One of the most common questions separated dads ask is when child maintenance payments actually come to an end. The answer depends on how your arrangement was set up in the first place, but for most fathers paying through the Child Maintenance Service, there are clear rules about when payments stop.
The standard CMS rules
Payments through the CMS will normally end when your child reaches 16, unless they remain in approved full-time non-advanced education or training. When a child stays in qualifying education, payments can continue until their 20th birthday.
The key word here is "non-advanced". The CMS only recognises education or training at or below A-level standard. This includes A-levels, BTECs, NVQs at Level 3 or below, and similar qualifications. You would usually keep paying until your child finishes the course or turns 20, whichever comes first.
University does not count. Neither do other advanced courses like foundation degrees, HNDs, or anything at degree level or above. Once your child moves into higher education, they fall outside the CMS rules, and your obligation to pay through the CMS ends.
The CMS uses Child Benefit as its main guide. When the receiving parent is still getting Child Benefit for the child, that is normally a sign the child qualifies for ongoing maintenance. Child Benefit follows broadly the same age rules, so the two tend to align.
When payments can stop earlier
There are situations where maintenance ends before the child reaches the ages mentioned above. Payments will usually stop if any of the following happen:
- The child leaves non-advanced education or training before turning 20
- The child gets married or enters a civil partnership
- The child joins the armed forces
- The child starts living independently and is no longer dependent on either parent
In these cases, the child is treated as no longer being a qualifying child for CMS purposes. The receiving parent should inform the CMS when circumstances change, but you should report it too if you become aware of a change yourself.
Grey areas do exist. A child might drop out of college, start a part-time course, or take a gap year. Whether this counts as being in qualifying education depends on the specifics. The CMS will look at things like the number of hours involved and whether the course leads to a recognised qualification. Contact the CMS directly rather than assuming if you are unsure.
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Not everyone uses the CMS. Many separated parents have what is called a family-based arrangement, which is simply a private agreement between the two of you. These can be informal or written down, but they are not legally binding in the same way as a court order.
With a private arrangement, the end date for payments is whatever you both agreed. Some parents choose to follow the same rules as the CMS, ending payments when the child finishes non-advanced education. Others agree to keep paying through university or until the child reaches 21 or 25. Some agreements are vague or say nothing at all about when payments stop.
Because these arrangements are not enforceable through the CMS, any dispute about when payments should end would need to be resolved between you. Either parent can apply to the CMS for a formal calculation if you cannot agree, though this changes the nature of the arrangement and brings the CMS rules into play.
Agreements put together with the help of a mediator or solicitor may be clearer about the end date. Even then, the agreement relies on both sides sticking to it voluntarily.
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Court orders under the Children Act 1989
A smaller number of parents have maintenance arrangements set by a court order, usually made under Schedule 1 of the Children Act 1989. These orders are most common in cases involving higher earners or more complex financial situations.
Court orders can work differently from CMS arrangements. A judge has more flexibility to set terms that go beyond the standard CMS rules. This often happens in cases involving disability or higher education. For example, a court order might require payments to continue while a child is at university, or it might include specific provisions for a child with a disability who will need support into adulthood.
The terms of your order are what matters if you have one. Do not assume the CMS age rules apply to you. Read the order carefully, or ask a solicitor to explain what it says about when payments end. You would need to apply back to the court if circumstances change and you think the order should be varied. You cannot just stop paying because you believe the situation has changed.
Court orders are legally enforceable, which means the receiving parent can take action if you stop paying without good reason. This is different from a private agreement, where enforcement options are more limited.
What to do when the end date approaches
Do not simply stop paying and hope for the best if you pay through the CMS and your child is approaching 16 or finishing their education. The CMS will not automatically know that your child has left college or started a job. You must notify the CMS of these changes. Failing to do so could result in arrears building up that you will need to repay later.
Contact the CMS and let them know what has changed. Keep written records of all communications. The CMS will look into whether your child still qualifies. Payments may continue until Child Benefit stops if the receiving parent is still claiming it. Everything can take a bit of time to catch up, so give yourself a buffer and deal with it before the end date rather than after.
Both parents should communicate proactively with each other and with the CMS as the end date approaches. Even small misunderstandings about timing can create problems.
Having a conversation with your child's other parent before payments stop is worth doing if you have a private arrangement. Even when you are confident about what was agreed, discussing it can prevent misunderstandings. Your child might be about to turn 18 but staying in sixth form, and you might both agree that payments continue for another year. Or you might agree to stop and help your child directly with money for transport or books instead. There is no single right answer, but talking usually works better than silence.
Keep records of payments and be clear about the terms if you have a court order. The order itself is your guide when your child finishes education earlier than expected, or when they are disabled and the order provides for ongoing support. Consult a solicitor specialising in family law to understand your obligations if you are not sure.
Child maintenance rules might seem confusing, but for most dads the basic position is straightforward. CMS payments end at 16, or up to 20 if the child stays in non-advanced education. University and higher courses do not extend this. Private agreements depend on what you agreed. Court orders depend on what the order says.
For the most up-to-date information, check GOV.UK or contact the Child Maintenance Service directly. Citizens Advice can also help if you are unsure about your situation or need guidance on what to do next. Individual circumstances can significantly affect your obligations, so seek specific advice if you are uncertain about when payments should end in your case.
Child maintenance calculations can sometimes seem unfair when care is shared almost equally. With 5 nights out of 14, you're very close to the threshold where payments might be reduced or stopped altogether. It's worth getting your arrangement formally reviewed by CMS or seeking advice from a family solicitor who can look at your specific circumstances.
The potential benefit fraud you've mentioned is a separate but serious issue. You could report this anonymously to the DWP if you have concerns.
Most importantly, keep focusing on what you're doing brilliantly, being there for your children and giving them wonderful experiences. That relationship is priceless.
I pay child maintenance to my ex wife however my costs are higher than hers.
The children are with me 7 days 5 nights every 2 weeks.
This summer has been quite typical in that my ex wife and her significantly older than her boyfriend have gone away themselves twice, whilst I have taken the kids on holiday and she has done nothing with them.
She does very little with them and it is all about her and the elderly boyfriend.
Can anyone explain why I have to pay child maintenance when my costs are higher, I pay half towards school trips, am asked on the days I send Child Maintenance to then pay half towards other things, in regards to the kids lives I make up for the lack of leisure activities that are not received from their mum and I do all of the collecting/dropping off of the kids bar once every 2 weeks.
To add insult to injury as well as receiving Child Maintenance, Child Benefit her elderly boyfriend admitted to me the other week he is not on her Universal Credit claim so she will be claiming as a single Mum on that also.
Advice please.
so I was lucky I got summit.....
Skip to now my daughter moved in with Jim to go to collage first thing he did was go to csa didn't ask me I was going to agree the 135 same as him but he refused when csa got in touch I found out he lied and said I would only see my daughter once a month I see her Friday to Sunday ..... so his claim is nill as I'm on benefit pip
Any way year and half later she hates it there wants to come back home so iv said of course and though let's see how much csa I can get seen as though your dad went to them I did a calculation based of my daughter telling me her dad earns 50-60k a year it was over 1k per month I felt that can't be right he only been paying 135 for past 16 years pretty much ..
He never told me about change of Jobs and I had to stop talking to him because he was stalking my social media and would message me drunk at night while his wife new child and my daughter was asleep (yes I no)
So going forwards I assume I can't do anything about past money as its my nieveness and not understanding how the csa thing works and all honestly was happy getting something ( I have lots of debts for all the things I bought to provide for my daughter who got a autoimmune Condition at 12 i feel like he is trying to get out of not paying more to me all these years and had me hudlewinked.
My daughter is 16 and left full time education and works 20 hours a week. She is waiting to start a level 3 apprenticeship for 32 hours a week. Do I still have to pay child maintenance?
My son has now finished college. He has started working instead of University. He turned 19 this month. My assumption was that child maintenance stopped the following month by law. I apparently have £400+ pounds of arrears to pay as I refused to continue to pay my ex wife for my daughter when she came to stay with me full time.
Does anyone know if I can stop payments?
WE have a private paid aggement just looking for law on his as it states if he got a job at 16 payments can stop and if he got financial aid at school it stops
You claim to be trying to get more money fo the children, but you know that in ruining me, they will end up with far, far less than they currently get. Infact, ultimately they will end up sweet nothing from me as dead dads don't pay ! It's nothing to do with the children it's because you can't accept that I've moved on. You are a psychopath and are trying to execute me. You want this to take place publically so you can get off on it like a public hanging. I feel like doing it in front of you alone and intimately because you are a murderer and should therefore be subjected to the graphic destruction you reap. Damn you to Hell you evil rat.
Do I still need to pay child maintenance?
Daughter is at college will be 19 in july 23. I have Been trying to get answers as I was under the impression that cms would stop when she has an a level or equivalent from college. She achieved this last year but has stayed at college to do another level 3 which is just finishing. I have had to pay for this year also??? When will CMS finish she is 19 this year. Can she do another year at college. I have no contact with her so can’t ask her directly. I need to know if I could be paying for another year if she decides to stay in college longer or even if that is possible.
My daughter is 18 and about to leave full time education. I have looked all pver and seen scary copy amd pasteessages with no clear circumstances or examples.
If my daughter leaves full time college in July 2023, would this mean that my payments would cease pending child benefit being updated?
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Require proof of education for child maintenance for children aged 16-20
He will be 18 on June 2023
I've been paying child maintenance for past 10 years ( with agreement with my ex wife ) monthly .
My son is also working 3 X 7 hour shifts per week in between his college part time courses.
He also qualified for college payments monthly (£120 )
When do I stop child maintenance payments.
Also I'm based in Scotland are the rules the same throughout the UK .
Part 1
When a RP applies for Child Maintenance they ask do you claim the child benefit. If its a yes they will open a case against you.
If you look at how child benefit is awarded it is automatically awarded to the female/mum/wife etc. This is Sexual Discrimination.
There is also a section saying that it is "assumed" that the person claiming Child Benefit is the person with the main responsibility for the children.
Part 2
Section 50, if you can prove you have equal day to day care, (not shared care) which the csa just bases where the children stay over night. You don't have to pay any maintenance.
Quote all this to the CSA they will reject your claim. Fill in a mandatory reconsideration which will also be rejected by the csa.
Take it to tribunal and you will win the case.
The CSA support the RP to alienate NRP from there children for financial gain. The ex uses this to punish RPs. Sending them to poverty or in a lot of cases suicide. This method has helped thousands win against the csa.
Good luck to all RP, mums and dad's who want to be part of there children's lives
Thanks steve
Her mum has threatened to keep her in college until she's 20, so will I have to keep paying after she's 18?
They didn't keep any contact with me so if I ask them if any proof, they wouldn't send it to me. I just want to make sure they don't lie. Will the college confirm to me that my daughter is studying?
When do I stop paying maintenance.
I'm divorced from his mother approximately 6 years .
When will I stop child maintenance?
So I’m wondering while she’s in between school and college do I have to continue paying maintenance for her not to be doing anything in aug when she could be working
Yet i haven't seen my daughter for over ten years now since she was 8 and yet i pay maintenance..
Please tell me how this is allowed to happen...
Why is there not a law that states if you want the maintenance then you should not stop the child seeing the father ?
Have i the right to cancel my DD of maintenance money
I find myself in a similar situation to most here it seems. My Son is 17 years old, i have not seen him since he was 6 and not a day passes that i dont think or wonder about the young man he is turning into and hope he can manage to be something he can be proud and happy with.
I am however in the tough position I do not and probably will not know when he leaves full time education. I dont know where he lives as his mum would often move and not provide a forward address. I would by far prefer to pay my son direct, its bot that i dont want to pay. However I am hopeful the end of payment means he may try find me on facebook or other social platforms.
I dont understand how we have a system that does not trigger a check when a child reaches key stages in their education and may even leave school to join the military, and the mother can still claim on her word. We are 20 years on and have made no progress in the understanding of fathers rights and the woman is not always necessarily the victim…
If anyone has experienced the end of the CSA payment plans and success stories i would be very interested to hear. For now all i can see is a bleak outlook with no end in sight.
Like i said, i figured the end of payments would trigger some contact and that is my aim, please do not take me wrong here and think i want to stop paying and forget, on the contrary I wish to pay and help direct rather than being a secret donor and not through choice.
I haven't had any contact with my daughter since the mother moved them to another town 10 year ago
The CSA people refuse to tell me what the status is in regards to whether she is "working" or in "full time education"as its nothing to do with me
I asked for some proof and they just said ..refusal to pay will result in them taking control of my bank account and or charging me extra for collection
I have read that many different things on how much longer I must pay I am at my "wits" end
Thanks for any help...gary
It's this that needs to be looked at. My daughter is now an adult and while I still want to support her financially - I don't want to be lining the mother's purse anymore.
Is there a legal way that I can pay my daughter directly without the CMS or her mother being able to stake a claim anymore?
He was taken out of school some years ago and allegedly home schooled. If his mother claims he is in further non advanced education or apprenticeship how can I evidence that? I believe he also lives abroad in his mothers property but his mother claims CB and has him registered to a UK address.
I am also a dad, who struggled to see my kids, I have fought with everything I have to see them, I took the mum to court when they were little as I felt they just didn't know how the mum manipulated them to get what she wanted, paying for a court order to have the right to see them even though that right its yours by just being a dad, was the best money I have ever paid. it allowed me to have 2 years with them, where I could planned without the mum changing dates or allowing me access only when she wanted (its ridiculous to even write that, denied access to your kids as if they have any control over that) . My kids were lied to all the time, beginning with her saying that she was the one taking me to court because I refused to see them (!!!!!), I do not blame her at all, is what she has been taught, we are in the end a recollection of our parents behaviours until we consciously decide to break the pattern.
