If your ex partner is planning to relocate abroad with your children, you should understand your legal position by using our free Moving Away Rights Checker.
Thankfully most couples who separate are able to agree arrangements for their children between them, without the need for the help of solicitors, mediators or the court. Shared arrangements are becoming increasingly common, where the children spend similar amounts of time with their mother and father. Obviously this requires an element of cooperation between the parents and usually a close geographical proximity for it to work. The further apart the parents live the harder it is to make sure that the children have a full relationship with both parents, which is in their best interests in the vast majority of cases. This is particularly difficult to achieve if one of the parents decides that they would like to move to another country with the children. Given how easy it is to move within the EU, this is happening more and more. If this happens it is important that you know your legal position.
Do you have parental responsibility?
The first thing you must consider is do you have parental responsibility for your child? This allows you to have a say in the important decisions in your child's life, such as consenting to medical treatment, and more importantly, as in this case, a say in whether your child can move abroad permanently with your ex. As the law stands at present, all mothers automatically have parental responsibility for their child as soon as they are born. All father's married to the mother of their child also automatically have parental responsibility. Unmarried fathers whose child was born before 1st December 2003 do not have parental responsibility for their child unless it is formally granted by the court or a formal agreement is entered into with the child's mother in a prescribed form. Thankfully the law was changed in 2003, to take into account the fact that many unmarried couples now have children, and any father named on the birth certificate of a child born on or after 1st December 2003 automatically has parental responsibility for that child. If you are not named on your child's birth certificate as the father, you can obtain parental responsibility with the agreement of your child's mother or through the court.
If you have parental responsibility and your ex wants to take the child to live abroad, your ex needs your permission. If you are agreeable to this, it is always recommended that you obtain a court order confirming your agreement and also detailing your contact with the child once the child moves abroad. Once the English court order has been made, a "mirror" order should be obtained from a court in the EU country that the child is moving to, as once the child moves abroad, any issues regarding the child would be dealt with by a court in the country where the child lives and not by an English court. You will need a lawyer in the country that your child is moving to, to deal with this. Although this can be expensive and time consuming, if your ex later reneges on the agreement you will find it much easier to deal with this issue in the foreign court as there will be a formal record of the arrangements that were agreed.
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If you do not agree to your child moving abroad, your ex will need to apply to court and ask the court to make an order agreeing to her request. Every case of this nature is fact specific, so it is important that you obtain specialist legal advice so that you present your case in the best possible light to the judge. If the judge does agree to the child moving abroad, they will usually insist that the court order include details of the time that the child will spend with you. You will then be advised to obtain a "mirror" order in the country that the child is moving to.
If your ex takes the child abroad permanently without your consent, this is technically parental child abduction and there are international legal agreements between Britain and the other EU countries, which would hopefully facilitate the return of the child to this country. If this happens you must contact a specialist lawyer immediately as it is important that an application is made to court as soon as possible for the child's return. Once the child has been returned, the English court will have to decide if it is appropriate for the child to move abroad permanently with your ex.
If you are separated from your child's mother, there will inevitably be many issues that arise regarding your child. Hopefully you will be able to deal with these between you, but if not it is important that you obtain the advice of a specialist family lawyer, which will then enable you to consider the best way forward for you and your child.
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About the Author
This was a guest blog written by Fiona Wood, Family Law partner at specialist divorce solicitors, Pannone Law Group.
I don’t particularly want to spend time with her as I find her annoying but she says she won’t let me see the baby without her around.
She’s giving me a choice now: either withdraw all involvement or committ to spending a week per month with her and commit to not showing any other partner the baby . I am not sure she’s trying to manipulate me to not have another partner . Or if what she’s asking is reasonable? What do you think ?
Now she changed her mind, she is saying she don't have intention to come back.
So what I need to do to get my son back she went to EU countrys, my son born in UK, I have his birth Certificate.
Thank you
K
Thanks for the help!
So the 2 people that want to move away do not agree with the 3rd person, do they still have to go to court.
