Finding out your ex has a new partner can bring up a lot of difficult feelings, especially when you already feel like time with your children is limited. It is a common worry among separated dads, and one worth addressing honestly.
Why This Feels So Hard
The concern is straightforward: someone else will be spending time with your children, someone who gets to be there on days when you are not. That can feel threatening, even if you know logically that it does not change who their father is.
Many dads describe a fear that their children might grow closer to this new person, or that they will eventually be replaced. These are natural and understandable feelings stemming from genuine love for your children and anxiety about your role in their lives.
If you are worried that your relationship with your children is being deliberately undermined, this is a separate issue. Organisations such as Families Need Fathers offer support and advice on parental alienation and can help you assess your situation.
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The strength of your relationship with your children matters more than the presence of another adult in their lives. Children can and do maintain strong bonds with their fathers even when they see them less often than they would like.
When your relationship is secure, your children will not simply transfer their feelings to someone new. You are their dad. A stepfather or partner may become a positive presence in their lives, but this does not erase or diminish what you share with them.
If you feel your connection with your children needs work, the arrival of a new partner can heighten your concerns. In that case, focus on strengthening your own relationship with them rather than worrying about the other person. Regular contact, genuine interest in their lives, and reliability all help build trust over time.
Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.
Avoiding the Competition Mindset
It can be tempting to view this as a contest, keeping score of who does what or who the children seem to prefer. That mindset tends to make things worse. Comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, or trying to outdo them, puts pressure on everyone, including your children.
Children benefit when the adults around them can be civil and cooperative. You do not need to be friends with your ex's partner, but keeping interactions calm and respectful helps your children feel more settled.
What your children need from you is consistency and presence. They do not need you to be better than anyone else. They need you to be their dad.
Looking After Yourself
Give yourself time to adjust. For many people, these situations do not feel comfortable at first, and it can take months before the new arrangement starts to feel normal.
Talking to other dads who have been through similar experiences can help. Organisations like Families Need Fathers and Dads Unlimited provide resources and peer support for separated fathers across the UK, including online communities where you can share concerns without judgement.
If you are struggling with anxiety or low mood, speaking to your GP is a sensible step. They can discuss options including talking therapies available through the NHS.
Your feelings about this situation will likely shift as time passes. Everyone adjusts at their own pace, but what feels overwhelming now often becomes more manageable. Your children will show you, through their words and actions, that your place in their lives is secure.
After 2 months of separation, my son's ex partner moved her new boyfriend into her home.
This new boyfriend has 2 children but bizarrely doesn't see them. He also admits to being a Foster parent in the past but doesn't Foster anymore.
I could be worrying for nothing BUT......
What can I or my son do to ensure our 7 year old is safe with this man?
Anyway my ex has been bringing the same sleazy guy around our son. I dont want this guy around our son because there was an incident where he allowed his underage daughter into his bedroom with a guy she met on the Internet and she got raped, while he watched football downstairs, he then bullied her into not calling the police and verbally abused her, he left her the next morning to go to work and she tried to kill herself. Also a lot of other stuff like preying on vulnerable women on Facebook. Hanging around highschools offering rides home to underage girls, waiting outside nightclubs to give drunk vulnerable women lifts home. I've even been told by a few people to warn my ex to make sure he's not secretly videoing her and don't let him take pics as he's a habit of showing them to her mates.
Anyone any thoughts on what I can do.
He's made allegations that I'm a danger to the children and has even expressed his opinion that he wants to kill me.
He has even voiced this to the eldest child.
I don't condone his actions and tbh, I feel he's quite immature to be thinking this.
We have spoken to the police and have gone down the right channels.
Now whenever he picks the kids up or drops them off, I have to leave before hand so that he doesn't kick off.
He's stated before that he'll never be happy with the situation as long as I'm around.
Now my parter has found out she's pregnant and is stressed because she feels that once he finds out, my days would definitely be numbered.
There's no talking to him, and I feel as though my parter is taking the easy way to not cause any conflict.
I however, can't keep feeling pushed aside whenever he decides to want to see his kids.
Any suggestions?
My partner of 8 years & 3 children.
She broke it off suddenly..
The legistics of the housing situation ment we had to live together for a month.
I found out very quickly that she was in touch & meeting with a child friend, who I also knew.
It came to a head on our youngest 2nd birthday, I seen she was flirting with this guy over text while in the car with our children present. Very cheeky.
She moved out the next day..
