old
is a 16- to 19-year-old who has left school but is registered for certaintypes of government-approved training courses
is a 16- to 19-year-old who is in full-time, non-advanced education (up
to and including A-level or equivalent standard
is a 16- to 17-year-old who receives Income Support, Income-based Jobseeker’s Allowance or Income-related Employment and Support Allowance
is a 16- to 17-year-old who is included in their partner’s claim for Income Support, Income-based Jobseeker’s Allowance or Income related Employment and Support Allowance
A care home or independent hospital, for which you are receiving help with fees.
I have and always have been fully supportive of the children and maintenance payments to help support them.
My understanding is that his rights are nil at the moment.
Does anyone know if the money my son pays must be declared as i know that she is in receipt of working families tax credit (0r equivalent ) and i suspect this money he pays goes undeclared as it may possibly affect her payment of working families tax credit . So the question is does his voluntary contribution affect her government supplemented salary
At present I give my exwife £25 a week to help with my son. I recieve nothing to help with our daughter.
Just for the record both children are ours.
Thanks.
I am a fantastic dad and had shared care literally 50/50 for several years until relatively recently, when my ex took the unilateral decision to move 500 miles away. After a lengthy and costly court battle I only now get to see him at holidays. Which upsets both me and my child.
I pay £255 in child maintenance per month and pay £337 per
Month (aggregate monthly amount) in travel expenses to maintain contact. I pay £60 a month on my student loan and £162 in pension contributions.
The variation was the equivalent to 10% of contact costs. I.e. £4k actual costs per annum which gives a £400 deduction on Child Maintenance.
I have to drive and cannot fly for contact due to the abhorrent behaviour from my ex which was acknowledged by the court, as it resulted in us missing flights and having to incur extra expenses and quickly became more costly than taking the car.
This leaves me with £864 left to pay the mortgage, insurances, bills (still paying all the legal bills too) etc etc. so that I can have a home for my son when he comes to stay.
Also noting that my personal information including specific salary information is disclosed to my ex too, surely this is a breach of Data Protection legislation? Should she be signed up to a confidentiality agreement to ensure non-disclosure to my work colleagues for example?
I am not saying that I do not want to pay any maintenance, all I am saying is that it has to be affordable, fair and reasonable considering the circumstances. Currently it is unaffordable, unfair and completely unreasonable and not fit for the purpose intended.
I am now cannot afford to see my child due to not having a pound for pound deduction in travel expenses.
In my case, a pound for pound deduction for travel expenses so that me and my child can maintain contact would be fair and reasonable and only telling my ex the specific amount she is getting instead of disclosing my salary information to her would suffice and be reasonable.
Anyone else going to see their MP to have them draft an amendment bill to this draconian and not fit for purpose legislation?
many thanks stu
im seperated with 2 daughters, I work 5 days a week and earn 1300 a month, pick up my daughters 3 days a week but they dont sleep over as I work till 10pm.
csa wanted 370 s month but bought it down too 340 because I drive 60 miles each time I pick up kids.
I tried to explain how do I survive on 950ish a month when rent is 700 in my area.
they were uninterested in me, only wanted the money.
had to beg my ex, literally beg her to accept 250 a month which she did thank god
I just need to know how to go about when i want to stop the deduction from my salary because the child i was maintaining his now 21 years old & his no longer at school, may you kindly help me with the process to follow
It's under 3rd march 2003.
Irena
My child maintenance travel costs are 78.60 my weekly earnings gross are 339.00 and I have been asked to pay just under £49 per week. Please can you explain how they calculate the travel allowance as it seems I have only been allowed a reduction of £15 from the original amount.
Thank you
Ralph
Regards
My current partner is pregnant what percentage of my ex partners money will go down when my new child is born in december
This is in contrast to what you have included i.e. "You are exempt from paying child support, known as the Nil Rate, if you are:
A student in full time education, on a recognised course, studying at least 12 hours a week. (However, if the student earns £100 or more a week then they are eligible to pay child support.)"
can I claim back after all these years?
thanks in advance
Rgds
Thank you
Many thanks
so which is correct???
I pay for my 2 children every month. However I pay the amount Based on my wage. Not what I take home? How is this fair? The mother now works full time. Do I still have to pay full rate?
He will be 18 years in April next month, do I still have to pay towards his upkeep?
I live in the UK, and am wanting further advice regarding my CSa contribution.
My Son has decided to quit college to pursue employment (Currently 19hrs per week, looking to increase ASAP to fulltime)
Can you please advise as what my legal standing is in respect to maintaining my monthly payments?
Am I still required to pay? or can I contribute to increase my sons income by paying him?
Many Thanks
I work part time and earn after tax and insurance £200.i also study more than 12 hours at college and thought I was exempt. After reading on you site I realize that I am not. Would they only take into account £100 to work out my payments or is it the full £200?
Regards Richard
I live in Scotland - I have two sons and my wife and I are divorced for many years. One of my sons has always lived with his mum and I have been paying Child support to her for him over the years. That son is now 19 years old and I have been paying a reduced amount for a while.
