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When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access

By: Chris Nickson - Updated: 22 May 2022 | comments*Discuss
 
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If your ex-partner says she’s not going to let you have any contact with your children, it can be one of the most distressing things that can happen to you. There may be a number of reasons behind her decision but somehow they’re irrelevant; you simply want to be able to spend time with your kids. So what can you do to change the situation?

Why It Happens

There are several reasons why your ex might deny you access to your children.
  • It could be a bargaining chip for Divorce or legal proceedings yet to come
  • It might be revenge for the break-up of the relationship
  • In some instances, it’s even been used as a way to conceal a new relationship

Denial of contact, as it’s called legally, doesn’t necessarily happen immediately after your relationship ends. It can occur at any time until the child is of age.

What to Do About It

Your first step should be to send a registered letter to your ex-partner in which you ask her to reinstate contact between you and your children. Don't forget to take a copy of the letter for your records and keep your proof of sending. However, remember court is always seen as a last resort and you will usually have to show that you have both attended a Mediation Information & Assessment Meeting (MIAM) before you can apply.

If this produces no action, and/or your ex refuses to attend mediation, then you have no alternative but to go to court and ask for an Interim Contact Order. In order to obtain a contact order you will need to submit the correct form to the court, find out which form you need Here.

What Does the Interim Contact Order Do?

The interim contact order allows you to have contact with your children until a full court hearing resolves the matter one way or another. If your ex shows no opposition to interim contact, it can be resolved without a court appearance. However, at this stage that’s not likely to be the case.

What Kind of Contact Can you Expect in the Interim?

What you and your solicitor will have to do is remind the court at a “directions hearing” of the length of time before the full hearing will occur. This can often be six months or longer, which can be detrimental to your relationship with your child. In most instances, the court will allow some limited contact between you and your children in the interim, although it’s unlikely to be “staying contact” (allowing the children to stay overnight with you) if the mother objects. She might also demand supervised contact, and the court will generally accede. This all seems heavily weighted towards the mother, even though you might have done nothing wrong. However, it’s a case of the court opting to be cautious.

The Directions Hearing

Prior to the hearing you should inform both the opposing solicitor and the court itself that your side will ask for interim contact and be asking for oral evidence. This will avoid any adjournment. If you’ve had previous contact with your child before you were denied access, especially “staying contact”, you should provide evidence of this to the court, as it will bolster your argument.

The Final Hearing

One of the most important factors preceding the final hearing is the report by the Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) officer. He or she will interview you and your former partner, your children, if they’re old enough, as well as carers and teachers etc. Generally, the court will accept the report’s recommendations regarding custody and contact. If you disagree with the report, either in part or completely, you can ask for more information, or for another report by a different officer.

If You’re Still Denied Access

If your former partner denies you contact in defiance of an order laid down by the court, you can take her to court to demand access. However, before taking this step, think carefully, as it will not only make relations between the two of you worse, but could possibly end up with her fined or in jail, which will have an adverse affect on the children. If at all possible, you should Attempt Mediation first.

Check out the Separated Dads Forum... It's a great resource where you can ask for advice on topics including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or simply to have a chat with other dads.