I for one planned my kids, I wanted to have them and be in their lives, teach them and guide them the way I was not, although I am not in the lives for more than a year, my arms and my heart will always be open for when they need me and they ready (if they ever, if they not, it will be fine too). Its all a lesson. the hardest decision I ever had to make was to surrender, say you win, have them to yourself. I did it for them as well as me. the feeling of abandonment killed me for months, I started drinking falling, drowning. I understood the reason I did it was to allow things to fall into place. Was the only way.
The financial side, I struggled with and it was mainly understanding the logic when there is no logic, its simply, no one asked anybody to have children with the people we chose to, this are the consequences of not know who we are and what we are here for, we give in to society thinking that if we don't have children or have a mortgage or have a good job by a certain age, we just simply a failure.
One thing is for sure and I think we all know that, money comes and goes, what is important is the lesson we learn. In life have paid money for lessons that changed the way I see things and consequently changed my reality.
to the worrying dad's thinking about when they can get out of their 'Debt' I would say start seeing it the right way.
Summer till September when she starts uni?
I will then be paying the child support direct to my daughter in September.
CMS are now saying I have to continue paying which doesn’t seem right
I have been paying weekly and reduced the amount by £10 as my daughter now works more hours than she studies.
CMA say I have to pay till she is 20 regardless she she earns now.
She doesn't tell me anything that she is planning regarding her schooling.
Their mother rings the police every time (twice), second time being me knocking on her door to alert here (hand over a letter to which I eventually posted) that my father has passed.
Charges where dropped however after the police decided that I would not be charged for harassment.
I can not afford 4/5k to go to court to see kids only thing I can barely afford is the C100 form.
She works 12 hours part time at the moment while doing her college courses
Can’t seem to get a straight answer as to when I stop paying maintenance!
Any help please?
Sadly due to his mum alienating me from his life for reasons I do not know (control I think) I get no updates on his education or when he will leave college. I do not even know if he is at college but according to Child Maintenance people they say if child benefit is claimed then he is at college.
I am not convinced that they have done any research into this and do not know when my payments will end or in fact if they should have ended! Any suggestions how I can find out the accurate answers? I have tried the college and they state due to data protection they will not tell me despite me having full parental responsibility.
Thanks
James
I have a daughter who turns 18 next February and I've had absolutely no contact with her for 10years due to her mother claiming the full payments by me having no access(a big thank you to the CSA for me losing my daughter)
At present the CSA people just sent me another yearly payment plan but I have no idea if my daughter will be at college and then going to university as her mother moved away to another town and we have zero contact
When I spoke to the CSA they say they take the word of the mother as gospel to any changes as it's up to her to "declare" it...They obviously don't know my ex ??
Any help on this matter would be greatly appreciated..thanks..gaz??
My son has reached the age of 18 last June, and has finished his A level studies. I wasn't allowed to see him for the last 6 years. I don't know where he lives or his circumstances now. I stopped paying child maintenance this month to my ex. Am I in trouble for doing so? Is it the right thing to do? Please take into account that all I want is to see my son and arrange some payment with him directly instead of paying to my ex.
Thanks
My son turns 18 in a couple of weeks and as been at collage since he left school ,his course finishes this year ,he is going to apply to do another 2 year course does this mean I still have to pay child maintenance
He will then be working part time before going to University in October.
When do I stop paying Child Support
He will be 18 in June 21 what should we do?
My son is 18 and in education at college, however he’s is working part time doing 3-4 days a week.
Do I or can stop paying maintenance for him.
Cheers
Please advise
Thanks
Sam
As i have supervised contact with my child every other sunday but my ex misses one session a month . Now today i came from birmingham to leeds thn at the last minute she said my child not feeling well .I asked for the video call she said she will try .. what shall i do in this situation m worried about my son . She s not responding
What I'm asking is do I legally have to pay for child maintenance as I know that she's just spending the money on herself and not my son.
Thanks
My 18 year old son is in college, I'm not sure he'll ever get paid work as he has autism and didn't understand the need to work or the value of money. He receives universal credit, PIP.
My daughter is 15, in the final year of secondary school, plans to do A levels and do the whole university thing.
When am I expected to continue paying maintenance until?
Thanks.
Can you please bring some light to either of us.
Many thanks!!
when do I stop child maintenanc???
Please guide me what can I do!!!
How do I do this?
How can I find out as her and her mother don’t keep me informed as don’t know when to stop the payments.
Her mother keeps asking about the money I know daughter stays at her boyfriends house with his parents all the time ( hardly stays home ) if I’m paying still can this go straight to daughter and not into her mothers bank?
My husband has not missed one maintenance payment in the time they have been apart for 10 years, has paid additionally for mobile phones and bus passes for school as well as other things like clothes and holiday etc. All those extra have been done with love and not wanting to use against their mother. However, when his son was in his last 6 months of A level he came to live with us due to a breakdown of relationship with his mum and step dad. My husband then reduced his payments to reflect this which didnt go down well but anyway he did. We didnt ask for a penny from his mother and it had been my hope that for at least the time he was still at school we could have just agreed to each be financially responsible for the child living with us and no other payments happen. Anyway that wasnt the case. So his son went to uni last year but by Christmas decided it wasnt for him mainly due to emotional stress and depression following the breakdown of his relationship with mum. So he came back to us. I'm aware he isnt in education anymore but he is still only just 19, emotionally vulnerable and his mother has very little contact. He has decided to go back to uni however due to his loan from last year he wont be getting as much and I would really like to help him financially but due to virus I am now out of work so as a family we are far worse off. I suggest to my husband that he lower the payments to his ex for their daughter in her last 9 months of education so we can top up his sons money. My husband thinks this wouldnt be legal but I know for a fact his maintenance payment doesnt cover any personal needs of the daughter. Now she works she buys all her own clothes and coffee shop visits, cinema etc etc. Her mother simply puts a roof over her head and buy her food which of course she is also responsible for paying a proportion of. So does anyone know if my husbands ex can cause issues if he says he would like to change the arrangement and not get her full agreement. We know she wont agree but feel we need to help the son as well as the daughter and it the only wat financially we can do it. Hu husband also allowed his ex to keep all the profit made in their family home when they split which he paid 90% of the mortgage. This was c. £70K. I just feel she has had an awful to now moan about this last 9 months. Any thoughts?
My ex partner and I agreed a voluntary consent order which was agreed at the local child court and a copy sent to the then CSA. I have heard nothing until this year (over 10 years later).
I sent a letter back to CMS to say we had a legally binding voluntary consent order and check with the local court, the letter states my ex has asked for them to collect the money, when I checked with my ex, she knows nothing about this and thins this is wrong.
Why are the CMA chasing me for money I do not owe, the amount they are asking for is also ridiculously high. Thy are asking me to contact them urgently, but I will never speak to them only by letter so there is a record and audit trail.
my son is now 16 should the CMS show me proof that he's in full time education ive always paid and when I've asked the CMS they have told me this is a GREY AREA how can this be a grey area surely im not the first dad to ask this but still the CMS are quick enough to take my money and don't care that I'm left with not alot of money
Help
I was obviously contacted by CMS who its taken weeks to get a vaguely sensible answer out of but they are not insisting I am unable to continue paying directly and the monthly payments have somehow gone from £267per month to over £450 per month.
I've not once refused to pay but am I crazy to think that I should not be paying for something if I do not have any proof that terms are being met. No doubt if I carried on paying and found out later that my daughter wasn't in education, then I wouldn't receive an immediate refund.
Early 2020 I asked the relevant County Council to provide details of what recognised educational programme he is following. The request was passed directly to my son and his mum who refused to answer the question and provide details.
Since it seems pretty obvious that my son is NOT following any educational programme, my understanding is that maintenance payments I make weekly will stop at the end of the school year: August 2020.
Am I correct?
My question is is this kind of coarse covered under the coarsesthat i still pay maintence.
He turned 16 in April 2020 and have no idea as to what he is going to do, get a job or go to college.
I don't really want to carry on with maintenance payments if I don't have too.
Should I stop them now and wait for her to get in contact with me??
If I get the 20 week child benefit extension as my 16 yo is joining the navy . Am I right , as long as I still get the child benefit that dad still has to pay maintenance until the 20 weeks is up ?
Many Thanks.
My son Is 16 and planning on studying His A levels at home in September, does his father still have to pay maintenance?
Thanks
I have always paid for the last 11 years and actually have paid more than the required amount.
Unfortunately I have been made redundant with the COVID and will have no salary. My son will be 18 at this stage. I want o pay my way but with no salary it is not going to be easy. Can I stop paying for him since I will no longer have a salary or can I be forced to pay from my savings?
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I have been informed by mutual friends that he hasn’t been attended any classes but I’m still making maintenance payments. Can I stop payment and find legal Advice to ask for Attendance records before continuing paying.
I don’t have any contact with my son and never have. I only found out he was my son when he was 3years old. never been a relationship there between me and him or myself and his mother so I have no way of asking her for any prof.
Many thanks for any advice
Sam
He’s planning on going into 5th year at school so I understand I still have to pay but would rather the money went direct to him rather than her. Thanks
My daughter turned 18 in Feb 2020 and is about to finish her A levels. She has no plans to go to university and is researching colleague courses/apprenticeships for September.
Can I stop paying her mum after 18 years of doing so
My ex also gets child benefit and claims tax credits.
My daughter is 15 I’ve always payed Child support , but last year she stopped going to school so sheS not had any education the last 1.1/2 years plus she has a baby girl now herself . So she’s living with my ex Partner not going to school bringing up her own little baby daughter her mother is claiming child tax credit for the little baby & child benefit because my daughter is only 15 she’s to young to claim for her own child.
Should I still be paying child support for her even through all this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated thanks
I have a good relationship with my sons, they are both working now and are over 19.
My daughter is 16 and is now on a 3 year college course.
I pay 15% of my salary, like I said not an issue for me.
But unfortunately I never see my daughter it breaks my heart sometimes. She lives about 30 miles away (they all moved 12 years ago)
I’ve probably seen her 4 times in the last 3 years.
She doesn’t answer text or phone (I try a lot to contact her.
She has a boyfriend now which is fine, I’ve met him he’s a nice lad,
Because of the distance our relationship never blossomed like a normal one would have.
Since they moved away it’s been difficult
I drive there every weekend to see my boys, but she never wants to join us.
The x wife just says she can make her own decisions about who and when she sees me.
It’s very hard to be ignored every time I try to invite her along.
We have done some shopping trips, birthdays and Xmas.
It always involves spending money, where my sons will see me in the normal sense and stay over.
Does anybody else have this experience and does anyone have any ideas of who I could improve my relationship with my daughter??
Respect to the dads who are paying for their kids.
My son has been kicked out of college and is not working or studying , he has turned 18 year a month a go, do I still have to pay maintenance to September?
Kindly suggest me
Having said that, my older daughter's father suddenly disappeared when she was 4, leaving me to face it all on my own. I had to work 3 jobs, 80 hour weeks, just to afford to pay all the bills. Fathers should support their children, and if they cannot get contact with them, go to Family Court and get visitation! Where there is a will there is a way.
It's your child's right to be supported by both parents, and that includes YOU!
Does your child stop eating when you don't pay?!
What about clothing, school uniforms (£350-£450 per year), school trips and equipment, electricity, gas, water, bedroom furniture?
What gives you the right to withhold those funds and force someone else to fulfil your moral and legal obligations?!
And why should you start paying now? Really? Perhaps your child's mother's circumstances have changed and she now needs your help raising your child. I don't see anything wrong with that. In fact, you should count yourself lucky that she paid your portion of support in the previous 10 years herself rather than coming to you for it.
People like you with so little sense of responsibility and obligation towards their own flesh and blood don't deserve to have children. I wonder who will look after you when you are old, you'll just be a sad, lonely old man.
Do I still have to pay maintenance for him till he’s either 18 or got a job ...
would be very grateful for some advise on how to find out.
Thanks
He refuses to have contact with me after a big falling out regarding my new wife and the death of my 18 year old nephew.
I’ve approached him to try and talk but he says he doesn’t want to know.
I’m not even sure whether he attends college or whether he’s an apprentice.
I had a mutual agreement with the children’s mother where I paid her maintenance.
This changed when my daughter turned 18 when I suddenly received a letter from Child Maintenance Service for payment for son only.
I don’t begrudge paying, but as from February 2020 they have upped my payments from £209 to £351 per month.
They’ve informed me they are to take it directly from my wages. As far as I’m aware I only missed one payment but via my direct debit but actually gave my ex wife cash instead after bumping into her in a shop!!
My son turns 18 in July, when does my maintenance payments cease?
advice, a friend of mine is paying for his daughter, who is 16 and has left home for 12 weeks to work in a government funded training course which is 24/7; whilst she is away my friend is still having to pay her mother maintenance. The childs mother does not have to pay anything towards the course and is being paid in case the daughter might decide to come home... this does not seem fair
I sound harsh but I dont feel my wages go towards my daughter they go towards her mothers other 5 children more which are not mine.
Finished school but at Uni 2.5 days pw, should I still be paying maintenance?
Looks as though may come down to the 2.5 days being classed as FT or PT?
Many thanks
First of all,I understand the anger, frustration,mental destruction, discrimination,racism,predujice etc etc etc....
Guys,keep ya chin up don't do anything silly.
Best advice I can give any non-resident parent is keep paying..I didn't,and I got threatend by the cmt(child maintenance team) on a regular basis.
My bank was instructed to pay obscene amounts of money out even though I didn't use it, causing absolute stress on another level which includes Bank fees and charges which are also on another level.
Bank account closed ;)
Be patient,set up standing order and pay regular payments.
Ask for flexibility,pay over longer periods.
They can't refuse.
Payments sorted.
