The important fact to remember is that, in the majority of cases, the father will not be granted custody of the child by the courts. Individuals and groups have complained about this bias of the courts for several years, but it’s simply a fact that unless the circumstances are exceptional, the child or children will stay with their mother under a residence order, and you will be able to see them with a Contact Order.
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Conditions For Father’s Custody
However, there are times when a judge will look very favourably on a father’s application for custody. Where the mother has a history of addiction to drink or drugs or an extensive history of binge drinking, which you can prove, there’s a good chance you’ll be given custody. There are solid reasons for this, since addicts often turn to crime to feed their habits, which can put the child in situations that aren’t good as he or she grows.
The courts take a similar attitude where the mother has a criminal record, at least if it’s a reasonably extensive one showing her to be a repeat offender. That applies whether she’s in jail or not (there are instances where mothers in jail can keep very young children with them, but those are few and far between).
The mother might be considered physically or emotionally incapable of raising a child. That might be due to a physical handicap, or it could be emotional instability. In those cases, the father would be given custody.
Similarly, where there’s been emotional or physical abuse of the child by the mother, and it can be proven, then the father will definitely receive custody. Sadly, abuse rates by mothers have been on the increase.
Finally, if the mother is deemed to have abandoned her children, the father will receive custody. Abandoned is classed as not being in communication with a child for a set period, whether by mail, phone, physical contact or email. Also, if she leaves with a new partner and has no contact with the children, or if she neglects the children when they’re in her care, then custody will devolve to the father.

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Your Rights
When you have custody, you have the same rights as a mother with custody, and the mother would have Visitation Rights with the children (of course, there might be circumstances when she might be denied access). Be sure you obey the contact order fully.
Something to be aware of is that the mother can later petition the court to have the residence order changed, if she’s cleaned up her act and can prove herself to be upstanding and likely to be a good parent. Sadly, there’s a fair chance she might win, although the courts will take the wishes of the children into account.
You’d do right to feel that everything is more fragile than if you were female, since it probably is. She can always come back with her lawyer.
1. Pray to the Lord Jesus Christ to save me from my sinful life. Forgive me for my sins. Come into my life and live your life through me. Help me to be at peace with my family, even the ones who hate me. Please love them through me. I can't do it on my own.
2. Join Narcotics Anonymous or AA. Just find a support group and get off drugs. Whatever it takes. You are doing this for you and for your kids. If you keep doing drugs you will die, end up in jail, and lose your kids, and your hell will continue as long as you live. Grow up. Stop blaming everyone else for your problems. Accept responsibility and work with the situation the best you can. Go to church. Pray that God will give you godly people to help you grow spiritually. Don't give up. It may take a couple of tries to find a church you like.
3. Find a job as soon as you feasible. Work two jobs if necessary until you are too tired to do anything but sleep. Save every penny and use it for food, kids, rent. Take responsibility and try to work on balancing it all. That's a tall order, but it's a good goal. Trust God with your kids. You must get stable before you can be a suitable parent. Show up for them. Hug them.
4. Finally, work your 12-step program. You can turn your life around, no matter how hard it is, but you need God and you need accountability as well as support. Our world is in a lot of trouble. Don't waste time and energy on the things you can't control, but work on the things you can control. If you do these things, you may look back one day and see that you made it!
Every time it is for some months and then come back and said sorry.
All 4 times she take my kids away.
This time I dont want more give my kids away.
May I can get full custody?
At the moment I live like that.
I work nigt shift from 10PM-6AM.
After work 7AM I need woke up my two daughters for school. 9AM i need bring them to school and then I spend all my day with my baby. 3PM I need take my daughters from school. And then I can sleep 3h before work.
At the moment my wife is at home in tight time with kids. But I have other person who can stay with kids in tightime.
My wife work day shift 6AM-2PM
May I can get full custody?
Split up with mother in march 18 I had the children 90% of the time in July 2018 she then accuse me of rape which did not happen no charges brought against me but still weeks later I started to have the children youngest is my kid 2nd girl is her daughter I am not biological father but I still had the children while she was with new boyfriend 1 then she went with boyfriend 2 2 weeks after the fake allegation of rape ,
November 2018 her father then told me the truth about the fake Rap she took it too far next day she stoped me haven the kids stoped all contact so I took to family court this is where it gets interesting.
She made allegations in the bundle about rap a knife attack and lots of stupid things each hearing I've never been able to speak a word but on the last day hearing that's a full day the mother confirmed statement under oath 3 times asked by the judge but she said don't recognise knife accusation judge has now sacked her lawyers and the case was stoped 1.15 minutes into the case she was ordered to put more paperwork to the judge by certain date this is not happened there is now a one-hour directions hearing next soon ,
But due to her the kids and myself struggling don't know what will happen next does anyone know so what they think will happen will I get full custody of my son and her daughter replies welcome as I'm lost
They ain't not at any communication with my 2 daughters for the pass 3mths..
Can I get custody
My wife has been involved in affair since last June 2018..only finally learning this last Christmas..she then applied for divorce.. to which I agreed..on the basic that affair or not we needed to separate..she by admission is a fantastic mother..that is until of late with her taking the kids to her mother's whom she hasn't spoken to in 4yrs then stopped me from having any access and applied to the court for prohibited steps order stopping me from being able to take the kids from her custody and giving her the right to tell me what access the kids can have with dad..the 1st hearing actually threw out her wants and stipulated that the kids until the final hearing must have time with dad..now although I agreed to less than 20% of overall time until the final hearing where I hope to see the kids being given equal rights to both parents on a 50/50 time schedule ive just received a letter stating that unless I agree to keeping my time to less than 20% that she intends on claiming or recovering her costs from me..even though I haven't initiated any of these circumstances and I'm only actually trying to be a dad who's always been there..including my kids right to have a positive relationship with dad..
Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated..
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