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Anita - 22-May-22 @ 6:59 AM
My daughter is 6 now and we've been separated 4 and a half years, I've always had a good relationship with my ex and no problems seeing my daughter until recently. While having her for a weekend I found a disturbing video on her tablet which appeared to have been filmed by a 3rd party, I tried questioning my ex about it and got no answers and my daughter wouldn't speak, as if she'd done something wrong. I made the decision to go to the police with it and now my ex is stopping all contact with my child after the police went to her house and decided that there wasn't enough for them to get involved, I've been to children's services who also couldn't help, I fear my daughter is being abused and nobody wants to help, is there anything I can do?
Tentpeg - 1-Oct-21 @ 8:13 AM
My ex and I seperrated whilst she was pregnant though we still kept in contact. I was at the birth and I am on the birth certificate. After the birth over the first 3 years we kinda had an oon/off intimate relationship. I had regular weekly contact at my house sometimes I went to my child's home to look after her if my ex was going out. We went on family outings short family holidays as we both thought this was good for our child to see good family relationship between us. Then the relationship between me & my ex broke down further and we began to find it difficult to communicate my contact became less with my child. My ex began asking who would be there whilst I had my child, where would we be going, what would we be doing ect. My ex began dropping her off late picking her up earlier leaving me little time to do very much with my child. I was then sent to prison for 10months for a driving offence (which I regret) and as we Wer in covid pandemic visiting was difficult though could still happen if it was child visitation but mh ex said no my child can't visit so I tried calling, writing but my ex told me she will never be letting me see my child again. I did keep trying to make contact but never received any reply back throughout my prison sentence duration. Iv been released from prison now I desperately want to see my child but don't want to turn up at her house as I do not want any conflict between us in front if my child at all as it would have a negative impact on her. Since being released from prison I was put in temporary housing to await a council house as I previously lived with my mother who has now moved to a smaller house and I want go rebuild my father/daughter relationship I will be potentially looking at included over night stays aswell therefor I will need a 2 bedroom property hence the reason for being in temporary council accommodation at the minute. I have contacted a family lawyer however although I done this on the day of my release it is 2 weeks before I actually have the lawyer appointment. What should I be doing right now should I perhaps send my ex a recorded delivery letter asking if we can try to put our differences aside for the sake of our child as its clear to me that any inter-parental conflict can negatively impact our child's long term mental health and no child should have to endure the loss of a close parental relationship on one parents decision because they cannot find a level ground between them where the child's best interests are kept at the heart of this situation.a child has the right to have meaningful happy loving family relationship with both parents even if they live with only one parent. My daughter is 4years old now and I haven't had contact for nearly 11months now please I need help and advice whilst I await lawyers appointment.
Will - 17-Aug-21 @ 11:11 AM
My ex and I seperrated whilst she was pregnant though we still kept in contact. I was at the birth and I am on the birth certificate. After the birth over the first 3 years we kinda had an oon/off intimate relationship. I had regular weekly contact at my house sometimes I went to my child's home to look after her if my ex was going out. We went on family outings short family holidays as we both thought this was good for our child to see good family relationship between us. Then the relationship between me & my ex broke down further and we began to find it difficult to communicate my contact became less with my child. My ex began asking who would be there whilst I had my child, where would we be going, what would we be doing ect. My ex began dropping her off late picking her up earlier leaving me little time to do very much with my child. I was then sent to prison for 10months for a driving offence (which I regret) and as we Wer in covid pandemic visiting was difficult though could still happen if it was child visitation but mh ex said no my child can't visit so I tried calling, writing but my ex told me she will never be letting me see my child again. I did keep trying to make contact but never received any reply back throughout my prison sentence duration. Iv been released from prison now I desperately want to see my child but don't want to turn up at her house as I do not want any conflict between us in front if my child at all as it would have a negative impact on her. Since being released from prison I was put in temporary housing to await a council house as I previously lived with my mother who has now moved to a