- A letter to your child's school requesting information about your child's education and any other issues that you should know about
- A letter to your child's GP or health authority requesting information about your child's health or access to their medical records
- A letter to your child's school or other clubs asking to be put on the emergency contact list
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1. Letter requesting information about your child's schooling/education
[Father’s Address]
PRIVATE & CONFIDENTIAL
Addressee Only
[Mr/Mrs/Miss/Ms/Dr] [Head Teacher name]
[School address]
[Date]
Dear [Mr/Mrs/Miss/Ms/Dr] [head teacher name],
Re: [Child name]
I am writing to formally request that as [child name] father, I am immediately informed of any issues that may arise regarding [child’s name] schooling.
I would also like copies of [his/her] school reports to be sent to me as well as [his/her] mother [mother name], and for the school to inform me of any parents evenings and school events so that I might attend.
Myself and [child’s mother’s name] have equal parental responsibility for [child name] and I have a right to be made fully aware of any issues that may arise regarding [child name].
If you have any queries or want to discuss the matter further, please do not hesitate to contact me [on/at …].
Yours sincerely,
[Father’s signature]
[Father’s name]
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[Father’s address]
PRIVATE & CONFIDENTIAL
Addressee Only
FAO: Dr [name]
[Doctor’s Surgery / Hospital Address]
[Date]
To Whom it May Concern,
Re: [Child’s FULL name],DOB [insert]
I am writing to formally request copies of all medical information and data regarding my biological [son/daughter], [child name], including but not limited to:
- Paperwork and records on all check-ups
- Details of all inoculations and immunisations
- Details of any and all treatment, including emergency treatment
- Any other paperwork or documentation that has been sent to [child name mother] regarding [child name] medical treatment
- [any specific illnesses/treatment that you know about]
[I have previously attempted to obtain details of [child name] medical history from [his/her] mother, without success. I do not want to continue to pursue this matter with [child’s mother] and have therefore decided to contact you directly.]
I have parental responsibility for [child name] and have the authority and right to be fully involved in making decisions about any potential medical treatment for [child name]. I can confirm that there is no legal court order in place preventing me from exercising my parental responsibility rights. [There is in fact a court order in place conferring parental responsibility upon me. I have included a copy of this for your information and records]. You therefore do not need permission from [child name] mother, [name], to provide me with a copy of [child name] medical records.
[Child name] health, safety, security and welfare is my paramount consideration and I want to and must be involved in any decisions regarding [his/her] medical treatment, should [he/she] need it in the future. I therefore ask that if in future, and decisions need to be made regarding medical treatment for [child name], you contact me so that I can assist in making the best decisions for [child name].
I also wish to be registered as an emergency / primary contact for [child name] on all NHS files and systems, should [his/her] mother be unavailable or unable to assist at short notice. My contact details are as follows:
Full name
Father of [child name]
Address
Telephone numbers
Email
I appreciate that there may be administration costs incurred in providing me with these records and details and I am fully prepared to meet any charges following receipt of an invoice from yourself.
I would be grateful if this letter could be placed on [child name] permanent medical records.
Please do not hesitate to contact me should you wish to discuss this matter further, or if you require any other details from me.
Thank you in advance for your kind assistance.
Yours faithfully,
[Father’s signature]
[Father’s name]
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3. Letter to School or club asking to be put on the emergency contact list
[Father’s address]
PRIVATE & CONFIDENTIAL
Addressee Only
FAO: [Mr/Mrs/Dr/Miss/Ms] [name]
[School/Club etc Address]
[Date]
Dear [Mr/Mrs/Dr/Miss/Ms][name],
Re: Emergency Contact
I am [child FULL name] father and understand that [he/she] attends your [school/club etc].
I would be grateful if you could update your records so that I am included as an emergency contact in the event that something happens to [child name] in the future.
My contact details are as follows:
Name: [Full Name]
Relationship: Father of [child name]
Address: […]
Telephone No: […]
Email: […]
Other: […]
Should you require any further details, please do not hesitate to contact me.
Yours faithfully,
[Father’s signature]
[Father’s name]
Thank You
Right where do I start... I’m praying someone can help me!
