As a committed father, you want to know all about the important things in your child's life, particularly their medical and educational information. If you don't have main custody of your son or daughter, you might not be the initial point of contact for doctors and schools, and you may find yourself missing out on crucial information. This is a quick guide to the rights of fathers and the ways to make sure you are kept informed.
Before taking any formal steps, it helps to understand exactly what you're entitled to as a non-resident parent by using our free Rights Checker.
Approach Your Ex-Partner
First, however difficult it may be, you should approach the resident parent. Explain that you are interested in your child's progress and wellbeing and that you would like to have the same information from school and doctors as they have. It will often be the easiest way to get access to documents, as your child's mother will have all the information provided for them, and can simply forward copies on to you.
Medical Information
In an ideal world, sharing your concerns with the resident parent should solve the situation. If, however, they are unhelpful with your request, you need to know where you stand as a parent. In terms of your child's health, you should contact the doctor's practice directly, explaining that you are a parent who has the right to your child's health information. The surgery may ask you to provide proof of your Parental Responsibility. Do not be offended by this, it is routine for doctors to ensure that patient records are confidential, but they must also make sure that information is provided to those who are entitled to it. (See Writing to Your Child's School or GP for Information: A Template on this site.)
If They Refuse
If you are refused the information, ask the practitioner for information on how to make a complaint, or speak to the General Practice Manager. You can go one step further and speak to the Integrated Care Board or the Information Commissioner, if you need access to your child's medical records.
In some cases, your child may be moved from one doctor's practice to another, and if this is the case, and you are unaware of the location of the new practice, you can write to the Integrated Care Board, with proof of your Parental Responsibility, and they will inform you as to the new practice details. At this point, you must contact the new practice yourself as described above.
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The Department for Education has clarified that the parent with whom the child does not normally live is entitled (unless restricted by the Court) to the same rights as the parent with whom the child lives under issues relating to the Education Act. This means that as a parent, you have the same rights to information that the resident parent has.
Under education legislation, if you are the natural parent or have been granted parental responsibility, you are within your rights to receive information regarding your child's schooling. It is essential that you make sure that the school has your address and knows that you want the same information sent to both parents.
Letting them Know
To ensure the school knows that you want information and that you are entitled to it, contact your child's school in a pleasant but firm manner. Explain that you, as a parent, are entitled to the same information to be sent home to you as well as the child's mother. Put this request in writing, with enclosed proof that you are the child's father. Be prepared for more questions, as schools and doctors have a duty of care to protect the child. If you have no court ruling denying you access to the child, you are legally entitled to the information.
Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.
If the School is Unwilling
In some cases, schools will be less willing to allow information to be sent to the non-resident parent. If this is the case, contact your local authority education department (your local council will give you the details), citing the guidance from the Department for Education. Explain the fact that you have no Court Judgment against you but you are not being afforded your parental rights. They should help you to receive the school information in the same way that the resident parent does.
School Selection
School selection is not as straightforward as the resident parent 'choosing' their preferred school. It all depends on the catchment area of where the child resides. If speaking with the resident parent has not made a difference and you believe that your child's wellbeing will be affected by attending a certain school, then you can apply for a Specific Order Issue.
Specific Issue Order
If you find that, with the school or general practitioner, you are meeting obstacles which deny your parental rights, you can apply for a Specific Issue Order if:
- You want an Order relating to specific issues of how your child is being looked after by the other parent
- You cannot reach an agreement with the other parent
- You fear for the general wellbeing of your child
This is a last resort, as legal battles can be lengthy, stressful and put further strain on the whole family, including your child.
Since your son is over 16 and no longer in full time education, child maintenance should typically stop. The fact that your ex may still be claiming child benefit suggests there might be a discrepancy in what's been reported to the authorities.
I'd recommend formally appealing the CMS decision in writing, including copies of all your evidence. Consider contacting your MP's office too, as they can sometimes help when government departments aren't responding appropriately. A family law solicitor could also advise on next steps if the appeals process doesn't work.
Keep documenting everything and don't give up. You're right that this needs sorting out properly.
I then contacted HMRC to explain that my ex is still obviously claiming child benefit.
They said they will investigate but still I am being made to pay child maintenance.