Shes seeing him now & I've heard on the grapevine that he's just using her.
I've broke several times..
I've realised my family is what I make it.
It's hard ladies & gentleman.
Very hard.
Stay strong!
Exercise
Try & eat right
Make time for family & friend
Set short term goal
Set long term goals
My daughter got an award because shes been keeping upto date with her homework..
I did that sh*t.
She's hasn't even bothered.
Strength & control.
Unstick yourself.
Many thanks
On getting to this new town i felt lost and lonely being away from my work and being busy , it also opened a can of worms how my out of control my wifes drinking was and the toxic behavior that followed , i gave her an ultimatum its the drinking or or family she chose the drinking and i moved out back to home town 900 km away from the family , 1 year on she has a new partner who is living in our family home while i practically live on the street trying to get the house on the market so i can settle.
I am being very calm and not once ever text or called with any abuse which i think is serving me well at this point , what ever she throws at me i just let it deflect off me like i dont care , of course i do but need to be strong as possible.
Thanks everyone
I was whit my girlfriend for 17 years. We have a wonderful daughter of the age of 6.
Our problems start 4 years ago, becos of my job. She was very jealous as I have contact whit many girls, although I never cheated on here, and she knew this. Also in she's opinion I was not helped she whit everyday work whit the kid,I was neglected she, which I agree to some point. Well here our problems starts, she gives me an ultimatum, that if I love she I must quit my job and fined another one. After time, I agree and I quit my job. But from this point all become iven worst for booth, as I start to be depressed, I can't fined another job and I start to use drugs. After a year of depression and self-destruction she put me out of she's house, and I start to live like homeless, from time to time she gave me some money to buy some food and this was our contact. Well two months ago I fined some job which give me enough money to start living like normal person, it's a hard job, but I can live by my own, and I am happy whit this. I start to make contact whit my ex, and she replays to my messages, but in the meantime she confesses me she has another boyfriend for two months, and she say that is happy and in love, and she don't fell nothing for me any moor. I go for no contact but due to we have a daughter together I must interact whit she from time to time i was sending some messages. Also she aloud me to see my daughter only one time per week. She also agrees to meet whit me one time, and we got to have a drink, but I start to feel needy and sorry for what I did, she rejected me immediately, she tells me that between us is over and I must accept it as soon as better for me and move on stairway I will be only hurt. She also tells that my daughter like she's new boyfriend, and they both are happy whit new guy. I go no contact again for one week now. Today I send some messages again about contact whit my child,but i don't receive any replay. This week I also have a new job interview, and I was selected for a high profile job, which give me an opportunity to get a decent payment, the problem is my job will consist in travelling around the world and not be present in my hometown and country for a while.
I still love she and I don't know how to fine a solution for my problem to get she back. Any advice is welcome.
Thank you from the heart and good bless you all.
Within a few weeks she was calling him daddy. I ended up moving away and went off radar for about a year. I got back in touch but my ex wouldn't let my daughter know I was in touch, for about 2 years. Eventually I got to see her again and moved back to the same town to be near my daughter. We had a great relationship but that all changed after I moved to the school she wanted to go fo's catchment area so she could be accepted. After that I hardly ever saw her. I felt pushed out. My ex was in total control of my daughter and she would always ask her
mum for permissionn to do anything with me. I felt pushed out completely. My ex says my daughter is the one who doesn't want to see me. I've never slagged her or the step dad off Infront of her and been easy going about it. One time I said I wanted to see her and was willing to take her to court.....she went off on one threatening me with all sorts.
This I don’t mind but said to her thAt I would take her and the kids shopping for new shoes but she said no cause they need them today even though she does say she loves me I think that there is some thing going on am I right in finking this or am I paranoid
IS IT POSSIBLE THAT SHE CAN TAKE HIM TO COURT FOR MAINTENANCE AND IS SHE ALLOWED TO USE HIS SURNAME??????
HE SAID HE WON'T DO IT, BUT I GET THE FEELING IT'S NOT TRUE, HOW CAN I THEN FIND OUT IF HE HAS DONE IT
THE BIRTH OF THE BABY IS 25 JUNE '19
PLEASE PLEASE HELP!!!!
My Ex was dating someone for 8 months, and only recently stopped seeing him about three weeks ago. During that time, he never came to a game, graduation, dance recital, etc. Last week, I believed that he showed up for the first time, and told my son it was good to finally see him there and, "I would have to go introduce myself." His reply was that was not the guy she had been dating....I have not had a problem with her dating and even kept the kids a month ago so she could go on a vacation with her (then) boyfriend.
