If you are accused of child abuse, whether sexual or violent in nature, or abuse that is supposed to have occurred in front of your children, you may find yourself on the receiving end of a ‘visit’ from Social Services, which may seem casual and friendly but is actually recorded on a computer and remains on a social services file indefinitely.
When facing false accusations from a neighbour or ex partner, it helps to have a structured approach to protecting yourself using our free False Allegations Response Planner.
If Social Services decide not to do anything about it, there will be ‘no action taken’. It is well worth checking what is on the file in these circumstances to make sure that what has been recorded is accurate. You are unlikely to get an apology or thanks for your cooperation.
Further Action
If Social Services decide that they need to take further action, they can hold a ‘core assessment’ meeting where they can direct you to do certain things as a parent. Your child could be put on the ‘at risk’ register. If this happens, it could be that your authority over your child’s welfare may be shared with Social Services, or your child could be taken into care, or adopted into another family.
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Whatever information is on file about your child, it can be seen by medical professionals, health visitors, teachers and school staff, housing authorities, police, public and some voluntary workers who have contact with children, and youth workers. That is why it is important to ensure that whatever is recorded is correct.
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The Meeting With Social Services
Although this is often sold to people as ‘a little chat’, you should NOT treat it as such. Make sure you bring someone with you who you know and trust as a witness, and make sure you tape record the meeting. Ask everyone there whether they have any objection to you recording the meeting – they should not. Use a ‘conference microphone’ so that you get a clear definition of what everyone says. If you know what the meeting is going to be about, bring any documentation that you think will help. No matter how nice they are to you, remember they are there to do a job – which is to see whether you are an unfit parent or not. They are not paid to be kind to you.
The Good News
As public bodies are terrified of being lambasted in the media, they can have a tendency to over-react to any kind of concern expressed over a child’s welfare. There does not have to be strong evidence in order to trigger a referral to Social Services. Sometimes it is simply an opinion, a suspicion, or an impression that a public employee has, although there are rules and concerns must be ‘evidence based.’
Although this might seem shocking, a considerable number of referrals to Social Services are not investigated at all because they are deemed to be without merit. Although figures vary between local authorities, those that are not investigated at all amount to around 55% of all referrals. If there is genuinely nothing wrong, and the referral has been made mistakenly, or maliciously, just make sure you take the precautions described above. Act professionally, tell the truth and make sure that you do not say anything even in jest that could be misinterpreted.
False accusations are not uncommon where one partner is looking for ways to 'punish' the other. It's not always accusations of child abuse either...often an ex will falsely accuse you of domestic violence or even rape. Our articles:
Being Falsely Accused of Domestic Abuse
and
Being Falsely Accused of Rape
offer some advice about what to do in those situations.
She now lives with ex best friend of 30 plus years and ex business partner, in a high 6 bedroom house in the county. It's been a crappy divorce! As They also did me out of money from the xompa y we sold!
I went to
Collect my son from school only to be told he was off sick. I called her nothing! She has now accused me of sexual abuse and cut off all access to my son! I understand the need for child safeguarding but this in insane. I've been his primary carer for 2.5 years! No contact. How on earth can she get away with this!!! Heartbroken lost and angry!
I have been a single father (full-time) for that last two years. No participation from the mother and her family, no money, no help.
My son was literally 2 weeks from turning 18 when the incident happened.
We got into an argument concerning his school work, he attacked me (pushed me over a recliner causing me to bust my head).
After attacking me, he went outside and called the police when I refused to let him back in till he calmed down.
Police came, I gave them zero info and was not co-operative (didn't want either me or my son to go to jail over a simple argument.)
Police arrest me, charged with child abuse.
Lost my job and haven't been able to communicate with my son since this happened, it's been nearly a year so far doing court dates and etc.
I chose to go to trial because I have not and did not abuse my son. My son turned 18 2 weeks after this incident, and now NOBODY knows where he is.
Court cannot locate him , they have tried to subpeona him twice and cannot locate him.
So, from my point of view, I am a hardworking single father , who was receiving no support and was doing well with my son.
We got into an argument because he wanted to quite school on his last half of his senior year.
