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How to Get to See My Kids and Help Other Separated Dads

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How To Get To See My Kids And Help Other Separated Dads

Q.

I feel let down buy all the people I contact. My solicitor won't go any further until she gets legal aid and I haven't seen my children for nearly two months. I have been told it could be another month before she can apply for the aid.

Where does a father go from here? We should be able to have responsibility for our children - we are not here JUST to bring them into the world and then leave. We want to play an active role in their development.

I would like to go to college and gain some qualifications that will enable me to help fathers in distress, as we all suffer from being on our own. What are the best steps I can take to help myself and other dads in this situation? Is there something I could learn about in college that would be useful? I really need to get help with my problem with my ex so I can help others in a similar situation and reassure them that they are not alone.

(M.J, 20 April 2009)

A.

As a father you are setting a good example by wanting to fix problems with your ex and be able to see your children regularly. Unfortunately, the legal system can be slow to sort things out and this can be very frustrating for you, especially when you are unable to see your children in the meantime.

Ultimately, it is still the best route to go down in order to secure your Rights To Visitation and to play an active part in your children’s upbringings, but there are other steps you can take. The legal system is there for good reason and does play an important role in securing fathers’ rights, but is not the only solution.

You do not say what your relationship with your ex is like but you may want to consider asking her to attend some Mediation Sessions with you. You both need to work hard to put your children first and Find A Way To Communicate With Each Other. By agreeing to visit a mediator it gives you both a chance to express your feelings and opinions and to try to understand each other a bit better. You are always going to have a relationship because of your children so the smoother this can be, the better.

This may also be the best route for you to go down in order to help other fathers. Most men who are dealing with this kind of situation have a lot of emotions to deal with and could really do with someone to talk to. As someone who has experienced it, you would be in a great position to help them. There are many counselling and mediation courses available, either through your local college, private classes or distance learning that would be a great start.

Another thing to consider would be for you to visit a support group or talk to other men who are dealing with Visitation issues. There are a number of Internet forums and also groups that meet in person. As well as helping other men, you need to feel that you are not alone and it would probably help you to talk to other fathers who have dealt with the same thing. Why not read up about your rights as a separated dad here.

Check out the Separated Dads Forum... It's a great resource where you can ask for advice on topics including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or simply to have a chat with other dads.

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James Henry - Your Question:
Hi I was wondering if any one can guide me in the right direction the mother of my children has being using my children as weapons for a while now only allowing me to see them on her terms with no regular contact, I am not allowed to call them unless she decides I can I have had verbal abuse also family members of here have broken into my property with intent to harm me over her silly behaviour. I am currently unemployed as I suffer with ptsd and had a brake down because of stress. I am having to move home as I feel unsafe and receive regular threats I am not sure it I can get help with legal aid or how to afford the cost but I really need something in place so I can see my children if any one can offer advice please do.

Our Response:
Please see the link: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here , which shows you the process you would need to go through. Also the gov.uk link here will help answer your question. You would not be able to secure Legal Aid, is it does not exist any more except in cases of proven domestic violence. However, as many fathers do, you can self-litigate, please see link here . This will save you on legal fees. If you are on a low income, you can also get a reduction in court fees, please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 19-Apr-18 @ 11:37 AM
Hi i was wondering if any one can guide me in the right direction the mother of my children has being using my children as weapons for a while now only allowing me to see them on her terms with no regular contact, I am not allowed to call them unless she decides I can I have had verbal abuse also family members of here have broken into my property with intent to harm me over her silly behaviour. I am currently unemployed as I suffer with ptsd and had a brake down because of stress. I am having to move home as I feel unsafe and receive regular threats I am not sure it I can get help with legal aid or how to afford the cost but I really need something in place so I can see my children if any one can offer advice please do.
James Henry - 18-Apr-18 @ 7:55 PM
rp - Your Question:
Hi can any1 help with advice basically I split up from my ex 6 years ago and she has been refusing to let me see my 4 sons on and off since I havnt seen now for over 2 years an have found out she has moved address can I still apply to court to see my sons even though there has been a long period of time since I have seen them ? and what if I dont know her current address many thanks

