Before taking any formal steps, it's important to understand exactly where you stand legally by using our free Rights Checker.
If you have Parental Responsibility, either by being married to the mother when the child was born, being present when the birth was registered and having your name on the birth certificate as the father, or through a Parental Responsibility Agreement or Parental Responsibility Order, you have rights and responsibilities to your children.
Obviously, part of that is support in financial terms, but also in emotional and legal terms, too. In return, you have contact with your children. Family Courts have a principle called “presumption of contact”, under which they have to do everything possible for fathers to see their children.
Contact Orders
Very often, Court-issued Contact Orders prove unnecessary, since arrangements will have been worked out privately or in mediation between the two parents. However, even where a Contact Order is issued, often the parents are allowed to work out the details for themselves. Before any Contact Order is issued, however, the court must take several things into consideration:
- What the child wishes, if he or she is old enough to make any kind of decision
- The educational and emotional needs of the child
- Whether there’s any risk of harm to the child
- Whether you’re capable of meeting the child’s needs during contact
These might seem possibly weighted against you, but the sole intent is for the welfare of the child. In the vast majority of cases – well over 90% – Contact Orders are granted. If it’s come to a hearing, one important factor will be the report by the Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) officer. Both parents, as well as other carers and teachers, will have been interviewed, and in most cases the court accepts the report as it stands (although you can challenge part of it or even ask for a new report from a different officer if you disagree).
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A Residence Order determines who the children should live with. If none has been issued, then the children will stay with their mother. You can apply for a Residence Order to have full custody of your children, but realistically speaking, unless there are pressing reasons they should not stay with their mother, it’s unlikely your request will be granted custody.
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Things Not To Do
When you have contact with the children, you should not attempt to take them out of the country without written permission from their mother. Even if it’s for a holiday, this needs to be discussed and permission in writing given. While you have the children, don’t say negative things about your ex-partner. It creates confusion and a bad atmosphere for the children. You have more positive things to concentrate on during your time with them, anyway.
Take at look at our article Making the Most of Your Time With Your Child for some ideas about what you can do together.
Looking for some advice if anyone can help! My partner is currently going through the divorce proceedings, and he has asked to have the child more in the holidays. His ex has said he cannot take his son in the holidays unless he is off work and if his parents are helping he has to return to her. Does anyone know if this is a valid reason and the courts would agree? At the moment they are back and forth with solicitors, and his solicitor is taking his sweet time to respond. Thank you in advance!
Me and my ex split up about 5 year's ago when our daughter was 2 year's old it's was an amicable split and we agreed on child maintenance costs and that I would hace my daughter every weekend from Friday evening then take her home Sunday evening also school hoildays ect work permitting. And this has worked fine bit the last few month's I've just been getting lots of abusive text's saying how bad a father I am and last weekend as there were on hoilday together I made plans to do something over the weekend but she message me saying I needed to take my daughter out on the Saturday I said I'd made plans and the abuse just got worse. I met with her and my daughter on the Sunday to take them home after there hoilday I was constantly told I was a let down and a waste man ect I ended up just leaving after that and had to block her number ect so I've seen mediation but really don't think this will work and want to carry on seeing my daughter so was just after some advice as this has just happened and I don't know what to do. I will add that she is a great mum but with have become toxic and I don't want that around our daughter
Thanks
He even messaged me and told me to write in my calendar that our son will be staying at his every other weekend. I have tried to explain our son doesn’t want this and he want to stay every weekend just one night but he is just not listening to either of us and making it out to look like I’m the problem I told him that I gave my life up for my son and still will
Parenting plan was working fine between us for while till she got married and my daughter don’t like staying with her that much. She took me to court yet cafcas asked her to
Allow me to see my daughter for our daughter wellbeing. Now my ex want to formalise a parenting plan which both we don’t agree. What court will decide in this case? I have given her 2 chooses but each time she put them down and she suggest a complicated plan for me . Please advise
Now my Husband is pursuing that he wants to take the children to his house where they live together with the other woman. And i am fighting him with this. As i cannot allow him to confuse my children most specially the eldest one. I have suggested him many times that we can do activities with the kids together like taking them out, or take them for a drive but he refuse all the time. All he wants is he wants to do activities with my children with his other woman.
My husband was never a hands on father, he couldnt manage our eldest before on his own, he always want me to be with them most of the time when we go out. I never seen him being hands on with our little one as he broke up with me 2 days i went back to work after maternity leave. I basically do everything.
Guys, do i have a stand to stop him from doing this if we go to court? I am really worried for my childrens emotional safety.
I phone her ever day
I wht a set times for her to c me..
This was before OK
But now it a joke.
She does wht she want and I fill that wrong
At mo ment we are on Lock down but she went old to c her mum today with daughter wrong again.... Chop and changed.
I need a plan with both us agree and stick to...
GOOD LUCK ALL
I have moved on with someone else but my daughters mother will not let me have my daughter on my own due to moving on with someone else, which is unfair but I can see her point in why she wouldnt... but I still cant see my daughter unless I'm with the mother, but the mother has tried so hard to get me back which wont be happening. I dont know what to do, and need some advice please. Thank you.
I am also going through the pain of not seeing my son 3yrs old.
The pain is the worst in the world. It's like living with bereavement.
Be strong Dads and don't give up. It's a hard rocky road but it's worth it in the end.
My daughter is staying with me (dad) from September 2018, mum left us. Mum sees her 2 night per week 19:00 to 8:00, plus maybe 1 or 2 time per week during the day as well.
So far I have tried to be accommodating with times, being flexible in letting my daughter sees her mum whenever the mum puts the times "available" for the week.
However the mum has been abusing the arrangement, treating us as a spare wheel, modifying time at the last second, or just plainly coming at different times. Often with reasons like "my friend is coming to visit". I am not happy about this. It's offensive and inconvenient. I can't plan my own life because whatever time she says can change at the last second, and my daughter suffers from it when these changes happen.
I am also not happy with her coming to my place to pick her up, as in the past she has come here and after having understood that my new girlfriend was inside she has written me a message insulting her.
I would like times to be fixed every week, something like she picks her up from school on friday, and she takes her back to school on monday. Or something like that. Without the possibility for her to (a) change time at will, and me having to put up with it, and (b) her coming to my place to pick her up, so that I can live my life in private without worrying about her reactions.
What are the steps I can take to make this happen? Money is not a concern.
Regards
MR1974
Now my daughter is wanting to see me again and I'm scared to spend time with her alone incase any other allegations are made but she is refusing to have supervised visits, I'm at wits end I desperately want to see her but I'm scared her mother will manage to convince her to make another complaint to the police. Any advice or thoughts I really need help!
Any help will be gratefully recieved
Dan
My ex partner lives 1 hour away and has access 3 days a week to his serverly autistic son 14 years old. His son can be unpredictable and I'd worry if my baby was around him. In addition his son needs constant supervision so I wonder how he could care for the baby. Also I'd worry if he could care for a new born as his ex partner cared mostly for their son when he was a baby. Any advise would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance john
Admittedly I have had a gambling problem which I am trying to cut out (signed up to gamstop) she is using this against me & has said no to overnight access 1 night a week. I don’t know wether to bypass 1 day a week with no overnight & apply for supervised.