smaller house and I want go rebuild my father/daughter relationship I will be potentially looking at included over night stays aswell therefor I will need a 2 bedroom property hence the reason for being in temporary council accommodation at the minute. I have contacted a family lawyer however although I done this on the day of my release it is 2 weeks before I actually have the lawyer appointment. What should I be doing right now should I perhaps send my ex a recorded delivery letter asking if we can try to put our differences aside for the sake of our child as its clear to me that any inter-parental conflict can negatively impact our child's long term mental health and no child should have to endure the loss of a close parental relationship on one parents decision because they cannot find a level ground between them where the child's best interests are kept at the heart of this situation.a child has the right to have meaningful happy loving family relationship with both parents even if they live with only one parent. My daughter is 4years old now and I haven't had contact for nearly 11months now please I need help and advice whilst I await lawyers appointment.
Will - 17-Aug-21 @ 11:11 AM
My ex and I seperrated whilst she was pregnant though we still kept in contact. I was at the birth and I am on the birth certificate. After the birth over the first 3 years we kinda had an oon/off intimate relationship. I had regular weekly contact at my house sometimes I went to my child's home to look after her if my ex was going out. We went on family outings short family holidays as we both thought this was good for our child to see good family relationship between us. Then the relationship between me & my ex broke down further and we began to find it difficult to communicate my contact became less with my child. My ex began asking who would be there whilst I had my child, where would we be going, what would we be doing ect. My ex began dropping her off late picking her up earlier leaving me little time to do very much with my child. I was then sent to prison for 10months for a driving offence (which I regret) and as we Wer in covid pandemic visiting was difficult though could still happen if it was child visitation but mh ex said no my child can't visit so I tried calling, writing but my ex told me she will never be letting me see my child again. I did keep trying to make contact but never received any reply back throughout my prison sentence duration. Iv been released from prison now I desperately want to see my child but don't want to turn up at her house as I do not want any conflict between us in front if my child at all as it would have a negative impact on her. Since being released from prison I was put in temporary housing to await a council house as I previously lived with my mother who has now moved to a smaller house and I want go rebuild my father/daughter relationship I will be potentially looking at included over night stays aswell therefor I will need a 2 bedroom property hence the reason for being in temporary council accommodation at the minute. I have contacted a family lawyer however although I done this on the day of my release it is 2 weeks before I actually have the lawyer appointment. What should I be doing right now should I perhaps send my ex a recorded delivery letter asking if we can try to put our differences aside for the sake of our child as its clear to me that any inter-parental conflict can negatively impact our child's long term mental health and no child should have to endure the loss of a close parental relationship on one parents decision because they cannot find a level ground between them where the child's best interests are kept at the heart of this situation.a child has the right to have meaningful happy loving family relationship with both parents even if they live with only one parent. My daughter is 4years old now and I haven't had contact for nearly 11months now please I need help and advice whilst I await lawyers appointment.
Will - 17-Aug-21 @ 11:06 AM
My ex and I seperrated whilst she was pregnant though we still kept in contact. I was at the birth and I am on the birth certificate. After the birth over the first 3 years we kinda had an oon/off intimate relationship. I had regular weekly contact at my house sometimes I went to my child's home to look after her if my ex was going out. We went on family outings short family holidays as we both thought this was good for our child to see good family relationship between us. Then the relationship between me & my ex broke down further and we began to find it difficult to communicate my contact became less with my child. My ex began asking who would be there whilst I had my child, where would we be going, what would we be doing ect. My ex began dropping her off late picking her up earlier leaving me little time to do very much with my child. I was then sent to prison for 10months for a driving offence (which I regret) and as we Wer in covid pandemic visiting was difficult though could still happen if it was child visitation but mh ex said no my child can't visit so I tried calling, writing but my ex told me she will never be letting me see my child again. I did keep trying to make contact but never received any reply back throughout my prison sentence duration. Iv been released from