Having never planned to be in this position before, you are probably unsure of exactly what your rights as a father are. You want to do your best as a father but what are your legal responsibilities? Here are some questions that you may ask to find out exactly where you stand.
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Do You Have Parental Responsibility for Your Kids?
If you were married to your partner when your child was born, you have automatic Parental Responsibility. If you are not married and your child was born after 1st December 2003 and your name is on the birth certificate, you automatically have parental responsibility. If you are the biological father, you can still file for parental responsibility which gives you legal rights and responsibilities for your child.
Can You Make Decisions Concerning Their Upbringing?
With parental responsibility you have the right to be involved in all major decisions in your child life. This can be anything that significantly affects their upbringing such as education, medical treatment or religion. (For more information, see our article Making Joint Decisions About Your Child's Future on this site.)
Who Decides on Everyday Things?
Everyday decisions are left up to the parent who has residence of the children. Generally, the mother is given residence unless you or the courts decide differently. This means that she does not have to consult you about any day-to-day decisions.
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As a parent you are legally bound to Pay Child Support. The amount that you pay is worked out by the Child Support Agency (CSA) and will depend on a number of things including how much you earn and how you have split custody.
What Visitation Rights do You Have?
You may decide to organise your visitation independently with your ex, and this is fine as long as you are both happy with the arrangement. If not, you will need to apply for a contact order and be assessed to determine what visitation you are given.
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Can Your Ex Take Your Children Out of the Country?
If your ex has residence of your children, she can take them out of the country for up to one month without your permission. If she wants to take them for longer or move abroad permanently, she will need your consent. If you have serious concerns about her taking them out of the country, then you can apply for an order to stop it.
When Does Parental Responsibility End?
Your parental responsibility and child support continues until your child leaves school or further education, which can be as young as 16 or finish when they are 19 and at university.
Finding out about your rights and responsibilities as a father is important so that you know what you are entitled to and what you need to do. If you can keep relations civil and handle the details with your ex then this can be better but, if not, you will have to go through the legal system to clarify things. Your ex has no right to stop you seeing your children and with a little bit of compromise and willingness you can both come to an agreement that is best for your children.
Making Things Easier
When you first split up it's easy for battles to ensue and for the children to take the brunt of it, even though this is never your intention. One way to make things easier is to draw up some kind of agreement at the outset - see our sample separation agreement.
I have just read quite a few of the stories on here but for the life of Mei cannot see any replies to anything, which begs the question, is this a help forum like I thought it might be or just somewhere to sound off, I came here in search of an answer ?
Help please
COVID 19 is a factory and used in the stoppage of seeing her..
I received a text only a week ago that stated that my ex wife and my daughter had decided that I’m to no longer see her anymore??
My reasoning for my daughter saying what she did is how you would say childish as she is 13 years old..
But to have my ex wife agree and send me a text was another!!
Iv always had contact with my daughter Iv always put her before anything or anyone for that matter as you can imagine I’m devastated
It’s now 26th feb Iv now not seen her since her bday at the very beginning of January that’s a long time for anyone..
What can I do?
I am in an abusive relationship with someone with a history of mental health, self harm and hospitalisation. This was hidden from me until 3 years after marriage. My wife is highly vindictive, controlling, abusive and bullying which I can now see is learned behaviour from how her mother treats her father.
I am 100% certain that if I leave, my wife will use our young child as a weapon. I will never be allowed to see our child and my wife will try to cause as much devastation to me as possible. In her mind, that is how she 'wins' if anyone ever crosses her. It does not matter that she or others might also suffer as a consequence; what matters is only the destruction of the opposition. My wife is obviously happy to launch nuclear weapons and has no consideration for the consequences; the problem with her nuclear war tactics (mentally and emotionally speaking) is that nuclear fallout lasts for a hundred years and I am not sure I can ever get past it.
My wife is hateful and cruel many times a day, and I can see she takes pleasure at some level in the acts at the time, although there might be regret at some level later (which she will absolve internally by inflicting more hurt to make herself feel better, in control and like the 'winner' again). She tells me 'if the house is better', 'if the garden is nicer', 'if we go on more holidays', 'if we have a better car', then things will be better. Her family are of the same opinion. My view is that the lack of more, bigger, better things are not the answer, but a symptom of the problem.
The choice I have is simple:
- Stick around and be the emotional punchbag instead of our very young child; or,
- Leave and never see my child again.
I love my child more than anything and would die for them. I feel tremendous responsibility towards them for putting them in this position and can't leave a small child to deal with this alone. Her family have admitted that my wife has a history of using those closest to her as her emotional punchbag. My wife says I am the reason for all her problems and why she is unhappy. I know if I leave, this will just fall to our 2 year old child.
I have been to ongoing counselling to survive this situation. I have tried to suggest couples therapy several times, but it is met with an angry "we don't need counselling; you need counselling! You're the one with the problem! If you don't like it, pack your bags and leave!".
Her family (led by her mother and her sister, who also shows the same emotionally broken and harmful behaviours) have demonstrated with previous family members that anyone who 'crosses' another family member at the end of a relationship will 'pay the price' and be metaphorically attacked (even if that relationship split w
Me and my ex partner split up almost exactly 10 years today. We were not married but were living at my house. She left and took both of my children with her. I’ve had weekend access and 1 evening a week as I was in full time employment ever since. My daughter who is now 18 has been living with me for almost 2 years now since her mother dropped her at my doorstep. And since April, due to COVID I have been left unemployed and shielding at the height of the pandemic. Now my son who is almost 12 has been staying with me for the last 2 months wants to reside with me permanently also and is refusing to go back to his mother until COVID is over as he doesn’t feel safe at her address. Yesterday his mother turned up on my doorstep yet again and refused to leave without our son with her, still he refuses to leave with her, and she threatened me with calling the police and child services.
I’d like to know what I can or should do in order to prevent this from happening again and what rights I have to keep my son here where he feels safest? Thanks in advance.
I try to work things out with the mother, because both of us have parential responsibilities, but she is ignoring the cause .So up on contacting the nursery, I was told by the manager that they were instructed by mom not to give me any progress reports only newsletters.
I am not married. I have a son who is 1yr 11months. My ex is not granting me the opportunity for my son to pay me a visit. Therefore, I want seek knowledge on how to handle this situation.
Thanks.
She had to pull away my son when he saw me as he was screaming daddy......next thing i no she put him into care without telling me,i drove down to Dundee every week for review meetings got told I couldn't be in touch with him so hes 14 years old this September I cry every night thinking that hes never going to get in touch with me because hes probably been told I didn't want him.....any advice on what I can do
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If ive only just been told im a dad after 11 years, do i have to pay back pay?
Currently in court trying to get access to see my son, name on birth certificate among other things. The ex has stopped contact for what is now the third time since my son was born in September 2018. He is not n
Firstly, once the court is over and if my name is on the birth certificate if the ex denies contact again can I force her to let me see my son? Could I get the police to come to her house and get her to hand the child over if I have a copy court order and what would be my assigned visitation days?
Secondly, if this pattern continues can I take the matter back to court? If the matter goes back to court what ramifications could she face? Could there be sanctions or possible jail time?
Me please
Many thanks.
What can I do and can she stop me
I've been divorced for more than 10 years.and I have a daughter which is 17 and I do pay child support, and I can't see her at all and I don't know where she lives. Please advice me what to do.
What do I do if my ex has moved out the address I had for her and my children and she refuses to tell me where she is?
Due to her stopping me having contact for 3 years with them I haven't seen them but have kept in touch with the schools etc but now I don't even know where they are!
Isn't this illegal?
Thanks :-)
Child support wants 8,735 in arrears went to court twice about it nothing changed they did not care.
She could just simply stop me seeing my son and of course now has turned him against me and lied about everything made me out to be dead for 3 years until I went back on facebook he saw me.
Bottom line is woman have the power over any man they have a kid with because the laws protect them not men
I believe not . If so what law is it breaking
My question is because my ex name is on visitation order is it her that I can only return my son to or can he be returned to any person that she said he can be returned to
CAN ANYBODY HELP
A LOVING NANNA
Found out 28 years later my dad isn't my dad. Well maybe... My real dad I contacted on Facebook and confirmed this but wants a DNA. Once this is done where do I stand? My dad is on the birth certificate.. Massive lie and I'm 28. Won't blame them as everyone has their reasons and tbh I owe my dad the world for bringing me up. But this other man my real dad even now id expect him to be better about it like I'm getting negative vibes. Also where do I stand regards to those years lost does he owe me in anyway not like I'm after it but if he is I feel I'm deserved something as lost out on another family. Any answers or thoughts and directions would be great. Thanks
Me and my ex girlfriend are expecting but we split up due to other reasons.
I want to step up and make sure I'm as involved as I can with my baby.
HOWEVER,
I enjoy smoking weed with my friends in the weekend. My ex is well aware of this.
I work full time and I'm completely on top of the bills and whatnot so you might say I smoke responsibly.
Because we have now separated she is already saying that she is refusing visitation unless I she drug tests me every time I see the child.
Can she legally do this?
In all other aspects of my life in pretty much on the ball. I don't drink or do any other drugs. Just like a wee joint on the weekend.
I asked about CSA payments and she said she didn't care or want me visiting any other scans left etc. Which also makes me worry about whether or not she'll actually have my name on the Birth Certificate.
Any info on any of this would be appreciated. Thanks.
I have asked for money back to set up a bank account for my daughter am I right in doing this and can I use it in family court against her
I feel we have never bonded, suddenly, I am dad to a 12 year old, I think it may get more difficult especially now Ella is approaching a great time but can be difficult years as a teenager.
I haven't spoken to my ex, Ella's mum, Michelle, although I have asked. I have a lot of love and respect for Michelle.
I've had to go online to find questions to ask my daughter, which I felt like a chear but was reassured when the questions i read where the questions I want to ask. So it was good to find some reassurance that I'm on the right tracks of how to be a dad. However, any further advice and help would be appreciated
Wayne
My children currently live in Germany with their mother and are looking to return to England, I thought great, I will be able to see them more but she has decided to live almost 3 and a half hours away in Norfolk - she is suggesting that she will meet me half way every other weekend. Knowing whats she is like, she has only done this to limit my access to my children and ensure as much CSA as possible. Do I have any rights at all to prevent her moving this far away when she returns to the UK and can she refuse to bring them half way. What are my rights here?