Does my daughter-in-law has the legal right to stop her husband from bringing their son to visit me?
P.s: i have a paper for 5 years to travel with my son between portugal and uk
He has brithis passport and he is from Irak . Haw can i ban him never go with the child in Irak because i know he will not gone bring back, he try to be nice with me till he take it in there or convince me to go together to visiting his family.
I been in there and i never want to come back because a very bad experience, he try in that time to push me to make id for our son in there but illegal ( because we are married) he try to explain to me we need to pass the son in his brother name and sister in low because they are married.
Can you believe?
I get shock!
I did not accepted and i was thinking never i gone go back from there when i realised what kind of person he is .
I report him 2 times to police for violence and physical abuse and i did not go on with the court thinking is gone change but there is not change i believe .
Thank you in advance!
Out my sons permission, her mother is very controlling, what can he do to stop this happening.
i am german he is british and we met abroad and decided to move here.
we have a 2 years old son and i am heavily pregnant.
I want to move back to germany and he agreed to it.
but how does it work ? visiting rights ? child support ?
do we have to appeal to british or german laws ?
Me and my partner both live in Spain but of English nationality, he and his ex wife (not yet divorced just seperated) have a child together, who was born in Spain, she is English also.
Since their seperation she has threatened to move back to the UK various times with their child, regardless of what he says, only to back out last minute which is completely messing with his head. Now she is aware that me and him are together, she is saying if this continues she will move back to England, as she completely disagrees of me. He is stuck between a rock and hard place, obviously not wanting his son to move back to England without him, but on the other hand finds a way to try and keep him here with a miserable and resentful mother who will ultimatley take it out on both him and their son.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and found an 'easy' way out, or know of what my partner is entitled to legally? He wants to cause as little distress as possible to his son (age5).
Thankyou in advance
Did you need permission to move abroad ?
I’d love to hear your outcome
Tils
She has a good relationship with her father but he has no fixed address and hasn't since late last year so she does not have overnight stays. He often works away for 2 or 3 weeks at a time so if I compromised by allowing him to visit and stay every other week or third week (and forfeit any child maintenance he owes me), would this be fair and likely to be allowed?
I've separated from my husband due to domestic abuse and we have a trial coming up next month. However, due to fear of life and health issues I'm willing to move to a EU country next to my parents. Social Services discharged us stating that my children are in a safer environment (with me). Hence, i was wondering if i would still need my ex's permission when relocating with my kids? Also, he's on my sponsored visa that is due to expire next year. Would he be able to get this extended considering parental issues?
My now ex-partner took our daughter from the UK and to Germany 3 years ago.I had, and still have, PR. At the time my partner made out that she wanted to continue the relationship and we would work things out over the next year or so. I was not able to move at this time but I believed we would all be together again in the near future. My ex did not initiate any conversations about the future and eventually I painfully conceded that she had no intention of doing so and probably never did. This promise of future discussion seems to have obscured what was in effect child abduction. They are now settled in Germany and my daughter has an established life which I do not wish to disrupt for her own sake.
I am wondering what my rights are now regards access and how the burden of travel costs to see my daughter is taken into account. They do not visit the UK.
My ex now wants to take my son to live in the Czech Republic as she has family there but I do not agree.
I already have a joint custody order, a prohibited steps order and a financial order.
My wife has a uk passport
What are my rights towards my son and if she moves do I still have to honour the financial order ?
me and my son are British
He is only 1 year old
She has moved back to Malaysia with my son
While I work away with full support from me..
Plan was to save up and move to Malaysia
But she wants to split up and keep my son there.
What are my rights to get my son back to the UK
Can I cancel his uk passport so she can't get visa extensions
I just want to know about my rights , can I get some advice please!
My daughter moved to Finland almost 3 years ago, I was stupid and thought i was doing the right thing for her and letting her mother live her life and gave permission. However after realising all the promises were a lie of bringing her back regularly and the expenses of going over there and seeing how far behind she is compared to children her own age and on top the parenting of my ex. I want her to come home. She has also tried to seek child maintenance when I made it clear in order to maintain a proper relationship with my daughter i needed to come to Finland to see her, but its so expensive. She doesn't have a job over there and seems to have gone from one benefit system to another.