Our Response:
Yes, you can apply at any time to see your children, please see link here . You would also have to apply for a C4 form which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child’s whereabouts. This means the courts can put a trace on your children to allow you to bring the matter to court to apply for access. Or you may wish to use a PI (which may be quicker). As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the children in question. The court will always put the children’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
SeparatedDads - 3-Apr-18 @ 11:45 AM
hi can any1 help with advice basically i split up from my ex 6 years ago and she has been refusing to let me see my 4 sonson and off since i havnt seen now for over 2 years an have found out she has movedaddress can i still apply to court to see my sons even though there has been a long period of time since i have seen them ? and what if i dont know her current address many thanks
rp - 2-Apr-18 @ 3:55 PM
Martinb - Your Question:
Hi I hava a daughter whos 7 now I was seperated from me ex due to she cheated on me, so my daughter hasnt seen me for 2 years and my head was everywhere with what happened I feel the need I shoukd be in her life but the ex is being complicated and wont let me see her unless it goes through proper channels and I dont want that. what can I do? Please help. What rights do I have as a father as im on birth certificate?

Our Response:
If your ex refuses, then you have no option but to suggest mediation and if she refuses apply to court. You should not fear applying to court, as the court wants non-resident parents to have contact with their children and it will try to bring that about wherever it can. If you cannot afford legal representation, you can self-litigate, please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 27-Mar-18 @ 3:00 PM
Hi i hava a daughter whos 7 now i was seperated from me ex due to she cheated on me, so my daughter hasnt seen me for 2 years and my head was everywhere with what happened i feel the need i shoukd be in her life but the ex is being complicated and wont let me see her unless it goes through proper channels and i dont want that.. what can i do? Please help. What rights do i have as a father as im on birth certificate?
Martinb - 27-Mar-18 @ 2:33 PM
Fish- Your Question:
My husband has always seen his 7yo son and paid for him , at the start of the year he broke his hand and has been off work only getting £89 a week , he spoke to his x and they agreed when he went back to work he would pay what he owed, now 8 weeks on because he refuses to pay what he owes in 1-2 lumps sums she has stopped him from seeing him till it’s all paid , we just don’t have the money I have 2 children of my own to support , it’s gonna take weeks to pay off as I only work part time as my son is disabled, she doesn’t care what she tells her son she is actually blaming his dad , he has never refused to pay and I will make sure everything is payed what is owed , my question is what’s the best way to stop her from stopping him from seeing him again when she feels like it , he is on the birth certificate they was not married but when they split they had a verbal agreement and that’s all ,

Our Response:
Child maintenance and child access are two different issues and not linked. It means whether a non-resident parent sees their children or not, they are still required to pay child maintenance. Likewise, if a parent cannot pay child maintenance access should not be stopped. A court would not agree to your husband's ex using the children as a bribe for money. Therefore, your husband may wish to take the advice in the link here to request that access is reinstated immediately. If his ex refuses, then he should consider mediation, then as a last resort court.
SeparatedDads - 19-Mar-18 @ 2:01 PM
My husband has always seen his 7yo son and paid for him , at the start of the year he broke his hand and has been off work only getting £89 a week , he spoke to his x and they agreed when he went back to work he would pay what he owed, now 8 weeks on because he refuses to pay what he owes in 1-2 lumps sums she has stopped him from seeing him till it’s all paid , we just don’t have the money I have 2 children of my own to support , it’s gonna take weeks to pay off as I only work part time as my son is disabled, she doesn’t care what she tells her son she is actually blaming his dad , he has never refused to pay and I will make sure everything is payed what is owed , my question is what’s the best way to stop her from stoppinghim from seeing him again when she feels like it , he is on the birth certificate they was not married but when they split they had a verbal agreement and that’s all ,
Fish - 17-Mar-18 @ 10:36 PM
I had a phone call off my ex partner saying social services have been in contact with her as they have had 2 allegations from someone that im a frequent drug user? (Which im not) and social services have advised my ex not to let me see my daughter? What happens next? How do i get to see my daughter again? And what will social services say/do about these allegations?
Bailey - 9-Mar-18 @ 9:20 PM
Jonny - Your Question:
Hi I was a full time dad to my 2 yo son and 2 step children after a disagreement about sorting the boy's bedroom I was locked out of the house and told that she thinks we need a break, were do I stand about getting access or 50/50 custody, surely she don't have the right to just lock me out and not talking to arrange contact. It can't be right from being the person raising the child from day 1 to this. Please help. Thank you

