What Goes Into the Cafcass Family Report?

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What Goes Into the Cafcass Family Report?

For an agency that’s not well known, Cafcass (the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) wields an awful lot of power. Whenever parents can’t agree over an application for a Contact Order, they become involved, compiling a report on the family, both parents and children. The document they produce carries a great deal of weight with the Family Court.

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Both Cafcass and Family Court have undergone their share of controversy, the first for some of the content of their reports and its methodology, the second for operating in relative secrecy. Cafcass presents its report as a completed document at court, and interested parties have no chance to challenge it beforehand, although they are sent copies.

Who Compiles The Cafcass Report?

The Cafcass Staff who compile the reports are known as Children and Family Reporters. It’s their job to interview both parents in the case, as well as the children, and any others who might be needed, which could mean social workers, medical professionals, or even relatives.

The Reporters are social workers themselves, but their qualifications don’t go beyond that (one criticism levelled at them is that they sometimes make observations that go beyond their field of expertise, such as in the medical area).

From the interviews they conduct, the Reporter will determine two things: whether there should be contact allowed, and, if so, how much. It’s a measure of how important the Cafcass recommendation is that the court will almost invariably adhere to it.

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The Cafcass Report Process

The building blocks of the Cafcass report are the interviews the reporters carry out. They talk to both parents, generally quite extensively, although not necessarily in a home setting, which can leave people uneasy in an unfamiliar environment.

Since the report takes around 10 weeks to compile, a number of people are interviewed, a wide range, and there are instances when the court will ask the Reporter to talk to a specific person, for instance a health visitor.

The Reporter will inform parents about the people they’ll interview, which will include the police and a check of the Child Protection Register – that’s standard, and shouldn’t alarm anyone.

Of course, they’ll also want to interview any children involved, as long as they’re old enough. Part of the responsibility of the court is to take the wishes of the children into account where possible, although that doesn’t mean that will necessarily happen. It’s vital that the Reporter remains neutral with the child and doesn’t ask him or her to take sides.

Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.

Criticism of Cafcass Reports

Although most Cafcass reports are fine, there have been a number of criticisms thrown at Reporters. These can be for inappropriate remarks, or ones that are unqualified. For instance, a report might mention “domestic violence” in a relationship, without explaining what the violence is (it could, in fact, be something as trivial as sulking). There have been occasions when the Reporter has included nothing in the report about the wishes of the child, even when the child is old enough to expresses preferences and opinions. At times reports haven’t included pertinent information about the children, such as learning difficulties.

In other words, the reports aren’t perfect, and where a person finds failing in the report, there are grounds to ask for it to be disregarded – that can be entirely or just in part – or to be discredited. There have been occasions when the court has made it decision based on a bad report. When that’s happened, the bad report constitutes grounds for appeal.

Not all experiences of Cafcass are negative, many are positive and help numbers of fathers gain access to their child. Have a look at our reader story My Positive Experience of Cafcass.

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Gazza 19/07/2021 at 12:30 am
I have just had my Remote Directions Hearing to say it went bad is a understatement I found out the wife had applied for a non molestation order 6 days before the hearing? "Convenient" I thought as she never got her scott schedule done in time for the hearing either? I mentioned it to the Judge but she never batted a eyelid? I was so unprepared for her allegations & also the Cafcass caseworker safeguarding report no mention of what I said? Just mostly damaging about me nearly the same as what my wife had said? I have found out since the hearing I was supposed to get the Cafcass report but I never received it? It's as if I was a peice of meat lamb to the slaughter I lost it had a rant the told the Judge I was sorry left the phone hearing before I should have. I felt I had complied with everything that was asked of me in the Court order in time for the hearing but I was let down by Cafcass with the report, & the District Judge did not seem to care that my wife had not complied with the Scott Schedule or School reports before the hearing as the Court order requested? Hence what was the point of a direction hearing? It was always going to go to a fact finding hearing.
Vic Tims... 24/02/2021 at 12:42 am
It is reassuring to read that men are also admitting themselves as subject to the narcissistic abuse myself and other survivors from courses like the Freedom programme go to to seek support (although the data stated was that the majority of violent perpetrators were tradesmen and specifically Scaffolders).
I am a woman who had the misfortune of falling for a narcissist conman, someone who love bombed, made himself out to be responsible and caring before discarding when he had secured his target into position. He went on to steal, gaslight, lie to his family and friends to triangulate, use for a place to stay as required whilst being inconclusive about whether he was with his family or not...had his family lie. I had mutual friends tell me he was lying to another party who he couuldnt care less about because she was thick and didnt challenge him. This man chose benders over his commitments to see his kid. He stopped paying what his child was entitled to because he had to pay for someone else he was using for a place to stay...carried on denying it all to lead his family on until proof came out...
I found out he started lying in 2017, apparently telling some random he cared because she was easy...this us what men do...sad isnt it
Liz 09/01/2021 at 12:30 pm
Hi so my partner is going through court with his ex patner she has lied through her teeth about alligations and we have photographic evidence of bruises on one of the children this child in particular has stated to the school that mom has been physical and stated to CPU to also stated to a number of authorities that thry want to live with dad . Only caffcass haven't requested this evidence to look at. And havnt pulled the mother up on her lies. Even though you can clearly see she has contridicted her self alot. Can i contact the caffcass officer on behalf of my partner with these images my self or could this just make things worse.
Khan 20/12/2019 at 5:24 pm
Hi there got Cafcass report is this alarming or common

Analysis of issues arising from safeguarding or risk identification

Safeguarding checks are complete.
The information currently available suggests that Ib may have been exposed to parental domestic abuse. It is alleged that Ib*** has been present and witnessed the abuse and that he has been put at risk of both emotional and physical harm himself when caught up in the middle of incidents.
Ib *** has not had any contact with his father for over a year and if what mother reports is true his last contact with his father may have been a very frightening one. Ib*** needs to have all his needs met in an emotionally warm environment free from exposure to parental domestic abuse and risk of physical and emotional harm.

The court is going to require more information to ensure that future arrangements for Ib are safe and in his best interests. The following advice is offered to the court:-

? This matter is not considered suitable for mediation or Separated Parents Information Programme.

? The court may benefit from disclosure of the assessment completed by H*** Local Authority and parties providing statements dealing with the alleged domestic abuse against mother and any against Ib***
? The court may then be in a better position to clarify whether the alleged abuse is going to be determinative and whether any fact finding is required.
? The issue of Ibraheem spending time with his father is going to require further assessment by way of a s7 report. Such a report would be completed by Cafcass but could not commence until after any fact finding has been concluded, should it be required.
? The author of the s7 report will assess whether contact is safe and appropriate and include recommendations in the report.
? Court may benefit from enhanced police checks which would provide more detail on any involvement with family.
? If available the Cafcass officer may be able to provide the court with any further assistance required
Khan 20/12/2019 at 5:19 pm
Some detail about me and child I m 40 , no criminal record orprosecution nor any mental problem ,,my child is 5 years old

I had separation from wife last year she alleged me fordomestic abuse which is not proven

Recently I made my child contact or arrangementin court as mother was not allowing me to meet my child only allowing for supervised contact

recently Cafcass has done it safe guard with nothing alarming

My question would court allow to me to meet my child freely or there would be some limitations in meeting or prohibition?

Can child can stay with me few days like in weekend ?

Can I request courtmy child passport to held by court ?As I may doubt he would be abducted to back country ?
Khan 20/12/2019 at 5:13 pm
Some detail about me and child
I m 40 , no criminal record or prosecution nor any mental problem ,, my child is 5 years old

I had separation from wife last year she alleged me for domestic abuse which is not proven

Recently I made my child contact or arrangement in court as mother was not allowing me to meet my child only allowing for supervised contact

recently Cafcass has done it safe guard with nothing alarming

My question would court allow to me to meet my child freely or there would be some limitations in meeting or prohibition ?

Can child can stay with me few days like in weekend ?