I am at a loss and I have a child at home who has been very sick and I am the sole provider in my household. My ex wife doesn't seem to care about the relationship with my daughter and just wants money for nothing regardless of anyone elses needs, but can afford to go on holiday whenever she wants. My holidays are not family ones, as at £600 a pop each time i go over, I am left paying the visit off each time. I have also assisted her family when they have come down the 2 times in 3 years, with finance so she can come over. Now Kela are chasing me again and potentially are going to cripple me and stop me from being able to see my daughter. Its a random one, but if anyone can help.
My wife is polish and we are not getting along and we are separated. My question is she is going back to Poland on holiday with my kids what’ happens if she decide To not come back to uk ?
Will it be easy to bring them back as I have not agreed on this ?
Am I better off not allowing travel ?
Can the dad (ex partner) stop this? At the end of the day he can still see the child when he wants he will just have to travel from England. We are putting the needs of the unborn baby and the child first as we have support over there and are doing it so we can can have a stable life.
Thank you
my daughter is now 3, unfortunately things have become difficult between her mother and me. we have only verbal agreements for me to see our daughter and she refuses to support this situation. I pay monthly support and always pay for flights for both of them. now her mother is refusing to bring our daughter to England.
what can I do to ensure access to my Daughter.
any support or help would be greatly welcomed.
thanks.
I am soon to be divorced with a young child. I am Engish and he is American. As a family, and before we were married and had our child, we have always lived in the UK. He may be moving to the US for work and wants to possibly take our daughter. I do not want this as it is not her home, her school is here, my side of the family and she has on-going medical concerns (not serious but enough that she has been an outpatient most of her life).
Is there a resource I can look at for what my rights are in this situation? Thanks in advance.
Thank you
If I need permission how would I get that if I don't have contact.
Many thanks
Thank you for your article.
My ex-partner moved to Northern Ireland with my two boys. Court let her move, and Judge said hectically she has right to move within UK.
I want to apply to Child Arrangement Order.
1) Should I apply to Family Court in London, which let her move to Northern Ireland or should I apply at Northern Ireland?
2) I know that in Northern Ireland is different regulations, any information regarding that will be appreciated.
Many thanks in advance.
Thank You
I had my daughter who will be 4 next month with my partner in the uk. My partner is Dutch but had lived in the uk for 14 years. We had been together for 6 in the uk.
18 months after our daughter was born, my partner decided that we should go to Holland for the support of her parents. I lived there for 8 months but it didn’t work for me. We have tried to maintain a relation ship for the last 18 months but I fear it may not end well.
What are my rights to see my daughter I have tried to maintain every 4 weeks so I drive over.
Going forward is it my right to bring her back to the uk for visits? 1-2 weeks at a time when suits with her school holidays?
It’s nice to see her when I go over but I really want to be able to bring her back to the uk to visit my family
What are my options?
Regards
Chris
Before she fell pregnant we was splitting up, once we found out she was pregnant we decided to give it a go at making things work.
Things got better but now we are coming back to the position we was in when we almost broke up.
We have a holiday in 8 weeks time back to Australia.
My question is, if she decided to stay there and she did not want to come back to the UK, can she deny him coming back home? And if she did, would/could the British government get involved as he is British not Australian? Would I lose my son?
My partner and i (unmarried) are both Irish but living in the UK, our baby boy was born this year in the UK but holds an Irish passport.
His mother and i are unfortunately splitting up.
I own and run a business in the UK and am not in a position to visit Ireland more than one weekend a month.
She is talking about moving home and bringing our son with her.