He got angry, shoved me , I fell over the recliner and busted my head. I was the one ground when he was over me, I pushed hime off of me, he ran outside , I kicked the apartment door. He called the police and they did what they did.
Now, we have an 18 year old boy who nobody knows where he is at , that didn't complete those last classes.
How did the law enforcement or courts adhesive justice? Who have they helped? How did the community benefit from bringing these charges?
Section 7 has been ordered without facts finding.
What is the likelyhood of an outcome since I applied for shared care as a result of covid19 but these lies came up after the application?
I'm a litigant in person. Any legal expert here please?
More attention should be paid to man’s mental health and big sentences should be posed on women who falsely accuse men. Right now they can do whatever they can to hurt and deceive
Want to find out what’s my right for being treated like this. A mum going through this difficult time and being treated as a criminal for allegations not true.
it's heartbreaking enough being accused but then it's another thing not letting me see them .
I need a cheap lawyer or free one to help me go custody. He Father is a social worker and he is an instrument to all of this.
Help guys
I'm currently now wanting on the social services which have passed the details on to the MASH team. Whom have done so to the police.
What advise can anyone offer?
How do I act on this legally?
When will I get to see my daughter?
To minimise disruption to my daughter I left the family home over 2 years back, my money is tied up so am currently representing myself.
My ex had a new partner move into the jointly owned home in july and was also pregnant. She asked my daughter if I ever touched her, the social services and police spoke to my daughter and did not further investigate. I myself was never questioned. Despite this my ex stopped all contact for 2 months.
Social services for 6 months said they couldnt enforce contact and my daughters needs were being met. Only when able to forward their assessment to my ex wifes solicitor did I have 2 hours every 2 weeks (with ex there) when she refused to restore contact after seeing my daughter was safe and happy I applied to court. My daughter then made further claims (again retracted in the same sentence the school expressed concerns that she said things to be able to then play). Shortly after a child in need conference agreed emotional abuse caused risk of significant harm.
Despite a judge agreeing staggered reinstated contact cafcass seperately recommended contact be removed (without contacting the case worker or accessing assessments).
I have now had two further hearings where my daughter has an appointed guardian, there are apparently question marks over the case worker following process.
To add insult to injury my exwife has somehow qualified for legal aid.
The social workers don't respond any longer their legal representative claimed "not had chance" to properly review!
I last saw my daughter over a month ago, the current case workers most recent update was "she seems fine".
It seems guilty until proven innocent is the approach whilst two agencies decide who got it wrong.
In the meantime my daughter will increasingly believe she has something to fear. My ex now says my daughter is afraid of all males. Although she stated this included being alone with her new partner (in a core group meeting) I remain removed from her life!
she picked them up for the holidays and adviced me that shes putting them into a new school and theyre gonna be living with her.
i told her social worker and was adviced to take her to court.
she now all of a sudden coerced my children into saying I've hit them and made false allegations of domestic violance when i was with her 10 years ago.
this is very sad and reduced me to tears because of the imotional blackmail on the kids and how they might be feeling mentally.
what can i do, as i k ow my kids are innocent in this and the fact that shes turning them against me is going to leave immotionaly irreversible effects on them.
anybody got any ideas or helpful suggestions
Causing friction burn on her back. Social services have taken her and she’s now staying elsewhere? He never intended to hurt her and apologised straight away. What do you think will happen? I have 2 other children which they haven’t taken I’m
So confused
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She only did this ,as she was just fed up and wanted to move away .
Because she had to be a victim of abuse to stay in this charity home, she had to have a domestic abuse story . So she made up a story that I have been inappropriately touching my children. The staff from the home referred her to social services where she repeated her lies .
Many months later she realised her mistake and told social services her allegations were false and she had lied . I have read on the Internet that these allegations stay on file.
Will I be able to see my children normally again without intervention from social services .
Please help I am in bad situation my ex took my three children and complain to the police and social services that I been hit her 5 times and threatenedher too the women refugee people took her somewhere.