Post is a bit rushed, my mind is all over the place & im scared as this is my first child & therefore the first time I’ve had to deal with anything like this.
The result of this being i caused alot of hurt and de stress to my family and friends and my ex
I was refused no contact with my own son for nearly 13 weeks not aloud phone calls and even now 3years later im not aloud to be alone with my son because of my behaviour directly after the break up
Ive paid maintenance for 90 percent of the time and when i didnt was when my ex refud to accept it
I want to find out what right i have regarding non supervised visitation i have parental responsibility and theres no history of violence or any restrictions applyed by courts
Can i have time alone with my son and enjoy creating a bond with him
The issue is she is against the idea of me introducing them to my now partner (the person I had the affair with) even for now just as a friend of mine and I'm not sure where I go from here. The now partner is not a safeguarding risk and poses no threat whatsoever, its purely the ex sees her as the reason for the break up and doesn't want our children to see her.
Any advice??
My ex is saying that her and her mother will discuss it with me. They should don't want me to have this contact I can tell as they are both control freaks. I am a good man with a good job and a nice home plus have a fantastic relationship with my daughter. What are my rights?
I have recently entered into a relationship with someone I have known for 15 years. I did not inform my ex about this but now she knows she doesn’t want our child to have any contact with my new partner and has threatened to remove my access if her ‘demands’ are not adhered to. She claims that our child’s anxiety is caused by my new relationship which conflicts with the behaviour of my child.
My access to my child consists of Thursday to Sunday for 3 weeks out of 4 (month). This access is non court ordered and non family mediation but verbally agreed between me and my child’s mother. What are my rights as the father? Can my ex stop me from seeing my child? Please help as this is stressing me out.
The mums moved away over the course of time and it’s now up to me to travel/get hotels etc in order to see how kids. I do take them back to my house as often as I can but sometimes the 6hr round trip is just too much.
I now work a job doing 2weeks on 2weeks off and that kind of helps as it isn’t such a rush to squeeze everything into my weekends with them, particularly on the holidays from school.
Recently however one of my children’s mum has stopped overnight contact which now means I have no choice but to visit on the Saturday and Sunday only, we go out and spend the day together and I return my child in the evening.
This has put massive emotional strain on myself and my other child who now has to stay with me in guest houses and hotels in order for us to spend time together. Also this has put a massive financial Strain on myself with added costs to entertain, eat, sleep etc not to mention travel costs.
all I can hope for now is to get overnight contact back and get back to normality otherwise I may have to give up my rent to buy home and move to areas I would rather not be in.
Why is it so hard when it could be so easy?
And she decided to move back to our home town 74miles away. I was at the beginning picking both of my children up every two weeks. (They are now 12 and 16)
Over a period of time my ex has turned my eldest against me and is trying once again to turn my youngest. She now is trying to stop me collecting my youngest for weekends with her dad. She has even made her block me on her phone. I pay maintainance and I also travel the 280 mile round trip. The mother is trying her best to turn another one of my children against me. Has anyone got any help. ?
three years later me and my partner are engaged and have another little boy
today i got a message to say my sons dad wanted to see him
what rights does my partner have since he has done all the work for three years
and what rights does my sons real dad have (not named on borth certificate)
I have a 6 week old daughter, I was living with my in laws when they decided to kick me out due to an argument with my wife, my wife is not replying to my messages asking for an agreement to see my daughter or general welfare of my daughter.
My daughter is due to have her first immunisation jabs and I was wondering do I have the right to attend this appointment and can the mother refuse me being in the surgery??
My partner has a daughter who lives a 7hr drive away... he sees her once a month and pays to stay in a hotel in an expensive holiday area (this is where she lives) during the duration. A once night visit costs him £250 easy. On top of this he pays the mother £200 a month maintenance. In school holidays if the child is allowed to visit her paternal family (mother is often hard work about this) then my partner has to drive to pick his daughter up and drive back. (Mother will never meet half way).
We’ve been together now a few years and are currently expecting a child of our own and the mother still won’t allow her child to stay in our home (even though myself and his daughter get on well) meaning my partner has to go stay with family for the duration of his time with his daughter.
I really don’t think any of this seems fair.
Can she do a this? What are his rights?
she is currently pregnant by a guy she has only known for 3 weeks and already wants to introduce my son him . I am worried about the safety of my child because she barely knows this and wants him around my son and she refuses to see the potential dangers she could be putting our son in.
i have tried to talk to her about having my son at my place for a couple days in the week when i have him, but she has totally refused and threatened to take me to court where i wouldnt be able see my son only through a contact centre and also threaten to have my visa revoked as well. ( i am currently on a spouse visa) .
what are my rights here as a sparated dad and what can i do legally to protect my child and also be able to spend time with me.
I married my ex wife from outside the eu.she came to the UK settled with me we had our first child a girl.the wife changed and constantly argued with me and my extended family.this went on for a couple of yrs.she wasn't neutralised as a UK citizen so I sent her back to her native country and she took our daughter too.i thought time apart would make her see sense but it didn't happen.i sent her divorce papers and we got divorced.she got in touch with a solicitor in UK and I ended up in high court to decide child support.the judge ruled I should pay her 350 pound a month.as for the right to see my Child judge ruled I would have to take it up with courts in her country.i went last year and she and her family refused to let me see the Child.i got a solicitor over there I attended court several times,baillifs were sent to her house with court orders and they basically tore them up and never attended once.upon my return to UK I stopped child support.now,somehow,shes managed to get back into this country and I have received a letter from her solicitor saying I need to backpay child support or find myself in court.i need advice please as I have no intention of paying unless I can see my child who I havnt seen for 4 years.if I have to I will pack my job in.i am not paying and not seeing my Child.please help.
He’s been given plenty of opportunities to see our child but has let him down at last
minute to go out with his mates on nights out and take drugs, or just living his normal everyday activities. Since I’ve now applied for Csa he’s now threatening to take me to court even though he sees our son once a week when he can be bothered. The other night I felt so low he called the police out as he thought I was going to do something stupid, which the next day followed by a call from social services. Where would I stand in court? I don’t feel safe him having my child over night. His dad has aspergus and needs to learn to control his temper. I’m just so worried our child would end up getting hurt whilst he not in my care, as he has slapped him across the face a few times . Please help
This court order has continually been breached as my ex has accused me of child abduction, banging on door at her home, shouting abuse through letterbox, harrassment to police and court.
It's only taken me 6 years to prove to police all have been lies in order to stop my children having contact with me.
I proved my innocence using audio/video recordings, emails, phone call logs, text messages and witness testimonies.
Before I managed to prove this, I was in court with an application to enforce the contact order. My ex dug her heels in and wrote all her lies on a court document.
