Divorce and Separation: The Law in Scotland

Divorce and Separation: The Law in Scotland

The legal processes for divorce, civil partnerships and separation is different in Scotland from that of England and Wales. Here is a basic guide to Scottish family law.

Separation for Unmarried Couples

There is no legal process for ending a relationship for unmarried couples. If, however, you are unable to reach an agreement with regards to Child Contact Arrangements, the division of joint assets etc., you may be able to ask the courts for help.

Ending Your Marriage

In order to be able to end your marriage, you must ask the court to grant you a divorce. This can only be done on the grounds that the marriage has irretrievably broken down. The only other ground for divorce is if one party is beginning a sex-change and obtained a gender recognition certificate to be able to change from the sex registered at birth.

Grounds to Establish Irretrievable Breakdown of a Marriage

There are four ways to establish that your marriage has irretrievably broken down in the eyes of the Scottish courts. These are:

  • Unreasonable behaviour, such as domestic abuse, or other unreasonable behaviour. This is a broad ground and is the most commonly used in divorce proceedings
  • Adultery
  • Living apart for one or more years, if you both agree to a divorce
  • Living apart for two or more years, if one party does not want to divorce

Procedure

There are two ways to obtain a divorce in Scotland. The first way is known as the Do-It-Yourself procedure. This applies where you have been living apart, where neither party requires the court to make any financial provision, and where there are no children under the age of 16. This is the simplified procedure.

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This procedure is summoned by filling out the prescribed forms, which can either be found on the court website for Scotland or from the local Sheriff Court. These must be submitted with the appropriate fee and an affidavit, which details your circumstances and the reasons for wanting a divorce. It should take approximately two months for you to hear whether your application was successful.

The second procedure is the more general procedure, where divorce matters are more complex. You will have to use this procedure if you have young children. In this case, it is necessary to issue a Writ for Divorce, usually in your local Sheriff Court. It is possible to do this without legal representation. It is important to consider getting legal help, especially if property and finance are involved.

Decree of Divorce

At the end of the process, you will be granted a Decree of Divorce. You will only be granted one if the court is satisfied that there is a plan to divide assets and that any children under 16 have plans for custody. You must prove that these plans are in place. The court can make various orders including interim care orders and decrees regarding the care of and residence of children.

The law in Scotland focuses on the same “clean break” principles as English Law. This means that, where possible, the court will try to prevent one party from having to pay a long-term entitlement to the other. Any marital assets will normally be divided fairly equally, unless this would create financial hardship for one party in favour of the other. This does not apply to the provision for children, which is detailed using current child support laws. Short-term provision can be made where you or your ex needs a transition to supporting yourself independently.

Civil Partnership

In Scotland, ending a Civil Partnership is very similar to ending a marriage and the same basic procedures apply. Again, if you and your partner share Parental Responsibility for your child, then the court must be satisfied that appropriate care arrangements are in place before a Decree of Dissolution will be granted.