She changed her phone number only I had her email to access her but she never replied for 2 weeks she wenthe in relationship after 7 days she left the house it shows on her facebook page the date she start relationship. After 2 week I email her about kids she replied the children are ok after keep begging her to bring the kids she brought the children in train station for 1 hour she said she arrange to see them again next week I agreed with her but she didn't reply when I asked her which day I can see the kids I was so worry and sad because didn't know her address and telephone number two weeks after last meeting she text from a new number says I missue you I didn't know that was her I replied who is this she saI'd it's me it was 4 am then she stopped contact again after two day she arrange meeting again at KFC to see the kids and again she said I can arrange to see the kids every Thursday I agreed with her when she left I emailed her thanks for bringing the kids she didn't replied after 2 days she said don't email me don't text even she was revealed her number then she said you can't see your kids because there was domestic violence.
I never been involved with police or social services at all but I dont have enough money to pay for solicitors I can sell my car to pay but I need advice am I still get access in court or just waste my money please advice anyone been in this situation all my friends says court not allow you access because of domestic violence allegations they blieve her by only report it is it through.
She got money from me for her new house deposit and again £400 she said I can see them when she got the money she stopped and said you can't see them because there was domestic violence in our relationship how come she went with someone else within a week and accussed me of all allegations of I been attacked her in front of kids five times? Please what is my chance of acces to see the kids if I apply to court never been arrest it by police? Please share your experience thanks
Hubby was arrested, questioned, on bail till January. He was not allowed home for 35 days on social services request. Social have now completed their risk assessments and he came home yesterday but is still under investigation. No evidence found and our daughter has always been a massive attention seeker and liar constantly making up stories. She had accused a young lad in the army at the beginning of the year which ended in court martial, the boy was found not guilty. Our daughter is texting we further stories and all the time changing and contacting the other children which is scaring them and myself. We have got stronger as a family but I'm so scared incase she creates a story that she can carry off to be more believed, do we have any protection against this either during or after the investigation, and also can I get a restraining order against her? Please advise, I'm desperate to protect our other children from her, and of course my husband. I am completely behind him even though social have said I have to be the supervisor with children while he's at home during investigation as it could be possible he's guilty. It's like it's never going to end. I'm pretending to be brave and strong and were getting counselling to deal with what she's done to us and the children, this has also affected hubby's side of the family, my daughter has been raised as though she's his own and by his family, her biological wanted nothing to do with her since she was 3 months. I hope someone can help. Thanks x
I will continue to contact him from time to time, especially on important dates. I will continue to love him deeply. But if he chooses to hate me or hate me more due to his dad's words about me, I don't think there is much I can do about it. At the end of the day, I need some peace in my soul. I need to take care of myself and my younger son. And he, though autistic, still needs to learn about responsibilities and integrity.
I love life. I feel that finally I can walk with my head up. I have been through a lot and have thought that life had been so unfair to me until today. Compared to what some of you experienced, I made an earlier exit to avoid incoming legal mess that could drag me into impossible mental abyss. But through you I convinced myself I had done the right thing. My son is finally enjoying his dad's attention after so many years of absence. Though they had two big physical fights, they have more common interests (even obsessions) and do get along easier. His dad also gives him tons of time to stay alone, even eat dinner in his bedroom. I wish him good luck. I am working on myself and hoping that I can continue to do well in my career and raise my little one to be a productive person with good personality.
This totally broke my heart. I have been depressed even suicidal. I felt like a failure. All my friends asked me why I did it. They just couldn't get it. And I have lost the strength to explain, after realizing the more I explain, the worse I would feel. It is funny how I can turn from a perfect mom of two healthy, gifted boys in all kinds of sports, music, cultural and religious activities as well as entertainment to a loser mom overnight. Life is so ironic.
I reread the email from my son last year where he congratulated me on my birthday and used many words to describe how awesome I was as his mom. Did he really say that? I can't believe it myself. But he did. So I guess on some days he knew I was a great mom. I guess even he did not know why he could be so frustrated and mean to me. I guess he didn't understand the consequence of his words or behaviors - how they could jeopardize our loving relationship which has survived a lot of hardships and is supposed to get stronger. I guess he didn't really mean what he said or wrote or drew. I guess he never meant to hurt me physically. I guess it was autism. I guess puberty made it worse. I guess I did nothing wrong.
