I'm not on my son's birth certificate and his mother and I are separated. I'm now in a new relationship and have another child and one on the way.
The thing is my son is only five and no longer wants to live with his mother. My ex contacted me and told me to collect my son as she didn't want him anymore. She said all this in front of him and he was very upset and says he wants to live with me forever.
I'd just like to know how I stand as I'm not on his birth certificate.
What does it mean if you're not on the birth certificate?
If your name is not on your child's birth certificate, you do not automatically have parental responsibility. This is the legal term for the rights and duties a parent has towards their child, including making decisions about their education, medical treatment and where they live.
However, if you were married to the mother at the time of birth, you have parental responsibility automatically, whether or not your name appears on the certificate. For unmarried fathers, being named on the birth certificate after 1 December 2003 also grants automatic parental responsibility.
Without parental responsibility, the child's mother can make all major decisions without consulting you. She could allow your child to spend time with you, but she would also have the right to ask for them back at any point. You would have no legal standing to refuse.
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There are several ways to gain parental responsibility if you are not named on the birth certificate:
- Re-register the birth to add your name (you will need the mother's cooperation, and this applies only if the original registration did not include the father's details)
- Sign a Parental Responsibility Agreement with the mother
- Apply to the court for a Parental Responsibility Order
If you are on good terms with the mother, a Parental Responsibility Agreement may be the most straightforward option. This is a formal document that both parents sign, which must then be witnessed and filed with the Family Court. Once registered, it gives you the same parental responsibility as the mother. That said, interpersonal dynamics can complicate even legally simple processes.
Having parental responsibility in place means you have legal grounds to be involved in decisions about your child. It can also strengthen your position if disputes arise later about living arrangements or contact.
Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.
What if the mother will not agree?
If the mother refuses to sign a Parental Responsibility Agreement, you can apply to the Family Court for a Parental Responsibility Order. Before making a court application, consider whether mediation might help resolve the dispute. Many courts expect parents to have attempted mediation first.
The court will look at factors such as your commitment to the child, your relationship with them, and whether granting the order is in the child's best interests. Courts often grant parental responsibility to fathers who can demonstrate genuine involvement and a positive relationship with their child, though outcomes depend on individual circumstances.
If paternity is disputed, DNA testing may be required to establish that you are the biological father before the court considers your application.
You do not need a solicitor to make the application, though many fathers find legal advice helpful. Citizens Advice and some local law centres offer free initial guidance. The Family Court has its own forms and guidance notes available through GOV.UK.
Why this matters
Parental responsibility is not the same as having your child live with you, and it does not automatically give you contact rights. But it does mean you have a legal stake in your child's life. Schools, doctors and other authorities must recognise your role as a parent.
It is worth noting that fathers without parental responsibility may still have financial obligations for child maintenance. If you are unsure about your current legal position, getting clear on parental responsibility is a sensible first step.
After a few months she informed me she was pregnant
Prior to this I knew she had mental issues but cared for her
She was abusive controlling and had mood swings
We broke up
At present
She wouldn't put me on birth certificate
Is being very difficult in allowing me to see and bond with my son
Continues to control change and make it difficult to visit and see my son
I cannot afford legal help
I am asking for advise regards me trying to bond and have consistent visitation with my son to build a healthy relationship with him
My other concern is her mental health and how that will impact on my sons development happiness and welbeing
Any advice appreciated
He's paid £200 every month since the child was born and had contact for the 1st year. There has never been a relationship between him and the baby's mother.
The mother suffers from irrational behaviour and thoughts and has caused great anguish to my son, posting horrible comments about him on social media and sending hundreds of irrational and vile texts. All of which have been lodged with the police. Due to this, he had to stop the contact 6mths ago because of what she was implying.
He has recently contacted her to set up mediation to try and see his son. He would like to have him 50% of the time, so I suppose that would be joint custody.
But is now worried about what effect involving the police will have on his chances of seeing his son.