prison now I desperately want to see my child but don't want to turn up at her house as I do not want any conflict between us in front if my child at all as it would have a negative impact on her. Since being released from prison I was put in temporary housing to await a council house as I previously lived with my mother who has now moved to a smaller house and I want go rebuild my father/daughter relationship I will be potentially looking at included over night stays aswell therefor I will need a 2 bedroom property hence the reason for being in temporary council accommodation at the minute. I have contacted a family lawyer however although I done this on the day of my release it is 2 weeks before I actually have the lawyer appointment. What should I be doing right now should I perhaps send my ex a recorded delivery letter asking if we can try to put our differences aside for the sake of our child as its clear to me that any inter-parental conflict can negatively impact our child's long term mental health and no child should have to endure the loss of a close parental relationship on one parents decision because they cannot find a level ground between them where the child's best interests are kept at the heart of this situation.a child has the right to have meaningful happy loving family relationship with both parents even if they live with only one parent. My daughter is 4years old now and I haven't had contact for nearly 11months now please I need help and advice whilst I await lawyers appointment.
Will - 17-Aug-21 @ 11:06 AM
Cafcass caseworker highlighted in brackets a very damaging remark in her safeguarding letter she made out some thing that never happened, She contradicts her remark, right after it by saying Local Authority took no further action after the assessment, But she still highlights the damaging remark? Her report was so biased towards my wife, at the moment Cafcass case is closed I have made complaints about the caseworker but seem to fell on deaf ears, hopefully the District Judge will look into the assessment that was done in 2008 by the local authority to see the truth, & not what the Cafcass remark is putting to the Court, obviously a social service assessment was done back in 2008 & no further action was taken at the time, So why is she bringing it up 13 years later in her safeguarding report? Hopefully this Cafcass caseworker will not be asked by the District Judge do another report later on in the case otherwise I don't think I will get contact with my kids.
Gazza - 29-Jul-21 @ 9:19 AM
Hi, I divorced at 2002 of my husband, and I have twins, they was born in England , when they were 2 years old me and my x , divorced , I’m Iranian and that time we lived at Iran, then he took my child to london , and I Haden’s any acces to them , no phon no contact, nothing , now they are 20 years old, I don’t know how I get my right, I should claim on their father or no? What I do?
Rana - 24-Jul-21 @ 11:04 PM
My 1st child was the result of a relationship with a married woman. She decided to stay with her husband so I missed out on the early bonding period being at the birth while they tried to pretend at playing happy families.I was a bit broken after all she had said that she decided on staying.Unsurprisingly their marriage didn't last and I had some access but by then I was married and started my own family and I just didn't have the same bond as with my children .I also found it hard as my wife wasn't happy and my 1st son has his mother's eyes and brought back many emotions.Eventually contact was lost again which is my fault for not making a greater effort to ignore my wife's reminstrations and over come my feeling that my sons mum had chosen her ex husband to provide for them not me.Later my sons mum asked came asking for money, but one of my children requires extra support so I was already stretched financially and still felt she had made her choice to stay with her husband as he was a bigger earner than me.Obviously she and my son both blame me though I feel my lack of involvement is largely driven by not having that early engagement I had with my youngest 2.I would love for at least my 3 kids to have some relationship and my part on let my son down has played a part in the depression I have suffered, but hard to know my best way foward.
Gaz - 15-Jul-21 @ 9:34 AM
My 1st child was the result of a relationship with a married woman. She decided to stay with her husband so I missed out on the early bonding period being at the birth while they tried to pretend at playing happy families.I was a bit broken after all she had said that she decided on staying.Unsurprisingly their marriage didn't last and I had some access but by then I was married and started my own family and I just didn't have the same bond as with my children .I also found it hard as my wife wasn't happy and my 1st son has his mother's eyes and brought back many emotions.Eventually contact was lost again which is my fault for not making a greater effort to ignore my wife's reminstrations and over come my feeling that my sons mum had chosen her ex husband to provide for them not me.Later my sons mum asked came asking for money, but one of my children requires extra support so I was already stretched financially and still felt she had made her choice to stay with her husband as he was a bigger earner than me.Obviously she and my son both blame me though I feel my lack of involvement is largely driven by not having that early engagement I had with my youngest 2.I would love for at least my 3 kids to have some relationship and my part on let my son down has played a part in the depression I have suffered, but hard to know my best way foward.