But I have got to stop explaining myself. I have got to stop regretting the past and thinking about what I could have done. I have got to stop sending him emails, messages, postcards, clothes, gifts, giftcards, etc. I have only been rejected or cursed so far. I have got to focus on my job and my younger son who is not autistic. He needs his mom, too.
Reading your stories convinced me that my fears when he accused me were not unfounded. What happened to you could have happened to me. Even though I have not changed the divorce judgment only allowed reduction in child support in hope that he may come back to me, I am not sure that he wouldn't assault me again or wrongly accuse me again.
When my son was 7, he had a close friend with ADHD. One day they played at his friend's house for a while and then they came back. My son told me that his friend's dad spit to his face. I could not believe it as his friend's dad has been very nice to him. But for some odd reason, his friend (who has low self esteem and believes he is stupid) said yes yes my dad did that when I asked him what happened. So I felt that I had to ask his friend's dad what happened. Although I tried to not sound accusational at all, they were still very offended and totally cut off contact with us. My son lost his best friend and I lost a family that used to be very kind and welcoming and helpful to us.
I think part of the reason is that autistic children are very sensitive and egocentric. Once they formed a misconception, no one can convince them otherwise. I remember how my son accused his coach a racist and his swim team members of kicking him intentionally in the pool in order to slow him down. I mean, he has told me so many stories about others offending him over the years. Although I al
It was the hardest decision I have ever made. And I regretted it the same day he was gone. And I have tried all kinds of means to get him back. But he said I abandoned him and he would kill me if I dare to show up again in front of him (I flew there to see him and possibly get him back). He violently attacked me with a wooden sword and then a baseball bat right after his dad left the house with his girlfriend.
This totally broke my heart. I have been depressed even suicidal. I felt like a failure. All my friends asked me why I did it. They just couldn't get it. And I have lost the strength to explain, after realizing the more I explain, the worse I would feel. It is funny how I can turn from a perfect mom of two healthy, gifted boys in all kinds of sports, music, cultural and religious activities as well as entertainment to a
I was accused of different things and had to fight my way through. I am a mum but feel I should be with the Dads fighting as I agree with the points dad make more often. I pay CSA. Get yourself a Barrister they are far better than solicitor. Find a Barrister that also sits as a Judge. They are expensive but they usually know the Judge in your court room at a different level to a normal solicitor. Stay strong! I find it incredibly difficult as the father of my childrens aim in life was to destroy my life when I left him.
I wish you the best of luck. Why should these parents get Child Tax Credits and CSA it is crazy is this country! The children would benefit so much more having both parents in a stable and good emotional place. One parent getting so much money is wasted and not put to good use. By the other parent being able to support themselves and pay a mortgage it shows the children a good role model. Yet CSA take from one and give more to the other. Don't give up! I can witter on too as it gets to me. I left my ex years ago and at times I don't feel mentally strong and seem to wish the next few years away. I then think my ex has taken everything. A social worker once told me to go and get a degree apparently CSA can't get you then, your children will be proud and at the end on a larger wage. You will really show her then. Good Luck!!
Of your kids mountainous lies follow and this line of barbaric separation of kids and parents should not be alloud until proved against parents not on the balance of probabilities but factual events but I know the way the local department s around the country are getting away with crimes against ordinary parents they claim police investigation s As a scaremongering hoping the parents will give therchildren over to them were the kids can be placed in foster care with pre,plans to possibly adopt you'll probs also be subjected to child neglect charges and is your 1 of the unlucky ones a police raid may occur to your home whether the allegations are true or false for example your selling drugs or stolen property this may all be incorrect the Socialwork dept and powers by a multisgency core group and there co,workers police housing schools and nursery placements are all conjoined and will make assumptions on your child's schooling dresscode appearance timekeeping etc and talk behind your backs if they have a small issue example headlice smells,latecomings,truenting all make a picture of neglect especially if you ghave a large family and are juggiling care for lots of kids at the same time Socialwork ERS discrimination against larger families is disgusting because they categorized one child gets less or more than the other sibling and challenge your parenting skills were contact has been cut due to assumptions oragred deals by children's hearings this only fuels there determination to dividyou as a family by eventually by slashing more contact backed up by there scaremongering during the children's panel system however unfairly this may seem the social services have 1 thing above the parents and that's the law on there side however the situation what is shown to have occurred may never have happened this is Socialwork allegations not the children as they twist every word on care and portray I'll parents unable to provide to be nonsense all I can advise others if your facing this now or ongoing if you've did nothing wrong ten police investigations questions on your children won't pul
What can I do as I'm on the verge of a breakdown I've never had involvement with social services before???
so social services has falceley accused me of abusing my three year old child . I have now ben told this matter will go no further . What can i do by law to the teacher that has falceley accused me of abusing my child. And also the social services ?