I have a good relationship with my son (who is now 17 years and 8 months old) so I know he is not in full time education.
What can I do now? I am 65 years old and trying to save for my retirement.
My son wants for nothing, but its unfair my cms payments continue.
Thank you in advance for any advice, as neither of these government departments seem to care about my situation.
To which I am concerned about her poor attendance and this affecting her education.
There is a court order in place where I have my daughter every other weekend.
Now I am looking for advice as to if I should take this back to court as I don’t have contact myself with her mother it is all through my brother in law. And asking the courts for my daughter to live with me full time. (Or just during term time and with her mother during school holidays) so I can ensure that she is going to school and getting the education she needs. And if the school would be able to support my application also.
Thank you.
any advice welcomed...
Do these rights to knowing your child's education for a non-resident parent apply to further education, too?
I've been trying to find out what exact course and level my 19-year old daughter is doing and all I've come across so far is brick walls. The College that I 100% knew she was at until late June 2021 have ignored all my letters and emails so far....
I have parental responsibility and am in contact with her school.
My question is this: Can the school notify my daughters mum I’ve done this? Or is it in breach of privacy laws?
Father 8 year old son
Mum is now
Home
Scooping but I’m not convinced he is getting a good education from her and I’m really worried
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Hopeless
Thank you.
Do you happen to have a template of the letter you sent to all the schools with in the catchment area requesting to find out wether your children are attending there school or not as if honest I need as much help as possible and want to make sure I put everything I need to in the letter? Any help would be much appreciated
I have parental responsibility and a court order and I have contact with my son every other weekend. He is 5yrs old.
For quite some time now my son has been mentioning another person/partner living with them. He speaks freely around us and is never questioned or 'shushed'. Sometimes he suddenly stops talking like he's been told not to say anything.
I have asked my ex if there is another person living with them or of our son is regularly left with another person. She told me no but even if there was it is not my business.
Is she right? Do I have a right to know who our child is left with while she is at work and who is living at their address and around our child?
Kind regards,
Singh.
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My daughter is 3 and loves the idea of foing to nursery but the mum wont allow it, can I have any say in this?
I'm on the birth certificate and I'm hoping to mediate very soon, potentially court if it goes that far.
Can she refuse me from having him?
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Do I have any choice over his secondary school if she just goes ahead with what she wants and doesn’t have a conversation with me about it at all?
How could he find out which medical practice his lg is registered at in case of emergencies whilst she is with us? Mum is refusing to share the gp practice information with my partner as she doesn't feel he needs to know any of this information.
Thank for any advice.
Regards
Jason
Many thanks
School attendance officers have been in touch with us as his attendance is a major cause for concern.
Can my partner be fined for the non-attendance when his child doesnt live with him and we have been refused contact for the past 12 months?
Or speaking to me about it. She removed my name as a emergency contact and placed my son.
She wont switch it to me the school wont talk to me because they were told i was dead.
What can i do to be more informed on my daughter welm being
As I am on the birth certificate and have parental responsibility, I am deeply upset with this as I found out the day after they returned.
I am miffed that the school didn’t even ask if I was happy with this.
What rights do I have, and has the law been broken?
I've found out my children and ex habe moved to a new house but won't give me the new address but I should know where my children live. The social worker said its up to him. Do I have to go to court to see my children and will the judge make them See Me?
After 1 month he was struck by a vehicle as a pededtrian.... hospitalized with luckily minor to medium injuries but otherwise fine.
My ex did not contact me! No one did!!
I found out from numerous messages and phone calls starting at 11am of people asking me if he was ok... and i just kept saying everything was fine.. i got home from work at 8pm and found out over Facebook.
I was upset.... and thats putting it lightly.
I was not allowed to talk to him or see him.
6 months pass by and they are of course sueing the older lady or insurance company but they are keeping all details from me.
They meaning the parent and child do not want me involved. They now have gone for full parenting time and guardianship of said child with a clause stating the child will only contac me by his choice......
I haven't worked in 6 months due to this mess and stress!!!!
By the way im from Canada
What are my right on this matter
I am willing for my ex to see our son after i see a letter from the doctor but they are not willing to provide one at all its been since February that my ex havent had contact they message for the first two months but last months havent message had no conact at all off my ex not even asking how our son is at all.