We are back in court in Dec as she refused me contact unless it is supervised. Now I have proof she lied so will court tell her off for lying?
Me and my ex partner broke up before our child was born. I’ve also been very good when it comes to him having her on his own etc for a few hours every week, we had a massive falling out, for no other reason then he likes to think because I’m nice to him I want to be with him, when in fact all I ever done was let our child experience things and activities with us a family. It’s got to the point where I had to hide my private life from him so I can lead a stressful and normal life without him questioning everything I do and say. I’ve been with my new partner now for a while and he has known of this, because I didn’t talk about him or post things etc about him he assumed we weren’t together and then saw him and kicked off causing me to make a complaint against him and getting the police involved as he has starting harrasing me etc. He sees her one night a week and a full day every weekend, I’ve been told by a lot of people I am more than fair when it comes to contact and he has a lot more time then any other father does. He has her on the days that I work. I had really bad pre/post natal depression and he forced me to have the full day on the weekend and I got to the point where I didn’t want o argue so I agreed. He is now constantly asking my mum who is the agreed point of contact to have our child over night. She has never had a night without me. Even if I go on nights out I still wake up to her and do her night feed. I’m looking for some advice and people who have been to court to when the baby has to stay over at the fathers. Our child is 11 months, he dad has drug and alcohol issues, and has family matters going on with makes him very unstable. I’m just looking for some advice and someone to help me stop worrying so much. I am not ready for him to have her over night. We haven’t been together since I was 3 months pregnant, so it’s not like he has seen her over night etc yet
My ex-partner and I had a on and off relationship with violence and even the my son being in Child Protection Plan once, I fled the house and currently in a Women's refuge however I am pregnant and the father has PR for our son as he registered him. He hasn't seen our boy yet and I am worried if the courts forces me to facilitate visitations . Could you please advise me on my rights? I haven't applied for Child Maintenance to avoid him finding us or give him more reason to start looking for us.
She has been very vocal in the past re him not seeing them enough, even though with his condition he struggles. So myself or his mum are usually present to help him cope and alleviate stress.
Due to her dislike of me, she has stopped him seeing the kids if I'm present.
So seeing as I'm his support system and the only one who drives, i.e. For collection on overnight stays etc , he now has to go to his mums to see them. When she agrees he can see them that is.
All visitations are on her terms and so since he is not on either birth certificate we asked for private DNA tests to be done so he has proof, can register to be added to their birth certs and have proper rights.
In the beginning she agreed to private tests but now as something hadn't gone her way she has refused to let him spend time with them on the last 4 requests made for visits.
Even denying him time to see his eldest on his birthday and he was told to bring the present to his front door but no visitation time allowed!
She has now said no to private (I might add legal tests admissible in court) and said she won't do anything unless it's through family court?!
So how do we go about this as my partner wants to see his kids but due to her past behaviour wants the tests done so he has absolute proof they are his kids. There is doubt there.
Thanks
I brought up the subject with his father about changing visitation times as 8 o'clock is too late to bring him home on a school night (my son is 4 and needs to be in bed by 8 or I can't wake him the next morning.) I was offering to move the time in the week to the weekend when the father tells me he has been to a solicitors who have told him his rights are to have our son all weekend every weekend. he said he didn't want to do that and so was proposing he has him two weekends in a row then I get one weekend and he's back to two. I am not happy with this offer. even though my son lives with me I don't think his father appreciates the fact that we don't spend any quality time together in the week as there is not enough time after school. our evenings consist of homework, dinner, bath and bed with no time for anything else. I appreciate that he wants as much time with our son as he can but considering I'm doing all the work raising our child and trying to counteract how spoilt he is at his dad's I don't think I should have to give my time up. any advice please?
But moving out everything has been on her terms.
initially as I work full time I was seeing the two children three days during the week on one week and three days during the week with either a Saturday or Sunday as an extra day for the following week. But she changed this and said that I need to do three days during one week and two days during the next as well as Saturday and Sunday, if I didnt agree to her days then she would refuse to let me see our children altogether, I had not choice but to agree but with work and travel to my new pace this leaves me very drained, tired and little time to administrate myself not to mention petrol and food costs when I take them out, I'm sort of digging a bank balance hole, but my main issue is the fact she has refused to allow me to take them to see my family my sister or the grandparents she is happy taking them but will no allow me to , she has no problem with me taking them anywhere else. But my parents do not want to see her and they live 5 hrs away my mum is ill and may not last another year she knows this but still refuses on the basis she does not trust me to have them for a period that extends 12 hours? This make no sense whatsoever, but I compromised and said i would drive us all to see the grandparents so she would have joint care of the children also would have her own room, but she refused saying she would only visit on her own with the children. And does not allow permission to take the children to see either my sister or grandparents, legally I have every right to but if I did I'm sure she would stop me seeing the kids alltogether, or call the police saying I had abducted them or was worried about my state of mind, which would not bide well with any possible future custody orders she knows I can not afford mediation or a solicitor and I am not entitled to legal aid(also paying her agreed maintenance Weekley) and now she she introduced her new man to the kids (I'm not allowed to introduce anyone) she also wants me to find new accommodation that accommodates children for rainy days...i can not afford to, and is pushing for me to extend my visiting hours, I feel frustrated and at a loss at her becon call . And when Ido have the kids she regular changes pick up location within a hour of collecting the kids
i broke up with my childrens father about a year and a half ago. Since then I have met somebody else and recently moved in with him.
Before the move I lived in the same town as my ex but now i live 25 miles away. From the town he lives in there are regular busses every 20 minutes to the nearest larger town which is half way between where he lives and where I live.
We agreed to him having the girls aged 3 and 4 friday after nursery until 4pm on a sunday. He was fine with this unyil I moved but now he is saying he wont come and meet me to get the children as it was my choice to move.
I also said that on a sunday my partner and I will drive the full 25 miles to pick the girls up from him. therefore we would be doing 3 quaters of the journeys.
the childrens father is unemployed and there is no reason why he cant collect them. My partner however works a 9 and a half hour shift on a friday so it would be unfair to ask him to drive 45 mins on a friday to drop the girls off and drive 45 mins back. This is the reason i asled the ex to meet me halfway on a friday.
I also have family living in the same town as my ex so a sunday is an ideal time to spend the day visiting them and taking the girls to see them once i have them back. The kids dad says i am being unreasonable because he doesnt want to bring his other child he has acess to on the weekends, on the bus to meet me at 5pm to get the children.
I just wanted to know if it would seem i am being unreasonable or if i am being as fair as i think i am. I just want him to make some effort to see his children, is that fair?
Any help would be much appreciated. thankyou so much for reading.
nicole
I been separated from my partner for about a month and have 3 kids with her, I am currently homeless and sleeping at different friends houses. My partner is actually letting me see my kids but because I'm homeless I have no where for them to stay overnight, I am trying to get accommodation from my local council but they won't help me unless I get an official document saying we have shared custody. My ex can simply write a letter stating this but is refusing, I offered mediation and she refused that as well. She knows perfectly well I can't afford a three bedroom house as I have 2 boys and 1 girl and is doing this out of spite. I fear this situation will cause problems regarding my relationship with my kids in the future.