Should he forget about involving the police and go for mediation and if this doesn't work go for a Court order. Or carry on with the police investigation and then apply for a Court order for joint custody.
I have a 5 year old. Who very rarely sees her biological father. At a push she will see him once every 3 months for a weekend. Without any communication in-between.
He is not on my daughter's birth certificate, he did however get a DNA test done when my daughter's was 1 year old. (Not because of an affair but because he got married and wanted out of the responsibility of our daughter)
I worry about what will happen to my daughter if I was to die.
At the moment I live with my mum, my daughter has an amazing bond with my family and also with my partner. I worry so much that if she was taken to live with her father she wouldn't see her family that she has been with all these years.Her biological father lives 3 hours away from us. I would like to know what his rights are if something happened to me. Would she automatically go to him? Should I write a will or is that pointless?
I appreciate any advice anyone can give me
Many thanks x
If I’m not on the birth certificate, should I be paying child maintenance? The reason I’m not seeing him is because my ex partner states that he’s not well enough to have any contact with me.
I want to keep paying my initial payment but the payment as significantly increased this year and now I’m struggling to pay.
She wishes to change her name to mine, and also wants me to be able to make decisions on her behalf if the need ever arises, the Mother is fine with all of this, the sticking point may be the father named on the birth certificate.
Is there anything we can do formally to grant everyone's wishes and remove the named father from her life altogether.
He passed away without making a will.he lived with his partner for many years,but never married.So she has no legal right to make a claim against his estate.
He has left a large amount of money £160,000 & a House valued at £120,000. lt now transpires he had on son who is now sixty years old.He has now made a claim on my uncles estate for everything.
My uncle never married his mother,& my uncle is not named on his birth certificate.l obtained a copy certificate from the General Register Office.Only the mother is on the certifiicate in her maiden name.
Nobody in our family ever knew a had a son,so you can imagon the shock of finding this out now.
My uncle told me & others family members at my mothers funeral in May this year that a son exsisted & lived in Scotland.So the first time l ever met his alleged son was at my mothers funeral this year.
My uncle told me & others many times at the funeral and afterwards he did not want anything to do with his son who had been pestering for years demanding my uncle hand over to him his house & all his money. My uncle had nothing to do with his son, & disowned many years ago with no contact at all betwreen them.Only by phone,which after a period of time he refused to take his calls.My uncle told me he had disowned his son many years ago because he was ellegatly a drug dealer & was sent to prison.
Because of that & other rows about his money etc my uncle wanted nothing to do with him. Which his son is fully aware of this, but kept on bothering him for many years right up to my uncle passing away this year.
His son then tried to get my uncles death certificate from the hospital where my uncle passed away. They refused to give it to him as he did not have any proof of identity to establish he was in fact my uncles son.
He said he would prove it by having a DNA test done.l don't know if he had that done,he has refused to tell me any results.But his solicitor went to court to obtain a order to get my uncles death certificate which has now being given to him.So arangments for my uncles funeral can now to take place,but again he has refused to tell anybody the date or where or when the funeral is taking place.Not even my uncles partner knows any details.
Finally to my point.
My uncle passed away without leaving a will ( intestate)
Does his alleged son have the legal right to his whole estate?
As my uncle is not named on his birth certificate is he ( his son a half Sibling ?)
What will now happen to his sole claim to my uncles estate?
Are other siblings like myself entitled to a share of his estate as l am next to kine?
l would be very grateful for any advise or infomation on the above matters.
Than you for any help you may be able to help with this.