As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
I've just asked my ex-wife, who is the main carer for our four children (ages 15-8) for my children's original Birth Certificates and Passports. I've told her I will return them within a week. I need these to prove my status as their father going forward.
All of these documents were obtained while we were married. It's possible that their passports have been recently renewed as this is due every 5 years.
We've been divorced for just over two years.
She's asked for evidence of why I need them or 'someone to speak to' to establish that this is a 'legitimate request', whatever that means.
My understanding is that with full parental responsibility, I'm entitled to these documents on request and I don't necessarily need to provide such proof.
Besides the council may or may not issue a letter stating why I need to prove this and even if they do, would such disclosure not be a violation of my privacy?
I would appreciate help and clarity on what my legal rights are and how best to approach this assuming she remains intransigent.
Thanks in advance.
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She didn’t tell me my daughter was in hospital,
Is there a way I can be notified if my daughter gets admitted to hospital
My Kids are living with their mum, we r in the court regarding contact etc. Court has ordered a Child Welfare Report. Any suggestion on how to deal with Bar Reporter. I mean how to avoid common mistakes and traps. And how to a positive impression on Bar Reporter and present myself strongly.
He doesn't usually pick up his phone if and when I contact him unless it's pick up or drop off. I feel very uncomfortable of not knowing where my child is, especially when she is staying overnight elsewhere apart from his home.
Has he got a legal obligation to provide me with the whereabouts of our child's locations and contact details? I would provide him the same should he request it.
From work slept over at his mothers and then coincidentally down the line she’s had a baby and here we are . So I’m in the house with the children and he lives at his mums / her mums . My children have had anxiety issues , not wanting to stay , crying to come home that has gone on for weeks. I understand it’s difficult for them as I hve the house but he made the choice to have a child in that situation . Her mother has gone away now for 6 months which is great as they have privacy and a routine . But they now want my children to sleep in her mothers bed ( obv her family has nothing to do with my children ) in a home they have Been too once for 5 mins . It’s taken me 2 years to finally get him to stay with his dad at his nanas , a home he’s known since birth and went to all the time . I have said it would be fair to do alternate weekends and cut the overnight mid week stay to tea at his nanas. However last night he took them to this house , even though I said no , which is a good 30 Min drive from school ( I live 2 mins walking distance from school ) do I have any rights to stop this happening again ? I don’t even know where they were in case of an ememergency . I find it really selfish he isn’t thinking of the children or putting their needs first here . He is refusing to do tea rather than an overnight stay which would be easier for everyone involved .
My question is...
Officially my daughter lives with me (The Father), but I share parental responsibilities with my ex, today her School arranged a meeting for my daughter with a educational Therapist after school hours (4pm) and took her from afterschool care which is on site, to this meeting, my ex was notified 30mins before the meeting, while the school never contacted me of any meeting, date or time.. (My ex called me as soon as she was told as our communication is good).
Im just wondering if the school has done something illegal? or do they have the right to arrange and hold a meeting without my knowledge?
thanks in advance.
Thanks in advance for any advice
My partner's
son has just been 'withdrawn' from school for failing his mock A levels. The school never told my partner and it was a big shock as the last school report he got said the child was 'doing well.' Every year my partner contacts the school to tell the current form tutor of the family dynamics (he doesn't communicate with his ex ) and to please stay in touch with reports and anything he should know. This year as before the tutor gave his assurance that he would. This year he also explained that his ex took away the child's phone which my partner communicated with him on . After hearing whispers that the child had been 'kicked out' he wrote to the school who confirmed it had happened two weeks previously . He wrote an official letter of complaint and the school replied that they didn't have to communicate with both parents - only the 'priority' one - the child's mother whom the child lives with. They also said they had been communicating with the mother about the child's deteriorating grades all term - again we knew nothing of this . This seems all wrong - morally. The tone of the letter was in no way sorry for not communicating as promised . Is what they've done illegal ?
Hi all, My ex wife is refusing to tell me which school my child will be moving to (she is moving up due to age) I have contacted her current school, who instead of telling me, sent my message to my ex, and have replied to me saying they cannot comment as the ex doesn't want me to know!