Ant
She has changed her mobile number, so I have no contact whatsoever, unless via our solicitors.
So tired of being nice I'm playing hardball now. Let me see my daughter or you'll get minimum legal requirement, a loss of £160. She still refused, so I am taking her to court.
I did every night feed from birth until she was 13 month old and my ex partner end relationship and im kept from my daughter and because she used messages I sent asking on update on my daughter it got used as harassment by her allowing her lagal aid and im just wanting to see my own daughter and I have to represent myself against a trained solicitor wheres this fair on us dads .
I run my own business, so my time isn’t as flexable as hers and we are now at a crossroads, where If I can’t comit to dropping him off and picking him up then I am not to have him.
I pay for my child.
She is unlikely to agree to mediation at this stage, so with this it is leaving me with fortnightly weekends without my time with my son.
She has another child and uses the same excuse that she can’t pick him up or agree to a meeting point because of him (he’s 2)
She has a partner and also lives with my sons step gran mother, so there is always someone at there home to look after her other son.
Now our issue is his work because our daughter lives with me they have no obligation to give him time off for her appioments as they believe it is my responsibility to deal with her care needs they keep telling him I have soul custady which I have never claimed for I have residential as my daughter stays with me most of the time but stays over night with him twice a weeks. I was under the impression I'm Scotland if he signed the birth certificate and pays for her he had 50% rights towards our daughter. His work are refusing to give him time off because they he never been to court for joint custody we are confused about what rights he has as a father as lawyer has told us I have residential and we have never claimed for soul custody which are completely different.
Scotland
Any help would be greatly appreciated
I used to have my son on a week end from Friday to Sunday but sometimes only Saturday night all depending on what work shift I was in.... now my sons mother has cut my contact down to only seeing my boy on a Sunday for a few hours... basically she has done this because she don’t like me having my boy around my partner.... my partner has done nothing wrong for this to happen.. when I first got with my partner I used to get abuse saying if I didn’t end it I weren’t seeing my son etc.. then tried to get me to go back to her which I declined.... at that point she did have child services involved which they told her she can’t do that.... and soon as child services closed the case the games started to get played again.. had my son on the week end as usual then returned him home to later on getting a message saying my partner better not be playing mammy to my son... me confused replying what you talking about... so apparently he said he was with mammy and daddy.... he had only ever called my partner Mam once which we corrected him.... bare in mind he had only just turned 3 year old. And he was hearing my partners little boy call her mam... my partner is no danger to my boy one single bit... we all had a great bond which in some cases that doesn’t happen.... it has now been a few month of me only seeing my boy only on a Sunday and it’s breaking everything completely... when I loose my boy he looks at me as to say “where you been” disappointed etc... me and my boy had an amazing bond and he used to love spending week ends with me sometimes was hard to get him back home because he wanted to stay.... but now I have had people tell me she is telling my boy that her partner is his dad... this is destroying everything... I’m down all the time just wishing things could go back to normal... it’s causing problems with my relationship with my partner and my relationship with my son... my son looks at me as if he feels like I don’t love him or care for him.... it’s seriously causing huge problems I don’t no what to do I need some help
I have 8&11 year old. Separated with their mother a year ago. We have been on and off for the last five years, this was because I found it hard to detach with my children. To call the story short. My ex thinks she calls the short every time I have to succumb to her demands. I have tried to be civil but I feel there is some alienation of some sorts that I don’t want to go into details of it. Now, there have been so many occasions where she wouldn’t be at home when I drop children off. She tells the children to lie to me that she is inside the house. Three occasions I have text her over the phone that I will not drop children off without an adult present at home. She will then say to me that they are older enough to stay at home until she comes home. I never did but I will wait until I’m sure she at home. The last time I dropped them off she told the kids to pick up keys outside of the house and go inside. She said she was in the bath and that was why she left keys for them to get inside the house. I waited two hours and drove them back to my house which take an hour. I refused to pick them from their house now. I told my ex that I will only pick them up and drop them off at the designated area because I can’t drop them off without an adult present. She said to me that I should either pick them up from home or forget seeing my kids. What do I do?
This is a legal dream list. Reality it never happens how its listed above.
What really happens is not do pi k and fluffy. Court orders or flounce, mother continues to play difficult allowing you to see child one week and stopping the next. As the child gets older, mum decreases contact In order to get dad to spend more money in court. The court do not warn mum off they resume previous court order. Mum then alienates the child from dad. At the point of the child reaching 14 years old complete alienation takes place. This puts dad into a corner wee more costly court fees takes place. Breaking him financially. Only to result in child's wishes being the overall ruling that she doesn't want to see dad. Parental alienation completed. Court rules reduced contact and thus is supported by social services as they do not consider parental alienation as a harming strategy that occurs over a long period by mum against the child and father.
The benefits in favour of mum for following this process is that the dad becomes financially stretched through court processes. Emotionally pressured by not seeing the child as visitation is decreased. Upon the court ruling child Maintanence is increased as the no contact rule awards mum full benefit.
The law is an ass. Social see ices harm more children then they help. Dad's are treated like 17 century slaves to the system.
Appalling indeed.
He suffers from depression and she is quoting concern over this as a reason for denying overnight stays. In reality, she has control issues and has been looking for any reason to gain control over his time with his daughters.
Firstly, can she use depression as a legitimate reason? There is no evidence of neglect or abuse...
Secondly, he has concerns that when he goes to collect them for the weekend stay, she will have placed them with a friend and won't let him take them at all. Would he be able to call the police in this situation? What could he do?
The ex has informed my daughter if she doesnt take the exact high school courses her mother wants she will enforce that she can no longer live with me.
Is this legal?
We don't live together as she lives on her own and she suffers with aspergers and mental health. She has been known to use illegal drugs, alcohol and a long history of self harming.
Now we are no longer together she is refusing to put my name on the birth certificate or let me know any details about my child.
She is currently 22 weeks.
I am worried about my baby and especially once it's been born due to his safety and welfare. She doesn't want me to have any contact with him apart from a couple of hours each week at her home which I am not happy with and she keeps changing her mind.
Could you give me any advice where I can go from here how I gain access to my baby once it's born?
He has decided he wants to be there for the children but doesn't want to be with the parent of his child anymore...
He has moved on with another girl and now his ex is stopping him from taking the child out on his own and stopping his side of the family from seeing the child. What rights has he got and his family.
Is this legal they are 12 & 14 years old
Would be great if someone could advise, I’m in the UK. I have s court order in place to see my children because my soon to be ex wife is very difficult. She is now with holding access. I read somewhere that you can actually call the police if a parent refuses to not comply with this court order? I was thinking of doing this on the door step if she refuses to give them to me.
Things have gotten messy with the mother of my children. It’s been an ongoing thing over the past 7 years but things have gone so bad that I don’t have contact with the children anymore, my ex partner has changed her telephone number, moved and I don’t even have the new address, is this legal?
Kindest regards
Daniwl
.out the blue 2 yrs ago a (BUDDY) and yes I've another child ..no need for blood tests he is my double..unfortunately he has seizures and is autistic. We got on well and I took time off work went to London Liverpool and more than i can remember Leeds to see how we can help our
son...well my ex buddy wanted more than
my help and when I said no to her
advances.. I've been his with child support...how does it work I am a single dad and do my best by my kids and pay what I can but child support ignore my claim with the woman who walked out on my son when he was 3 month old..
Is someone able to advise where I go from here as I have never been in this position, nor did I ever think I would be as we had an agreement in place already that was working just fine until now.
Thank you in advance for any help
I have no contact with my son for last 4 months nearly and I will not and dont want to speak to my ex partner.
I have been told although he has finished college this year he is returning to college in Sept to do further courses.
When does child maintenance stop having to be paid and what courses qualify for this to being paid still?
I have had him as per agreement with CSA and Ex regarding shared care but now as not having him for 4 months as he no longer wants anything to do with his farther apparently now claiming for no shared care.
My understanding is shared care is 1 - 50 (ish nights per year) so surely I have already qualified for this so why should payment now increase?
I'm in desperate need for some help regarding my set of triplets. Myself & the mother split up back in MArch & for the first 6 weeks I was going the house 3 evenings per week after work to help bath the kids, put them to bed & help tidy up. I was also seeing them on a Saturday & Sunday. However, since them first six weeks, my ex has stopped me coming to the house which ended in me seeing the kids every Sunday. This was going okay up until about 8 weeks where she kept threatening to stop me from seeing my kids but I took this lightly as she was always trying to say things to get a response from me. She has now taken it to another level where I haven't seen my kids for the past 3 weeks as she has stopped me for no given reason. I am on the birth certificate & all I want to do is see my kids without any issues or drama from my ex. I have suggested my mother meeting her to pick the kids up drop them off to her but she says I have to take her to court to see my kids. Does anyone know where I stand legally regarding seeing my kids without going to court?
My son wears glasses and a few weeks ago I collected his new ones, he gets two pairs. his mother demanded both pairs to be kept at hers, I disagreed and kept a pair back, much to her annoyance that i defied her.
she has asked at every drop off and I've managed to avoid the situation.
Then on Sunday i was asked again, only this time the daughter was hanging from her arm getting very vocal and becoming quite brash, to be honest she was talking that much it became white noise and i couldn't hear the original conversation. I told her in not really a raised voice, but to match her volume to be quiet and it had nothing to do with her. The mother then reared up and said don't you talk to her like that. Like what ? had I missed something? The daughter continued to mouth off until the mother told her to shut up and take our son inside. The tone changed immediately they were out of the way. she snapped, if your'e being petty over a pair of glasses, i'll be petty. you can take me to court for access to your son quickly slamming the door on me.
I expected a battle at some point but over glasses, maybe i was slightly petty but also why shouldn't i have a pair they didn't cost anything to either of us. This was more about me defying her.
I messaged the next day hoping to make a bit of peace knowing full well she would not see reason. several messages between us, none abusive but her more angry than me, she turned the reason from being the glasses to how i spoke to the daughter, I denied this but knew which way it was going. I have been in touch with my sons school and they were ok with me seeing him to make sure he is ok and understands. i didn't bad mouth the mother although she often does this to him.