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. I think the issue first is to establish whether this arrangement is going to be a long term one. If so, it is likely your partner/wife by keeping hold of the children is currently the primary carer of the children, with you being the non-resident parent. The primary carer looks after the children on a day-to-day basis, the non-resident parent has access. If you wish to challenge this, then your options are to sit down with your partner/wife and attempt to discuss how to split the parenting of your children i.e whether the children live with you or her, whether shared-care is an option, and how your stepchildren will feature in this arrangement. If you cannot agree, then mediation is the next option to consider, please see link here. Court is always seen as the last resort. Therefore, trying to sort this out between you rationally and based on what you both think is in the best interests of the children is your best option and the court's preferred option. Court can be very stressful, so if you can have an amicable relationship with your ex where both of you try to sort such matters out together, this will benefit your family as a whole. Please see link here. Hopefully, it will not come to this and your situation will resolve itself soon.
SeparatedDads - 8-Mar-18 @ 10:13 AM
Hi I was a full time dad to my 2 yo son and 2 step children after a disagreement about sorting the boy's bedroom I was locked out of the house and told that she thinks we need a break, were do I stand about getting access or 50/50 custody, surely she don't have the right to just lock me out and not talking to arrange contact. It can't be right from being the person raising the child from day 1 to this. Please help. Thank you
Jonny - 7-Mar-18 @ 3:13 PM
Mark p- Your Question:
I need help! I want to see my 4 year old daughter but my ex wont let me! Been apart for over a year and ive met someone else, shes now 12 and half weeks pregnant and now my ex wont let me see my daughter unless I get a dna test on my unborn child! Or if I sign a agreement saying I wont ever let my daughter near my unborn child or tell her about her ?!

Our Response:
Your ex has no right to request this from you on either count. Therefore, you should take the advice of the article, here and here . If you have had access to date, then a court is more than likely to reinstate access. However, a solicitor's letter outlining your rights and a request for mediation to sort out your issues will hopefully work. If not, you will have the option to take the matter to court. If you cannot afford legal representation, you can self-litigate.
SeparatedDads - 23-Feb-18 @ 9:35 AM
I need help! I want to see my 4 year old daughter but my ex wont let me! Been apart for over a year and ive met someone else, shes now 12 and half weeks pregnant and now my ex wont let me see my daughter unless i get a dna test on my unborn child! Or if i sign a agreement saying i wont ever let my daughter near my unborn child or tell her about her ?!
Mark p - 22-Feb-18 @ 7:15 PM
Cec - Your Question:
Hello, when I (young )I had a family 2plus kiddies dog living the dream.well it was my x dream not mine.i longed for excitement dreamed of money and wanted it so bad I was prepared to sell my soul( literally).well the money came quick and fast but with the money came lies and I mean life changing lies and all the people who new me don’t no me anymore they say it’s the drugs it’s mental disorder it’s because he lost the love of his life and kids.but know one understands or ever will.i have new friends and family now and that’s the way it is and I can’t change that I tried big mistake I am owned I am (committed to my new life.)i guess My child from my first wife will grow to learn the truth about me in time and she will hate me forever be ashamed to have a biofather like me.all I can say is sorry and that I did (love you ).and if you went through any pain with my absence and have harbouring hate for me.rest a sure I will a (lonely sad death) with not a single soul at my funeral.i told my x to live (sleeping dogs lie)don’t go digging for bones because you won’t like what you find.wink wink.

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear of your circumstances. However, could you please refrain from posting lots of posts to this site as many of them don't make sense. I have had to delete several today alone. In your circumstances, if you cannot let go of the separation and you are finding life difficult being without your kids, I suggest you go to visit your GP who will be able to offer some counselling so you can talk through your problems. Likewise, you may wish to seek help from the likes of Families Need Fathers or another group that can help support you through these difficult times. By bombarding this page with your comments, you are taking up space and stopping others who may wish to also ask some valid questions.
SeparatedDads - 8-Feb-18 @ 2:27 PM
Pgl - Your Question:
Hello there I was looking for advise me and my ex wife split up 5 months after getting married November 2013 was when we got married after being together for 11 years we have 2 daughters ages 12-9. I met someone in 2015 and got a flat together and was having my daughters every 2 weeks for the weekend but when me and my ex girlfriend split up in March 2017 her and my ex wife teamed up and I haven't seen my daughters since. I'm no angel I got caught up in fraud and I'm disgusted with that but I have got the help needed as I was suffering chronic depression that changed me as a person. My ex wife now refuses for me to talk to my daughters or see them apparently they hate me but I refuse to belive that I was a devoted father and have taken her to court but she moved address and I haven't got her new one so I provided the courts with her work address and mobile full name last known address etc. I miss my daughters like crazy but it is looking like she has turned them completely against me. Where does that leave me when it does go to court?? Regards

