Missing Important Milestones in Your Child's Life

Hi, I have been separated from my wife and 2 children for 3 years. Things were amicable between us and I was seeing the kids quite regularly until around October last year. The my wife decided it would need to be set days I see them. The in November she mentioned divorce. In January she visited her lawyer and filed for divorce (the proceedings are still ongoing). At the start of the separation I signed over my rights to the house as I was always hopeful things could turn around in the relationship. But since last September I've had my suspicions, that my wife has been seeing another man. I had been doing housework around her house throughout the separation, until the day I was putting a washing on and found lingerie she used to wear for me. I challenged her in this and this is when the set days for seeing the kids was brought in and now I'm no longer to help around the house. It was my wife's 40th just recently and I read a card, I thought was from our son but was actually from her new man, in the card he wrote it had been 8 months they'd been in a relationship. Now since I have found this out...my wife has continued to reduce my time with the kids, tried to stop me seeing my son's first sporting event in 2 years and has stopped any contact with me. Now I'm wondering if I could legally change my decision to sign over the house as at the time I was going through a criminal conviction and was under duress. Legally wife wife has also committed adultery. I am currently living with my mother and struggling to save for a deposit for my own place. Am I entitled to anything financially from the divorce?

Hi, I have been separated from my wife and 2 children for 3 years. Things were amicable between us and I was seeing the kids quite regularly until around October last year. The my wife decided it would need to be set days I see them. The in November she mentioned divorce. In January she visited her lawyer and filed for divorce (the proceedings are still ongoing). At the start of the separation I signed over my rights to the house as I was always hopeful things could turn around in the relationship. But since last September I've had my suspicions, that my wife has been seeing another man. I had been doing housework around her house throughout the separation, until the day I was putting a washing on and found lingerie she used to wear for me. I challenged her in this and this is when the set days for seeing the kids was brought in and now I'm no longer to help around the house. It was my wife's 40th just recently and I read a card, I thought was from our son but was actually from her new man, in the card he wrote it had been 8 months they'd been in a relationship. Now since I have found this out...my wife has continued to reduce my time with the kids, tried to stop me seeing my son's first sporting event in 2 years and has stopped any contact with me. Now I'm wondering if I could legally change my decision to sign over the house as at the time I was going through a criminal conviction and was under duress. Legally wife wife has also committed adultery. I am currently living with my mother and struggling to save for a deposit for my own place. Am I entitled to anything financially from the divorce?

Hello I am separated from my ex for over a year now and we have a two year old son .shes been given me contact every Saturday until I got a new partner now she’s completely stopped me seeing my son and says her new partner is his daddy ! I don’t no what to do as I want to see my son but breaks me hearing him call the partner dad . She also said social services are involved should I be contacted if they was? I just need some advice on what to do

(Rest of the story)..... All they were taljing about was cancer. The only cancer i have is my sign. I thought i was bloated for eating like a pig... Fathersday came up, i got no daddy to celebrate with soo i always celebrate with mom. Well that same day.. My mother bought a pregnancy test. She went into the bathroom with me and i peed. I was soo scared.. It would have been another std... Seconds later... Mom says "POSITIVE!!", "IM GOING TO BE MAMA IMA AND YOUR GOING TO BE A GREAT GRANDMA!!". As fornmyaelf i was confused. I wanted another test. IT had to be wrong. I was told otherwise and i had aches and pains there. It had to be another std. I wasnt sure if to be happy or sad because i could have been misled by a false pregnancy. I made an appointment with an OBGYN and i felt weird like something inside me was going to laugh at me for thinking i was pregnant. I peed once again. Lady came out saying its false.. I turn around and she said she was joking. Its positive. I was surprised that in fact i was actually pregnant. Surpirsed because i made a horrible choice to plan a pregnancy leading to an std. Surpirsed because the it took me a whole year and a half to get pregnant. Surprised because after my birth control.. Ive only had one period. One. So there was no way for me to know i was pregnant. I had the same bag of pad i got when i first started. Surprised because i didnt think it was possible and scared because.. I was scared of an ectopic pregnancy which i did have the symptoms.. And when i did finally get a check up from the doctor everything was fine. Only thing is.. I kept my std a secret.. I denied having one. But they caught something else.. An infection, GBS(Groupies B strep). I was 7.5 months along, when i fount out and 8 months when i got checked. We were notnonly expecting to have a baby girl, we were expecting her soon!! We had a name ready for her on the first day we found out. A girl name. No boy name and thankfully we were right about having a girl because we had no boy names. We named her after an indu godess. Her whole name was indu. She wore our last name first. She deserves it forever. To charish the name, her first present given to her. Always and forever. We kept calling her name to her in my tummy. We knew she loved it. That is her name. Our beautiful daughter. The day...the day i went to do my normal daily routine. Go shopping before my doctors appointment because i was past due, well i was feeling a bit wet but.. I thought it was normal. I wasnt expecting her, yet i didnt buy anything really. I only had 7baby clothes and many, many diapers of all sizes including wipes. Well i go to my doctors. He tells me that its only going to take 30 minutes so i lay peacefully with my baby in my belly.. Not even 10 minutes and people come rushing in examinging me asking me questions like "are you having or feeling any contractions?" i said "no" so they take me to another room and check my cervix. They say, im 5" dialated! it is soo