My last message was to try and keep the peace knowing deep down i was wasting my time. i had no reply but knew she would be planning something else to get at me.
Tonight It happened. I had a call from the local police informing me that she had range them accusing me of verbally abusing her daughter , shouting and swearing i
Am I wrong waiting to fight whilst I get better?
My son is currently in prison and me and my partner see all three children Regularly. The brother of my daughter in law has just told us he had got our oldest grandchild living with him and that he plans to go for full custody of her. He said that he has got permission for her to stay with him for 28 days then he has a meeting with social services to make this a permanent arrangement. My son is unaware of all this would he need to be consulted and give permission before this all goes ahead?
What could happen to me if I held them back and then applied for residency
Do I have any legal right over this child.
My Ex Partner (not married) left me suddenly a few months before the birth of our baby. Refused to make any contact with me until last week when she asked for Child Support through the CSA. I am not on the birth certificate and she has no intention of letting me see her.
I have read conflicting advice where sometimes it has said if im not on the Birth Certificate then I have no legal right to pay CSA. Is this the case?
Also, if I want to fight for custody, is the court costs shared?
Also, if I don't think they baby is mine, then surely its on the mother to prove it is and pay the fees for the test.
Many thanks for your help here.
John
Where do I stand on this, I just feel that she us hiding things from e in regards to my kids
i've seperated from my partner and we are due to have our baby in just under two months. She is extremely controlling and will readily feed me false information in order to get the outcome she wants. she has told me that the baby must take her surname and that her lawyer has advised her that is the case, however, the solicitor i saw, the citizens advice and the info on the government website would suggest that it isn't cut and dry and that we must be in agreement about it. we werent married or anything but they all told me that didnt matter in relation to surnames.
what are the legalities on this please?
We are currently living with his parents as we are trying to save some money for house deposit. He is worried if he would go to court, the court won’t grand him to have his daughter every other weekend as we don’t own/have our own house. He is worried the court won’t let him have her over night or would side with the mother.
He has been paying her child maintenance, buying her cloths, nappies, food... anything she needs and more.
Can anyone tell me if my partner was to go to court if the court would see him not having/owing a house as a bad thing?
Is he lives 80 miles from me and my youngest who is 15 has Aspergers and anxiety. Moving her away from the town she has always known will be too hard for her. It's been a hard decision but I think that the best solution will be for my ex to become the main Carer ( we share parenting 60:40) and she stays here in her familiar settings and I commute up to see her every other weekend and maybe more. I know she will want to stay here.
If my ex doesn't want the change in custody ( there's no court order) what can I do? Or do I just take her with me even though I know it's the wrong decision? This is not a financial question as I would waiver any maintenance if I move away.
I split up with my ex almost a year ago and have struggled with contact ever since. In October last year we can to an arrangement where I have contact 5 nights out of every 14 which I think was fair considering I practically raised my son alone for the first 2 years of his life.
Recently (last 6 months), I have become involved with another lady, I occasionally have been called out to work some evenings and on one occasion asked my new partner to look after my son while I work an additional 5 hours one Saturday night.
My ex has said that she is not going allow this and wants to withdraw contact stating that if the situation arises I should turn down the work. She states that if Im not looking after our son , no one else should.
Firstly does she have the right to do this, is this correct and should I challenge this as the quality of care he gets with my new lady is more than adequate.
Holidays 182 nights a year.
5 years ago i helped my ex out by signing over the child benefit to her now she’s gone to the cms.
Do i still have to pay her when i support my daughter when she’s with me and support her schooling needs?
We aren’t married he’s 9.5 months old and I’m on the birth certificate, I’m worried about him as she’s not the same towards him when I’ve arranged for her to see him
I have 2 x children born 2002 & 2004 who live with their mum , I used to see them every weekend until a few years ago . My Ex Wife re - married a soldier and entered into a life within the RAF so over the last few years I have only been able to see my kids on school holidays due to them being located in RAF Leeming . I have now been told they are being posted to Germany for the next 3 yrs and my access will be reduced even more , what can I do to make my ex - wife addears to me seeing my kids ?
I am worried that once they go I will loose all contact .
I contacted this supposedly new agency, set up to replace the CSA, which have informed me that I now have to pay more. I already have no life own anymore, I have nothing left execpt what I spend on my kids when I see them.
I feel completely let down, lost, bewildered, confused because Iove my kids and I am doing everything I can to see my kids. Year in and out since getting a court order arrangement...I have exceed the time set out by the order by having my kids more often and I have spent more and more money on them. Yet none of this seems to matter??? I even had to get a loan out to pay for the court order to see my kids, which am now already paying back at a pound a month because I cannot afford to make the agreed repayments.....due to being on a low income and that fact that child support payments are just too high for what I can afford.
With this lasted news that now they want me to give more! I feel that I I I cannot go on anymore I cant bear the thought of not being able to have them stay over with me at the weekends anymore because I can no longer afford a place to live.
Again, thanks for your help!
Now I'm 13 can I see him when ever I want with out my mum stoping me
Anyway i stayed with her and tried to do the right thing, tried to make it work, happy families etc but the ungrateful lazy cow just made my life a misery and nothing i did was good enough. She complained about having to stay at home all day with a newborn baby while i got up at 5am to go out in the freezing cold and do a days work. I think we envied each others' situation. She was irrational, violent, abusive and i feared for the safety and wellbeing of our baby when she would lose her temper, no joke. We were better off apart but the final straw was when she tried to stop me going on my best friends stag do (as best man). She tried to make me choose between them or her and i chose my friends. Yes, i am still single while they are all now married near enough and i probs wont see them ever again but better to have loved and lost than live with the psycho the rest of your life!
So stressful times followed, we split and i was thankful to be rid of her tbh but my girl was caught in the middle unfortunately and i wanted to be a good dad still.
One day i went to collect my daughter from the station, halfway between where we live (30 miles away) and she suggested i start giving her childcare money even though when my daughter is with me, she doesnt need it. So she phoned the police and tried to stop me taking her home! Is that blackmail or using my daughter as a tool or what?!
i have been lucky in a way, having 50/50 care for last year or so with thanks to my parents. It was a good routine for all i think as i wasnt missing out on too much as she now lives 60 miles away.
Anyway now my ex has found a job, wants to put daughter into nursery which is fine i guess but dont have much of a say. It means i cant have her for a week at a time like i did because apparently she needs to take a fulltime space at nursery and if i wanted to carry on like before, id have to pay for a weeks worth of childcare every other week so she could be with me rather than at nursery, which would mean her paying for a weeks nursery for no reason. That is half my weekly wage and i am not entitled to any kind of help. That is not an option. I dont have much choice but to see her only on weekends now, but is it fair for my ex to demand payment if i want to have my daughter for an extra day or two which fall on her 'nursery' days?? On top of maintenance?? Surely she is paying it anyway with the benefits and free childcare? it just doesnt seem right to me that i should have to pay extra to see my daughter when my time with her has already been reduced. If i dont, she stays in nursery. It feels like blackmail again??
I know there are guys out there with bigger problems and who dont get to see their children at all, and my heart goes out to you. But
I appreciate that I am sure i do. But wanted to understand if any options where available?
In an ever growing world of equality. The law seems to be weighted so unfairly.
And finally has there ever been a case whereby a man has ever proven he was tricked into a pregnancy?
Whilst i love my son, my GF was on the pill when we dated and then forgot to take it for a week. At the time I saw it as bad luck, ( but also good luck as it was exciting and lovely) but now. Somehow feel i was massively played.
(BTW I was already seperated with two girls from an prev marriage. Of which my GF hated my past)
This is not bitterness, just would like some clarity please?
Thanks
Since my ex and I separated 3 years ago I have been doing all of the collecting and dropping off of our son. I stood my ground the once and suggested that she should pick him up as he is both of ours and didn't think i should be doing all the driving she only did it the once and punished me for it (and my son) by stopping me from seeing him for a month so I never asked again through fear the same would happen again. She says I left the home and area so it's me that should be doing everything, I moved back to my home town 45 minutes away about 40 miles. ( I left due to financial, psychological and emotional abuse). Does anyone know if she is in the right or is she entitled to help with lifts??
Another question is that I pay her child maintenance but she still asks for monies for activities nursery fees ect, is this covered in child maintenance?
Do you no if it possible if i can collect and drop off my son with out any contact with his mother?
We parted 3 years ago but she still continues to say things to me in front of him which a 4 year old should not be hearing, is this possible?
Thanks
I am now married with a little girl of three.
My question is do I have a right to meet my ex partners new man?
I've asked mum if I can meet her new chap for a coffee but unfortunately every avenue has been greated with a no.
The only reason I ask is because his actions with my children don't sit right In my stomach. The children have mentioned they find him strange.
Just wondered if there's a legal right?
Cheers
Separated almost 3 years ago when my then wife was pregnant with our son he's 2 and a half now I have never seen him down to my own selfishness although my now ex wife literally begged me to be apart of our sons life I refused as I was having an affair. I am now remarried and unable to have children with my new wife but now want to have contact with my son. My ex wife has agreed but under her circumstances and rules until he gets to know me as he doesn't know who I am, I'm not very happy about this at all but I know it's my own fault but I want to see my son every other month for just a few hours so that me and my wife can play apart in my sons life can anyone help out as I want him to stay with myself and my wife for a week over the Christmas holidays. My ex wife is worried and says that is not possible as he doesn't know who I am as I've never bothered with him but now I want to be apart of his life because me and my wife can't have children is my ex being unfair
Cheers Si.
I parted from ex 3 years ago due to her suffering from female covert/shy narcissistic personality disorder and her being unfaithful . We have 4 year old son together. I moved 50 miles away to be closer to my family and have since travelled 400 round trip each month for him to stay with me every other weekend.
I've always paid child maintaince and helped out with swimming lessons taken him to Portugal and other trips away he is my world. I have a new partner and daughter and brought a new home together but my ex just takes away my weekends as she pleases so we can never plan anything which usually cost me money on tickets on things we have planned and keeps us all on tender hooks not knowing if he's aloud to come abroad with us or weekend breaks that cost us hundreds of pounds in flights and changing dates. We get constant abuse and psychological projection. She has had a number of failed partners since me but as recently met someone new and has stopped me from seeing him on both my weekends going a month without seeing him due to me getting engaged, it appears that every new thing i do with moving forward in my life eg home, engagement, daughter ect she punishes me and more importantly our son I believe his emotional needs are not being met by her as she messes with his head some of the things he tells us are really upsetting.