Our Response:
We cannot comment on specific cases, as with every court order, the court will decide upon what it thinks is in your children's best interests. The fact you may have had a criminal record, does not mean you are a bad father to your children. A judge will treat these issues separately and take into account your own reasoning. If the matter goes to court, then Cafcass are likely to get involved, please see link here. If you do not know the whereabouts of your ex, then you can fill in a C4 form, which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child's whereabouts. This will allow the courts to put a trace on your children to allow you to bring the matter to court. Also, if your elder daughter is 12, she will be consulted whether she wishes to see you or not.
SeparatedDads - 8-Feb-18 @ 11:09 AM
Hello ,my name is Cecil Thompson.when I (young )I had a family 2plus kiddies dogliving the dream .well it was my x dream not mine .i longed for excitement dreamed of money and wanted it so bad I was prepared to sell my soul( literally).well the money came quick and fast but with the money came lies and I mean life changing lies and all the people who new me don’t no me anymore they say it’s the drugs it’s mental disorder it’s because he lost the love of his life and kids .but know one understands or ever will .i have new friends and family now and that’s the way it is and I can’t change that I tried big mistake I am owned I am (committed to my new life .)i guess My child from my first wife will grow to learn the truth about me in time and she will hate me forever be ashamed to have a biofather like me .all I can say is sorry and that I did (love you ).and if you went through any pain with my absence and have harbouring hate for me .rest a sure I will a (lonely sad death) with not a single soul at my funeral .i told my x to live (sleeping dogs lie)don’t go digging for bones because you won’t like what you find.wink wink.
Cec - 7-Feb-18 @ 10:01 PM
Hello there I was looking for advise me and my ex wife split up 5 months after getting married November 2013 was when we got married after being together for 11 years we have 2 daughters ages 12-9.. I met someone in 2015 and got a flat together and was having my daughters every 2 weeks for the weekend but when me and my ex girlfriend split up in March 2017 her and my ex wife teamed up and I haven't seen my daughters since... I'm no angel I got caught up in fraud and I'm disgusted with that but I have got the help needed as I was suffering chronic depression that changed me as a person.. My ex wife now refuses for me to talk to my daughters or see them apparently they hate me but I refuse to belive that I was a devoted father and have taken her to court but she moved address and I haven't got her new one so I provided the courts with her work address and mobile full name last known address etc... I miss my daughters like crazy but it is looking like she has turned them completely against me.. Where does that leave me when it does go to court?? Regards
Pgl - 7-Feb-18 @ 8:04 PM
wally - Your Question:
My ex's mum has said social services have said I ain't aloud see my girls but I haven't had anything in writing or been told or contacted in anyway so is she lying my youngest girl isn't biologicly mine and uses this as a weapon against me but in her eyes I am her daddy and in mine she is my daughter

Our Response:
If your ex is refusing you access, you would have to suggest mediation, please see link here. If your ex still refuses, then you would have the option to apply to court. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
SeparatedDads - 1-Dec-17 @ 12:56 PM
My ex's mum has said social services have said I ain't aloud see my girls but i haven't had anything in writing or been told or contacted in anyway so is she lying my youngest girl isn't biologicly mine and uses this as a weapon against me but in her eyes i am her daddy and in mine she is my daughter
wally - 1-Dec-17 @ 1:29 AM
Chris - Your Question:
Hi I would like some advice on how to get to see my child but can't get in touch with my ex to get her to let me see her. What do I do?

