Please could you point me in the right direction. My ex-partner has stopped any form of contact with my 9-year-old daughter because I have gone through the CSA for maintenance. I was currently paying £200 per month but found the money was not being spent on my daughter.
The CSA have informed me that I should be paying £7.00 per week. I have offered £25 but been told by my ex that unless its £50 then don't bother. That was 2 weeks ago. We had agreed contact through a solicitor. She will not even allow contact on the phone. And sent me a text saying see you in court.
There are two separate issues involved here, both custody and maintenance, and together they mean you've been denied access to your daughter, which is a distressing situation. You don't state how the original maintenance figure of £200 a month was reached, but since contact had been arranged through a solicitor, maintenance might have been arranged the same way.
If your ex is preventing you from seeing your daughter despite agreed arrangements, you need immediate guidance from our free Access Denied Action Plan.
However, if the CMS told you that you only have to pay £7 a week, it would indicate you're making less than £100 per week, the CMS says that on incomes of that level, you pay £7 per week if your gross weekly income is less than £100 or if you receive certain benefits.
What you need to do is send your ex a registered letter asking her to reinstate contact and state that you'll have to take legal action if she doesn't comply. By the sound of it, this won't do the trick, but it's a necessary legal step. After that, you need to go to court and apply for an Interim Contact Order at a Directions Hearing, which allows you contact until a full hearing on the matter.
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Try our Father's Rights Checker free, here on this site →You'll obviously need to produce evidence from the CMS regarding maintenance at the hearing, and your solicitor will have to remind the court that the full hearing would probably be more than six months away, and a lack of contact would be detrimental to your daughter.
The bad news is that your ex might demand supervised contact – but it's better than none at all. However, if you had prior contact with your daughter, especially "staying contact" (meaning she stayed overnight with you), make sure the court is aware of that, and the circumstances in which everything changed. If previous contact arrangements had been made through the solicitor, you could ask for the enforcing of contact arrangements. Prior to the hearing, inform the court and opposing solicitor that you'll ask for interim contact and be introducing oral evidence.
That's in the short term. Before the final hearing Cafcass officials will interview you, your ex and your daughter regarding contact and custody, and you should produce evidence from the CMS about Recommended Maintenance, as well as a record of payments. If your ex continues to deny access laid down by the court, she could end up being sentenced to community service.
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My ex asked if she could not bring him down for the first term of school to give him time to settle in to his new environment. I agreed but went up to visit him during this time.
I then fell ill and was admitted into hospital and diagnosed with a life long condition which subsequently meant I was clinically extremely vulnerable and had to shield until I had both of my vaccines which I now have had. This meant I could not see him for nearly 6 months.
Now I have asked for him every other weekend I have been told he does not want to come down and that I could have him for half the holidays which will be 6 times per year. This was not what was agreed.
Is there anything I can do to ensure regular contact is restored?
This was not what was agreed and I signed the solicitors paper in good faith expecting to have regular contact with my son.
Is there anything I can do to enforce the agreement made? Any help would be appreciated as I am finding it very hard to deal with and want to resolve ASAP.
He seperated from he's children's mother a year ago but She was harassing us both until yesterday when the police had given her a harassment order.
In this time she has denied him access to he's children, he has parental rights as he is on the birth certificate for both children, but She still refuses access and has blocked all contact with them.
She isn't in the right state of mind as she's often threatened us both and to harm her Self with the children at home.
Her only concern is that my partner is not willing to go back to her. She hasnt been complying with social services if it isnt what she wants. She has been using the children as weapons to get to him.
She's booked a holiday for the children abroad aswell without he's permission. He has told her in writing she is not allowed to take them out of the country as he is worried for the welfare of he's children.
Please help us, how do we stop her from taking the children out of the country without he's permission, how can he get access to he's children?
I have a daughter age 13 who wants to see me we have contact via phone and text .
She doesn't want to ask mum to see me because of fear of upset and anger that she wants contact. But we have had secret meetings.
My question is
Is this ok in the eyes of the law.
I'm sure it will come out at some point.hopefully only when a financial settlement has been reached. .
I'm separated, pay 3k/mo child support, have joint custody. Have three kids: 12, 14, 17. They now live with mom in ireland. Kids were born and raised in Germany where I live. For two years I saw my kids regularly-with no issue-now I have a new g/f and my kids "refuse" to see me. With joint custody and maintenance established, do the children have a "right" NOT to see me. Or if there is an age at which they can choose not to see me. Many thanks.
I currently have two children with one partner who are just under 4 and 5 weeks.
I have always paid child maintenance since the split using the government calculator to work out the payment.
My partner has moved 17 miles away but see my children 2-3 times every week depending on my shifts. Due to the distance everything has become expensive as going for days out and meals there is adding up to £200 a month. Don't get me wrong I don't mind paying this to treat my children at all.
I was paying £400 a month child maintenance but due to the current climate in industry my wages have dropped to gross £2299.97 a month.
My partner won't allow sleep overs with no reason other than she doesn't want to be without the kids.
With school commitments starting in September I'm going to be doing all the childcare duties on my rest days (up to 3 per week but 2 on average). This will be from 7am until 17:30 and will be school runs.
Due to all these expenses will I still have to pay the full childcare maintenance or may I get it slightly reduced as I'll be enduring all the costs but will have zero reductions due to sleepover restrictions especially now with school commitments and distance?
It does seem a little unfair as I'm currently paying 1/3 of my entire wages when taking the money I spend on them for food and days out etc into account too.
My partner and I are currently amicable but wanted to get advice prior to amending payment amounts as it will cause friction so wanted to ensure everything was fair and right prior to commencing.
Thank you so much for any advice and is very much appreciated.
Regards
Pete.
My fiancé has now decided that she isn't happy and is leaving me and taking our daughter.
I don't want any of this to happen but I feel helpless and don't want to annoy my fiancé/ex at all incase she makes life difficult.
I will jump through hoops to be an active part of my daughters life but I don't know any of the formalities or rights that I have.
Please help.
Please help.
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