Over the past week, he has come to multiple games and a graduation. Tonight, he interrupted a conversation I was having with my son, speaking directly to him from about 20 feet away. This has worried me, but don't want to step out of line.
How do I handle what seems to be a new revolving door situation with my Ex, and do so without hurting my kids? When we initially seperated, we had a clause in our temporary orders that stopped us from bringing dates to the children. My worry is that this guy won't stick, and we will rinse/repeat. Any suggestions? Do I just keep my nose out of it? Introduce myself to every new guy (my Ex is ice cold, and was very rude to my current girlfriend when she tried to talk/introduce herself)?
I have no desire to ever get back together with my Ex. She was not faithful, and I filed for divorce.
Now though, my wife has met someone new, and all my anxieties and fears have taken over. It’s my worst nightmare, to think of another man being a part of my child’s upbringing, it brings me genuine pain to think about it. But I know I can’t have my cake and eat it - I can’t expect my ex to be ok with me finding someone new and stay single herself.
This article has helped in knowing that I’m not the only one with these fears, and that there is a way to be ok with it.
What do i do if the new partner is claiming he is a parent of our child.
The relationship is 2 years old and they keep Gouding me with this.
They keep bad mouthing me to our child and my child is starting to imitate their language towards me. When I asked him to go stand by his coach incase he is called on the child said "you can't force me to do it" this language is something his mother says when I'm refused contact "he does not want to go and I'm not forcing him"
this partner has verbally assaulted me at the football matches when the family court have ordered me to attend and he keeps ensuring that my child doesn't speak to me and tries to keep him away from me when I attend.
I'm fed up of all the hostility and arguements and feel that the situation is getting worse and our child is in the middle of it all and it's very upsetting for me, I have tried talking to them but they keep insisting on conflict instead of resoloution.
Thanks for your reply.
Their is absolutely no need for my ex to feel threatened.
He should be happy that his children have another loving adult in their lives.
Our household is firm and secure for our 4 children and that is all any parent should want.
But, im sad to say, i know it wont be long before he finds something else ridiculous to target us about.
Thanks for reading x
Thank you for your reply.
All this anger really hurts me. i think my ex would definatly prefer i was single which is a shame hed wan that for me.
It just seems that my ex is ok with my h2b providing financial support for his children but would prefer they didnt form any emotional bond whereas my ex considers his w2b to be "best friends" with my children.
why can it be ok for them but not ok for us?
It just doesnt seem fair especially when i try to stick up for my relationship he states that im not supporting his relationship with his children.
Surely as long as i dont hinder their contact either in person or phone etc then i dont actually need to re einforce anything. He shouldnt need me to if hes doing enough?
thanks agen for reading x
divorced for 6 years . both getting re married soon after 5 year relationships. ex husband HATES my h2b with a passion feeling that he is trying to take his place. This is not the case as my h2b would not allow that for his own child.
He accepts i am remarrying but i feel this anamocity will never end and i also feel that is unjustified.My h2b is is a good man and works very hard to provide for us all which i think my ex should be pleased about but he sees it as my h2b trying to take over him as a dad.
My h2b will not be "dad" to my kids he will be my husband.
My kids all love him but ex cant/wont accept that he make us all happy including his children.
How can i create peace here?
TIA
help
When we have school meetings about our daughter my ex partner brings her new partner to the meetings
Witch the school allows it is there any way I can get that stopped or can I obtain a letter from some where
To have this stopped
I then find out that after two dates with this new partner, my daughter was introduced and he had stayed over with her. They are currently six weeks into a relationship, where he not only stays almost every night, but has also been left alone with my daughter when the ex has gone to work in the evening. I have expressed my concerns with this behaviour and have been completely ignored. I have my daughter 6 nights out of 14, more than enough time for my ex to get to know her new partner a bit better..
Is there anything I can do about this? This new partner could be a completely reasonable guy, but I do not believe six weeks is enough to get to know someone well enough to leave your 1 and a half year old with.
good luck shazza
Fast forward to today and I'm having trouble dealing with the lost time I previously had with my kids while still processing the situation. While I know it's all for the best, my heart still hurts and I'm still dealing with the degree of change this entails.