Can I request court my child passport to held by court ? As I may doubt he would be abducted to back country ?
Dobbs 01/04/2019 at 11:00 am
Went to court caffcass recommended supervised contact where my parents would supervise but in a interim but before we went in court my exs solicitor said her client my ex didn't wat this and therefore its not been allowed
Al 11/02/2019 at 10:40 am
I separated from my wife in February 2017. 2 months later she made a criminal complaint against me. She alleged I had subjected her too controlling and coercive behavior and had assaulted her.
Fortunately I was able to provide the police with a lot of material to undermine her complaint and I was not prosecuted.
At the time of our separation, our son was 9 years old and he was angry with his mum for bringing the marriage to an end.
I successfully applied to the court for a child arrangement order and was able to see my son regularly for a period of 2 years.
Sadly now my son has turned against and has stated he no longer wishes to see me
He has told the cafcass advisor untruths and stated he no longer wishes to see me.
This is a very hard pill to swallow as both myself, family and friends I've shown him a great deal of love and support.
I'm of the view that is Mum I slowly turned him against me.
Friends and family tell me to walk away and leave them to it as I could not have done any more.
Unable to do this as I am his father and I still love him daily and remember the great times we had together prior to recent events unfolding.
I I intend to address the court personally with a rational heartfelt honest statement when I attend letter this month.
I suppose what I'm asking, as any other fathers had similar experiences, what advice can they offer and will the judges listen to me
Anonneedhelp 24/01/2019 at 8:58 pm
Hello, I’m wondering if anyone can help. My partner has had an ongoing case to see his child for almost three years now. He should have received photos, letters, be allowed to send birthday and Christmas presents etc for the last 18 months or so, however his ex hasn’t done any or this or allowed him to send any. His court hearing for his child arrangements order has now been postponed TWICE as a result of CAFCASS not filing their report in time, on both occasions. This has delayed contact with his child by 7 months. He has attended a DAPP course, as requested by the court and been present at all fact finding hearings etc, paid his child maintenance and paid for solicitor fees on top of this- costing nearly £15,000 up to present. We are just looking for some advice regarding where we stand? He hasn’t had any contact with his child since they were 2, they are now nearly 5 and therefore it’s unlikely they will remember him. CAFCASS have made this process very frustrating and he is really down because of it. Can anyone offer any advice?
Hello Jack 07/12/2018 at 8:41 pm
It amazes me that mothers complain about the lack of contact fathers have with their respective children, only in most of these cases it's the mothers that prevent the contact.
Cafcass what a joke. I found most of these Reporters have been adopted or been in care themselves - so their judgement is tainted by their own experiences or viewpoint on parents - thus many men not seeing their children.
Hopefully the British government will understand that gang violence is in majority of cases, due to a lack father's contact with their respective children.
SeparatedDads Editor 19/07/2018 at 12:22 pm
You may wish to ask your question via the Separated Dads forum, as there will be members who have gone through a similar experience and who will help advise.
Still Fighting 18/07/2018 at 2:13 pm
Has anyone had an false allegation of abuse proven false? If so, what was the outcome? Are Cafcass interested in false allegations and the well being of the Child being in the care of a false accuser?
Chris 03/07/2018 at 8:24 pm
@he-is-breathing-.if my child ever come to see I would slam the door in her face .thats how long it’s been .that is my thinking .my girlfriend try’s to make me see a different way I just don’t see it or get or thinking and but me onto blog about this stuff .if I am completely honest I say I see it to please her .she doesn’t no my x but my x trash gods truth if see her in the street you would the other way you wouldn’t want to be tried it but you can’t say those things to women they get upset .
Chris 03/07/2018 at 8:04 pm
@is -he- breathing-.you be right mate .i tell you something none of my family or friends see there kids from there x girlfriends gods truth .its normal in my circle.my x thought she was sneaky .once she left that was it I harassed her to change number to break all ties .she was just praying I would get a solicitor but that was never going to happen .her thinking and my thinking are completely different.she is the mother it’s her job not mine .she thought I would take the child because her sister told her that because the guy of lured her away was heavy into drugs .my thinking was that’s her problem not mine .
Jaxc Editor 03/07/2018 at 2:31 pm
@is_he_breathing - that's awful. I hope when they are old enough in a few years (I know that's not much consolation) but at least then they can decide for themselves :(
is_he_breathing 03/07/2018 at 9:36 am
CAFCASS came to my house to see me and my children and it was the last time I saw my children.
We did an Easter egg hunt, made Easter eggs, went bowling in the afternoon but the children had miserable faces, my ex wife had kept them up all night. They were irritable and are very negative towards me (parental alienation?). Age 11.

CAFCASS recommend it is not appropriate for me to be near them. I intimidate them, bad influence and not happy.

I feel like I invited a wrecking ball into our home. We played some word games, CAFCASS officer reported I was belittling her. I had a timetable of activities, cafcass reported I was too ridgid and structured. Children bit off, thats because they are scared of me. There wasn't a single positive.
Maybe I should have just gone down to MacDonalds and sat outside smoking weed.

I love my children and 10 years of struggling to get contact (=10 years being denied it), constant broken court orders and now they've gone. Its heartbreaking.
Hidden agenda 26/06/2018 at 9:00 pm
I'm fighting for resedency of my children at present they are with me and are doing well at school but I met another parent who had a child in the same special needs class as one of my children but he made a statement in school that needed to be investigated by the police and relevant services and we split up but now she has made contact again and has made it clear that wants to come back as the allegations have been proven to be false
Now I know my ex wife will want a safeguarding check done and although it's going to be fine I don't want to have to add this to the on going case
Will it have to be a cafcass one or one that can be done ourselves
Mick 14/04/2018 at 4:44 am
I first took my ex to court in November 2017 for contact as she had stopped it yet again I got granted contact but had to go back as disagreement on travel arrangements.
I met my new partner and I started staying at hers on a weekend also so I was close so I didn’t have to travel when I had my contact anyways the children’s mother didn’t like the idea of me being with someone else and made lies up in court stating I wasn’t consistent enough and it was effecting the children’s education but a couple weeks prior I spoke to my child’s head teacher to ask how she was doing in school etc and was told she was a very hard worker very pleasant always asking for more work to do and wished they had more children like her but cause the mother told the courts that the education was falling due to my contact or my consistency and asked the courts to stop my contact.
So the clerk asked the woman from cafcass as she said that there are no safeguarding issues at all however since the children’s mother has stated that the education has fallen I would recommend that the contact should be stopped... is there anything I can do about this as my ex is a very convincing compulsive liar
LOUIS SILK 04/03/2018 at 10:27 pm
Hi, My soon to be ex wife is making my time with my children very difficult, she pre arranges what and where I should take them prior to my collecting, she calls them many times when in my care saying she misses them which makes them feel guilty about being with me. she tries to make me feel like a hated person when I'm collecting my boys from there school. its becoming unbearable, I have a court arrangement in place. I have ad to block her emails and her mobile but have left her landline so she can contact the boys when I have them. she seems to have this control issue and demands I do this and that with words like immediately! I love my children very much and I'm so worried she is using them to hurt me.
SeparatedDads Editor 15/02/2018 at 10:31 am
You may wish to join and ask this question via our Separated Dads forum, as we don't have any knowledge of how Cafcass works from an insider's/court point of view.
Great dad being brok 14/02/2018 at 1:27 pm
Hi i want to know when you have first court appearance and cafcass officer see you is this meant to be one on one only with no other peopme to to be present as my ex has collaborated with another to fabricate false accusations to police which have been dropped with no further action which was designed just so my ex could claim lefal aid but on my court appearance i believe my ex had requested my other ex to sit in on the cafcass meeting and she also tried to make herslef a mckenzie friend which i was able to reject her coming in the room as a person with a personal interest in the case i just beed clarification on the cafcass officers dealings so i can complain about the treatmebt i recieved as the cafcass officer tried to speak on my behalf and when i asked the judges somrthing she attempted to cut me off and i told you dont speak for me you are not my solicitor and i believe she is now hindering me getting access to my child. Any ideas on what i can do in this situation.
Stu 01/02/2018 at 12:50 pm
Can a CAFCASS report be challenged? When I met with CAFCASS I said to my solicitor that I felt that they had already sided with my ex-wife and I have just received the report, most of what I spoke about seems to have been omitted. There seems to be lots of mention of the parents being hostile to one another (which is bad for our son), yet all of this has been generated by my ex. There has been no mention of the threats, verbal abuse that I've been on the receiving end of, the manipulating and controlling behaviour and generally putting our son in the middle of thing that are for adults. I've tried to make things as amicable as possible, paying for nursery costs when I wasn't obliged to do so, and even a holiday on one occasion.I filed to the court for 50:50, she counter filed a month later that I have our son every other weekend and one night for dinner. CAFCASS' one sided report is now supporting her, which makes me think what have I done!?
SeparatedDads Editor 22/01/2018 at 10:05 am
In this instance, if you are unsure who this man is, he could be committing fraud or have something to hide on some level, so it is worth gathering all the information you have and approaching the police on an informal level. If he is not on the birth certificate, then he currently has no rights to your child. If you bring the fact up in court that you don't know his proper identity, then you can use this as an objection. Plus, the fact he has changed his names various times and you have had to try to track his real identity via the police.
Key 21/01/2018 at 3:24 pm
Hi my ex and I spilt up before my daughter was born
His seen her few times not provide at all.
Resently I found out his not what he said he was
He told me he was 33 year old man
But his passport and birth certificate says his 44 his changed his name 3 times in 3 years.
I don’t know who this man is. He won’t tell me and now his taking me to court and telling me he will get legal right as his not on birth certificate
Is this true? Will the judge not looking into his past and ask who he is. As he said you wouldn’t.
I found out he had ccj and now his changed his name again his manged to wipe his history clear and start again! He passport says one age and his Facebook friends says his another.
I don’t know who he is
We was only together 3 months when I fell pregnant

Please help
I worried as if he can change his name get passport in different ages etc what says he won’t run off with my daughter
Please help
Will the court grant him legal rights etc
Fred 28/11/2017 at 6:33 am
Please can anyone help with this?