Naturally family and child services were called. A woman came to my home talked with me and my grandmother and my children. Went through my home (including any thing she could open).
Sniffed my bed and went through personal information and clothing areas.
She then asked me to sign papers letting her have access to doctors school's and one blank paper just incase she needed something else access to.
She left.
Two months go by.
I decided to move from the home I'm in with my children and my oldest son loses his mind. Tells me I'm destroying his life and he's not moving into a new place with me.
A few days later a get a call from a fac working letting me know that both my sons have accused me of abuse.
I meet with a new lady from family and child services at my home again. She tells me my boys want to live with their grandmother.
Fac worker leaves telling me the file is staying open however the boys are free to come home.
The boys return home from school that day. My oldest son calls him grandmother that evening while I was at work.
Next thing I know I get home from work and my kids are gone my electronics are gone and I have a msg from my neighbor telling me my grandmother came and took the boys.
It's been 5 months since I've talked to my 12 year old and 5 months since I've seen both.
Family and child services are not allowing my boys to have contact unless it is monitored which is fine however when I call or try to set up these appointments on one returns my calls.
My oldest son is smoking weed and fighting at school now. He's talking about moving to a large city when he's 16 because facs told him he has freedom at that age....
What can I do? What should I do?
Because right now I feel like hiding forever. This is the scariest thing I've ever gone through
Please help
I can link my ex to her mother and mother in law even got a police friend to sign a fast statement and counter signed by her
Best thing my kid's gave statements to social services because at a age where there not stupid. They were never examined or testimonial given to the police. Can I counter sue for damages and legal expenses and give the money to my children. I have all documents including court letter stating all false charges dropped. Also can I have social services claim against too
I am devastated and i dont know where to turn , let me start from the beginning , my middle daughter accused me and her dad of beating her up many year ago when she was 11 , shes now 18 , out of the blue we had a phone call from her freinds mum saying they had rang the police and social services because she had gone there crying saying we beat her up , her freinds family in all honestly were drug addicts and not right IMHO so we got a visit from the police who agreed that we definaly werent abusing her and they were to take no more action , but because a complaint had been made social services had to be brought in , social services came and gave me a visit and again they agreed no further action would be taken , 6 years on , my daughter tired to take an overdose and she also self harms she has told medical ppl that its because we dont love her etc , i guess she has also told her friends and ppl around her , anyway she was diagonosed with bipolar but seems to be doin quite well and were all getting along ok
Now the next dilema , her younger sister who is 12 gets bullied alot at school and afterschool , ive lost count of all the times ive had to go in to school about it , today i get a phone call and she's in tears saying can i go and get her there's a girl thats threatening to beat her up on the park ,the girl was with a large group , the girl had told her to leave the park so she did and rang us , but when she walked off the girl stopped her and said your not moving , naturally she was scared and thats why she rang us , so i got there and this girl was giving me evil looks she's only 13, so i thought im not having this im goin to confront her , so i confronted her and asked her why she was bullying my daughter , she completly denied it and said its my daughtter that started it , now im not one for beleiving everything my kids tell me , but this was a group of girls and boys some as old as 17 , my daughter is a very young 12 year old , she's like a kid compared to them i can tell just by confronting them . so i asked the girl why she was bullying , she said it was my daughter doin the bullying, ok so that explains why there's about 7 of them to my one she said she does it cause you dont care about her and you abuse her , i said pardon , she said yea thats what she tells us that you dont care and abuse her , i really dont know what to do as this girl her mum is a social worker and im terrified ppl really are goin to start believing i abuse my kids , how the hell can i clear my name , i really dont think my daughter would of said this as she's not like her middle sister i truly think this other girl is telling lies
I have a Child Arrangements Order to see my (nearly 3 year old) child every week. All throughout my ex would take the fact I have depression and twist it to say that I was unstable and likely to lose my temper. She also constantly alleged I was controlling and domestically abusive, so she wanted to prevent me having anything to do with my child
As I said I now have an order to see my child, this was obtained in no small part due to three positive CAFCASS reports all saying there were no safeguarding concerns.