Any advice on what I can do would be much appreciated
But how can we get acces?
Thank you.
The next hearing is on 26 of July..nd court ask for police record my immigration which is in process..nd her nhs report...can you tell me plzz can I get visitation or no...your opinion plzzz...my solictor said hopefully you will get it..
What your answer..is .
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Imy all for father's seeing thier kids but I'd like to know of the mother can request proof that drugs aren't being used and is this something that would be done straight away or would there be warning enough time to clear the body of all traces.
It's a funny question but he has another son who he has Fridaythorpe Sunday night every other weekend but only wants my son who is younger sat evening to Sunday afternoon,it makes me angry that he doesn't have more time with his dad and it makes things hard for me with my work and other children so I've asked him to make arrangements to have my son the whole weekend or not to bother as I cannot arrange everything around his times.... I'd rather my son feel wanted and treated the same as his brother then feel like he's loosing out on time and the brother is getting more...
Am I being unreasonable
If he goes to court are they going to accept my son being second best or am I am correcting thinking they should have the same amount of time
I do not think this is fair as she will have my daughter before and after nursery and every other weekend and i will only get her every other weekend (friday night to sunday evening) but she is sticking to her guns. What can I do? she is saying mediation but I can't see it being resolved as she's not going to change her mind
Been split up with his mum for 3.5 years.
I have him of a Tuesday from school, keep him overnight then Friday from school and take him back at 18.00 on Saturday.
I've started a new job of a weekend and won't be able to have him Friday night.
I said I'll take him Tuesday from school keep him overnight, pick him from school on Wednesday and drop him school on Thursday morning plus pick him up 10-4 of a Saturday.
She has said no I can only have him of a Tuesday and that's it.
Any advice please.
I split from the mother of my daughter a year ago. I get to see her once a week but only with her mother and we have to go for trips out.
It has got to the stage I want to see my little girl without her mum.
There was never any violence and it wasn't a bad break up but she just won't let me spend alone time with my daughter.
I don't know how I should go about trying to fix this as her mum is so stubborn.
I am on the birth certificate.
Any advice would be great.
Thank you
What is my legal right as a father?
Is this unacceptable distance and not in the best interest of the children?
I don't want our children being upset or stressed in any way and if it's to far then of course I'd do what's best for them.
He also had her one night during the week for 2hrs but his ex stopped this as their child was struggling to get up for school. As much as he didnt want to see his daughter less he knew it was what was best for her.
3 weeks ago she said she wanted to change it to just friday through to saturday every week. We said this was ok and so for the next few weeks this is what we did.
A couple of days ago she wanted to change it back to how it was as his daughter preffered it before. So we said we could change it back. The day after she wanted to change it again so that it was every fortnight for the whole weekend. We only live round the corner from her as we chose to live close by so it was easier on his kid, he doesnt not want to change to fortnightly. Can she make him?
Shes been the only one to mess up arrangements but goes mad saying she wants their kid in a routine, he agrees but we havent changed anything, she has a new boyfriend and i think this is why everything keeps changing. Shes picked her up over 4hrs early for the past 2 weeks because she was taking her to a party.
What can we do?
Just a couple of questions I would like to ask please. I have two boys for are under 1 me & the father are not together anymore he has them once a week at the moment but soon it will change to every other weekend .......He will be taking them to stay with him & his new girlfriend about an hour away from where we live I have never met this new girl before & I would like to know about there living arrangements to I have a legal right to know this? Thank you
Today I suffered another punch in my tummy when I wanted to see my little girl at the nursery at the end of her session. The manager didn't open the door for me because my ex had called the nursery to ask them not to let me pick up my daughter. Then I realised that my ex is telling everyone that we are not together anymore... And my question is, has the mother all the power to go speaking out our separation and defamation on my name? I guess she can.
I think men who want to become dads might be interested in looking other countries where the law can be ruled out closer to equality
Can I start by saying that I think the state of legal positions concerning children are ridiculous, the system is way more empowering of women whom in most cases are not any more providing of care than fathers! We have a legal framework whereby it's almost supportive of women weaponising children after a split and us fathers having to jump through hoops for basic rights all while being liable to pay maintenance! My Question; I separated with my partner 3-4 years ago who immediately got with another man and has not been consistent with my visitation sometimes outright just refusing, I do not know where they live, what school he goes to nor his medical health even though I pay an agreed amount to her every month! Of recent she has been taking the child abroad a lot without consulting me most recently to go and get married and I want to know where I stand legally in order to gain equal access to my child! I really think the law needs to come down tougher on mothers who do this because they are basically untouchable and obviously the child is going to be more familiar and desire to be with their mother more if that's what who they exposed to in the more consistent manner.
My ex partner and I split up before the birth of our daughter approximately 3 1/2 years ago. I wasn't present at the birth as I wasn't told she was in labour. When my daughter was born she was very sick and taken to a specialist hospital who treated her for a number of ailments. I was present at the hospital for a week but never really give much information about how poorly she was. I was asked for a blood sample to see if I could offer her blood if needed. During this time a DNA test was conducted to confirm I was infact her father which proved I was.
When she was registered at birth my name was not added to the birth certificate (we weren't married, I understand the mother has the right to omit this from the certificate). I had restricted access to my daughter during this time and never formed a bond with her.
We agreed at the time to make an agreement for child maintenance which was paid cash, but then I received notification (12months later) from the CSA that I had been named as the father and needed to pay some arrears (£98 for 12 months). This has been paid.
I am now paying a further amount per week to my ex for my daughter (not a problem as a standing order has been set up so all payments have been recorded, this includes any arrears owed).
During the last two years I have had no visitation rights to my daughter, this has been for a number of reasons:
1. My ex has moved to a number of different addresses of which I wasn't made aware of.
2. A PIN notice was served on me by my ex as I wanted to drop some birthday presents off to my daughter and it got a little heated. I was told by the police that I couldn't contact my ex or daughter from the point on.
My ex has now had another baby (3 months ago), and I have been made aware that her new partner is looking to adopt my daughter. Where do I stand?
So in a nutshell:
1. I am not on the birth certificate but confirmed parentage by DNA
2. I do not know where my daughter lives.
3. The CSA have no contact details for my ex so I have no way of forwarding a solicitors letter to her.
4. I want to know where I stand if her new partner adopts my daughter.
Your advice would be appreciated.
Kind regards
Also if there was only the mother with parental responsibility and the biological father is estranged by choice from the child does he need to be involved although not having parental responsibility?
And finally if the Mother (only one with parental responsibility) and I (Step dad) are happy to go ahead with an application for 'Parental responsibility' and the estranged father (by choice) does not need to be involved, but a grandparent who was one of the main resident carers of the child for 6 years (child and mother lived under the mothers parents roof mainly from birth) also wanted to be on the application for parental responsibility would they be eligible as the 'other parent/Parent 2/Parent B'??
