Deciding which court form is needed can be confusing. The courts have wide powers regarding the types of orders that can be made in relation to children and families. There are different court forms which may be needed depending on the type of order that the applicant wants the court to make.
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Below are some common scenarios and the type of court forms which may be used.
My Ex-Wife Will Not Let Me See My Children
If children live with one parent and the other parent is not happy with the amount of time that they get to spend with the children that parent may want to apply to the court for a Child Arrangements Order. It is always best to try to reach an agreement without having to go to court but, if that is not possible, an application can be made to the court. To apply to the court for a Child Arrangements Order form C100 should be used.
I Have a Contact Order but My Ex-Partner is Not Complying with It
If the court has already granted a Child Arrangements Order but one of the parents is not complying with it the other parent may apply to the court for an Enforcement Order and / or for an order that the person who has breached the Child Arrangements Order provides financial compensation to the other parent. Under an Enforcement Order the parent who has breached the Child Arrangements Order may be ordered to carry out unpaid work. Financial compensation may be appropriate if one parent lost or wasted money because the Child Arrangements Order was breached. Form C79 should be used when applying for an Enforcement Order or for financial compensation.
I Need a Warning Notice to be Attached to My Contact Order
The courts can only grant an Enforcement Order, or order financial compensation, in respect of a Child Arrangements Order if the Child Arrangements Order contains a warning notice. This notice tells all parties to the Child Arrangements Order what might happen if they do not comply with it. Since 8th December 2008 all Child Arrangements Orders have a warning notice attached automatically. If a person wants to apply for an Enforcement Order in respect of a Contact Order made before 8th December 2008 they must first apply to the court for a warning notice to be attached to it – this is done using Form C78.
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A person who has had an Enforcement Order made against them may ask the court to cancel it or set it aside if they think it is no longer necessary for it to be in force. To ask the court to cancel or discharge an Enforcement Order form C79 should be used. This form can also be used to ask the court to change the terms of an existing Enforcement Order.
My Ex-Partner has been Abusing or Harming My Children
If specific allegations are made that a family member has been abusing or harming a child or children it may be necessary to complete form C1A.
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I Want My Children to Come and Live With Me
It is still common for children to live with their mother when their parents' relationship breaks down. However, there is no law which says that this is what must happen. If a parent wants the court to make an order that the children should live with them they can use form C100 to apply for a Child Arrangements Order.
I Want to Apply to Have Parental Responsibility for My Children
Fathers do not automatically have Parental Responsibility for their children. They may not have it if, for example, they were not married to the child's mother when it was born and did not register the birth jointly with the mother. If the father and mother reach an agreement that the father should have Parental Responsibility the father can apply for a Parental Responsibility Agreement using form C(PRA1). Step-fathers can apply using form C(PRA2). If it is not possible to reach an agreement about Parental Responsibility an application can be made for a Parental Responsibility Order using form C1.
I'm Worried that My Ex-Wife is Going to Take My Children Abroad
There may be cases where one parent is worried that the other parent is going to do something, which may not be harmful in itself. However, it may be something that impacts on the other parent's relationship with the children. For example, the children's mother may have relatives abroad and the father is worried that the children will be taken abroad to live permanently. The court may be asked to make a Prohibited Steps Order using Form C100. If an order is made the parent will be prevented from carrying out the particular act without first getting the court's permission.
Many like you are facing issues with your respective wives. I havent seen my new born little man who is turning 5 months this month. Our relation became so acrimonious that our little man's name is not yet registered because of differences between us. She wants to give 1 name & didnt even took my into understanding as she comes from different faith & I am from different faith. She didnt even informed me while going to registrar office. I had to get the registration date from local civic office. Now my wife as any women does misutilising the law which is there to protect them. She has asked for Occupation order, Injunction order & Has applied for urgent SIO (Special instruction order) for naming the little man on her own. All this while she has not allowed me to see my son. And just like any other women who plays wrong she wants supervised contact for me with my son. My solcitor has asked for contact request. But no positive response from her or her solicitor.
