Applying for a Residence Order (Custody): Court Procedure

As a men who has never been allowed to see my own daughter though the( mother and the courts )I can tell all fathers it gets (better )the last time I seen the girl was 13 years ago a very long time and know I will die and never see her again but I have come to( terms with it made peace with it)my advice just move on with your own life and never look back .

I think For a( men its best to give up let the mother and her new partner rasie your child and leave them in peace) .for one you will just get yourself in( trouble) second in my case my daughter so never close with me she was only close with her mother .so even if I did go though the courts years ago for visitation it would off been a( terrible experience) there's nothing good ( forcing a child) to visit you .they should want tofreely visit you .like I have seen with all the other parents I know .this is what I think anyway .

My horrible ex baby mom has for last 8months stopped me seeing my 5yr old daughter, finally I've got a Court date but I have had to jump through hoops ie Dr's letter Cafcas Zoom meeting, to prove myself,yet she can see someone else that she allows to babysit take babbi school etc without going through all the nonsense I have to, can somebody anybody tell me how that's fair because I think it's a absolute joke

My Daughter is 12 years old, I split with her mother when she was 2 since then I have had her every weekend through her younger years to now where she tends to spend most of her time with us during school holidays etc, the mother met someone who she now has a child with and has married,he has very little to do with my daughter hardly talks to her , the mothers just had an operation and he never picked my daughter up from school or anything, he has another daughter who is around 14ish she picks on my daughter she has threatened her with a bb gun etc to the point where my daughter took a knife upstairs to defend herself (this was a while ago) my daughter is now saying she doesn't want to live there anymore she doesn't want to return there, she said its a waste of time living there as her mother is hardly home anyway, where do I stand as a father ?

Hi all, my kids were living with their mother and toxic partner. We are separated and now divorced. My kids have made several accusations against her and her partner, in turn I have approached the pair of them, they've both accused the kids of being liars and have thrown the kids out of the house, I have taken custody of the kids but now have a social worker in place. The kids will be interviewed by SS when they go back to school. The mother is now trying to take them back, despite the massive emotional damage she's caused them, all of the kids have refused to go with her, won't even speak to her on the phone. They're terrified of being forced to go back if she applies for a court order. What's my legal stance on this?

long story short, my 2 kids live between their mother and myself roughly 50/50, their mother is in a toxic relationship to the point they are constantly arguing and her partner is telling her they have to leave his house on a pretty much monthly basis. ive been extremely lenient untill now. a couple of days ago her partner got into an argument with my 11 year old son about being on his phone so my son shouted at him as he was trying to message me to see how i was. at this point the boyfriend has lost his temper and told my kids they are no longer welcome there. ive then told the mother that they are not going back to that house as my kids decided they didnt want to and didnt feel safe there. however today after allowing their mother to take them out she has taken them to see her partner who has apologised and now my kids have decided they want to go back to the house later this week and carry on as normal. i need advice on how to handle this. would social services or court be the best approach.

Hi I have an 8 year old son who currently lives with his mother in wales UK. Over the recent coronavirus outbreak/ lockdown, my family and I suggested to have my son here with us in Manchester give respite to his mother and also allow her to return to work as I was on furlough. soon after his arrival I was looking through his mobile phone and found a string of messages dating back over a month which were cries for help from my son to a family friend on his mothers side as he had been left vulnerable without food, supervisionfor entire days at a time while his mother lay in bed unable to wake up. We initially decided to have my son remain with us for an undecided amount of time until his mother could prove she had sought help for what we found was alcohol and prescription drug abuse. Sadly the mother denied having any such issue and very short after filed for a court order requesting the immediate return of my son back in to her care. my son had decided over the few weeks he was with us that he wanted to live with us permanently.Since then I have been told by an ex-partner of hers that he has photo/ video evidence of the extent of the neglect which he will be willing to share if called upon as a witness in court. I don't have very much money at all so am going to be representing myself as my ex has filed a court order to stop me ever having contact with my son as I refused to let her physically see him for 6 weeks prior to the court order.I also submitted a C100 form during this time which has now been added to the court files which was asking for custody and the reasons behind my request. I do feel as though I have prepared a good amount of quality-presentable work for the court, however I am in need of recent case studies......and any other advice around going to court, such as what happens in each session, what forms, statements etc i should be preparing. Any advice at all would be greatly received. cheers guys Dan

Hey does anyone know if Social Services take a residence order for someone who is voluntarily looking after a child, what is the minimum term (if any) they can be taken out for?