My problem is this: most of what I'm reading is telling us (ex's) to keep our adult emotional processing to yourself, and I get that - but to a certain extent. I have issue with the idea of censoring kids and being inauthentic in communicating these difficult emotional periods in our lives to our children. I feel like we raise our kids in a bit of a fantasy world, I get they're innocent and all that jazz, but I kind of feel like not sharing our feelings (in a reasonable manner expressing why we're having a bit of trouble with the new situation) creates an unrealistic portrayal of what being human is. I feel this creates an emotional disconnect as we grow, especially for men who historically have issue communicating and processing emotions. I'm not a superhero. The world is not perfect. Why do we feel it necessary to represent a false reality to protect them? Yes, theyre brains are not fully formed, but maybe forming them with a simplified version of the problems we deal with as adults will create more realostic problem solvers for tomorrow.
I'd really like to hear from some others about this. I'm having trouble locating good info on this subject.
Thanks
She has told the kids all about the proposed wedding and although this man will not become their new dad he will love them and care for them. How does she know!? My 6 yr old has spoken to this man on the phone. He says that they love each other. She has fed them all kinds of stuff about how perfect he is. I don't like the situation at all. She's known him since July, met him face to face 3 weeks ago and stayed with him for a week and is now telling my kids he's the best thing since sliced bread and how he loves my kids! He has a daughter of his own who he only sees in school holidays. What can i do!?
Also my two children stay over Fri-Sat and 5 hours on a Wednesday, how do you calculate these Wed hours on the child maintence calculator as its only based on days/nights spent.
I'm 24 and I have a 2 year old little boy who turns 3 in September
Me and his mum (23) split up before the birth and have had a kind of okay relationship, getting on very well for the sake of our little lad
Recently she's moved away down south 4 hours away and I see him maybe once/ twice every couple of months due to travelling issues, costs etc but I facetime everyday
She moved down there with her new partner of 6 months and just yesterday he purposed and she said yes
My son doesn't have my surname anyway but I am on the birth certificate and had lots and lots of contact before they moved, always paid and generally did Everything for him.
I'm worried of course about the whole him calling this new guy daddy which I'm sure I'll live with but the fact she could change his surname to this new guys which I'm guessing she'll take on as well
How would that affect me at all? Or would it not etc ?
Im looking for advise, my exs partner is saying horrible things about me to my 7 year old daughter.. im quite hot headed person and extremely angry. How do I deal with this the correct way. Ive attempted to talk to my ex and her response is to ignore him. But when your daughter is upset its hard to do
I was with my ex for over 11 years.. he ended our relationship in October 12 days later he met a women in a bar nd he's been with her ever since.. we have an 10 year old who we have joint custody of.. within a week she was introduced to my son nd stopping over at my ex nd has been there every weekend since.. even moved in for a few weeks over Christmas.. there relationship is 13 weeks in now and they are taking my son on a short 3 night holiday.. my son is not coping very well at all he cries at least once a week saying he is jealous of my ex new girlfriend.. they hold hands kiss nd cuddle in front of him.. he gets sent to his room so they can av adult time together nd told not to come into their room cos they are tired..it's not only difficult for me that he has moved on so quickly but also upsetting that it's effecting my son..
I tried to explain this to the ex but he just says our son will av to get used to it.. my son says it's all happening to quick he feels he's lost his dad to the new girlfriend.. how do I stay calm nd together for myself nd my son when what the ex is doing is wrong.. may I just ad these people are actually nearly 50 nd sud know better.. it's making me stressed to hell.. :-( thanks
Any information on the legality of this would be good.
Cheers.
However, i found out that the man she married now, was once accused of raping his ex wife but he was found not guilty. this revelation has spooked me, given that he will have unsupervised contact with our two and a half year old daughter. in as much as i want to believe that he has been exonerated, some thing in my mind also tells me there is no smoke with out fire.
due to this concern, what i can do.
many thanks
To top it off my ex-wife has just been picked up by her boyfriend (as she allows me to stay in her house while I'm visiting). My kids love me and I return to the UK in an absolute mess. My ex says she understand but there's nothing she can do and I just have to try and cope with it. I feel so humiliated having to stay here at her house but don't know what else to do, I wish I can get on with my life, but I'm just going backwards and forwards to Sweden and feeling miserable and frustrated most of the time....
I am horrified and don't know what to do as my ex is quite the 'gaslighter' and will most likely deny it as she denies most things the kids tell me.
What should I do?
What are the legal rights I have as father with parental responsibility towards my natural son given that we were married when he was born?