As all these stories go, Ex and I split up. Turns out she's pregnant, She gives birth to a boy. Kept me in the quiet. Registers the boy with no father. She "meets" someone new. Falls pregnant. Baby 2 is born. Both Ex and new partner register baby 2 with both Mother and fathers name. Re-Registers Baby 1 with new Partners names as Dad on the birth certificate. (Roughly a year after baby 1 was born). Fast forward 10-11 years. Ex pops up from out of nowhere. Saying that she has told baby 1 that I am his Dad and that I am now allowed to see him. I go through courts for access and Parental rights. I was given access. Two years of hard work and she then again disappears with "My Son". Fast forward another two years. Ex's new partner (Partner number 3 i think ??), Is at my front door with "My son", Saying he is now your responsibility. Then leaves him with me with nothing but PJ's. So I do what any other Dad would do and take him in and help rebuild his life. So, I go to get his birth certificate to find out that Partner 2's name is on the birth certificate. Also that I have no legal responsibility for "My Son" as I was only granted access. Mentioned this in a heated conversation and the next thing I know is that they have taken "My Son" to Ex's Aunties. Now I find out that the poor lad is going to be kicked out of his Aunt's and they want me to take him in. At this point, I have no idea who the Original father is, If it is me, Well it goes without saying. If it's Partner number 2 who has been paying CSA for all of this time (Well when he is not inside). Or if it's a random person's kid and we are all being played. Also, can she force the lad to stay here ?. I know that if he does, she can call the police and say that I have kidnapped him. :/
Im not your ex
I dont like a punch to the face
Nor did my ex partner other childrens mothers who also have restrsing orders
Move on you sound bitter at some one else
@chris
What are the lies the criminal records or the mental health ones ?
He was disgusting to me via text when I told him I was pregnant I’ve saved the messages.
He’s never tried to contact me then shows up at my mums house 2.5 years later demanding he sees his daughter.
Before he left he was talking about his violent past that he has never been caught for no record etc which is why I obviously stopped seeing him back then but not actually knowing I was already pregnant.
He now wants access but lives abroad.
I gave him my number and now he won’t leave me alone saying he wants more children with me and to come and live in the uk
I’m scared to death he’s going to try and take my daughter or even try to be put on the birth curtificate so he can take her
He’s not on birth curtificate now what can I do he is no way a suitable parent he’s a great liar though so I’m sure he could convince anyone what a nice person he pretends to be
What can I do to stop all of this?
he is now trying his hardest once again to do what he can to get involved, ....however he has since found out that eh children were removed from the mother and placed into care does anyone know if there is anything my partner can do to at least get some form of contact with his children?
Things then became more hostile when she was at her mother’s but I continued to support her financially. Around this period she suggested I may not be the father of her child and she stopped contact with me and everyone involved from my side.
Around when the child would have been around 1 and a half years, I accidentally met my ex’s mother at an event and after a heated exchange over how they’d cut me off, my friends exchanged contact details with her and sometimes afterward we went to the Midlands to see her and my ex. This was my first opportunity to see my daughter who had a striking resemblance to me and the connection between us when she was told I was daddy was overwhelming. She cried and wouldn’t let go of me. My ex showed me her birth certificate briefly and I wasn’t named as her father.
After this contact, my ex started demanding financial support and wanted a fixed amount. I explained to her I was not working because of my current immigration status but I wanted to support her and my daughter and I’ll be giving her some money regularly but she wasn’t happy with this and she stopped contact again.
Around feb this year, I was contacted by my daughter who spoke with me over the phone, this was very emotional and agonising for me. We kept in touch regularly for about a month and things went pear shaped again. My ex wanted to re-kindle whatever we had going over 4 years ago which I tried to gently sway away from because I am in a happy relationship and I have been with my current partner for nearly 4 years who has been really supportive of me.
I am not working but I have been giving my ex £50 a month since March and my partner has been sending things such as a personal tablet which my daughter asked for, casual and party clothings, educational items e.t.c but my ex is no longer speaking with me because she said it took long before I sent her the initial money and I requested for her address to sent things to my daughter and her personal bank account to send the money I’m giving her but she refused. So now I send money to a bank account which doesn’t belong to her and an address which she doesn’t seem to live in but the items are getting to her somehow.