My question is :- How can I get contact with my little man, How can I protect myself against all the threats intimidations of occupation order, injunction orders. I have no other place to go nor have any excess salary to find another accomodation interim. Really challenging times for me. Can some one please help & support. We as a sufferer MEN or Separated Fathers kept away/broken from our kids must act & make a strong BODY against this injustice. Womens have become powerful & we men's have become victims in todays day & age. Its so unequal for we as MEN's
I’m on benifits due to mental health. Device please
I try to contact my ex but she block me on Facebook and don’t have her number.
I don’t know my son name or were he lives
I’m worry she may take him out of the uk because she is from Lituania.
How can I find out were he lives or any form of contact
I felt they were rather preferential and did have much action towrds me from social services cafcass and other pointless services and they ate unlawfull with me in assessments which were fabricated and not based on me or my state and behaviour but nonsense amd blame. I did get thr child ro only live with me and all but am exhausted after the services aftermath.
Forms are easy to fill in and easly accesable in family court -didnt see any in county court so must be printed online Legal aid was avaliable just prepare for 4 hearings and being blamed..much harsh on single mothers who are in temp council hosuing as if im.guilty it takes 10 years to house and end the welfare problem and their right to work an such families.
We had an arrangement that meant i did one way she did another.
My car died this weekend so i was unable to collect on Friday so got child on Saturday.
Now she saying she ent doing it no more and i can kiss goodbye to my child
Many Thanks
The other week my ex decided to keep my child longer than the order says how can I legally stop him from keeping my child when he should be at home with me and stop him from saying nasty things about me and my partner in front of my child
I am not on the birth certificate but she resides with me 24/7 I claim for my daughter she hasn't seen her mother since she told me child 1 was mine and she wasn't in a stable state of mind mentally and physically wasn't able to take care of her. Of course I went and took my daughter.
Recently I managed to get hold of her wanting her to sign the form for me to be added on the birth certificate.. she refuses and is still off the scales mentally to speak or cooperate .
What and how do I go about doing this quickly.
I am currently away with the army in deployment for 6 months which I hold my hands up an admit is not fair for our son but it's my job. Having said that I get daily abusive messages about being a dead beat dad, she frequently blocks my number and has only let me speak to him once. I know she is going to stop contact again and I need advise as what to do and who can help. It seems the systems are in place to give the mothers the benefit of the doubt and the protection of the government.
Just looking for advice, I’m recently separated with my daughter living with her mother and a child from a previous relationship. The mother is taking me to the Csa despite our private arrangement but she refuses to take the other child’s father to Csa .... is this right and how do I stand?
I want parental responsibilities & 50/50 shared residence or as close to as I can get.
I've tried mediation but the other refused to attend so I am waiting for a form from mediator to use with court application.
I have no clue what applications or order I need or I'm what order can any body help where I go from here ? Please leigh x
I have been advised by a friend to find her and be part of her life and that she needs me emotional and not only financially. I so willingly and dieing to see my daughter but do no have the financial muscle for solicitors fees as I am currently struggling after the child maintenance fees is taken each month from my account.
Please what can I do. Please helppppp!
Hope you can help
I have asked for her consent and his passport verbally and via a written letter and she has refused and says i should take her to court. I have got the C100 form ready but before I file it I was wondering if I need to attend or offer to attend an MIAM? When we went through court earlier this year I attended an MIAM but not within the last four months. My ex refused on grounds of me being unreasonable. I can't see anything in the C100 exemption from MIAM section about holidays and I don't want to spend the money on filing the C100 for it to be sent back for not being filled out properly.
Any advice gratefully received.
I have been split up with my ex for about 4-6 months and have been trying to get regular access to my 3 year old little girl, at first I tried things her way which consisited of the mother coming with me and my little girl to do family things: soft play areas meals etc, in the time since we've split I have tried to take an overdose (no tablets went into mouth) and been verbally abusive by text to my ex and was diagnosed with depression at the time, I'm over the worst of it now. as I have only seen my little girl 10 hours in the last 5 weeks and before then it could vary between 8 hours or 10 mins on a weekly basis, we tried mediation which my ex requested supervised visits by someone she trust (basically her or her mother), I know my behaviour has been erratic but I requested unsupervised visit therefore mediation failed, I don't want to go through the courts as it would be lengthy and costly process (money doesn't matter when it comes to seeing my little girl but I haven't got much at the moment), I am a just a hardworking guy with no crinmal record no drug or alcohol problems my name is on the birth certificate and never missed a maintence payment yet I made to feel like a horrible person by my ex only because I want to see my little girl, Im currently living with my mum and my brother in a council house which I hope to buy in the coming months hence why I don't want it to go to court, thinking of applying for joint access but any advice or help would be grateful
Many thanks to you all.