Gaz - 14-Jul-21 @ 4:15 PM
My ex partner has run off from Scotland to England with my 2 boy's aged 15 weeks and 23 month old, im only on the youngest child's birth certificate,she is saying she's fleeing domestic violence, emotional abuse, controlling behaviour and financial distress,none of it is true, we argue over her insecurities over cheating, ive left jobs, churches and England to so she dont think I cheat, I was 110% commited, we've had domestic violence over a year ago, but nothing since, im doing the court order I was put on and doing great with it, I was having my boys at my house on my own before I splitt with her 2 weeks ago, once I splitt up she bolted with my boys, blocked contact and run off to England,social work report's are all amazing and positive and we was taken off the at risk register with my eldest, they all stay i was a good father, my ex is saying this to hurt me, any advice, ive got a solicitor appointment Thursday
Big T - 10-Jul-21 @ 12:24 PM
Funny not been able to get a response from the Carcass caseworker because initially I kept the brief phone call strictly about my kids & contact never mentioned any safeguarding concerns about the Wife or her Mother who cares for my kids, But I the Wife has made Domestic Abuse allegations also mentioned my Mental Health & treatment, So I sent the Court & Cafcass my Health records, yesterday I phoned my Kids Schools ask them about reports as I have no contact see how there doing? The School tell me my 11yr old twin daughters have said they don't want to see me? I find this rather odd as av not had any contact either by phone or seen them since April 11th but I have a email from the wife dated April 16th saying the Kids all wanted to start trying to see me on my own, So I am confused to why my twins would now be telling the School they don't want to see me? My guess the Mother or Mother in law been in their heads, So I sent the Carcass caseworker because a txt & a copy of my wife's email to show her I also told the caseworker in a txt I had concerns about the Mother in Law but never told her what they were in the txt I also told her i have things that could show that my wife is has been deceitful in the past so as to debunk her Domestic abuse allegations, & guess what after weeks trying to get a reply from Carcass she rings me this morning, I would not lower myself to resort to what my wife is doing this was about contact with my kids nothing else, But goes to show you what Carcass are about be very careful.
Gazza - 23-Jun-21 @ 1:09 PM
My Aussie son in Scotland is divorced and has been seeing (sharing) his six-year-old daughter for three years without any problem. But five months ago he told his ex that he would not be allowing her request to move to Corsica with the daughter. (Yep, there's a boyfriend, who happens to be a mercenary). She has now cut off virtually all access to the father. She and her lawyer are even ignoring requests from his lawyer to mediate. Court papers will be lodged tomorrow. We have had to do fundraising for this. The court will find in his favour, as there are no issues, apart from her bad behaviour. What happens if she still doesn't comply? Many thanks.
Doc - 20-Jun-21 @ 9:40 AM
My wife soon to be ex has resorted to being awkward again my niece same age as my wife phoned her asked her if she could ask my 5 kids to sign a Fathers Day Card she said No she couldn't & it's down to the Family Courts the mind boggles with her petty behaviour as her & my Neice where close & have stayed amicable my Neice was upset I told her not to worry she was trying to do something nice for me & the Kids, My Wife in the meantime popped around to my best mates as she is friends with his Mrs & passed a card my youngest 7 year old Daughter had done in School the same day my Neice phoned her? Made up with my card from my princess, But the Wife starting to show her true colours she made allegations of Domestic abuse I said nothing to the Cafcass regretting it now as I have a lot of Safeguarding issues on my wife Mum who is down as Carer for my severely autistic 9 yr old boy & her mother has sent vile drunken rants in what's app txts to me & bad mouthed me to friends in public also a alcholic who actually stabbed her ex my wife father in front of my wife & her siblings when they where kids, I also have proof of my wife being deceitful involved in Benefit Fraud & Insurance Fraud, but am not about stooping to her level I tried Medaition then applied to Court kept this about the Kids, I also have struggled to get in touch with the Cafcass caseworker I have had to send Mental Health & treatment records to Cafcass website because the caseworker does not answer her phone gave me no email address to send my records sorry but I have a feeling this Cafcass caseworker seems to me unprofessional, My Mental health anxiety depression has only started since my wife ended our Marriage back in November 2020 the records show this so don't know why she playing that card