I have a court order for contact for a few hours during week, 10 hours every Sun and 1 sleepover 1st Sat every month however over the past 5 years my ex has allowed me so much more.

From August 2016 till May 2017 my children had 103 sleepovers as well as spending 4 hours with them 3 days par week.

From May until September she tried to sell family home but I was not allowed to sign it over as it was classed as an asset in my IVA so all contact was hit and miss.

I applied to have order enforced but on First hearing she filed a huge list of reasons why contact should be stopped. All lies as I have recordings of her asking kids if they want to spend 2 weeks with me from 20th August and several others asking similar.

My question

Can this recording be used as evidence to prove when it suits I can have loads of contact?
lottie 21/11/2017 at 5:21 pm
Hi i need help at the moment my children r spending time in a contact centre with their dad. We have only had two sessions I think his doing OK but we are having problems with the centre its self. On these two sessions we have has incidents first one was they let the father see me, which isn't allowed then they left my kids alone with him in a room for 30-1min which also isn't allowed. As its meant to be supervised but we have had other problems to we have trouble getting are interview and contact plan info off them we was told we would get it and the order says so to . we don't think they noted are stuff down . the question I wanted to ask is was contact meant to start . we was told not til we had this Info coz there are risks with suisdie. And his got an heart condition to and a drink problem we r not sure if he still has that which his not open about either .
and I don't think the centre has taken
this serious either . I fell this centre is not professional in any way we have nothing but trouble from them and I don't fell my kids are safe their
Gee 12/09/2017 at 10:18 pm
Hiya I have 16months baby girl. I have just started the process to see baby. I'm bit confused about cafcass report. Does casfass has authority to deny to see my baby. I'm paying child mentainance as well. My wife alligated but police prove it out that they were wrong, I been arrtested by my own and realised with out any charge.
real dads fight 05/09/2017 at 3:18 pm
if i have major concerns about the people around my son do i have the right to ask for there med records an drug test like i have to proven
real dads fight 01/09/2017 at 3:01 pm
im having supervised visits now after a student cascaff said i have mental helth after a 30 min phone call took another 9 weeks b4 i see our chiled. i had a section 7 yesterday and all she asked was what she said. the court asked me to go to a drug worker what i have done been cleane every time. but the cascaff just would not by what i was saying she said and i was honest all the way i was there for 1 hour and 40 mins and i left feeling like a scumbag so i see my key worker today and he said he will come with me as the judge asked me to do this will he be asked questions about me next time in court, im getting really good reports from the contact centre, will the judge listen to the pros i have got along the way as the cascaff made it clear it will be supervised for 6 months ? the risk she said is drink and drugs but they dont test you there so i can go out do what i want turn up and no one will no of course i aint gonna but why so long so it means ill see him for 30 hours over one year. even when i proved she was a lying she still belived her ? there is so much more to say
SeparatedDads Editor 01/09/2017 at 10:49 am
You don't say whether there is a court order in place. However, even if there is if your son is being physically abused you can stop access. Your ex will then have the option to apply to court. As stated in the article interviews will take place. We cannot predict what a court may decide on the back of these interviews. However, as in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
Patricia 31/08/2017 at 2:54 pm
Hello. My son has just turned 4, he is petrified to go to his dads house says he hits him and when I mention it makes him self sick. My ex was very abusive mentally and verbally and also threatening he was sectioned against his will and is only interested in having my son to spite me. My son does not want to go and has meltdowns every time I mention it wetting bed and all sorts will a court make him go ?
AJ Editor 21/08/2017 at 2:12 pm
@George - thanks for this advice. It's good advice especially from where I am standing currently. It has given me confidence to possibly take it to court as up to now I have been too scared. Adam.
George 20/08/2017 at 6:21 pm
I just want to let all fighting fathers out there that a CAFCASS report is not the end of the world. You can to the judge and challenge the report if you feel it has been conducted unfairly.

My case is somehow different to many on here as it involves the mother wanting to permanetly remove our son from the UK and take him to another country. A few months ago a CAFCASS report was produced which was not fit for purpose. It was unbiased on many fronts and recommended that the mother should be given permission to take our son. I challenged the contents of the report and the way it was conducted, and my barrister put up a very good fight.

Suprisingly the Judge also outrightly agreed that the CAFCASS report was not fit for purpose and when the time come to a final hearing, the reporter must come to court and explain her self for compilling such a report and not following the courts guidlines.

Not only did the judge order a new report, CAFCASS were also taken out of the case completely and the judge ordered that a new body should carry out the new report, and that CAFCASS should not be involved in anyway whatsoever.

Not all judges will implement CAFCASS recommendations if you can argue that the report is a complete whitewash. You must never give up fighting for your son or daughter, and I know that the mothers already have an advantage simply because they are mothers, however the law has somehow changed to only reflect the best outcome for the child and not necessarily what the mother wants, so atleast now as fathers, we also have a chance in the family court.

I have been fighting in the family court since the begining of the year, and i dont wish to go into the full background of my particular case online as it would not be fair on the mother, but I will fight until the end.

Im hopefull that this new body ordered to conduct the report, will atleast take an unbiased position when writting the report. Even if the report is not in my favour, the most important aspect is fairness. Fathers also deserve to have a fair hearing in the family courts. The idea that only the mother knows what is best for a child and is best equiped to look after a child following a breaking, is wrong and I hope that as the law is gradually changing, mother and father will be on an equal footing in the family court.

I have learnt alot these past few months, and I encourage all fathers to always fight for what you believe in. If your child grows up, he/she will know that you tried your best.