I need some help or advice has today I received a non molestation order up to this point I had no idea this was going to happen the information that has been presented against me is all untrue lou-ann do not know so what I need to do about it and how to go round it I'm not in the financial position to get a solicitor that really do need some legal advice if anyone knows where to go and to get help if you can get back to me

@daveyjones4563.after reading all these posts wow you lot are a different breed .im old school .work with the mum wtf mate I would (never) work with any ex .ha ha go to a parenting group .mate for me I haven’t seen my child in 13 years and have never been to a solicitor for rights and never will .i might be the biofather (maybe ).but I have zero interest in the child after 13 years off zero contact mate there is no emotional attachment truthis if she was raped or mistreated I don’t care it’s been to long for me to care .i went though a( weak moment low point)and called the mother about 5 years ago now and she said do you no nearly lost your rights because she was going to change name or something (stuffs me) anyway I sighed the child passport papers now I( regret it )because I am never going to see the( child again) and realised it was a( mistake calling) because I was once again in off the( courts) been but on orders again .never will I( ever speak or send a message to that women ever again I swear that on the bible ).if her new partner wants to adopt the child you have my blessing go for it because I want nothing to do with the child I have zero feelings for the child to be honest I don’t care if she is (dead or alive) .sounds bad but . I’m honest .

@daveyjones4563.after reading all these posts wow you lot are a different breed .im old school .work with the mum wtf mate I would (never) work with any ex .ha ha go to a parenting group .mate for me I haven’t seen my child in 13 years and have never been to a solicitor for rights and never will .i might be the biofather (maybe ).but I have zero interest in the child after 13 years off zero contact mate there is no emotional attachment truthis if she was raped or mistreated I don’t care it’s been to long for me to care .i went though a( weak moment low point)and called the mother about 5 years ago now and she said do you no nearly lost your rights because she was going to change name or something (stuffs me) anyway I sighed the child passport papers now I( regret it )because I am never going to see the( child again) and realised it was a( mistake calling) because I was once again in off the( courts) been but on orders again .never will I( ever speak or send a message to that women ever again I swear that on the bible ).if her new partner wants to adopt the child you have my blessing go for it because I want nothing to do with the child I have zero feelings for the child to be honest I don’t care if she is (dead or alive) .sounds bad but . I’m honest .

John Smith. A child age 2 believe it or not hardly can say any words at that age. Also at 2 years old they are in the terrible twos. Instead of slating your baby mums parenting probably go on a parenting group yourself which explains a child’s development and what ages they do certain things at etc. Why don’t you work with the mhm instead of hoping the internet would do something!!

Hi I had a one night stand with a lady some time ago, she had a child which we have done a DNA test and the child is mine. I am not on the birth certificate. The mother is a known prostitute who advertises her services online (proof provided) also with a history of mental health. The child is showing signs of neglect as at 2 years old they are unable to talk or string any sentences together, along with being unable to control their temper or rage with not getting their own way. What would my stances be on obtaining full custody?

Hi, 14 months ago, my wife took our children 8 and 9 year old boys, and left the house accusing me of Coercive Control. As she refused to allow me any contact, I had to take this issue through the courts. We have just concluded the Final Hearing, The judge said that there was no proof or evidence of Coercive control, CafCass stated that I was a suitable parent and they had no issues with the boys being with me (an order was made to share school holiday access including 2 weekly stay with me over summer holidays). My wife home schools the boys and they are falling behind in their education, I want them to live with me to return to the local schools. Despite the judge stating that I am an acceptable parent, He awarded residence to my wife, due to the rules of 'maintaining Status Quo'. What is this rule and is there anything more I can do now ? Thank you, Philp

Hi there the mother of our child has become sick with a degenerative illness she and I want me (father) to have custody of our child how would we go about this thanks in advance.

Hi so I've just been to collect my 5yo daughter from here grandmothers house together there and find out neither of my daughters mother or grandmother had a clue where she was......as far as I care that's neglect in the worst way.now thinking I want sole custody so this can never happen again.