If somebody could please offer me some advice as to my rights on this matter it would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
My ex partner to be is Slovak. We have 2 kids together, problem I have is she moved there in 2014 to be closer to her parents as she had no support on this side in the UK. So I moved them over there. I tried working there but money was not great, so I came back to the UK on the basis that once I got a great job I'll get them to move back here.... She has now filed for divorce this year 2017, and my question is to you do I have to pay child maintenance?? Secondly doesn't she need my permission to keep kids in a different country as it was only temporary? As they a British and recently just found out that she applied for Slovak birth certificate..... I want to see my kids but it will cost me more in flying over aswell as paying somewhere to stay. I need help???
We are an Indian family living in Germany since 5 years.Since years my wife had an opinion to settle in Germany and never wanted to go back India.Some months ago she filed a case to get complete children's custodial rights and court decided to give equal rights. Now she is separated(not divorced) from my family and kids are with me.Kids are with me after court investigations that she is not capable to take care of our kids as she is sick as well.She has no job and not willing to do any job and she wants money from my side that's all.
When asked she will never ever give permissions to go back to India with kids for the permanent settlements.I have no intentions to separate kids from their mother but she is not allowing to execute my & kids interests to settle in India.I believe EU has mostly same laws followed across. recently I came to read about unmarried couples father exclusive rights to get child custody rights. But nothing found for married couples.
My question is, Are there any laws or methods to approach court to get rights to relocate India along with kids? Thanks for any advice's, to move on...
Me & my partner have a 4 year old Girl, she was born in the UK. We moved abroad to Spain when she was 1. we are not married. I bought us a house, and I work from Home and provide the income. My partner does not work. I supply all needs, such as food, water, electricity and bills ect.
However me and my partner had an argument one night, at which point she stormed out and went to the spanish Police, the case was dealt with the next day in court, where all charges where dropped. Our solicitor then agreed to start a mutal custody order 50/50 which we both agreed to, she said it could take upto 1 week. In the time, I moved back into our family home, and my partner moved in with my daughter & a friend. 2 days Later she returned to the UK, and messaged me once arrived. " sorry i am back in the UK " taking my little girl. My solicitor tells me she can not do this, as we are in the process of a shared custody trial....... What may happen ? I am so sad, and it kills me every day i do not see my little girl.
He works all day, most of the time Saturday and had until Sundays. I'm a full-time mom, and I do everything for my baby. She is very very connect with me.
I would like to know what my rights are to go back to my country with my daughter.
Thank you so much
I am a UK resident who lives in the UK and work full time. I am devorsed to my ex wife and we have 2 children together. She moved to ibiza Spain 5 years ago with my permission with our children to live full time. They now have Spanish passports and have no intention of moving back to the uk.
My question is, I have been paying money to my ex wife for both the children each month to help with there upbringing. Due to the cost of flying out and seeing them it puts massive amount of financial strain on me with paying for my children as well. Do I legally still have to pay child support each month if they live in Ibiza, or can I stop paying it and spent the money on flying out to see them and spending more time with them?
Thanks
I have two children borth born in UK 2003 and 2008 I`m Czech and my ex partner Italian still living in UK. I`m planning to move abroad for a year as my dad is very ill to look after him. My ex partner refused to give me permission in our family court to take my 8year old with me. My daughter would remain in UK because GSCE`s.. How do I apply for the court order? Do I have to get solicitors involved or can I apply myself as my finances are tight..
Manty thanks for advice.
Is she able to take them out of the country? and if she does do the laws extend to Russia?
Thanks
my partner moved to the UK when she was pregnant. we separated and she moved back to spain before our daughter was born. im registered on the birth certificate.
i was present at the birth and we have continued a distant relationship for the past 2 years. things are becoming difficult and my partner is not willing to travel with our daughter to visit me.
she is happy for me to travel to spain only.
what are my options we all have uk passports.
This year my son decided to live with his father in the uk which I allowed without a court or lawyer being involved.
My son now wants to return. What are our rights. Can he simply get in a plane and come home?