However as I was on my way to the contact centre this weekend I received a phone call from them saying they'd had a message that contact had been cancelled this week but they hadn't been given a reason. Ten minutes later I received a phone call from a social worker saying that there was an ongoing police investigation and they couldn't tell me any more. I've been beside myself all weekend worried that something has happened to my child and I can't get any information about it.
After calling social services on the Monday morning I was at least able to get them to confirm that there was a police investigation, however after a quick check of their files my child appeared to be ok as they could not see anything indicating they had received any hospital treatment. Beside that they were only able to tell me that they'd be speaking to my ex in a couple of days and they might be able to tell me more after that.
I have no doubt that the reason I'm not being told anything is because my ex had made another malicious allegation about me. Although I know I have done nothing to harm my child I am concerned that something has happened (why else would the police and social services be holding an investigation?) and my ex's vendetta against me will lead to her not allowing the authorities to establish the truth and as a result will mean she is not in a position to protect our child and ensure the same thing doesn't happen to them again.
The lack of information is driving me mad.
Can anyone advise me on what the police and social services are likely to be doing a situation like this, and what I can do to ensure the matter is fully investigated (after all I want to ensure our child is safe) without being dragged of track by my ex's malicious allegations?
Sorry this is such a long post. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.
I would like to ask a simple thing:
I was wondering if there is any chance to get the full custody of the child if in the tribunal can be shows (also with proper documents from same institutions) that all the accuses that the mum has done toward the dad of the baby are fake, just lies that she made with the purpose to feel in the strong position and keep the dad on the leash.
Thank you in advance for your help.
Can somebody give an advice here. A week ago I was going through depression and was being angry at my husband, I spoke to our health visitor when she came to visit. I told her me and my husband had an argument last week, yelled at each other. I also told her how mean my husband. I told he have hit me in the past but never happened again after we got pregnant. He has no criminal records but then police called me and told me to call them if domestic violence going on at home. Also social services called me too saying they have to make an assessment tomorrow because my health visitor reported everything I told her. I feel bad for my husband as I now reliased everything he has done was to protect me and our newborn.
Can you pls tell me if they can arrest my husband? I told the social services I was just so angry to say all those but they are all lies. I denied everything the only thing they have is what the health visitor told them.
Also my husband never hit me, I don't have any bruises at all
Will they take my baby away from me? But if I choose to leave my husband with my baby will they still arrest my husband or bring him to court?
Thanks for advice.
I'm currently separating from my alcoholic ex partner and had been living alone with our 5 year old lad who I cared for 3+ days a week. My ex partner is living with her Mother and they look after my son the remainder of the days. I do the school run 3 times a week and arrived to collect my son from school on Friday and was greeted by police and social services. I was informed that my son had told a teacher and another member of staff that I had kicked him in the back that morning at home which I definitely had not. I also have no idea why he should say this which is out the ordinary. I have had no contact with my son since last Friday who is now placed temporally in the care of his Mum and Nan.
I have since been interviewed under police caution where I'm told that he has a faint fingernail size bruise on his back. I pointed out that I had never ever laid a finger on him yet he also has several other bruises up his arms/legs/thighs from just being a typical boy. The Police are happy with what I have told them and no further action will be taken from their side but I will now not be able to have contact my son for a further 15 day until Social services have drawn their own conclusions. Given the current situation with me and his Mum this is particularly difficult for me.
My lad is from a good home, doing really well at school and is clearly not being abused. I fully understand that school/police/social services are just doing their job but I'm shocked that this situation has escalated so quickly solely through the words my child alone. There seems to have been very little investigation into why he should say these things or the size/shape/age of the bruise in question which could be from anywhere. How can the school not have a modicum of common sense and speak to the parents first rather that go completely overboard with police and social services. I did have the attitude that I have done nothing wrong so have nothing to worry about yet I now feel heartbroken that Social Services can just remove my rights to be a father to my son over something that I just didn't do.