I eagerly await your reply.
My partner and I split up 4 years ago to which I got a court order for every other weekend as access. Over the 4 years she has continually breached the order if I have something planned. I felt hard done by by the first order and therefore have requested mediation to which she refused.
I work shifts and therefore on some of my weekends I am on nights. I have left the kids in the the care of their step mum, my wife, who they have built a relationship with over the last 3 years.
Since discovering that I am going back to court and the children are rarely left wth my wife, my ex has been making malicious allegations to social services about the kids and my wife to prevent them from coming. Social services investigated and it was logged as malicious.
She has ceased all contact as she says that I should always be at home when I have the kids. I can't possibly juggle both and often need help from family. My children come first but I also need to keep a roof over their head. Is she allowed to do this and would the court frown upon me going to work on the odd occasion?
Please help!
I have been separated from my wife for 15 months, after a lot of too and from regarding our two children there was a period of 7 weeks where i was not aloud to see our children ( Not for want of trying ).
I sat mediation and my wife rejected her appointment, I filed for court proceedings and instructed legal representation to write to her with my intent so that my intentions for rights to our children was clear.
Since then we made an agreement ( Verbal non legal, supposedly drawn up for me to sign and never materialized ) between the two of us where I am to take care of my children every weekend Fri 7-7:30pm to Sunday 7Pm, If i make any plans to have time away from our children i give her notice of this within plenty of time ( 1 month ) at this point i did not progress with the court application.
Recently i was coaxed out of work for 2 days to provide care for our children ( out of schedule ) again on her behalf under the pretense that it was not her partners responsibility to look after our two children whilst she was unwell, Last Weekend, i was blocked from seeing my children even after agreements had been made to travel with our youngest child to see family in another area of the country whilst our eldest child remained at home with there mother.
I have since experienced the same unreasonable behavior shown in the first instance which has also been relayed through her cohabiting partner in a threatening manner whilst having care of our respective children . I would like to know what my next steps are as i would like a schedule for our two children that is agreed in full and adhered to.
There are circumstances beyond my control that are unfair on our children and myself ( the children being the focal point) and would appreciate any information or help. All i would like is regular and fair access to our children.
our families don't really see eye to eye either which makes it harder for my family to see our newborn too. Any advice anyone can give me in regards to my rights would be appreciated.
Thanks,
Max
Any ideas on the best way to deal with her so we don't have to seperate? I'm not here to take her kids away from her, I'm here to love their dad and one day eventually get to know them. Any ideas welcome, thank you
I am a mother to a 8month old daughter throughout the pregnancy and since my daughter was born i have tried endlessly to get my daughters farther to be in her life. He does not feed her clothe her be there for her see her on a regular basis. I made excuses for his behaviour as she is his first child but I have reached my limit now. He has time for everything else, the money to maintain himself but no regard for his child. Once now and again he will get in contact and insist he wants to be a farther only to let her down again
The last time he hadn't seen her for 2 months and when he did see her it was because his vehicle was broken down and was just sitting at home. Only to have her 2hours and say he wants to return her as he has football to play. I have asked him to go to mediation for any future contact as verbal agreement is non existent. He insists when she grows up she can find him. I feel like this man is treating his baby with no regard. I just wanted to share my opinion as there are many decent mothers who try soo hard for their children to have farthers but their are many farthers who just care only for themselves.
We have two children 4 and 5 and at the minute I'm living at my brother's, they are staying here on a Saturday, and she says I can put them to bed twice a week at her house.
I know I need to focus on my kids but how am I meant to be making any decisions kids wise whilst I'm like this for the longer term when I get my own place 3-4 months I could probably do it sooner but don't want too.
I love my kids but I don't want to get strong armed into something whilst I'm feeling like this.
It's just bitterness as I got her name I had tattooed on me covered up.
Can she do this even though we have been through the courts?
I am a single Dad with a 3year old son, who resides with him mother and I have him for overnight stays every two weeks and I see him Tuesday evenings. I am looking at joining the Royal Marine Reserves, which if I pass out may include a 6 month deployment. Before I have the discussion with his mother, would this affect my visitation rights?
I'm looking for a bit of advice. I've been having my children every weekend since my separation/divorce 2 and half years ago. I have them all weekend (fri/sat/Sun) one weekend then the next I have them fri and sat giving them back at 6pm on a sat.
This has been in place since the split.
My question is, my ex is trying to stop me having them on a Sunday altogether, for no other reasons than she wants quality time with them. I have said no as that means she would see them everyday and I wouldn't be able to. My daughter doesn't want this she wants to keep it the way it is and my son isn't old enough really to understand.
They live 40 miles away so nipping to take them out for tea isn't an option during the week, as I work till 5.
What do I need to do? Can she do this.
I don't want to lose the time I have with my kids.
Thanks yall, Jamie from Texas
He gets all sweet says wants to mean the relationship but can not accept I'm hurting and need answers. I've made it clear we are over.
He then gets nasty. He flips from begging to being mean.
Is there a way he can still have contact with the kids with out me seeing him or having contact with him?
Thank you
My daughters dad is saying I'm abusing my rights because he resently desided to stop helpin with child care costs and says I have to allow him to have my daughter over night.. now I would agree with this if he was consistent with seeing our daughter he goes months with out seeing her and says it's my fault even though I have been pushing for him to visit our 8 month daughter (she doesn't recognize him when he visits) and when he has visited it's only been 30min maybe an hour each visit.. all I'm asking him to do is come see her more. then he could take her for a few hours. after a while he could take her 1 night a week for a month then 2 nights a week for a month 3 nights a week and last 4 nights (while i work grave yard) and that includes hours of visits during the week unsupervised.. but still our work schedule clashes for him to watch her over night right now my aunt (whom lives with me) watches her in our own house in my daughters Owen bed. In order for her dad to watch her hell have to wake her up from her sleep just to go to his house for 4 hours and then get waken up again to come back home. Because I go to work at 9pm baby falls asleep at 8pm dad gets off any time between 10pm to 2am and hes wanting a graveyard position at his work and his job is never consistent always changes his shifts last min.. am I wrong to keep my childcare going and should he still help with child care I only ask 50%of the cost and hes legally supposed to pay 63% (but he refuses to help pay)
Him with visits going through a contact centre..my son is at his wits end.. He loves his son and bends over babackwards to see him..any suggestions what he can do ? ..his ex refuses mediation he cannot afford court..
The children are saying they don't want to go as they are scared. He shouts and drinks. Then feels too unwell to take them anywhere. They do not want to even talk to him.
Where do I stand on this?
Is there something I can do about this as if SS are not willing to help or work with me to compromise ill not get to see my son.