either? Also no mention of Domestic abuse in her reasons for Divorce? & she had let be alone with my kids back when we first broke up until January then started to be controlling with visitation having my Sister be with me & her friend also going to a local community center on a Monday with my youngest all because i said to one of my 11yr old twin daughter in the car could we not mention her mum's best friend as my daughter went home was told her Mum I never seen my twins from mid January until mid March they seen me up til April 11th then I get a email from the wife saying all the kids want to try to see me on my own but could I be positive & not say men tion their Nan or her best friend, I was livid I thought she can't handle the thought your not in control anymore that's why she said that it should have been the start of me seeing the kids as a father should, But her mother had bad mouthed me to a friend about a month before so I was fuming my wife would say don't mention her Mum? I had kept it to myself about her Mum bad mouthing me in public as I was seeing the kids regular even though it was supervised & phone calls so did not want to rock the boat, I emailed my wife told her i was goin
Gazza - 19-Jun-21 @ 2:57 PM
Hi I'm a dad of 4 one my oldest girl I went to court to but after 5 years it all stopped the mother had made out for the last 5 year she don't want to see me and now I've got it ten time worse my 3 boys who are 4,5,6 have been stopped seeing me the mother works for the child care so she know what she is doing she put a order on me fir 6 months claiming she afair of me and and in danger apart fir row that's is all I've ever done to her I'm now trying to fight its all in court but its a waiting game up to 4-6weeks even more with out seeing them one of sons has adhd and his life has been mess right up like all the other dads on here I'm at breaking point there happy to take your money for the kids but won't let you see them I love my kids with all my hart just hope I see you again soon boys ?
Disco1986 - 16-Jun-21 @ 3:04 PM
Hi as I said earlier my Wife refused mediation as I guessed so it's gone to Court I kept it about the Kids when Cafcass phoned me but I had a letter from the Court yesterday & the Wife has made allegations of domestic abuse so it's going to fact finding hearing she had said it was the children's desicion to want someone there when I seen them but now has made allegations of domestic abuse it's strange she never mentioned it for the reasons in her Divorce & she had let me be alone with the Kids when she broke up with me in November 2020 until January 2021 since I said to my Daughter about not mentioning my wife's friend back in January my Wife has controlled my time with the Kids & since April 11th I have not had any contact or phone calls from my kids? I tried it does not look like things will go in my favour I will not be controlled by my wife were my kids are concerned I have looked after them since birth, I kept my dignity through this nightmare over the last 8 months so hopefully one day my kids we will see each other again? My real concern is my 9 year old Son who is severly autistic I may never see again. A Father who has been alienated by his ex
Gazza - 11-Jun-21 @ 8:33 PM
Hi guys, going through the same thing as most , i have a court order but my ex as stopped contact. Really want to fight it but shes a social worker and know what cards and lies to play,love my 2 girlsso much but deep down i feel i will never get a fair chance in court.I wish you all well and reading the forum at least as shown me im not alone there are so many good dads hurting and not just me. Stay safepaul
Jota13# - 6-Jun-21 @ 11:16 PM
Yes it’s a common theme throughout modern day divorces .Ex-wife’s or soon to be ex wife’s denying contact ,alienating children against their fathers .False claims of abuse and such nonsense .The courts and laws are a big part of the problem .Child support and alimony are vigorously enforced by the courts though a father has to fight to see his children with his rights being swept asidenonchalantly.I’m going through this right now .Over a year now and no .meaningful contact .I’ve seen how the system works .Thousands of dollars spent and many court visits a biased female judge .At this point I have decided to walk away .Even if I do get some custody /visitation it’s not adequate for a proper father /child relationship.I have read some of the comments and many mirror my own .I think men remain silent as a whole in these matters .Enough is enough ! It’s time for laws to be changed .I shouldn’t have to provein court that I’m a good father just because I’m getting divorced .Women can receive child support payments and head down to the liquor store and spend every cent with no official oversight .Why are financials enforced and a mans right to see his kidsseen as a distraction in court .Double standard .There should be a division of government set up to ensure a fathers ’s rights to see his kids are enforced just as equally as his financial obligations are ..Fathers are not treated equally in the court system .Time for our voices to be heard !
Tony - 25-May-21 @ 9:48 PM