Now,your like me perhaps,never see your kids,never have any say in anything to do with their Life.
Time is a healer.(took me around 5years)
Take good advice,your not the only ones with this discrimination against the non resident parent.
If your like me,your kids minds have been poisoned and that's how it's going to be.Dont fight it,you will lose! Fact!
Been there done it.
Don't waste your money on solicitors,it won't get you anything but debt...
If you want to see a solicitor,then see them about stress,debt,mental state,caused by the CMT.
RECORD all calls to and from the CMT,tell them that it is recorded.
Keep records of every single person you have spoken to,dates times etc...
Keep calling,to let them know you still can't access your child maintenance account.
(You will be shut off).
If you want to see your kids,then unfortunately it will cost you the earth and you will be treated like? Well,I can't say criminal as they are better off so you decide..
If you can live without your kids in your life then you have made it and hopefully have moved on from all the gabage.
I love mine to bits but they have mental problems now that can't really be undone.
That's not my fault,it's the systems fault so they can deal with it.Now they don't need to work as the state keeps giving them money,(I dont blame them for not working either,your better off) ;)
Hope this answer most your Q's ;)
My oldest one as left college back in June and now working full time..
But I'm still paying for her this can't be right
Iv rang csa twice now about it and still nothing is been done. The ex as been done for benefits frourd befor... Any idea
I've not seen my daughter since she was 12, she's now 19. I've been paying CSA every month in an agreed arrangement.
I understand through someone else that my daughter has left college and is pregnant, dont know if she's still living at home with her mum and partner.
My question is - do I still continue to pay or can I stop the payments by cancelling the direct debit without informing CSA?
i got divorced 5 years ago through no fault of my own (my ex just didn't like me anymore we drifted apart) she has taken me to the cleaners and still continues to do so. that's not the worst part she also limits me to the time i can see my two great kids 13 and 16 now. she got the house during the divorce now worth around £750000 that i had paid the mortgage on for 15 out of the 25 year mortgage, i also have to pay her CM every month that i have never defaulted on, She is on her 15 holiday this year however still trys to get money off of me every month for addition school trips, Lockers, Books, you name it she comes to me, i am flexiable and will always swap if she cannot have the children one night or weekend however this is never the case if i ask. i have just checked and my court order states i have to pay CM until tertiary education to first level degree. can someone please tel me what age this is. i have meet someone else and we have 2 small children, now both in nursery and money is so tight. why does the law always side with the female. no wonder so many of us take our own life
Should I continue to pay child maintenance to her mother or contact CSA ?
I spoke to the Child support agency and asked if I have to continue paying maintenance as my child is now in advanced education.
One person said no, the other said yes.
i can find no information on Foundation Courses at all
She will be doing a Level 3 foundation course
Any Ideas?
....Although, having said that, it's probably fair because we are only Dads, and not Mums.
I made what I thought according to government legislation was my last payment in May but now I'm being hounded by CMS for payment until September. They say they have set dates for when payments should end and that is September, because she isn't in full time employment!
Is anybody going through the same issue and is there any official literature to support the CMS payment end dates?
She will be 20 in September 2000
Do I still have to pay ?
He is working PT and will start full time in a month. Should I be paying ?
My step daughter has finished exams and left college last week. She is due to start uni in September. When exactly should my husband stop paying child maintenance? She will also be working alongside uni. Thanks
King regards
Regards
Ms m cardy
She is bitter and will not allow the children to communicate with me and will not communcate with me herself. I have no way of finding out anything about my children. My daughter finishes scholl in August at 16 yrs old. How can i find out if she is attending further education or what her plans are, do i just have to take the CSA word as truth? Can i get proof somehow that i am not being lied to just becuase i am a source of income for a horrible ex?
Steve
It does not finish at A levels if the go straight into a dull time course at University.
My yearly review of cms has already decided I need to pay more even though it’s not taken place yet.
It’s frustrating when I have children at home that don’t get this sort of money spent on them.
He also claiming universal credit
He is 19 years old
When do CM payments stop ???
The CSA and the government are a pathetic joke.
I’ve recently been told he is working part time. Do I still have to pay for him? :/
You have to pay maintenance till the day before they turn 20!! (If they are in college 12 or more hours a week)
You do not pay maintenance from 16 if the get a job. This has been confirmed to me by child maintenance helpline.
Seen so many comments about their kids and this whole 12 hours and calling it Full Time!! So my husbands son is 18 and is doing exactly 12 hours per week. His mother is trying to get him to stay on for another couple of years so she can get her maintenance till he’s 20 but college are trying to refuse a course saying there are no courses left for him to do and needs to do the apprenticeship. I think it’s ridiculous that a perfectly capable 18 year old can keep doing these 12 hour a week courses ( since leaving school at 16) so that they can keep getting their maintenance! Feel sorry for all the guys out there supporting these mums who encourage their kids to stay in education (not for purposes of real job prospects) Not exactly very good parenting. My step sons mother is nearly 35 and has NEVER worked (she’s not ill) we both work hard to pay stupid amounts of maintenance support for the son who now doesn’t want to work and who is thinking of now applying for a council flat of his own! The stupid government are setting our future generations up to believe that 12 hours is full time!!! Husband works 40-50 hours a week! That’s full time!
Also a child as far as the Child Maintenance Service is concerned is now up until the age of 20. So maintenance continues as long as the child performs minimum of 12 hours each week up until the end of the school term beyond the age of 20.
Criminal! Double standards yet again from this British Government.
When I spoke to a CMS agent they stated it needed to be 20 hours in a classroom per week, they seem to make the rules up every time I talk to them in favour of the woman.
just want to find out i'm staying in Namibia. My son finish matrix this year 2018 he turn 18 on February 2018. We are waiting for PWC to see if he is expected or not that will be in January 2019. I just want to know up to when must my son's father pay maintenance when he start to work or when he finish school. please can you help me as soon as possible. Some people say until he is 21 or when he starts to work.
Thanks Gerda
He is at 6th form college and also works each weekend, and hoping to attend university in 2019 once he finishes his course in May next year.
As he is pretty much self sufficient, I wondered where I stand with when I can end the payments, as I also have a young family with my new partner and that extra cash would go a long way here....can anyone offer any advice please?
My question is what would be considered a reasonable basis for calculating ongoing financial support ?
How can I find out if this is actually happening?
And will this affect the monthly child maintenance payment?
Can you clarify please?
Many thanks Emma Jones
As part of my divorce I agr ed to pay child support till he was 17 or left full time education .
Do I have to start paying again now he wants to go back to education or can I support him directly. ??
My ex wants her to have it directly !
Thanks
Many thanks
My partners daughter is coming up to 16
He is currently paying £650 a month for her in maintiance
We really cannot afford this anymore, we have no food and are close to losing our house. He has spoken to cma but they have no interest.
I don't know anybody paying this amount, he doesn't earn that much.
He doesn't see his daughter though no fault of his own.
How can we tell if she says on education as I know her mother will lie to keep the money
I have had no contact with my child for the last 5 years despite court order.
I have been paying CM throughout.
However, my child is now 16 and I don’t know if she is staying on at school or working/doing an apprenticeship.
Is there any way I can check whether she still receives child benefit independently?
I don’t have my ex wife’s address or tel number and she has a history of not being truthful about her circumstances anyway.
Any advice?
Now my son has enrolled On a leve 3 BTEC course full time and his mother is requesting I start paying maintenance again, is she entitled to this? I don’t know how it works if the child leaves education then returns but also if the course which is operated independently is recognised by the government. I am happy to support, however I am asking my son to get a part time job also. Can you please assist. Thanks
I dont have any contact with him or his mother, how would i go about finding out if he is still in full time eduction?
My son turned 19 in January and I am paying maintenance for him, he has been on three separate courses at college and has sadly failed them all. He is wishing to try again subject to the college letting him redo his courses. How can I prove that his courses are less than 12 hours a week when his mother refuses to communicate with me? She is encouraging him to stay on at college so that I have to continue to pay until his 20th birthday. I have said to him he needs to get himself a job as he has tried and failed three times now but he is just doing what his mother tells him. She does not work and wont work so I am at a loss of what to do. I love my son very much but surely this needs sorting. Can he still get child benefit till he is 20?
The course she is doing is a Foundation Degree course in partnership with Open University....do I still need to pay if she’s on this course?
Thank you
Also, how do I find out if my ex has stopped receiving child benefits?
friends and boyfriends place. As she is having a year out and working part time, do our payments stop to my husbands ex?
Can you tell me when we need to stop paying maintenance to his ex. Many Thanks
His mother I believe claims disAbility benefits . We have a mutual monthly payment agreement set in place .
I have no problem supporting my son further but was wondering when my payments can legally finish to her??
My daughter is 18 she has finished her NVQ level 3 and went to America for 3 months in May she is now back and going straight into a job but during all this time and even when she was in America I was paying child maintenance for her
Do I still have to pay for her as I cannot get any sort of answer out of the CMS even though I have spoken to them several times
Many thanks
So do I carrying on his monthly payments?
cheers
Thank you
She is already considering working part time and resitting the exams through college resit courses, night school or private tuition. Does this qualify as full time education? Do I still have to make maintenance payments to her Mother if this is the case?
If not, when is my last payment considering that I pay through standing order on the first of the month. Please advise.
Do I still pay cm if she does her level 4
Many thanks
Thanks
Goonie.
Also Along with this the ex wife has asked me to up the other child’s maintenance as she is struggling... also using the children as a weapon... stating that I would need to provide more for the youngest ie clothes, hobby equipment etc... don’t get me wrong I don’t mind helping the kids direct but envy them going through her... to get to me...
Surely if she is working full time (and not studying ), then child maintenance stops.?
My son is 16 and left school last September, did nothing and joined the Navy in March, then left in April and now can’t get a job, or join a college course. My daughter just finished her degree. I have been paying thenagreed sum up until now, but don’t see why I should continue. What is the legality of this situation?
Thank you
Tina
I am not tying to get out of supporting my child, but my ex is stating that I will be made to pay her full maintenance until she is 21. Now, I have been looking under the guidelines for full time education and life skills does not fall in that category. Could someone please advise if I follow the government ruling of paying up to the end of 6th form, or till she is 20? Or what is the legal requirement.
Roy
I have been worrying could my ex wife force the sale of my home to get money from me? for any child maintence payments she might have been due, during the time i was sick & on benefits & not liable to pay her anything via the CSA Thank you for your help.
She was married for rather a long time with a daughter & they divorced when the child was quite young. There was a relationship between the girl & her dad for the 1st few years after seperation. However, by the time she'd turned 8yrs old, contact had pretty much dissappeared. The child has had health issues since just before this time & is now 16.
The dad has gone on to have a 2nd child & his 2 children see each other on a regular basis. The mum pushes for her daughter to keep up contact with her dad but that's difficult when he doesn't reply to texts etc.
Maintenance payments were sporadic in the early days & have been non-existant for the past 10yrs or more. How does my friend go about highlighting to the dad he needs to be involved with helping out more, both on an emotional level & also financially? Is it too late?
Any suggestions would be gratefully appreciated.
We have a family arranged monthly payment which has never been missed since 2010.
In addition I also pay for her mobile phone and service, currently paying for all her driving lessons. She also has a small monthly allowance from myself , plus any other incidental requirements at various contribution levels as and when needed.
She has also been taken away on holiday several times.
I make no issue about any of the above, but would like to know for sure when I can stop paying maintenance.
Her birthday is in October and she is expecting to finish education in July 2019 before her 19th Birthday. When can maintenance officially stop?
Thank you....
I am in full time education finishing my a-levels. My father is due to stop paying child maintenance when I finish my A-levels, but it doesn’t clarify when that is. Is it from the last official day of school (29th June for me), my last exam date (25th) or is it from when I receive my results in August? One month isn’t a lot but hopefully he can stop paying as soon as possible. Thank you.
Thanks
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Can i finally STOP paying via CSA and pay my daughter DIRECT - mother owns own pub and earns way more than myself but would rather see me out on the streets begging !
Also, what happens if the child finishes college before turning 18? Lastly, if the child decides to go to university is there still a case for maintenance until 20 years old or a contribution required for university fees? Thanks
As we were never married and he was born before 2003 i do not automatically get joint parental responsibility. So his main residence is with his mother to whom i pay child maintenance . This is not arranged through the CSA. I have been advised i dont need to pay the full statutory amount because he doesnt spend all his time at home but i choose to pay anyhow. There is no dialogue between myself and his mother which i thought i should also point out.
My question is. When do i stop paying maintenance?
I’ve never seen or met my daughter i have no idea what she looks like in the whole 19yrs of her exsistance I have no knowledge of her whereabouts OR OF THE Mothers whereabouts I know nothing I have been made to pay £386.86 direct from my wages by the CMS, the only proof I have of the child was a DNA TEST
I have no idea how or when my payments will stop I don’t know what to do where to turn I don’t even know if my daughter is in education or working I know nothing
Can anyone advise
I’m paying for my child that has never met or seen me and me never met or seen her
CMS will give no information about my daughter. How is this allowed
Please help
My daughter is now 19yrs old I wouldn’t know even if I passed her in a street or was in the same room
How do I make payments stop
Gonna just pay him direct and carry it on but will also throw a party when not paying the mother
Thanks
she fully capable of paying but choses not to
My son is turning 18 in June. He has completed a 1 yr level 2 public services. He is now finishing his 1st year in level 3 public services and will finish this course next year when he will be 19. As this course is a 2yr BTEC level 3, is this considered an A-level? basically do I have to continue paying until next year?
My daughter turned 18 this month. She is in her second year of A levels. She didn’t get required grades so will sit them again and claims this will last until next year. If this is the case she will be 19 and 5 months old when she finishes said A levels.