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I am asking ref what I can do to overcome the torment of being falsely accused of raping a child. In 2010 my friends son had falsly accused me and his father of raping him in 2006.
At the time I was working in Dubai and my wife at the time received a letter from my friends solicitor asking if I would appear in court as a witness as his father was being charged. However shortly after this allegation my wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer and I was unable to attend the hearing as I was busy looking after my wife.and 2 kids.
However on the first day of the case the judge threw out the case and released his father without charge he was found not guilty. I thought the case was over and that I would hear the last of this crazy false allegation. The sleepiness nights the worry and stress and all this on top of my wife's illness was really starting to take its toll on me.Also I had to finish my job because all my ex workers knew about this trial and I was also accused by them and called lots of terrible names I was unable to focus on my job I had lost almost everything. My wife died in 2011 4 months after the allegation.
Then just as I was starting to get some normality in my life the police then in 2014 arrested me at home accusing me of the same alleged crime,I had all my possesions taken lap top camera etc. I was then locked in a police cell and my son 16 at the time was at home alone. after being interviewed I was placed on bail.During this time I later discovered the police went back to the house and started interviewing my son and asking him intrusive questions all this without an adult being present.
After aprox 2 months my solicitor phoned and send that the police had said no charges are to be brought.
My daughter at the time was living with my sister and social services were involved etc with all the usual exaggerated hype.
My solicitor I feel was not very good with the advice he gave me but because I had lost my job I had no money to pay for another I had to go along with what I was given.
This has been a terrible traumatic time for both me and my family while I suffer probably the rest of my life this individual walks free having devastated my family and destroyed everything that I worked for.
Following this and the ongoing trauma and allegations I asked for help but I had to wait almost 5 months to see a psychiatrist as I was having thoughts of ending everything.
The person walks free having devastated my family wasting hundreds of thousands of pounds and not to mention the amount of police time and perverting the course of justice. But what I have found is that their is very little help and support for victims of these type of malicious life changing allegations the British justice system in my opinion is biased and inconsistent. I never even received an apology from the police or any explanation why charges were brought against me.
I often wake up at night thinking that the police are coming for m
and all the four have been taking by the Social Worker and i can be able to seen them
please i need helps.and I don't have a Job so i can't be able to get a Sollicitor
Short story is:
Was falsely accused by my x-wife back in 2004 of "inappropriately touching the children"
Her affidavit went on and was mainly lies although sounded by part truths.
Reason I believe as was also stated in own affidavit was her own child hood having separated parents and also her own inept abilities to connect with them. She showed problems before marriage naming her childhood up-bring as why she acted the way she did. I felt sorry for her and tried to help and next is history. Hot married had three children two now over 18yrs one 15yrs old still in school.
Before marriage I worked hard and obtain a great deal of wealth and believe this is while she made false allegations to gain the assets and punish me by keeping the children away from me.
Contacted my second daughter aged 19yrs that appeared to be suffering from anorexia, helped her and now after 5 mths looks good. She asked if she could take action from what has happened to her. "hospitalized for alcohol poisoning", compertition with sister see how can sleep with most guys in one night aged 16yrs. Forced to pay 200 dollars a week bored then put up to 250 to get her out.
Here through her that her sister now 15yrs is going to be forced out as soon as she finishes school.
She said what she has done was effects of her mother from 2004. She now doesn't want her own children due to me being kept away from her. She stopped work as saw that if she earns money and saves what happened to me could happen to her.
Has any offspring/child that has been effected by parental alienation gone back to court for damages?
Still these allegation hurt me today. My reply to her was seeing her sister still lives with mother and is at important time in her life with school that she shouldnt take mother but the people that were inplace to protect them such as family services, family court, legal aid, police and so on.
Lots I have not stated as wanted to try to be short and straight.