My partner and I can no longer take her controlling and manipulating ways due to us never knowing if we have him or not and I am very worried about how he his being treated psychologically, is there any advice you can give me??
I am trying to find out if there is any way of having some form of rights or parental responsibility for 2 children who are not biologically mine. I have fathered my boy (6 1/2yrs) since he was 1, and my daughter (nearly 4yrs) since birth. My ex partner conceived my daughter when we temporarily broke up for 3 months, which ended up as me being the father of 2 kids who weren't mine. my son's biological father is on his birth certificate but not allowed access by the courts, there is no name down as father on my daughters birth certificate.
I have regular contact with children since me and their mother broke up 1 1/2 yrs ago. and in all but legal and biological sense, I am their father and love them as my children.
There is a current situation where I may (but hopefully not) have to get child services involved. So I am trying to find out where I stand if the worst happened and if the mother refuses me contact. Any help, info or direction would be greatly appreciated.
Up until this month I have always had my kids 2 nights a week every week and let the mother know 3 weeks in advance.
Now my eldest has just started school and she is refusing to allow me to have them through the week and only to have them at the weekends. She knows that in my line of business I generally work most weekends (She works for the same company) and her saying that I can only have them on a weekend means I potentially can only have 1 in 4 weekends.
Her argument is that she wants the kids to be in a routine Sunday to Thursday for school, which I agree with but she won't allow them to stop at mine during that time. Restricting how much time I can spend with our kids.
I've argued that I would ensure any routine she would be following from school finishing (homework, tea, bath and bed etc) I would ensure this is followed too and that, they would be picked up on time and dropped off at school on time (I live about 30/45 minutes away from their school, as the mother moved away).
What advice can you give me? I'm seeking citizens advice help tomorrow.
I am writing this so as to give others in our position hope, the girls are now 21 and have chosen to live with us, one has decided to no longer have a relationship with her mother while the other maintains some contact which is emotionally stressful for her. We are so happy together and loving the time we have to finally be a family beyond the emotional bullying and blackmail that we were all subjected to. There is hope. Never give up
The ex has made little hints she may move abroad to be with her parents. My question is. Would she be allowed to do this? or should i take this to court?
Any advice appreciated
I even suggested a double barrelled surname and she said "I don't like the sounds of it". Is there no way legally that I can make sure my names on there somehow. I'm a very traditional man and this is why it means so much to me.
my daughter.
my wife & i just spilt up, my kid is 2 years old.
now she thinks she can tell me when to see my child and for how long, is this fair??
i dont get to see my kid during the week as she stays with her mother and now on the weekends she wants me to see my kid for afew hours on one day only
what do i do if i want my kid to sleep over every now and again?
Much appreciated
I have been there for my daughter ever since she was born and paid child maintencance, bought her presents as well. Done everything a dad would do. Now my ex tells me that she's living in a shared home with other mother's which i believe it's an institute and will not tell me where. I'm really worried for my daughter because my ex also done an injunction on me 3 years ago and my daughter has special needs and she needs me to be in her life. I don't know what to do anymore. I just really want to see my daughter on a regular basis and be there for her as well watch her grow and overcome and succeed in life.
I am looking for some answers on the following issues. My ex wife who am divorced to has my 8 year old daughter living with her and she has a residence order through court. We have a contact order on when I chat to my daughter on the phone or FaceTime during the week and weekend. My ex runs fitness classes during the week at local park in north east England were she works most nights and my daughter gets left with different friends each night plus her new boyfriends mum. As the dad as I live in Scotland do I have the right to have the contact details mobile numbers of each of the people looking after my daughter. Also my ex has being living continually at her new boyfriends house were my daughter has being sleeping on the couch or a blown up bed as it's only a 2 bedroom house he has and he has a son who has the second bedroom again so I have the say on this concerning matter for the welfare of my 8 year old daughter.
I have been there for my boys from day one, my first son was demanding and his mum couldn't cope so we have a very close bond, I worked and had a very well paid job, I paid for EVERYTHING that's how it was. Second son was born and this was different, mum bonded with this son straight away which was good. The mother and myself had a very roller coaster relationship, she always went out whenever she wanted as did I, we were both verbally abusive to each other, things got worse, she left and I hit rock bottom, but all through this I always had my boys, we have been separated for three years now, the boys have stayed with me almost every weekend, we have been away for short breaks. I lost my job, I got deeper into debt and I was drinking a lot, I'm still out of work, I'm still deep in debt but I don't drink to access anymore, I have to admit shamefully that when I do see my ex when collects the boys etc that I am verbally abusive, after three years she has decided that I no longer can have ANY contact with my boys, she says she doesn't want our boys growing up thinking it's ok to verbally abuse their mother, this abuse is two sided but that is no excuse, is she in her right to stop me seeing my boys.?
I'm looking for some advise, I have recently separated from my wife, she is now claiming she's pregnant but I am being told I'm not allowed to be told by the doctor this is true as I have no legal right as she is the patient, is this true?
can anybody help me?
We were never seperated but had few hardship in our relationship which causes arguments some times . We love each other alot but its difficult for us to be togather as i am living in a different country and not allowed back home . I do wants to be part of my kids life and be a normal father as everyone else .we do not have a choice but to carryon living appart from eachother several thousand miles away . My partner do not accompany good people but drug user and violent guys.i worry for my kids safety . Reason for arguments was always about company she keep .
Is there any help i can get through you guys as i heard alot about you guys doing a great job in family reunion
It's my daughters birthday soon , she is 13
And wants to go to a show at the theatre , I have my daughter every weekend , but her mother stipulates she's home for 5pm on a Sunday , this was her idea on the times and not a court ruling , she is being very negative and it's just her being awkward , if I told her my daughter was going to be late back , what could she do ?
She uses threatening language whenever I do not agree to what she wants me to do.
thanks
My partner has not been able to see his son for 6 years and has not paid child maintence because of this. He would provide anything his son needs and would pay if he seen his son.
He has been to court twice and got access but his ex partner still stopped him, remarried and moved with no forwarding address.
The csa is saying he is in a lot of arrears and they are now trying to take a lot from his weekly wage.
This seems really unfair as he misses his son greatly, done everything in his power to his him but due to his ex moving and marrying, is not able too and has not been able to for a long time.
Is there anything we can do about this please?
Thank you in advance.
My ex is getting married in a month and she wants to change my daughters surname to her husband to bes surname.
She has said she can do this without my consent at the school, doctors etc. Is this true?
I do not want my daughter to take his name as I have an active role in her life and I always have.
Can I take my son to live with me or not? How do I get full custody off my son as I don't have the money for a solicitor.
What are my rights if i remove the kids from there home and move them to mine?
Right my ex got pregnant on purpose so i would never leave her, My daughter was born on 03/03/03 i was not allowed at the birth ? i was not allowed to be with my daughter on my own ? very strange all round as i am an amazing guy i think and i would of been the best, caring, generous, loving father my little girl could ever have wanted, My ex ran off with one of my so called friends 9 months into my daughters life and i was no longer allowed to see her. My ex and her mental family told the CSA they did not know who the father was and it was a one night stand in a nightclub, They also refused to put me on the birth certificate. This had a massive effect on my life, depression, suicidal thoughts, drugs and alcohol problems, my mom passed away when i was 13 and it left a massive hole in my heart that my daughter filled then when this happened it was like being hit by a freight train of grief. So 14 years later i have once and for all sorted myself out, I have invented something that is going to be sold for a considerable amount of money and i mean multiple millions, I plan to open a bank account for my little girl and put enough money in there to protect her for her whole life, But i know her mother and horrible grand parents will try and hit me for money and i do not want them to get a penny. See i wanted to contribute, i tried, i send cards, presents, letters all of which were returned, I tried to go to court spent thousands on letters but fact was i couldnt get any form of access unless her mother agreed and well you know how that goes. So i was just wondering where the CSA would stand on this ? my daughter can have the lot, she has always been the first thing i think of when i wake up and the last thing i think of when i go to bed, then i dream of her its like an emotional prison of which i have no escape. But i dont want her family to get anything, because they dont deserve it. there is a lot more to this story, my ex dad was a angry, violent alcoholic, he held me down in the back room when the CSA came round and told me not to move, he told me and laughed in my face when he done it that they are not putting me on the birth certificate because if they dont i have no rights proper horrible people
so anyway anyone that may know how this works id be very appreciative
Then my wife decided to migrate for some silly reason. She not consult me what she was doing. She been travelling in very dangerous road and she cross the sea where 100 % death was there. I been beging her not to take this decision. But she never listen. Now after a year we managed to be together. And. Now we have another daughter together. Because her Previous non sense I feel that I want to make safe my children so that she don't play with our kids life. I want a proper advise we live together but I don't feel that my children are safe.
Thanks
The mother refuses to put me on the birth certificate.
Where do I stand
The mother refuses to put me on the birth certificate?
Where do I stand?
Two years ago my wife had an affair and i ended up leaving the house where we lived because she refused to leave, the problem i have now is that i moved back with my family to get on my feet which is 300 miles from where she lives, we have a house mortgaged which i payed the mortgage on for 15 years but no longer pay as i am not living there, also she makes it very difficult for me to see my daughter. financially i can not afford courts as i am on a low income she has also moved her boyfriend in and has a new baby. everything is on her terms and i have to sing her tune all the time just so i can see my daughter but i have now had enough i can not take the abuse that she gives me anymore i need to do something do you have any advice. oh and my name is on the birth certificate.
Thank you.
i left my home with her and stayed at a friends because we had problems & did not want to be together anymore.
after 2 days of seperating she went back to her home country thailand & says shes not coming back.
how do i stand, is that even legal ?
will i ever be able to see my son when he is born in april ?
my ex is dual citizen thailand & UK
we where never married.
can anyone help ??
B. My son is not looking after the animals (also explained within the details of my correspondence) because of his work commitment & by the way that has always been like that - so please explain (in case I missed that part) how my son is deemed the current owner?
C. Once again I reiterate, my son’s (ex) partner “ABANDONED HER ANIMALS” & your reply would strongly indicate that my son is now somehow responsible for her abandoned animals, where as she is free to go out and acquire others not unlike replacement furnishing - its no wonder more & more unwanted animals fill the pounds!