I would like to finish paying this support now but the CSA tells me that if my ex-wife is still claiming benefit for him that I must keep paying until such time as she stops. This makes no sense to me at all.
Can you tell me in a nutshell what the circumstances are when I can stop paying for him. Can I stop if he is on a College course? Or can I stop if he has a part time job? And what is the absolute cut off, age wise, when I can stop paying altogether?
Many thanks
nationalhelpdesk@apprenticeships.gov.uk. I hope this helps,
Should I still be paying maintenance?
His ex came out of the blue with his child stating that his daughter who is 13 wants to see him.
now im wondering does he have to pay anything because he is not on the birth certificate.
he has been in and out of work all of his life and has only spent 100 days working. becouse he new that he could only pay so much.
i dont know if she ever made a clame for CSA or not so i dont know
it doesnt matter that he has a child we both would welcome the child with open arms
Thank you for reading
At the time he had two step children that were taken into account, so my daughter got a small percentage. Now he only as one child to support, so how would I go about claiming the extra amount I may be ientitled to??
His son comes to live with him at times because Mum refuses to have him at home. So far he has always gone home again, but as he gets older we fear this may go the same route as his older sister. We'd appreciate some advice as we are pensioners yet have to help our son out with finances regularly.
IM NOW BEING TOLD BY HIS MOTHER IM EXPECTED TO PAY UNTIL HE'S 20???? IS THIS RIGHT ?
thanks in advance.
Would any of the above effect the amount I pay currently? Would I likely pay more or less??
Thanks
it was an agreement set up between us both at the time of the split, nether courts or csa were involved
Jobcentre Plus may make deductions at source of a flat rate payment.
Regards
Dee
What happens now and how and when Will i get it
In the divorce court order I agreed to pay their mother £1000 per month for the benefit of the children until they finish education... I have been told that after one year of divorce I can drop this to csa calculated payments which because of my earnings and how long I have the children is only £86 per week, I was planning to pay well over this to £120 which is still a lot less than £1000 per month.... My ex wife is saying that it's not allowed and that we will have to go back to court? Who is right?
Your help is appreciated
I seem wholly unable to obtain a definitive answer anywhere to the question "when will my CSA payments cease?"
Thanks
Is this right?
She has also stopped him from seeing the children if he refuses to pay out for these extra items.
Any advice would be great,
Cheers,
Kerry
Is there any chance of a back payment?
Thanks.
I receive £50 every week for the children this is only been happening for a few months but he gives it every week with out fail the csa told me that how much I should get on the info we provided which was fine but Iv just found out he left his job his girl friend came in to some money and now they have there own toy shop.should I ask for more money ? And we're do I stand as he is abit dodgy and will have a way round not to pay me any more I'm annoyed as he told my kids don't tell mummy somethink snot right
And the other thing is that they both smoke weed and spend £80 a week on it and the fact I hate it around my kids but kids want to see him don't know what to do as Iv already told them not to do it but they don't listen
Worried mum of 3 children :-(
This is not quite true payments stop when the parent with care stops claiming Child Benefit from the DWP same office as CSA my 19year old daughter who i dont see was in further education until 18 and left home over a year ago she has had several part time jobs my ex wife has continued to claim Child Benefit the CSA have told me they can stop payment until my ex stops claiming ....they called my ex and asked if my daughter is working and has left home she denied this however did say she had finished college which i know is a lie she finished last year ...I cant stop paying as the CSA will just instruct my employer to pay them ...i tried this (I believe the system is floored with holes) at the end of it i know i will be owed over 1 years of payments to be returned the CSA tell me if this is the case the monies owed will be repaid in payments and my ex can spread over 5 years ...so each month passes and i pay another £400 knowing my daughter doesn't see a penny of it and on top of that it will take 5 years to get it back ..sorry for the ramble but the system is wrong
My son turns 18 shortly and is attending college until June. He also has a couple of part time jobs. At what point do I have to stop paying maintainance for him?
Thanks
Would you be able to help me if my husband still have to pay csa payments for his daughter who will be 16 years old in June if she'll leave college, will work part time also, attend to a year course which will prepare her to go to the army but only a few hours a week and my husband and I are expecting our second baby on 20 march 2014?
Your response will be highly appreciated.
S.
Your help is greatly appreciated , thank you
was born in 1988, and she is now an adult. But it seems very unfair he never
paid any monies for her upkeep. He has changed his name. He has another partner now, and they had 2 children who are about 14 and 17. Please could
you let me know how I stand legally. Thank you so very much. Lulu.
Ten years. She has just sat her a levels and does not want to go
To Uni. Can I stop paying child maintenance now?
The Department for work and pensions (CSA) are still trying to make me pay for my son who turned 19 March 31st 2013.
They say ythere is new lefgislation.
How can they do this? 19 is an adult surely?
Hope you can help
The solicitor has gone bust and disappeared but I have gained a copy of some papers from the divorce court
He is now at college (not stayed on at school) and I believe I can now stop payments but before I broach the subject I need to be certain!
I want to divert the money to him, but don't want to be tied to it as redundancies etc.
Any advice or will I have to heft out yet more money to a "solicitor" to help me determine this?
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