So please, contact a lawyer before you say anything!!!!!
on the 6th of April i took my 6 month old baby girl
to Birmingham children's hospital about a non blanching
rash on her arm witch was like a line of a broken
blood vessel under the skin she also had a 2 bruises on
her face one witch was by her cheek bone and the other in between
her eyes above her nose 1 bruise on her belly witch is
from where i have massaged her belly as she suffers form constipation
has done from birth so because of the bruises they had to do a full
x-ray of my baby while doing these investigation's they found 2 fractured fibs
thourt she had a fracture on her left tibia but another x-ray did not confirm
this they also saw a abnormality on her temples so sent her for a CT scan
then a Mir because they thourt that there was fluid of blood on her brain
the mri showed that this was not true and her temples are different shape
and size they have did a vitamin d test on her she dose not have that
so back to the fractured fibs the police social worker and doctor came
to see me and my partner father of my children to ask us do we know how
the baby
has these injury's so i explain the bruises and i cant explain
how the fractures
happened because i don't no nor dose my partner we think of some things
that could of happened for her to have this like how i fell over with her
dad dropped
her older sister hit her with play guitar they said non of these could of did
these so were puzzled because if it cant be sum thin iv done then what
has happen to
her the social services took the children of us and put them in to there nans
care dads mother at a child protection meeting on the 29th April they put
the eldest
child back in to my care but kept the youngest at nans still when
i asked
why because im a risk so while my youngest has been staying at her nans iv
been going there
the baby has had more bruises on feet belly and mouth tried getting in touch with
the social worker to tell her all this but she wasn't in the office and her mobile
was off the nan was also letting her daughter smoke around my baby witch i wasn't happy
with sp i told the nan i was telling them that i wanted her moved from there but by time the social worker
rang me last Tuesday she said there would be a meeting on Friday about the kids
then on Wednesday the police turn up at my house and remove my eldest from my care
they had already took the youngest from the nan as she has now made a allegations that i
have shuck my baby what do people think of this tell me your views bad or good
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My advice is seek legal representation as soon as.
PLEASE HELP ME. I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE TO TURN. I CAN NOT ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN--THE FALSE ACCUSATORS AND THE POWER HIGH CPS INVESTIGATORS HAVE TO BE STOPPED.
I have been assaulted whilst drinking in clubs, assaulted whilst with my daughter (when her mother actually allows me to see her, which is extremely rare), verbal abuse and physical abuse whilst shopping.
I have mentioned all of this in court and nothing happens, I have had contact orders in abundance and my ex just abuses the law, lies and gets away with it (the latest lie being that I am never in when she arrives with my daughter).
I think my main problem is;
1) A single mothers doesn't have to pay any solicitor costs whereas the father does, this allows the mother to "eke" out the process, whilst the father is charged vast amounts in court fee's and demanded to pay Child-Support for a child they are being refused access too.
As advised on various "single-mother-websites".
2) Where the process is lengthy, the mother has ample opportunity to consider various plans of attack and subsequently manifests stories to prolong any decision made by the Judge or often causing a reversion in the order
3) Due to the current economy, job's are sparse and it is the employers market. As I always keep my Saturday free (as this is the only day I have been granted by Law to see my daughter), I am unable to get a permanent position as employer's need staff to work weekends. Although I do this my ex-partner never abides by the contact order.
4) Referencing the above; I am then told that I do not support my daughter but am unable to get into a position where I can support her and if it were not for government funding most single-mothers in Britain would be unable to support their children. The accusation that I am unable to do so is a redundant point.
5) The British Court's deal with these problems on a daily basis. The amount of fathers complaining that they genuinely want to see their children but are; refused any access, made out to be paedophiles/abuser's or who are subjugated to years of depression through the hands of the legal system and their ex's is vast.
I am now representing myself in Court as I am still no better off almost two years later. My daughter is only 19months old and I know that all of these issues will be twisted and distorted by her mother, but I know I have to keep fighting.
Dom
Boys have 'bits' for a reason and it is normal for them to explore... You could try 'encouraging' clothes to cover up but it doesn't always work... Nowadays she just shrugs and laughs as he goes on a lap of the garden...
Sounds like sour grapes on the part of your ex. although social services have a duty not to view it like that... What about timelines? How long have you been split-up? Do you think this is just a reaction to you getting a non-molestation order against him?
Either way, he's not going to endear himself to anyone with comments like that the kids are dead to him... Probably he said that without thinking it through. What about - 'well if he asks to see you later, can I get in touch?'
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