I have parental responsibility and thought I had the right to know where she will be going?
Also, can the school contact my ex each time I contact them?
Can't find any legislation to back this up.
Thanks in advance
After being separated from my partner 2 years ago I have been to court constantly. Not because I had never stuck to any arrangements but because they were constantly wanting to change things all the time. I has to attend alone and I fought hard alone even though he has a solicitor and a barrister present and I actually got what I wanted which was to spend a Saturday every week with my 2 girls aged 5 and 2.I had previously had to not see them all weekends for almost 2 years .
However a month ago he and his parents decided to put my eldest into Rainbows club on a Wednesday night when she stops over with himself and is parents.He did not consult me. The big problem is that they do lots of activities on Saturdays and some evenings when they are with me and it is causing a lot of upset.You are expected to get them to the locations and I have no transport. Some of them are remote areas and I dont want to spend all day travelling with a 2 year old in tow for them to only spend 2 hours there.
There have been 2 Saturdays already and I have refused to take her on one because of the distance. They have a lot more Saturday all day events coming up and I dont want to do it. We were having so much fun going out together .I fought really hard to get this day to spend with my girls .I have on occasion asked him to swap and I will have them all day on Sunday instead and he can have them on the Saturday and take her in the car but he said no .
I dont know what to do. I would have thought he would need my permission to get her into Rainbows but I am not sure.Can anyone offer me advice
I am an absent parent with parental responsibility & it is important to myself to be treated the same as my sons mother & all other parents.
The letters will as usual go home with the children on the day but I will have to access the school website to view them going forward.
Can you tell me if this is legally accurate as I feel I am being treated differently to my sons mother & all other parents at the school by having to do this possibly every day or so.
The school do not seem happy to as I see it treat myself the same as my sons mother or all other parents & going forward the response from the school to my concerns is one of ' a complainer' & they are not very receptive to myself wanting to be involved as much as possible with everything involved with school.
Please can you advise on the above & give me any advice on this going forward.
Thank you
What can we do???
Kx
I have a shared care agreement with my little one who is 3.
I have real concerns about her mothers obsession with her health and wonder if there is anything I can do. She is constantly making doctor appointments for my little one for every little cough, colds, headaches etc, she has also taken her to a&e on a couple occasions recently for chicken pox and an ear infection. Whilst I don't think she is a bad mother I'm really concerned the impact this is having on my little one as my little one is starting to play up to it and thinks she is ill the majority of the time. The hospital and doctors have no concerns of my little ones health and my ex is purely being over protective and paranoid. I feel a lot of this is due to my ex's insecurities. I've tried talking to her directly but she can't see where I'm coming from. I feel helpless and wondered if anyone has any advice on the best way forward.
Me and my ex split before our little one was born (he's now 6 months old). We got on very well for the first few months and I was kept informed about things happening like his HV appointments, when he was due jabs etc and I've never given her a reason for anything to change. However the last few months she been nothing but unreasonable and doesn't give me any information at all regarding my son and gets her parents to drop him off on the days arranged. She lived/lives with her parents but has told me that she's moved out of her parents house in the last month, however she refuses to tell me where she is living. Her parents still drop my little one off to me but my ex's father has told me she still lives at home with them and her mother says she's moved out. Do I have a legal right to know where my son is living? I do have PR and I'm on the birth certificate.
Until the powers of leverage over children empowered to a mother in the majority of cases are completely pulled apart - then Dads who divorce from maligned mothers are at their absolute mercy !!
That has been my situation for the last nearly 20 years - I have no contact whatsoever with either of my two older children simply because the way in which the process of law is staged acts a firewall between my rights versus hers.
Further the politically preconceived ideologies of influential court workers as well as the vestige of interests of legal "actors" further disrupt the abilities of any non-resident parent to achieve legal parity or support.
I had a "perfect" contact order which I had to fight tooth and nail for - yet this was over a short time disemboweled by my ex through brainwashing the children while they were still very young and the only way to seek any recourse would be to destroy mine and my children's lives entirely by "playing" the court's system.