I don’t know what to do. My current partner works in social services and she wants me to apply for a parental responsibility order but I don
I slept with a women who had seen a few boys at the time and she became pregnant, she’s just had the child. What can she do in order to get me to give DNA that I’m the father and if by chance I am what rights do I have as she’s had a child without knowing who the father is and what will I be expected to do other than pay support as personally I never wanted this situation and especially a child. Just looking at how I can keep as much distance as possible if I’m honest as she’s a very spiteful women
If I can prove through DNA that my son is mine and his mum ain’t put my name on the birth certificate will I be allowed to add my name on the birth certificate without her consent?
Or will it be up to the courts to decide?
Now no one is on the birth certificate
Mother has now called CSA demanding that he is to pay for the child. She wants additional 500£ for DNA. It's been planned for one to be done found via the GOV website at a fraction of the cost. However this isn't suited. She is allowing contact via web and phone but not in person. Just keeps asking for money. Now payments will be starting with immediate affect.
The friend isn't sure if he or his brother is the father. Also he has a wife and 2 kids who had to find this out via social media
So possible marriage breakdown as the financial strain will be too much. Does he have to pay?
I am liable to pay maintenance if Someone else is on the birth cert and mother . I need advice on what I’m able to do .
Moving on I met my wife, we have 2 children together.
For the last 7 years has been hell of hundreds of nasty messages sent to my wife, I pay her csa, yet she will not let me see my son.
All of a sudden she turns up at my work, unannounced with my son shouting and demanding to see me and make (now 11 year old) son tell me what he thinks of me.
Luckily it was my day off and she was asked to leave.
She is now sending my wife messages saying has taken a video of our some telling me what he thinks.
And then says all his emotional problems are my fault. He has stopped contant between us 7 years. I'm now extremely concerned about what type of mother she really is, using him as a weapon. Surly she should be protecting him if she wants me to have involvement, yet has spent 7 years sending me messages how awful i am etc, I'm not on the birth certificate, I can't afford court as i pay csa. I'm thinking of calling social services because making him feel like this at the age of 11 years old, and I'm not able to have a word in edge ways, is the only way i think of making sure is emotional well being is being protected.
and can she backdate csa from four years if I get access to see her ?
He saw his daughter the other day for her birthday and his ex caused an argument, resulting in her breaking his finger in a door and him breaking her car door. They are both at fault. His ex has reported him for criminal damage for breaking the door and was taken down to make a statement at the police station.
What are his legal rights as a parent, who isn’t on the birth certificate, to go through court to be able to see his daughter through a contact cetnre? Thank you!
Thanks
I thought it was good news.
Been giving her money to baby stuff till nearly 2 months that I stop .
We been having argument and saying things to each other and she will be due soon .
Right now I wanted to be part of my kids but from the way things are going I don't know if this woman gonna name me on the birth certificate for me to have OR in order to have a say over my kids .
I have all sort of proof about money going to her accounts and buying baby stuff which shows I'm responsible person .
I need help ?
How to get PR
To have any rights. When she passed away I asked her mother (my child's grandmother) if I could see her numerous times and she told me to back off while she is grieving. I have waited untill she is ready as requested but now she tells me she is applying for a parental guardianship order. This hasn't been discussed with me and I haven't been given a fair chance do I have any right to dispute this
He and the mother have never been a couple although she hoped that they could be. It one of those situations where they met on a night out and 9 months later he found out that he's a father. Of course it was hard for him to accept this especially that he didn't know the girl but he carried on seeing him but everything was on her terms whatever he did she had to be there..
and eventually when she finally agreed for him to have baby on his own she just suddenly stopped him from seeing the child. My partner was only 20yo then and lived far away he tried to see his son but she never allowed it, her excuse was if our son ever asks about you or sees you then I will I don't want you to hurt him etc etc.