"Under the Dogs Act, a dog can be deemed to be dangerous in its general behaviour, not just its behaviour towards a person. Proceedings can only be brought against the owner (not the person in control of the dog at the time of any incidents)."
My son's (ex) partner is the current owner, please explain how can she be legally excused & demean her current responsibility, furthermore she has now acquired yet another animal?
She has since sneakily moved away with their two children but has completely abandoned her animals, that my son because of his current work commitment can't possibly look after 24/7.
As grandparents my wife & I have defaulted to becoming the animals carers but this is clearly a demanding ordeal & not without its financial attachment.
Who do you think is responsible for such financial cost & loss and holds financial responsibility for creating our full time carers role?
Regards
Please advise how I can be part of my child's life?
My youngest is over 3 years old and her dad stopped seeing her when she was 3 months he's on the birth certificate.
My question is can I get his rights taken away?
Thank you
How many hearings does it take and will I get into trouble for not paying my maintenance? This case has effected my health dreadfully and effectedu relationship with my children. My son is fine with me but my daughter well it has alll obviously affected her. Advice would be very much appreciated
She's threatening to ring the pooilce if I just turn up. At the same time, she will not let me see my child......I am the biological father and pay £50 per week child maintenance.
I just want my daughter back in my life and have done nothing wrong for her to do this.
My daughter is 2 years of age
Need advice guys. Was residing abroad with wife and 1 year child. He got his british passport automaticl since i hold dual nationality..his mother however only had uk visit visa for 6 months. Suddenly came over to the uk without my consent or knowledge and now tracked her down
..was not permitted to see her or pur 1 yeat boy. I feel cheated as if this marriage was based on other motives. Her visa expired today so no idea what her plans are. How can i see the child without doing anything crazy. Notified the police but was told of child is safe then no need to get involved and should seek a lawyer for advice. We all now its time consuming and costly as a private domestic matter. Sent her a letter for a mediator but bo responce. Plz advice guys. Thanks
woody
6 months ago the family home was sold by mutual consent and equity divided. Whilst it was going through I agreed with my ex wife not to keep turning up to see my son and that once the house had been sold we would solve the problem. She has always maintained to me that she thinks it's important that our son sees his father but would never 'force him' to see me. Following the equity divide a couple of months ago I tried to arrange to see my son but was told once again he didn't want to see me... again no reason as to why. My ex wife would not even tell me where to find him now on a weekend so I can see him. I love my son dearly and it breaks my heart as I know deep down we do have a lovely bond and the thought of not seeing him grow up is very upsetting. I don't believe for a minute that not seeing me is his decision totally which is very frustrating to say the least. I have no idea where he is living other than a town which they privately rent in although I do know what school he goes to. CSA has always been paid by me etc.
I would like to know where I stand in seeing him and if my son at the age of 7 can make that decision himself and if indeed he can be forced into attending court?
Gutted of course but I don't think I should be paying maintenance anymore as my ex wife and her new husband should be supporting them
Financially
My girlfriend have a 4 kids and then we have a baby...my problem is her another dauther the eldest 20 years old and she had a bad words and no good attitude when my baby is crying in their room i go there and carry her but her eldest daugther saying that they she gonna bring her in the bank but i said no and she pulled it in my arms and she said i have no wrights in my daugther and i said you have no wrights because you are only mother of your side...
My mother who is 87 has only seen her grandchildren twice in 3 years. Cafcass are one sided
My advice cut ties let her get on with it
Not my problem ive shed enough tears
My kid is getting older now (he is 16) and me and my ex still have the same arrangements as we did when he was 4. I see him at 5pm on a sat Eve until 5pm Sunday and once over night in the week) he sometimes doesn't come because he wants to see his friends so I may see him for a few hours on Sunday. I would like to spend quality time with my son. Maybe a full weekend every other weekend, so he gets to see his friends etc on the weekend he is not with me and then I get to spend some quality time with him on the other instead of fleeting visits. However my ex will not change the arrangements. I don't know what to do and know how I stand on this.
she has also refused mediation this has been going on for the last 6 years
What can I do about this and is my wife's behavior going to mentally effect my daughter in future.
Where do I stand? Can I get a court order to prevent them seeing him?
They have never been a significant part of his life - he is 9.5yrs old and my family have spent maybe 5-6 days with him IN HIS LIFE.
What can I do? Help!
Please could you tell me where I stand.
My husbands ex wife has always made my husband feel she can stop him seeing his daughter at anytime. Once I made friends with her the situation was a lot easier, my family and I have accepted my step daughter like a daughter as we didn't want her feeling different when she came to us. I've been with my husband 5yrs so his daughter is a massive part of our lives, I'm the one who does all she needs at weekends (things a mother should have done) I won't go into it. The ex wife has called us everytime she is struggling with her behaviour and asked for our help. Last weekend his daughter didn't get to go to a party because our baby had been sick all night, her mum had come to drop school stuff and saw her upset and said she would take her as our little one was sick she didn't want to risk it spreading. Now she has said his daughter doesn't want to come back to our house and her mum has turned on my husband which has lead me to give her a few home truths as she is happy for me to do everything for her daughter but I have no opinion or say in the child's life. Where do we stand because there's been a lot of problems over the 5yrs and it's always our lives and children who it affects? Kind regards chloe
Writing on behalf of my amazing partner.
Long story cut very short my partner and his ex split when their son was very young.
She is controlling, unsupportive of fathers rights, uncompliant in court and gets away with murder. (crocodile tears)
Lies upon lies and nasty evil head games.
Contact order was granted after a long fight, went okay wish despite control and eventually broke down.
No contact since may, a message per day or every other day asking how child is has been maintained to TRY and maintain some level of communication all of which was ignored. We no longer have a solicitor as cannot physically afford it anymore!!!
SO MY QUESTION IS:
where do we stand legally, when child has moved house (he's three) with mother and new daddy. She refused to give us this information, and only comfort we had was knowing he attended local nursery. Just found out that child has been removed from the nursery and we are royally stuck.
I have one worried Dad right now i am trying my best to support him!
please help, what can we do?! Can the police help us? he could be anywhere?!
Thank guys
We have no contact and I'd rather her not know where I live. Is csa entitled to give my address out?
So me and my ex partner split up over a year ago and I want to spend more time with my 3 year old daughter. She is not letting me have her overnight at all and that's not how it should be right? Does anyone know what a father is entitled to access wise as I would love to see her more and have more access, see her grow up and everything. I work a Monday to Friday job and I would love to have her over the weekend etc. But cos her mum won't let me have her overnight. I'm stuck in a hole that I can't get out of. What's the best way of going about getting more access and also finding out what I'm entitled to. Many thanks in advance!
I have a 10 old daughter from a previous relationship. We split up when she was one. We have always been amicable, my daughter would ordinarily see him every other weekend.
I relocated last year, 75 miles from where he lives. We had a verbal agreement that I would meet him 25 miles away from my home to get my daughter to him on his wknds.
Which up until 8 weeks ago was not an issue, when he had a child with his new partner. His new partner threatened to.put my daughter in a taxi. He is now demanding that I take my daughter to him every weekend as he feels I should not have moved so far away.
I have told him we need to stick to the original agreement. He has refused to see my daughter because of this.
My question is, who's responsibility is it, when it comes to getting my child to her dad? Do I even have to meet him anywhere or should he fetch and drop her off at my door?
Thanks in advance
Toni
I currently have my kids from school till bedtime Three times a week also I will have them overnight 1 or 2 times a week
I have two kids one is mine the other isn't but is not in contact with his real dad and knows no difference to me being his dad.
I'm not on birth certificate and have not adopted him
I am sorting Csa out with ex and she says I pay for them both and only get classed as having them once a week is this correct??
It works out I have them same amount of time while they are awake as she does due to her work but because they sleep at hers due to my work I only get classed as having them once
I don't want to lessen my time with them but paying out for extra food etc and paying high cost to her when she isn't using that money to feed them is strange
Also who pays for cost of clothes etc does child support cover that cost because I currently pay half of that too
She didn't put my name on the birth certificate and is making excuses everytime I try to see my daughter. I'm making every effort to see her even offering to take time off work but she's still making excuses.
The worst part is that all this time spent away from her is keeping me from bonding with her which is important because she's a new born. She doesn't know my voice or my scent I'm a stranger to her.
What rights do I have? What can I do?
Just wanted to what my rights where to seeing him. She has told me Saturdays and after work, but I can't keep him over night. Is this right? Any help would be great. Matt
Now my ex is threatening me that i wont be able to see him unless is at the weekends. For obvious reasons i cant have every single weekend off and ive told her so, but she is adamant she will enforce this rule.
Can she do this? And where can i get help to try and sort this problem?
Which are all lies. I had taken my kids out of the country for 3 months without my notice. She didn't call or inform me about the kids welfare. I went to her place after I heard they were back. Knocked on the door couple of times. She has used this as the basis of the non molestation order.
I am defending myself in court. Can you please advise me as to how to go about the whole process. It's my first time. The court date is in a couple of weeks. Regards. Jack.
Thanks in advance for any guidance given.
I am writing on behalf of my partner who has two children from a previous marriage. However he was seeing them regularly every weekend and when he started his new job which consisted on a rota based shift pattern which meant as part of his contract conditions to work one weekend on and off. She didn't accept that he is obliged to work on a rota basis. Which she started being difficult by not letting him see the children on the weekends that he wasn't working. Prior to this they already had an legal agreement stating that he is allowed the children every weekend. He is paying child maintance and has paid for mediation on numerous occasions which she just ignores him and his family. She doesn't turn up to mediation either. She has completely cut him out of their lives and threatenes to phone the police if he try's to contact her.
He is currently in the court proceedings against her for access but as a legal action he has to go through the procedures before he can take her to court and obviously it's being able to afford constant court costs. The children's birthdays are soon and he would like to see them but obviously she's just trying to block him out of their life.
Thanks.
Thanks in advance
We had an argument and she has since denied me access to the kids. She even took the kids out of the country for two and half months without my consent
My question is how do I get access to my kids and what steps or procedures should I follow.
Any advice will do. I am currently sitting in front her place hoping for hope to have a glance of my own kids.