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C.laurie 3 Nov 2019
@col.so it’s all up to my (daughter )now if she ever wants to meet me and to get to no her real dad .i guess time will tell if we ever get no each other .the ball is in my daughter court now .
C.laurie 2 Nov 2019
@col.(i don’t ever want contact with the child’s mother or any off her partners not even phone calls )i only want to deal with the child (directly )and if she doesn’t want any contact with me or reach out to me Though social media .i understand and wish her well in life .
C.laurie 2 Nov 2019
@col.i think with my situation I am in and the previous (trouble and drama) I was in .I made the right decision.there is a (window) for my daughter if she ever wants to get in contact and meet her (old men )I am on (social media) so it’s pretty (easy )for her and I think the best option because I don’t want any (contact) with her mother .and only want to deal with my daughter and at her age now it is possible.so I will just wait for my daughter .
C.laurie 2 Nov 2019
@col.for what it’s worth my door is always( open) for my daughter but it’s up to her now if wants to (see me ).i am on (social media now )so she can (reach out) to me if she wants it’s not like old days anymore with the technology around these days she can get hold off me if she is wants plus she is a teenager now and us her own mind .i found peace with it .
C.laurie 2 Nov 2019
@col.i was never (married) I do have a child and when I was with the child’s mother she was seeing (heaps) off other guys .i got myself in a lot off( trouble) back then and (again )a few years ago had to face (court ).i have (officially giving up on trying to see my daughter )for my health I went though (depression anxiety court) it was to much for me I am to old for this stress .so I am officially giving up her mother is to controlling (manipulative )cruel and a mean person and not someone I want to be associated with or have any drama with .i think it’s best she go with one off her other many guys .
Col 2 Nov 2019
I have been married for 15 years and a father for 12 in Scotland. My wife broke up our family by starting an affair with a married man and moved out of the family home with our 2 children 3 years ago. I have been surprised to find out that as the primary care giver for the kids, my wife has strong legal incentives for her actions. Having always been a hands on dad I have adjusted my work to allow a shared arrangement. As she doesn’t want me to have them during the school week, despite living within walkable distance, she can keep them. The outcomes of child welfare hearings are dependent on the sheriff on the day. In my circumstance I had a fairly progressive sheriff who was clearly in favour of both parents having access in the week and granted some positive movement. The second time I had a notoriously old fashioned sheriff, known for giving fathers every second weekend only. Mothers like my wife want to have the kids to attract child maintenance, alimony and enough cash from a settlement (there is a case for fair share to mean greater than 50%) to buy a house outright so she doesn’t need to work. I lose my wife, my kids, my house. I have to pay for the privilege despite keeping my marriage vows throughout and playing no part in the separation. My kids lose the active involvement of a parent albeit retain a dad for some weekends and occasional holidays. My wife and her new partner have the power to manipulate the kids. She has a lot of power to exercise a steady stream of malevolence, using the children as pawns which she does legally with the backing of the law. As primary care givers are most often mothers, this is a clear case of gender discrimination. I realise Scotland is thought of as being ahead of England regarding no fault divorces, making acrimony-light separations more likely, which is certainly better for all involved, especially children. Unfortunately it runs contrary to marriage vows and leaves a potential innocent spouse who is also the larger earner in an extremely vulnerable position. The chief earner is often (certainly not always) the male so this is also gender discrimination. My suggestion is that the law is less loose regarding child welfare in acrimonious divorces. There should be a starting point of assumed equal custody should either parent wish it, assuming homes are within easy travel distance and neither parent is deemed incompetent or a danger. A weight on the views of the child incentivises one or both parent to attempt manipulation which (and I have certainly witnessed in my situation) causes childhood distress and anxiety. I therefore suggest that giving children this right, perhaps counterintuitively, is often too much for them, and courts should avoid involving them as much as possible.
dani 24 Aug 2019
hey, me and my ex is seperate nearly 14th months. we are both living in scotland. tried to contact him for divorce but she is not interested. my question is if i buy new property or business can she claim. Am not using my own money. my family & friends want to support me. whats the best way i can secure myself to buy property or business?
Timba 5 Aug 2019
Hi , I’m separated from my wife , have a great relationship with my kids but recently they’ve become upset and feel awkward about their mum and her friend bad mouthing me in front of them being inappropriate with homophobic comments towards my son and generally enjoying dad bashing . Her friend is also separated from her husband and encouraging my kids to dislike fathers . Legally can I stop this ? Thanks
Eltel 23 Jul 2019
So sorry, I’ve just realised that’s this is a dads forum not a general one as I thought! Apologies. But for what it’s worth I think any women that prevents a father seeing their children are scum (unless of course abuse of any kind has been involved). A women has no more rights over a child than their father and kids need both parents. Sorry again for posting on here!