Anyhow he has been seeing his son again since december last year but it's not been easy it's all been on her terms she wasn't a fan of my partners mum so his family were not allowed to see his son until last month, he isn't allowed to take him away anywhere unless she's around she wants to play a happy family around their child which isn't something my partner wants.
She always complains about the fact that she has to do 99% of the parenting so he offered to have the son every other weekend from Friday to Sunday but because We live together and she argues with my partner that I am not allowed to see his son she isn't allowing this.. he tries so hard to be a good dad and build a bond with his baby but she's making it difficult. She says keep my son out of your love life and if you end up marrying her or having children together I've isn't going to be there nor meet him..
Please can someone advise me if my partner has any rights or if there's anything he can do to get them through court/ process and chances of winning it. May I add the boy is absolutely absossed with him and loves him so much.
I don't want to play mummy with someone's else's child I'd just be around and be their friend she's scared that that's what I want to do but I would never aim to take somebody's child away from them but it is making our relationship and future plans difficult and almost impossible.
Please can you provide any advice.
My partner has a child from a previous relationship. He is not on the birth certificate but they did have a DNA test when the child was born which the mother had this letter confirming he is the father. He currently pays money directly to the mother each month and this was a private arrangement they made. The mother has made it as difficult for him and his family to see the child and he has now not seen the child for a year due to her being so difficult. He does not know what to do as he is not on the birth certificate and he is still paying the money each month directly to the mother. Please can anybody advise on what he can do? many thanks
this is about my boyfriend, he has a 3 year old daughter, there is no order or criminal records he has to prevent him seeing his daughter, he's tried to get in touch and has been begging to see his child however the mothers response is that ' she doesn't know you so no'. We cant afford courts at this moment in time so what do I do. I'm trying to help the best I can but I am stuck on what to say next.
Separated dad here...
I have a new born daughter (5 weeks) - I was denied access to the birth, not involved in the naming process and asked to leave the house I was sharing with the ex (possible narcissistic personality disorder on the mum's part) as far as I'm aware, I'm not on the birth certificate but have recently been allowed some visits. If I mention anything remotely parental or the birth certificate then she will often get angry, so I walk on eggshells in order to keep some peace. I've had my mediation appointment but she was late to hers and it is now rearranged. The snag here is I am currently retraining on a none payed work placement and living with my parents until I have qualified- so if it goes to court, what are my chances? I'm asking for set contact and parental responsibility...obviously when I finish my studies and gain employment. It's a bit of a pickle and feels extremely unfair. Thanks in advance for any help and support. Good luck.
I had a brief relationship. The girl got pregnant. She told me she didn't want anything from me or me to be involved since she had a new relationship and the new father would take the child on.
Not wishing to have an argument (I am autistic) I relented.
A year later she splits with her man. He is not on the Birth Certificate, nor am I.
She then files for CMS. I request a DNA test (my legal rights). She sent a barrage of abuse.
Now she has got her new boyfriend to get legal responsibility for the child, without my consent (court didn't need it - since I am not on the BC).
I understand I must go ahead with CMS, though still awaiting to get a DNA test done (court authorised version).
How does the parental rights of the new BF affect me?
I feel she just wants cash, but to deny me any fathers rights. No rights no cash in my opinion.
Any advice on what to do?
he did mentally bully me into having his name on there but it has been removed as he had me lie at the time of re registering, I have now rectified this and he is no longer on birth certificate, however because I have told him he no longer has parental responsibility he still assumes that he does, how can I also get contact order changed as my youngest daughter wants nothing to do with him at all, I have a new partner, whom my daughter loves with all her heart and she off her own mind has asked him to be her daddy, please I need help in this matter, also he has never paid any money towards her clothes etc, not even going to cubs, cub camp or violin lessons. where does he stand as regards to having or rather not having parental responsibility
I was married with my former wife (we are from both different countries) 9 years and we have 8 yrs old boy. I was a great family man with renunciant and good manners. In addition to that, my son was so close to me and I was his biggest hero, biggest role model.