Best wishes,
Omer
he lives is a studio flat and has the kids 2 nights a week. he works shifts and is only free one weekend out of two. before discovering he is seeing me he had the kids from saturday at 2pm till sunday at 2pm. this allowed us to have some time together as she does not want any woman ever spending time with them.
since she has discovered we are dating she has forced him to have them from saturday morning to monday morning, thus excluding any possibility for us to see each other besides a few hours in the evenings from 10pm till midnight but we both hit the road at 6am.....so ...
i realy love him and im ok with the kids, I like them as I have met them in despite of her not wanting. but how can we make this work out?????? how can this develop???? Im kinda desperate. do not want to break up, but i live as a mistress not as a girlfriend.... Can she do this?
if I go down the court rout and they say this is your day and this is your time ect ect and she still stops me, what actually happens to her? is it worth doing this to shell out thousands of pounds and the end result is no different.
She looks after the kids well but that’s where it ends our relationship is more or less non-existent now and the arguments and fighting are starting to affect our kids. I am so unhappy and angry all the time that staying with her just for kids is now I feel doing more harm than good.
What kind of rights would I have if I left for Ireland myself? Is there anyone in a similar situation?
Great website by the way it really helps.
I fear that for both our situations to obtain at least some sort of justification on access, the legal court way is almost inevitable.
Can't keep getting pushed around like this.
She has told me that unless I arrange details through a court she will always refuse me access.
The legal costs involved with me taking this to family court are more than what I can afford. I have explored the possibility of legal aid however I am not entitled to this.
I have always paid child maintenance costs through the CSA, and have even paid slightly more than what was set out in the arrangement. Even after the payments increased from her refusing me access.
Is there any advice anybody could offer as to what I can do to gain access to see my children?
I have not been a 'dead beat dad', I wan't to see my kids and have always provided for them, but my ex is using them as a weapon for financial and emotional gains!!
Does a mutual private shared custody agreement signed by both if us stand up to what we have agreed, especially if for example she decided to move away etc. any advice appreciated.
I do know i want her mother to sign a legally binding agreement but its a milestone for me to just have sat down with her in the same room. I will probably contact a solicitor about all this regardless but surely if he can set it up so can i?
Thank you for your time and hopefully it goes well for me!
please can someone point me in the right direction
i don't think i have parental responsibility.
My ex wife is Finnish citizen, my 2 kids are Bristish and Finnish citizens
me and my ex wife got divorced,
my ex wife lives in Joensuu at the moment with my kids
i moved back to England August 2014 after living in Finland for 4 years,
my ex wife is not allowing to meet kids or talk to them, she changed her phone and i can't contact my kids at all, i consulted a lawyer in Finland in my lawyer trying to negotiate visiting rights but my ex wife lawyer saying 3 times a year one hour each in presence of social worker i can meet my kids
my Lawyer proposed 2 days every 3 months in a year 2 weeks kids can spend time with at otukumpu (some apartments) where fathers meet kids
court advised for negotiations on 18th June my ex wife is saying she won't agree more than 3 times one hour each a year
i love my kids, it's really difficult not seeing kids spend time with my kids
i am ready to move to Finland if that helps
I know your ex very well and she wouldn't stop you from seeing that 7 week old baby without good reason.
1. You lied to her throughout your entire relationship and continued to lie to her once you had both split up.
2. You left her son at home alone.
3. You were using drugs in her home and used her sons playing card to snort it.
4. You have a very colourful criminal record ranging from Bulgary to assult and armed robbery.
Then there is all the verbally abusive messages you have sent her all though you have not threatend violence it's still considered domestic abuse. So no she doesn't and will never trust you with her baby. That's why your not on the birth certificate and you started the arguments again so she stopped you coming over. None of us blame her she was prepared to give you a chance and you threw it back in her face!!
Will i be able to get my girl fri sat sunday because shes only a month old. I want to get joint custody. Whats she using against me is im breasf feeding every 2 hours. But at the hospital i was making my girl powder mix and she would still drink that because at the time my partner would say im tired.This is my partners second child after 12 years and she had done the exact same to him. Ive got a phone recording of her telling me watch what i do with your daughter.
My girl was born a month early on 2nd of april. At the hospital my partner started getting abit funny with me saying stuff like youve held her for 2 hours put her in the cot or ill call the midwife and get you chucked out from here.
When we finally got the go ahead to go home the next day the midwife was coming to see her but she booked it at her mums house in preston when we live in blackburn. Basically she been lying about me to look as if was the bad person but im not at all bothered about that.
She asked me to pack my stuff get out of her house and her life. Which i did without arguing. To the point i cleaned up after myself when i left.
Ive asked to pick my child up for the weekend and she wont let me. Infact shes told me watch what i do with her. Ive got this recorded on my phone.
All i want is to bring my child whos 4 weeks old to my house for the weekend.
When she was born ive been feeding changing her nappy bascally everthing her mum would do i did it at the hospital.
I written a letter asking to do this amicably but shes not responded.
What should i do???
my names Tom, I'm 23 & recently a father to the most beautiful little boy I have ever seen. I'm in a precarious situation & I really need some advice please.
I went through many relationship problems with my partner over the past year, exasperated largely due to my absence as I was serving in an air assault unit in the army at the time. A job more than full time.
She became pregnant during this. Things where so bad between us she was using the army welfare service and my colleagues partners living near the barracks with as a means to protay me as a bad person with some outrageous claims. one of the most difficult times of my life. I became very depressed due to this. I had to leave her as the situation was dire. I had no option as my own welbeing was being seriously harmed by her actions.
Fast forward. I recently finished my service with the army & left to the explore other options. although initially opposed to having a child with this woman due to her totally unreasonable attitude & confrontational demeanour( doesebt take much to know how she wud strive to complicate it by any means) he's here now. I love him more than anything and can't bare the prospects of him not in my life. She knows this.
With that in mind I naively repaired the relationship and once again subjugated myself to her abuse trying to make it work for my sons sake. I'm a fool. It's completely unsustainable. I'm currently unemployed I've searched hard for job prospects in northern Ireland but there's not much. Due to my military backround I have recently been offered a very good job with excellent prospects In London in the security sector.
I'm in the situation now that she's using my son as a weapon against me. She blackmails me saying if I where to take this operunity and move to London( things are bad already after only two months) she's going to do everything in her power to prevent me seeing my little boy. She's an unreasonable person with a talent for twisting even the simplest things to work against me...for no aparent reason & who, for some reason seems determined to debilitate me having a productive successful life.
She's demonstrated her ability to take even a simple grudge against someone above and beyond. To amazing extremes. I know she'll literally dedicate a tremendous amount of energy to following through with this blackmail.
I'm terrified of my son perceiving me as a stranger. She's even said she'll poison him against me. I think I'd be a fool to let her bully me forvever but im not sure what my options are by using the court to grant me access and how effective they will be or how to eveb go about starting legal processings for access.
I know conflict and combat well...but this is unlike anything before for me.