What should I do? it is my weekend with my son from school tomorrow afternoon and we all want to see him and him to be happy.
Can anybody give us some advice on where we go from here? I feel this is a very unfair situation to be put in, but looks like the mother is the one that always seems to win.
Thank you.
Il try explain the situation as best i can but we really need help!
My partner has a 5 year old son with another women, she got married to another bloke when his son around 1 years old..she blocked access then so we went to court, it was agreed that he could see his son every second weekend and alternative birthdays/Christmas...this worked for a little while but gradually contact became less and less, hes lucky if he sees him once a month..his son calls this man dad to.
Now she has broken up with the husband my partner was allowed to see him abit more but we have since found out that the son goes and stay at the ex husbands house on weekends but my partner has never been allowed, and he is having him this christmas even though he is not his dad, last week the exhusband threatened to kidnap my partners son (she rang my partner and told him) she still let him take the child on the weekend anyway and he showed up an hour late to drop him back off obviously trying to scare her, my partner had an argument with her as she shouldnt of put child in danger like that as my partner had asked to have the child but he wasnt allowed because the ex husband wanted him
So my questions are...what rights does my partner have in stopping his son from seeing/staying at her ex husbands house (without the mum) ?
how does he find out if we have a valid court order stating he can see his son?
And if it is valid how does he go about sorting it out that he can see his son on a regular basic like the court agreed in the first place?
I would appreciate any advice and i hope ive explained it in a way thats not to confusing, thank you
I made contact with my son via email and the following day the police paid me a visit to give me a warning, that if I continued to make contact, it could lead to harassment charges. I have not had a court order or any restraining orders , nor have we been to court. There is no violence or aggression at all. I was unfaithful during our separation and this has been her reaction. I can't afford any legal professional advice . I live in a community of homeless adults in a stipend organisation. How do I regain contact, I don't know what to do.
In the early stages of the break up she would let him talk to the kids on the phone regular and even let him visit the kids in England. but now she has a new partner and after a few minor rows through text message she has totally stopped her speaking or seen the kids.he hasn't spoken to the kids in on the and she won't return a text even to say the kids are safe..our mother is now bed ridden with a lung disease and we would love her to see her grand kids before she passes away...what can my brother do as he feels he's fighting a loosing battle....thanks very much for any help you can give
His name is on the birth certificate so he does have PR, she has severe mood swings and in the last 4 weeks has done this around 5/6 times, I want to help my son have access but do believe until this is done my granddaughter should be in foster care, where I no she will be safe and cared for, then it will be a case of both parents being fully assessed instead of the mother calling all the shots and being vindictive and hurtful to my son, its a very sad that has happened, all I want is for my son to no he will be able to see his daughter, but I no it will have to be done via a professional way
" I have discussed access arrangements with the kids and have not goitten back to you as they have not given me any consistent response. I spoke to them about getting external support to discuss access arrangements which they declined . Feel free to pursue legal advice, its important to ensure that the kids needs are met . Id appreciate sensitivity as Child 1 is trying hard to do her GSCE revision and cope with school work. and kids 2 and 3 are settling into a new school"
I have tried to very open and reasonable but to no avail aprt from the response above.
Please can you suggest all my options please. Many thanks SS
I was hoping someone would respond to my comment or do you only respond to some not all.
Thanks
Dan
Now that we have brought a house in London our disposible income is smaller and we want to bring the kids down to stay with us some weekends as this works out to be more affordable (they have stayed in London with us in the past during school holidays and this has never been an issue). The kids have their own bedrooms at our house which i've just started setting up and decorating in their chosen wallpaper etc. and last time we spoke to them they were excited about coming to the new house. We would of course go and collect them from Nottingham so their mother wouldn't have to drive them anywhere. All of a sudden this has become an issue for her and she has started saying that it's my husband's own fault for moving away and he can only see the children if he comes to Nottingham.
We don't want to lose contact with the children but can't afford to keep spending out on hotels etc. If we can't resolve this between ourselves does anyone know whether a contact order would allow us to have the children in our home rather than the hotel?