Myself and my wife have separated in January and upto now have seen my son 15 months old once a week for six hours.
I moved to family to give her the space she stated she needed...I have returned to the property today where we are joint tenants to get some personal belongings and has changed the lock.
She stated I have no rights to be there and that if there is anything I need she will get to me and also stated i should let her know I was coming.
This i know is not true of course and she has now stated that my belongings etc will be sent to her mums garage and to liaise with her - what are my rights around property being removed from house etc and can she do this ??
To this point I still haven't a clue how it's got to this only that she is possibly a narcissitic sociopath who in the end has used me and disregarded me out of her life oh yeah and a possible adulteress .
All responses welcome thank you
We have a 5 & 9 year old boys together & my step lad is 16 now.ive been living at me mums for a year , but before that was on sofa bed at x house in front room for a year.
She always said I can see them when I want and we still done things together as a family, witch was good for the kids .
I list me dad few years earlier and few months later she had a stroke at age 40 , and I hit the alcohol for few months as my head went didn't no how to handle it , but after while got myself together .
But she didn't want to no so we split but still seen kids .
now am seeing some one but not from round here so go away for few days every couple of weeks.
Now my x nows she stop me seeing kids and saying am always drunk and driving and am not its only since she found out am seeing someone so what can I do ?
I have been unable to contact her directly as a month or so ago i was told that her phone was playing up and she couldn't receive calls or txt's from certain numbers!
After finding out about the admittance into hospital and not being told anything, I contacted a couple of her family members to find out what was going on and how and where my daughter was.
To cut a long story short, i was told not to contact them and to leave them alone to deal with the situation!
This occurred on Sunday, today is Wednesday and i still haven't heard anything from my daughter's mother or any of her family.
I would like to know if my daughter's mother still has the rights of my daughter's Primary Carer even though she is incapacitated in hospital. And does her family, who my daughter has been left with, have the right to refuse me contact????
Can anyone help?
He is saying he is by law entitled to have her for half of her 6 weeks holidays, 2 weeks in one go the 1 week a few weeks later. My daughter has been down there last summer for 2 weeks I decided to try it but when she went down again she cried to come home and he wouldn't let her, she became very anxious when she came back, she didn't want me to leave her even to go to the bathroom. This summer I am saying that 2 weeks is too long he can have her for one week at the start and one at the end.
Is it his right by law to have her for 3 weeks? And if he doesn't bring her back after a week is there anything I can do?
On regular occasions two over nites a week
A month ago she tried to get social devices on to him
But the social visited an was proven there was no issues case closed
But she has now poisoned the children one 9 other 6
The older one says he doesn't want to come
An she says she isn't going to let him
See them if they say they don't want to come
This is is breaking my partner in to an awful to watch
Can she keep stopping the children coming
When they divorced he went to mediation an it was agreed he see them twice a week with over nite stays
He pays regular maintenance an for swim
Lessons
Will the children be allow to decide there self even when it's the mother telling them not to come
For context, my ex is in Brazil with my daughter. I have always been proud to pay generous support, but she is now actively stopping me from seeing my daughter. The truth is the only thing I can control in these circumstances is the money I give, but I am getting nothing back as a father.
The money I give equates to a large sum in Brazil, and is solely based on my UK wages. Are other factors, such as the average wage in Brazil relevant, or even the significant costs of flights to travel to see my daughter.
The truth is, I am happy to pay and support as things are, but I need leverage to make sure I get to see my daughter and be a dad, not just a bank.
I have searched through the internet for any more details, but cannot find any more information on this. Any ideas?
Split with ex girlfriend at the beginning of pregency after a hard period of time whereby she was trying to stop me see my child from another relationship. She has always gone on about child payments and that she will require my work details to prove wage increases etc yet now after baby is born she's completely change direction saying she's not bothered and will except my monthly figure! I've always had an issues about this baby as soon as I had left she was or so I'm told my her in another relationship. After speaking to CMO and others I was advised to think about a perturnity test. When visiting the baby for second time I was asked by ex what was I going to do about child maintenance and I said that I was advised to create a family based agreement and request the test. I was asked to leave and now been told that I cannot see this child again and she doesn't want any money from me. Two questions, first can she stop me seeing the child? Secondly what happens if she refuses money off me ? I'm confused if this child is mine by her actions and the attempts to alienate me from everything. I feel I'm being taken for a ride! Many thanks
They are probably separating and moving out. Plans have been made without including me that we (2 adults & 2 kids) should then move in as he cannot bear to be alone in the house - he has never even tried to do it!!!
I have objected on account of needing a place to call my own, I work shifts and enjoy reasonable family privacy. His house is not big enough for this, and is literally only 200 yds from us.
My wife has insinuated that she will just take the kids anyway when the time comes. All very unreasonable in my opinion, and I have yet to find another person who disagrees with me.
If she were to do this I don't want my kids to go without but I'm not happy funding this ridiculous venture either. I wouldn't stop her being with her Dad, but I have no idea what options I have to limit her from splitting us all up and me having to pay for it!
So basically me and a friend had a one night stand and she got pregnant, I have only ever met the midwife on the first appointment then haven't been to scans etc, she's making it quite clear that she doesn't want me involved in the child's life, the baby is due in 5 weeks and if anything she is getting more adamant about things, do I have any rights to be involved in my child's upbringing at all if she won't let me
I am a french man living in uae and i am living with my ex wife (we made the choice to stop our marriage, but still living under the same roof)
We have a 2 1/2 years old son and he is born in Chicago (usa)
My name is not on his birth certificate because i couldnt be there. But i am his father. I know what to do to add my name on it but she doesnt want to do it. What can i do???
Also i want to go back to live in France and get my life together and first we have talked to have our son with each other every 3months (since he is not going to school yet) but now she said that she doesn't want to do it anymore and if i go back to France i will not have my son with me every 3 months like we said. Means if i go i will not have my son period!
I really need help because she do everything to get on my nerves and my son is my everything and i dont want to lose him, please can someone help me please!
Regards
Mr.Sea
me and my ex have been spilt now for 2/3 years and even tho there is still bitterness between us get along for our 5 year old sons sake. everything has run fine. payed maintainance on time and had my son EVERY weekend for 2days n 1 night. till month ago when she anounsed that we was starting every other week. not agreed together. just her idea that it would be good for my son n i would just have to get used to it? ive fought n fought trying to get it reinstated but no joy.i feel she is not being fair to ether me or my son so started paying maintaince on the access? every other week.now she is threatening me with legal if i dont pay the 2 ive missed?? where do i stand??
I have recently had him for Christmas as we are now taking turns each year on who he stays with. Me my parents, sister, brother in law and nephew are all planning a holiday away next April. I have asked my ex's permission to take my son away too, in which she has replied he is not ready to be that far apart from me...
Now I never have any issues with my son at weekends. He never cries for his mum and is a very happy and outgoing boy. I just want to understand what my entitlement is to having him for longer than just my weekends, for example holidays, bank holidays? And what it is I can do as the only response I seem to get from my ex is "he is not ready". I have tried mitigating talks with her, however it just turns into crying and arguing. Never had this issue as of yet with my ex, but as I haven't backed down from my parenting duties and want the full experience of being able to have the freedom to enjoy my time with my son without any restrictions?
Hope you can help!
t along wht should i do? cause she got two kids with other guy she never allow tht guy to see he kids now she want to do tht to me wht should i do
However i dont belive she has any grounds to be awarded it
Anybody know who i can dispute this with?
If this was to happen, what process am I to follow, i.e. she would be falsifying a child's paternity being her husband?
Is there anyway in which a court would order a paternity test to back up my claim?
I was arrested and questioned social services were involved and to cut a long story short I was cleared of all accusation. The police and social services deciced it was mams opinion.
I never saw my son all of October due to this, I now see my son every other weekend Friday to Sunday night as I've always done.
I decided to go for extra access all I want is my son every other weekend Thursday after school to Tuesday morning when I drop him at school.
And half the school holidays .
She's says no all the time and just makes up lies about me and tells me my son says he doesn't want to see me more. I've started the legal process I've attended mediation 3 times to no success. So now the court process has begun.
The problem I've got now is she won't let me see my son Christmas Day but she says that's what he wants he's 9 and I feel she is manipulating him ????
I have the kids in my care and all there needs are met.
she moved to love 160miles away
and has been awarded legal aid on the ground i was violent to her
in 2012 i grabbed her by the neck once in the heat of the moment after alot of years being told how to live and think and not have no soical life etc. I called the police as she was going to remove the children bsck then and didnt know what else to do
however the police never did anything to me of even caution me just left us to be once tempers calmed down
myself on the other hand cant get legal aid
even though she broke into the with 8
other people in August this year
i have put my court application in buf have asked for it to be put on hold until i can afford repesentation-no idea when this will be i dobt get a lot of money and just about get through week -week
any advice or knowledge would be much appricated.
Should i be asked for agreement on this.... we have verbal joint custody been separated 6 months, not sure what the score is on body changing things like this
Cheers
I was once in a relationship and we stop on very good terms. After a year and six months into our separation my ex girlfriend turned up one night in my house to discuss a possible rekindling our relationship which turned to be a lie. That very evening we had sex and she went the following morning.
I did not see nor hear from her until two after her baby was born and then invited me to her house to tell me something. By then I had already moved on with another women in my life which I was about to marry.
At the family house of my ex, she then told me I was the father of her child which initially I laughed over it thinking that was a joke but subsequent days with rhetoric convince me that she was serious. I became angry and upset and we did exchange some few words but later accepted responsibility and later she arranged for us to register the child together. Later provided child care facilities for my child.
Knowing that I have moved with my life, my ex decided to ban me from see the child and told me the child now has got a new father which was had to take because of then my immigration status I couldn't pursue this through the court thinking that will complicate my situation however, I tried as much as I can to keep in touch with the mum but didn't want to know.
I am married for 16 years with four kid, Now the child is 16 years in sixth form, I know where she attends school? Currently what I want is the child to know her biological father as the mum is hell bound to prevent the child from knowing the truth. I have asked my ex on numerous occasions to sit and discuss this issue as its not about us but the child.
Please I need advise to move matters forward
Thank you.
they was 3 children invoved 2 which i have
PR for the other my stepdaughter got taken away she broke in to the house inna desperate attempt to remove them from my and there education etc..