Eltel 23 Jul 2019
Hi, I wondered if anyone could help with some questions. Me and my husband were married in New York - does that make a difference in terms of divorce? Secondly, I remortgaged my own property to pay for an extension to my husband’s property (which I’ve since found out is actually in the name of his brother and wife). It was a substantial amount of money (not far off £100k!) - is there any way I can get that back because the value of his property will be far more than it was before I paid for a huge extension! Thanks in advance to anyone that give me some advice.
Dave 23 Feb 2019
I'm going through a divorce and renting just now. I have a child under age of 25 and in FTE. She works part time and circa £500 per month and is living in the marital home.Also gets a saas loan for uni. I have an informal agreement to pay her x amount per month. However, I understand that if her earnings outweigh her spending needs, then no financial support is needed. Am i liable for food, energy bills or should this be paid partly by my daughter in the form of " dig money" to my ex?
Ben 4 Feb 2019
@sandmac.i have finally reached the point now where it is what is now hey I am happy I come to terms with who I am .i not beating myself up over anything now just going to keep do me I expressed and proceeded my myself mentally now I am done with this (stuff about rights) .truth is I couldn’t care less about her daughter or think off anything worse then looking after a teenager gods truth .if they want to call me Timmy we’ll go right ahead .
Ben 3 Feb 2019
@sandmac.you what the best thing is she knows I am a poor men with autistic traits that lives in a pub room and she does have a conscience a moral compass and said she doesn’t want child support because I am sorry to break this to you but I have been in a relationship with uncle for two years write under your nose and there was another as well the roofer named Jacob .so said (sweet )thanks for the pass you are not so evil after all .may your children grow well have a good life .
Sandymac 3 Feb 2019
My son wife is filing for divorce, they've been apart for over two years after her infidelity. She is saying he can't see his children at all because they are happier away from him, he has no cash for a lawyer, can he try for mediation or access. Any information would be appreciated thanks
Tasha 30 Dec 2018
I got married 14 years ago I have 3 boys under 16 one lives with me 2 older live with him I have had divorce papers drawn up twice we have been separated 8 years I can't afford to keep betting papers drawn up for him to not sign he loves to have power over me especially when it comes to the kids access he believes I shouldn't be working so I am available to take kids when he wants them at Xmas's and new years I have to fight for months to get my access as he knows it's the only way he can hurt me now I barely see my oldest now as he is 14 and his dad tells him he doesn't need me I just want to get an affordable divorce and see my children without having to fight and fight for access I now feel like I have no more fight in me I just want to end all of there is no money estates or anything I have a partner that I have been with for 5 years he has one that's been their for 5 years I have a daughter to my partner and he also has a partner to his but he just won't divorce me it's the only hold he has over me can someone help me or point me in the right direction please
Stefan 15 Nov 2018
I have been separated just over a year from my wife. We have a 9 yr old son and have a note of agreement in place which we both agreed to. What is the procedure now for applying for a divorce? What is normally the time scale? And the cost? Thank you
Bruce 4 Oct 2018
Is it a fundamental legal requirement to see a spouses pension assets before entering into a legally binding minute of aggreement as per the family act?.
jimbo 21 Aug 2018
i split with my ex girlfriend 3 years ago. i had to take her to court for more access for my daughter as she stopped me seeing her. i was aloud 4 hours a week and had to do exactly as i was told if i didn't, she said i had to get access through court which i did. i gained more access, i then attended mediation where we agreed to more contact 10 and a half hours a week, granted by the judge, i stupidly agreed to take it out of court thinking she would compromise but now its back to square one. she has reduced my hours because i have begged to have my daughter overnight which she refused i lost my temper as she is 4 now and i still haven't had her overnight. i have took her back to court now and looking for joint custody as i'm at my wits end with this women. what are my chances of getting joint custody or more contact. somebody please help me
Amarea 11 Jul 2018
My husband and I separated 6 years gone. We have a minute of agreement. He hasn’t seen our 2 boys for 5 and a half years (his choice) a liability order has been issued this week by the CSA. I am now liking to apply for divorce. Is there an estimate length of time for the issue of decree of divorce, my children are under 16 years of age.
SeparatedDads Editor 19 Jun 2018
You can go down the legal route if your ex refuses to attend mediation. If you have had regular contact to your child to date and your ex has changed the arrangement for no proven good reason, then it is likely the court will reinstate your overnight access. So, it is very much worth taking the matter to court. Hopefully, it won't come to that and your ex may reinstate access. A solicitor's letter outlining your rights may work in the first instance.
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