My ex partner for x10 years sent me a text message whilst I was at work on the 13th of November to say she was leaving me with my x3 boys and that our relationship was over etc. When I returned back from work I was obviously trying to contact her to find out why only to find out that she had completely blocked every way possible of me being able to speak to her including Phone call, text, WApp, email etc. When I contacted her Mum she had made me aware that both her and the children had left and that all I need to know is that she’s had to leave me for Domestic Violence and has had to go in a shelter. I was completely confused with this as I have never hurt either her or the bots before and decided to go the boys school the next morning to find out more information on what’s happened. When I arrived they looked at me immediately as though I was guilty and told me that I couldn’t speak to the Head Master and they couldn’t disclose any information to me. Later that day my ex decided to contact me back to tell me that the reason for her leaving and reporting Domestic Violence was that it would increase her chances of getting her own house which I was amazed to hear. She agreed initially that I could see my boys over Xmas but decided she wasn’t going to return my car and blackmailed me to say that if I make her return my car that she would in her words make my life even more of a living hell than it already is... She then decided to change her contact number so I decided to take legal action and instructed my Solicitor to send her a letter giving her x7 days to return can and now she’s told my oldest son I’m not his biological father and refusing to let me see my boys. Only today I’m hearing that she isn’t actually in a shelter and don’t know anything RE: my boys or which school they are currently attending? Is there anyone I can contact to demand / ask which school they are going too? In the mean I am now filling out all necessary forms to fight for my boys... Now let’s be honest, if I heard that a young lady was going through Domestic Violence I would have unfortunately automatically thought the make was guilty but definitely not now... I’m drained... Can someone please help me???
Thank you for the great work and effort behind this website.
I have been deducted child maintenance supposed charges last month and this month almost half of my wages.
I have been paying under CSA normal charges.
After contacted the new agency to find out why the amount was higher, I have been told that have ignored the letters sent to me, but I have never received any letter from the CM.
The other parent did close the previous case, saying she did not need my money. I have forced her to accept the payment but she refused, suddenly the same person has reopened a new case with the new agency, but there are no records of the previous case closed by her.
I would like to complain that the calculation has not been done correctly as I have two other children living with me. and this person prevents me from seeing my child so she can claim more money.
Can I apply for a court order( C100), she failed to attend a mediation meeting few years ago would that count or do I need a new mediation meeting?
Any idea how I can proceed with this?
Thank you
thanks for all the helpful informations on separate dads site, it is really make my understanding much better regarding my rights,
I wonder if you can provide one more template to dentist as i have a young girl who born with cliff lips and there still more to do with her teeth.
Thanks
Is there any way that I can get accurate info regarding my daughters schooling. She is nearly 17 and I've no contact for 16 of those years, but pay my £482 a month in maintenance.
There's no way her mother would ever release any information to me, but I'd like to know what my daughters schooling and education plans are, is there anywhere I can find out this information.
Thank you
I would like to thank everyone behind separated dadds for this great help.
Few weeks ago I copied and pasted the template and emailed it to my son's school.
The head teacher had the checks to write back (2 weeks later) and say "please try obtaining the reports through the child's mother" and how he asked her and she said not to share any information with me.
I wrote back and said "I told you that we are separated and exhausted all communication methods, and I have parental responsibility . I don't understand why you are denying me accessing my child's report and I will be seeking a legal advice to better understand your stance"
He wrote back saying that he is not denying me access and few days later he cc'd the admin and urged them to email and post all my requests.
Today I will send the GP a request for the medical reports and will let you know how it goes.
We now live 150 miles apart as she moved away when we split.
Its only been recently that I have been put on the contact list for the school.
My question is do I get any say who is on the contact list?
As a incident happened recently where the school was trying to get information for my sons EHC and couldnt contact my ex wife, so tried the next contact who is my ex wifes mother, who was unable to give the information, they then contacted the next contact who is her new boyfriend(who according to her(ex) isnt the boyfriend) and then finally me, it took them 4 hours to finally get to me, Im last on the list.
What happened if it had been a emergency and the needed someone with parental responsibility to give a response?
How do I stand in that contacts?
The boyfriend also has a restraining order against him, for him threatening me and also pinning me to a wall and threatening me.
I also have concerns that he has threatened to smack my sons bottom, which I saw and heard him threaten and, I told him you cant do that and I will call the police if you do, which lead to the above threats against myself being made.
Im just curious as to how I stand with the contact list?
In my case I know the school because I guessed the local authority and write to them. Do NHS trusts (or whatever ) have an obligation to tell you whether your child is in their area?
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