I am on a EEA spouse visa. Our marriage is going from bad to worse.I am afraid my wife will try to leave with my kids to go live back in Poland. What are my rights? Can we separate? will I have to leave the country. I am the only bread winner and have a good job. My children are my life and I could not imagine a day without them in my life.
I would even be willing to carry on paying for our current home and moving out.
On his way home to Spain leaving my family shatterd and my mother in Spain I a big house by herself, this was 2 years ago.. now since then I had a baby girl now 3 with my now ex.. we have 2 year ago split up, we had a violent situation whilst I was grieving and had postnatal depression .. I had to be put with my 2 girls in a room whilst a house was found for me.. now in the house for a year I have been told I have to move within a month as landlord is selling.. I speak with my mother everyday, and after taking my girls over there I feel it's my time to maybe move to be with her.. Iv nothing here, well a pt job..my ex sees her 1day a week because he works to much I struggle by my self... I no that my life now would Benifit myself and also my girls..15 year old starts college next sept and 3 year starts school also next sept.. colleges are amazing.., I no my ex won't let me leave without a fight... what's yr advice?
I am an Indian national who used to live in Hungary with my girlfriend, we have a child born on 1st september 2016. On 18th November i went to meet one of my friend to the city centre in Budapest and wanted to go back to the house where we lived (her parents home), I tried to contacted her on phone to let me in the house but it was switched off, so i stayed at my friends home to spend the night. Next day when i tried to call her, her phone was off so i went directly to that building and i saw that my luggage is waiting for me outside the apartment..So i pleaded, cried, begged knocking on her door for more than an hour but of course no one came out and even responded, i just wanted to see my child who was hardly 3 and a half months old at that time. Eventually, I went back to India on 2nd of December and since then I have written her 1000 emails approximate where in most of the emails i requested her to share some pictures of my child, whom i havent seen growing up for last 7 months and the other thing was that whenever i would visit her city, she should let me meet my child whether she brings the baby or through a third party involvement, but my girlfriend never replies to those emails.
I think I dont need to mention the trauma, pain I am going through when someones baby is seperated in a snap. I havent even seen my child pics that i have with me because it send chills down my spine. This all pain is literally inexplicable. I have no words left. My child has Ventricular Septal defect and the doctors had advised to undergo a surgery if it doesnt fill up, i am so much worried about but of course i have no news about her health at all.
I was with my ex partner back in 2002, we had our gorgeous son together but unfortunately the relationship broke down. We spilt when my son was 2.
I kept in contact with my son, even with the frosty relationship I had with his mother.
A year later she met her new partner, and then everything went to s**t for me.
My sons mother stopped contact and told me if I wanted to see my son I would have to go to court...no reason at all, but still wanted me to pay child maintence every month which I did.
I got myself a solicitor and done the only thing I could, fight her for access in court. This was a lengthy, stressful and expensive time let me tell you.
My sons mother represented herself so had no solicitors or court fees to pay, which she took to her full advantage.
Everytime we went to court she prolonged the case, turned up late, cried wanting to take breaks knowing it would be costing me more money.
She tried everything to stop me seeing my son, told the judge I was dangerous, she was afraid I was going to a kidnap my son and even stooped so low as to say I raped her (this claim she later admitted in court was not true)
I had to obtain doctors letters, attend classes to prove this was not the case. The whole court process went on for years.
Eventually the court said enough was enough and granted me access in a contact centre.
Because I hadn't seen him for so long this was the only and the best way they thought would build our relationship and bond between me and my son back together.
Another lengthy process with just two 2 hour visits a month, cafcass reports, some times his mother wouldn't show up and other times saying my son was ill. Obviously moving forward was taking a lot longer and I still wasn't seeing him very often.
After a year of contact centres I was allowed to take him out of the centre for a couple of hours....
To cut a long story short a year after that the court agreed I was not a danger, showed commitment and responsibility and was granted access to my son every other weekend.
Everything was going amazingly seeing my son. Myself and my partner had a child things couldn't of been any better....apart from still paying off the thousands of pounds of debt I racked up in court.
In 20011 my ex called me to her house for a meeting.