This would serve to benefit no-one but the incalculably greedy law firms who themselves hate dealing with the child contact side of matters (it's messy, unrewarding and less lucrative than resolving the tangible matters of ancillary relief) - This they make penalisingly plain in the way they deal with anyone seeking to maintain such ongoing arrangements against a discrepant mother.
In my opinion, the Courts, on formulating ancillary and contact orders ought to be periodically checking with the respective parties beneficiary to those orders that they are getting what they should in terms of financial arrangements and contact arrangements respectively in order to ensure that matters are progressing properly and if not then why not ?
By doing so this could prevent massively damaging effects on families who end up fighting through courts on ongoing bases as well as saving huge wastage of court time.
The problem that arises is that both orders are treated very differently.
If the tangible financial order is not maintained then this is considered a criminal offence and is punishable by fines and/or imprisonment.
However, the witholding and abating of contact arrangements being intangible are haphazardly subjective and open to huge amounts of corruption by errant mothers - yet there are no criminal penalties whatsoever.
Just a single high-profile example of a suspended sentence or a night in jail prescribed against a worst offender would overnight halt swathes of mothers who might have intended to play such tactics - being advised by their legal representatives to think twice or risk a criminal blight to their name !
Until this situation is totally overturned then nothing will alter and my damning first sentence statement will prevail.
My suspicions are that both huge vested interests politically, financially as well as professionally (posturing) will prevent this ever happening.
My son fell at school and was taken to hospital for suspected broken arm.
I was informed by the school and was not told by his dad. It was only when I rang my son later that evening when I found out . His dad said to me he doesn't need to tell me nothing and told me to stop calling him ..what can do ? Even though doesn't live with me ??
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My ex has no parental rights, my child was born in 2002 and his father and myself never married. His fathers name is down on his birth certificate, but it ends there.
As I've stated to the headmaster of our child's school, I have no objection to my ex being given an end of year report showing my child's achievements/areas needing improvement, attendance and whatever else. What I object to is the school keeping my ex contact number in the system, which results in him being sent the same weekly text messages as I do regarding absences, homework, dinner money, money and school trips, and all the little bits past back and forth in between.
The headmaster now claims that my ex is untitled to this, and continues to go against my wishes. I don't agree, and as stated above 'my ex has no parental rights'. The headmaster or any of the staff at the school have a clue who my ex is, he has not once been to the school or met the headmaster or any staff. Yet they continue to give him information over the phone and via text message and email, without even asking for proof that he is in fact the father to one of their students.
Are they within their right to do so?
I also would prefer him not to board again. Apart from that he's quite happy at the school.
Can I do anything to veto their decision?
I have a court order for alternate weekends, half holidays, up to two midweek teatime(after school) contacts every week and "any additional contact the parents agree themselves"
Ex wife refuses to agree any additional contact, e.g I am to provide teatime dates a month ahead but when I get a new schedule, there are always a couple of dates that are about three weeks ahead and not a month. I ask ex if we can agree to the dates as "additional contact" if there are no prior arrangements for child - ex flat out refuses even if the child is coming to me later that day for start of weekend contact.
Ex refuses after school contact on Fridays preceding weekend contact because ex has fabricated a statement that the order won't allow teatime contact before weekend contact!.
I have asked that we discuss suitable times for midweek telephone contact as a substitute for when teatime contact has been refused by ex or I don't have a day off for teatime contact. Ex never answered.
Ex at one point enrolled child in 3 after school clubs, and prioritied club over contact - so was refusing contact dates for that reason. Given that child was attending club 12 times a month and was having midweek teatime contact 4x a month if lucky, I would think that on the rare occasion contact and club clashed, contact would take priority.
By the way - ex has blocked my email address and forces me to contact new partner regarding child and claims my requests to agree additional contact and asking about child's doctors appointment, asking what infection has etc is harassment.. I could understand if I was emailing and texting several times a day every day but surely periodic correspondence between parents about our child's contact, school and doctor isn't harassment?? Am now in direct contact with child's school and doctor to receive information. Ex discusses child with my parents rather than discuss with me despite my requests we discuss child with each other - my parents would rather not speak to ex.
Ex has got new partner to interfere in child's relationship with me and the partner has threatened that unless I arrange contact through him, there will be no contact arrangements made. New partner also made verbal threat to my safety and this was reported to police.