Our Response:
If you cannot get in touch with yoru ex because you do not know where she is living, then you can fill in a C100 contact order and a C4 form (which is an application to disclose the whereabouts of a child). This will allow the courts to put a trace on your child, to allow you to bring the matter to court and apply for access. There are tracing agencies that can also try to find where your child is, but this will cost. The former suggestion is more official as bringing the matter to court will make access compulsary (within the terms of the court order) if you are awarded it.
SeparatedDads - 20-Nov-17 @ 12:50 PM
Hi I would like some advice on how to get to see my child but can't get in touch with my ex to get her to let me see her. What do I do?
Chris - 19-Nov-17 @ 7:10 PM
Stix - Your Question:
Hi, just some help or advise really needed. So me and my girlfriend have recently split up say a few weeks now. She has my 3yr old daughter that she is giving me real limited access too? The reason I am looking for advise on the situation is I have a 10yr old girl too from a previous relationship and she obviously loves her sister and they are both crazy for each other. I have my eldest daughter every other weekend where she will stay with me from Friday to Monday morning when I take her to school. But the only access my ex is giving us is a couple of hours on a sat morning. And it’s at her home witch happens to be the flat that I am still paying for while I am sleeping In my parents spare room with my 10year old. I am trying to get access and I am constantly asking how she is and when we can see her and she purposefully does not reply. I understand she is hurting and upset with me because I left her. But I think she is damaging the relationship between the two girls and between me as well. I just really don’t know what to do with any of it at the moment? I want to go mental at the woman but obviously I have kept calm and not used bad language or anything towards her. To that though she has been the reverse calling me dumb and a f*##ing sh*t dad. I really need help as to what I can do to get this woman to realise she is damaging two sisters relationship.

Our Response:
Keeping calm and not inflaming the issue is the best approach. If your ex is not allowing you to see your child, then mediation is the first port of call, please see link here . If your ex does not agree to mediation, then please see link here, which explains the process you have to go through. Keep all texts and correspondence that prove your ex is keeping your child away from you as evidence. If you cannot afford legal representation to take the matter to court, please see link here. If your daughter and you and your older daughter have a good relationship to date, there is no reason why the courts will not allow regular access. However, you would need to act soon in trying to bring this matter forward. Contact your ex first and state that you will bring the matter to court if you cannot organise access either between you or via mediation. Keeping rational about the situation and not rising to your ex's insults is the best way forward. Our Separated Dads forum may also help as our dads who have been through similar experiences before can help with further guidance and advice.
SeparatedDads - 13-Nov-17 @ 3:23 PM
Hi, just some help or advise really needed. So me and my girlfriend have recently split up say a few weeks now. She has my 3yr old daughter that she is giving me real limited access too? The reason I am looking for advise on the situation is I have a 10yr old girl too from a previous relationship and she obviously loves her sister and they are both crazy for each other. I have my eldest daughter every other weekend where she will stay with me from Friday to Monday morning when I take her to school. But the only access my ex is giving us is a couple of hours on a sat morning. And it’s at her home witch happens to be the flat that I am still paying for while I am sleeping In my parents spare room with my 10year old. I am trying to get access and I am constantly asking how she is and when we can see her and shepurposefully does not reply. I understand she is hurting and upset with me because I left her. But I think she is damaging the relationship between the two girls and between me as well. I just really don’t know what to do with any of it at the moment? I want to go mental at the woman but obviously I have kept calm and not used bad language or anything towards her. To that though she has been the reverse calling me dumb and a f*##ing sh*t dad. I really need help as to what I can do to get this woman to realise she is damaging two sisters relationship.
Stix - 11-Nov-17 @ 7:30 AM
Hi, just some help or advise really needed. So me and my girlfriend have recently split up say a few weeks now. She has my 3yr old daughter that she is giving me real limited access too? The reason I am looking for advise on the situation is I have a 10yr old girl too from a previous relationship and she obviously loves her sister and they are both crazy for each other. I have my eldest daughter every other weekend where she will stay with me from Friday to Monday morning when I take her to school. But the only access my ex is giving us is a couple of hours on a sat morning. And it’s at her home witch happens to be the flat that I am still paying for while I am sleeping In my parents spare room with my 10year old. I am trying to get access and I am constantly asking how she is and when we can see her and shepurposefully does not reply. I understand she is hurting and upset with me because I left her. But I think she is damaging the relationship between the two girls and between me as well. I just really don’t know what to do with any of it at the moment? I want to go mental at the woman but obviously I have kept calm and not used bad language or anything towards her. To that though she has been the reverse calling me dumb and a f*##ing sh*t dad. I really need help as to what I can do to get this woman to realise she is damaging two sisters relationship.
Stix - 11-Nov-17 @ 7:29 AM
Liam - Your Question:
Here we go. if been seperated with my ex for 2 years. Everything was ok until she got a new man. She wouldnt tell me where my kids were going to school and was being an arse. She the said she wants half of the uniform money which I declined until I know where they are going to school. Faur enough I thought. Next thing, csa letter through the door. I cant pay the full amount so asked if she would take a lesser offer as if I give her the money I wouldnt be able to see my kids as they are in wales and I live in bedfordshire. 120 quid in petrol alone. She declined the lesser offer. Now one of the children in question isnt biologically mune but ive brought him up as my own and done a great job. He calls me dad. But I mentioned this to the csa as I cant afford the payments and now because im not paying for him and I quote "im sick in the head" for mentioning to the csa that hez not actually biologically mine she wont let me see him at all only the one that is biologically mine. Its cruel as we have a great relationship and he loves spending time with his dada. Is there anything I can do about this. Just need asvice