I have put in for a residancy order and prohibited steps
I have since july had full time care of the 2 kids but have just found out i will not be entitled to legal aid...
yet she has sent me s letter from her solicitor asking for me to just hand the kids back over amd disrupt there education and everything they know such as myside of the famliy nan granddad uncle and aunty
i have a clean safe home etc..
and have had to arrange all the contact so far and allow her to speak to the kids each night
any advice where to go from here
i do want to take her to court and hopefully get the residancy order but fear i wont het it and end up losing my kids...
I since she broke in to the house and attempted to remove the children have got my boy in nursery 5days a week and my little girl in f/t with no days off never later either
Just dont know were i go from here may i also mention they is around 160mile between me and my ex as she as moved back to her home town and currenty at her mothers as far as i am aware but hoping to get accommodation so to make sure she has a stance if and when it goes to court
Can i keep on as normal?
And keep the contact with my ex and kids inplace?
As my partner lived in a one bedroom flat before we moved in together a year ago, he would visit his son at his exs home, but once we moved into a bigger place to provide a bedroom for his son, we have been bringing him back to our home for one week; every seven weeks. Brining his son home rather than staying there in the Channel Islands with him costs ALOT less, plus his son then has the chance to reconnect with his family over here.
For our last visit, we went to his exs country to stay for a week as there was an opportunity for my partner to work some evenings while we were there, making it more affordable.
My partners ex has out of the blue told him that he is not to bring his son back to our home for our next visit, and that he would only be able to see him if he stays over there. This is apparently because the last few times we have taken him home, he has been very distressed and has taken weeks to settle back into a routine (which she has never mentioned, and hasn't seemed to be a problem before now), and that she can't trust my partner to not take the child home, although she has absolutely no evidence to back this claim up and no reason to believe that we wouldn't return him home.
We have already booked our flights, made arrangements with other family members, and have been planned a birthday party for him when he is over visiting (which should be in two weeks time).
We simply cannot afford to stay there to visit, as he cost of a hotel alone is £200+, solely for my partner.
We never have any problems with his son while he is with us and the only bad behaviour he shows has been learnt from his mum (swearing, certain behaviours), and he is always our only priority while he is with us, which goes without saying.
Where does my partner stand, and what can he do now? She has threatened to call the police and have my partner arrested for kidnap if we cross the border.
The problem is, he has been told there is a £60 signing on fee and then it's £30 per hour, add the £35 train ticket and it's going to cost £125 to see his daughter for an hour. He is on minimum wage, is there anyway to avoid these costs or at least get help with them?
Thank you.
Thank you.
My boyfriend has a 12 month old son where the mum only lets him see him every other week for like an hour or so... He would like to be more involved( she left him as soon as she found out she was pregnant...) he is not on the birth certificate although it is very clear he is the dad, the little one just looks like him! He pays her a fair amount of money every month because he wants his son to be well cared for! It is all emotionally very straining for him and he does not know what to do in order to get parental rights and to be actually put on the birth certificate! He is scared that if he tries to take legal actions his ex will take off with his son as he is legally not the dad... Any advice please ? Jess
Two weeks ago she asked me to have them again for 7 days so she could go on holiday with her partner. Because I'm out of work and living with my parents I explained that I couldn't afford to have them. At which point her partner threatened to come round and kill me, and she's stopped all access to my children, until I pay for them. What can I legally do to have access to my children? Thanks.
Each family event when we have child, as agreed in order, such as holidays, new year celebrations etc we get a call from CSA asking AGAIN to review salary and for proof of wage as mum called again. She does this when she knows we are enjoying quality time with daughter and either with family friends or on vacation (3rd time) She argues about everything and anything and we have resorted to reducing contact to factual essential communication only though she still manages to create a storm and go mental.
Is there a way we can avoid harassment from CSA when they see payments are made regularly and know we have always been co-operative with them and mother. We hope they have records that each time they have been asked to contact us we have either been on holiday (with child) or have had family visiting for special event? There is no doubt mother is psychologically troubled but how can they still do their job but avoid constantly harassing out family during special moments?
We share joint custody with her making dad to day care for our daughter.
Last week she lost our daughter to family services due to serious matters with drugs and neglect.
What are my rights now can I have our daughter she on tests that I should an family services keep my daughter from me I've done nothing wrong. I am heading home for court next week I need some help here please
My issue is that my little girl is nearly 2, I have always been a big and active part of her life, having her usually 10-14 days a month..usually I'd pick her up on the train and bring her back to mine, my daughter lives 70 miles away with her mother. The journey usually would cost around £80 altogether to pick her up and then take her back a week later.. But about 2 months ago when she was staying with me I couldn't afford to take her home, due to my hours been cut at work.. I told her mum This which then resulted in her giving me a lot of abuse along the lines of me not being fit enough to look after our child and how she doesn't trust me to have her if I can't get her home.. This is the only time in two years I have asked her mum to pick her up. In the first place I never agreed to doing all the travelling but just went with it as I wanted to see my daughter.. Since then she hasn't allowed me to see my little girl, I've been up on two occasions and she won't let me near her, I've messaged her countless times to try finding out how my little girl is with no response..the only.response ive actually received off her at all was one saying we needed to go to mediation, after researching that it doesn't look like it will do us any good..
Long story short I want access to my daughter. Not only is this breaking my heart not being able to see her grow, but I cannot begin to imagine the effects it will be having on her, going from seeing me every other week for 5-7 days at a time, to not at all! She won't have a clue who I am..
I'll appreciate any help and advice your can offer!
Thanks!
I am moving back down to coventry as that is where home is for me but is also 300 miles each way.
I tried to work out an agreement with the mother about 1 week a month until he is old enough to go to school and then bank holidays and half of his school holidays.
She is not willing to negotiate and is tellIng me the most she will agree to is a weekend a month. This is as good as giving me no time at all as it takes 12 hours for a return journey and 12 hours back, so effectively it will be pointless aswell as financial unviable.
I was present on registration of birth and have payed (with proof) an agreed maintenance between us both.
What can I do?
I am contacting you if you can give me any advice on the situation my son is experiencing . My son who is 11 years old (12 next month), he wants to stay with me every weekend but his mother will not let him. I have him every other weekend and it has been this arrangement since I split from his mother. But now he is getting older I feel that he can start making some decisions for him self.
Can you please advise on this matter for me as I do not know what rights I have?
Thanks in advance
My husband has a nine year old from a previous relationship they were only together a matter of weeks. He was seeing him regular for four years and paying even when I met him then shortly after she stopped him seeing him and now he has to pay csa which is no problem but there is no reasoning with her to see the boy as we have a two year old so would be nice for them to meet. We are thinking of taking her to court it's been nearly five years since he has seen him how is this fair just because she thinks he has a new dad now ? Is it worth fighting will we get somewhere ? Thanks
Question!!!
I have an agreement to pay my ex £300 per month for my 4 children, I am allowed access whenever I want but it normally amounts too 2 nights a week.
I have no arguement with paying this amount for my children, however.. She lives with an unemployed man he has access to his child from a previous relationship and they have 1 child between them! 6 kids under that roof including my 4.. Now not to complicate things she has 1 more on the way! That'll be 7!!!
I know my money for my kids is not going on my kids and I'm providing for 4 soon to be 5 other people in that house!!
How is this fair on my kids! I'd rather give them the money or buy them things! Is put it into a savings account! Anything other than seeing it not go on them!!
Is there anything I can do? Or am I basically shafted??
Please help me
This is because he mis-behaved at nursery , he thought he was the Incredible Hulk and the nursery in my view over reacted and contacted my ex at work and explained their concerns of his behaviour .
In turn my ex phoned me and blamed me for his behaviour at nursery , and stopped contact instantly .
Every single I have had my son since he was 1 year and now he is 4 .. He has a 6 year old brother from my previous relationship in which he has a very close bond with .
I am on the birth certificate and I know have rights .
But she is so hard to talk to and refuses to listen ..
Please help with any advice .
Thanks tom
kind regards
My wife and I have 3 brilliant kids. Unfortunately we split up after 16years and both have new relationships. I have ended up moving abroad and we agreed I woukd see the kids once a month over a weekend and coukd keeo in touch via Skype. I bought all three a tablet each each, set up a skype account for each and told them they could contact me.when.they wanted to. Granted I may jot be there all the time but when I hear the call I'll answer. My wife and i agreed they woukd call me at least twice a week, on a sunday and wednesday. I also in neteeen received.messages from my two eldest and also a call from them. As my daughter tried to call me and couldn't get hold of me she got upset and my wife found it difficult to deal with. So she threatened that should the kids try and contact me on days not agreed upon that she would remove skype from their tablets. She is now doing so and thus disabeling the kids to contact.me.on their terms and.also stopping me from contacting them when I want or messaging.them.when I'd like...
Is there anything i can do about this?
Any help or advice is apreciated.
Thanks in advance.
Rob
Can she stop me seeing or talking to them?
This is my first post and I need your help.
Me and my ex partner have been split for almost 3 years after things not working out. We have 2 boys together (4 and 3).
The reason for this post is my ex keeps messaging, calling and facetiming me regarding my eldest's behavior. At home he seems to be a very angry boy, hitting and throwing a huge tantrum every other day, which results in her contacting me to calm him down. When he is with me I never see this side of him, don't get me wrong he'll have his moments but I nip it on the bud and lasts no longer than 5 minutes, its nothing like i hear or see on the phone.
It has got to the stage where she says she can no longer cope with him, countless times she's told me this now (Over a year) and it gets so far and she changes her mind. Last night it happened again but went further than usual, i ended up going round there to talk about him actually coming home with me. The way she explained how he is was like she was talking about a completely different little boy! We both agreed it would be best for him to come with me but she wanted to sleep on it first before she made the final decisions. As you can imagine this morning she had changed her mind again which made me fairly upset. Its been going on for over a year now with no sign of his behavior changing at home.
Personally I feel its his way of getting attention, are youngest i feel gets it all from her. She baby's him still and also maybe because my eldest looks like me and the youngest looks like her is the reason for it, i don't know.
I Just feel he is not happy at home, I need help. What right as a father do I have to say enough is enough, he is living with me?