Will the child benefit continue until she is leaving 6th form in 2019? If this is the case I guess my Child Maintenence Service payments will continue until the child benefit stops.?
Thanks
She's still expecting but obviously isn't getting my monthly maintenance payments I used to pay before when the kids stayed at hers because I was at work.
What are my rights with the whole maintenance payments?
My husband pays £350 directly to his mother. Am I right to presume we no longer make payments from End of June?? His mother would not declare he is working full time to child benefits and would therefore receive child benefit until 31 Aug 2018.
My step son has no intention to continue in education following his exams.
Thank you for response, but what happens once they turn 18? how is in monitored then? as under 18 there is a requirement (legal) for them to stay in education- as above. Once the academic year of their 18th year has ended the requirement is no longer legal. So staying in education under degree/HND level is optional is optional, how is this monitored by the CMS? and at what point do the educational establishment have a responsibility to inform the local authority? once they are registered but don't attend for a week?, a term?, at the end of the academic year even if they attended for a week at the start of the September??
Can you please clarify.
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Hi. I have been sent two lots of arrears claims from the CSA via the CMS.
The 1st is for £4k dating back to 1994. This case was closed in 2014 and last year I was told I owe this 4K as my ex was on benefits between 1994-2008.
They have this wrong as I was still with my ex until 1995 and she has admitted she was only on benefits between 1995-1999. I also paid her direct which she has agreed.
The CMS will not accept anything I tell them. They just keep asking for Bank statements to prove I paid.
I keep telling them this Bank account was closed in 2000 but,still I get no where.
The debt arrears don't work out as the CSA have taken random months in a year up too 2008.
The 2nd case the CSA are claiming I owe artears between 2008-2009. I have shown proof of a letter addressed to my MP from the senior resolution manager of the CSA that I have no arrears for the months claimed and yet the CMS have said I do owe this as it was a computer error.
I was also told after I rang the CMS in Dec 2017 my case was being closed from Sept 2017 as my child is in further education and attending a college. They also sent this to my MP.
So I stopped paying in Dec which they agreed I had overpaid by 3 months
Now I have received a Collect and Pay demand for not paying maintenance for Jan,Feb,March 2018.
I rang them to ask about it and the CMS have just said they made a mistake and the case shouldn't have been closed.
I have tried to talk and get proof from the CMS but they will not offer anything and just say I owe the arrears and tough.
Has anyone and advice how to sort this please?
Our Response:
Generally, CMS will continue to extract payments from the non-resident parent while child benefit is being paid (i.e up until such time that the child officially finishes the course). The college does not have to supply records of attendance etc to the non-resident parent.
SeparatedDads - 6-Mar-18 @ 10:57 AM
How does the resident parent show that the child remains in a relevant course to enable the them to still be eligible?
We have no contact with the children or his ex. We have tried talking to the college but they say as there is no court order saying my husband can not have information they will not discuss anything with him, to note the divorce was amicable, the relationship soured some years later. He is named on the birth certificates.
Our query is proof, we would like proof if the child is staying in an appropriate course for the next year. We want a copy of the course receipt and regular attendance records to prove attendance. Does the resident parent have a responsibility to provide this? We think the CMS will say it is not there problem.
Can you please advise?
I'm a litigant in person
I have severe Dyslexia and dyspraxia
Thank you
Kind regards
I am in a situation and I need advice. My son has suddenly stopped contacting me. On the 5th June 2015, it was the last time I spoke to him on the phone and also shockingly he has refused to come and meet me. Since that day he blocked me from every possible way to contact him. Now I understand that in order to pay his mother the Child Maintenance, she has to submit to CMS how many nights a week he stayed with me. Also, I am away from the UK since June 2016 in Cairo, Egypt. I have informed CMS of this. On my return to the UK on July 2018 hopefully, he will be 20 years old, do I have still to pay for Child Maintenance?
I’m currently going through a legal battle over maintenance that was paid by me but shouldn’t have been, it’s quite complex but I wanted to share details of where key information can be found.
Firstly I will say that everyone that should pay maintenance needs to pay it, I did for 16 years on a local agreement and firmly believe it’s a responsibility that should be kept by the parent without care.
The following are the Regulations and/or Acts that are relevant to Child Maintenance and Child Benefit, important thug to remember is if Child Benefit is eligible then so is Child Maintenance.
1. Child Support Maintenance Payment Regulations 2012.
2. Social Security Contributions and Benefits Act 1992.
3. Child Benefit (General) Regulations 2006
This is where you will find the prescribed conditions for Child Benefit, if the Child doesn’t meet the prescribed conditions then Child Benefit is not eligible and therefore Child Maintenance isn’t either (moral compass required)
The above can be quite complex so the treasury provides the guidance to the HMRC Child Benefit Office in how use these Regulations and Acts in the form of Technical and Compliance Manuals.
As an example I have seen people asking about when Maintenance stops, so if your child is over the age of 16 and has left “full time non advanced education” these will explain the requirements and definitions that are used.
I’m simple terms if they’ve left then the next terminal date applies and there are 4 throughout the year (31/08, 30/11, 28/02 & 31/05) if your child left education in October then Maintenance can stop from 01/12 but make sure your ex is made aware as they need to update the Child Benefit Office of change of circumstances (it is their duty to do so and they signed a declaration on the CH297 form relating to it)
The Child Benefit Office and Department for Work and Pensions are completely separate entities but Child Benefit, Child Tax Credit and Child Maintenance are linked and follow the same guidance from the treasury.
I can provide links to where the information is should anyone require it, remember that where Maintenance is due pay it and always get legal advice even if you think you’re right.
In my case I found dishonesty and deceit by my ex and only ever wanting to be a good parent to my daughter (and Dad) feel disappointed that the information in the public eye is one that ridicules parents that don’t pay but doesn’t look at the dishonesty of those who continue to take what isn’t due from the parent without care and also the tax payer.
Have always and will always support my daughter but in a way that doesn’t line someone else’s pocket.
JustaDad
is this correct?
My wife works 4 hours a day but is not needed for child care as the boys are independent.
She has asked me for a divorce - no idea the reason. She expects me to move out and continue to pay for her and all her bills. She has refused full time work and all her money is spent on herself.
I have advised her that we need to live separate lives and explained what this means. She does not understand. She is sleeping on the couch in the one communal room in our house. There is a spare room that I have asked to move into. She left the marital bed, is out all hours and I am
Loathed to leave the only room in the house I can go into. I think it is totally unacceptable for our sons to see her sleeping on a couch. They can’t go in their to watch tv, ear etc. I have tried everything and have put it all in writing. She thinks we should sell the house that she has not contributed to and that I should get her a flat. This will never happen unless we want to live in Mossside.
She want talk, she shouts , she in debt.
What do I do know. I want to to re her out
Thankyou .
He attends day release at college to gain his NVQS to qualify ect.
I have always paid the going rate to his mum and want to know of I can legally stop paying child support? I'm being told by her that I have to pay all the way through his apprenticeship as it's "approved education"...I'm guessing she's not told the child benefits he's on a proper apprenticeship and still getting child support. He was on a unpaid foundation one last year but got the offer to join thirteengroup so im gessing shes claiming off the declaration filed then to still receive CB??. If she goes through csa today they will chase me for monies as it looks like he's in Further education if like I said not declared the new apprenticeship.
How can I find out if the child benefit is being paid?
How can this paid apprentiship be classed as further education as he's earning?
Can someone qualify and quantify that this apprenticeship is not further education as I've heard conflicting advice around goverment funded ones?
Are we getting tricked once again by loopholes via apprenticeships?
Anyone know if thirteengroup are in the goverment funded scheme?
Lots of questions...thanks.
My divorce settlement stated that maintenance would need to be paid until she completed 'full time education'. does this include up to PhD?
Question.
1/ Does my son not attending college regularly mean the RP ( Resident Parent ) is claiming Child Benefit fraudulently as the child is not attending education full time as required ???
and
2/ Is the son in receipt of PIP as a benefit in their own name a disclosure needed to be mentioned to the CMS by the RP ( Resident Parent )??
3/ Does receiving PIP count as a benefit which entitles the NRP exclusion from paying maintenance to the RP??
Any help appreciated.
My daughter is 18 & turns 19 on 15th Oct 2018. She is currently doing a 1 year Animal Care course through SRUC at Craibstone College in Aberdeen, which finishes around May/June this year. She intends to do another 1 year course of study (possibly in IT) after the summer holidays.
How long will her mum be eligible to receive Child Benefit & if we divorce within the next 6 months due to an adultery on my part do I have to agree to pay Child Maintenence & for how long ?
Thx
my child turns 18 in September and going onto a college coarse for 2 years in graphic design .
can anyone tell me when payments for my son are due to end?
any information regarding this would be most helpful.......Thanks in advance...
Can I pay maintenance to my daughter directly or still have to pay her mother?
Thanks
I have still been paying ever week csa which is taken out my wages
I have inform csa three times about mother still claiming child benefit for him and that she does not live in same house as him still nothing has been done
So now he's 18 when will csa stop
My Son is 17... 18 in November this year, he is at college on an engineering course and re taking his maths and English... I think he may finish the course around may.. I believe he will be working in some capacity...he has told college that he will not be going back to do level 2. Once he leaves college does my obligation end regards to paying his mother maintenance?... Secondly if he does finish college but does not secure I job am I obliged to still pay up until his 18th birthday?
Does his dad have to stop paying maintenance?
He also has a part time job in the evenings doing 4 hours/20 hours a week.
He stays with me every other weekend.
Do I still pay child maintenance.
I have shared care and they stay with me overnight for approximately 190 nights per year, so 50 / 50 with ex-wife.
This has been the case for the last 9 years since we split. She gets paid 20% of my salary plus child support even though they stay with me more.
She is successful and wealthy and get CSM now decided I should pay more. Is any of this right and legit ??.
Thanks .
John
My husband pays for hi son and some! His son is 17 this year. He will carry on paying for his son. The mother is a money grabbing so and so and causes issues and she cost my husband a lot when they split.
My husband and I haven't been together long. I am looking forward to us spending more time together as our children are on their life paths.
I pay 270 per month
her mother doesn't work and is persuading my daughter to do college work rrarther than get a job
I have no say in this matter
Why do I have to keep paying for my daughter to do as little as possible just like her mother did just so her mother can keep getting benefits
Do. Have any rights
My Son turns 18 in February 2018 and has not plans to extend his education, when would I stop payments ? At the end of the school term or in the September?
Thanks
My daughter is 16 and at college 3 days a week. She also works 2 jobs totalling 27 hours a week. 1 24 hours a week and the other just 3
Do I still have to pay my maintenance payments if she is over 24 hours??
Thanks.
My daughter will be 18 in August next year. I have no contact as my X is a real pain in the backside and wont let me see my daughter. All my messages to my daughter are left with no answer (email, Facebook, text msg, phonecalls).
I do not know if my daughter is still attending school or not. I do not know her plans for the future.
I even do not have a clue if she is still claiming the child benefit.
How can i check if she is still in full time education or if my X is still having the child benefit?
And when can i legally stop paying the maintenance?
My 2 daughters (19 & 20) are both at Uni.
I pay approx 25% of my salary in maintenance.
If I wanted to, when could I legally stop making payments.??
Thanks
There must be something wrong here??
My daughter will be going off to university in September next year, placement pretty much secured. A little premature to ask this but want to know where I stand. Her birthday is in January when she will turn 18, she will leave college with 3 A-Levels in June. At what point in this process do I stop paying child maintenance?
June when she walks out of college for the last time? Or September when she starts University? Few months difference so want to make sure I get it right as her Mother is non communicative.
My eldest son who lives with my ex is 17 and attends college 3 days a week to do a kart mechanic course which has no qualification at the end of it and will be 18 in March if he’s still at college after he turns 18 do I still have to pay child maintenance
Recently i have been summoned to court by my daughter for the collection of adult child maintenance to cover uni costs.Does anyone know or have any experience with this procedure.I paid over £300 for csa payments and was wondering if this adult child maintenance will be as much or less than previous csa.My daughter has a full grant in place and a bursary.......
My son is 19, my daughter is 18. Both in full-time education at A-level and live with their mum.
Both do more than 12 hours a week study and both have part-time jobs.
Both are no longer receiving child benefit, am I still eligible to pay child maintenance?
I keep finding ambiguous answers to this question on the web so thought I'd ask for clarification, please.
Thanks
2 kids one is 16 still at school so still have to pay for her, I get that, eldest child 18-19 in Feb going to uni receiving grants etc but attending whilst living at home, do I still have to pay even though I've had letter from CMS saying arrangement ends on 31/08/2027?? Any advice?
My husbands 19 year old children are both working full time earning full salaries and have been for the last 9 months.
He's received a letter from the CSA advising that his "End Date" is March 2018 when they turn 20.
They're no longer studying as that stopped months ago too. Does this sound correct??
signs up to join the armed forces.
Should this not have finished 31st August? The CMS have also invoked a "terminal date", extending the payment time until December, which I cannot find any info on. The CMS website has lots on paying, how to pay, when to pay and what happens if you don't, but nothing on when it stops! Can you shed any light?
Thanks.
Would cms know or ask her daugjter what she is doing because it's Sept and they've not told us the payments will stop due to daugjter is living away from home doing the apprenticeship
This is only a short term stop as he intends to join the Navy next year
How do I stand with my payments.
I made arrangements with my ex to pay her direct into her bank account after the CSA would not be continuing to collect the payments
Any advice please
I will still support my son by paying him direct instead of his mother
How can I find out what is going on regarding me finishing monthly payments. Thinking of just stopping payments. That way she will creep out of the rotten woodwork she resides in and I may find out circumstances that way.
Also considering legal advice but I don't have a lot of cash about to pay a solicitor. Could she lie to a solicitor?