I have made no attempt nor would I want to replace him as their father, they get on well with me and thats all I and their mum want but he is pushing them away from him and doing everything he can to split me and my partner up.
How can you deal with someone who would rather "slice your face off", his words then have an adult conversation.
He has met me in past when we tried to resolve things but it lasted maybe a week. The kids have never said a bad word about me and if he is worried I may have dodgy past, criminal record I am happy for any check as the only thing I have ever done was got a speeding fine about 16 years ago.
Just for record when I met my partner we were both single, he split their marriage up with numerous affairs and a ton of other stuff.
We've agreed 50/50 shared custody, but that means my daughter who is 4 will be staying half the time in a house with a man I barely know, and I can't convince myself that my wife knows well enough either.
How can I be sure they'll both be safe and happy? How can I be sure he won't try to be a father figure for my daughter either? He didn't respect the boundaries when it came to my wife and it makes it extremely hard for me to trust that he's the 'good man' she claims him to be - particularly as his ex doesn't allow him unsupervised access to his own daughter...are there any steps I can take that don't make me look like a spiteful jealous idiot that might make my wife restrict my time with my daughter further?
I have asked my ex to let me have some detail about this person as he will be living under the same roof as my boys but she refuses to even tell me his name and will not tell me anything. I have no wish to cause any issue as I am sure this new situation will not affect my relationship with my children, I would just like to know what kind of man they are now going to live with. is there anything that I can do ? or do I just have to put up with it and worry.
However, I saw a comment on ex's partners Facebook page while they were on holiday, mentioning "our beautiful children". They're not his, and it hurts. How do you deal with this?
I would never let my daughter know my feelings and will be amicable for her sake, but I don't know how to cope with it all. She was my first girlfriend, fiance and the first person I loved, and still do but there is no way in hell i can go back and be abused again. It wouldn't me fair on any of us. I can't sleep because I all I see and hear is her and her new man or her abusing me. I have been waiting to see a counsellor for a year now. I need something or someone to pull me through this.
been split since September she already has new man and he spent Christmas with them . I was only allowed to spend 2 days with my daughter a week before Christmas . evan tho I had to travel 200 miles . I never gave her permission to take my daughter 200 miles back home . just been to solicitor if I had gone earlier to them they could have stopped her taking my daughter .
but when I asked if I could get full custody I wouldn't get it cause my daughter is too young at 2 years old .but she can do what she likes with my daughter how is that fair ? women are so lucky
so really here are my points.. should my friend and his new family be that strapped for cash if his ex gf and new boyfriend make so much more money?
I mean the new bf (of 2 years) must be common law by now ?
doesn't entering a relationship come with maybe a bit of responsibility sometimes?
I had a girlfriend a few years back that had a 6 year old with a ex bf that would dodge paying support but wanted to see him .. AND WE WERE HAPPY TO ALLOW HIM TOO. He had commitment issues but wasn't a bad guy.. he loved his son but would only ask to see him once a month just for the weekend.
I stepped in, because as long as he lived with me I took care of him, entering the relationship and moving in together with her, he became my responsibility.
I could afford to pay for all of us. Didn't need or want his money.
what are thoughts on this?? what are laws?
Does this not compare to my friend that wants to see his son any chance he can get.
He pays support for his boy that he barely ever sees. and at the same time pays for his boy that he does have, and takes care of his new gfs daughter.
If his ex's boyfriend that she has now been living with for a few years makes more money isn't there a bit of weight on making their household work specifically if they can easily afford to?
I don't know everything people I just want some help, or info.
all he wants is to see his son and she has been pretty evil until it benefits her.
He isn't trying to get out of paying for his son. His living arrangements with other siblings in the house would be awesome in my opinion..
The 4 year asks his dad to stay longer with him, and says things like can you talk to mom?...
He also said something about having to sleep on the floor on a inflatable air mattress in his mom's and new stepdad's room.
can my friend see his son more? somehow?
can my buddy maybe pay a bit less somehow.. with her new bf making so much money?? ...so he can actually survive without handing her his money for rent and barely getting by?
its caused him a lot of depression... and the money is obviously tough.
He told me he doesn't care about the money and wants to be there for his boy, but I can see in his eyes.. this is killing him.. he cant even afford to be sick or absent away from work...all he wants is to spend time with his boy. And all I want to do is help him, give him options possibly..
He doesn't even know I'm writing all this, he isn't very computer savvy.