Kind Regards
Simon
see him and I could not afford to go to court. I have been paying CSA every month from my salary (not court order) I am struggling to pay the maintenance every month as its a large chunk of my wages. As I am paying out of my salary that was at my request and not a court order, can I stop the payments?
My child's Mother has requested to know where we are staying when I have him at the weekend... I am just wondering if this is a legal right she has, or whether whilst he is with me, this kind of thing isn't a legal obligation on my part?
Thanks
connection with your child, the nature of the application (which may stand you in good stead because of your job which forces you to work away). It will also take into account the nature of the application and/or whether the application might be harmful in any way to your child. Should the resident parent object then it is likely it will go to a full hearing. I hope this helps.
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her mother is very unclean the caravan is dirty I think its not the best place to bring up a child in filth
My sister said that her friend was going to move to Manchester and that her ex managed to stop it from happening but I am wondering what my rights are and if there is anything I can do to stop it?
ago. For 2 years hes done everything to see hes son . Mediation. Which sshe refused to go then court never showed the first time . The showed next time contact order was put in place she gotfed up with taking him to contact centre so said he could see he's son at there flat got fed up with that said he could have him over night at our house so my son could see him more thats been like this for 3months . Now she has stop all of use from seeing him . Saying my son is not interested in him .doesn't care if my son works 50 hours aweek he can't do any more hes asked her if he can be informed about school or if hes poorly and she says no .that he's confused to who he is as he calls her new husband daddy . And is having problems at school and its all are flaunts where dosr my son stand .
I need some advise, my son has lived with his mother and her partner who he does not get on with and is scared off. Recently my son has expressed large desires not to return after the usual visits, to the point is he is refusing to return this weekend. If he does not go, I do not feel I can force him to go back, where do I stand legally? It is all very worrying as it is having an emotional impact on my son. My son is 12?
I am on the mortgage with my father as my wife was unable to obtain a mortgage with her credit and debt history. I do not care who gets the house to be honest as I have two children who obviously are my first priority. My concern is that as my wife does not work more than 15 hours a week and has outstanding debts her money does not cover anywhere near the money she will need to keep the mortgage so I am guessing we will need to sell the house.
As it is a joint mortgage with my father I when we sell the house will the equity be split three ways or will I get half and have to split that half with my wife and my father gets a whole half? I have obviously paid for the house myself and my fathers name was on the mortgage to help us get onto the property ladder.
I want to look at the best way for my children as this is going to be hard enough, I just wish I could pay the mortgage the child support and everything but unfortunately cannot.
Following week I contacted 3rd party (her mum) and explained that after recent events in don't want anyone coming here so can we meet at an agreed place to drop off my daughter and she basically told me its my house or nothing. I tried again this week and still the same. What can I do
I have got a son but lives with his mum.
We split when my son was about 2 months for serious issue which no man accept.
since left her, all time nothing stable about seeing him, she wanted to change his father name on birth certificate.
everything I try to do for my son, its not valuable from her side and tells others that I am careless and don't want see my son etc.
since April she completely stopped me to take my son to my home & spend together only see him there couple hours then thats it.
I live in London & she lives in Colcheste so I can't afford to go there every week and I prefer safe that transport money for him.
all I want to spend with my son a week or couple days constantly in the month or when I am free then return him back but now she rejected that completely.
I don't know from where to start and what to do?
I need help and advise
every one confusing me .
thanks
Right now we have joint custody and if I make 60000 and she makes 30000 then I minus 30000 from my 60000 and pay support on the remaining 30000. But why if she stays home to raise someone elses baby I have to suffer and pay more? It was not my choice.
Can somone tell me if that is correct for me to pay more because of this situation.
Thanks everyone
my daughters mom has decided to she wants to leave and go back to her moms and wants to take our daughter with her. what rights do i have?
i want to be her full time father just like i am now. i dont want to have her over weekends of whatever. niether do i want my daughter being uprooted and live with her mom at her nans, she wont even have her own bedroom. i realy need help. my daughters mom has already had the police out to me because i wouldnt let her leave with my daughter, but these stupid police offers told me my daughter is better off with her mom, what do they know !?
any help/advice will be very grateful. thank you
As I am on both of their birth certificates, does this fall into the category of an everyday decision that I have no say in, or is it an issue I have a right to make a joint decision about. Quite frankly I think it is disgusting to leave them with a 13 year old, he may well be a mature young lad but I don't think any 13 year is equipped to deal with emergency situations and I think they are easily distracted and don't fully understand the responsibility of looking after young children. Their danger radar is non existent. That's just my opinion, would appreciate others thoughts so I know if I'm just worrying for no reason. Thanks guys
you wont be breaking any laws if you obtain your son as I have asked this information in the past directly from the police...It does however reflect badly on you as even though you are his father it classes as kidnap. this is not an offence punishable by law and your child's mother would have to take you to court to acquire contact just as you would if it was the other way around. If the police have failed you as they have me I understand your wanting to protect your child I cannot condone any course of action you might take but just know that you are breaking no laws as long as you are on his BC
Firstly are you on the birth certificate? Secondly has your gf gone abroad, or do you know where she is living? My advice would be to contact a family solicitor (ie Emery Johnsson) if you're like me and unable to afford the costs you should go to your local court and enquire about self representation and obtaining a contact order...this is easier to enforce if you are aware of how to contact your partner
My argument to date is, his ex works minimum hours, and the eldest has just announced that he is going to defer his college course till September 2015!!
Does this mean that theoretically he stops paying the equivilant of CSA FOR 12 mths, as the eldest has chosen this route, unfortunately he has never had a job as of yet, and I struggling with the whole set up!
Please advise
I met my partner when she was 6months pregnant the child is not mine. The biological father was not around until my son was born but was not interested in baby just getting between me and my partner and only saw baby once every so often when he could be bothered but then he stopped and he started threatening violence upon us so we got the police involved. Baby is now 7months old only seen biological father 5times and my partner has never received anything from him he is not on birth certificate and I have been bringing baby up as my own. Now only yesterday he says he wants access and is threatening with court me and my partner are scarred because we don't want him around as he is violent and a heavy drinker what rights does he have and what can we do?
Thanks
Dan
I have not seen my children in 6 years (they chose not to see me) and I believe my 19 year old dropped out of her college course from fall 2013 - spring 2014. I continued to pay child support, as I believed she was in school, but have suspicions she wasn't.
Is there anyway I can find out if she did in fact go to school? Or on what date she dropped out? Keep in mind she is an adult and the college won't provide me with that information.
I'm not even a father yet but will be I a few weeks all being well. My ex partner decided she wanted to be a single mother as soon as the test went positive and insists we will never be a family, hard enough but she is now making all kinds of threats. Baby due October and she has already frozen me out of the rest of the pregancy, only talks becuause I gave her £1000 cash for a midwife and send food every week, but now she is taking about taking the baby to America for a month when it's six months old and then for six months or more when it's a year old for her work. She doesn't want me to complain and just go with the flow saying I can visit for a week or two if I'm behaving like an adult. I know she needs my consent but im not sure i can stop her as the fight it would cause would make the future working relationship impossible, but this seems totally unreasonable, i'll have missed a 1/3 the my child life by the time is 18 months old. Any thoughts people? Thanks x
My wife & I have been seperated for 4 months but not divorced yet. It's been 4 weeks since I last saw my son (7months old). My wife won't let me see my son. I try calling my but no answer, I try texting her, she don't reply back most times & when she does she says not this week. What do I do? Where do I go? I'm getting to a point where my baby boy might not recognise his own father.
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My ex girlfriend left me after 20 yrs together ( not married ).
taking 3 of my children with her ,
Now a month later one of my sons the 12 yr old
Wants to come and live with me ,which my ex has
Agreed to letting him he is also registered
As disabled as he has junior arthritus , i was wondering
Can i just swap all his details over
To all the nessasary authorities. Ie. schools , disability ,hospitals , etc
Sir, I would like to know how much you pay for the photos and I would
Also know that you are the one who will send me the money first to buy
clothing, on which I have a photo shoot with dressing and subsequent images
I hope, sir, that you are very serious too, because I'm too by title
peter omokhodion do not play around
Quick brief... Recently left the military and considering going Uni for 2 years to study. I am a home owner and I have people working on funding options for me.
the main question.. If I'm going to be at uni obviously I'm going to be pretty much skint for the next 2 years. I currently pay maintenance straight into the mother of my Childs bank and our relationship is quite civil. How/will I still have to find money to give to her if at all??
many thanks
I really dont want to go to court for this but she is being so stubbon about everything i think i have to.
She keeps telling me that she is doing this to better my daughters future, but surly she dosnt have to go all the way to u.s to do this and take her away from my father.
Hopefully, if it does go to court they will see that aswell.
She now wants to move out and take our 2 year old son with her, I still love her and have said we should go to counselling to see if we can work out our differences but I guess she just wants out.
The thing is we live in a two bed flat we are both in debt and sleep in the same bed but are like strangers. I feel like she is taking the **ss out of me and I am at a lost of what I can do I'm trying not to rock the boat and flip on her for the sake of our child.
Where do I stand legally CSA, Access etc
But I am in a situation where my partners ex is being a t**t. She expects us to change our days or times with my partners daughter becos she's made arrangements but if we ask her to change things she always kicks up a fuss and basically says no. :( she's even told him now that bcos we have said to no to a kids party that its our day then that's that.. She is refusing us to have her becos she's taking her to the party and we can have her after that. Can she do this? When everything has been arranged in mediation x
My partner has 3 kids, 18, nearly 16 and 5 years. His eldest son lives either at ours or wherever he can get a bed (his mom has said he cant stop there cos she gets no money for him) his second eldest does stay with his mom, and his daughter lives with her grandmother (moms side) and has been for 9 months now. Dad has tried to gain custody of his daughter but mom keeps lying to prevent it. He pays maintenance every week via standing order, yet she doesnt give the kids anything, nor provide clothes etc, we do that on top. She tells the kids the dad doesnt provide. Should he have to pay the mom if she doesnt have the children? Dad is obvoulsy getting really down now, as this has been going on for nearly 3 years, and its getting worse! I dont know how else to help him. I dislike my ex, I dont speak to him and discussions take place via text. He has messed me about over momney too etc etc, however, I have never once retaliated, so this bugs me cos I just cant understand why my partners ex cant just grow up and put the kids first!
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