My daughter is 4.5 and comes out with all kinds off strange things and her mother changed her mind constantly making regular routine visits hard which I feel is important
The last two weeks have been hell receiving 40 plus texts messages and additional emails from her mother with total Maliicous and attitude
I have decided now to go to court and have been advised not to get legal representation but don't know the steps to take ?
I need the malicious comments to stop as it upsets my wife's 6 year old and I see no point and want guaranteed access
Can anyone advise
My ex has stopped any cotnact with my 8 years old daughter now for 10 weeks without any reason. Every time when im ask she just said that i will never see or hear my daughter. Im currently living in Northern Ireland (my ex and daughter in England), only what i want is contact via phone minimum and have she sometime on holiday, half terms etc.
What i can do?
Since remarrying I have seen them every second weekend. I work one full weekend per month as a vet. I finish work too late during the week to see them after work
Now she wants me to see them 2 nights per week and every weekend. If I do t comply she will withdraw all access.
Please advise
I now live 45 mins away from her and my daughter.
I have suggested on numerous occasions that i would like to have my daughter stay during the week and i will.drop her at school the following morning, however i am flat refused. Therefore due to my work and the distance in our houses i dont get to see my daughter during the week as i usually dont finish work till.6pm and i dont have time to take her back to my house and return her home in time for her bed tome. I can see her for an hour or so if i stay local and perhaps go to a park or something similiar which is fine during summer but not really in winter times.
I have my own house and car and dont drink or do drugs, i work full time and am a good father. I am therefore thinking of taking applying for a contact order to allow me access during the week and to get regular weekend access resolved.
Am I likely to be successful as i dont want to put my daughter through the process if im likely to lose
Any ideas?
She has broke the order over & over again, there was a committal against her previously also l, she thinks she can do what she wants when she wants.
So I have taken the c100 to court and awaiting a new court date. How long does this normally take to come through?? Also is there any possible advice you could give please. Kind regards
My ex has stopped me seeing my son now for 23 weeks.
I have been in and out of court last 3 years after my ex did a runner with my son & got a order which I could not contact her.
I got a order in place by the judge and said to be amicable in relation to our son. Which she has not been.
The order was a minimum contact order was set in 2014 & she has not moved on the minimum contact. I have no holidays etc with him. Back in March this year she stopped contact for no reason. I tried mediation to resolve it which she refused to take part. So I have taken the c100 to court and awaiting a new court date.
How long does this normally take to come through?? Also is there any possible advice you could give please.
Kind regards
When I left we signed a legal agreement but no Court order and I handed over the ownership of the house to my wife. I received some amount of financial compensation - not a lot!! We were separated in August 2011 and we are still married.
As soon as I left the matrimonial home, my wife's boyfriend moved in to live with her. My two boys, now 14 & 11 have 'suffered' since his arrival especially the 14yr old boy. My elder boy has suffered and this has negatively affected his College work. After a negative experience on holiday last July, 2015, I contacted the Land Registry about my Home Rights
In August 2015 the Land Registry ruled in my favour a Notice of Home Rights under the Family Law Act 1996. In ?August 2015, my wife was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. I informed my wife my intention to come back home to be with my Sons. There is a spare bedroom in the house. She has refused me access. How can I enforce my Home Right of entry into my matrimonial home?
I was born in 1949. I have major Cardiac problems; I am a Prostate Cancer Patient and recently alarmed with an onset of Diabetes. As a result of these physical and emotional crippling situations, my B/P has been excessively raised and my GP has increased my B/P medication; My PSA Prostate Cancer Level has risen. I am now waiting for further Biopsy and MRI Scan
How can I represent myself in court to gain access to be with my boys. I am retired on Pension and cannot afford the legal fees unless I get legal aid. My boys are suffering and so am I. What is my legal position - my legal right of entry? Please help. Thank you
Seeking advise and help
I am named on the birth certificate of my 18 day old son and therefore have parental responsibility which means I get a say in the parts of my son's life such as education, religion and travel etc.
I am an atheist, However, my ex is adamant that she is raising my son as a Christian and will be getting him baptised and taking him to church on Sundays.
I have tried to compromise and say I will have him two Sundays a month to try and be fair. She is saying however she will take him until she decides he is old enough to make his own decision. I believe he should be old enough to choose before being indoctrinated into a religion.