I have a 5 year old girl who currently have share care 50/50 with her dad. I have a restraining order against the dad which was put into place in December for 5 years which states he can only communicate to my mum regarding access for our daughter. It is becoming quite difficult with the 50/50 care without being able to discuss things and him wanting every decision to be made equally. Our daughter has suffered with medical issues which seem to have resolved itself when she is with me but not with dad which again I cannot find out why as we cant communicate. I would like for my daughter to spend more time with me so I can try and get to the bottom of the issues plus I am pregnant so will be off work and able to spend more time with her rather than her being with Dads family members etc This I know he will not allow as he wants it 50/50 and says I am not allowed to change this without his consent (even though this agreement is only verbal between ourselves, no court has actioned this). Am I able to apply for residence so access can be arranged? by no means do I want to stop my daughter seeing her Dad, I just want to understand what the issues are with her?

Hi I'm a mother of two young boys aged 4 and 1. My ex is the father of my youngest and we separated after living together for 3 months due to domestic violence. I was temporarily living with his family because of the house not being suitable and safe for myself and my children and my eldest son was abused by them emotionally and mentally as he is autistic. Since my youngest was born he hadn't spent much time with him and preferred to work. He is self employed as a private hire taxi driver. He would work from lunch (when he gets up)till early hours in morning. 2 or 3am. He didn't show much interest in his son and would take him to his mother's who I don't get along with and leave him there. I didn't get much choice in that matter because if I refused a arguement would happen and he would take him anyways. My eldest would be left out in the situation as he isn't biologically his. Due to the abuse my eldest and myself received I have to safe guard my kids. I let him have supervised contact with his son every Monday 10 till 3 as my eldest is at nursery and I need to get back for him. I had to stop this contact by my health visitor and social services because I was still being abused by him and he was being unreasonable and always threatening me with court if he doesn't get his own way. He now wants contact with his son unsupervised in which he would take him to his mother's where I will not get him back. His mother and sister will be looking after him as my ex would be going off to work or won't know how to look after my son. When my son starts crying he would take off because he can't handle it. He wants more contact and overnight stay. He hasn't a clue how to look after him and it would be his mother or sister taking care of him. What should I do?

My ex partner use to live with me in England. We where together for three years and we had a child and split up. I am on the birth certificate. She moved to Northern Ireland about 6 months ago and I allowed it. I see my child often but sometimes the ferry or flight gets cancelled so she makes me wait to the next week to see him. I see him about a week a month. I want to put this in a court order to make sure I keep seeing him. Will I have to go to court where they reside in Northern Ireland or will they have to come to court in England as I live here and I am putting the court order in. I am aware they work separately.

My wife took my child without my consent and in my absence from home n moved from London to Telford which is 180miles far frm me. She start work there in factory and her shifts are rolling some times morning, day and night shifts as well she declared that she found new partner and start relationships. I have 9 years old son, how can I get my child full custody from her. Co my child social behaviour became very poor as well I have not any contacts with my child . My ex from Lithuania and in 2012 she diagnosed frm Lithuanian hospital that she is Schizotypal disorder F12. Coz of my ex health I’m worry for my son that he can be same situation how she is. I have my ex medical report which is issued frm Lithuania and translated and notarised. Can I provide this to court for child custody

Hi. Ive recently came out of a abusive relationship my ex got a caution for stalking me and for abusive texts one which was a threat to my 11 year old son saying he would break his arms and legs. He was getting contact with our 5 year old daughter through his dad collecting her from me and taking her to my ex. It went well for 2 weeks until my ex decided he didn't want to return her at the agreed time I had no phone call from him about keeping her longer and he didn't answer my calls I was frantic with worry that he wasn't gonna return daughter. I eventually got her back home at 9:20pm and the excuse was he didn't want to leave the party he was at so he thought it was right to keep a 5 year old out that late. To top it off iv been receiving more nasty texts to myself my 18 year old daughter and he's also messaging my 5 year old saying he's going to get custody of our to girls. Inam putting in for a injunction order on him and was wintering I'd I could apply for full custody of our 5 year old

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@max.i want my x to come back and (work for me)and I only take (60 percent profit )I am (really fair )with my girls and (treat them good) .my x has a (set off skills) that is (madness not to make a profit from )with my (help and guidance and protection ) we all prosper (strictly business relationship ).but a (welcomed team member) off the business .?

My wife and I recently separated. We have a nine year old son. She is refusing to let me have custody. My question is: my wife has been an escort for a number of years as well as working a “normal” job. Would being an escort give me more leveraged in a custody battle? She refused to give up escorting saying it pays the bills. We are getting divorced on the grounds of her adultery.