Am I right to take ex to court? Am considering applying to switch residence as last resort to allow child to have strong relationships with both parents, not just one. Alternatively I will ask to be allowed to provide fortnight/3 weeks notice of teatime contact dates and ask for the order to specify what is expected from the resident parent in terms of supporting child's relationship with me, promoting contact. Obviously for the child I would rather not uproot again (ex has moved with child three times in three years) and would much prefer status quo for child and for ex to work with me to make arrangements that benefit our child, but honestly believe switching residence is in child's best interest lon
Child is autistic, aspergers, and has many issues.
The ex wife is running along lines of parental alienation and has been for years, not thst we'll ever prove it.
Over the last year, his daughter has been talking to him daily, albeit short conversations. She told him on various occasions she wants to live with us and my children.
Her mother has since gone beserk, and now refusing her to see her dad.
My husband is also aspergers, so is finding it difficult to comprehend.
The ex has said she will not allow him to have access or speak to his daughter, and has taken her mobile and messaging access away. Shes 18 in Feb, and has mental age of 7 year old.
Where can we go from here please.
Me and my childs mum are going through it at the moment and I'm actually going through court but in the mean-time I normally have my son for 2 days during the week. On this occasion i messaged my childs mum on Monday (26/09/16) to arrange to collect my son the next day as I'm off on Tues and weds this week and she replied back saying i can't have my son this week because she is in hospital and he is in the care of someone who lives outside of south London bare in mind i live a 15mins drive from each other and we both live in southeast London.
If I didn't message her I wouldn't of found out that she was in hospital and she wouldn't tell me how long she's in for and what she's in for and she wouldn't tell me where my son is.
I'm on the birth certificate and i know i have parental responsibility so any advice? what steps can i make because i was thinking of calling the authorities... my son is 18months
please help.
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Am just wondering if anyone can help me? Split from my partner about a year ago and because of he reasons for the split he doesn't know my address. Does this mean that he won't be able to take me to court? There is no point of contact ie phone, email etc.
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Can the father be made to pay for the school fees, or at least be made to contribute? My daughters solicitors do not seem to be pushing this and I think they need to be a lot stronger.
Any comments or advice would really be appreciated.
My kids mum and I split 10 years ago it wasn't the most healthy break up in the world, we was both cheating on each other and she eventually moved to Blackpool with the guy she had met online with the kids. I wasn't in the best frame of mind and suffered depression for years because of this. They split something like 3 years ago but has continued to live there as she has another son with him.
I pay maintenance and when I can I buy them stuff when I can and going to visit often costs a small fortune in travel hotels and doing stuff with them.
However, I get no help when it comes to obtaining how they are doing. I constantly see pictures of them on facebook despite me begging her to send me pictures first hand. She has had several boyfriends in the last few years, and imagine how I feel when he gets a mug for fathers day and tags them in on facebook, and wheres my present?!?!?!
Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to do a sob story but it really hurts me. Bottom line is how can I get more involved in how they are doing legally since the ex has no interest in helping me
My youngest son has only just started to see his dad 3 hours every 8 weeks after a year of no contact a decision he made after being hurt so much by his father and family mediation.My eldest still has no contact with his father.His father hadnt really bothered with them since finding a new partner.
I have always kept him informed hospital app,schools parents evenings,holidays we are going on if any even in this country.
My son was due to receive an award at school and ask for his dad not to go as he had done nothing towards his learning in years and my eldest also refused to go if dad was going.
I contacted the school to ask if dad had been invited and explained my situation.They said that he hadnt been contacted and would pass my message on to my sons teacher.I received a call the next day to say his teacher had now contacted dad by phone and dad was happy to go.I wasnt happy and neither were my sons ,his first ever award and he was now in tears.
I phoned the school and his teacher explained dad had asked to be kept informed about our sons school work etc now.I said Im glad he was finally interested and had always kept him informed but explained about calling the day before and my sons request.She said she had not been informed of the call and phoned dad again and he agreed not to go.
Everyone was happy.I had messaged my Ex and told him I would record the event for him and sent it straight after.My son was also now looking forward to his presentation and my eldest agreed to watch his brother.