She is telling me at the moment that it is not even up for discussion.
Help! Please!
1. What I need to know is can he have his name added to the birth certificate if she refuses to add it when registering the child?
2. Can we force a DNA test?
3. If my sons name is not on the birth certificate and she refuses a DNA test to prove the baby is my sons can he still be forced to at maintinence?
4. If the baby is my sons how soon can he apply to the court to have access and set an amount of maintinence to pay?
5. Can you start court proceedings before the baby is born?
She has always lived with the mother but I was always given plenty of access since she was born and still have her every weekend, usually from fri pm - sun pm
I have paid maintains every week since before she was born and always supplied all the extras like clothes and school things and uniform. I've taken her on holidays and paid for out of school activities regularly.
The mother has got mental health problems that she refuses to get the proper help. My daughters school attendance is very poor and they are in the process of being evicted by the local council.
Social services are involved but I'm not even on the birth certificate.
I am in a position that I could offer my daughter a safe place to live but I'm only in a council bedsit .
Where on earth should I begin with all this ?
I work but can't afford expensive court or solicitors fees and I'm sure the mum would put up a fight due to her mental stability
Help and advice much appreciated
I have a 2 year old son who I only get to see once every 2 weeks. I have tried my best to get my ex to extend my parental responsibility with my little boy but she just keeps chucking my past back in my face. I have changed my ways, improved the quality of my life and done everything that she asked me to do like support more. Still I am in the same position and she isn't helping me out, just being nasty when all I'm trying to do is make the most effort possible with my child.
I work full time, can some one please give me some guidance on the steps I need to take as I feel that she is taking a liberty and it hurts me to go through this.
Thank you
I have missed both there birthday's & Xmas, not even let speak to them.
Is there anything i can do
Surely she cannot dictate how much time I spend with my son being based on my other access? Any advice would help please
My partner decided to leave without notice 6 months ago and took our boys (both under 5) with her and moved back to Middlesbrough, a 2hr drive away from Manchester. It was 6 weeks before I managed to visit them. I came close to calling the police the moment I came home and they were all gone and I wished I had done now.
Gave her the benefit of the doubt and thought our minor issues would be resolved if she had space away. She put kids in school etc and me gullibly
thinking come the summer she'd see sense and return. Unfortunately not!
I had regular contact visiting kids there on my 4 days off and was regularly bringing them back here. However, things have deteriorated hugely the past fortnight and she demands a legal document is in place now before I can take kids again. Tried to reason with her that il' see kids in M'Boro in her presence but she is being vindictive and stupidly stubborn.
My ultimate aim is to somehow get them home where they settled and very happy. However, we weren't fully married and only did the first bit at the registery office and never returned within 12 months with witnesses to confirm our marriage. BIG REGRET!
From reading up on this FANTASTIC website I have sent her Parental Responsibility letter and form and told her if she refuses to co-operate I have rights to go down the court route via an Interim Contact Order, but not told her of my main objective of a Residence Order.
My Questions are:
1/ If she does co-operate, How long does it take for me to get PR? Which this site tells me I need before I pursue a Contact Order.
2/ And then how long to get a Contact Order? Every day is a struggle as I think Mediation will be no good as she wants to remain there and I want the boys returned here.
3/ A problem I think is that my name is not on the older child's birth certificate. Would this go against me?
4/ REALISTICALLY, How likely am I to get my boys back? There are loads of mitigating circumstance that would take all day to explain here.
Many Many Thanks Kamran!
All advice would be HUGELY appreciated!
sorry to hear about the unfit mother, socialworks finest again. I knew a guy who was fighting for his little boy because his ex had a serious drug addiction and was refused as social work saw her as fit. That friend now has his son after she crashed the car she was driving on drugs. Died andthe childs spleen was ruptured. If shes only alcoholic she will look like a angel. Social work really need to get a grip and stop protecting women
The ex partner was horrible towards her which causes many problems and was not understanding made things worse . So after many things I had enough and had kick ex partner out with my babys . I had no choice I put up with this for two years .
Because I did this shes stopping me and daughter seeing the babys .
Ive tried mediation she refused it .