One thing I would recommend to fighting fathers out there, is not to appear to be attacking the mother personally. Always stay focused on the child. Even if the mother makes wild accusasions about you, you should always stay respectful towards her, afterall she is the mother of your child. It is important that all your energy is focused on the wellbeing of the child. So whenever you make a statement, please refraine from attacking the mother, calling her names etc. I k
SeparatedDads Editor 31/07/2017 at 2:26 pm
If you and your children's other parent can't agree, then you would have to either go through mediation or court. The court will decide what it thinks is in your children's best interests.
Shan 30/07/2017 at 6:05 pm
Can I have my kids for 2 weeks during the summer holidays if I live 100 miles away I've had them before but now for some reason ex is now saying it's to far what rights do I have ??
GB 07/07/2017 at 7:19 pm
I was recently interviewed by a CAFCASS officer and during the interview he told me he would be recommending that my ex-wife have the children for more of the week than I. We have had a 50-50 arrangement operating for the past 7 months but my ex-wife is applying for full custody
Is this procedurally appropriate.
George
SeparatedDads Editor 10/02/2017 at 12:36 pm
We cannot comment on whether Cafcass was right or wrong. However, if you feel you have been unfairly treated then you can complain
Sarah 09/02/2017 at 7:31 pm
Cafcass carried out a report on myself and my partner due to an allegation his son made that I hit him, they accessed my medical findings relating to hospital admissions due to overdoses and disclosed it all to the other party with out any of my consent or permission. Are they allowed to do this, share my personal information without even asking me!
daz 02/02/2017 at 11:53 am
My life is turning upside down...My ex took out a non molestation order because I wouldn't show her my phone and got me removed from house. That was a month ago...we have two young children 1 and 2. We went to court where she lied and made things worse so I couldn't see kids because she said I needed supervised visits or I couldn't have kids. I left court devastated but she contacted me within an hour and she admitted was wrong. I have seen kids at my parents house a few times sticking to her rules, and she also filled in a form to get orders quashed with my a letter from me...we thought could start to sort out our lives again best for kids...but because of my violent past 8 years ago and how she brought it all up it when she was angry to get the order... cafcass have now got involved and have to told her to stop me seeing kids as i'm a danger to them....this is totally unbelievable...and now she is not willing to tell the cafcass or court she made things up as she thinks shell get in trouble...i've rung the court and the judge has seen our request and denied it to be quashed and wants to set a date to see us...my head is all over the place...I just want to see my kids....this all over a mobile phone and her using my past against me.............any advice anybody please!!
Pas 07/01/2017 at 5:25 pm
Carcass lie, they recommended councilling for me saying it would help, they were trying to make me look weak. Do not trust them, they back the mother regardless, they won't let you record the meetings, why not, cause they lie. They did 3 home visits to my ex's house but none to mine, I asked why and they said it would be a waste of time, work that out. They also twist what you say when they do the final report to court. If possible keep them out
Armstrong 04/01/2017 at 7:53 pm
What contact can I have with grandchildren. An what are my rights
Nanny 04/01/2017 at 7:50 pm
What contact can I get to my grandchildren
Trini 28/12/2016 at 1:30 pm
My CAFCASS officer took it upon herself to bring my ex's partner to the contact centre on the day im seeing my son. My questions were shut down and i was asked to leave the building because i thought it was wrong for the officer to do that and it confused my son as to who his father is. Even my solicitors agreed amongst other things. We complained by way sending a complaint letter to CAFCASS. The officer was so angry that she gave a really bad report, that i had such bad interaction with my son and he is in a family unit with mother and partner and my son should not be taken out of that to know me. She insist that i should send gift and cards but not tell my son of this amongst other things. She contacted the legal aid department and i received a letter saying i have no prospect of sucess so my legal aid is cut forthwith.
This was a week before i had to go to court to get full acess. I lost my son because of a CAFCASS officer personal feelings when they should be netural. Now i am stuck. Can you help?
EQUAL RIGHTS FOR FAT 20/11/2016 at 8:41 pm
im like a lot of fathers just want to see my children yet everything changed when my ex wife met someone else threats emotional abuse in front of my 7 yr daughter they even made faulse allegations about me 8 months on bail dropped and although children services stated they belive mother could be making mallicious allegations .its been 14 months since seeing children they state love there dad have no fears or problems with me .got to court c100 and c1a form ex pulled a last attempt to stop me saying she belived i was mentally ill of which ive just had medical and passed so up hers.the court hearing was like a coffee morning with dame edna everage lol can she stop me feb 17 new court ive no criminal convictions yet ex wife has so does her partner
SeparatedDads Editor 19/10/2016 at 11:02 am
You would really need to speak with your legal adviser regarding this matter, especially if the CAFCASS report has been done. If you feel there is some serious neglect going on, please see NSPCC which
Wacko 18/10/2016 at 1:14 pm
Looking for some advice where possible. My ex wife and I have been through the courts with CAFCASS involvement and whilst the outcome was very positive in my favour, she is still being nothing but un-cooperative, especially where schooling is concerned. She will manipulate a situation or the children at every available opportunity and I'm at my wits end. The general hygiene of the children is also becoming a concern as well as the constant name calling she insists on feeding them. Is there a way to make these issues highlighted to somebody so some form of complaint/ action can be done? The emotional well being of my children is being damaged and it needs to stop!
Many thanks.
SeparatedDads Editor 12/10/2016 at 11:33 am
I'm afraid you can only go through the court process to get access to your daughter and report any threats you personally receive to the police. Please see NSPCC link here regarding safeguarding issues.
andy 11/10/2016 at 3:46 pm
I'm going through the courts to get contact with my daughter as I'm not on her birth certificate as my ex is evil she lies threatens to hurt my daughter and as beat me up abused me etc is there anything I can do to protect my daughter from her
Narc-victim 07/10/2016 at 10:22 pm
Currently in middle of section 7 report. Have restraining order against ex until sep next year. Ex never had our child (3.5 yrs old) overnight or longer than 3 hours on his own. Do you think Cafcass will be recommending overnight contact whilst restraining order in place? If we end up using contact centre for handovers they are only open Saturday's so in my opinion it's not even an option, ESP as there are no third parties who could be involved. I really would not be happy if my child was forced to go by the courts when not ready for it and also this RO in place. Any advice appreciated
Accused Falsely 03/10/2016 at 3:12 am
Hi there, please note that judge ordered a S7 report but due to the fact that no information and fast track court cases at that claustrophobic hallways of East London Family Court, I need to post-pone the CAFCASS report; as my ex has raised hell of false accusations against me and currently under Police investigation based on her false claim; There is no concern about my daughter's life as she's grown up 6 yrs old and happy; but the judge was very wrong and ordered a S7 report without any reason/concern; Can I ask the court to postpone the court date as currently raised DV/Non Molestation Order against my ex?
My ex did not mention any grounds of concerns about health safety in her claim, but feminist judge Sarah Davies ignored my questions/ avoided my questions about false allegations and ordered me to remain silent as the 3 women in court (CAFCASS OFFICER was female, also!!!) were discussing between themselves; Avoid this fast track East London Family Court as no one helps there in reception, the orders are always biased towards women!!! lLast week, District Judge Sarah Davies(who is a self-declared feminist, rude and in-competent judge that does not respect respondent fathers) shoed her style so ridiculuously ! She always looks to he left what the CAFCASS officer nods and just follows their instructions! The whole fast track family court in East London (CANARY WHARF) IS RIDICULOUS SCARY AND I URGE ALL FATHERS TO AVOID AT ANY CONDITION BY FOLLOWING THE POSTCODE RULE (OUT OF REACH BY THIS SHAMELESS COURT).
Addyex 29/09/2016 at 7:45 pm
What age does cafcass listen to what children want? Will they be made to see people they don't want too?
Andy 23/09/2016 at 1:42 pm
Hi I've been split up with my ex wife for getting on 4 years now but she still trying her hardest to ruin yet another relationship of mine. I'm cleared to have my son but she is phone ofsted and social services on my partner who is pregnant what's not good as it effects her job and she was cleared to before. The same think happened with my ex girl so there's a pattern I just don't know what the best actions are to take.
Paul 03/08/2016 at 8:13 am
I'm divorced from my Exwife, I've been with a new partner for 18 months. My Exwife wouldn't let me introduce my children to her until she meet her, but every time I tried to get her to meet my partner she got funny and always had something else to do. So I introduced the kids to my partner, she stopped me seeing the kids unless I'm on my own . Is there anything I can do so I can keep seeing my kids with my partner
From paul
SeparatedDads Editor 27/07/2016 at 12:38 pm
The mother can only avoid the court process for so long. If she continues not to attend, she can either be summoned, or the court will make a decision in her absence.
Gary 23/07/2016 at 4:32 pm
What happends if the mother never shows up for court to get a cafcass report? My son is severaly disabled I havent seen him for 2 years.
The ex didnt show up for the 1st court apperance the second is soon and cafcass still hasnt spoke to her.
Mm 29/06/2016 at 1:17 pm
Why is it that a lot of caffcass employees are female personally I think it gives mums an unfair advantage. last time I delt with caffcass I felt the woman judge me instantly and believed my ex's lies...even though the courts didn't and I get exactly what I asked for in weekend costody
SeparatedDads Editor 23/06/2016 at 11:38 am
The father of your step-daughter would have the opportunity to take the matter to court if he wished to apply for access.
Lotte 22/06/2016 at 9:47 pm
I Have a 5 Week Old Daughter I Have Been Allowed To See My Baby When Her Mother and i Where a Item But as It was On & Off For Nearly The Whole Time Baby Joined The World. But Of Late It Seems That Our Relationship Has Faded Due To Arguments & Just Neadless Bickering. I Have Not Seen My Daughter Since Sunday My 1st Fathers Day!! I am a Hardworking Man With Morales & Respect Toward Others I Am a Loving & Careing Man I Know That There Is Absoloutley No Reasons Or Anything Why I Should Be Denied My Little Angel I Have Looked At Legal Roots But With Her Only 5 Weeks Old I am Unsure But It Is Killing Me & I Need To See My Daughter.
please if Anyone Has Advice Or Suggestions I am More Than Listening.
Thank You S.E
Smithy 22/06/2016 at 3:23 pm
My step daughter is being kept away from her dad without his consent since the divorce 7 years ago he has tried everything to compromise even written letters from solicitors but she never sticks to it. All the agreements either on her terms or nothing at all. She is using my step daughter against her dad and other brothers and sisters at every opportunity every year it gets worse and worse.