I've got a child arrangement order, I've not seen my children for over a year and a half, my ex was making my babies suffer for seeing me and I kept getting threatening letters from her solicitor, I was driven to deep depression where it became dangerous for me. The final straw was seeing my girl wet herself in my car as I was driving her home, I realised that my ex was launching an Inquisition on them each time I had them, I did the kindest thing I could think to do, kissed them all goodbye and told them that one day we'll meet again, my love for them outweighs my need to see them. It has driven me to the edge of my life more than once, I miss them so much, everyday I have to get up and find the motivation to keep moving forwards, my job is not very nice, its very dangerous and often I get hurt really badly by other people just to earn a crust so I can pay the maintenance, (I'm security officer)i found peace in knowing that no matter what I love them, no one can touch that, no one can take that from me. I'm desperate, just hold them, just to tell them its not their fault, to remind them that I love them and that's never ever changed. I pray to God that one day all those involved in this awful mess will be shown the suffering they've caused. So to my beautiful babies daddy loves you and to my ex you're forgiven, I leave it with God x
Broken heart 1987 - 19-May-21 @ 5:02 AM
Joke website really. Let’s worry about the mum not having contact if she goes to jail but not if the dad can’t see the kids. There has to be some protections put in place for dads who are denied contact or have their children alienated against them
Alienated father - 12-May-21 @ 7:15 AM
Hi, my partner is a loving dad of three. After he split with his ex partner. He went to a solicitor so that he could continue seeing his youngest son. All was going well with his visits to his dad in holidays and every other weekend and then all of a sudden three years ago she stopped him completely seeing his son. He is of course devastated. The solicitor wasn’t much help after that and he is battling to get his ex to let him see his boy who is now 10. It’s breaking my heart watching him go through this. I have a son and my partner is fantastic with him. What can we do to get his son back in his life please.
Courier24 - 4-May-21 @ 10:21 PM
sorry continued from the last Comment Set up Mediation I doubt my wife will attend so probably Court makes you laugh that these to poisoness creatures my wife's mother & her best friend spend time alone having them in there care & sleepovers as my Twins are a similar age to her best friend daughter but my wife accepts they bad mouth me in public but she insists on supervised visits? Covering herself saying it's what the children wanted, The Kids want to see me now on my own but because i told her something about them 2 she has no control over what they say she blocked my contact with the kids you can't make this up..sorry for how long the story was a lot has happened in 6 months hopefully I get to spend my quality time with my Kids alone without my wife trying to control the situation.
Gazza - 23-Apr-21 @ 12:25 PM
My Wife blocked contact 6 months ago when she threw me out the house briefly contacted me for 4 weeks in Febuary only because her mother sent nasty vile what's app txts while rotten drunk, probably felt she had to at the time we where amicable for the kids but the Divorce she paid for sent her a email saying hi had not signed the papers, sneaky of them as I had been in touch told them to send the forms to my new address, my wife broke off contact because of this email they sent, I decided I focus on getting the 1 bed flat up to scratch for when the kids eventually allowed to come around took me 2 months as it was dated finally I moved in last week in April I had previously seen my kids once every wk normally for a hour weather permitting as it was winter & at my Sister house I upset my 11yr old eldest twin not thinking straight at the time in January as she mentioned my wife best friend who I am convinced had a lot to do with the marriage breaking up & this was when I had just got the Divorce so not a good time I just said to my daughter could we not mention her mum's friend in hindsight now I should have let it go over my head but I was in a bad place I did not want the Divorce & was hoping my wife would have a change of heart, we had been together for 15years had 5 beautiful kids together 5 years married lots of cherished memories, So my daughter seemed ok but then went back told her Mum who blocked contact with my Kids on the following Sunday & there phones were also blocked, Only down to her Mother sending me the nasty txts I got to see 3 of my 5 kids on a regular basis but because of what I said to my eldest twin the Twins decided they did not want to see me, my visits were supervised with my Sister & a friend of hers I went along with it because at least I was seeing the some of my kids, Then 3 weeks ago the Twins decided they wanted to see me again it was around the time the Divorce papers came through so I signed them as I tried everything even offered to pay her the money back she paid fof it & if things did not work out i would pay for the divorce but my wife was adamant it's what she wanted, last weekend my Sister was working so could not be there for the visit with my Kids I got a email from my Wife on the Friday saying the Kids want to try to see me on my own but could I try to be positive not say nothing about there Nan & My Wife best friend (she has to have to try to control the situation) about a month ago I got a phone call & a txt of 2 of my good friends of over 40 yrs who had bumped into my wife's mum & My wife's best friend who took it upon themselves to brag about my wife paying for the Divorce & were bad mouthing me in public to them I was not going to mention it to the wife as I was in contact with my Kids at the time but her remark in the email triggered me into letting her know what my friends had told me a month before, Since then I have been blocked on the kids phones & did not see them on Sunday I have now set up