When my daughter sees them around in town she tries to hide babys from her so that she can't give them a kiss . Ive asked the ex partner many many times to see them but shes having none off it .
It like shes punishing me and my daughter . Now she moved and shes blocked all contact and I just dont know what to do anymore . I try paying child support but I have no way of paying it to her . She keeps saying that I choose daughter babys .
I can't work due to disability and she making me go all way to court . I went see solicitors and he said it could cost up to 5-7 thousand pounds .I have no way getting this kind of money has been on long term sickness benefits
Also cause of her haveing my second baby she went to register the baby behind my back knowing that I really wanted to be there. So this means I have no rites so please could someone help me and advice me on what i can do next please
I'm struggling with money having a mortgage and bills so can't afford a solicitor and I've told here ide never go to court as I wouldn't want to put the oldest boy who's not biological mine and would hurt them and she is using that against me she is now living with the bloke she carried on with and has just had a baby and claiming separate Wat to do
She has his daughter 4 nights we have her 3 nights there's no court orders for parent responsibility etc
My husbands worried about his childs safety social services have been told about the pubbing drugs violence at the house they won't investigate they asked the nother questions she lied
If my husband doesn't give back his child after his next night will the police make him ?
Thanks
So, my husband and I separated for a while, because he was seeing someone else. This someone else feel pregnant, but my husband had already moved back with me when she had told him. Since then she has made his life very difficult. Since the baby was born she has given him restricted access, only really allowing him to see the baby at her house. Or at his mothers, but the agreement was never to be around me or at our home. This was for 4 hours once a week. My husband has tried everything he can to see his daughter, without hefty fees of solicitors or court. But she is dictating every time. They work for the same company and have even spoken to a lady in HR that apparently used to deal with family law, but this has got him no further. All he wants is to be able to have his daughter, now 1 year, around me, at our home and with our children. Just a little advice would really help. Please and thank you
her reasons is she doesnt want him to get up to early but hes up at that time anyway. so i cannot see a problem,
so i was wondering what rights do i have to get my son back to three nights, even when its my weekend i have to take him home early so she can get him ready for school even though he didn't want to he said he is fine with going back early morning
His ex wife wont let him see him she has sent a solicitors letter saying he can only see him once every other weekend with a list of her rules .He has a written agreement between him and his ex wife regarding his contact which is for two nights once during the week he would take him to school and also stay over at the weekend. What rights has he to see his son while waiting to go to court.
Within the divorce I was ordered to clear an old business debt fixed to the family home. The order didn't give dates or time scales just stated it was my debt and as long as I made annual contributions to this debt I was complying with this order.
My ex decided to ask her new partner to clear the debt on the house and now has decided to hold the children ransom over this.
This has been going on for a few months and has now resulted in me applying to the court via a C100 for an order for access. I believe that monies have no reason for discussion in this case but her and her solicitor (prior to court) think different! Who is right?? I'm happy to discuss monies and payments but not via a family arrangement order application.
Any advice welcome.
it took me 2 days to come to terms with what happened, then found out she cleaned our joint bank account including the overdraft.
Her family cut off communication links completely and so I had to go down the legal route.
Mediation was a waste of time as she didn't even bother acknowledging then so I am now apply to the courts filling in the C100 form.
my query is, she might be staying at her mother's but knowing her crafty family, they might put her official address in one of her brothers, who lives in a 1 bedroom flat just so that she would score favourably for rehousing showing overcrowding etc.
Also, if she does use an alias address, can she claim that she never received the mediation forms and ergo, any summons from the court because I am not certain of her actual address, I'm worried they are purposely trying to delay things in the hope to say that I have left it soo late! How can we go around the uncertainty of contacting the respondent problem by the courts?
or do I include Every known family members address for summons?
Since that mistake no harm has come to my daughter but myself and my girlfriend have had issues including physical force my partner has now been taken away from me along with my daughter and I have no contact what so ever I will love to get back with her and sort out our differences but I have no contact details to contact her
please help
My ex-wife applied for a simplified divorce in Scotland in 2013 which was soon granted. Here is the timeline:
January 2012 -- my ex-wife and I separated;
August 2012 -- she gave a birth to a child (I didn't know that the child was born and she now tells me she didn't inform me because she believed I was not his father);
February 2013 -- she applies for simplified divorce, in her application form she ticked "NO" when asked if there are "children of the marriage". As I knew nothing about the child, I agreed to go through the simplified divorce;
April 2013 -- divorce granted;
March 2015 -- I have found she has a child, the DNA confirmed I am a father.