What are his rights? He is thinking of getting the social involved now please help.
linnie 16/06/2016 at 11:24 am
my younger child has been refused to attend the same school as her older sibling as a result I have moved out of the catchment area by 0.4 miles I have tried appealing and offering that her dad exercise his right to register our child which the education authorities have refused stating he cant and has no right to im looking for advice and supporting facts against this matter allowing her dad to exercise his legal rights
SeparatedDads Editor 02/06/2016 at 2:46 pm
Cafcass has no specific recording policy and from what I can gather it is judged on a case by case basis. However, please see the Freedom Of Information request and response by whichWhile it may not fully answer your question, it can give you an indication of the Cafcass stance.
SeparatedDads Editor 18/05/2016 at 3:05 pm
Your son can self-litigate which many non-resident parents are doing since the withdrawal of Legal Aid, If your son researches his rights well and gets as much free advice as he can, then he stands a better chance of gaining access to his child. Our Separated Dads Facebook page and forum, along with reading all our articles should help give him the information he needs. Once his mother has refused mediation, it gives him an open door to apply through the courts. Therefore, as disheartened as things may seem currently, the courts will give him a fairer chance as the courts do with fathers to have relationships with their children. Plus, once a court order is in place his ex will have to adhere to it, whereas in mediation there is no legal obligation for her to comply. I hope this helps.
Rock 18/05/2016 at 11:20 am
My sons ex has stopped contact with his 8 month old daughter. We have tried everything but it will cost him hundreds which he hasnt got. The mother has refused mediation. He is heartbroken everything is on her terms. Please advise
SeparatedDads Editor 17/05/2016 at 2:18 pm
I suggest taking your ex up on seeing your child in the contact centre in order to show willing, and make sure you keep to all your contact centre appointments, at the same time you can approach taking the mattter to court. Just because your ex's solicitor (who remember is working for her) says you are only allowed to see him at a contact centre doesn't mean you have to abide by this long term. Therefore, I suggest you take some legal advice in order to see what a solicitor's opinion may be. It is worth paying a solicitor for this information and help and if you cannot afford the hefty legal fees of going through the court process, you can self-litigate, I hope this helps.
Bones 16/05/2016 at 9:10 pm
Me and the ex girl split up 8 months ago she put me out as she owned the house and made me homeless thing where ok for a bit till I stopped paying for everything then she started useing the child against me you can see him can't see him you need to be flexible if I'm out so I sent texts and emails slagging her off but then sent ones saying sorry for what I said then she said I couldn't see him and was not aloud to call and see him he is 10 months old she just used me to have a baby so I went to a solicitor to see him 5 hours a week she sent me a solicitor letter saying I had a problem with drink and drugs and had depression and could only see him in a contact centre need some advice please
Phil 16/05/2016 at 2:40 pm
Hi guys just a quick question im currently trying to get contact for my child and the mother is denying me any, so I've been in and out of court the past 14 months or so now. She tried to have me criminally prosecuted to no avail and i got a No Further Action for ABH, now during the civil proceedings (after many hearings) the judge has sided with the mother and believes these findings to be the case!? Can accepting these findings in a civil court re-open proceedings in a criminal offence? Non of which are true but i just feel like im fighting a losing battle.
SeparatedDads Editor 13/05/2016 at 11:12 am
I shall put an edited version of your question to our Separated Dads Facebook page readers to see whether any other dads have been through the same and what their advice is. Please refer to the Facebook page for answers.
Sal 12/05/2016 at 12:21 pm
I've been going through the family courts the past year now and recently gone through the findings of facts process and the judgement didn't come back in my favour to my disappointment (as i was never charged by these false allegations by the CPS (police) )and findings were made of DV towards my ex. She's pushing for me to do a DVPP (course) knowing it will affect my line of work and future job prospects by it going on my CRB. The course is not something im not willing to do. Has anyone else been in my situation or in my situation with any advice? I've went from having my child on a shared basis to nothing at all, all because a ex couldn't accept are relationship was over
Desperate mum 07/05/2016 at 9:25 am
Me and my ex split up when I found out I was pregnant the relationship was already at breaking point due to constant arguments, his controlling nature as well as verbal abuse. He has not been involved through out the pregnancy besides an odd text here or there which I would initiate, at the moment I have tried to talk to him about maintenance and whether or not he would like to see his child. This ended in him asking questions about my relationships and stating that I was unfit to be a mother which I refused to give as it was not about the child as well as him telling me he is having other children with his current partner ,he continued badgering until I finally caved in and told him then he tried to enforce an arrangement onto me, I refused this as I did not agree with the terms. He has stated to me on numerous occasions that he doesn't want the child and after me refusing the arrangement he is now wanting joint custody, my daughter is currently in intensive care and was born prematurely as well as has other health issues and he has not shown up or asked how she is doing, I really don't want him around as he has no interest in her what so ever and have asked him to give up his parental rights, I am at my wit end right now and hoping someone could give me advice on custody and how I could prevent this from happening
SeparatedDads Editor 05/05/2016 at 11:07 am
You would have to seek legal advice regarding your question. It is very difficult for us to try to answer a family law question if Social Services has been involved.
Melpress 04/05/2016 at 2:25 pm
Last year my ex partner went for residency of our children. Social services where involved. It all happened so very very quickly. The social worker only seen my child a couple times each averaging 25mins. And had decided that although there where no worries or concerns about my children he had decided the children should live with my ex. Also the teacher that was involved was suddenly asked to leave the school. The social services say there was no court order and because of that they won't take any action based on my worries about the children. There was a court order and my children where supposed to be a signed a social worker to make sure they where ok while they moved school and moved home. They now see very little of any blood relatives. My daughter does not now follow her passion for horses and my son is still not signed up for a football club as promised by father. I am at a complete lost of what to do. Both my children have expressed they want to live with me but fear of there father and the upset it may cause please contact me as I am worried and desperate to get them home.
SeparatedDads Editor 01/04/2016 at 3:07 pm
I am very sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, this sounds more to do with his ex than any court decision to keep the children away from him. Sometimes, the court has its hands tied if the ex provides enough evidence to stop contact. Unfortunately, stories like this are a sad conclusion.
Dee 28/03/2016 at 6:31 pm
My husband went through the Cafcass report process with his ex, the result of which was indirect contact 10 years ago which was never revisited. His two children never knew their father and he passed away never knowing them. His dying wish was to see his kids one last time but his ex still would not bring them. You can't tell me there's any justice in this.
donna 03/03/2016 at 7:46 pm
what happens if 1 parent lies about the other just to try and stop the other parent gaining access in court?
SeparatedDads Editor 01/02/2016 at 2:02 pm
If you feel you have been unfairly treated you can complain via which
boom 01/02/2016 at 2:34 am
I was a victim of the Cafcass process. BEWARE.
The Cafcass officer did not do any of the things, including my report, because there was no time. She lied and exaggerated about simple stuff. She lied about not having texts from me, judge did not delve further although they were on my phone. The consequent complaint I made was treated in a haphazard and derisory way. These people: be nice to them and lick their boots: otherwise, if it is a case of what is best for your child;;;;;;;;FORGET IT. END OF STORY.
SeparatedDads Editor 29/01/2016 at 11:43 am
You really can only complain to Social Services or the agency body that is preventing contact with your grandchildren and refusing you the assessment. You would need to ask for the official line why you are being refused and why your assessments have failed. You may also wish to contact your local MP who may be able to help on your behalf.
Lisa 28/01/2016 at 5:17 pm
I've been applying to be assessed to look after my grandchildren for over 2 years. The children were placed with another family member while I helped my daughter over her depression. I have repeatedly been refused an assessment given lots of excuses why. I understood the children were settled but asked to be assessed should the placement fail. I was told it wouldn't fail. My grandchildren are now split up 1with an elderly great gran 1in foster care and 2in another foster care after the initial placement failed due to reasons unclear to my daughter or myself. My daughter has been told I had an assessment and failed but may pass it now. Nobody has been to see me and as I work for the local authority and NHS with vulnerable people my crb/dB's have always come back clear. I don't understand how I've failed the assessment. I'm being told nothing and have been kept from my grandchildren since June 2013 apart from 2 visits one July 2013 and 1feb 2014. Can anybody give me some advice plz I'm at my wits end
SeparatedDads Editor 13/01/2016 at 1:55 pm
It is rare the courts will take a child from one parent and order it to live with the non-resident parent unless absolutely necessary, especially if the non-resident parent has had little to do with their child's upbringing. You need to inform Cafcass of all your concerns.
Chaoticmind 13/01/2016 at 1:40 am
i have been separated with my ex for teo years now. the times that we were together was not the best..he slept around. when our lil girl was a year and a half he gave me a letter from his solicitor stating that i need to leave his house and leave our child with him.. i managed to find a new house and took our child with me and we agreed yo share the care....however i never recieved any penny from him. I met someone on october last year and he plays a big part on my child's life. For the short period of time he had done much for my child than my ex. december last year when my ex seen me and my bf together as we attended our child's xmas play. The day after i recieved a court order... apparently i am going back to my home land and that i am taking our child with me. we have been in court and it was all good news for me. There will be another but this timw with cafcass. We have been interview via phone by cafcass staff and he made stories against me and apparently he is concern about our child. He has a furst child but his parents got the full custody. He never mentioned to the court or to any court forms that he had domestic violence case before. im a bit worried coz he is good in convincing people about his lies.
Lou 28/11/2015 at 1:55 pm
I need some advice I have a 2 and a half year old since she has been born father is in and out of her life when she was a few days old he held her with one hand and was jumping on a gym ball,he says she's fat and that I shouldn't feed her and that he wants to give her just his muscle protein that he drinks,he sells drugs(I can't prove) is around loads of druggies and drug dealers like himself,we have been on good terms and bad terms but I don't stop him from seeing her and since July he did not see her for 3 months because of his girlfriend but then decided to come back in her life which he met my mum once and then wanted to meet me but I didn't want to cause I don't want arguing in front of her and him shouting until I cry and agree with him or he doesn't stop and has pushed me before when she has been in my arms and in a sling,he has threatened he can take her and leave the country if he wants and that he will get people to make me disappear and he will take her and the police won't look at him cause of his clear record,despite everything I still want her to know who her dad is and for him to have contact but I don't want him to have unsupervised contact I have never allowed it even on good terms so I'm not being spiteful it's for the safety of my daughter I really want them to have a relationship but I can't risk him having her alone cause he is not patient if she cries he shouts at her even though he has never been around a lot to be reasonably stressed by her and he obviously doesn't want her to be eating cause he thinks she's fat,he is threatening to take me to court now if I don't let him take her,but I cannot do that too my child,what are my options what are the chances he will get unsupervised? I am very scared I don't want her around drug dealers or druggies and I want her to be looked after properly he is great at playing with her but is not good a be responsible looking after her,I have a note that he wrote saying he will not take her and that he will leave when asked but what are my options? What can I do? Sorry for rambling can't explain everything properly over comment
confused dad 02/10/2015 at 4:02 am
Ok long story short I have a 3 yr old daughter who lives with my mom..my ex and I had a one night stand after breaking up..now we have a son who is 8 months old..I see him every second weekend..cas is highly involved with my ex and my son..and has been since he was born . I get a call from a cas investigator ..saying he is setting up a meeting with my ex...her family support worker and case manager as well as himself..but told me I HAD to be at this meeting ...he also called my mom and asked all kind of questions about me ...like if I'm single ...if I drink..etc etc...and he also told my mom things were not good with my ex and son..so I'm a little confused as to what this meeting is for..this is the first time I was called in 8 months
SeparatedDads Editor 22/09/2015 at 10:46 am
I'm afraid once Social Services get involved, it gets very difficult to advise without knowing the case and the reasons why contact has become problematic. I can only suggest that if you wish to speak with someone confidentially for advice, you call Family Lives via whichI hope this helps.
john Paul 21/09/2015 at 10:43 am
hi for the past eight years I've been battling for contact with my children I have a court order for my two sons for the past three year I've been battling to see my daughter and am having a lot of trouble with social services with my daughter that is effecting contact for me and my son's.can you help or point me in the right direction. many thanks
Misty 13/09/2015 at 10:57 pm
I have 2 grandchildren living with my son for the past approx 10 years with full parental responsibility.The court ordered that the didn't see their mother. I have not seen the children aged 16 and 14 for approx 3 years due to a fall out with my son despite several times trying to make amends. I still continue to send gifts for Birthdays and Christmas. Due to their ages and lack of grandparents rights I have not been involved in their lives.