BTW...he is 18 in November.
PS - meant to add...she got married to some idiot about 6yrs ago I heard.
How can I find out what is going on regarding me finishing monthly payments. Thinking of just stopping payments. That way she will creep out of the rotten woodwork she resides in and I may find out circumstances that way.
Also considering legal advice but I don't have a lot of cash about to pay a solicitor. Could she lie to a solicitor?
BTW...he is 18 in November.
I now have to provide everything for her.
How can my wife finally pin him down and get what is owed?
When do i actually stop paying csa for him?
I was wondering when I would need to stop paying child support?
Is maintenance still paid?
Gov website indicates that where CMS is concerned, approved apprenticeships should be unpaid. Nothing's very clear with all this.
Any advice would be appreciated here.
Thanks
My son is 17 and has recently started working on a building site he will not be going to college he finished school in June
When do I stop maintenance to my ex wife
Regards Paddi
She accidently let it slip that she will only be attending university for 6 hours per week
When she realised what she had said she changed her story
Is there any way I can find out how many hours she is attending college ?
Many thanks
Help...
I was just wondering where I stand on stopping the payments.
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MAV
Does he continue to make csa payments. Child is 18.
My ex and I split a few years ago and maintenance was agreed between us, my son is autistic and I have no qualms about paying maintenance as long as he's bettering himself.
What bothers me is that my son ( 19 years old and 20 next April), is attending college and I have never been given proof of his courses.
What age does payments stop please
CSA now ceased and child support options come in to play. Can they check if college is being attended and if not cease payment? Deeply frustrating. We are supporting 3 other children through Uni. The money being paid to his Mum discourages her from pushing him to college or into work.She will lose child benefit, child tax credits (including poss disabled child premium) & maintenance if his son signs on for jobseekers or claimed ESA.
Thanks in advance for help!
Support to be paid? My husband pays his ex wife but they won't tell us her overall attendance for college?
I am querying if he should still be paying now that his child has left college?
Also if he should have been paying, as it was an apprenticeship? So his child was only in college 1 day a week (less than 12 hours).
And is it his responsibility to inform CSA?
Also if I don't have to pay anymore maintainance who determines how much arrears I have to pay monthly?
My daughter is coming up for 19doing her exams at college and wanting to go to local uni where she will continue living with her mum
My question is this when they are working out the student and maintenance loan will they take my earnings into consideration? Even tho I don't live with my daughter and her mum ? Her mum earns about 15 k a year and gets £400 a month from me so she's under the 25 k threshold will they take my 50k earning into consideration even tho I'm not part of the household ?
Thankyou
I have 3 children ages 11 still living with her mom,18 living with her boyfriend, n 20 living at his moms.
When i split from ex i agreed to pay morgtage as child maintenance.
But i shouldnt be paying now for two of children now.
Ex will not discuss matters .
I am in a I.V.A. agreement so money short.
I have contacted solicitors to try divorce,but they want silly money up front ,that i cant afford.
What can i do??
Is there one who can help.
She has officially left school now.
She is still living at home with her mother.
She is in part time employment.
Do I need to pay the mother any maintanance after she is 18.from an agreement that was made between her and my self.
She cut me out of her life 2 years ago
I have paid maintenance always on time to my ex.
My daughter text my phone today to say she is in further education
Can I hold the maintenance payment until I have proof she is in further education. Also how can I find out she is in further education as my daughter won't talk to me.
We have never been down the csa route.
However i have found out more recently that the money i pay each month is playing her and her new husbands mortgage.
Now i no my son needs a roof over his head, however she has breed twice more since having my son 14 yrs ago.
As we have been told from him he gets hand me gown cloths and used to baby sit blah blah blah.
My question is can i stop paying her the money directly and set up a bank account and put his money into that?
This way at least i know the money is not going on her other 3 children.
I have twin - 19 years old now.
One is finishing his NVQ Course at college this July 2017 but has been working Full Time as a Chef earning gull salary.
The other is also finishing his course July 2017 & works Part Time with his mentor (paid work). He will be taken on to do an Apprenticeship once finished college course in July.
I've been paying via CSA for the last 7 years or so.
Their mother just graduated from a Uni course & now works (they live with her)
So they are all in paid work.
I'd like to know if I'm still meant to have over £500 taken from my salary each month & if so.....how long will this go on.
I've rung CSA but they're very vague.
I've no problem supporting my child as I am that way inclined BUT I do not want their mother to milk me or deceive me & the system.
I need to know when and how it will cease please please
Many Thanks
I'm a student and have been offered a place to study at Oxford University next year. My parents are divorced and I live with my mum and my stepdad. As my stepdad has relatively high earnings and is the sole earner in our household, I'm struggling to get the money together for my living expenses at uni, as the loan for living expenses is based off household income (so I get the minimum amount) and my stepdad has made it clear he will not be giving me any money towards uni. My household income also excludes me from any type of bursary, most of which I'd be eligible for based off my parental income.
My dad has also told me he cannot afford to contribute anything towards my living costs at university and in all fairness he has a fair bit of debt and an average income.
Do you think I'd be eligible for a child maintenance extension or is there a way to have my loan based off my parental income?
Thanks
regards
My son has been in full time education, he is at university but still lives with his mum- he works part time -
Mum is now back working full time and hes in to his third year at university -
Am just wondering what age i have to keep paying this for in Scotland ?
My daughter is currently 15 and walked out of school in January 2017 and never returned. Now if she turns 16 at the end of May. When do payments stop as it's highly unlikely she would do any form of education in september
My problem is that I have no way of knowing other than my son and his mothers word if he is still going to be receiving child benefit as the info he and his mum give me is spotty at best. So is there a way I would be able to find out if she is receiving child benefit without the need to rely on the word of his mum? Babe no issue paying but just wanna know where I stand. Thanks
- Gov.uk says (between the age of 16 and 20, if the child is enrolled full-time in school (more than 12 hours per week and the course is up to and including A level), child maintenance for the child must be paid)
QUESTION: if my step-daughter decides to go to the college (after she already achieved A-level) and takes a course which would be considered non-advance education (e.g. NVQ Level 3 or BTEC), does it mean we still need to continue to pay child maintenance until her 20th birthday? Thank you very much
Can someone define this please
As this qualification is higher than A level does this mean maintenance payment can stop? Don't get me wrong, I don't want to stop paying my way, I would just prefer to pay it direct to my daughter rather than my ex wife.
Pay for my daughter and have done fkr the last 17yrs she now turns 19 in September and starts a university placement, when do my Csa payments stop?
Can someone advise?
Thank you in anticipation
I'm after some advice about my current situation with my Son and ex-wife. I've been paying maintenance each and every month for the past 15 years or so, with the amount being calculated by the CSA, although I've been paying directly to her, not via the CSA. When my Son turned 16 the CSA stated that they were no longer "involved" but maintenance should continue as is, which it has. My Son is 18 in August and I've recently discovered that I've been lied to over the past 3 months where I was lead to believe he was still in full time education. It turns out he stopped attending college at the end of December and is enrolled into Job Seekers and is half way through a six week temporary "paid" job (3 days a week) and attends Job Seekers the other two days. At the end of the 6 weeks he might have the opportunity to continue working there as an apprentice. So, my question is, should I still be paying maintenance if he is no longer attending college? I thought that all children had to attend some form of "full time education" in the UK until they are 18? Many thanks in advance for any advice.
Thank you
I thank you again. I shall certainly do that. I know that it is indeed tricky and also aware that ex's DO fib here & there to get funds etc.
Much appreciate this site and all of your input & advise.
Kindest Regards
Sadly I have no way of knowing if the twins are still in receipt of Child Benefit (or their mother)
She s a very closed & secretive person & would view such a question as my prying or meddling. I only need to know whether I ought be still paying out Maintenance as they are turning 19 next week and both doing Apprenticeships & College courses. I DO know that they are definitely both being paid in their lines of work.
I am not & never will fail to support them as they are my life....I merely need a way to find out if she is still entitled to the payments I have been and still am making. Thank you again kindly
my son is currently 16 and still at school, he turns 17 in April.
I pay his mother every month without fail, not through the CSA, (although it used to be, but that's another story!)
basically want to know when I can stop paying her legally?
My plan is to stop paying her and start paying direct to my son, albeit a lesser amount.
We all live in Scotland
Thanks
My husbands daughter was 18 in August and he stopped maintenance payments to his ex and started paying them straight to daughter. She is in college doing beauty nvq level 2. She is now pregnant and with her partner. My husband not sure if he should continue to pay or not? His view is that she has her own family now and it should really be up to her partner to provide. Anybody else go through this and have some advice? Of course we still buy her things she needs etc and will do for the baby too, just like we would if she lived with us. Thanks.
My partner is father to 4 children, one disabled daughter who is 19 and in full time education, a daughter 18 who is in full time education and 2 sons 15 and 12.
He currently finances the family home whilst not lived there for years and they have had that agreement rather than pay through CSA. He now wants to address this and not pay the mortgage but set up CSA for the children. Sorting the mortgage is one issue but with regards to the children are we right to assume that for the 2 older ones that are in full time education he will pay until the end of the financial year they turn 20?
Is their any other payments due ongoing for his disabled daughter?
I know someone who has had an affair, his wife and her parents have threatened to take him for everything if he leaves! They have a mortgage, 2 children aged 18yrs and 20yrs, the 18yr old is at college and the other has just left college. He has 2 army pensions. Where does he stand???
Do I still need to pay child maintenance for my 18 year old daughter?
She left 6th form after 1 year to do beauty level 2 at college.I presumed that I was liable for payments till she was 20 but received a confusing letter recently from the CSA Stating that I was no longer responsible for payments to my ex (through the CSA).
Not sure if this is because she has recently turned 18 and her course is not classed as 'education', or because the CSA is changing the way they take payments.
Thanks
Many thanks chmedaph06 .
I have had a CSA arrangement and have now switched to a CMS arrangement. I have two daughters. My eldest daughter is completing her A-levels this year and wants to go to study in America. I have always assumed that once she finished her A-levels then payments would be reduced for the following September and I would be free to give my eldest daughter some money directly.
My ex-wife has written to me asking for me to commit to a payment that I could make directly to my eldest daughter for her study abroad, but I'm concerned that if I do this now, and find out that the CMS payments do continue without reduction, then I will be in financial trouble. My relationship with the mother is strained at best and I know appeals would fall on deaf ears.
Am I right in thinking that the CMS payments will be reduced in September? Is this something that I need to lodge with the CMS at the time or now?
Many thanks
However, when we separated in 2005, both she and her solicitor put in writing that I had agreed to pay maintenance until his 16th Birthday, then it would stop. I agreed in writing and have been paying ever since without a single hiccup. I also got a court order in place over access etc. There were no awards of costs as we sorted between our solicitors.
I have already spoken to my son prior to this letter and told him I would give him a monthly allowance (direct to his account, to be kept between us) so he can do things with his friends etc plus buy him anything else he needs like clothes etc.
I know the law changed a few years ago but as we agreed as part of the settlement and its in writing, does this stand?
Thank you.
I have informed my son that even though I am no longer paying if he requires anything to get in touch and I will sort it.
He actually hasn't been in college since last October but only just removed.
Do I still give maintenance
If my daugther turns 18 an is therefore deemed an adult. Can I make my CMS payments directly to her?
Many thanks
my partner lives with me and her two kids..
Alex is 20 and works full time but Olivia is 17 (Nov 2016) and is at college 16 hours a week and doesn't work. My Partners ex husband pays maintenance currently, when will this stop?
She has already said that due to my son doing an apprenticeship, the maintenance will continue. I just really need clarification
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Just looking for some advice really. My husband has a court order for his daughter which includes parental responsibility and defined contact. For the last few years his daughter has decided she wants no contact as she blames him for leaving her mum when she was 2, and despite her mum going on to have several further relationships and children his daughter can't see that there are 2 sides to every story.
Until that point we drove 100 miles every other weekend to collect and return her to her mums house. We pay maintenance through the service but have no idea if she is in collage, working or what ? as she refuses to see us or talk to us. Her mum will not tell us anything as she wants the money so she doesn't have to work despite all of her 6 children being in school.
My question is how do we find out if his daughter is working / at college/ or sitting around doing nothing ??
My husband and I work and have 2 children of our own we get by but don't have much to spare. We will always follow our responsibility but im angry at having to pay for a child (16) who we don't see and have no information about. Now she is a teen we recieve abuse and nasty comments which I feel are fuled by her mum and it seems so unfair.... help??
His mother will not be honest and tell us she will expect payments to continue.
When I spoke previously to members of the child maintenance team they said I didn't have to pay once a child was doing courses higher than A level? Very confused. They also said they do not have the power to get any money back if i continue to pay only to later find out I didn't need to? It's not fair...
I cannot afford this amount of money as I have personal bills which I am paying along with household bills for my wife and her son, I am currently paying my daughters mother £260.00 per month.
Where do I stand and what can in do.
This was when he was 16.She wanted me to pay for school uniforms,shoes,coats and the main and most expensive Christmas/birthday presents which I did.This was so she could claim child benefits and informed the dole that she didn't know of my where abouts but I still had the children on weekends.
My "son"is now 20 and dosnt want to be part of my family.i am in the process of having my name removed from his birth certificate. I would like to know if I am liable for maintenance for my daughter who is now 18 and in full time work.also could I recoup the £520 paid for the DNA test? Best regards Darren
Thank you
Peter
My daughter has recently been diagnosed with a form of autism. She is going to be 16 soon and there is little chance of her going onto further education. Therefore, I would like to know if I can stop paying child support to her mother and start giving her the money directly?
Thanks
Child maintenance payments usually stop when the child reaches 16 (or 20 if they’re in full-time education up to A-level or equivalent).