Could you please comment on the fact that my ex-wife lied in her divorce application that there are no "children of the marriage". What are the possible consequences for her? Can the fact that she lied help me in my court proceedings for a contact order with my child?
Advise please...
Apparently I got banned from seeing my son but is he still let me see him.
She then got a restraining order against me but continued to see me when it suited her..
It's at the stage now where I have done a prison sentence for breaching my restraining order.
Now she won't let any of my family see him and they have tried going to court to get access but she never turns up because apparently she hasn't received the letters.
The police have informed me that there is nothing to say I am banned from seeing my son so can I still get access whilst a restraining order for me not to contact his mum is still in place?? Please help
notice about the consequences if anyone subject to the contact order fails to comply with the requirements of the order. In the first instance it might be worth reminding your ex of this and if she doesn't comply you will have to take it back to court. A letter from a solicitor may work. If not then it may be necessary to bring the matter back to court and to bring enforcement proceedings. I hope this helps.
I obtained a contact order in 2013 to see my son, but at the time he wasnt in school and I was working night shifts so the contact order stated that I saw him on various days at various times during the day, as well as overnight at least one weekend a month and alternate xmas and birthday. since then my son has started full time school and I am in full time employment from 8-5 Monday to Friday, therefore the times stated in the order were no longer possible, so I agreed mutually with my ex partner that I would have my son every other weekend. This arrangement worked well for a few months up until last Christmas when it was my turn to have my son. My Ex refused to allow me to collect him and since then has refused to allow any contact. I am now in the situation where I need to go back to court to obtain further contact but im not sure if I need to apply for another separate contact order or an enforcement order on the original contact order and an amendment on some of the previously agreed times of contact as my Ex partner is breaching parts of the original order. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
I feel that she and her new man , want me totally out of there lives along with our baby .
I've accepted the decept (although this hurt) ,as my main goal is to see our baby as much as possible.
Our baby has the right to see both parents as much as possible .
I feel that going to mediation will fail and then a lengthy court proceeding will not only upset myself but also affect our baby as well , as when I eventually get to see him regularly , he will not be use to me and may upset him for a while.
I don't understand that you hear about all those dads out there, that have nothing to do with there kids.
Yet like ourselves there are dads that Truly care about there's and only have there best interest at heart , no child should be deprived of bonding with there dad.
I would seem that she is not thinking in the best interest of our child , but of bitterness from out failed marriage.
New partners can come and go ......but fathers are for life.
I am dutch and my ex partner english., we had a short relationship but we used to live together in Tenerife, as we lived in tenerife she got pregnant, 3 months in the pregnancy she dissapeared one day to another back to england.
I moved to england to find my child, I found out where she lives but I dont just want to ckme to her place un announced, where do I go from here?
My daughter is in need of braces, my ex has not paid a dime into maintenance in over 4 years. How and what forms do I need to fill out so that he can be responsible for partially paying what needs she has? I have been pushed back and forth by MEP Alberta because he was living in 3 provinces at the same time living off of 3 different women at 3 different residences. He has now settled down in Regina Saskatchewan. I now have a maintenance file in Saskatchewan but no one bothered to tell me that my case file was moved there. Its been a nasty run around for 4 years. Please help.
I just made a comment which is below for help on my problem and used wrong email address I have filled information in correctly this time just want to make sure you can reply to me.
I keep requesting 50/50 week on week off, I am in a new relationship but not living under the same roof at present and we have 5 kids we are caring for my 3 year old son and 11 year old daughter and my partners 15, 17 and 20 year old, I am living with my eldest daughter her partner and my 2 grandchildren, as we have not done property settlement and I can not do anything until everything is settled. All kids get on,and love being together and this happends when I have access with my kids, everyone are really happy, but now my exwife is whispering awful things in my 3 year old ears about my current partner and her kids and me, she is telling him not to like anyone, and saying we are not allowed near him and to hate us all!