Hello everyone, I had a baby October 17th of '14 but thats not where it all started.. I have a long journey since a young girl playing dolls, id always wanted to have a baby, so id play with my family take care of the little ones.. In my teen years everyong was having a baby and my cheating ex had 2 on the way. I desperately wanted to have a baby also to chuck the guy. Well, thank god thats passed. Im glad i never got pregnant in my teen years. One, because my mom forced me on birth control, thank you mom! She caught me in time before i could get pregnant and ruin my own life. Right when i turn 18 is when my birth control expired and i was ready to plan on having babies as my friends were expecting too!! I went to the doctor got tested.. In 3 days, i was told i caught an std. Chlamidia, oh boy i got with another cheater.. All the guys i ever been with.. Amd worse an std. My doctor said id never have a baby and if i were to become pregnant id have an ectopic pregnancy. That was the last of my days and the end of all relationships and sex and im including protected sex. I moved back where i came from.. Back home kept my problem a secret and never told anyone nor a doctor, nor anyone. i was hopeless for children in my future. I actually had plans of surrogacy though i never talked about it, yet. I was only 18 with my first job and trying to handle and takein my mistake and new responsibility.Me. I was working on myself for the wrong i did just to get pregnant. Well, that same year.. After becoming clear of an std and never getting my life back again.. Never did i think i would.. But, I met a guy. A 23 year old old man or thats what he told me anyway....well thisbpart is sooo long... And i might as well cut it out but. He had no plans for a child. Though i told him i couldnt have any, i still wanted a child. Somehow. But we were not ready to talk about it and my plans were long destroyed. We had fun, we were careless but safe. We didnt have anything to worry about. I couldnt have babies anyway, or so i thought...Because,.. One day my mother asks me to move back in because, "he was feeding me too much". I told my mother no. I been eating off the same plate as he does and i dont eat the whole plate. After my mothers comment, i have since ate 1/4 of that plate. I was still getting fatter and fatter. I was wearing tight clothes. Even my man took notice when we went shopping for clothes because i couldnt fit in the ones i had anymore. He said i need to loose weight haha. Well i knew that too but my weight wasuncontrollable. Another visit to my mothers..i love her though sje called me umpalumpa for being fat. Cant be mad at fam forever. So my whole family was there.. Looking at my body. Looking at it soo hard. Trying to figure out what is wrong with me. They seen nothing wrong with me. All they were taljing about was cancer. The only cancer i have is my sign. I thought i was bloated for eating like a pig... Fathersday came up, i got no d

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I am sorry to hear your worries, which are understandable. Firstly, I'm sure no harm is going to come to your son. Please see article:When Your Ex Gets a New Partner here . You don't say what the relationship is with your ex. However, if it is amicable, then you would hope she would choose a decent man as her new partner, who will treat your son with kindness. I know a lot of jealousy can stem from this, as much as if he was a monster. However, it is better that someone decent and loving is in your son's life. As hard as it is, rather than provoke animosity, perhaps you could try to develop a relationship based on good terms with this man. You may have to bite your tongue now and again, as this new relationship beds in. But this will benefit you in the long run by helping to allay your fears. It will also benefit the relationship with your ex, plus your son. Sometimes being the bigger person can be tricky, but it can also have its rewards too. By being there and amenable will foster trust which will hopefully be reciprocated all round. I hope this helps.

My ex partner is moving away with our son with with her new partner, They are moving in together which I have made clear I don't agree with yet because of this, I am very worried about both their well-being. I don't know this guy and feel helpless towards my son because its an hour journey to get to him. Am I being silly in worrying. Its just I fear the worst happening to him and me not knowing about it until its to late. Any advice would be calming.

I total agree with Craig we dads should have more rights to our children

Why should a father not be allowed to atte d sports day....and parents evening and birthdays why is there not any saying about this...woman complained for 50 years to get 50/50 rights and have got 80/20 rights over men.. Why are we been told to take missing out on our kids life is normal? Woman fought for the rights now men need to fight for their rights as Dads. I'm discussed by the acceptance for a man to not be part of his kids life

My ex and I have separated for a while. The separation happened due to continuous arguing and I left as the cjhildren would hear and it was affecting them. I just want to see my children, i love them both so much. My son is 16 i text him all the time and he has said he doesnt want to see me and that he hates me.My daughter is 10, I message also, she is managing her mothers and brothers emotionally state and doesnt reply to. I asked her mother to ask to come out with me but she has said she wont come out. I know PAS (parental alienation syndrome) has a lot to do with it but i dont know what I can do.I want to see them and they dont want to see me. What makes it even worse is that 6 years ago I got there mother convicted for harassment and I have to go through the same process again as she has been coming to my property and been verbally abusive several times. I pay over 20% of my earnings which puts a massive financial strain on me.I do not want to see them go without. I just dont know what to do anymore.i really am at a loose end.

@richie - you might be interested in our partner article Can I Stop My Ex Moving Our Children Abroad? SeparatedDads - 5-Jan-15 @ 12:23 PM