Gazza - 23-Apr-21 @ 12:09 PM
hi there, I'm from UK from ex is from Australia my son was born there i overstayed my visa on the grounds my immigration solicitor took 45k said I had a visa at overstay to provide for my son. go back uk 1 year later with promise immigration solicitor can get me back aus. went uk see nan before she passed away. was not allowed back to our home had to send my son amd ex back to aus without me and never seen him since 2 years but also she gave birth to my second son in aus and I never had chance to meet due to visaand immigration. and covis and mum and dad falling out. can you help me reunite with them on permanent time . just to be a dad again meet my second son. nsw councillors met with me about my situation but after returning to uk nobody cares if I am with my son
dani - 13-Apr-21 @ 11:30 PM
Hi guys It deeply saddens me to say that the judicial system stinks and also cafcass are absolutely appalling My ex partner has made up evil lies around two and a half months after our separation in order to try and stop me from seeing my two beautiful children And it’s worked My elder child who is 13 years of age is desperate to tell the powers that be how it really is and everyone’s just pushing her aside She wants to have her voice heard to try and help put things right My youngest who by the way was my shadow hasn’t seen me properly now for 3 birthdays over the last 2 years I think the whole system stinks It’s just a money making scam taking advantage of desperate dads Anyhow there’s far more than the above Just wanted to give you all a snippet of my thoughts on the archaic system and the evil mothers that are out there Thanks for listening Egghead69
Egghead69 - 12-Apr-21 @ 9:13 AM
Hi my partner’s ex wife lives in America (we are in the uk). She has their now 13 year old son and my partner hasn’t seen him since he was 3. We believe she has moved states and remarried. Her family have all blocked us in the UK. The last photo we got was 3 years ago off a Facebook page of one of her family members. We have always tried to contact his son and his ex however since they have moved we don’t know what to do. We have a little girl now and want her to have a relationship with her older brother. What can we do?
Tijen - 29-Mar-21 @ 9:59 AM
My ex has just demanded I have supervised access when this pandemic lifts as I stopped physical contact due to her not following COVID rules and mixing herself and my child with other people regularly, My question is does she have any legal standing on this or is this just yet another vindictive attack against me, please help
D4ve8319 - 27-Mar-21 @ 7:19 PM
me and my baby’s dad don’t live together He sometimes dose not contact me for days at a time sometimes he ignores my calls and messages or blocks my number When he comes round to see my baby he won’t feed her changer her make any bottles clean her clothes basically doesn’t do much for her ... He now dose not want contact with me anymore and that’s fine I have offered for him to continue to come round and see her after work he works from 10am-6pm , 5 days a week he now tells me he won’t see our daughter because he dose not want to come round to my house so he’s going to take me to court , I have offered for him to have contact and he has denied it every time Will he even make it to Court ?
Mum - 24-Mar-21 @ 6:46 PM
I have not seen my baby daughter she was born in February, my ex partner left in January and last week sent divorce papers for me to sign I have reached out to her but she has changed her number. I don’t even have a picture I feel helpless she told me if I come by her house she will call the police and press charges against me I just want a relationship with my daughter I don’t even know what she looks like it’s very distressing for me I struggle to sleep or eat it’s effecting my mental health any advice or help I can get would be much appreciated thank you.
Q - 18-Mar-21 @ 11:15 PM
I applied for an enforcement order back in January. It seemed to have worked as a wake up call and things have been going well. However she just messaged me out of the blue saying "due to recent concerns I have been advised to stop contact untill further notice" I have tried to get an explanation of what these concerns are but she refuses to speak to me. My son loves me and I am utterly distraught. I don't know what to do? As I said an enforcement application is already going through the system. I speak to cafcass next month. I'm so worried about my son and his relationship with me. I can't sleep eat drink or think straight. Please can you help me understand what I should do?
Alex - 11-Mar-21 @ 8:51 AM
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