We had a perfect marriage first 5-6 years, then she started to change because of her friends. She used to be such a down-to-earth person. But, she became such a snob and show-off person last 2 years. We had some issues beginning of 2015 but we were never in divorce matter. In November 2015, she suddenly said "she wants to divorce". I was in abroad at that time and working hard and away from her about 1 month. Her reason was "I didn't provide her luxurious life, she is beautiful, she is successful, therefore she needs a better life". Shortly after, I came back and tried to fix our marriage. But, she played some games and I had to leave from our family house with my suitcases only in December 2015. I left everything to her and started to stay in my friend's house temporarily. In Jan 2016, I wanted to go back to house, but she changed the locks even if I was on tenancy agreement. Afterwards, she stopped contact with my son and I tried to meet with my son and her to talk about our marriage. She was keep refusing me to meet with my son and also meet with her.
During this time; I regularly had panic attacks (first time in my life), I lost about 20kg, I had sleeping and talking problems. I had to leave from my work because of all these problems as well.
In March 2016, she reported me to the police that "I was harassing her". I was only emailing and texting to her to save our marriage. Police interviewed me and obviously they were from her side. She basically wanted me to stop contacting to her and my son. In the mean time, she took my son away without my knowledge and permission. In June 2016, she took me to the court "to take my all parental responsibilities" from my son. She said so many lies and slanders on her statement. I was totally shocked, speechless..!
In August 2016, I found out that, her new boyfriend moved to our former flat with his son from his previous marriage/relationship while we are still married and on the court process.
In Aug 2016, we had a hearing the judges rejected her order and sent us to SPIP. The judges also told her to show my son to me. I had a lawyer and he was doing his best to get contact with my son. But, she was keep looking for reasons not to show my son to me such as i would kidnap him, I would hit him, I would make him against to her, I shouldn't talk to him in our native language etc. In Nov 2016, we had 2nd hearing and she presented her statement late just to get more time. This postponed our hearing to January 2017. The judges strictly told her to show my son, at least next to the our mutual friends. She said "yes", however she didn't with similar reasons. I did not see my son till January 2017 which was 8 months..!
In Jan 2017
My wife moved to Hawaii from California to get away from him during to his abusive nature. We just want to move on with our lives, and changing her daughter's last name is part of us moving on. I'd greatly appreciate any info on how to go about this correctly.
What are my options if she decides I can't see her or if I have her and she decides out of the blue she wants her back at hers?
Am I in a really terrible situation not being on the birth certificate if communication breaks down completely (which it may do as she's already blocked my number and only contacts me to pay bills).
Thanks in advance
She has even said that im not the dad but then says I am please help me
Can he have any legally right to do it even without my permission?
Thank you
She is saying I will never see our little girl or be In her life when she's born.
I was told that if she knows whom the father is then by law she has to put the name on the birth certificate.
Naturally I want this to enable my parental rights.
She seems to think I will just let this lie but if it takes every last penny I have in court fees I will fight for my daughter.
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated
My ex and I broke up in 2014, the same month I got pregnant. We live in two different countries. I did not Put him on the birth certificate however I give him acces to see his child whenever he wants to. He never put any effort to see the child. And always threatens to take my child away from me because I rejected him. Is there any way to protect myself from him.
And not give him back I don't want my son in Manchester because of his past life with gang violence what rights will I have if he takes me to court
could you please help me out on what rights I have and the mother has regarding the csa
regards dave
or does he have more legal rights if we get married or does he still have to adopt my children
My Son is 13 and is living with his mum, my ex wife. She has bipolar so is up and down all the time, communications with her is very difficult most times and even more so over the past 3 years because I had social services check in with her because she has been treating my son badly, now my son wants to come live with me but I'm
Not on his birth certificate. What can I do?
Thank you.
Is there any way my boyfriend can get a DNA test done with out his mom knowing. Please need to know the answer....
Thanks
I need professional help or advice!