Child maintenance can also stop if, for example:
the child stops being eligible for Child Benefit
Now then, also from the same website.....
When approved education or training ends
When your child leaves approved education or training payments will stop at the end of February, 31 May, 31 August or 30 November (whichever comes first).
So, if your child finishes school or 6th form during May, then they will also become ileligible for child benefit from 31st May.
The way I read it, if they become ileligible for child benefit then you also no longer need to pay child maintenance.
If they finish after the 31st May however, you will need to continue paying until the end of August.
"payments shall continue until the child reaches the age of 17 or ceases full time education"
It does not state anything further and reads exactly as above, my child left school at 17 after completing A levels and went to university, court are trying to enforce payment until she reaches the age of 23 as this is when her university course ends, I've tried to argue "full time education" is up to A level but Magistrate is saying full time education includes University
Any ideas?
I wish to stop child maintenance payments to my ex-wife and put them in my daughters bank account when she turns 19. My daughter lives with her mother and attends college 3 times a week (8hrs a day). She'll be 19 next April. Where do I stand on this. Please help.
Really is bringing up a 17 year old free now?
I am still having to pay for her phone, travel, food etc.
Cab he legally stop these payments?
Can anyone gives some advice please
What should I do.?
Please help?
1. My son is 16 and his college refuses to give me access to his college records so I do not know if he is still at college. Do I not have a right to this information or because he is over 16 does he have the right to say i cant. If i have no right to this information does he have to right to my payments to keep him there?
2. He is living with my ex girlfriend who is not his mother. ( i apparently am too strict) and both me and his mum pay 15percent of our wages as well as tax credits and CB, so she is getting maintenance off both of us. Should she not get 7and a half percent of each of us?
my father was paying maintenance ever since I was in grade 11 cos of the fights they had with my mom, so ever since then he hasn't done anything for me, can I get him to pay my university fees, can I get him to buy me stuff or should I go n cancel the maintenance before I get that im so confused n hating the tension between me n him.
please help.
Thanks
Thanks,
Ray.
Is an online course considered Full time education? should I still be paying?
Any help would be welcomed
Thanks
I'm really confused.
So if my son gets his GCSE results when he's 16 and then decides to go to sixth form college, do I still have to pay or can I stop?
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My daughter has just turned 18 has a part job and is starting college in September.
Do I still need to pay? also it was an agreement between me and her mother that I would money into her account each month (mother) .I would to know that if I can stop that and support my daughter between us when needed instead of going paying into her mothers account.
Thank you
Kind regards.
Many Thanks
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Who is responsible notifying the CMS if the child is to continue in education or not?
If they don't tell him and the son leaves education and my partner carries on paying - is he able to recoup that overspend? How will that work?
Thank you
Is my husband entitled to claim this money back?
My ex has said he does not have to pay child maintenance to me anymore, but I thought he still had to pay me until he finishes his college course. Does he have to still pay maintenance, or because we have shared residence, does he not have to pay me at all? Please can you let me know who is correct?
My daughter 16 is now to study at 6th form for 2 years.
At 18 she wants to go to university which will be a 12 hour plus education.
Question is when do I stop paying at 18? or do I continue paying through her university course till she finishes which could be quite a long time
Thanks in advance Mark
I called them today owing to ex-partner application and discovered that it would have cost me nearly £13.00 just to give details and be told what the whole process would entail!
csa has overuled this and upped my payments disregarding the legal paperwork.
They are now asking for me to draw up a legal document as they are disbanding.
complete piss take.
Is this right ?
My husband has been paying child support direct to his ex-partner.
His son will turn 19 in 5 weeks time and has applied to go to University.
Will my husband have to pay child support till he turns 20 or does it stop when he turns 19?
thanks
PS HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE GONE ON AND PRODUCED MORE CHILDREN WITH YOUR CURRENT PARTNERS!!!! YOU MIGHT BE PAYING FOR A LONG TIME, GET A VASECTOMY THEN YOU WON'T HAVE THE WORRY....
Daughter is 18 (Birthday Jan 2016) She is on CMS (new Scheme having been transferred). She has just finished a 2 year college course and we thought our payments would stop September 2016. She has since enrolled on another college course which starts on 01/09/16, and will run a year. Is it right that if she doesn't enrol on another course prior to her 19th Birthday (Jan 2017), then any payments would stop on the 1st September 2017 (after this current course). Will we be told to pay until her 20th Birthday, it seems to drag on and on, with the parent receiving payment looking for anyway to keep getting £300 a month. In any case if definitely stops on the child's 20th Birthday?
As my company has cut done on overtime over the past im struggling to make ends meet.
Am I entitled to cancel csa for my eldest and continue to pay for my younger children?
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Ive just found out my so called daughter has changed her name through deadpoll to my ex wifes new husbands surname!
Theoretically the person ime paying csa to Does NOT exist, does this mean i stop my payments??
Also seeing as ive no contact, how do i know if my daughter is working or not??
If its proved she is working, can i claim any money ive paid back??
i have no contact with him or his mother and haven't for years, i only hear little things through a distant relation.
i would like to know when i can stop paying my csa payments ?
i have rung csa this morning and they have no record of me ( how ridiculous ) they said i should ring my ex-wife and find out what he is doing, what a joke she would never tell me after all the lies she has told me over the 17years we have been split up.
i am at my wits end with the secretive and no definitive answers or information from anywhere.
any help would be greatly appreciated.
Many Thanks.
Does this constitute further education, do i need to continue paying Child support??
Thanks you in advance for your help
Marriage and the child turns 19year old this year
Can anyone tell me dose the CSA stop
As he is not going into any further education.
Hit a tree stump with no awnsers or help.
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Could any one tell me do I still have to pay maintenance for my daughter (23 years old ) Left uni and now doing a masters degree is this classed as further education as the courts say I have another 13 months to pay
When would CSA payments cease? I am lead to believe the 31st August (same time as child benefit) but would working effect this?
My son and daughter, both 16, are about to start college courses. 1 is doing a sports coaching course and the other is doing an introduction to construction course. Are these 'non-advanced' or not higher than A level equivalent'?
I am asking as I am curious and not because I want to withdraw maintenance support. After all, I asked for my kids, they didn't ask for me and I am more than happy to continue contributing to their upbringing.
Your help in clarifying this query would be very appreciated.
Ron
Yours in stress
yolanda stemela
Many Thanks.
Johnybaby.
She has recently completed a BTEC (accelerated completion in advance of the contemplated completion date), so is no longer in full time education.
She went to the USA two weeks ago on holiday (or so we all thought) and announced yesterday that she will not be returning. She applied for a visa in the UK several months ago (unbeknown to us), and now will attend some vocational course there.
According to the government website, maintenance payments may stop if the parent with care is no longer providing that care.
Are we correct to assume he can stop making payments to the mother and support the child directly now?
His girlfriend has taken his son to America as she has married. He continues to pay support at 15% as per UK guidelines ( in fact he vastly overpays, his choice) but she is now insisting that he pay according to US rates including a portion of the cost of his home. Does anyone know the legal position?
Other than being in shock at the time, I agreed to pay some monthly maintenance which I continued to for about 9 years. Then I ran into hard times and stopped paying her money. I will admit that I don't not feel I should have had to pay at all because in my opinion she kidnapped the children in the first place. This isn't about love, I love them and always gave more money when I could, this is about her stealing the kids. Anyway, now the UK has been asked to make me pay the backdated money from when I stopped in 2010 and current maintenance. I am on benefits (JSA) and I know they can't take back-dated maintenance from JSA. The question I have is can the foreign court make me pay current maintenance under their laws or UK law? I ask this because the "kids" are now 19 and 21 but in your article it says the courts can make a parent pay for a child to attend higher education if they have the means. I clearly don't have the means but I still would like to know under which law the UK would apply the decision of a foreign court (now member of EU if it matters) regarding this matter. Thank you.
My fiance is widowed and has 3 children age 22,26,29,the one age 29 is working but left home and is not contributing on household needs,the other 2 the one age 26 is unemployed and is not even trying to look for a job,the age 22 just got a job but goes out with friends to eat out. Their father buys them grocery,pay electricity amd water and they all have children who stay with them and their father.Is he stll obliged to maintain them?
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Brian
I believe I can go back to court and reapply for her.
Question is that they look at my husbands of now income as well as my daughters father. Would it be better for her to apply when she is 18 and do they take into account at this stage my husbands salary?
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If last year is there anything I can do about it as I didn't file a change of circumstance last year?
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Just need to know if its means tested ?
Courses are not approved if paid for by an employer or ‘advanced’, eg a university degree or BTEC Higher National Certificate. As your daughter's course is a BTEC foundation, then you would still be eligible to pay.
Please could someone advise me if I have to pay for my 18 year old daughter from September this year.
She has completed a two year college course in art and design and now is wanting to carry on another year doing a btec foundation degree in art and design.
I'm aware of the non advanced courses that I have to pay for but is next year's course higher education/advanced education??
I have checked the college Website and found this to a foundation to uni without the A Levels.
Yours a confused Dad.
He will be going to harrogate for a 2 year course (training) and will live there over that time apart for when he gets leave
I also believe he will be getting a wage
So my question is will I have to still pay his mum ?
Thankyou for your help
They had their 19th birthday at the start of February 2016.
It was my understanding that my CSA payments would stop once they reached their 19th birthday.
Is this correct?
If not, when would they end?
If you do not know from information provided above, please advise.
My Daughter finished full time at collage at the end of her 1st year she only goes to collage part time now ( 2 days per week) she got a job at Mcdonalds ) non apprenticship) and works in excess of 24 hours per week.
I just need to know if finishing full time education to go into part time education and working will this reduce my payments?
I intend to phone the CSA to enquire about the changes, but i need some\any advice before i do.
Any help will be appreciated..
Thank you.
Looking at gov sites it's a bit of a grey area but the way I read it is that once she's working on a paid apprentiship and doing a nvq on day release then her child benefit should stop.
Please can you give me some positive guidance on this issue thanks.
I'm just wondering if her father can do this?
Went college when she was 16,she dropped out after 1 month.I continued paying the money through standing order even though she never went but the following year she went back and stuck with it.she now wants to go university to study law.when can I stop paying as I am on a modest wage and although I don't want to sound like horrible but I think the payments should come to an end.thank you
Secondly for the last two years my daughter has been working full time (after dropping out of a college course) and still, even though I question this the CSA state that as long as Child Benefit is being paid, then my ex is entitled to my CSA payments. My daughter is 20 this year, does that mean that my payments will stop, as she is NOT in any kind of further education?
My daughter leaves school this year also turns 18 in April, however I have kept paying every month whilst she is at school, she is thinking in college, understand I have to still pay, but she works in her family shop weekly since 16, getting paid also since 17 last year she also works 16 hours in a call centre, why do I have to keep paying even if she goes to college, her mother still gets tax credits etc so they are financially far better off, whilst I still pay
Also he pays maintenance for his 8 year old who comes to stay 2/3 nights a week should he be getting a reduced rate? It varies from week to week depending on his shifts but it's usually 2 or 3 nights a week.
My 17 year old daughter is leaving college at the end of January 2016 to begin an apprenticeship at a solicitors. She will earn £190.00 per week. She lives with her boyfriend although I'm still paying her mum an agreed maintenance. Am I legally obliged to continue this payment if she doesn't live with her mum and mum's partner, both of whom earn more than I do?
Thanks
I pay maintenance for my 3 children, however, the youngest child will only be 14 when I retire. Do I still pay maintenance out of my pension?
She has left college last July due to health reasons, but she can't get a full time job, until she's 18 years. Her father has stopped paying in October last year. He says he no longer has to pay as she's not attending school or he wants to pay her direct. Can he do this ??
Our stepdaughter who does not live with us turned 17 next month and wishes to drop out of college and either get a job or go on an apprenticeship - do we still have to continue support payments if this happens?
I have checked my paperwork and according to the Court Ruling it syas this:
Payments shall be made monthly in advance on the 28th *****
b) blah blah
c) They shall end on the later of the child respectively
(i) Reaching the age of 18, or
(ii) ceasing tertiary education to the end of first degree course unless the court makes an order for the payments to conitnue to a later date.
I have no excuse as I signed it - I was under so much pressure from paying for so many things, House, Maintenance, Rent as well as singularly trying to setup a new home. I cant even recall agreeing to this - but I obviously did :-/
I guess I would have to go back to Court to get this Ruling rescinded wouldn't I?
Thanks again for your help....
Thank you
My daughter turns 19 in January is doing an extra yr at college due to not getting the grades needed for university. She works quite a few hours for macdonalds. Do I still need to pay maintenance for her or does the payments get reduced.
My partner isn't allowed contact with his children, through no fault of his own. However their mum has still got CSA, involved we'd set up arrangements to pay and he is still paying.
My question is with him having no contact with his children how will he know, if his children have even changed their circumstances eg; left or started college/work etc, what I'm getting at is if their mumvcontinues to claim Child Bennifit, despite them no longer been entitled to the income (which she will do) what happens then?
Kind Regards
Paula
If your child starts work or gets benefits in their own right
You’ll stop receiving Child Benefit immediately if your child:
starts paid work for 24 hours or more a week and is no longer in approved education or training
starts an apprenticeship in England
starts getting certain benefits in their own right, eg Income Support, Employment and Support Allowance or tax credits
If so, how do I ensure that the CSA do not continue taking payments from me. I don't want to just end the standing order, but I don't trust them to stop charging me. I live abroad so I'm concerned the phone call will cost me a fortune, being put on hold etc etc....
Should I still be paying and if not what can I do to next to ensure payments stop?
My husband has paid maintenance all her life
She is wanting to stay in education
Apparently and the mother wants us to pay until she is 22
Where do we stand ?