The mother who has taken my son to court on numerous occasions and lost due to her unreasonable behaviour and neglect of the children. Recently the mother has been in contact with other family members asking for us to make a statement against my son saying all sorts of things including my granddaughter self harm. My granddaughter recently got excellent grades to enable her to go on to 6th form. The mother has a new child and another one due and has had several meetings with my daughter who has agreed to send a statement to the court Hearing on 30th September. I was asked to go to meet her and someone from Cafcass? I refused as this seemed very odd to me. My question was if she had such a good case why need a statement mearly stating we as a family have no contact. I have never trusted the mother who was a compulsive liar, has a mutiple personality disorder and my gut tells me something isn't right.If cafcass is involved surely they should report any problems and have children removed? My work involved child protection but with paediatrics . The mother has got to my daughter saying my grandson will have to go into care apparently due to mental damage by my son? My son has always fought for his children and been very verbal with the mother as she would never see sense. He won his case and it really feels lke a vendetta. My daughter states the mother has changed, found the lord and looks after her child very well. My arguement is she did the damage in the first place yes she was young, but the mental torture she did was unforgiveable. If cafcass needed a statement wouldn't they contact me? not a meeting in someones lounge ? I struggle to even know what to do as I have a terminally ill grandchild and cannot be dealing with this. Advice please
SeparatedDads Editor 08/09/2015 at 11:46 am
Please see article: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, whichThe only way to get an official contact order is to apply through the courts, by-passing mediation (as any access arrangement order agreed via mediation is not official). It would mean that should your ex renege on the access arrangements, then she would be in breach of the court order. I'm afraid it is a longer route and one that can cause a lot of disruption, and also does not guarantee results. However, many parents choose the official route when they have exhausted all other options and feel their children are being held to ransom. You may also find our Separated Dads Facebook page useful as there are many parents who are going through exactly the same issues that can offer help and advice.
Matt 07/09/2015 at 2:24 pm
I would like some advice on the contact of my children. I have always had contact with the children and always stayed over night at my new home where they both have there own rooms. The contact is ment to be every other weekend Friday after school until school on Monday and then the other week Monday after school until Tuesday when school starts. I pay a full amount of CSA and have never missed payments. My contact is requally stopped when my ex wife wants more money or me to pay for extra things I am always left with no choice but to pay or not spend time with my children. At times I have gone to collect the children but they have been locked in the house and all contact stopped with even going as far as smashing there phones up (all this is being looked at by social services). As you can imagine this is very hard for me and more importantly hard for the children of possible I would like some advice and guildence on the best way to go forward trying to limit any distress that it may cause on the children.
SeparatedDads Editor 26/08/2015 at 12:52 pm
I am sorry to hear this. If you feel you have been treated unfairly by Cafcass you can complain, I hope this helps.
damobob 25/08/2015 at 5:05 pm
Hi. Can you explain why a cafcas report would recommend a molestation order being maintained and claim the father is a violent drunk when the police threw the case out and the mother has been reported as embellishing the facts in court to meet her own ends? The report is very one sided, only seeming to take the mothers word for everything even though her story keeps changing and the fathers has remained constant throughout.
SeparatedDads Editor 25/08/2015 at 1:51 pm
Please see our partner article: Can Ex Apply for Kids' Passports Without My Permission? whichAlso, Changing Your Child's Surname, link here both articles should help answer your questions. You may be able to apply for a Specific Issue Order through the courts and ask for your address to be withheld, so that your ex cannot contact you directly. Please see article Specific Issue Orders here. I hope this helps.
Mnms 24/08/2015 at 7:56 pm
Hi I need advice my son is 6 and when he was 10 months old we fled domestic violence from his dad, and haven't heard or seen him since he doesn't know where we live and I have no clue where he is and don't want to I changed his last name to mine through deed poll but I'm having problems getting a passport for him and have been told about getting a court order for sole parental responsibility? Is this true and would someone try to contact him if I did as there is to be no contact with either of us and I'm scared and worried he would have to be found is there anything I an do
Thanks
SeparatedDads Editor 18/08/2015 at 2:58 pm
You would have to contact the Cafcass officer directly to see whether this is permitted.
Rich 18/08/2015 at 1:55 pm
Can I take a friend or my partner to a cafcass meeting.
Ali 30/05/2015 at 1:08 pm
Hello I want to speak to same one about my kids I hauen seen my kids for last 6moth now what to do now I am not working I want a Sloctor for free legal advice if you can help me please give me a call I thanks you
Not happy with these 28/05/2015 at 8:57 pm
Wrote to them phone them up now my mp his dealing with it had a letter from them with in 2 weeks amazing what a mp can do they didn't help me once it was disgusting how they treated me don't trust them and I blame the courts cause the letter they wrote to me was full of lies and they sent that to court it's so shocking how these peeps get away with it I'm just wondering how many children have slip the net over these people say so they should be stopped
em89 28/05/2015 at 8:49 pm
What is the law on how many night a father can have a 4 month old and a 3 year old
SeparatedDads Editor 22/05/2015 at 3:01 pm
@Dd - I'm afraid that regardless of what Cafcass put in the report, the court will ultimately decide what it thinks is in the best interests of your children and stability is one of the top priorities. Therefore, it means the court is less likely to favour any disruption by moving the children from their home and would have to have a very good reason for doing so, despite whether the children said they preferred to live with you.
Dd 21/05/2015 at 11:33 pm
Cafcass officer put in his report children wanted to live back with myself but still suggested they they should live with their mother where is the credibility in that kids are aged 6&11 years
jsm0259 20/05/2015 at 8:16 am
hello looking for some advice I have 2 kids both girls aged 3 and 2 I split with my ex over a year ago we started contact at the beginning where I would see them twice a week on my days off went on for a month or so till she completely cut it off so I seemed legal advice who then turned me to mediation we both showed up spoke about what we wanted and she denied me to see them still mediation just gave me court papers to take it further but I'm lost from here on filing court papers what to apply for and seeking legal advice now costs far too much I can't afford it, then I heard that my ex is wanting to run away to another country with my 2 girls if anyone could help or point me in the right direction be very much appreciated thank you
SeparatedDads Editor 16/04/2015 at 1:03 pm
@Dadof2 - just to let you know we have replied to this comment on our partner Courtroom Advice page. I hope this helps.
Dadof2 14/04/2015 at 7:53 pm
I have just received the CAFCASS report which I have begged for since my 2 were taken by their mother 5 months ago. On each Court appearance, the mother has told lie after lie after lie. She had a non molestation order against me which she tried to get me to break but failed. The judge has seen 1st hand, her obstructive nature in not letting our two see their cousins and other family on their birthdays. Lots has gone on and in a point scoring contest I am about 15-0 up. However, after having the CAFCASS report done, the student CAFCASS officer has decided to let her have residency although he interviewed the children and got them to write down their feelings and wished. They both wrote a letter to the judge that they want to live with me. Can any one hall me make any sense of this as my two are under 10 (8 & 5) and are going to be distraught. Thanks for all inputs.
Paul Editor 13/04/2015 at 11:19 am
@Jasmine - It seems quite sad that the situation has come to this when it seemed to be progressing well for some time. It seems your ex has decided to go on the warpath for some reason and he is pulling out all the stops, but his his step-mother a family law solicitor? There are solicitors and solicitors, and it will be of no help if she is a conveyancing solicitor, for example. A lot of this may be hot-air and he is trying to prove a point, especially trying to go for an occupational order also. You need to weigh up his own situation, if he doesn't have an adequate place to live, then it is unlikely they are going to throw you out of your accommodation in order to re-instate him. Of course there are two sides to every story and it depends what the Cafcass report says. But it is still unlikely they would separate you from your son and throw you out of your home without having a very good reason.
Jasmine 09/04/2015 at 11:06 am
Hello, I was looking for some advice I split up with my ex-partner about a year and a half ago at this time my little boy was 2 months old, he has always had regular access to my son and I even help with picking my ex up from work and dropping him and my son to my home so they could see each other and I would sleep else where because my ex does not have anywhere suitable to have my son, he is now going for a residency order and he has asscued me of everything under the son, I really do not no what to do his step mum is a solicitor so she has he boss fighting my ex case, he also told me when he wins this he is going for a occupational order to take my home too as he is on the tenancy :( can I really lose my boy and my home
SeparatedDads Editor 10/04/2015 at 9:40 am
@skylily - I'm afraid there is little we can recommend here as it really is all down to the report and whether the courts wish to act on the recommendations in the report. I hope it all works out.
skylily 07/04/2015 at 8:41 pm
Hi have had caffcass section 7 report findings were recomendations for my youngest to be returned to me and her sisters ex is fighting caffcass report on basis that during interview which grandmother attended with 6 year old she said apparently she wants to live with her dad.can anyone advice me desperately missing my little 1 thanks
bungle 01/04/2015 at 8:32 pm
my ex partner taken me to court few months back to see our daughter but he didnt turn up to court, revently hes been very violent towards me sendin horible messages and sayin horrible things about hes own daughter. now hes takin me back to court to see her but i dont want him to see her cus of how he is, hes got no respect or morals or me or my daughter when i wos prefnant with her he wos givin me tips on how to kill her if i didnt wsnt her so straight away i went to a solictor got a injunction warnin sent to him he didnt listen so my solictor and i decided to have a propper injunction on him and now hes breeched it and the police carnt seem to get him hes family keep lieing sayin he doesnt live there when ikno he does we are bassically in the same street as each other.. caffcass is involved iv never been in this kind of enviorment before what are they like can anyone give me advice what could happen at the court hearing please? thanks in advance x
pesh 31/01/2015 at 11:02 am
Im not happy with the results that I've got from cafcass. they never even tried to do anything after first two pro contact sessions they decided to do indirect contact which means I can only write a letter to my kid once every month. I did not even get to see my kid the first two session. I've been fighting for my kid for 4years this is the result I get. How would I know the letter I send is actulty read to him. There is no way of telling. All I know my x can throw the letters in bin. Pro contact there was hope that I could spend time with my kid but know I dont now losing all hope and I'm getting stressed out if actuly effect my weight by worrying.
Nigel8 28/11/2014 at 4:48 pm
It is a worry Deb. In all honesty I would not mind if she didn't want any access altogether as her actions and attitude is far from that of a concerned parent. I don't want it to seem I am forcing access as that is not the case. I want a routine and a set schedule so if she doesn't follow that then she can't demand here there and everywhere days instead. It's a tricky one, but my son has all the loving support he needs. I pity her as she is missing out on such a valuable little life. I forgot to mention she uses our son to make her own situation seem as if she contributes so much to his life- mum of the year so to speak. The difference is she barely knows her son and to claim such a title is a selfish act. Hopefully cafcas can shed some light as I don't want my son being hurt.
Debs Editor 28/11/2014 at 12:26 pm
@Nigel8 - it seems you are on the other side of the coin and whereas a lots of dads are craving to see their child, you can't get your ex to see your child. It's always difficult and as much as Cafcass may be able to help, if she is unreliable there is not much you can do about it and she is likely to continue to be unreliable. While a judge can make an order, if your ex doesn't want to keep to that order, she wont. It's a really tough situation and I really feel for you. Debs.
Nigel8 27/11/2014 at 11:10 pm
I have full residency of my son. His mother does not have a contact order as outlined in the caf report was arrangements should be made through trust and as workable and sensible. his mother fails to maintain regular contact and demands depending on her socialising schedule.. Usually a May or two before. I am not against access, but I do worry about the inconsistency and lack of routine. Each time I mention this I get accused of withholding access?? Eventhough I have multiple evidence which confirms I have been patient and accommodating towards her 'wishes'. It upsets me how she can refuse to want regular access and then throws it back in my face when I suggest that is the way forward. . Often then getting accused of being selfish and how my son will hate me. She does not work, goes out regularly and lives with her new partner. My partner is very supportive and despite working all week, she still looks after my son when I go to work on a weekend. His mother admits she does not want planned access but this is impacting on everything else as she will incubat when she wants our son and if he already has plans, due to her lack of reasonable timing, the throws it back in my face. I just want the best for my son. I have no problem with her having access and equally not bothered if she doesn't want to see him. I do however think that for the best interest of my son that arrangements need to be in place? As she has no contact order I am struggling to see the fairness in accommodatin to her every last minute wish, surely a mother would want regular access? Parenting is to be taken seriously, i'm beginning to think some people don't see the value of spending quality time with their child. Some people aren't so lucky and would do anything to see their child.