The worst thing that could every happen happened!
She told me she was emigrating to Australia with my son and her new family, I was literally crushed and devastated.
I went back to court to see what my options were only to be told my son is nearly 10 so able to stand up in court and make up his own mind where he wants to live. I couldn't put my son in that situation as to pick , as he resides with his mother and his two other brothers I knew he was going to end up moving.
He left in 2012, I had an agreement with his mother that I would not have to make any child maintence payments as I would use this m
I know it's a difficult situation, I need to find a legal advice, I will appreciate if someone here can provide any info. so I can be ready in case she makes any moves....any lawyer? thanks!
My ex partner moved from Poland 3 years ago to live in England with our daughter who was 3 at that time. Since then my daughter has learnt English and have settled into school and is almost at the top of her class, she attends a private dance class and swimming club which I all pay for. I also forgot to mention that I have parental responsibility as my name is was placed on her birth certificate.
I have maintained her financially since birth until present. Now my ex partner spoke two days ago when she informed me that she was going to be returning back to Poland to be with her new partner and she will be taking my daughter. I spoke with her and tried to explain the importance of our daughter to have the best possible start in life by maintaining her education and development as it is because she is very happy.
Just also to mention here that my daughter is dual heritage and one of the reasons her mom came back to England was that she felt that her daughter would face difficulties growing up in Poland due to her ethnicity.
Also having spoken with her I quickly gather from her that she has been planning this for awhile now and have even purchased plane tickets for her return just after school breaks up in December.
I tried convincing her to leave my daughter here to continue her schooling and development and that because she was going off to be with her boyfriend that she could have her on all the holidays and national holidays but not to deny our daughter her education and stability she is experiencing at this point.
Also that she is not working and possibly will be depending on her new partner who I understand is living in a one bedroom apartment. I have asked her what she plans to do and she couldn't give me any answers.
This morning I received a text message to say that she has made the decision and that she will be taking our child back to live in Poland.
Is there anything I can do to stop this from happening?
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A father in need
I need urgent advise here. I am ecuadorian and I have been living in th UK for 6 years. I have been living on EEA residence permit due to my ex partner. we had achild in 2014 and due to her unreasonable behaviour with my child she decided to take my daughter to live in Spain where she is from. Now I stopped her by filing her a prohibited step order , after two months she delivered me in hands of imiigration as I was depending on the relationship we had. Now I have recieved a ltter from immigration that me and my son have to leave the country. however I can appeal and I have also received the child arragement order first hearing. What are my chances of staying her and keep seeing my daughter. my son would be destroyed if he is gets torn apart from his sister. would it be a vicious circle where immigration would say, we dont know yet what the judge will decide therefore i have not rights and the family court judge would say: your immigration status in this country is not stable so you have not rights to fight for you daughter . HELP PLEASE! thanks =(
Im thinking about to move . I have job offer in china and US.
Can I move to other country?
And if my ex follow us and try to do harm us whats gonna happemd?
I dont mind he visit us and meet us but I do not want him to take her out of country where Im not with my child.
My child dont want that. She is 7years old now.
Pls give some advice.
She has texted from Spain which she said was a holiday and said she want to move there.
Can she take my granddaughter to Spain without my son's consent ?
Pam
Regards
There mother was born in Germany, due to Un-known reasons she wants to move to germany and take my kids weather I like it or not..... she has german supporters telling her wat to do n say... im not married to her..... I cant see my self being away from my daughters...(What should I do?times just ticking)
His wife has told him that if he leaves her, to live with us (she knows about me and our son) that she will move back to Lithuania and take their daughter with her so that he can't see her again.
Due to current financial debts, he is unable to return to Lithuania until these are cleared.
Can you please provide any advice that could help us to move forward from this stalemate? Father and daughter have an extremely tight bond which is not shared with the mother. If he was to apply for a divorce, what chances would he have for custody? I appreciate that full custody is highly unlikely for a father, especially since the mothers unreasonable behaviour and controlling issues have not been brought to the attention of the law.