If anyone has been through this before id really appreciate advice. I'm in a desperately unpredictable situation and I refuse to let her walk over me. If I'm gonna take this road. I need to do it right
She twists things to make me look bad.She wants to change my little boys surname to his.She even went as far as to say I don't exist to my son as far as she is concerned.I love my little boy. She is jealous of my new family which I can't understand as she has a new partner too.
She moans that I am.not contributing to his nursery fees but she gets vouchers and I do pay child maintenance every week to her.I also pay the dogs insurance. All she thinks and wants is money.
Please help so I can see my son.She hasn't told my son that he has a brother.But I did as he deserves to know.
She moved my son two and a half hours away and now expects me to travel back and forth to see him.At first I paid her diesel money to bring him down but she refuses to do this now.Also when it was my time to have my son she demands that I drop him to her grandparents two days of my time. Please tell me What I can do.
I have parental responsibility and joint custody.
Any suggestions would be most helpful
Any help would be really appreciated :)
Joshua
Her family are all very wealthy and mine are working class so if the solicitors get involved I feel I will get done over for no reason. Basically I don't have a said job and have since before I met her been earning an income from online poker. She said the courts will see me as a problem gambler and not grant me access if I want to go down this route. I said this has nothing to do with me seeing my child and having access to her and that she got with me knowing what I done for income, asked me for a child knowing this and got back with me after the split knowing this.
Can you give me some advice on whether or not that she can infact deny me access and also shouldn't she be doing half the travelling along with myself?
Please help
I havent seen her since she was 1 year old me and her mother split up and they dissapeared .....olease help
Thank you
:)
Thanks ever so,
To make it happen , and what would would happen if I was not able to do this due to the reasons I've stated ??
Myself and my husband separated almost 2yrs ago, he lives with his parents, who do everything for him, i drop our two children round to his mums and collect them, i work 6hrs on a Sunday and thats when he has his children. He doesn't do anything with them, just sits in his parents house, and his parents more or less look after them.
He's never had boys to sleep overnight and im getting to the point where i feel, why should he have a life, come and go as he pleases, have no responsibilities, while i am bringing up his children, i cant go out or do anything because im either working or with my children. I have no family of my own so have no means of a babysitter unless i get a stranger which i couldnt afford and wouldn't feel comfortable doing. Im just trying to get another opinion on things really. Would it be unreasonable for me to compose a letter to him suggesting that he has his children to stay over night at least once a month? any suggestions or advice would be appreciate.
If I am homeless do I still have to sell my flat even though the court has asked the flat to be sold
I was divorced 5 years ago and my ex turned the children against me at every opportunity. It got to the stage where my children were afraid to see me because they had been convinced that I would kidnap them. CAFCASS were useless just telling me that I wasn't child focused because I wanted to see my children and didn't understand that it was against their wishes. CAFCASS just basically believed every word my ex said and sided with my children who were saying they didn't want to see me and hated me, they were unwilling to investigate the reasons behind my children's statements.
I have not spoken or seen my children in 4 years now due to the alienation. All these hollow laws and promising fathers rights, from a weak and useless Family court amount to nothing.
If your child is crying when he goes to your husband it's because he hasn't had opportunity enough to bond with him or because he has a stronger bond with you.
I leave my crying daughter at day care everyday, I get told at night that she stopped crying within minutes of me leaving, isn't that what kids do? I don't believe that there is likely to be any "side effect".
Kevin
Court does not need to be an expensive course of action. I went to court and represented myself, it was me that instigated the action and in order to start the process it was as simple as filling out a form and attaching payment (around £300 at the time). You may well not be accepted for a court date immediately though unless you try mediation first. Once summoned to court she will feel compelled to attend no doubt. She is not technically within her rights to prevent you access to your child but unfortunately there is no one to prevent her doing so at present. The course of action I would follow would be to start mediation proceedings asap. If she does not turn up then you can pay a nominal fee for a form confirming that mediation was attempted which will then allow you seek out the option of court. Make sure when in court that you get your chance to discuss the terms you would like or I fear you may get less access than you would want.
I split up with my ex early this year around february. Since the break up i have been having my son over every other weekend from Friday to Sunday evening (My ex has asked to get him home earlier). I have a new partner now and i dont think my ex has got over our relationship so the visits have been shortened to 'Supervised Visits' every saturday for a measly 3 hours. Dont get me wrong i love my son with all my heart, i dont smoke/drink/drugs or been abusive, never have never will. I am a PR and have consulted to a solicitor letter but had no response from my ex partner. Can she dictate when i can and can't see see him? The visits dont seem stable and she gets very defensive when i mention something in writing.
Im very confused and it could get very expensive if i go court. From every other weekend to 2-3 hours on a saturday its heart breaking because my family rely seeing my son when i have him.
Sorry for the essay and i look forward to hearing from any of you!
matt
That he will just stop one day. If he has his visit rights back and court ordered visits
To where he gets our son every other weekend, can he get in trouble with court if he just stops taking him one day.
Him. When I confronted him about it and asked him where he was Saturday night his reply was "partying" I find it very hard to talk to him and matters never get resolved, it is very frustrating for me as I only have my sons best interests at heart I think it's not fair that he only sees him once a week and on that day he is going out getting drunk. What can I do about this?????
We have two kids 14yr old daughter and a 5yr old son. My wife will not
Allow me to see my kids untill I have my own place and wants it in writing
Off soloctors saying ill have them for tea on a wed and sleep everyother weekend
Is she right in doing this I want them everyother day bit she says she not having them
Unsettled thet need to know were they home is
and untill I get my own place I cqnt see them as she refuses to let thrm come to my kums
As previously when we split my daughter has over heard my parents bad mouthing her mum
So now my wife says they not coming here. As it not their home is she in the right
When we first split up i took my child to see him fortnightly but he would constantly cause an argument
So i decided i would ask him to collect and drop his daughter off so he didnt bother for 18 months then court started then he was un well so court sisted for six months supervised contact started end of jan this year for six visits which took ten weeks to fit in due to changing days to fit around him
Then 8 weeks nothing then four more supervised child is finding it hard to bond and is confused as hes had another baby
Then nothing for 8 weeks four more supervised as only two of last four attended now hes wanting to sist it again as saying unwell when will this just be about the child ???
How many times can he mess her about ??
I hope someone can help me. Me and my ex have separated and I'm coming back to see my son for two weeks. I live in Germany she lives in England anyway. Do I in those two weeks that I have my son need to allow my ex to see him too or can I have him for the two weeks alone.
Many thanks
Benjamin joseph
My ex stopped contact with no given reason so applied to courts I one have a court date next month in which papers have been served.
She has now changed her mind saying full contact can be restored but being my children are so young and I've been there since day 1 I want something legally binding to be sure she can never do this again.
I'm just unsure how to do this)?? Do we still go to first hearing with the agreement and present it to the judge and if we do this will he make an order there and then as none of us are disputing the contact agreement??
Any help would be good
I do averagely have them 3 days a week and most weekends at the moment as she works shifts.