Any advice welcome, I am planning to meet with cafcass to revisit the documentation so a formal plan can be put into place.
Lucky woman 22/11/2014 at 2:12 am
Hi just want people to know caffcass are not all that bad they helped my two sons to stay away from somebody who was violent so I won my case in court with there help thanks to caffcass I suffers domestic violence from my husband kids saw everything so caffcass report was in my favour
Damian 16/10/2014 at 2:34 pm
I'm currently the alienated parent , from my daughter and having to stand by and watch my manipulating narcissistic ex wife gradually withdraw my daughter from me , thanks to cafcass , job well done by them a disservice not only to me but to my daughter ! Not a professional organisation at all !! And there's nothing I can do at all ! Thanks
Edview 05/10/2014 at 4:55 pm
I work in education and am horrified by the number of children who are denied good contact with a parent. This is usually by the residential parent. Children have a right to build strong relationships with both parents and this should be encouraged at all times. Parental alienation is real and harmful to children, their extended family and friends.
Monty 04/09/2014 at 10:54 pm
Total and utter waste of time, avoid like the plague !
Sparrow hawk 26/08/2014 at 6:23 pm
Can my wife stop the cafcass process by withdrawing her baseless claims and allowing me to see my son, or once the ball is rolling, does the 10 week process have to happen?
Dazza 17/08/2014 at 1:12 am
Does my ex-wife have to give me information on new boyfriend staying at her place and looking after my kids,for example his full name and whether he has custody rights to his own children-how do I know if he is not someone that I should be concerned about or at least can I request that he shows me a ochre card before any further time left alone with my kids?
Kat Editor 08/07/2014 at 2:10 pm
@Tam, it sounds like you're doing the right thing by trying to keep some form of contact between your son and his father. You're definitely right in saying that this contact should be under supervision and that a medical check should be done first, as your son's safety is paramount. It must be difficult for you to do this given your ex's history and current state. Your son will thank you for trying when he's older and for not just cutting his dad out of his life completely. Good Luck!
Tam 08/07/2014 at 2:03 pm
I have a 2 1/2 year old son to my ex and I stopped him seeing each other. He has Borderline Personality Disorder and Paranoid Schizophrenia. He's recently been in hospital suffering badly with both(self harming, seeing demons and talking to voices). When this happens he writes blogs online about what's occurring. He met his fiancé on there which gave me suspicions to her mental situation due to her self harm marks. He wants to go through mediation which I'm willing to do but would like him to have a medical check to see if he's taking medication to give him stability. And his fiancé to have a police and medical check. When I asked why my ex said she'd been raped, I don't know how true this is because he lies. I want my son to see his dad but under supervision at a contact centre.Am I doing the right thing?
Crazy daddy 21/02/2014 at 10:09 am
I had an order and agreements with my ex she decided it did not suit her and now I have caff cass on my case who have told my ex to stop contact. I want to know why. Why would they not promote the father and child relationship. I have an order from the court and undertakings from her which she has broken. I only get to see the kids once a week for anhour and a half now I have nothing I truly think. If dwp linked CSa payments to contact you would see a change in the system. She would only get money if the contact had gone ahead then women and men would be forced to turn up. The system does currently work in her favour it is about taking from the parent with out care of the children and benefits the parent with care. My ex don't like being out of control and loves hurting me by stopping me from seeing my children and cafcass are helping her with that outrageous
Jezz 05/02/2014 at 9:50 pm
Hi can anyone tell me how I can get a copy of a CAFCASS report from about 13 years ago.
I was not given any reason from CAFCASS or my EX why I could not see my daughter.
I would like to know what she told them and why they advised the court to not let me see my daughter.
After all this time my daughter has got in touch with me and I don't think her mother has told her everything that happened in the past.
Thanks for any help you give.
Pushmetofar 27/01/2014 at 8:33 pm
Cafcass report is a joke just google cafcass there are a waste of money the day I found out my sons stepfather was a child abuser I walked out court room and because I refused to walk the same way as the child abuser the cafcass officer said I was causing trouble for no reason and he would refer it to the judge next time the same man never had children it's the first question you should ask plus they twist everythink you say and who ever they side with is always right and can never do no wrong even after my cafcass officer found out my sons stepfather and sons mother were arrested number of times for domestic violence he still said it was a normal home for a child to live in and what ever your child wants they will never hear there crys
grumpy 27/01/2014 at 12:00 pm
In a Cafcass investigation is it permissable that the officer will know through work,either of the parents
Lee 15/09/2013 at 9:14 am
Hi.I am not sure about caffcass that they do understand how to deal with a stressed parent. My report its is totally wrong its all defending my ex husband and the caffcass reporter had said he will want my ex husband to have the kids.I should not be given kids until I had made decision about my future.how can I ever live a normal life without my kids ? I don't smoke or drink I live with my 7year old.there are no concerned about her.I can not dis crab how I feel about this report.but I will stay strong.i will call them and talk to them on sensible way show them that I am not crazy I can see that they are side with my ex husband.but God will help me. Its been a year I had not seen my kids.last went to court I had no solicitor as I can not get free legal aid.i was told £50 pounds to see my kids at children center.no one can understand why should I see them under supervision?cause my ex husband said so.i give my report the day of the court.caffcass side with one person.i think they should record everything people say.record by tape.
york dad 25/02/2013 at 9:39 pm
Please can anyone tell me if a cafcass report is done on my ex partners home where both my small children live, as their father am I able to view that report, also how long would it take for a judge to award joint custody both kids when the parents are just disagreeing all the time many thanks
sdfadf 20/02/2013 at 11:16 am
Anythin to do with children women or assaults will all show up on the report reguardless if it was 30 days ago or 30 years ago
sian 23/01/2013 at 11:18 pm
only things uve been convicted for will show up
daveaskey 02/01/2013 at 8:15 pm
hi, can anyone help please.
im currently going thru cafcass for contact with my daughter. i have just split up with another partner and in the break up she called the police to say i was making threats to her. she did this knowing that cafcass where due to speak to me and to hurt me. we are now trying to sort thru our problems but cafcass want to do safeguard checks on us both. the police came out and spoke to me about the so called threats but no action was taken. will this show up on the safeguard checks for either of us?