Hi my ex partner left me and moved away we my son i had brought her daughter up and my son 4 the 5 years together my son his now 3 and I wasent put on birth citificate when it was done and trting 2 get on now has she won't corapte but I still see my son on a regular basis she just doing this 4 evil and selfish reasons can I still get on if she keeps refusing x

Hi, My partner has been separated from his wife for almost 18 months. she met someone very soon and my partner stayed at home for a long while to make sure his little boy was ok there and to look after him whilst the wife went out as she ended up going out almost every day. My partner then left the property earlier this year when it got too much and she asked him to not come home and wanted him out ASAP. she moved her boyfriend in almost straight away, whilst the house is still in his name alongside herself, she moved him in without asking or telling my partner. this boyfriend has since gone missing various times and causes a lot of stress on his wife (currently go through a divorce) she then asks us to have the little boy when he has gone missing, which is all ok with us but this is happening to often with the boyfriend going missing, now where do we stand in trying to get custody of the little boy? will this go against her that she has a boyfriend that is always going awol and giving over the little boy to us knowing he is going to be out of preschool because we live 1 hour away from school and both work so we struggle to get him to school? he also plays up before her goes home, he is always good with us, of course as any normal child he does play up at times but he constantly says all weekend out of the blue 'no back to mummy's' and 'no see marky' which is the boyfriend, when they was together my partner done everything she hardly done anything for the little boy, he done all school runs, he got him ready, done school lunches, breakfast,dinner etc etc. we just want to know where we stand with all this as he gets very very distressed about going back with her and he always has done since my partner has moved out of the property which is almost a year now and he seems to be getting worse each week.

My husband refused to give back my 2 children after a arranged visit . We were seperated due to his behaviour towards me and he had been given an ' affidavit ' at a previous court case. He then got court papers served at my home two days after dissapearing with the children for his bid at court for custody. I was then inundated with abusive texts to not attend court as i would be punished. I didnt attend court but had a solicitor who told them of the affidavit and the abuse. My husband got custody . I have no criminal recordnever had a alcohol or drug problem and never had social services involvement. I want a re trial is this possible?

Hi I'm a father of 9 year old boy who was handed over to me when his mum lost her house due to not paying rent she will not out me on birth certificate keeps saying Ys you can then don't turn up. Now he has been living with me for 4 years and now she turns up to take him what can I do.

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In answer to your questions, if your partner's ex is not keeping to the order, then if she will not attend mediation then your partner will have to refer the matter back to court for an enforcement of the order. With regards to filing for residency of the child, it is highly unlikely a court would remove a child from their parents unless absolutely necessary. Plus, it would choose not to spilt siblings. Social services would have had to have been involved and it be deemed the mother cannot care for the children properly before such action would be taken to take the children from the primary carer.

Hello, I am an (unmarried) step mum to a beautiful boy (7) and girl (2.5). Since my partner and his ex split 3 years ago there has been non stop issues. The ex (J) files for a no notice order in April 2016 for domestic violence and worry of child abduction .. there was no evidence proving this but it still managed to get through to court. The daughter (B) wasn't born at point of the court order so it was hard for the judge to rule any definite contact between B and her dad.. in the court order it states 'to be increased to the same hours as son (A) but at a child led pace' we have B every Sunday 10-6 currently but J is reluctant to increase time/have overnight stays.. will it have to go back to court to get progress on this? J has used the excuse that we can't increase contact to weekdays with A because B's bedtime is 7pm.. despite B being in the car when J is picking up A and we are told often be J that the kids have had a very late night so they will be tired. B is often filfthy on contact with us and is more often than not, not strapped into her car seat properly.. when she is dropped at the meeting point she is halfway out of the car window without anyone unstrappi g her. Also J is now living with a new man who A really dislikes. J has got B to call the new man 'daddy' despite their break ups often for months at a time. We are looking at filing for residence of A But wondering what the judge will seem necessary (A has a very bad attendance at school, is often very upset and isn't told to bathe often.. when he comes to us he stinks has dirt embedded in the cracks of his feet and hands and is generally unhappy.. he has stated on multiple occasions that he wants to come and live with us but as he is only seven is his opinion going to stand for anything? He's starting presenting with anxiety (picking the skin from his fingerprints and has been diagnosed with a tick in which he is constantly smelling his hands) it upsets both me and my partner very much to see him so unhappy and we just want the best for him. I hope that wasn't to complicated to read.. there is a lot more to it but I have tried to ask as concisely as possible. Thank you