When can payments end as I thought this was at 18
Thank you
What are the rules of CSA payments if my son is working enough hours to buy himself a car, it seems he has more disposable income than me?
I got divorced in UK in 2003 when my ex wife left me for another man whom she was having an affair with. We got divorced in UK and there were no court judgement about any child maitenance and the decree absolute does not state anything about child maintenance.
My ex wife moved got married and did not leave me a fowarding address. I had initially been paying her monthly payments on my own wife for the children. Eventually my cheques were returned by mail, no adressee. I moved to the USA.
My sons are now both 19 years of age and I want to know if I am liable for child payments now ?
He's been living my with family for the best part of the last 2 years on and off and has been there basically non stop since he left college in July, he has hardly spent time at his mum's home.
I see him regularly and keep in touch all the time and we get on great.
Should I now be stopping my payments?
I have no problems helping my son out as we have done throughout his life he's not wanted for anything, I'd rather continue paying towards my family who have been supporting him in past couple of years
Thanks a lot.
My daughter left school and ex wife still claimed child Benifit therefore I had to still pay CSA for her. My daughter as a full time job and because my ex did not i for child Benifit im still paying more money out while they investigate it. However all though it's easy paying direct from my wage I only want to pay what my ex is entitled to. Am I able to cancel direct from earning to direct to my ex and let the CSA work out what I've over paid seperatley ?
To college 1 day a week
Do I still have to pay child maintenance???
Thanku
I was wondering my ex has decided to minute he turns 18 he will not be sending any more payments as he's stopped the standing order payments for the day before my sons18th birthday
My son will still be in education at this point as he's in a boarding college and he has to continue straight on to university
When is the cut off point for my ex ? I've read when he's 20 in full time education but I'm unsure
I have always paid maintenance for my son as a private agreement. He lives with his mum.
he is 19 in February and has stayed on at school. After the summer holidays he has decided not to go back.
he is now going to start a pre apprenticeship course to do plumbing. Do I have to continue paying maintenance?
Thanks Danny
I'm wondering if someone can help me please, my son is 16 and left school in May of this year. He is working as a labourer and will start college for 2 days a week in august as well as carrying on working as a labourer.
Should my payments stop?
Many thanks
Steve Gardner
My son is 17 at the moment and is just about to start college full time to study his Alevels. He re took a year with his GCSEs so is a year older than his peers. This means that he will not finish his Alevels until 2017 when he will be 19 year.
My ex husband has said to him that he can stop paying maintenance once he reaches 18 years! Am I correct in thinking that he will have to continue paying until he finishes his Alevels? My son lives with me full time.
Many thanks
Hazel
Does anyone know what I can do to get more information?
I am told that some apprenticeships that are out there mean she still qualifies for CHB and CMS but I cannot find out what she is on and if it applies or not.
I am going nowhere fast and arguing with CMS and CHB about there inability to talk to each other.
HELP!!!!!
Thanks
NVQs and other vocational qualifications up to level 3, home education - if started before your child turned 16, plus traineeships in England.
Courses are not approved if paid for by an employer or advanced. Advanced training includes, a university degree or BTEC Higher National Certificate. I hope this helps.
Thanks
Why dont the CB office / CSA insist on proof of attendance? Will my CSA payments ever stop?
Courses that are part of a job contract are not approved and you would not have to pay. I hope this clarifies the issue for you.
1 does he have to get an apprenticeship or can he get a full time job.
2 do I need to still pay csaNo
I propose to help her whilst she is at university, is it acceptable to pay her directly (with regards living in student accomodation, and not to her mother ?
Appriciate your help
Also as my eldest has left school and starts a apprentiship I have halved the maintenance Payment fairly in half as I had 2 children I pay for.
This agreement has been in place over 11 years and now she is losing maintenance payment for one child she is going to child maintenance service to get more money.
Can she do this any help appreciated
Please can anyone advise whether the extension will be succesfull?
Can my ex apply for extension although my daughter is now an adult?
Because I have pip do I need to pay any child maintenance because in receipt of pip ?
Any help greatly appreciated
He pasted a year this time and just managed to get a first year qualification .
He is 19 in October .
He has a job and will be working 40 hrs plus a week but may decide on another course .
DO I STILL PAY TO SEPTEMBER REGARDLESS?
IF HE DOES AN APPRENTICESHIP DO I HAVE TO PAY ?
OR HOW LONG IF HE QUALIFIES
HE'S 19 ON 14 oct .
I believe that entitlement to payments has ceased but cannot find any sensible info to confirm one way or another.
Can anyone shed any light on this?
Thanks to anyone who can help as I am unable to afford solicitors costs.
Courses that are part of a job contract are not approved and then you would not have to pay child maintenance. I hope this makes sense.
It also states courses are not approved if paid for by an employer or ‘advanced’, eg a university degree, BTEC Higher National Certificate. I hope this helps.
You advice would be appreciated as my husband isnt in the best of health and this is stress that he doesnt need.
Can you please advise
??
I don't have contact with him.
Thankyou
School she is 14 do I have to pay still
Thank you
i currently pay my ex £170 a month, i pay my daughter £30 a month.
she is now 18 years of age and leaves school once her exams are finished in June. Once she gets her exam results and if she does as well as she hopes she will be going to university until at least 21. what i propose to do is pay my daughter £200 a month as apposed to paying my ex. Is this ok? i do not pay my money through CSA i have a private agreement with my ex for the past 5 years.
My daughter is now coming up to 19 she is far as I can assume in full-time education till this June , she says that she will be staying on at college to do a one day course so am I to assume that the payments for maintenance can cease.
His exam's finish May/June do my payments stop now or September the beginning of the new school year.
Thanks for any advise.
my partners son is 16 years old. Although the law changed that children have to stay in full time education until they are 18, so court papers specify maintenance has to continue until his 18th or he leaves full time education - his is not in full time education, he is doing a work placed apprenticeship earning £12,000 pa. He doesn't attend college.
So we were wondering if this means his child maintenance payments can stop?
would really appreciate your advice and comments
thanks
Am I know able to reduce the payment to 15% instead of 20%, bearing in mind my eldest is over 20 and at University.
My eldest daughter will be 21 in August & my youngest 18 in 2weeks. I make regular monthly payments to my ex for both children, and have done for many years. My eldest daughter is at University and ending this year, & my youngest is at College. My intention's are to pay the same amount of money monthly, Only directly to my youngest daughters Bank Account, NOT my ex's. Am I legally allowed to do this?, and when can I start this if I am.
Many thanks.
I am looking for some information regarding my daughter who has just fluncked out of her college course and she is insisting on maybe getting a job for a few days a week
and her thinking is that she might apply for other courses near the end of the year
She will be eighteen in April 2015 and still stays with her mother.
We all live in Scotland and the question that I am trying to find out, is how long do I need to keep paying her mother maintenance
Am i still entitled to get payments off him until it is her 19th birthday as this is when my child benefit also stops.
Sue
It will be interesting if this goes back to the CSA, they never dealt with it, it went through the courts.
I wondered if the Child was allowed to claim benefits as well as the maintenance off his dad, which has been £100 a week so far, so that's over £5000 a year. Not being mean, but struggling ourselves to live, and I have a son living with us and no support off his dad.
His son has Aspergers Syndrome, so this was the reason for the extension of payments.
His son has been doing a work based training course since May so has now done 6 months.
I also believe that PIP could be claimed by his son? if so would that make a difference to stopping the maintenance payments?
Is he right to think that he can now stop paying because of the work?
If the work training was to stop in January would he then have to pay maintenance\?
Should he of had to pay maintenance whilst his son was doing the training?
My daughter is now living with me and my girlfriend for a few years now and we are her
main carer.
Should the payments stop? Help
I had met my friend with benefit in Japan. She is from UK. We never had any kind of emotional attachments between us.
But She got pregnant. She has moved back to UK. I am a Brazilian and I told her that I donot want to be involved in this. She told me that she will keep the child as it was her only dream since she was young.
Now the question is, can she make me pay child support across continents? I am not on the birth certificate.
And I will be staying out of UK for the rest of my life anyway.
Kindly advice, I am even worried if she ever tries to bomb my future personal life with this child of hers. I am extremely distraught.
Also, a second point, which is probably just tough on my part, both of the 2 previous years my daughter has signed up for a collage course simply so her mother can claim benefits, both years she has done a couple of months, then dropped out of collage but payments have continued until September. When I mentioned this to the CSA, they said that she had 'found a loophole in the system' and there was nothing I could do about it. Is that correct?
Any advice please, especially on the first matter, so that I can get back to enjoying my long awaited holiday.
Thanks.
Steve
I'm thinking of stopping the payments as I don't see him anymore as he's turned against me and not sure if his in college anymore but my fear is that he's nan and grandad have never declared the extra income they get from me but I'm worried if I do stop they could go to csa and get them to back date all the pay even though I pay a standing order each month in their account. So I was wondering if anybody could give me some honest advice on what to do. Thanks.
He Pays £600 per month maintenance to the Mother.
Back in January this year the elder one was advised to leave 6th form ( various reasons) he didn't enrol at college & basically did a part time cash in hand Job from then until Septemberwhen he started a College Course 2 days a week.
My Husbamd (stupidly, I think) continued making maintenance payments in full & I am also pretty certain that Child benefit was claimed for this Son by his mother .Non of which I think should of been paid.
Predicament now is can he rightly claim that money back or reduce future payments.?
At this point I have no ide if the college course is actually a full 12 hours or not.,
My question.
You stop maintenance payments for your children,upon them leaving education? Right?
Some gets jobs, some apprenticeships. Right?
They earn mimimum wage. Right?
They pay their mum minimal rent.right?
So... Why does mum have to subsidise the children until they leave home but absent dads do t?
The rent I charge my children, £20-£25 a week does not cover, their food let alone.water, heating, elect, wifi,petrol etc?
My stepson is 20 in March next year. Can anyone tell me how long after that will the CSA stop? Will it be as soon as he turns 20, a couple of months after?
It looks like his course might fall under the BTEC category. Hope this helps.
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How do I stand for when maintenance payments end? When do they have to end?
Is it from when he gets sponsored by a company?
Is it from his 18th birthday?
Could you please give me some guidance in this matter please!
Many thanks Billy B
Bro I have to keep payments up after 18.
any advice???
He went to a solicitor to legally sort this out. He pays the mortgage on .their. property, and his ex pays him 1/2 of the mortgage. Now the problem has arisen whereby, the document says that 'in lieu of child maintenance' he, my partner will pay his x a lot of money. Now, because one has left school and never has worked a day,he anticipates 'taking a year off' and maybe return to college in Sept 2015.If this is 'in lieu' of child maintenance and my partner shouldn't pay it now the eldest id nearly 19, should it be a case of his ex paying more to him each month?
This is irritating me beyond all measures. Please advise
Last year she went to collage doing a course to do with nursing, supposedly full time.
On speaking to her about how it was going and was she doing OK, she said it was not what she wanted to do, so she wanted to get a job and was not going back to collage this year.
She told me last week that she is going back to do a course on tourism and travel, not sure if full time or not.
My question is when do my payments stop, as she seams to be course jumping because of being under pressure from her mother and if I still have to make payments can I pay them direct to my daughters bank account as she is 18 and an adult.
PS. she works 2 nights in the week and also Friday and Saturday nights in a restaurant.
im a non resident dad ive been paying csa payments to my 2 children
I phoned the school to see how my son was doing in his b tec
business course ,I was told he had left half way through the course.
Icalled csa about this and they told me if shes {ex } still claiming child
mainternance ive still got to pay .
I have no contact at all with my children or ex ,I don't know if my son
is working ,how do I find out ?
Do I call c/m and ask them or legal means
my son finished school this year so do i have to keep paying.. he is 17 this year and is currently working but i dont know if thats full or part time. i have no contact with him as my ex turned him against me but i have heard that he might be doing a college course aswell. i cant find out any information as neither he or she speaks to me and would proberly expect to carry on reieving my monthly payments without telling me about any change in circumstances.
how do i stand..
The law will say no - your husband does not have to support once non advanced education ceases - in this case this would be generally before A levels - support is generally restricted to college.
Thanks
Many thanks
Thanks for any advice
Also at what age is classed as an adult?
My ex husband never paid a penny in child support for 3 of his children to me so how is this fair? please can you look into my questions and get back to me as we are in dia financial difficulty paying £48 a week. which would pay for things our son needs.
His ex wife and her husband who does not work get to go on holidays on dole money. how does that work please. yes i am angry. we dont claim any other benefits.
3 years now since wage was reduced but still paying the amount set before pay cut. Child is only 12 so a long way left to go paying way over £1000 per month based on old higher salary. Also has pay spousal support even though they work now too.
Can it be reduced?
My daughter now receives carers allowance to look after her mum after treatment for a brain tumour, she is unable to drive or work.
How does this affect my payments to support them?
I would also like to say that the system that supports people in this situation is unclear and does not reflect their needs.
When payment stops, it will leave them in a precarious financial position.
I will be saving the money to pay for my daughters university course, but am very concerned about her mums future.
I can't seem to find any advice anywhere apart from that he should stop paying when a child leave full time education but no advice on by how much
Many Thanks
She will be starting college at the end of august 1 day a week as part of her job.
my ex has told me that my daughter still qualifies for child benefit so therefore she qualifies for child maintenance ?
do i still have to pay child maintenance ?
in further education but also working part time roughly
16/20 hours a week
Thanks a lot for any help and advice.
september i have stopped payment to his mother but im going to pay him
his mother thinks i have just stopped the payment as we dont speak she is still
looking for payment and sayed i still need to pay her is this right?
My daughter is wanting to start an apprenticeship in September where she will be in placement for 5 days a week.
Would I still have to pay my ex maintenance ?