Our Response:
You may be able to apply through the courts. If you have had a consistent relationship with your non-biological child, the courts can order the relationship continues, especially if your have access to your biological child also. You may wish to seek legal advice.
SeparatedDads - 6-Nov-17 @ 12:26 PM
Here we go....if been seperated with my ex for 2 years. Everything was ok until she got a new man. She wouldnt tell me where my kids were going to school and was being an arse. She the said she wants half of the uniform money which i declined until i know where they are going to school. Faur enough i thought. Next thing, csa letter through the door. I cant pay the full amount so asked if she would take a lesser offer as if i give her the money i wouldnt be able to see my kids as they are in wales and i live in bedfordshire. 120 quid in petrol alone. She declined the lesser offer. Now one of the children in question isnt biologically mune but ive brought him up as my own and done a great job. He calls me dad. But i mentioned this to the csa as i cant afford the payments and now because im not paying for him and i quote "im sick in the head" for mentioning to the csa that hez not actually biologically mine she wont let me see him at all only the one that is biologically mine. Its cruel as we have a great relationship and he loves spending time with his dada. Is there anything i can do about this. Just need asvice
Liam - 4-Nov-17 @ 3:59 PM
I'm a mom. My narcissistic ex has brainwashed my girl since birth. Divorced 12 years and still no sign of letting up. At 11 she refused to see or speak to me. I call every day. He has messages go directly to his cell. If I go there he threatens police and causes a scene. I'm blocked from all his phones. Three years now..If she talks to and sees me he causes drama making it look like I'm at fault. Last week I received emails from his lawyer.He than made fraudulent email looking like I sent it saying I wish to sign off on her.All lies.He showed her this email,, saying he wants her to know what I've done. At Whit's end. I advice and what I've done is anyway I can I tell her mons here and never leaving.I'm a min away .
Caboose - 2-Nov-17 @ 4:39 AM
Devil - Your Question:
My wife has cheated on me had move out with him. I have had my to kids for 3 weeks I stop going to work to have them work has help me. I was on nights now doing days. I not stop her seeing the kids. Now she move in with her mum. She stop men seeing them what can I do

Our Response:
Please see the link: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here, which tells you the process you will need to go through in order to regain access again. If you cannot afford legal representation of taking the matter to court, you can self-litigate, please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 12-Sep-17 @ 10:26 AM
My wife hascheated on me had move out with him. I have had my to kids for 3 weeks I stop going to work to have them work has help me. I was on nights now doing days. I not stop her seeing the kids. Now she move in with her mum. She stop men seeing them what can I do
Devil - 10-Sep-17 @ 9:33 PM
Chrissy - Your Question:
My other half has a 3 year old with his ex she wont let him see her and he is not on her birth cirtificate and I was told if he wanted to take her to court he would have to pay does anyone know anything that can help please

Our Response:
The first step your OH would have to do is suggest mediation to his ex, please see link here. If his ex refuses or if the mediation process breaks down then he would have to apply to court, please see link here. Yes, it does cost both in court fees and if your OH chooses to have legal representation. However, if your OH is on a low income he may get a reduction in court fees, please see link here . If he chooses not to have legal representation, he can self-litigate, please see link here .
SeparatedDads - 31-Aug-17 @ 10:24 AM
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