My ex and I broke up when she was pregnant, I told her I would always be there for my son but me and her wouldn't work out but I want to be part of my sons life.
She out of revenge has made the last 2 years hell for me, I didn't know when my child was born until 2/3 weeks later when I 1st saw him, then she refused to answer my calls or texts, 2 months later she contacted me said I could see my kid, I went there then she disappeared for over a 1 year and a half, changed her number, I sent over a mediator to help she refused to open the door twice during that long period, then she decides to contact me, and I have been seeing my kid every weekend for 5 weeks, but she refuses to put me on the Birth certificate and is demanding money if I don't pay she will contact CSA so I told her to do it, she wants maintenance which I have never denied from day one but I want my rights as a father which she is refusing me to have and makes an agreement in writing to benefit her asking somethings I agree with but others where the law doesn't benefit her she bends it to benefit her, all I want is my rights as a father and be on the birth certificate but she refuses, she says she wont give up her son for any sort of money but yet tries to threaten me with the CSA if I don't pay her surely a father that wants to do his part like me, I don't run away from my responsibilities, never have I laid a hand on her or any other woman in that case or mistreated her, this woman has made my life a living hell all I want is to be acknowledged as the father and have my rights but she wont give me anything, I would understand if I was a criminal, drug lord or abuser but I am none of those I am a working man who just wants to do right by his family can anyone help please...
Ive had a son with a guy I was never officially in a relationship with. I gave him several opportunities to get involved with the pregnancy and he never showed to any appointments or scans. As I was giving birth he had am argument with my mom and stopped all contact and wanted nothing to do with us. When my son was 6weeks old his dad made contact again and accused me of not letting him have access to his son, this is not the case. I registered my son and didn't put his dad on the birth certificate as he had no involvement at the time and I didn't think it was fair he had a say in bringing up his son if he wasn't going to make effort to see him. The dad has now made the first step in taking me to court for full custody and making out in a bad mom when he hasn't even been there. My question is what chance does he have of getting full custody? Sorry about the essay in scared of losing my baby
I have a question:
My son is now 16..and we split when he was 5 into separate houses...Boy went with her and I paid a transfer every month until my son came and lived with me from 2008-2013....I have had no money off his mother during but she claimed the benefit and tax credits I wasn't bothered etc.
He went to live with here 2014 and she went straight to the csa and I had no choice to pay the agreed transfer of 200 per month or get bent over by them.
I'm a fare guy and fell ripped off by my ex because I paid for all his keep/did all the health and welfare and schooling etc during the time he lived with me..
Q, Can I make a claim on her for that time she gave nothing and claimed and what's the best process? Can I report her?
she refused to let me anywhere near since our relationship fell apart and tells me to take her to court.
would all this be used against me? can I get any parent responsibility?
She said I am "registered" as the father in UK .
I am quite "shocked"
Please , could anyone tell me :
How could that possibly be ?
How can I check whether and where I am registered as a "father" ?
Thanks in advance for the advice
About 6 wks . in this time he slept with someone who then announced after my partner
And I got back together that she was pregnant .There was a couple text messages from her
During pregnancy but nothing else. The baby was born 3 wks ago . my partner was informed
By her a day after the birth. He has visited to see thre baby. She says that my partner is the father . he is going to have a DNA
Test done to be 100% sure the baby is his , the mother has registered the baby with her surname and as far as we have been told no fathers name was put on B/C . where does this leave my partner via contact and paying maintenance ? If the DNA tests proves he is the father he wants to be part of the babies life as much as the mother allows and as he is from another country and has certain culture believes he would like her to be aware of and his family background. Any help would be great . Thanks Noonoo
Him once a week but now I've just found out she's done
His birth certificate without me what do I do?
However, it might be possible to add your details in agreement with the mother and by completing an application for the re-registration of a child's birth.