Any help would be very much appreciated.
Many thanks
i am looking for help/ advise. My son is british subject, I am british and his mum Azeri. We live in Azerbaijan due to my work. We have recently split up. I am on the birth certificate as father and i am in possesion of his visa and passport.
My ex has moved into her parents apartment, which is one room, it has two single beds, mum and her in one bed and mentally ill granny in th other. the property has no hot water. I have asked her to live in outr current house in one room but she refuses and is keeping my son in cramped and bad conditions which concerns me a lot. I have asked her if i can take him to visit uk, to see granny but she refuses. I am at my wits end what to.
What would happen if i was just to take him for an evening and then get on a flight back to uk, what would the implecations be. As i would then refuse to allow him to leave the uk and return to Azerbaijan, due to the conditions where he lives, and the human rights experianced in the country.
Please help
Im a ex serving member of the armed forces and married a german woman.
we were blessed with two kids.
1 boy and 1 girl
we have never really goten on so well after the 1s chiled was bourn.
But nun the less.. My wife last week took my kids with her to Germany to visit her folks back home. Thay had been taken out of school a few days early due to the school holadays . I as the rest of the world expected them to retern the following thursday. by the wednesday I didnt even hear if they landed or were having a fun time so I contacted my wife to find out the time shes flying back.
Her resposne was were not comming back were getting devorced so whats the point I may aswell take the kids now..
Is this legal..?I ve phoned the police and been told its a civil matter ..
the royal british legion cant help because its a civil matter.
im not shure what to do...
who do I ring..?
Iv belled a law firm and there going to call me back in or under 48 hours...
Im going insaine here .. the kids were due back at school on monday (todays wednesday) Iv phoned them and the headmaster was as shocked as I was..
can some one please please shed some light as to what to do now..?
This cant be right ..?
Jamie
Can he stop me to take my son with me ?
Thank you
I'm in a situation where I married a scandinavian woman and had two children by her. We have lived in the UK for 8 years, our marriage has deteriorated. We have tried couples counselling but to no avail. She really wants to go home to her country and in fact a date has already been set for a months time.
I have no quarms about the ending of the relationship, it hasn't been very pleasant. However she is going to take our young children away with her who are both under 5 years old. I have been to a solicitor who has said unless I can prove she is an unfit mother and that the children will not be cared forI have no chance in keeping them in the country.
I could refuse that she takes them, but then it would sour our relationship, and cost money to go through the courts. We are quite amicable with each other at the moment.I have looked at the labour market in her country and I don't really stand a chance of getting a job which would give me a standard of living - I've been on blogs which says unless I speak the language fluently I do not have much choice and then they would prefer to choose a native speaker.
I'm just so upset that I'm going to lose my children and have to find the money for flights to see them once a month if I'm lucky. Again the mother gets it all her way again, there are hardly no rights for fathers. If it was 50/50 then I would go to court to fight for the children, but it's extremely unlikey and I have to realistic about the law.
My social life was mostly around the family and the friends we had together and the children would always be the link to gathering socially. Now nobody wants to know and are all involved in their own lives. So im in my 40s wondering what the hell to do next.
Would like to hear from somebody who has experienced a similar situation and how they coped.
Thanks for reading.
My ex partner is a Jamaican National but has been living in the UK for approximately 15 years. She has family that permanently reside both in Jamaica and the USA. She has no other family in the UK and has recently expressed interest regarding leaving the UK and living elsewhere although she hasn't been specific as to whether that would be Jamaica or the USA. My son has a current UK passport. I also have a copy of his birth certificate. I obviously don't want my son to leave the UK. She has told me that if she wants to leave the UK, she will irrespective of how I feel about this.
How do I realistically stand from legal point of view
We bought the house but only his name on the morgate, he asked me to moved out with the child. I m thinking of returning back and live in Thailand as I can get a better job there. Can I bring my son there permanently? And do I entitle of any thing in the house?
Many thanks.
Kim
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