And I know I'm not the best at structuring sentences, sorry.
Please help, opinions, feedback, law... anything ?
At one point he was very stressed out and missed some work for a few weeks.. now that I know him he has opened up to me and explained it was because he tried to gain some custody rights, in court, I don't know... joint custody or more visitation (both) . He really wants to be with his son, has no intention of trying to take him away or being a snake in the grass. I know he makes just a bit over a thousand dollars a week but he ends up taking home around 600 every week after the court ordered child support result. (he has been paying this for years. This is before he went in to try to get more visitation or joint. )
About a year and a half ago, he moved into a new place with a girl he met and she has a daughter whos father had passed away and he is helping to support his new girlfriends daughter now.. He loves her! she's family to him now.
So he is paying for his boy that lives with him and her daughter and he pretty much supports the household. She pays too ..she makes money but not very much...but he tries to take care of everyone.
Pays rent, utilitys, food, insurance, cable bill, gas, etc etc.
And he still takes care of the kids, always putting them first before himself.
Need new shoes, bam. His boy wants to play soccer. done.
school fieldtrip that requires money, here you go. He gives them what they need as children within reason.. ( he's not buying them iphones every year and getting them like flat screen TV's for their rooms or anything.)
He reminds me of my dad. Always trying to help and take care of you... helping you with homework even though he has trouble with it himself.
spending quality time and showing you what outside looks like..and at the same time teaching you life lessons and trying to prepare you for the world.
My buddy doesn't live in a big place either... Him and his gf have a room. His son has a room and his non biological daughter has a room.
so I know his rent is around 1200 a month for a place like that.
How does he even survive??
Ok stay with me here..... The zinger is, (and keep in mind im looking for feedback and answers if possible) His ex, that has custody of his 4 year old has had a new man in her life for about 2 years now, and apparently he makes twice as much money as my friend does.(she said this)
so really here are my points.. should my friend and his new family be that s
The mother of my now 5 year old granddaughter has kept her away from her dad for the past week, when since she was born has had his daughter at least 3 days a week and most times longer with no problem. I've been reading on the internet about it being a crime to deny the child visitation with the farther if granted by the court. What should I do at this point, to see my granddaughter. My son still resides with us(his parents.) I have really fallen in love with my granddaughter and my son his daughter. He is not calling the ex, out of fear of his daughter away from him longer.
Thank you in advance.
I am very worried about my granddaughter - her mother never takes her out and prefers to spend time 'cuddling her' she has now found a house to share with a man who we don't know. Of course we are thinking the obvious that they are in a relationship and have been for sometime (even though she only left my son on 14th feb.)Can anyone advise me how we go about keeping my granddaughter safe and checking out this man and what would be the chances of our son getting sole custody of his daughter. I am so worried about this. Thanks in anticipation.
After 5 weeks of being on my own in the house she had me arrested after the night before she threw a glass bottle at my head and told me we could work things out to stop me phoning the police and it worked I never phoned the police the next night was a Friday I let her come round see the kids bath them she even had a cpl of drinks and left about 8:45 later that night she had me arrested for false improsonment to get me out the house I was now living in on my own with the boys and she got the children bk,
After spending 17 hrs in a cell and them giving me an harrassment caution over 4 texts I had to b escorted round the house by the police to get my stuff and she had moved in so she made me homeless.
Kindly a friend took me in I stayed on there sofa for a few weeks up till the week of Christmas when her gran was seriously ill In hospital and was dieing so she asked for my help to watch the kids which I did I stayed in the same room as my children when she got bk late from the hospital,her gran died early x mas eve and the friend I was staying with kicked me out bec they didn't agree with me helping my ex after all the false allegations she had made about me.
I then had a friend drive 140iles to picke up on Xmas day to go and stay with them for a week when I got bk she stayed at her grans so I could see the kids, which she came bk on a daily basis and could get heated at times with the situation she had landed me in.
I found out last night that while she was with me she started a relationship with a guy in the states chatting on phone and everything and she is on about letting him meet the children after a cpl times they met so I was like I don't think so don't no anything about this guy I want checks done the lot and bec I said that she has been blackmailing in respect of the contact we had sorted out, I just moved into a house and was giving her the address when I get the boys stuff tomorrow she has been demanding all night for my address and if she didn't get it tonight I will not get my contact with them even though I have mediation tomorrow.
I don't think it's fair she can keep going bk on her word all I want is the best for my children and she is ruining me in the process,
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