If the mother is not in agreement and you want full parental responsibility then you will have to take action to acquire those rights by getting a parental responsibility order from a court
However, if you gain parental responsibility for a child you don't live with, you don't necessarily have a right to contact with them (but the other parent still needs to keep you updated about their well-being and progress). You would also have to ensure that your child is supported financially, whether you have parental responsibility or not.
Hope this clarifies things.
I would recommend you taking legal advice, if you see it as a threat and are worried that he might carry out an abduction.
You can contact the register office and they will be able to give you all the details and where to find the forms.
If you want a new birth certificate you’ll have to order one separately as you don’t get one automatically when you re-register the birth. Hope this helps.
What can i do?!
I have split up from my girlfriend, we have been together about 2 years. We have a young son 17 months and I have been a very active. Dad. My ex girlfriend did not put me on the birth certificate although she said she would. Every time I suggested going to the Registrars Office she made excuses why she could not go.
She keeps making excuses why my son cannot come and sleep over at my parents house, saying that it is better for him to sleep in his own cot/bed, but I have heard that she let our son stay overnight at her friends house. She is being awkward about access and how long I can spend with my son. I really would like to be listed on the birth certificate, how do I go about getting this done? Can I take her to court to enforce this? I am definitely the father!!
What are my rights? I wanted to see my son as much as possible.
Thanks
Moonraker
Ii just had a baby and me and the father are not together, when I register the birth I didn't put his details on the birth certificate but I use his surname for the child.
Does it means he don't have access to the child.
I gained parental responsibility through a court after she left, as it was early stages she was cooperative and even pleasant enough to come with me to allow parental responsibility, after all, what could go wrong?
Believe me, once hooked up with another partner anything can happen, and mine met a foreigner and she took the kids out the country to settle telling me in a hand posted letter, but courts made her return them 7 weeks later, relationship only lasted 8 months.
12 years later and our kids are grown up now, both of us married our partners and had other kids and all because I had a responsibility in the children's future.
I was lucky, some women marry Muslim men from countries where the Hague convention is not law and not returned.
It could happen to you
many thanks
Hi My new partner has a little one with his ex partner he is 2 and half years old she is not allowing my partner to see his child, only problem we are having is he is not on the birth certificate. What can we do to allow him to see him as this is really upsetting for him and wants to provide for his son but the ex will not allow it. Who can we contact to get this sorted? Regards Sophie
chloelouise - 1-Jul-13 @ 4:35 PM
After this was proven she then told me I wasn’t going on the birth certificate and wasn’t allowed contact, because she was in a relationship and her new partner was going to bring him up.... I have asked her several times to let me she him and after 3 years of contact she has changed her number and address and the only contact I have had is via Facebook saying she is getting him adopted. I told her not to do this but she never got back in contact with me. I went to see a solicitor who send her letters and court dates and she never showed so I left it for several months because could not afford this anymore. I have now had contact from the CSA saying I have to pay £213 a month but still not allowed to have no rights to see my son.
I am now 2 years married and have another child and there is no way we can afford that amount per month on top of all our other out goings. we have been saving £150 per month in a bank for my son because believe I should support him and that money will be there for when we do finally meet, but this £150 was the only money we have to give out (we don’t even have our own savings). Is there no way I can 1, get the payments down and 2, get contact with my son
Can the General Registrar keep refusing to re-register my child's birth?
Both me and the father wants this re-registration done. It's the two of us against the Registrar. At the moment I live in Italy and my child used (and still uses) everywhere her correct Asian surname (the wrong details are only on the British Birth Certificate).
Does our child has the right to preserve her true identity, paternity and surname in uk?
In Italy she has this right that's why they registered her with correct details and ignored the mistakes in the English Birth Certificate.
Can someone help us? (An MP tried his best, but the registrar couldn't care less).
I am also now married and my husband has brought our daughter up as his, my daughter doesnt ever mention her biological father at all either
Does that mean i can give my last name to my daughter without any problem??
What procedures or what can i do to do it???
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