Thanks
Stu
Very appreciative of a clear direction on this, thanks in advance.
When will my son's child support payments end
and how much will the csa deduct from my salary for future payments?
Thank you
Csa do not help one bit!!
My partners son is 19 in July and is at college.
We don't actually know what he will be doing after he's due to leave anytime now.
Can you help??
Money.my daughter is not in education no more
So obviously the mother is not happy.
There was no csa involved she is now saying that she is going
To contact the csa put them on to me
So will they ask for arrears if I didn't pay enough
...I just found out that she might of been claiming benefits
For a few years while I was paying her..
And my daughter hasn't been in full time education
Since she was 14...would that mean that she the mother was
Not entitled to child benefit either
I will still give money to my daughter don't get me wrong
But I won't and will not pay it to the mother.
He is leaving college and states he will be working full time at the fast food chain until he finds an apprenticeship. We have no idea if his mum gets child benefit or when she thinks it will stop and says its none of our business. Can someone tell me when we can stop paying maintenance
My court consent order says it should be paid until the age of 17 or finished their full time education. I am thinking of making the last payment in June then paying her direct in April.
What are my legal requirements?
I look forward to your responce and for your information where to go and who to contact regarding this matter.
Kind regards
Nick
Most dads are willing to help their kids but simply fed up with being ripped off.
THANKS CHARLIE
THANKS CHARLIE
Both boys now in their twenties and dropping constantly from uni, then starting a new degree and dropping out again. He continues to pay to his ex wife despite the fact that both boys are over 23! He told me is a court order that as longest they are in full time education, he needs to continues supporting them. I think that he just got two perfect parasites and is lying to me about the court order! Please help
I am pretty sure his new found "mates" have not helped as none of them have continued their education.
I told his mum if he drops out that I will refuse to pay as she had done nothing to help.
We had our boy when we were 16. Yes way too bloody young, It wasn't a joint decision. Her family told me in no uncertain terms that it was tough sh**. I at the time felt we were too young but at the same time felt it was my own fault. I lost my youth and chance to do further education as I had a child to pay for. I have resented her and her family pretty much ever since but I have financially supported my son as well as being there and have a fairly good relationship with him.
I do not wish to hand over another penny to her. She was fine with him dropping out so she should suffer the financial hardship. I have always offered to have him full time, still offer that and I wouldn't want her money. However I am not local to him so not an ideal situation for the boy which I understand. Am I wrong for wanting to do this? Not wanting to hand her a penny again.
should he resume or take up collage to do A levels I would of course pay. But not before and not after.
if he needs anything like clothes etc, money for the cina he gets it. I also pay pocket money weekly which I have never included in what she gets. Thats his.
I am now 34. Engaged, and wish to start a family shortly as a JOINT decision.
Hope I make sense. Excuse any typos!
I reside in Scotland as does my ex-wife and 3 children, son aged 16 and twins aged 12.
My 16 year old son has left school after Xmas break and has applied to join the Army (application process ongoing). At this time he has enrolled at a local college which offers a short course for those looking to go on to a career in Army.
I have for a number of years had an agreement on the maintenance i paid to my ex (no CSA involvement), but i now want to know if im still liable for my 16 year old son.
Thanks
He has finished his A levels but is spending another year at school
to improve his grades and will finish this in July of this year.
I have been told by my ex wife that I have to continue with
payments until his 20th birthday,is this correct?
I know no longer make payments through CSA but
make payments direct to her.
We have always given child support and any extra that may have been needed. On a number of occasions we have asked for her to come to Birmingham, we have even suggested that she stays with her grandparents if she doesn't feel ready to stay with us.
Now for the past year we have not heard anything from her or her mother. My partner has sent a number of emails and texts but nothing. None of my partners family members have either.
Could you please advise? Should my partner still be paying child support?
Does he have any visitation rights? Is there anything he can do to make the situation better?
Mim
I live in Coventry and my daughter in Dorset. I have always made the trips by car to pick her up and take her back. Now she's 17 years old. I suggested to her mum that my daughter could travel by train because the trips are long and made me tire (sleeping on the wheel) but her mum replied that it is not a good idea as she is only 17.
Am I asking for something that is not right for her age?
Before I use to have a contact court order in place but now she is over 16, so the court order stopped.
Thanks
Just need a bit of advice. My daughter has informed me that she has decided to quit college and she now works for the local council.She did not say when she quit college but was in the last couple of months. She will be 18 in February do i still need to pay the CSA maintenance? or will this stop when she is 18 or in September of next year.
Many thanks
Do l still have to pay child support to my ex wife considering that I am married over 12years and have another child of 12 years old living with me and my present wife.
many thanks
gets £50 for this not going to college do l have to pay maintenance
Do I still have to pay now he lives abroad?
I believe he's 19 years old in 2 weeks, will my payments automatically stop?
Do the CSA inform you when you should stop paying?
I heard the Parent with care must tell the CSA when their child leaves full time education, but who enforces that? What if they don't say anything just to keep the payments coming in?
Why is the CSA so complicated and why do they only employ father haters?!
My daughter is nearly 17 and due to leave school in May this year and as yet has no plans to go to college. How long do i still have to pay child maintanecne to her mum. ????
please advise.
How can I obtain proof that she is enrolled at college ?
Thanks
I have now (April 2013) have received a new weekly instalment notification from the CSA.
Can someone please help me. I am desperate for some help here please.
Anything else is not their business it seems.
He has no intention of passing any exams.
He has just turned 18.
Do I still need to pay?
He has recently been told that he has to pay maintenance for both while in full-time education including university.
Can you please help to clarify this for both children as he is just taking it as read that he must pay.
Thank you
I've been paying them for 10 years. I don't mind the fact that I have to support my 'child' (deemed adults at 17 right?), now reading some of the comments above it now seems ill be paying till she is 20?! How on earth can that be right?! Fair??
I was informed that if my partner moved in with me that they would take her income into account! The mother has been married and had another child but they (csa) don't take her husbands income into account when calculating my assessment?! Fair??
When you ring them they treat you like some sort of criminal! I've had nothing but bother with them on most occasions whilst speaking to them on the phone. I now refuse to speak to them and correspond by mail only.
I notice they have stopped sending annual statements now?
I don't want to wish my life away but I can't wait till I no longer have to deal with them, they bring nothing but stress to your life with little concern.
In my eyes the csa are totally corrupt and one sided and are a disgraceful organisation who have more than likely pushed people litterly over the edge!!
My question is when do I stop paying her mother £290 per through the CSA?
The payment is taken straight for my wages by my employer so I'm concerned this will continue after she is 19.
How do I get the paymenst to stop?
I would phone the CSA for advice but every time I speak to an analyst they treat you like a criminal. I've 3 other children and have been married for 12 yrs and I've paid CSA for 17yrs. I still want to support my daughter whilst in education but not to the tune of £290 of which she is currently not seeing a lot of as she also works part time to support herself.
Hope you can help
I have called the CSA about this and seems hat i am still liable to pay because my daughter is in full time education still even though she has now become a parent and decided to go sick from her college ? Pregnancy is not an illness? This is morally wrong? What can i do about it?
I have also told by the CSA a week ago that due to new legislation i will liable to pay CSA until my daughter now reaches her 20th birthday? There has been no correspondence from the CSA in regards to this new legislation ? Neither has there been any media coverage or anything from the government stating the changes? Can the government and CSA just change the age limit without no correspondence to us the csa clients as they like to call us ?
nto thinking by her mum into thinking that she
staying on for 6th year my daughter but my daughter had left school has had 2 jobs and is still working one of them. because she has decided to start college after a year out ive been contacted by the csa asking for payments to start again as its not continuation of education am I liable as she is over 18? I dont mind giving her the money but the csa wont listen to my case im now going to consult a lawyer woul like feed back as I feel im the victim of lies from the csa
My daughter stayed on school to study for A levels. She decided after her first year that the grades she got were not good enough and repeated that year. This means that she will be in full time education beyond her 19th birthday. I will still be supporting her both financially and emmotionally, as you have pointed out in your article. What I would like to know is, will my CSA payments cease when she is 19, so I can set up a direct debit to her personal bank account for her own financial support or will they continue to then end of her school term?
P.S I live in Belfast, Northern Ireland. Not sure if the CSA differs here from the mainland UK.
Regards,
Michael Kane
Will i need to pay maintenance after this time ?
Thanks
I have been forced to move to a very small flat and my mortgage is high to pay monthly, I am also paying £500 monthly on CSA which i can't afford to pay off new mortgage, can it be lowered down for CSA, I will still contribute to my children as I love them dearly and every visit, I also buy and pays things for the children. I am going to court for more access for my children as she had been very difficult with this issue.
Please let me know if I could lower the rates on CSA to help me ease off to pay the morgage as well as I need a place for my children when they visit weekly and staying overnight.
Please let me know soon !
not seen my younger son for 4 years no
and not just give the moneys and no see ,,
not right
I am unsure whether these are actually A or AS levels as the colleges web site does not seem to stipulate what level of qualification is awarded.
I have contacted the college asking for verification whether my daughter is a full time student and what qualifications she is expected to achieve.
Long story but I am a non resident parent living abroad and going through court processes in regards maintanence.
My former wife and myself are not on speaking terms so it is difficult to get the information.
My question is..... do I still have to pay maintanence if my daughter is not studying for A or AS levels but a certificate in non specific courses or land based courses?
Can he insist my ex-husband contribute, he (dad) did not wish contact with his sons in the 11yrs we've been apart, or will I be the sole provider. ps my son took a full time job as a break from education for a gap yr, but has lost his job owing to his college place as employer can't give P/T?
Thanks
When do my CSA payments stop?? I cant get any clear answers from anyone.
I was under the impression that if the child was to go to uni then the payments stopped straight away ie, sept. Alternative to this is the dole or working in which case it would stop. How would I know any of this if we are not in contact?
If she was to return to college or take up an apprenticeship scheme would I have to continue payments until her 19th birthday or until the end of the next academic year??
many thanks.
Is this classed as further education or not? Do I still have to pay maintenance while she is at college for a year.
This website states that it should continue until the child's 19th birthday, even if they are at University and yet NACSA and the HMRC info page say that this is only the case if the child is still in further education, not higher education, ie, University.
I have asked Separated Dads to advise as to where they obtained their information regarding this.
I read above "If they carry on to further education or university, then you are committed to maintenance payments until the end of the school year when they turn 19"
Yet my understanding is that University is not covered.. only Further Education.. if the agreement (Consent Order) says "until the end of Full Time Education or the agre of 17" for instance. So where are the Black ans white answers to:
1 To What age does the parent (absent) have to pay
2 Does it include University.. what does it include
3 From what age can the Absent Parent pay the Child rather than the mother
4 What happends if One or Both Parents Live abroad.. does Juristiction move from Britain ?
5 Even if there is no responsibility to pay.. what is the proposed CalculationMethod.. Post the Legal required age..i.e. for how much Mother and Father Pay
6 If the Mother (or Father) deliberately moves to make herself unavailable for work, in case 5, can her Capital be taken into account
7 What Law/s Lawas are the Legal point of references
8 Where is the Cheapest but most effective place to get legal answers to such questions
My eldest child has recently graduated from full-time education at age 19 and almost immediately gained full-time employment.
Will my maintenance payment automatically be adjusted for this, or do i need to contact the CSA and start a lengthy process?
She wants to learn to drive, and i'd rather put the money directly towards that than my ex's wine habit...
I stopped paying for my eldest daughter when she went to Uni 2 years ago.
Both my twins have finished college this month and were 18 some months ago when do I stop paying my ex direct. I want to help them as much as I can but I can't do both.
Thank you
and will upping her hours to 40 hours for 3months then she might then do next
course or stasy in job .so is right once they starting doing a full time hours
her child benifit stops and the csa payments ?
My next payment is due on the 15th June which I will be paying.
She turns 19 on the 11th July 2012 and she will take her final exams the end of June.
Will the June payment be my last as she will be 19 in July?
Thanks.
Since January 2012, she has been residential in an adolescent mental health hospital and for the last couple of months been sectioned under the mental health act for treatment of anorexia.
Do I legally need to pay the CSA whilst she is being detained in hospital? I know it may be perceived by some as I'm being mercenary, but if I am not required to pay, particularly into her mothers bank account then I would much rather take control of the financial situation and put the money to one side for her when she comes out.
Firstly am i bound by the court order? Secondly what options do I have if the court order would still stand, as my income is lower and I have struggled to make the payments (but always have) and have significant debt built up since the court order?
Also I have remarried and have a young step child that I have never brought into the financial equation
Help!
When my daughter goes to university in September 2013 at the age of 18 will I have to pay any more child maintenance.
thanks
I currently pay this along with extras such as after school club, university savings account and among the other costs us Dads incur just to be with our child.
I think this system is grossly unfair and makes out the woman to be giving all the goodies and love to the child whilst the father is cash strapped and stripped of his monies and financial worth.
Very unfair and the CSA mallet is always above your head even if you private pay like myself.
Many thanks
My daughter will be 19 years old in 27 October 2012, she will do her A level exams in June 2012 and is likely to start university in September 2012. When should I stop paying CSA maintenance, in June 2012? in September 2012? in October 2012? or maybe only at some point in 2013?
My son is 17 years old and is now in 6th form. He is also working (he has one part time job and is applying for others). When my daughter left school and went to college she was working part time in Boots. I reported this as my ex-wife should have, but didn't. The CSA stopped the payment immediately and my ex-wife had to repay two months payment.
Am I correct in that my ex-partner who I have my son with should report the change in status to the CSA i.e. that he is working now? Given that the CSA stopped the payments at 17 for my daughter am I correct in thinking that they should now stop collecting payments as he has a part-time job (as well as being in full time education)?
Many thanks.
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