When my son came out of school he was very upset telling me his teacher had invited his dad as a "special guest" to the afternoon assembly and presented the award to my son again without me knowing.Can they do that ? My son now thinks I lied to him and thinks I knew dad was going.
He and his daughter who he raised from a baby are very close. His ex is very unstable but was listed next to kin. We cannot even get information on the phone from the hospital because she has blocked everyone. Is there anything we can do?
She let him see her the first day but the next day blocked everyone. His daughter is not concious.
There are no public records that I can access to obtain an address.
I thought the Court would have means to progress this.
Any ideas?
In the meantime am I able to collect my Son from School? I am on the Birth Certificate so want to know if I have the same right as his Mother to collect and take him from School.
Aby help would be much appreciated!!
i have 2 boys with my ex partner ages 4 and 7, we split back in 2012 as it wasn't a healthy relationship.
i had to take my ex to mediation 3 times to allow me access to the children, which finally worked.
i finally have set hours and days to see my kids which is great after fighting for so long.
the problem being on set my days she has booked extra activities for them without asking me first, i would never have objected but it seems like she is going out the way to book things on my time.
also she casually mentioned that my oldest has been doing Judo for the past month now? Did she need joint permission to enter him into a physical sport?
and finally i have asked for their swimming things when i collect them but she is refusing saying that i can not take them as i wont be able to look after them in the pool?
it all seems rather petty, i try to be civil but its not easy
any advise on the, non informing, swimming and judo from anyone would be great thank you
The child is aged eleven. They dwell with the paternal mother but I have equally granted parental rights both on birth certificate and confirmed by the courts. My child recently disclosed they had been abused again and this was turned back against the child by the alleged abusers. This as often been the case. The child faced criminal charges for assault on them. The recorded information was given in part by the Social Service but ideally I need to see the whole report before the next child protection conference takes place. Do I have the rights as the paternal father to see the full record and or copy of the record of this incidence. in order to be able to help in the protection of my chid please.
His 13yr old does not attend school and has not for 2yrs other than two legal sessions of 90mins a week in the school library. The boy has not clinical diagnosis at the moment other than been treated for depression and anxiety so on medication - he is 15stone so seriously over weight! His son has refused to attend any meeting if his dad is there, so dad has been asked not to attend but they are failing to keep him updated, both the school and medical bods are saying Josh has instructed them not to share information with his dad - Can he do this at the age of 13 or should dad challenge this?
Also does it affect me living in Scotland with the Education Act 1996?
Thank you in advance
He just send them to visit his family in the same country as where she is but is restricting her from seeing her kids and also says she can see them only under supervision. No court order has been made out against her stating he’s allowed to restrict her from her girls. What can she do?
I assume that a assessment has already taken place by the social services under section 47, but I am angry I wasn't informed of any issued at my childerns home concerning their other half sibling (the one that is not paternally mine). Should I of been informed of any such meetings and assessmentsee before receiving this letter asking me to this meeting? I have no contact whatsoever with my ex (her choice as being awkward) I am slightly concerned what this is all about ad in the letter it mentions people attending relating to domestic abuse and other abuse ( the only abuse at the time was to me!!! Police were called twice) anyway have they done the wrong thing by NOT informing me of the situation. ?
A quick reply would be great as have meeting on the 15th July. Many thanks
Is this possible? I am a Catholic and our first child was baptized as such, but my ex isnt religious at all. Can she as a non Catholic have the child baptized without my knowledge/ consent?
Important to note that I have Parental responsibility for both of my children
Any information would be really appreciated
Thanks a lot
Our children are 16 and 21. She will not tell me where they live. I don't intend to go there, I just want to send a card to my son. Can she withhold the address?
On another subject is she allowed to christen him without my knowledge or go ahead without me even if I disagreed despite me being on his birth certificate ? I have him every other weekend but I feel he should have more access with myself and my other son and my side of the family but she constantly tries to prevent that for financial reasons despite never admitting that.
It was in the very early stages of a new relationship and she fell pregnant, we were both incredibly happy and everything was going well. We were starting to talk about the future and what we both wanted not necessarily as a couple, although it wasn't out of the question we would make a real go of it, but we both agreed we both had to be there for our child.