I also have porblems where my ex has made several false reports to the police and trying to get an AVO on me, all cases have been award to me in courts but it has cost me a fortune, so everytime I pick kids up and drop off I have someone with me or I always try to drop at school and child care so I am no where near her
I have asked several times for 50/50 week on week off, and I feel she is using the kids against me in anyway, I have moved on and all I want is my quality time with my kids and to make sure they are being feed, educated, and looked after and they come first, where ex is more interested in her social life. How do I get new orders and immediate contact to 50/50 access as she will not agree at all but keeps playing stupid imature games and breech the present parenting plan
I dont have much funds and I really want the access to my kids how can I get this and I don't have alot of spare money so need the cheapest option possible
Desperate to keep my kids loving me and having a happy family life.
Ray
Could you please reply to that below urgently as I need to file and serve a Statement in support of my C78 Application that I had to make in Harrogate County Court further to attempts toward same in York since September 2013 - you did confirm receipt of items I attached to my Application - but were they sent or copied to York from whom I have not had a response and a probable further Eleven years before my Son & I see each other again.
Is there an example of such a letter available for me to peruse?
Within procedure, am I expected to compile an up to 30 sheet statement, in the manner that I had to in 2003/4 or would a shorter Statement be more appropriate referring to events since JAYNE T* had Contact Ordered for my Son & I stopped for sole reason that my Son wished his Granddad a happy 90th Birthday from my Vodafone, followed by numerous hearings at the High Court at the Hague and Court of Rotterdam that became adjourned after my ex JAYNE T* would arrive without her Lawyers or not at all and the hearing adjourned and adjourned, increasing my costs in my continued attempts toward attaining Justice? Every Contact Order made in England & Wales and the Netherlands was Breached by ex Jayne Temple – generally her behaviour unopposed by the Court.
Because I do not know if the items I sent with my C78 Application to Harrogate have been sent to York or not for the attention of Her Honour Judge F*, I am unsure whether or not to include them again along with requirement of Statement in Support of C78 Application.
LK refused to provide to District Judge W*, the copy of letter I received from Rotterdam that confirmed my Son and ex back in York at * M*, H* - I am repeating myself, so please reply with requested information urgently please.
Yours sincerely
Andy
When I phoned his new school, they would not discuss one of there pupils with me, said I would have to ask his mother who has subsequently changed her phone number
Than 8 week 4 hours and then it's up to me and my ex sort out but my ex is not let me have my son for more then 4 hours when It was order that things move on when the 8 week was over I've asked my ex loads of times and she keep saying no and giving me a hard time I've had to get the police to them 3 times now to get them tell them to stop making trouble
What do I do
This happened Nov2013.I have seen my son5 and daughter4 twice since.
She has changed her phone number and makes contact impossible.
My daughter was 4 on 9th February and my ex would not allow me to see her. . .
Even at her mothers house across the road!
I used to meet them from school,so they knew i wanted to see them,but have stopped because threats of harassment. . .What can i do??
He wants the boys to live with him and for me to see them when he is able to bring them back to the uk, i have refused.
I have no problem with him having contact with the children but when he has them for he refuses to bring them back unless i go to spain to pick them up, the problem with this is he is quite abusive when i dont do as im told , and has also threatens me with court. I have 3 other children from a past relationship so i have to live them with my family until i can come back this causes problems with my 3 other children.
The babies father has no experience with toddlers and even tho he has been abusive to me he has never shown signs of this with the boys but i'm still afraid to send them all the time in case he does. On top of this his mother has ordered me to let her have them for 1 weekend every month, if i don't she cried down the phone saying i'm taking them away, i wouldn't have a problem with them going if she did not change their routine so now my 2 year old who was out of bottles and potty trained has now gone back to bottles and is wetting himself, so it has made things hard for me having to retrain him everytime he comes back. I also feel i dont get enough time with my 1 year old to potty train him too, and now he is showing signs that he is un happy.
Please help as i don't know what to do any more my children are so unsettled.
2weeks ago my ex. Stopped answering her phone, I have sent texts messages, skype messages, my parents have also tried to get through to her but to no avail.
I am 200 miles away and feel even if I went down there she would not open the door to speak to me.
Rang Family Matters , they tried to arrange a mediation meeting but she refused. So far she has not given a reason for her actions.
Now at a loss as to which way to turn, depressed and missing my son terribly.
Can you help
Many Thanks Deborah Warnock
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