thanaks
A Good mum 27/10/2012 at 12:33 pm
My ex husband recently won the right to have our daughter put back into a school which I removed her from to be closer to me and to put her into a better school! My ex husband lied in court and the judge took a dislike to me! Now cafcass have been instructed and I'm so worried that they will read the judges comments and go with that? I'm a good mum and just want my daughter to have a good education, any thoughts?
bean 25/10/2012 at 1:41 pm
how old have my child got to b before her wishes r took into account as she have said things that r not true about me to cass caff i am sure that it is what her father is making her say
hammer 19/07/2012 at 3:38 pm
just had my court appearance for longer access to my son, I was really concerned abut the cafcass report and their involvment in our court hearing. The lady doing the initial phone interview confirmed my feelings that they are useless! She was about as helpful as mud and moaned that she couldnt contact me but forgot to mention that she`d been on holiday for 2 weeks and this was her last chance to get the info , she also completed the form without speaking to me which lit the blue touch paper. So far so bad!
BUT to all concerned dads out there the cafcass officer at court listened and nodded in all the right places and as far as I am concerned without that Id be in the pub on the shorts by now ! Yes shes a social worker but she knew her stuff, So anyone worried about seeing them ...relax it really cant get any worse can it ?
dad 25/03/2012 at 1:08 pm
After reading a cafcass report about my daughter and the recommendation for no contact I wrote to them with a list of complaints two thirds of my complaints were upheld yet the report is still used in court.
true_repentance 22/03/2012 at 5:44 pm
The CAFCASS reporter I am having is biased. just been to court and meet this reporter for the first time. I told him that I regretted I ever hit my wife which I do.Even the judge had to ask him 3 time if a further hearing (can't remember what it is called) to examine the accusations is necessary. He told the judge No and No again because I admitted part of the alleged domestic violence. Thus, the CAFCASS has no further part to play in the case. He finally realised when asked by the judge the 3rd time that the judge was not going to agree with him.He objected when I was trying to whisper to my representative (because he twisted what I had told him) while he was saying the above to the judge. And he said to me, "Please let me finish." I wasn't even talking to him or obstructing the judge hearing him out!He also told me that he might have got the wrong phone number for me so he had not been in touch. How convenient!!!! It was so close I was going to ask him what had stopped him from asking my solicitor to verify my contact details in the past few weeks!Thank God that the judge seemed to have godly discernment into the whole case!Praise the Lord!
Ak 17/09/2011 at 7:29 pm
It is true that CAFCASS report could form grounds of Appeal especially where such reports are altered verbally and are significantly shifted from the writte report.

Now Article 12 is or should be a prime consideration in CAFCASS report but then if that is not adhered to then that raises Human Rights ground where court follows blindly CAFCASS without asking sufficient questions.

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