Skip forward, and as the weeks passed I was starting to be ignored more and more and soon I was battling to even get acknowledged. Of course I was getting worried and more desperate to know what was going on, until out of the blue I get an email of all things.This email was basically a cold and incredibly patronising and calculated load of bull, telling me that I couldn't possibly be the father of the baby as she claimed to have slept with someone else a few days before I believed she had conceived. She claimed that she had worked it out with a "professional" and the due date was now in fact a week later than we had worked out together.
Now not only did that make no sense, how could she have conceived earlier than I thought and yet the due date be later!? but also this was "worked out" before the dating scan! Basically a lie of the worst possible kind and no matter what I tried to do or say I was totally cut out.
To say I was devastated doesn't come close, I was in pieces and have been ever since.
Now, the due date I believed it to be was the 8th January, as in 2 weeks ago, and a few days before the 8th I made contact with her face to face with both of her parents there as well. Basically her mother confirmed that she knew I had been lied to and that the due date was in fact the 8th and not the date she had tried to change it to.
Her father when I asked him whether he could see how wrong and disgusting it was simply replied "she has told us she wants to do it alone and be on her own", she meanwhile couldn't even look me in the eye and shrugged her shoulders when I begged her to tell me why she was doing it. Her mother told me it was a little girl, I didn't even know that, but none of them would tell me of any names they were planning on. Her mother swore to me that as soon as anything was happening she would contact me straight away, obviously another lie.
I had already started the ball rolling before I had spoken to them and submitted "Declaration of Parentage" forms to the courts, supplying the proof of why I had the legal right to do so.
The baby has obviously now been born, I have no information, her name, her birthday, even that she was born safely. The directions hearing at the court isn't for another 4 weeks, another 4 weeks until I even have the opportunity to find out anything about my daughter.
Is there any way I can force this through quicker?
I can't believe just because a woman wants to claim a baby as a object and have it to herself as a possession that I have no way of being told anything, let alone being able to see a
Thanks for your help, I don't know what to do next.
My son is on the birth certificate. What rights does he have about sharing custody. And do we as grandparents have any rights? We have had the baby for the day a few times but now she refuses to allow my son to bring him to our house?
My current partners ex is forcing him to sleep at their old family home when he wants to have his daughter over night. We have been together over a year and she is still not budging she feels it is better for their daughter. Can anyone tell me if as a mother she has any rights to do so?
Thank you
Without going into all the details, a judge rented my contact order to see my son, even though there is not one single police, doctors or any other single nit of evidence that I have ever harmed my wife or son.
I have an indirect contact order for agreeing to make no further applications to the court for 3 years and the ex-wife is not even holding to that.
I have been told that although this judges decision is beyond belief in my appreciation I have been told that this judgement can never be overturned or challenged.
What kind of world do we live in that a judge can make such an irresponsible decision without a single bit of evidence?
He would not let my McKenzie friend speak for me even though I was so emotionally challenged in this situation and the he referred to me being aggressive towards her living supposed witnesses.
Any advice is welcome as my son is at risk and I don't even know where he is.
who have been talking to the children when I ask my ex about it she dies it down and makes out its not that bad. Obviously im terribly worried does any body out there no where I stand and have I got rights to phone social services myself and will they tell me exactly whats going on or will they ask my expartner for permission before telling me because obviously that will just cause more trouble, please get back to me anyone who might no some usefull information I could use. Thanx
I have a specific court order detailing dates and times for access and ensuring weekly telephone contact with my little one.
The ex - who suffers from a personality disorder (identified by a court appointed psychiatrist) - is making all sorts of excuses to not maintain the telephone contact and keeps wanting to change the access dates / arranging parties on my days.
What can I do - as it looks like I'm going to have to go back to court again - some 2 years of this already!
I suffered from anxiety due to abuse in the relationship but have undergone counselling to help me back to the old me - I'm getting there but each breach of the order heightens it again - I think this may well be her aim!
It's just lie after lie to the police (currently being tried in court for harassment) and to the judge - really think I might have to take it to the appeal court as they completely ignored her email admission of domestic violence in the courts first time around.
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I want residency as I don't believe my son is having much of a life with a mother who clearly does not care about him, but obviously I need a good case to get it now she has him. He is now 30 months old. What can i do?
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