Many Thanks
His name is on their birth certificates as they registered all three together.
Three years ago my son had mental health issues due to cannabis, and social services where involved. The case has been closed for 3 years now, and my son has had know further incidences. However he has changed religions and did become a vegan, but has since changed from this. She is now saying that he is unstable and refusing to let him have any contact with the children. She is using the incident that happened three years ago to prevent contact. My question is does my son have any rights to contact with the children. He believes that she will take the children out of the country without his permission. Please can we have some advice on this.
Please help this is killing me
I have requested whether he will be getting involved in this baby's life and he pushes the topic over as he does every important topic - he only converses via email and has done for the 13 year marriage. He has never had time for the children "working" often a 14 hour day. He has since found another home and moved in ( not far from us ) and is insisting I agree to letting our two boys spend 7 nights with him and 7 nights with me. he continually uses the excuse " that I will soon not have time for the boys what with baby comming !" I have spent the past 13 years bringing both boys up on my own and seeing to their every need and now he is playing devoted dad with a flexi hour schedule. both boys keep asking me "why has daddy changed so much ?" now he showers them with gifts and free time. I allow every 2nd week end visitation as well as mid week visits when able, and now he is accusing me of parental alienation and not allowing him to see his children. Every time he has taken the children on visitation he ignores my requests to have them home at a certain time. this is confusing my boys and making them very anti. he ignores my requests and blatantly refuses me access or phonecalls when he does have the children. I am having to look at relocating as I am completely alone in this country and my ENTIRE family live abroad. with no financial assistance from my soon to be ex, I need to look at what is best for me and my children. My family are financially in a position to support me and help me get onto my feet which I do not see happening here. my exes family all live abroad too and only his mother lives 30 minutes from us but there has not been any support from her at all in the past 13 years - she is not maternal at all and does not babysit for any reason.
I do not know what to do ? my lawyer says I need to wait and How do you wait when you are not getting the financial assistance needed to support your children ? Should my ex be able to bully me into the children staying with him 7 nights a week when this only distresses the boys terribly ? and what are my legal rights ?
7 months later after it was enough after finding out stuff. He says hes taking me to court. He never askes about our son just demand its seems to get at me. I guess the controll hes still trykng to have over me. I really dont want him having him over night or been taken out of the town me and our son live in as his family are abusive too. And ive broken down and kicked back in emails.. What are my rights if any please?
I eventually lost contact with her as I saw her as a lost course until she her son was 6 months old I recieved a phone call from CSA asking question about me and this child that I believed I had no responsibility off how ever I was in uni and had wait until that as csa did not offer me a dna test and I had to go threw the course to summon one. She was supposedly cooperative and threw this time we was kinda getting all most were I was trusting her. We found I was the father of the child and told the court that and came to a agreement that I will have visitation rights well it did not go to plan she is being difficult stopping me from seeing him and keep on being difficult now what would be advice court??? if so what am I meant to requesting
After our relationship she did some thing similar to a guy after to me so it looks like she trapping guy for maintenance and she put some one else name on the birth certificate..
and now is stating she has told me from day one...
please can some one help me with this mess
My concern is....where does the father stand in a situation where he is not married to his twin son's mother....the mother of his son's is a drug abuser who is at present in rehab.
So while mother is in rehab her parents are keeping an eye on the boys but at the same time they are taking away the fathers access to his boys by putting chains and locks on the gates so the father can not get into the premises to see his boys do these grand parents have the right to deny the boys father access to his boys ....the father has been a very active parent from day one when the boys were born....some urgent input is needed here.(The mother of the boys has Bi-polar disorder)
Thank you
i am a 29 year old lady,currently my husband and i are going though a divorce going on the 2nd year,and he is married religiously(islamically). i basically have problems with him picking her and droping her home at specific times,and after reminding him continuosly he doesnt give a damn bout it. What do i do?
i need him to pick her up on time and drop her of by me on time?
and i dont want him leaving her with his wife reason being i dont even know her?
I found out I was pregnant at 3months and told my boyfriend of nearly 2years. Thinking he would be happy as I miscarried the previous year and he asked me for a child I was shocked at his reaction. He had been violent and abusive and I have ended up in hospital a few times due to stress and heart palpitations from anxiety. He has tried to blackmail me into abortion which I don't agree with ESPECIALLY at such a late stage and because I hadn't done it yet he left an broke up with me. I am now 5months pregnant and he is still trying to bribe me into the abortion. He keeps threatening that if I go through with having the baby he will make my life a misery and try and take the baby off me. I'm abit confused as OFCOURSE he does not want the baby and even offered to pay 2000 pound for my abortion to kill his child. Because of the stress I have been advised to move back home to ensure that I am healthy both mentally and physically on arrival for my baby however when I expressed this to him he threatened to hurt my family if I take my unborn child away to give it a better life out if this drama. Although I do not want the abortion I feel pressurized as I'm so scared to have the baby and deal with this man for the rest of my life my question to you is do I have to? What rights do I have against him in this situation and is it possible for him to take me to court even if he is not on the birth certificate? Please please help....
How to go about to see my children, i even tryed with her advocate but there is no reply from them also.
thanks
He has seen him and the mother gave the boy hell. So my boyfriend could not put him through that and so stayed away. The boys school work has suffered badly and is not often present at school.
My boyfriend now has a flat and a well paid job and is desperate to see his son.
He cannot afford to go through the courts. Can you advise other avenues to explore
Thanks
Mandy
We have three kids together 11 year old and 10 year old twins they have been residing with me for around a year now and a one point there mother had hardly any contact with them for around 4 months as she was still claiming there benefits without giving me any of the money, since i started recieving the benefits she started seeing them again and now says she wants them back. the money doesnt mean nothing to be compared to the children but it does help.
I have residency over one of the children but only have a parental order over the other two, i have just found out that after all this time none of the children are mine, these children are my world and mean everything to me. i have spoken to the eldest so called biological father who says he isnt going to get involved unless the child wants him to, which i agreed was fine, i do not have any idea who the twins father is.
i have been advised not to push to court for residency as the longer i have them the better it is for me however my question is do i still have any chance of getting residency over the other 2 children as it now turns out im not biologically there father however i have brought them up for over 11 years and they are my world.
Our daughter, the first 12 with me there and then say trips for 12pm till 4pm on a Sunday after 12 months then he could do overnights. I also offered every second birthday to be his, he would get Easter Friday and boxing day aswell. I seen that as fair but when I said child support aswell he went off his nut and is now dragging me through court. He has never met my daughter and has shown nothing but diss interest in her up until
His now wife lost there baby. Will he get more than what I offered originally or does
He have more rights?
If the DNA says I am the father and have to pay childcare costs (which I afforded to do in the beginning- she refused them as shje wanted nothing from me). Do I get to see my son? every thing point to getting a lawyer. I tried that and the 1st hour cost me £240 and I dont qualify for legal aid - I only earn £800 and I cannot afford legal help . Is there anyone else that can help me?
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